Episodes

#44: Going Out with Randy  

Can flirting with your problematic friend help you date better in the wild? Our regular guest, Randy, stops by to help your host cure a bad case of first date burnout.

Our sponsors for this episode are ThirdLove and Winc. Go to thirdlove.com/WHY or trywinc.com/why for special offers.

#43: A Man and a Woman Walk into a Bar  

Today on the show, we’re finally tackling THE QUESTION we're asked the most frequently as a podcast about dating: "Who should pay for the drink on a first date?"

Join us for a Tour De Advice for straight daters, starting with Sarah Bennett, the co-author of F*ck Love, who suggest dating like a headhunter. Then we'll hear from a range of writers including James Michael Sama ("Here’s Why Men Should Still Pay For Dates"), Elizabeth King ("Why A Woman Should Definitely Pay On The First Date") and Tiffanie Drayton ("Why I Refuse To Pay For Dates").

Our sponsors for this episode are ThirdLove and HelloFresh (code: WHY30). Go to thirdlove.com/WHY or hellofresh.com and use the promo code for special offers.

#42: One Short Episode  

When determining your criteria for a date, how much should height matter? We'll talk to one woman who has always known exactly what she's looking for in a partner. Anna Goldfarb is a journalist and author of the book "Clearly I Didn't Think This Through." She has also written about her relationship for the New York Times.

Our sponsors for this episode are Casper (code: WHY) and Squarespace (code: WHY). Go to casper.com/WHY or squarespace.com and use the promo code for special offers.

#41: Can You Fall in Love with Anyone?  

If you can fall in love with anyone, how do you choose well? Mandy Len Catron offers an answer. She's the author of the book How to Fall in Love with Anyone. She also wrote the Modern Love essay "To Fall in Love with Anyone, Do This" for The New York Times, which was one of the top 5 stories the paper ran in 2015.

You can try “The 36 Questions That Lead to Love” by downloading this free New York Times app to your phone, tablet or other device.

Our sponsors for this episode are NatureBox and Lola (code: WHY). Go to naturebox.com/WHY or mylola.com and use the promo code for special offers.

#40: Game of Groans  

Many fans of the HBO show Game of Thrones use photos of themselves sitting proudly atop an Iron Throne replica for their online dating profile pictures. But what's the symbolic meaning of the sword chair? We sent a correspondent to the heart of it: a Game of Thrones-themed pop-up bar in DC, and consulted an expert, Isaac Butler, to figure out how we should swipe on Thone-shots.

The first episode of the Slate Plus Game of Thrones TV Club podcast is available Monday afternoon, July 17th, 2017.

Our sponsors for this episode are ThirdLove and Squarespace (code: WHY). Go to thirdlove.com/WHY or squarespace.com and use the promo code for special offers.

#39: Live at Bonobos - Making Out in LA  

What's the biggest difference between dating in LA and dating in NYC? Our running theory: there's more making out, usually in or near cars. We'll offer advice for Angelenos with help from TV kissing expert, Erica Rose. Then, Hrishikesh Hirway (Song Exploder, West Wing Weekly) and Lindsey Mortensen (Larsen & Lund) tell us about their whirlwind bi-coastal courtship. 

You can listen to "Accidents" by The One AM Radio again on their website.

To see photos from our live show, visit whyohwhyradio.com.

This live show was made possible by Bonobos. If you want to find clothing that will fit you better than you ever imagined, and get 20% off your first purchase, visit bonobos.com/whyohwhy.

#38: Dressing Room Confessionals  

This summer, we went on the road to tape live shows at Bonobos Guideshops in NYC, Chicago, and LA. And in true Why Oh Why fashion, we asked our audience to tell us their deepest secrets in makeshift confessional booths set up inside the dressing rooms.

Focus Group Casting:
If you're a queer lady in the NYC or DC area who's single, we'd love to consider you for our next focus group episode. Send us a note with a bit about you and your dating life to whyohwhy@panoply.fm.

Our sponsors for this episode are ThirdLove and HelloFresh (code: WHY30). Go to thirdlove.com/WHY or hellofresh.com and use the promo code for special offers.

#37: Live at Bonobos - Branching Out in Chicago  

Sometimes in order to find love, you have to figure out what you love to do. We begin by exploring our Chicago roots, and a story of how Andrea's mom answered the question, "What do you like to do for fun?" Then comedians and co-hosts of the Ajumma Podcast, Peter Kim (Second City, Seeso's Shrink) and Eunji Kim (Cards Against Humanity) help audience members re-vamp their Tinder profiles.

To see photos from our live show, visit whyohwhyradio.com.

Why Oh Why: Live At Bonobos! This summer we're taking over Bonobos Guideshops across the country for special live podcast tapings. These shows are all sold out! But even if you don't have a ticket, Why Oh Why subscribers will get to hear everything that goes down in special bonus episodes. Our LA episode comes out in two weeks.

This live show was made possible by Bonobos. If you want to find clothing that will fit you better than you ever imagined, and get 20% off your first purchase, visit bonobos.com/whyohwhy.






#36: Like a Virgin  

Are millennials spending too much time behind their screens and not enough time in the back seats of cars? Recent studies show that the generational cohorts born in the 1980's and 1990's are starting their sex lives later than Gen X'ers did. Twice as late. We'll talk with a lovely member of the so-called "hook-up generation" next to a pool in Florida. What can her romantic resume tell us about the state of dating today?

Why Oh Why: Live At Bonobos! Join our show as we take over Bonobos Guideshops across the country for special live podcast tapings. These shows sold out quick! But even if you don't have a ticket, Why Oh Why subscribers will get to hear everything that goes down in special bonus episodes. You can find the first episode, taped in NYC, here, and our Chicago episode will be out very soon.

These live shows were made possible by Bonobos. If you want to find clothing that will fit you better than you ever imagined, and get 20% off your first purchase, visit bonobos.com/whyohwhy.

Our sponsors for this episode are Lyft and Quip. Go to lyft.com/WHY or getquip.com/WHY for special offers.

#35: Data-ing  

The persona we create online or on apps isn't very representative of what's going in our lives. So we brought in Seth Stephens-Davidowitz, author of "Everybody Lies: Big Data, New Data, and What the Internet Can Tell Us About Who We Really Are" to tell us more about what everyone's hiding, and how it all relates to our dating lives.

Why Oh Why: Live At Bonobos! Join our show as we take over Bonobos Guideshops across the country for special live podcast tapings. These shows sold out quick! But even if you don't have a ticket, Why Oh Why subscribers will get to hear everything that goes down in special bonus episodes. You can find the first episode, taped in NYC, here.

These live shows were made possible by Bonobos. If you want to find clothing that will fit you better than you ever imagined, and get 20% off your first purchase, visit bonobos.com/whyohwhy.

Our sponsors for this episode are ThirdLove and  Warby Parker. Go to thirdlove.com/WHY or warbyparker.com/why for special offers.

#34: Live at Bonobos - The Rules for Dating in NYC  

We begin with a story: The tale of your host's earliest ancestor’s dating life, and the love life of a more recent relative, Grandma Phyllis. Then comedian and writer Naomi Ekperigin (Broad City, Difficult People) and her “Jew Boo” writer and performer Andy Beckerman help an audience member find love, and share how they found each other in the NYC improv scene.

To see photos from our live show, visit whyohwhyradio.com.

Why Oh Why: Live At Bonobos! This summer we're taking over Bonobos Guideshops across the country for special live podcast tapings. These shows are all sold out! But even if you don't have a ticket, Why Oh Why subscribers will get to hear everything that goes down in special bonus episodes. Our next one comes out in two weeks.

This live show was made possible by Bonobos. If you want to find clothing that will fit you better than you ever imagined, and get 20% off your first purchase, visit bonobos.com/whyohwhy.



#33: Why So Forlorn, OK Cupid?  

Does OK Cupid's app icon tell a larger narrative of chaos and distress? On today's show, we'll use the logo design of popular dating apps to explore the state of the companies and the substance of their products. In doing so, we're joined by Jessica Helfand and Michael Bierut. They're the cofounders of Design Observer, and hosts of The Design of Business | The Business of Design and The Observatory podcasts. We're also joined by Teddy Blanks, a graphic designer and founder of design studio Chips. He makes the logo for our podcast.

To follow along with the corresponding visuals for our design discussion, visit whyohwhyradio.com.

Why Oh Why: Live At Bonobos! Join our show as we take over Bonobos Guideshops across the country for special live podcast tapings. These shows sold out quick! But even if you don't have a ticket, Why Oh Why subscribers will get to hear everything that goes down in special bonus episodes. The first one will come out next week.

These live shows were made possible by Bonobos. If you want to find clothing that will fit you better than you ever imagined, and get 20% off your first purchase, visit bonobos.com/whyohwhy.

Our sponsors for this episode are ThirdLove and  HelloFresh (code: WHY30). Go to thirdlove.com/WHY or hellofresh.com and use the promo code for special offers.

#32: Deep in the Woods  

Over at Why Oh Why HQ, we're planning quite the event for our first live show with Bonobos. And it got us thinking about the joy of crafting a live show and the fun of experimenting with the medium. Today, we'll listen back to one of this podcast's first live radio experiments starring our hilarious pal Jim Behrle, and our even more hilarious relative Grandma Phyllis.

Why Oh Why: Live At Bonobos! Join our show as we take over Bonobos Guideshops across the country for three special live podcast tapings. These shows sold out FAST! But even if you don't have a ticket, Why Oh Why subscribers will get to hear everything that goes down in special bonus episodes. The first one will come out on Tuesday, June 13.

These live shows were made possible by Bonobos. If you want to find clothing that will fit you better than you ever imagined, and get 20% off your first purchase, visit bonobos.com/whyohwhy.

Our sponsors for this episode are Lyft and StoryWorth. Go to lyft.com/WHY and storyworth.com/WHY for special offers.

To see photos from our live events as they happen, be sure to follow along on Twitter (@andreasilenzi), Instagram (@andreasilenzi) and Facebook (facebook.com/whyohwhyradio).

#31: Daddy Randy  

The other day, Randy called to say he was outside Panoply studios. Didn't we get his fax messages? Hear why our show's favorite regular guest is happier than ever.

Why Oh Why: Live At Bonobos!
Join our show as we take over Bonobos Guideshops across the country for 3 special live podcast tapings. The tour kicks off in NYC on June 1st, and will travel to Chicago on June 15th, and LA on June 29th. To reserve your free tickets today, visit slate.com/live.

These live shows were made possible by Bonobos. If you want to find clothing that will fit you better than you ever imagined, and get 20% off your first purchase, visit bonobos.com/whyohwhy.

#30: Don't Listen If You're My Ex-Boyfriend  

How do you even begin to deal with heart break? Your host weighs the advice.

We'll speak with Olga Pronin, the marketing manager at Wham-O.

Dr. Fred Nour is a neuroscientist and wrote the book True Love.

Gretchen Rubin hosts the Happier podcast with her sister, Elizabeth Craft.

Baldwin Way is an assistant professor at the Ohio State University. You can find his research study about acetaminophen dulling emotions here, and can read more about the connections between physical and emotional pain here.  If you haven't read that Modern Love column, you can find that here.

Our sponsors for this episode are ThirdLove and HelloFresh (code: WHY30). Use the promo code, and go to ThirdLove.com/WHY for special offers.

#29: Hotter on Bumble, Part 2  

If our potential matches on Bumble feel hotter than other apps, who's making that decision? What does this mean for us normals?

Reynald Adolphe caught our eye with his blog post: "Is Bumble's Algorithm Filtering Ugly People?" He is a software engineer and teaches other people how to be engineers, too. He tweets: @reynaldadolphe

Chris Volinsky was part of the winning team for the Netflix Prize to develop a better recommender system. He's assistant vice president of big data research at AT&T, and he tweets: @statpumpkin

To discuss this week's episode, head to facebook.com/whyohwhyradio or tweet with #whyohwhy. You can find Andrea on Twitter as @andreasilenzi.

Panoply Survey:
Let Panoply know what you think of our show (and others in the network too): survey.panoply.fm

Today's sponsors:
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#28: Hotter on Bumble, Part 1  

Bumble is held up as Silicon Valley's gift to single women. Finally, a dating app made with us in mind. But after you download the app and start swiping, does it live up to the reputation?

In this episode, you heard clips from all our focus group episodes (#1, #13#26),  and our episode about The Bachelor (#23).

Valerie Woolard is a developer with Megaphone, the technology side of Panoply. She tweets: @valeriecodes

Satnam Narang works at Symantec, and has been following spam and bots on Tinder since 2013. He tweets: @satnam

To discuss this week's episode, head to facebook.com/whyohwhyradio or tweet with #whyohwhy. You can find Andrea on Twitter as @andreasilenzi.

Panoply Survey:
Let Panoply know what you think of our show (and others in the network too): survey.panoply.fm

Today's Sponsors:
ThirdLove. ThirdLove is the lingerie brand using real women’s measurements to design better fitting bras. Try one of their best-selling bras for free for 30 days by visiting thirdlove.com/WHY

Squarespace. Create a beautiful website or online store with their award-winning templates. Go to Squarespace.com and use offer code WHY for 10 percent off your first purchase of a website or domain. Squarespace: Make your next move.

#27: Muscle Thrasher  

In June 2013, your host and friends independently piloted a podcast idea called "Like Like." The concept involved setting up blind dates and recording them with wireless microphones. While we never completed a full episode of the show (it turns out blind dates are full of awkward small talk), we've always wondered what became of our eligible bachelors and bachelorettes.

In this episode, hear about the dating life of Robynn Europe. What's it like to date while looking so outwardly strong?

Panoply Pilot Project:
You heard a taste of a brand new podcast Panoply is piloting as a part of the Panoply Pilot Project. Here's where you can listen to our friend Sam Dingman's first episode of Family Ghosts in its entirety. If you like what you hear and wish there were more episodes, let us know! Subscribe, and vote over at panoply.fm/panoplypilots

Panoply Survey:
Let Panoply know what you think of our show (and others in the network too): survey.panoply.fm

Today's Sponsors:

ThirdLove. ThirdLove is the lingerie brand using real women’s measurements to design better-fitting bras. Try one of their bestselling bras for free for 30 days by visiting thirdlove.com/WHY.

HelloFresh. HelloFresh is a meal kit delivery service that aims to make cooking more fun--so they focus on the whole experience, not just the final plate. For $30 off your first week of HelloFresh, visit hellofresh.com and enter WHY30. 

#26: Aspiring Dads Focus Group  

In which six single guys split between D.C. and Brooklyn studios share their plans for the future—down to the baby names. For listeners who aren't accustomed to hearing straight men talk about these things, queue the softcore porno music.

Plus, we're joined by this show's editor, and host of The Longest Shortest Time podcast Hillary Frank for a parent's perspective. You can subscribe to her show in iTunes, or wherever you find your podcasts.

#TryPod:
All this month, we’re asking you to tell a friend about a podcast they’ll love--because believe it or not, some people haven't discovered this wonderful world. So go be their guide! Tell them in real life or on social media, and help them find their new favorite podcast. Use #TryPod to spread the word.

Today's Sponsors:
Squarespace. Create a beautiful website or online store with their award-winning templates. Go to Squarespace.com and use offer code WHY for 10 percent off your first purchase of a website or domain.

GoFundMe. Students across the country are using GoFundMe to help pay for college. GoFundMe makes it easy to fundraise for any school expenses. For a chance to win a $1,000 scholarship, go to GoFundMe.com/WHY

#25: Your Best Foot  

What do you do when you meet someone who doesn't meet your most essential criteria? Why Oh Why explores how turning thirty can change your dating life for the better.

#TryPod:
All this month, we’re asking you to tell a friend about a podcast they’ll love--because believe it or not, some people haven't discovered this wonderful world. So go be their guide! Tell them in real life or on social media, and help them find their new favorite podcast. Use #TryPod to spread the word.

Today's Sponsors:

Squarespace. Create a beautiful website or online store with their award-winning templates. Go to Squarespace.com and use offer code WHY for 10 percent off your first purchase of a website or domain. Squarespace: Make your next move.

GoFundMe.
Students across the country are using GoFundMe to help pay for college. GoFundMe makes it easy to fundraise for any school expenses. For a chance to win a $1,000 scholarship, go to GoFundMe.com/WHY.

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