Straight and Curly

Straight and Curly

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A weekly podcast for self-improvement junkies. Carly and Kelly road test a different life hack each week and tell you whether it’s awesome or a total waste of time.

Episodes

Blogging: 049  

Carly and Kelly have been blogging for 10 and six years respectively and it’s something that’s afforded them both a huge number of personal and professional opportunities.

In this episode they share how they came to start their blogs, why they started blogging in the first place, and what cool things blogging has allowed them to do.

They also discuss why someone would want to start a blog in 2016 along with what’s easier now compared to when they both started, and what’s harder.

For more info on Kelly and Carly, and to see any links or resources mentioned in today’s episode, head over to  www.straightandcurly.com or come join the Straight and Curly group on Facebook .

Adult friendships: 048  

Mia from the Straight and Curly Facebook group asked a question that summed up a topic that seemed to be very front of mind for many fellow group members:

I know friendships morph over time and with age and seasons of life, and I know friendships can take many forms, but I'm always curious how other people's adult friendships work. How often do people speak to or see their friends? What constitutes a best friend? Is the idea of a best friend as an adult ridiculous? What do you expect of a friend and how do you know when you measure up as a good friend to others? 

This made for a super-interesting conversation as Kelly and Carly chat about their own personal friendship situations + how they navigate the friendships they have with people who have kids versus those who don’t. They also chat about how to end friendships that have run their course.

For more info on Kelly and Carly, and to see any links or resources mentioned in today’s episode, head over to  www.straightandcurly.com or come join the Straight and Curly group on Facebook.

 

Dealing with burnout: 047  

Carly asked the Straight and Curly Facebook group what topic they wanted her and Kelly to cover in this episode, and ‘dealing with burnout’ won by a country mile. Which is funny because, at time of recording, Carly and Kelly were teetering on the edge of burnout themselves.

In a departure from their usual highly-structured conversation they range far and wide in this ep covering: 

How to avoid burnout in the first place The different kinds of burn out (self-inflicted vs that which is out of your control) The difference between burnt out and busy How to remedy burnout once you’ve identified what’s causing it

For more info on Kelly and Carly, and to see any links or resources mentioned in today’s episode, head over to www.straightandcurly.com or come join the Straight and Curly group on Facebook .

Goal Setting: 046  

In the Straight and Curly group on Facebook Jade asked: Would love a podcast on goal setting and getting things done etc.  I'm great at making goals, but then come to a month later and realise I haven't actually done anything towards them.

This was a weird one for Carly and Kelly to wrap their heads around because they’re both people who set goals, and then just naturally do whatever is needed to achieve those goals. They did, however, come up with the following tips:

Be realistic Check your goals are something YOU want to do/achieve Give yourself easy wins along the way Build good habits around your goals so you don't have to rely on motivation Set SMART goals:

S - specific, significant, stretching
M - measurable, meaningful, motivational
A - agreed upon, attainable, achievable, acceptable, action-oriented
R - realistic, relevant, reasonable, rewarding, results-oriented
T - time-based, time-bound, timely, tangible, trackable

For more info on Kelly and Carly, and to see any links or resources mentioned in today’s episode, head over to  www.straightandcurly.com or come join the Straight and Curly group on Facebook.

Planning out a week: 045  

Carly and Kelly love doing shows that are instigated by a conversation or question in the Straight and Curly group, and this is one of those episodes.

Vanessa asked them to share their best tips for planning out a week and they shared the following:

Meal planning/ordering the shopping online to be delivered in time for the weekend Kelly’s ‘two-pad system’ Changing the way you think about yourself Schedule rather than make to-do lists Make sure you and your partner are a good team Do home admin on Sundays (or whatever day– just do it at the same time each week) Plan for your life, not other people’s Exercise on Sundays Give your week a theme or focus Use Sunday to plan your week

Resources:

Kelly’s post on her ‘two-pad system’ for organising her life

For more info on Kelly and Carly, and to see any links or resources mentioned in today’s episode, head over to  www.straightandcurly.com or come join the Straight and Curly group on Facebook .

Finding time for hobbies: 044  

Boy oh boy could Kelly and Carly have talked about this one all day. Turns out, they are very passionate about this topic! In this episode they share:

What their hobbies are What they define a ‘hobby’ as Why it’s good to have a hobby (or two) How to find time in your life for them What kind of hobbies are the best

Resources

Study showing that hobbies improve cognitive function Kelly’s blog post about why it’s ok to pay money to support our hobbies Carly’s Crochet Coach course

For more info on Kelly and Carly, and to see any links or resources mentioned in today’s episode, head over to  www.straightandcurly.com or come join the Straight and Curly group on Facebook .

Overthinking: 043  

Carly read an article on The Mighty linking certain elements of overthinking to high functioning anxiety and totally identified with it. Kelly read the same article and felt like she was looking in the mirror. So clearly, both girls have a bit of experience with this topic.

But is overthinking all bad? Are there things we can do to manage the tendency to ruminate too much and let our imaginations run that little bit too wild?

Kelly and Carly cover this and more in today’s episode.

For more info on Kelly and Carly, and to see any links or resources mentioned in today’s episode, head over to www.straightandcurly.com or come join the Straight and Curly group on Facebook.

Beauty Hacks: 042  

One of the members of the Straight and Curly group on Facebook started a thread sharing the hacks she uses to shorten her daily ‘beauty’ routine – hacks that ensure she’s able to look her best (and thus feel her best) each day, in the minimum amount of time.

While Carly and Kelly are conflicted about linking how we look to how we feel – there’s no escaping that the two are interrelated.

So they have a frank discussion about that before diving into great tips shared by their Facebook group members on this topic.

For more info on Kelly and Carly, and to see any links or resources mentioned in today’s episode, head over to  www.straightandcurly.com or come join the Straight and Curly group on Facebook.

Introversion and Extroversion: 041  

This is, weirdly, a show the Straight and Curly group on Facebook has been really clamouring for. Perhaps because it’s one of the rare areas of life that Kelly and Carly are different: Carly is an extreme extrovert and Kelly is an extreme introvert.

This episode is a departure from their usually highly structured format as Kelly and Carly discuss the relative strengths and weaknesses of these elements of their personalities, how they deal with partners who are at the other end of the scale, and how their respective introversion/extroversion has helped and hindered them over the course of their lives.

For more info on Kelly and Carly, and to see any links or resources mentioned in today’s episode, head over to  www.straightandcurly.com or come join the Straight and Curly group on Facebook at: https://www.facebook.com/groups/straightandcurly/
How to Feel More Confident Than You Are: 040  

Kelly and Carly are both naturally confident people. But that doesn’t mean they’ve not had that confidence dented at some stage of their lives.

In this episode they talk about where they think their confidence comes from and what they’ve done to nurture it over the years. Then they both share their top five tips for ‘faking’ confidence when it’s not in abundance.

Ideas they cover:

Do things you rock at Show em’ the old razzle dazzle Back yourself Concentrate on body language Make the person you’re talking to feel like the best human in the world If you know what the thing is that took your confidence away - name it Surround yourself with people who make you feel good about yourself Get out the instructions and fix something at home Watch Suits Try something you don't think you'll be good at

For more info on Kelly and Carly, and to see any links or resources mentioned in today’s episode, head over to www.straightandcurly.com or come join the Straight and Curly group on Facebook. https://www.facebook.com/groups/straightandcurly/

Putting Yourself Out There: 039  

Carly’s just come out of a long term writing contract and wants another. Kelly wants to do more speaking. How are they going to achieve these goals? By putting themselves out there. (As opposed to waiting around for people to come knocking on their door.)   In this episode the girls discuss the things that hold us back from putting ourselves out there and why being Australian often makes things hard in this respect. They then share about the times that putting themselves out there has paid big dividends and throw out a challenge to listeners to do the same.   For more info on Kelly and Carly, and to see any links or resources mentioned in today’s episode, head over to www.straightandcurly.com or come join the Straight and Curly group on Facebook. https://www.facebook.com/groups/straightandcurly/

Personality Tests: Useful or Total Rubbish? 038  

Carly’s not the hugest fan of personality tests because she thinks anything that requires people to self-assess needs to be taken with a huge grain of salt. Meanwhile, Kelly loves them (because her personality type LOVES personality tests!).

In this episode the girls share a bit about how personality testing even came about, how effective they actually are, and whether they really help with self-awareness. They also run through some of the most popular personality tests on the market and the insights they’ve gained about themselves from those tests.

Resources:

Kelly’s written a whole blog series about using the Myers-Briggs personality typing to figure out what makes you ‘buzzy’ Study by Dr Kevin Bradley about the effectiveness of personality tests when used for employment purposes Study that tries to determine whether self-awareness has improved since doing a personality test Personality tests we mention: Myers-Briggs Sally Hogshead Fascination Gretchen Rubin’s Four Tendencies DISC Profiling Big Five

For more info on Kelly and Carly, and to see any links or resources mentioned in today’s episode, head over to www.straightandcurly.com or come join the Straight and Curly group on Facebook.

Budget Hacks 2: 037  

Their first Budget Hacks episode ran quite long and didn't leave any time for the girls to answer some great questions that members of their Straight and Curly group on Facebook asked. So today's episode tackles those questions which include:

Do you have any favourite apps for managing finances? How do you set a budget and stick to it? How do you budget effectively when you have an irregular income from running a small business/freelancing? When you get a sudden windfall, should you breathe a sigh of relief and finally treat yourself, or throw it all at your debt as well? Can a minimalist mindset help with budgeting/cutting costs?

Resources

Kelly manages to butcher this beautiful summation from Liz Gilbert on the difference between Hobby, Career, Job and Vocation so please read it and you'll be able to see what she was trying to get at :)

For more info on Kelly and Carly, and to see any links or resources mentioned in today’s episode, head over to www.straightandcurly.com or come join the Straight and Curly group on Facebook.

Budget Hacks 1: 036  
Recently Carly and Kelly asked their Straight and Curly group on Facebook if there were any topics they particularly wanted them to cover and 'Budget Hacks and Tips' was something lots of people voted for.   Today's episode first shares the concept of spenders vs savers (and Kelly reveals, to Carly's surprise, that she is a spender!) Then the girls then share their 10 best tips for managing finances and staying away from, or at the very least, on top of, debt.   Things they cover:  Everything except food and rent is a luxury  If you can’t pay cash for it, you can’t afford it Check your credit card statements diligently every month Decide where you’re going to cut corners Stop automating your payments Consolidate your many small debts into a single one Have your employer split your pay Have a budget Find different friends Sometimes it's easier to make more money than it is to keep trying to cut expenses.

Resources

Some info on spending and saving The difference between savers and spenders    For more info on Kelly and Carly, and to see any links or resources mentioned in today’s episode, head over to www.straightandcurly.com or come join the Straight and Curly group on Facebook.  
Where to find Motivation: 035  

Here's the thing: there’s no such thing as 'motivation'.

The only difference between people who do things and people who don’t is that the people who do things, do things. That’s it. No one has a special motivation gland they were born with.

But ... Carly and Kelly do understand it's more difficult for some people to jump into action than it is for others. So that's what they're discussing into today's show: if you can't rely on motivation to get things done, what CAN you rely on!

Things we cover:

Routines Habits Managing expectations of yourself better Giving yourself permission to make changes slowly Self-awareness Fall in love with the process over the outcome Pretend you’re in a movie montage Let it go Set a reward Find joy in the completion of tasks

Resources

James Clear: The myth of passion and motivation Smaggle: How To Stay Motivated When You’re Giving Something Up Kelly Exeter: Permission to make change slowly
Our 10 Best Time Management Hacks: 034  

Recently a listener asked the girls how they manage to fit it all in. And while there's no magic bullet in this week's episode, Kelly and Carly do explore their top 10 time-management hacks - the things that help their days run more smoothly and allow them to find a good amount of time for both work and play.

For more info on Kelly and Carly, and to see any links or resources mentioned in today’s episode, head over to www.straightandcurly.com.

How to Create Good Habits: 033  

Habits - why do we even need them? As Kelly points out in today's episode, they make life easier, you get to spend less time negotiating with yourself and thinking, and they set you up for success.

How do we create good habits? In this episode Carly and Kelly will cover:

The importance of knowing yourself and how you respond to expectations Understanding the difference between intention and motivation That it's very hard to break a habit, much easier to simply create a new, good habit that overrides the bad one That you shouldn't attempt to create more than one new habit at a time That there is no set number of days for a new habit to take hold The importance of knowing your triggers for bad habits How to set yourself up for success

For more info on Kelly and Carly, and to see any links or resources mentioned in today’s episode, head over to www.straightandcurly.com.

Self-compassion vs Laziness: 032  

Why do self-improvement junkies find self-compassion difficult? The guys at bulletproofmusician.com say it really well: "It's a strategy that feels wrong, Perhaps because it sounds vaguely like giving ourselves and easy out for mistakes, and thereby lowering our standards"   And it's this tension that Carly and Kelly want to talk about today. Because sometimes, we need to take a break from constant self-improvement and striving, and just be a bit lazy! Especially because, as Carly will share, humans are specifically engineered for laziness.   For more info on Kelly and Carly, and to see any links or resources mentioned in today’s episode, head over to www.straightandcurly.com.

Getting a Bad Day Back on Track: 031  

You know those rubbish days where you’re running late, the blender sprayed crap all over the ceiling, your kids are being ... kids, your boss isn’t being much better and your soup spilled all through your handbag? We all have days like that - ones where it feels like the world is against us and it’s really difficult to get your head back in right space.   If you're having these days more often than not, Carly and Kelly have some thoughts about how you can set up your life to minimise those occurrences. They also share their favourite tips and tricks for pushing the reset button on things to get a bad day back under control.   For more info on Kelly and Carly, and to see any links or resources mentioned in today’s episode, head over to www.straightandcurly.com.  

Making sense of Diet and Food - Part 3: 030  

This is the third episode of Kelly and Carly’s three-part series attempting to demystify diet and food and today they're talking about creating good food habits - mainly drawing from their own personal experience.

In this episode they cover:

Not having any non-nourishing food in the house Buying treats one at a time/in small single portion sizes The strategy of convenience/inconvenience Choosing to prioritise health over saving money Having 5 cups of veggies every day Getting comfortable with being hungry Serving yourself on a smaller plate Spending calories wisely Always sitting down to eat Drinking HEAPS of water Making good choices 80% of the time so that you can be more relaxed 20% of the time

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