Savage Lovecast

Savage Lovecast

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Dan Savage, America's only advice columnist, answers your sex questions and yaps about politics. To record a question for Dan to be answered in a later podcast, call 206-201-2720. For a much longer version of the show, with no ads, visit savagelovecast.com and get yourself a season subscription.

Episodes

Savage Love Episode 534  

We are totally Trumping it up this week, guys. First Dan explains why it could be possible that DT is into piss despite his claim of being a germo-phobe. He gets an assist from The Gist's Mike Pesca. Then! Angel Padilla from the brilliant Indivisible Guide explains how to use Tea Party tactics against the new administration. He also bravely attempts to offer a cure for nasty-tasting, insulin-reeking come. On the Magnum, we don't stop. Newsweek writer Kurt Eichenwald is on to answer a Trump-lovin' listener's plea to give Trump a chance. Also, is Dan Savage responsible for the 45th President? And don't worry. There's a ton of sex on the show too. There always, always is. 206-302-2064 This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron. the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals free by going to BlueApron.com/Savage. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is also brought to you by BollandBranch.com: luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to BollandBranch.com and enter Savage.

Savage Love Episode 533  

A man's friend came out when they were in high school. Now after a sojourn to the desert to "pray away the gay" the tortured closet case is "church hunting for a bride." Can his pal talk him out of this? A woman's co-worker tried to kiss her at work, despite her unrelentingly professional demeanor, and complete lack of interest. Now they have to go on a work trip together. How can she bat him away? Should she skip the trip? On the Magnum, Dan chats with a kink expert about choking. Anybody have some better words for pussy than...pussy? 206-302-2064 The Savage Lovecast sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep.  Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting casper.com/savagelove  and enter the promo code savagelove. This episode is brought to you by Audible. Get a free 30-day trial at Audible.com/savage. Today’s episode is brought to you by Rocket Mortgage from Quicken Loans. Rocket Mortgage brings the mortgage process into the twenty-first century with a fast, easy and completely online process. Check out Rocket Mortgage today at QuickenLoans.com/savage.

Savage Love Episode 532  

A 45 year-old man has observed his 21 year-old niece putting up suggestive pics on Instagram. Would it be the correct avuncular gesture to talk to his niece about the folly of her actions? Meanwhile, a woman's boyfriend's cousin called her a "fuckin' bitch" when she wrecked him at laser tag. Her boyfriend won't defend her honor. Who will? On the Magnum version of the show, Dan counsels a woman sick with jealousy over her boyfriend's unilateral decision to have an open relationship. 206-302-2064 Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage. This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com.  Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron. the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals free by going to BlueApron.com/Savage.

Savage Love Episode 531  

In these dark times, there is a man to bring us joy. His name is Randy Rainbow. Dan and Randy talk about his brilliant YouTube videos, dealing with the election and farting. A woman in a long distance relationship doesn't like the way her man goes down on her. So, she just sits there and waits for it to be over. Maybe there's a better strategy to explore? On the Magnum, Dan talks to author and Editor of Bustle.com, Gabrielle Moss about  a practice you need to acquaint yourself with: grapefruiting. And, learn how NOT to incorporate nosebleeds into your sex life. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squatty Potty, the toilet stool that facilitates faster, easier and more complete SHITTING. Go to SquattyPotty.com and use offer code "Savage" to save $25% off your entire order, plus free shipping. Today’s Lovecast is also brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage. This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration.

Savage Love Episode 530  

It's the happiest time of the year here at the Savage Lovecast, as we gather in Portland and also Seattle (somehow) for our annual-ish Christmas Special Extravaganza! Come for the snarky sex-advice, stay for the magnificent Shirley Gnome. This episode of the Lovecast is brought to you by Winc- the wine club that helps you to choose wine that suits your taste and ships it right to your door. For $20 off your first order, and complimentary shipping, go to TryWinc.com/savage.   Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron. the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals free by going to Blue Apron.com/savage.   This episode is brought to you by Squatty Potty, the toilet stool that facilitates faster, easier and more complete SHITTING. Go to SquattyPotty.com and use offer code "Savage" to save $25% off your entire order, plus free shipping.

Savage Love Episode 529  

A woman is living at her boyfriend's house with his parents while he is away. Guess what! The dad has started kissing her on the mouth and tries to slip her the tongue. Should she tell her boyfriend that his father is a loathsome fiend? Speaking of loathsome fiends, a woman's boyfriend is so obsessed with her keeping slim that he snatches food out of her mouth and tosses it on the floor. Any ideas what she should do? In a "What You Got?" a researcher discusses his study about men who are attracted to transwomen. What's your grandmother like? Well, this caller's grandmother, (originally from Germany,) still admires Adolf Hitler. The nazi granny lives in a senior home, and the caller is charged with bringing her groceries. What would you do? Welcome to our wonderful world. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Get a free 30-day trial at Audible.com/savage. The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by Headspace, the guided meditation app that will help you focus and reduce stress. Learn more at headspace.com/savage This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale.

Savage Love Episode 528  

A poly woman is very happy with her much older dom. But ever since her mother saw some photos of her daughter all trussed up and naked, the boyfriend is totally not invited to Thanksgiving or Christmas. Is it the age difference? How can our caller convince her mother that her lover is a good guy?   A hand-wringing, feminist, good-hearted man wants to try rape-play with his wife. How can he delicately, tenderly suggest he pretend to rape her. You know, if she wants him to.   Welcome to our first installment of the Monthly New Sex Toy Review. (We'll think of a clever name for it later.) Erika Moen of "Oh Joy Sex Toy" is on to tell us about a piece of furniture you JUST MIGHT NEED.   A woman is about to get married. Her bestie just confessed that she is having an affair with a married man. How could she?! The caller was going to ask her to be her bridesmaid, but now that she has besmirched the sanctity of marriage, well... huff! She's having second thoughts! Dan schools her real good.   206-302-2064   This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration.   This episode of the Lovecast is brought to you by Winc- the wine club that helps you to choose wine that suits your taste and ships it right to your door. For $20 off your first order, and complimentary shipping, go to TryWinc.com/savage.   The Savage Lovecast sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep.  Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting casper.com/savagelove  and enter the promo code savagelove.

Savage Love Episode 527  

A gay man wonders if it's possible to have a happy, healthy, poly triad. Can sex give you acne? Dan consults a professor of dermatology to get to the bottom of this one. On the Magnum, a special treat for you uber-kinksters. The gentlemen from the No Safe Word podcast are on to discuss (among other things,) 24/7 master/slave relationships, scat play, and gay orgies in Texas. You're welcome. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50% off just about any item, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage". This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is also brought to you by BollandBranch.com: luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to BollandBranch.com and enter Savage.

Savage Love Episode 526  

Here's a happily married couple. He digs exhibitionism, which she indulged after taking a deep breath. She wants to try BDSM, but he isn't having it. Is it her right to demand it, and what's his god damn problem? A married woman likes to be fashionable and step out looking GOOD. But guess what! Her husband, wishes she would wear jeans and a grubby tee so all the men will stop looking at her.  Dan wants to help her pick out a smart outfit for divorce court. On the Magnum, make way for the robots! Google's (human- we assume) head of machine intelligence, Blaise Agüera y Arcas, talks about the inevitable arrival of sex robots, along with the ethical challenges we'll all face. Hello Westworld! And,  a woman with a boyfriend of one year, wonders if he'll present her with a ring during their upcoming trip to Paris. Oh! Oh, how she hopes he will! 206-302-2064 The Savage Lovecast is sponsored by Headspace, the guided meditation app that will help you focus and reduce stress. Learn more at headspace.com/savage This episode of the Lovecast is brought to you by Winc- the wine club that helps you to choose wine that suits your taste and ships it right to your door. For $20 off your first order, and complimentary shipping, go to TryWinc.com/savage. Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron. the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals free by going to Blue Apron.com/savage.

Savage Love Episode 525  

Welcome to the Savage Lovecast where we are ready to fight like hell to take our country back. Are you? Apparently, Trump-voting family members are a thing. Should you spend your holidays with these people? Dan's answer will not shock you. A divorced man has started dating a new woman. When he was married he got caught seeing a sex-worker and it became a public scandal. When should he tell his new love about his past? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Dr. Lori Brotto in a  "What You Got?" about asexuality. A straight man starts shaking uncontrollably whenever he is about to have sex, and it ruins everything. How can he get over this? A man was together with his wife for 13 years. Then she left him for a woman....a rich woman. So did she leave him for the scratch or the snatch? 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50% off just about any item, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage". This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration.

Savage Love Episode 524  

A woman has been dumped by her boyfriend of 6 years. She is considering some sort of grand gesture to win him back. Should she throw a parade? Hire a lesbian motorcycle gang to deliver one single rose? Or maybe let him go? A 22 year-old gay man has been dating a 58 year-old man for 2 years. His family isn't crazy about this. The caller is beginning to doubt this romance. Like a sharp beam of sunlight slicing through his cloud of confusion, Dan Savage gives him permission to break up. On the Magnum, Dan chats with out n' proud bisexual writer Zachary Zane about the challenges bi men face in meeting and dating straight women. And, a man confronts rape culture as he learns how many members of his own family have endured assault. Total bummer. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Get a free 30-day trial at Audible.com/savage. The Savage Lovecast is sponsored by Headspace, the guided meditation app that will help you focus and reduce stress. Learn more at headspace.com/savage   This episode of the Lovecast is brought to you by Winc- the wine club that helps you to choose wine that suits your taste and ships it right to your door. For $20 off your first order, and complimentary shipping, go to TryWinc.com/savage.

Savage Love Episode 523  

On the worst birthday EVER, a woman learns that her beloved long distance boyfriend...has a wife. If the wife asks her, should she lie for him? A man's friend is dating a guy who gets coked up, turns the photos of her face-down and hires prostitutes to sleep with him in their shared bed. How can the caller convince his friend to DTMFA? Hey California! How's it going? Please vote NO on Prop 60, won't you? Dan and porn activist/performer Conner Habib explain it for you. On the Magnum, a woman who is about to enjoy a three-way with a couple of men, worries the men will compete with each other. Dan uses his most reassuring tones to ease her mind. 206-302-2064 The Savage Lovecast sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep.  Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting Casper.com/savagelove and enter the promo code savagelove. This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration.

Savage Love Episode 522  

A man has been with his boyfriend for 1.5 years. The caller's family is loving and welcoming to the boyfriend. But the boyfriend's family won't accept his homosexuality and won't allow the caller to join them at Thanksgiving etc. How long must our caller wait for his boyfriend to grow a pair, and tell his family to piss off already?   Next up, we'll just share the title of this call: "Take Your Chances at the All-Girl Orgy?" NOW you're gonna listen aren't you?   On the Magnum, Dan chats with the hosts of One Bad Mother, a delightful parenting podcast, about some gnarly situations parents find themselves in.   And, a woman is excited to start having three-ways with her boyfriend. EXCEPT. He's a terrible lover, and the caller worries his lack of skill will queer the deal. 206-302-2064 Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron. the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals free by going to Blue Apron.com/savage.   The Savage Lovecast is sponsored by Headspace, the guided meditation app that will help you focus and reduce stress. Learn more at headspace.com/savage   This episode of the Lovecast is brought to you by Winc- the wine club that helps you to choose wine that suits your taste and ships it right to your door. For $20 off your first order, and complimentary shipping, go to TryWinc.com/savage.  

Savage Love Episode 521  

How is a sex worker supposed to deal with it when her clients keep quoting Donald Trump?! A woman is dating an insecure man who grabs her boobs at inappropriate times and then pouts when she tells him to stop. Can she retrain him to not act like such an imbecile? On the Magnum, Dan talks to Law Professor Alexander A. Boni-Saenz about the tricky concept of sexual advance directives. A man's mother has Alzheimers. His step-father is taking care of her, and confessed to carrying on an affair with his mother's dear friend, who also helps with her care. Should he tell his mother? Heavy, right? 206-302-2064 Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage. This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration.

Savage Love Episode 520  

A woman asks her boyfriend to tell her erotic stories when they are having sex. Is this too much to ask? He's running out of plots. A distraught woman discovers that her ex from years ago put up naked photos of her online. Is there anything she can do? On the Magnum, a long discussion about some pros and cons of pornography with sex therapist and author Dr. Marty Klein. And, hear the sad tale of an overweight beagle that nobody wants. 206-302-2064 Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals free by going to Blue Apron.com/savage. This episode is brought to you by Audible. Get a free 30-day trial at Audible.com/savage. This episode is also sponsored by Clone-A-Willy. Clone-A-Willy is a kit that comes with everything you need to make a vibrating, silicone replica of any penis in the comfort of your own home. Visit cloneawilly.com right now, to receive an exclusive deal for Savage Love listeners. Enter promo code: SAVAGE at checkout for 10% off your order.

Savage Love Episode 519  

Dan welcomes Trae Crowder, or "the Liberal Redneck" (our favorite redneck) to tackle some questions about conservative Christian bigots, guns and spit. It's a great conversation- do have a listen. Also, a lesbian is dismayed that her girlfriend insists she take a shower every time they have sex. Is she a germophobe or... what? And, a man's girlfriend has announced that she wants to take up smoking. Nicotine. Not even weed. Why? Because her father smoked... AND, a man working on a political campaign wants to fuck his intern. Good idea? Bad idea? These campaigns can be STRESSFUL, man. 206-302-2064 The Savage Lovecast also sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep.  Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting

Savage Love Episode 518  

A woman is horrified to discover her new boyfriend's disgusting habit. This habit truly is one of the most revolting things we've ever heard, and you do know that we've heard a LOT, right? You'll have to listen to find out what it is. A woman and her husband want to take the plunge and have a three-way with a woman. But there are some logistics to work out. How do they find a girl, and do they have to get a babysitter for the night? Dan chats with Cheryl Strayed, author of Wild, and co-host of the (rival) Dear Sugar podcast about sex on the Pacific Coast Trail. Hear the sad, sad story of a sad, sad dancer-girl who is in love with a man who won't dance with her, and won't fuck her either. 206-302-2064 Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage. This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com Get 50% off just about any item, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage". This episode is also brought to you by Ring, the app-based home security system. For a limited time, get $150 off a Ring of Security Kit" by going to www.ring.com/savage.

Savage Love Episode 517  

A lesbian is about to go to a wedding with a bunch of conservative guests. And guess who's going to be there! You'll never guess. Ricky Santorum! How should she take advantage of this unusual opportunity? Dan chats with pro-dominatrix, writer and activist Mistress Matisse about SWOP Behind Bars- a project to support incarcerated sex workers. And of course she helps answers some questions about KINKY SEX. Get your naughty ass over to SWOPBehindBars.org this instant. A woman is dating a man who makes her come like a champ. But he never reaches orgasm, like...ever. Do we have a problem here? And more. 206-302-2064 Today’s episode is brought to you by Rocket Mortgage from Quicken Loans. Rocket Mortgage brings the mortgage process into the twenty-first century with a fast, easy and completely online process. Check out Rocket Mortgage today at QuickenLoans.com/savage. This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals free by going to Blue Apron.com/savage.

Savage Love Episode 516  

A man is seeing a woman 12 years his senior. His friends think he's nuts, but he's having a great time. Is there something wrong here? A married man has come to realize that he is poly. His wife is still as monogamous as the day she married him. How can he get her to accept his polyamorous nature and let him sleep with lots and lots of lovely ladies? Dan chats with his smarty-pants brother Bill (an associate professor of English) on the historical roots of American anti-immigrant stupidity. On the Magnum, Dan speaks with transsexual porn star Bailey Jay about how to approach a transwoman without making her feel objectified. And so much more. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Get a free 30-day trial at Audible.com/savage. The Savage Lovecast also sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep.  Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting

Savage Love Episode 515  

A bi man in a poly triad wonders how to bring home his couple to meet the conservative parents. A woman enjoys following men around for the feeling of  "predatory power" the pursuit gives her. Is this a problem? On the Magnum, Dan  speaks with Professor Barbara Sarnecka, in a "What You Got?"  showing how uptight our society is about leaving children alone. The study is HERE. And, while on a trip to NYC, and gay man finds someone he knows from back home on Grindr. When he contacted the friend to say "Hi there!" the friend disappeared and blocked him. Awkward? 206-302-2064 Today’s episode is brought to you by Rocket Mortgage from Quicken Loans. Rocket Mortgage brings the mortgage process into the twenty-first century with a fast, easy and completely online process. Check out Rocket Mortgage today at QuickenLoans.com/savage. This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals free by going to Blue Apron.com/savage.

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