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#29: Hotter on Bumble, Part 2  

If our potential matches on Bumble feel hotter than other apps, who's making that decision? What does this mean for us normals?

Reynald Adolphe caught our eye with his blog post: "Is Bumble's Algorithm Filtering Ugly People?" He is a software engineer and teaches other people how to be engineers, too. He tweets: @reynaldadolphe

Chris Volinsky was part of the winning team for the Netflix Prize to develop a better recommender system. He's a assistant vice president of big data research at AT&T, and he tweets: @statpumpkin

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#28: Hotter on Bumble, Part 1  

Bumble is held up as Silicon Valley's gift to single women. Finally, a dating app made with us in mind. But after you download the app and start swiping, does it live up to the reputation?

In this episode, you heard clips from all our focus group episodes (#1, #13#26),  and our episode about The Bachelor (#23).

Valerie Woolard is a developer with Megaphone, the technology side of Panoply. She tweets: @valeriecodes

Satnam Narang works at Symantec, and has been following spam and bots on Tinder since 2013. He tweets: @satnam

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#27: Muscle Thrasher  

In June 2013, your host and friends independently piloted a podcast idea called "Like Like." The concept involved setting up blind dates and recording them with wireless microphones. While we never completed a full episode of the show (it turns out blind dates are full of awkward small talk), we've always wondered what became of our eligible bachelors and bachelorettes.

In this episode, hear about the dating life of Robynn Europe. What's it like to date while looking so outwardly strong?

Panoply Pilot Project:
You heard a taste of a brand new podcast Panoply is piloting as a part of the Panoply Pilot Project. Here's where you can listen to our friend Sam Dingman's first episode of Family Ghosts in its entirety. If you like what you hear and wish there were more episodes, let us know! Subscribe, and vote over at panoply.fm/panoplypilots

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#26: Aspiring Dads Focus Group  

In which six single guys split between D.C. and Brooklyn studios share their plans for the future—down to the baby names. For listeners who aren't accustomed to hearing straight men talk about these things, queue the softcore porno music.

Plus, we're joined by this show's editor, and host of The Longest Shortest Time podcast Hillary Frank for a parent's perspective. You can subscribe to her show in iTunes, or wherever you find your podcasts.

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#25: Your Best Foot  

What do you do when you meet someone who doesn't meet your most essential criteria? Why Oh Why explores how turning thirty can change your dating life for the better.

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#24: Tips from a Gentleman  

Jim's a 40-something guy who lives in Florida and exclusively dates strippers. What can he teach your host about improving her dating life in NYC?

Tell Us:
What do you make of Jim? Is he a real world Richard Gere seeking his own stripper with a heart of gold, or is there something darker at play? Would you take his dating advice seriously?

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#23: As Seen on TV  

In a time when dating feels so broken, could The Bachelor be a reasonable last resort? What does a reality show get right?

To discuss this week's episode and this month's #trypod campaign, head to facebook.com/whyohwhyradio or tweet with #whyohwhy. You can find Andrea on Twitter as @andreasilenzi.

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#8: How Will I Know (& welcome, Planet Money fans!)  

The wonderful team at NPR's Planet Money just rebroadcast an episode that changed the life of your host. To welcome any new listeners into our show, here's the classic episode that Robert Smith recommended. Hope you enjoy.

Old listeners, thank you for forgiving this redundancy in your episode feeds! We really appreciate it. The more the show grows, the better stories we'll be able to offer you in the coming weeks.

In this episode, we look back at the role this show has played in your host's personal life. Travel through the past three years as Andrea talks to her editor, Hillary Frank, about what’s going on in her relationship.

Hillary Frank is the host and creator of the podcast The Longest Shortest Time.

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#22: Going There  

Today's episode is basically StoryCorps, but between total strangers in the back of a bar with the potential of sex later.

Have you ever had a meaningful interaction with a stranger? To discuss this week's episode, head to facebook.com/whyohwhyradio or tweet with #whyohwhy. You can find Andrea on Twitter as @andreasilenzi.

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#21: One Date at a Time  

Think about it: The de facto first date invitation tends to be "let's get a drink." What's a single person to do when they don't imbibe?

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#20: Do I Hate Men?  

Before listening to this week's show, we recommend starting out with our "Dudes in Bars" episode from last week. It's #19.

For this week's show, we go back to the day of the Women's March, back to our army of lady interviewers and the dudes they talked to in bars around the country. And we ask men whether or not they're feminists. Turns out, it's not such an easy question to answer.

To discuss this week's episode, head to facebook.com/whyohwhyradio or tweet with #whyohwhy. You can find Andrea on Twitter as @andreasilenzi.

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#19: Dudes in Bars on January 21, 2017  

How do we date men in a time when our rights are under attack? We sent 10 ladies into bars across the country on the day of the historic Woman's March.

To discuss this week's episode, head to facebook.com/whyohwhyradio or tweet with #whyohwhy. You can find Andrea on Twitter as @andreasilenzi. Did you hear we have a weekly newsletter with a weekly swag giveaway? You can sign up on our website: whyohwhy.sexy.

You can find Allie Hock's podcast Everything is Fine! here: etfshow.org. Alice Anderson's podcast Veneers is at veneerspodcast.com. And Selly Smith's Regular Black Radio can be found here: regularblackradio.com.

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#18: What Ifs and Butts  

Is Uber the new Tinder? A lesson in how to shoot your shot when life sends you a cute driver. You can find Kelli on Twitter @KelliAmirah, and see her GIF-filled story here.

Then, for the bottom half of our episode, a user's guide to your butt with Dr. Patricia Raymond, who performs musical parodies online as Ms. Butt Meddler.

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#17: Alone Forever  

What's going on with you romantically? Nothing? Our guest Aimée Lutkin says that's okay.

You can read her Jezebel piece here, follow her on Twitter @alutkin, and read more about her #onTinderatTinder project here.

To discuss this week's episode, head to facebook.com/whyohwhyradio or tweet with #whyohwhy. You can find Andrea on Twitter as @andreasilenzi. Did you hear we have a weekly newsletter? You can sign up on our website: whyohwhy.sexy.

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#16: Randy's Mema Died  

This week on the show, our regular guest Randy finally goes off the deep end. Will your host dive in after him?

Yes, it's a real website: ragineffininsanity.com

To discuss this week's episode, head to facebook.com/whyohwhyradio or tweet with #whyohwhy. You can find Randy on Twitter as @randyisdaman and Andrea is @andreasilenzi.

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#15: The Quiznos Guy  

When your host first met Randy, it was the opposite of a meet-cute. We'll revisit the phone call that kicked off years of quasi-friendship.

To discuss this week's episode, head to facebook.com/whyohwhyradio or tweet with #whyohwhy. You can find Randy on Twitter as @randyisdaman and Andrea is @andreasilenzi.

Get Your Next Favorite Bra From ThirdLove:
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Start Bingeing GE Podcast Theater's New Thriller:
What happens to our digital lives when we’re gone? LifeAfter, a new series from GE Podcast Theater and Panoply, the creators of last year’s award-winning The Message, explores these very questions. Listen and download LifeAfter wherever you find your podcasts.

#14: Hacking the Uterus 2.0  

The inexpensive reproductive healthcare coverage offered by the Affordable Care Act may soon be a distant memory. On today's show, we speak with a woman fresh off her own IUD insertion procedure to see how she's adjusting. Then, we revisit a classic episode from Why Oh Why's years as a baby podcast. Travel back with us to January 2014, as your host prepares for her own IUD insertion.

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#13: Single Straight Lady Focus Group  

Back in episode #1, we welcomed 10 dudes into the studio to shout about their dating lives. This week, our latest focus group invites 14 single ladies in New York and D.C. to chat about the many thrills and face palms that come with dating men. Is finding a partner essential to our longterm happiness?

Join our next focus group:
We’re are now casting another focus group – this time for guys who want KIDS. If you’re in NYC or DC. send us a note. Whether you’re cis or trans, straight or queer – if you want to be someone’s Dad someday, we want to hear from you. Send a note to whyohwhy@panoply.fm.

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#12: Oblique Strategies  

Single? Chances are, someone who is decidedly not single has given you advice lately. This week, Andrea asks economist and journalist Tim Harford to vet the various dating advice she's heard from friends and fellow podcasters. Tim has a new book out called "Messy" about the value of bringing intentional disorder into your world.

One of the many podcasters offering advice in this episode is Mike Pesca from Slate's The Gist. You can hear their full conversation on episode #606, "Mike Debates His Former Producer About Dating." Plus, Helen Zaltzman, of The Allusionist podcast, concocts a weird way to attract dates, and Mallory Ortberg, from Slate's Dear Prudence podcast, might have the best advice of all.

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#11: Listen to Your Heart  

When your host became newly single, she was shocked to discover that Tinder had made a drastic change as well. Like when silent films turned into talkies, though way less culturally significant, there is now a distinct sound when two people match on Tinder. Here to explain the art of sonic branding is Steve Milton, a founding partner at Listen, who helped craft the app's new signature sound.

Plus, in Trump's new America, our Facebook friends keep talking about getting an IUD. Why? We'll discuss the outlook for women's reproductive healthcare in the coming years with Slate's Christina Cauterucci.

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