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81: Choosing to Leave an Issue-Based Relationship with Rachel  

This episode is about issue-based relationships. Today’s caller, Rachel, has been in a relationship for 6 years, and for most of that time she has been uneasy and lonely. She says she doesn’t know if she should leave the relationship. But as you will hear in the call, Rachel knew the answer to her question before she even asked it.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode81]

More often than not, the issue that comes up in our romantic relationships has to do with our parents. Whatever we craved but didn’t get from our mother or father, is what we tend to look for in a mate. And, until you heal your core issues, you will continue to seek out approval or attention from your parents, in your romantic relationships.

During the call, it was clear to me Rachel was in an issue-based relationship. Issue-based relationships have a lot of chemistry, and the couple is super-attracted to each other. The physical part of the relationship, especially the making up, hooks you in. One of the reasons you are attracted to the other person is because your issues dovetail. The beautiful thing about issue-based relationships is they are learning opportunities. They bring unresolved issues to the surface, which makes them easier to identify and heal.

It is time to be honest with yourself about the kind of person you are attracted to. Are you playing out unresolved issues from your past in your current relationships? I recommended Rachel join my Inner Circle Community to give her a support system, and a place where she can openly share. It is truly a place where you can invest in yourself.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

● Whose love, attention, or approval did you crave the most as a child?  How has that played out in your relationships?

● Are you in a relationship you are questioning?

● Do you know you should be single, but you are frightened by the thought of it?

● Is your connection with a higher power something you would like to deepen?

 

Rachel's Question:

Rachel wants to know if she should stick with a relationship she feels uneasy and lonely in.

 

Rachel's Key Insights and Ahas:

● She’s not sure what she loves about her partner.

● As a child, she craved her father’s approval.

● She entered into the relationship without knowing who he was, because she wanted to be chosen.

● She feels like she is falling apart.

● She’s unfamiliar with being by herself.

● She needed permission to trust her intuition.

● She feels it’s time to fly.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

She should take a break from the relationship, and work on herself.

She should ask for help from her higher power.

She should take a year off from dating.

She should move out on her own.

She needs to get some outside support.

 

Assignments:

Think about whose love, attention, approval, and affection you craved the most, your mom or dad’s? How are you still searching for it in other people?

Start journaling. A good sentence starter is … Dear Mom,  I wish you … or Dear Dad, I wish you …

Get individual therapy or coaching.

Ask for help.

Make yourself your number one priority.

Join my Inner Circle Community for support from those who WANT to support you.

 

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Super overhaul could end multiple accounts, ease worker confusion  

Australian workers currently bewildered by the myriad of choices for their default employer superannuation contributions could be winners from a simpler more streamlined system being proposed by the Productivity Commission. In a draft report released today, the commission wants to overhaul the default contributions system so workers would choose a default scheme one time only in their first job and stick with it for their entire working lives. Productivity Commission chairman Peter Harris speaks with the ABC's Peter Ryan.

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SHY 46: Why Should You Go Gluten Free?  

How often have you said to yourself, “I’m doing it – I’m going gluten free… next week.” And then next week never comes. Or worse still, you start eating gluten free, but it TOTALLY SUCKS. Your pasta is replaced by some starchy, white, limp substitute, you’re craving REAL bread… and your motivation to stick to […]

Definitely Derringer - Ep. 118: Food On A Stick Day!  

It's 'Food on a Stick Day' so we're eating Pogos in the studio and talking eats today! Politics, Twitter and the Tool of the Day go hand in hand in hand. Parking enforcement officers have a tough job -- there's a story in the news about one getting knocked out so John, Jenn and Ryan share their stories about run-ins with the "law." And we have a bone to pick with Bon Jovi, some on the Derringer in the Morning show don't think he's as good a front man as most proclaim -- it's just his good looks that have carried his career... those are fighting words!

Definitely Derringer for Tuesday March 28, 2017

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Merrill Markoe & Howie Klein  

Comedy Writer and Author Merrill Markoe is prominently featured on CNN's critically acclaimed new history of comedy. She is a multiple Emmy award winning comedy writer who was instrumental in the creation of David Letterman's landmark series on NBC. Merrill is also the author of several bestselling books including Cool Calm and Contentious, Nose Down Eyes Up, Walking In Circles Before Lying Down and What Dogs Have Taught Me. Howie Klein is the founder and treasurer of the Blue America PAC which raises money for progressive candidates and writes the Down With The Tyranny Blog. On our show Merrill talks dogs, dogs and more dogs. And Trump, gall bladders, mothers, and dogs. Howie talks special elections coming up and whose head will soon be on a stick outside the White House. Merrill Markoe has authored three books of humorous essays and the novels It’s My F—ing Birthday and What the Dogs Have Taught Me which have been all published by Villard Books/Random House Publishing Group. She has also co-authored with Andy Prieboy the novel The Psycho Ex Game. Then there are the two talking dog novels: Walking in Circles Before Lying Down ( 2006 )which is now in its 24th printing and Nose Down, Eyes Up which was published by Random house in 2009 A fourth book of humorous essays, published by Random house  is called Cool, Calm and Contentious. You definitely should buy it. Tell us what you think in the comment section below. More David @ http://www.DavidFeldmanShow.com Tune in every Tuesday and Friday for brand new episodes of our show featuring a diverse mixture of comedians, actors, professors, comedy writers and journalists talking about your world. Check out our new You Tube channel. More about David: http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0271017/?ref_=nv_sr_1 David writes for Triumph The Insult Comic Dog's series on Hulu and Maya and Marty on NBC. David has also won three Prime Time Emmys for comedy writing, as well as four Writers Guild Awards. He has also written on ABC's Roseanne, HBO's Dennis Miller Live, HBO's Real Time with Bill Maher, Comedy Central's The Daily Show with Jon Stewart, The Academy Awards, The Emmys, and countless roasts on Comedy Central. Get Social With David: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/davidfeldmancomedy?ref=hl Twitter: https://twitter.com/David_Feldman_ Subscribe to his audio podcast: iTunes: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/david-feldman-show/id321997239 Become a subscriber to our podcast! When you join for only a $5 monthly subscription donation you’ll gain access to the David Feldman Premium Content, featuring bonus material from the funniest comedians who have been guests on the show. We accept all major credit cards. Join today and help support the show!

"What Good is a System that Doesn't Work?"- Photo Podcast 577  

This is The Digital Story Podcast #577, March 28, 2017. Today's theme is "What Good is a System that Doesn't Work?" I'm Derrick Story.

Opening Monologue

One of my favorite Jerry Seinfeld routines polks fun at the system failure of car rental agencies. "Anyone can take a reservation," he says. "It's the holding of the reservation that's important." At work and at home we are constantly creating routines and systems to manage our lives. But if put to the test, do they really work? We'll explore in more detail on today's show.

Digital Photography Podcast 577

What Good is a System that Doesn't Work?

In this first segment, I begin by telling a story of an actual event that happened to my mother. Then go on to explain how it illustrates, what I consider, a critical system failure.

The MeFOTO Roadtrip Air on Assignment

This week's three-legged adventure with the MeFOTO Roadtrip Air focuses on how its compact size allowed my to carry it all day in my svelte Retrospective 7 while working day and night at the Artisan Cheese Festival in Petaluma, CA.

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The Stylish Think Tank Signature 13 Luxury Bag

I've been carrying the Think Tank Signature 13, and I have to say, it is as beautiful as it is functional.

The fabric is soft, like a fine wool suit, but it's also durable and weather resistant. To complement the fabric, they've incorporated leather accents and metal hardware. The overall look is very professional. Other features include:

Full-grain leather bottom and detailing, plus antique finished metal hardware Zippered flap provides full closure and security to the main compartment, or tucks away when not in use Dedicated laptop/tablet compartment that fits a 13" laptop Dedicated phone pocket fits up to an iPhone 6s+ or S7 Edge Dividers and bottom foam can be removed for a completely collapsible bag

Inside my Signature 13, I have my 13" MacBook Pro, iPad mini, Pentax KP with 20-40mm zoom, Olympus OM-D E-M5 Mark II, Pentax ZX-5n SLR, extra lenses, and plenty of accessories. The Think Tank Signature 13 sells for $279.

Updates and Such

Big thanks to all of our Patreon members! I was able to pay for the podcast server and the backup system from last month's pledges. Your contributions are making a positive impact.

We still have one seat open for our Road Trip workshop. (The SF workshop and Rail Adventure have sold out.) If you'd like an invitation to either event, visit the TDS Workshops Page and use the Send Me Info form.

B&H and Amazon tiles on www.thedigitalstory. If you click on them first, you're helping to support this podcast. And speaking of supporting this show, and big thanks to our Patreon Inner Circle members.

And finally, be sure to visit our friends at Red River Paper for all of your inkjet supply needs.

See you next week!

More Ways to Participate

Want to share photos and talk with other members in our virtual camera club? Check out our Flickr Public Group. And from those images, I choose the TDS Member Photo of the Day.

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Australia's China extradition treaty likely to be voted down in the Senate  

Australia's recently ratified extradition treaty with China looks likely to fail, with a number of crossbenchers and the Opposition set to vote against it in the Senate. The Government insists that there are safeguards in place to make sure that people extradited to China are given a fair trial. But Cory Bernardi, who's leading the charge to revoke the treaty, says it's impossible to trust the communist state to stick to its word. There are also concern about the treaty on the Government's own backbench, including from the former prime minister, Tony Abbott.

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32. Mygg och knott - stick för gott?  

Gud va de surrar! Johan och Fredrik bara babblar och babblar om veckans ämne men då Fredrik sticker in med en syrlig kommentar ber Johan honom tala ur skägget. Det blir blod, testosteron och intervju med en president i veckans avsnitt. Fiskekompisen med Johan Malm och Fredrik Löwgren.

Ep 24 - A Keynote Q&A: Keller Williams Family Reunion  

Do you feel like you're trying to bite off more than you can chew?

Feeling overwhelmed is normal, especially if you are trying to chew that bite alone. We want to help you find support and show you that you're not the only person struggling.

In the last episode, we shared a keynote presentation from the Keller Williams national convention. Today we are sharing the Q&A session that took place after the keynote so that you can hear where people just like you are struggling and the solutions that are helping them.

 

The ONE Thing to Implement From This Episode:

If you listened to Episode 23, did you take the next step towards making time blocking a power habit?

If you didn’t, stop procrastinating! Set aside one hour in the next week to watch our free webinar at the1thing.com/timeblockingwebinar.

 

In this episode you will learn...

[1:45] How to say no just enough (not too little and not too much). [6:00] Why doing SOMEthing is more important than finding the right ONE thing. [7:55] How to communicate your boundaries (and stick to them). [17:55] How starting with small, consistent actions will help you live The ONE Thing. [22:05] How to focus your vision, be specific, and give yourself a win. [28:52] How you can control your email inbox. [37:40] Why supporting people is different (and healthier) than saving people.

 

AWESOME FREE RESOURCES FOR YOU!

Form your first power habit with your 66 Day Challenge Calendar Check out our awesome blog! [FREE Training] How to Start Time Blocking TODAY!

 

Links & Tools From This Episode

If you like this presentation and are interested in having someone from The ONE Thing team speak to your company or organization, you can go to the1thing.com/about and fill out the speaker request form at the bottom of the page.

 

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172 Dan Ariely - The Surprising Science of What Motivates Us  

We talk to Dan Ariely, the James B Duke Professor of Psychology and Behavioral Economics at Duke University about what actually motivates us to get things done—to finish that novel, to stick to a diet, or even to want to get up and go to work every day.

The Night Stalker Part 1 - 226 - Generation Why  

The Night Stalker Part 1. April, 1984. Los Angeles, California. A home intruder is raping, robbing, and killing residents in the Los Angeles area. A 79 year-old woman who lived in a Glassel Park apartment was raped and stabbed to death after her killer entered through a window. Her place was ransacked. There would be many more victims. Determined detectives would gather clues such as fingerprints and shoeprints but the investigation was complicated by the randomness of the attacks and no apparent victim type. Anyone could fall prey to this killer. While the media would give this boogeyman many nicknames, only one would stick. The man who caused sleepless nights for so many would become known as The Night Stalker. In this first episode we discuss Richard Ramirez's origins, his childhood, and his early crimes. (Part 2 will be released on April 2nd, 2017)

Episode 17 - Believe Me, This Episode Has Some Good News In It (feat guest host Damien O'Meara)  

Jeremy is joined by Damien O'Meara to discuss things Malcolm would rather just went away

14:00 18C seriously it's back
24:00 The PM praising Leak at his memorial and calling him a "uniter"
32:21 Marriage Equality
32:35 postal plebiscite
39:37 "Marriage Equality" not "same sex marriage" or "gay marriage"
52:45 It's about equality before the law, not marriage
55:26 Dutton: "stick to your knitting"
1:00:19 "Gender X" VCAL option and the Herald Sun's vicious attack on trans people

Australia vs Humanity
01:12:07 Don Dale
01:17:20 "denying people smugglers a product"
01:33:19 World Meteorological Organisation: climate out of control
01:35:20 Abortion rights in the NT

And Tom Ballard returns to tell us what's
01:39:09 Stuck In My (his) Craw - the remaining states where the "gay panic" defence is still in place

90 Seconds: Stick Around, He’ll Be Right Back  

Mary Wilson with today’s rundown: Byrd play on the Hill, Mubarak is released from prison, and Seth Meyers accuses the president of IP theft. 

It’s All Techno Podcast 044  

01) Sharam - Arpi (Moonwalk Remix) [Yoshitoshi Recordings]
02) Adam Beyer vs Pig&Dan - We Are E [Drumcode]
03) Aitor Ronda & George Privatti - Sioux [Form]
04) Moby - Porcelain (Julian Jeweil Remix) [Suara]
05) Adam Beyer VS Pig&Dan - In Love [Drumcode]
06) Metodi Hristov - Change [Octopus Black Label]
07) Dubfire & Miss Kittin - Ride (Solomun Remix) [SCI+TEC]
08) DJ Boris - Habits [Tronic]
09) Layton Giordani - Euphoria [Drumcode]
10) Sian - Pause (Oliver Koletzki & Reinier Zonneveld Remix) [Octopus Records]
11) The Reactivitz - Everyday (Steve Mulder Remix) [Funk’n Deep Records]
12) Layton Giordani - Fire Eyes [Drumcode]
13) Alberto Ruiz - Solid Liquid (Original Stick) [Stickrecordings]
14) Inner City feat. LaRae Starr - Good Luck (DEAS Version 1 Extended Remix) [Promo]
15) Sam Paganini - Skin [Jam]
16) Oxia - Domino (Matador Remix) [Sapiens]
17) Felix Krocher & Moonwalk - [...]

#85 Hadley Hammer – Skiing and Podcasting  

#85 Hadley Hammer       Hadley Hammer is a skier and a podcaster from Jackson Hole Wyoming.   She produces and hosts the Nausicaa-cast which features female athletes from non-stick and ball sports.  Hadley wanted a way to not only engage herself intellectually but be able to present female athletes through a platform where […]

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The Neuroscience Behind Building a Sustainable Healthy Lifestyle with Foodist Darya Rose  

In this episode we discuss why dieting actually predicts weight gain over the long run, how you can build a “healthstyle” of habits that can accumulate small advantages and create a healthy lifestyle over time, how “habit loops” are formed and how you can leverage neuroscience to create habits that stick, the concept of Mindful Eating and how it can transform your relationship to the meals you eat, and more with our guest Darya Rose.

Darya Rose is a neuroscience Ph.D and the author of the book Foodist: Using Real Food and Real Science to Lose Weight Without Dieting. Darya is the creator of Summer Tomato a blog where she teaches others to form healthy food habits by combining neuroscience, mindfulness, and nutrition. She has been featured on the Today Show, Oprah, Time Magazine, and was recently named one of the 100 Most Influential People In Health and Fitness

How Darya dug into the science behind healthy lifestyles and what she discovere [...]
Lets Get Dark! w/ Dan Van Kirk!  

This week our guest and co-host is the hilarious Daniel Van Kirk!(Comedy Central Comics to Watch, Dumb People Town with the Sklar bros, Bob's Burgers) DVK is 100% positive he will be surviving the apocalypse so be sure to stick with this guy by following him on social media! This episode we hypothesize about the person we will become after the apocalypse has changed us, a guest submitted "would you rather" and we talk zombies as we delve into Dan's "exiters" theory meaning we dip a toe in the deep end, so be ready to get dark. (Trigger warning: exiters theory includes discussion of mass suicides.) It's MaxFunDrive! Become a member right now! Don't wait! Visit maximumfun.org/donate then tweet at me @TravisAndAndie so I can thank you! Love you guys. Thanks for listening! xx Hope&Cheesecake

Lets Get Dark! w/ Dan Van Kirk!  

This week our guest and co-host is the hilarious Daniel Van Kirk!(Comedy Central Comics to Watch, Dumb People Town, Bob's Burgers) DVK is 100% positive he will be surving the apocalypse so be sure to stick with this guy by following him on social media! This episode we hypothsize about the person we will become after the apocalypse has changed us, there's another would you rather and we delve into Dan's "exitors" therory. We dip a toe in the deep end, so be ready to to go all in! (Trigger warnings for dark stuff.) It's MaxFunDrive! Go Big with us and become a member right now! Don't wait! maximumfun.org/donate Then tweet at me so I can thank you @TravisAndAndie Love you guys. Thanks for listening! xx Hope&Cheesecake

Risky Business #448 -- Dan Geer on cloud providers: Too big to fail?  

We’ve got a great show for you this week. In-Q-Tel CSO Dan Geer will be along for a very interesting conversation about the major cloud providers. Are they too big to fail the same way some banks are? Does the efficiency of highly concentrated ownership of a large chunk of the world’s Internet service capacity make it less resilient? We talk about that and more in this week’s feature interview.

This week’s sponsor interview is also an absolute cracker. We’re speaking with Mike Hanley of Duo Security. Mike is the senior director of security at Duo, and he’s along this week to talk about Google’s BeyondCorp initiative.

BeyondCorp is Google’s vision for the next generation of enterprise environments and it has a lot to do with deperimiterisation. Mike is along this week to talk about that concept and how solid authentication is basically the first step in moving towards that vision. It’s really, really solid stuff, so do stick around for that one.

Adam Boileau, as always, joins us to talk about the week’s security news.

Links to items discussed in this week’s show have moved – they’re now included in this post, below.

Oh, and do add Patrick, or Adam on Twitter if that’s your thing.

Show notes Comey Confirms a Trump-Russia FBI Investigation Began Last July | WIRED Laptop ban: UK, US ban electronics in carry-on luggage from Middle East airports amid terrorist bomb fears - ABC News (Australian Broadcasting Corporation) Patrick Gray on Twitter: "I've seen a couple of people float this theory and FWIW I think it's bullshit. https://t.co/8PeV3IxdVJ" WikiLeaks Won’t Tell Tech Companies How to Patch CIA Zero-Days Until Its Demands Are Met - Motherboard Patrick Gray on Twitter: "Staff holding clearances didn't stop Microsoft fixing Stuxnet 0days or the Flame md5 collision. More grandstanding bullshit from Assange.
‘We have to reassure Iraq that we will stick around'  

68 nations are gathering to discuss the US-led global coalition to fight the Islamic State group. Hosted by US Secretary of State Rex Tillerson, It will be the first full meeting of the coalition since December 2014. It is hoped it will speed up international efforts to defeat IS and increase pressure on its affiliates and networks. The meeting will also address the humanitarian crisis caused by the conflict. Dr Ali Muthanna is regional director in the Middle East for the AMAR International Charitable Foundation which runs health clinics located in northern Iraq, he says the people there have given up hope. Tom Fletcher is the former UK Ambassador to Lebanon and former foreign policy adviser to three Prime Ministers and author of “Naked Diplomacy”

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