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How To Break the Spell & Rollercoaster of Emotions  

The feeling brain and the logical brain is an invisible tug of war inside your head that can drive you into a rollercoaster of emotions. In today's episode, you'll learn how you can break this situation that you may be in now and if not, then help you avoid it from happening. 

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Dr Halweg: Welcome back in the nation. My name is Dr. Garrett Halweg at the Amen Clinics in Costa Mesa. As you know, this is Ms. Parker. She's our therapy dog. We have a special friend today. This is [Aja 00:00:15], she is the Director of our Ancillary Services. What's an ancillary service? It's things like TMS, trans-cranial magnetic stimulation or hyperbaric oxygen therapy. Ask her for questions about those things. Our topic today, do you suffer from the potion of emotion? Do you know anyone in a bad relationship? Maybe you're in a bad relationship. That bad boy that you just can't avoid but you know it's not good for you.

Let me tell you what's going on in your brain. The brain is in a battle with itself. On the one side, you've got the feeling brain. This is the emotional area. This is the limbic system, the amygdala. It's the area where you feel. On the other hand, you have the logical brain. The thinking brain. This is the cortex, the outside, the pre-frontal cortex. The area that's responsible for thinking. On the one side, I want a certain thing. On the other side, I know what I need. I want chocolate molten lava cake. I need fish, vegetables, legumes, for a healthy brain and body.

I want to drive 90 miles per hour. I need to follow the law. I feel in love with someone but I know they aren't good for me. I know they treat me really poorly. I want to explain that potion of emotion that keeps us in the fog. We've got to break through to logic. How do we do that? What makes us cross these boundaries is our desires, our feelings. Boundaries is what corks the bottle for the potion of emotion. Let's look at how this begins. It begins very early. Think about babies. Babies are full of curiosity. They explore their surroundings but parents are there to say, "Hey, don't touch that stove. You're going to get burned."

Teenage boys. Teenage boys are filled with passion and their girlfriends are there to say, "No, no, no." Mothers. Mothers might feel lonely. They might unexpectedly visit their daughter at college. The mother of all, the mother of all of them is pride. It's the opposite of the feeling of humility. It's that feeling, the rules don't apply to me. It's like, "Hey, what I want matters the most. Above all. Above what's good for me or what's good for everyone else around me." Many people describe it like, "There's a devil on my shoulder," or there's a good angel, there's a bad angel. This war where they're talking in each of your ear and trying to get you to do something.

Let's talk about how to break that. Boundaries. What are boundaries? How do we set healthy boundaries? Boundaries in essence are just rules. They keep us safe. How do they keep us safe? How do we set healthy boundaries? When we violate these boundaries, we can expect that they cause discord and chaos. Broken relationships. When we follow these boundaries, we can expect mutual respect. Mutual love. Harmony. Closeness. The Ten Commandments are an example of boundaries. They allow us to live in community with closeness and harmony.

I'm going to give you four quick steps on how to set a healthy boundary. Number one, clearly state the boundary. Mom comes in and says, "Family, no cell phones at dinner." She's got that really good look when you know she means it. Number two. Number two is when there is a violation of the boundary, make sure there is a consequence. Your son comes to dinner and he's got his cell phone. You're like, "Hey, give me your cell phone. You lose the privilege of your cell phone for one day." Number three. Number three, avoid hypocrisy. Dad comes to the dinner table. He's like, "Oh, I, I, I just have to fit, I, I, I ... This is really important. I have to return this email to my boss. I, I just ... " It erodes the boundary because he's sending a mixed signal.

He's sending a mixed message to the family that says, "This doesn't really apply to me." Number four. Make sure to express the benefits of a healthy boundary and how it's helping, "Hey, I really enjoy our family dinners without cell phones." What is the number one reason why boundaries fail? It is this. Lack of consistent reinforcement. Imagine for a moment how fast people would drive on the freeway if there were no cops to enforce the speed limit. In summary, boundaries are what keep us safe. They help us create environments to grow healthy relationships. If you want to win the battle that's waging in your brain between emotion and logic, give me a call. My name is Dr. Garrett Halweg at the Costa Mesa Amen Clinic. Also, if you have something you want to talk about, tell me in the comments below. Bye for now.

 

Episode 1 w/ Ms Sugar Plum, Baker  

In this episode we have Ms Sugar Plum who tells us how getting fired for calling her boss **** was the best thing that ever happened to her. It was exactly the kind of fire needed to put all her efforts into her cake business.

MBMBaM 271: Bro's Better, Bro's Best Ch. 82 - 91  

This week, Middlest Brother Travis is flying solo so it’s time once again for another Bro’s Better, Bro’s Best! We’ve got some real humdingers in here including Dworp, Forever Pope, Cake Boss and a bunch more! Enjoy!

 

1: 30-- Teeeeens!

3:47-- Pee Secrets

5:36-- Universal Grinch

7:56-- Horse/Dog Secret Santa

11:17-- What Do Angels Eat?

14:47-- Awkward Mistletoe

18:57-- Forever Pope

23:17-- Bad Biologist

25:45-- Sexy Lettuce

 

31:52--WWUJFFHD

35:45-- Boyskinz

40:20-- Cakeboss

43:25-- Save By The Bell Murder

48:54-- Sportsnut

50:07-- Staring Contest

54:02-- Dworp Pt. 1 & 2

57:32-- Sword Pics

1:04:42-- Final Yahoo

323 Tears for Fears, Reggie Watts, Paul F. Tompkins  

The writers and performers of such iconic pop hits as “Mad World,” “Shout,” and “Everybody Wants To Rule The World,” Tears For Fears are in the studio as well as Scott’s old pal Reggie Watts on this week’s Comedy Bing Bong! We’ll hear all about how Curt & Roland used to sing in a church choir, the new re-issue of “Songs from the Big Chair,” the making of the iconic hit “Everybody Wants To Rule The World,” the future for the band, and Reggie gets to ask a very important question. Later, we’ll finally get to find out what’s going on with Cake Boss (Cake Boss!) after his recent run in with the law. Go get the 2014 CBB LIVE Bundle over at the Earwolf store ! This episode is sponsored by Cards Against Humanity , Club W , Plated , and R&R Games. Use offer code BANGBANG at checkout for some great savings!

303 Paul F. Tompkins, Loudon Wainwright III  

Need an experience to keep you from puttering around your home? Well, this week’s episode has it all including a rare appearance from CBB favorite Paul F. Tompkins and returning champ/singer-songwriter Loudon Wainwright III! We’re treated to live songs performed by Loudon in celebration of his upcoming new record Haven’t Got The Blues (Yet) and Lord Andrew Lloyd Webber stops by to tell us all about rebooting Cats with rap songs. Plus, we get a visit from our old pal Buddy Valastro aka the Cake Boss! (Cake Boss!) This episode is sponsored by: Cards Against Humanity Audible: Go to www.audible.com/bangbang for a free audio book and 30 day free trial.  

289 Paul F. Tompkins, Matt Gourley  

Straight from the cake kitchen, our old buddy Buddy Valastro aka Cake Boss (Cake Boss!) returns to talk about the new changes in the Star Wars canon when suddenly his body is possessed. The spirit of the recently deceased narco-sculptor H.R. Giger is back from hell for some unfinished business and the only one who can send him back is Reverend Robert Parsimony. So tune in for the first ever exorcism in Comedy Bang! Bang! history!This episode is sponsored by:One Night Only: Don Rickles, Wednesday May 28th at 9, only on SPIKE. Sock Panda. Go to www.sockpanda.com and use offer code COMEDY for 50% off socks that don’t suck.

Travel Today  - Norwegian Getaway  

Peter Greenberg broadcasts this week from the Norwegian Getaway. Guests include editor in chief of Travel Weekly Arnie Weissmann, Buddy Valastro star of Cake Boss, and Norwegian Cruise Lines CEO Kevin Sheehan.

TCF Ep. 217 - George Lange  

George Lange’s work as a photographer is known all over the world. He grew up in Pittsburgh and now lives in Boulder, Colorado, though his career has taken him just about everywhere. After graduating from the Rhode Island School of Design, he worked for the legendary photographers Duane Michals and Annie Leibovitz before going out on his own. Since then, his work has appeared on movie posters; billboards; in numerous platforms for many major corporations; newspapers, including The New York Times,The Chicago Tribune  and USA Weekend; and in almost every major magazine, ranging from O: The Oprah Magazine, Entertainment Weekly, People, ADWEEK, Esquire, Glamour, Parade, and GQ to Self and Sports Illustrated.  Lange has photographed everyone from Jim Carrey to Honey Boo Boo; from latex glove factories in Thailand to ice cream production in Columbus, Ohio; from the cast of Seinfeld to Cake Boss; from choreographers to jewelers. Lange is also an accomplished director, working on projects for One Kings Lane, Merrill Lynch and Jeni’s Ice Cream. His work is guided by one simple truth: an unforgettable photograph is not about what the image looks like, but what it feels like. Lange believes that when we do what we love and take pictures from the heart,  “all we’re doing is putting love out into the world” - a line heard by all subjects who have been in front of Lange’s camera.  http://www.langestudio.com/ http://tedxtalks.ted.com/video/Capturing-the-moment-George-Lan http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Duane_Michals www.thecandidframe.com info@thecandidframe.com

It's Cake Boss!  

He's Buddy. He's the boss.

221 Andy Richter, Paul F. Tompkins  

Announcer extraordinaire Andy Richter makes his record breaking 25th appearance and uses his co-hosting duties to get into the origins of Cake Boss (Cake Boss!) on today’s Comedy Bang Bang! We’ll hear about his earliest cake memory, he’ll reveal some secrets of the Cake Council, and we’ll find out what his next project will be as he goes on his forced cakebbatical. Plus, we’re treated to a real nail biting game of Would You Rather!

208 Steven Yeun, Doug Benson, Paul F. Tompkins  

The Walking Dead’s Steven Yeun joins the Bang! Bang! universe along with today’s co-host/lover of movies Doug Benson! After a chat about hair in movies/tv, haunted hotels, and what we can expect on the upcoming episodes of The Walking Dead, our old pal Buddy Valastro aka Cake Boss (Cake Boss) stops by. We’ll hear who are some of the worst pie guys around, the story behind the most erotic cake that Cake Boss has ever made, and a game of Would You Rather for the ages. Check out the full video at  Youtube.com/Earwolf !

The Pod F. Tompkast, Episode 23: Paul Scheer, Crissy Guerrero, Andrew Lloyd Webber, Cake Boss, Mr. Brainwash  

Episode 23: The Great Undiscovered Project Goes Psycho. From The Paul F. Tompkins Show: "Scheer Vengeance," featuring Paul Scheer and Crissy Guerrero. Paul gets introspective and outrospective. Next: LIVE AT LARGO.

The Pod F. Tompkast, Episode 21: Justin Kirk, Andy Daly, Rich Sommer, Laraine Newman, Ice-T, Garry Marshall, Cake Boss  

Episode 21: Whither The Home Piano? The Great Undiscovered Project Takes a Field Trip. From The Paul F. Tompkins Show: "The Uncanny Hollow," featuring Andy Daly, Rich Sommer and Laraine Newman. Justin Kirk retroactively walks the walk. 

Cake Boss, Jesse Ventura, Rhett Miller and Jackie Kashian guest  

Live from the Bumbershoot Festival in Seattle, WA, Doug welcomes musician Rhett Miller, comic Jackie Kashian, Cake Boss and Gov. Jesse Ventura to the show.

169 Jay Chandrasekhar, Paul F. Tompkins  

The owner of one of the five one-way tickets used to board the Rocket Ship to Fame, Broken Lizard’s Jay Chandrasekhar makes his first appearance! He talks about his early sketch days, the importance of mustaches, how Super Troopers almost never existed, and his new movie The Babymakers. Also, the return of the Cake Boss himself, Buddy Valastro joins Scott and Jay to reveal the secret of cheesecake, answer the question of how long he’s been making cakes, and to scream and yell about his appearance on Comedy Bang! Bang! the TV show where he was asked to scream and yell. All of this including a hellish game of Would You Rather? Don't forget to pick up the  Comedy Bang! Bang! LIVE Summer Tour  episodes!

156 3rd Anniversary,Zach Galifianakis,St. Vincent,Special Guests  

What do you need to throw the perfect anniversary party? You need some tunes, you need some bros, and if you're Comedy Bang Bang you need some celebrity guests! Put on your party hats and boogie shoes for an hour and a half of Zach Galifianakis, Harris Wittels, Brett Gelman, El Chupacabra, Marissa Wompler, Cake Boss, and a posthumous visit from Christopher Hitchens. We're making new friends in musicians St. Vincent and Toph Shay, and we're playing everyone's favorite party games like Harris' Foam Corner. Make like Zach and get yourself a cupcake to celebrate the the three-year anniversary of Comedy Bang Bang!

The Pod F. Tompkast, Episode 16: Gillian Jacobs, Judy Greer, Jen Kirkman, Cake Boss, Werner Herzog  

EPISODE 16: Peasants, We Miss You. The Great Undiscovered Project, Lost in The Wilderness with Werner and Cake Boss. From The Paul F. Tompkins Show, "Lice Capades," with Judy Greer (recorded live at San Francisco SketchFest). Community's GILLIAN JACOBS Visits The Internet, and Is Probably The Only Person In Her Family Who Could've Survived The Trip! Jen Kirkman Bids a Farewell To Nana (including her arms). IF YOU'RE PERSPIRING, TURN THIS OFF IMMEDIATELY.

The Pod F. Tompkast, Episode 15: Cake Boss, Mr. Brainwash, Martha Plimpton, Chris Hardwick, Jen Kirkman  

EPISODE 15: The Origins of The Potter's Field. The Great Undiscovered Project Brings You The Boss of Cakes and a Washer of Brains. From The Paul F. Tompkins Show: Advice To The Probably Dead, feat. Martha Plimpton. Nerdist Host Chris Hardwick Visits and Curses, a Lot! Jen Kirkman Sings The Ballad of Baskin-Robbins Bob. Be Careful What You Wish For.

MBMBaM 88: The Lion, The Witch and the Boyskinz  

My Brother, My Brother and Me 88: The Lion, The Witch and the Boyskinz

 

We're standing alongside our online brethren as we fight off the oppressive chokehold of internet-ruining federal legislation! If you don't find this week's episode amusing, it's because we blacked out all of the potential comedy. That'll teach you, Congress.

 

Suggested talking points: SOPA, Fourthmeal, Oberstian Punishment, YUUUUP, Creeped Off, Buttsongs, Cake Boss

135 Paul F. Tompkins,Erinn Hayes,Dan Telfer  

We have a lot of fun here on Comedy Bang Bang, but this week we'd like to share an important holiday message with you all. You see, the holidays are a time for friendship, giving, forgiveness, cakes, and Would You Rather?! This week is a merry celebration of all of that and more. Our joyful carolers are Erinn Hayes, Dan Telfer, and Paul F. Tompkins who is mysteriously absent when our good friend Cake Boss drops by. You'll laugh, you'll cry, and you'll learn a thing or two! This episode is sponsored by audible. Support the Comedy Bang Bang and get a free audiobook at http://www.audiblepodcast.com/bangbang

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