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  • Hanna Bier works with ambitious women all over the world to recreate their relationship with money in a life-affirming, positive and loving way.As an energy healer, family-constellation expert and certified life coach, she has woven her diverse skill set into a proven, and innovative capacity to allow her clients to transform their relationship with money from the inside out. Hanna spent seven years trying to answer the question: Is it possible to create wealth without compromising our health, wellness and/or happiness. Can we actually create abundant lives while living a life of joy? Happily, the answer is a resounding YES. Learn how in this weeks episode

    [3:00] Money Paradigm

    “72-91% of Americans say that money is the most stressful part of their lives.”“The sense of grasping for more out of feeling like it's not enough, doesn't actually create wealth.”“When you can feel your emotional hooks around money resolve is when you're able to make really confident and capable decisions around money”“The goal is to not even really need to think about money, to know that it's flowing.”

    [12:20] Family of Origin

    "When it comes to money, family matters.. because money touches the most essential aspects of life.""If you come from a family where having your needs met is completely unheard of, it's insane to expect you to know how to do that with money now, but we still think we should.""This is a place to give yourself grace"

    [23:00] Family Constellation Therapy

    “Family constellation therapy is an energetic healing modality, where we work in the energetic field of your family. In biology this is called the morphic field.”“We need to open up the flow of love energetically in your family of origin.”“Once you've created this sense of peace in your family system, your biochemistry changes, and your body changes”

    [35:00] How to shift:

    “You can always have more. What's important is to learn in your body what it feels like to expand your capacity for love in the form of money to receive it, to let it sit. And then you can expand it even more”“The easiest way to start to shift is to get around people who set points higher than yours.”“We think what we want is so far out there, but there are people living it and there is a recipe to it.”“It's just a matter of increasing your self-worth to the point where you will actually allow yourself to have that level of ease and wellbeing.”

    Connect with Hanna

    https://www.instagram.com/hannamoneybliss/

    https://www.facebook.com/hannamarie.b/

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  • Welcome back to The Coachable Podcast. This week we are joined by Jake Kauffman. Jake is an Executive Life Coach & Business Consultant to 7 & 8 figure purpose driven entrepreneurs & CEOs and he was even a coach of mine back in the day. He supports other conscious entrepreneurs in expanding themselves personally so that they can exponentially grow professionally.

    [3:33] Jake’s Story

    After a recent traumatic brain injury Jake shares about what he's been learning about life and business and why he's choosing to do things differently

    [10:00] Admired Identity

    There is a transition from the first half of life to second.Death, disease, divorce, are the most common things that really thrust people into this dying process that is necessary in order for us to live up to our true potential and embrace our authentic identity.The only constant is change. Admired identity is simply who you've become in an effort to be loved, accepted and successful.The alternative is living in misery and confusion our whole lives about what we offer or where's our value outside of what we can do or what we used to doWaking up involves the killing of that persona, where we literally die to that persona because this is like our admired identity so that we can step into and fully embrace and live into our authentic identity.

    [25:00] Suffering

    Most people have it backwards. They think that they need to achieve their way to their full potential when really you need to die your way there.Our power lies in our ability to chooseYou have to go through hell to get to heavenYou have to be refined in the fire. You have to go through the cave. It requires necessary suffering.Life isn't hard because you're doing it wrong. It's hard because you're doing it right. You are right where you need to be experiencing exactly what you need to.

    [36:00] Divine Blueprint

    We experience trauma as child which creates an identity to not re-experience pain growing up.. this requires us to confront the painPeople don't have business problems, they only have personal problems that show up in their business Its shifting from focusing on a cash-based business to a results-based business. How do I have the biggest deepest impact possible?Play is part of the divine blueprintIt's all about finding your worth in other ways and not dependent on performanceThe process of not just talking about it, but walking it out, living it out, embodying it at a deeper level. Its having a deeper level of beingness.

    Connect with Jake
    Jacobkauffman.com
    instagram.com/iamjakekauffman/

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  • Welcome back to The Coachable Podcast. This week we are joined by Nathan Chan. Nathan went from a soul-crushing 9-5 job in IT to being the founder of one of the fastest growing online entrepreneurial brands in the world. Frustrated with the lack of REAL advice for those wanting to build and scale a business, Nathan launched Foundr in 2013 and set out to interview the world's greatest entrepreneurs. Flash forward, Foundr has now featured the likes of Richard Branson, Mark Cuban and Ariana Huffington, amassed a global community of 4+ million people, and grown into a multi-million dollar digital media network.

    [5:00] Growth Mindset

    “It takes taking the first step to actually get started and start to grow the momentum. ““Fear of failure is a massive reason people don't try. I think it stems from this idea that how will you be perceived by others, around you.”“A growth mindset of seeing failure as opportunity to learn and to get better and to perfect your craft and try something new. It doesn't mean that you're not qualified or cut out for it, but it's saying that every rejection is redirection”

    [21:35] Keep hustling — it will come

    “You have to have the drive and the desire that out ways, the desire for comfort or stability”“I used to get up early in the morning before work and I would do interviews, I'd find a meeting room, take all my podcast equipment. And I'd do interviews before I started work.” Sometimes I do interviews on my lunch break and then I'd go home and do more work.” “I remember I was super scared to go all out on my own. What I did was I had a buffer. Somewhere between three to six months.”“It's easy to start. It's harder to actually build and actually to, to, to get that traction”

    [30:00] What makes someone successful?

    “It's really good to acknowledge that they're just human beings at the end of the day.”“It has to be an extreme obsession to keep you going.”“You have to have that mindset of just always wanting to evolve, always wanting to keep growing.”“You also can't be successful on your own. Successful people also have other successful people around them.” “Shortcuts — you want to get there faster”

    [41:00] Burnout

    “There's a cost and a payoff to everything.”“Everything we're saying yes to, we're saying no to a million other things”“Life is too short to not do things you love” “Identify that things aren't right and adjust”

    Connect with Nathan

    https://www.instagram.com/nathanchan/

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  • Welcome Back to The Coachable Podcast! You are in for a TREAT today. Today we are joined with Ian Morgan Cron. Ian is a bestselling author, psychotherapist, Enneagram teacher, Episcopal priest, and host of the wildly popular podcast, "Typology," which has over 20 million downloads. His books include the Enneagram primer The Road Back to You, the novel Chasing Francis, the spiritual memoir Jesus, My Father, the CIA, and Me, and The Story of You: An Enneagram Journey to Becoming Your True Self.

    [5:00] Enneagram & Its Importance

    “Enneagram is a personality typing system that teaches, there are nine basic personality styles in the world, one of which we gravitate toward and adopt and childhood as a way to cope, to protect ourselves and to navigate the new world of relationships.”“Importantly, each of those nine types has an unconscious motivation that powerfully influences how that personality, habitually and predictably acts, thinks and feels from moment to moment.”“The key predictor of success in life is self-awareness. It's not just among leaders. It's, it's our entrepreneurs. Self awareness is a key predictor of success in our marriages, in our relationship with our children, with friends, with ourselves, with our higher power.”“Understanding who you are, how you show up for life, what the motivations, the hidden motivations are that drive our ways of typically acting, thinking, and feeling.”

    [19:00] Understanding Others

    “The Enneagram provides us with a low resolution picture of the interior world, of yourself and other people.”“Even if you got 10% more clarity about the inner experience of other people, that's a giant leap forward, a huge leap forward.”“The amazing thing is that you begin to develop this wisdom in your approach to other people.”“You also start to learn, “oh, this is how people experience me”’“I've been able to, in real time, make decisions about how I relate to others, because I know there are types.”

    [27:00] Story of you

    ..”Realizing I can change the story. I have agency and freedom to rewrite the narrative of my life, in a way that I can take responsibility for the story.”“I can be loved for more than what I do for others”"Knowing your number is the beginning towards self awareness"

    [44:00] Rewriting your story

    “You have to change the story you tell yourself.”“It's about seeing the story that got you there… but it is no longer serving you”“The healing is learning to take the mask off”

    Connect With Ian

    https://www.instagram.com/ianmorgancron/

    Listeners may download the first chapter of Ian's newest book, The Story Of You, in audio form: https://drive.google.com/file/d/15aBxUqTpAmGcUKv0GtsWFs8zN_84o3OZ/view

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  • Welcome Back Coachable Fam! This week we are joined with Steve Rix. Stevehas spent three decades honing and developing his skills as an expert in employee engagement. From start-ups to fortune 100 companies, Steve has provided coaching and consulting in the development of people to perform at their highest levels. Through the ebbs and flows of his own entrepreneurial journey, his experience has provided invaluable insight to corporate leadership, organizational health, and cultural vitality

    [5:00] Playful/Childlike Spirit

    “Life doesn’t have to be so serious. We’re allowed to have fun.“Its about breaking up with the belief that play isn’t productive.”“Play helps you get to the next level not mal intent”“The opposite of play is resistance”“All aspects of your health goes up when more playful” “Along the journey we stop playing and start competing. Play is no longer play when you are attached to the outcome.”“Play is an immersive experience”

    [21:00] Play in the Workplace

    "Curious, engaged, and emotionally safe people are highly productive human beings. But people who are compliant, disengaged and emotionally void, just get by.""70 to 80% of people in the workforce today are either disengaged or unengaged. One recently said it's as high as 90%. It wouldn't surprise me because the workforce has become a performance place.""The whole paradigm just pits people against people that have a deeply immersed sense of competition instead of collaboration and the workplace needs more collaboration."

    [36:00] Play lab experiment with play

    “We have 43 now independently verified, highly useful experiments.Many of them have to do with games, toys, arts, and crafts storytelling. But in this case, one of the things that I encourage people to do is a tactile exercise that helps mental-pliability.”“Every human is different, but this is one thing I would start with because in general, any time I touch something that I want to manipulate, it allows access to neuro-plasticity.”“Must relax before it can be replaced”

    [43:00] Play saves the day

    “There are many modalities for human transformation, and I see play as a modality, but more importantly than a modality”“Next to breathing, which happens automatically, play is right there as a close second”

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  • Welcome back Coachable Fam! This week we are joined with AJ Vaden! AJ is CEO and Co-Founder of Brand Builders Group, one of the world's leading authorities on personal brand strategy. She’s also the co-host of the Influential Personal Brand podcast, named one of Forbes' top 10 podcasts to listen to in 2021.

    [7:00] Personal Branding in 2022

    “You already have a personal brand. Everyone has one, it's not a matter of, do I want one or should I get one? You already have one.”“A personal brand is the intentional effort of building your reputation… It's a new trendy term for a very long old established a concept which is your reputation, what are you known for.”“We've all heard that old saying your reputation precedes you , and it really does. Believe it or not, you get to influence that based on who you hang out with, what you talk about, what you share, what you put online, it's all the different things that are, compartmentalized on a day to day basis, but they all make up this overarching, who am I?”“Your comfort will always hold you back from your calling.”

    [23:00] Study on Personal Branding

    “The majority of all Americans said, a personal brand to them is just someone who is simply recognizable to them.”“You are recognized by someone every day in your life.”“Millennials say that their most trusted source of product information is their friends.”“The number one thing that was most important to people when deciding to purchase from someone was whether or not they had testimonials.”“People want third-party validation that you are, who you say you are, and you do what you say you're going to do by people that look and feel like me.”

    [43:00] Future of influencer marketing

    “The trust is held with the individual, not the company.”“It's Not what you do, it's who you are.”“People fall in love with you, not what you do. And at some point we stopped doing that. We stopped letting people get to know us.”“Don't be vanilla, don't be neutral.. that's not what people need..I need someone who's going to be willing to speak some truth and it's okay if I don't agree with it.”“You need to be exactly where your audience is and you need to be in tune with that. I think one of the challenges today is that we try to serve a whole bunch of different masters and we think we have to be on every single platform to be successful.”

    Connect with AJ

    https://www.instagram.com/aj_vaden/

    https://freebrandcall.com/torigordon/

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  • Welcome back to the Coachable Podcast! This week we are joined by Emily Fletcher! Emily is the founder of Ziva and has taught the Ziva Technique to over 40,000 people. Her best-selling book, Stress Less, Accomplish More, debuted at #7 out of all books on Amazon and has been translated into 12 languages. In 2021, she launched zivaKIDS, the first meditation course of its kind for kids ages 4-14.

    [10:00] Meditation

    “The kingdom of heaven is in fact within, but none of us really are taught how to get there.”“If you think that the point of meditation is declaring your mind, you are always going to feel like a failure because the mind thinks involuntarily just like the heartbeats involuntarily.”“We meditate to get good at life. Not to get good at meditation.”“No one would leave their house without brushing their teeth because it's gross and rude. You should not be leaving your house without meditating because you're now then spewing your stress around everybody else.”

    [23:00] Time Management

    “I work with some of the busiest people on the planet and they're not meditating because they have extra time, right? They're doing it because they know it's going to improve their performance.”“Stress is making us stupid, sick and slow. That's a hard pill to swallow because we're addicted to it”“Ziva is so special that it's creating a trait change. This thing is actually healing you on a cellular level. It is changing your body and it's getting rid of all the stress from your past.”

    [35:00] Manifesting

    “Step one in manifesting is we actually have to get the brain out of fight or flight. We have to get it into, stay and play, start flooding the body with dopamine and serotonin.” “Moving from surviving to thriving is hard to do if you're exclusively approaching it through the left brain intellect.”“I recommend a stop gap between the meditation and the manifesting of gratitude.""By gratitude, I mean, enthusiastic gratitude for what is, and if you can get to that, if you can get to genuine, authentic, enthusiastic gratitude for exactly what is, that's one click away from enthusiastic gratitude for what's on the way.”

    [50:00] Process of Ziva

    “Once you take the course, you have these tools with you for life. You're not dependent on me/ an app to meditate""Meditating with your phone is like having an AA meeting in a liquor store. Why would you go into the belly of the beast?”“It's based on something called niche, karma yoga, which means union attained by action. What people find is that it feels kind of like a nap sitting up without the sleep hangover. And in just 15 minutes, it feels like you've had an hour and a half nap.”

    Connect With Emily
    https://www.instagram.com/zivameditation/
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  • Julie Solomon is a Business Coach, Speaker, Host of the top rated The Influencer Podcast and Author of the book, Get What You Want: How to Go From Unseen to Unstoppable Julie has spent over a decade helping people align their purpose with their vision to find out what makes them shine while confidently sharing it with the world. Her entrepreneurial courses teach clients how to master the important skill sets needed to take a personal brand idea and turn it into a profitable, sustainable business.

    [7:00] Identify Your Origin Story

    "Julie shares the personal story of hiding over $30,000 of credit card debt from her husband, and how his discovery led her down a new path of unlocking her toxic origin story around money and success. Realizing your origin story can help you identify and overcome what’s holding you back.""No matter how put together or perfect or beautiful someone is, shame does not discriminate! Shame is shame. ""You can't hide yourself and expect to be seen."

    [25:00] Tools To Freedom

    "Understand the Problem is apart of me but is not me.""Awareness is just the identification that some problem or dysfunction exists in your life and it needs to change.""Acceptance is that very uncomfortable place where we have to come to grips with the idea that this problem is a part of me, but it is not all of me.""Acceptance really means I am choosing to now create a new story.""Action is the plan that you can implement to either recover, overcome, restore, whatever has been lost in the dysfunction."

    [34:00] Clarity

    "You're going to start to get clear on what it is that you don't want, which is then going to give you the clarity on what it is that you do want, which then gives you the confidence.""Clarity creates confidence.""As soon as we get clear about what we want, it becomes easy to say no to the things that aren't going to help us get there"

    [41:00] “Why Am I Talking?”

    "Many women tend to lean into a scarcity mindset or a need to control, fix or be validated when communicating, which can distort the true reason for sharing their voice. Julie shares why asking yourself this simple question will align your intentions with what you truly want and speak from a place of confidence and clarity.""If you actually turn it into an acronym for its WAIT: why am I talking?"

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    https://www.instagram.com/julssolomon/

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  • Welcome Back Coachable Fam! You are in for a treat today! Dr. Caroline Leaf is a communication pathologist and cognitive neuroscientist with a Masters and PhD in Communication Pathology and a BSc Logopaedics, specializing in cognitive and metacognitive neuropsychology. Since the early 1980s she has researched the mind-brain connection, the nature of mental health, and the formation of memory. She was one of the first in her field to study how the brain can change (neuroplasticity) with directed mind input.

    [5:00] Brain Vs Mind

    “The Mind is us, a likeness or a humanness, being able to think, feel, and choose all the experiences of life.”“The mind is like gravitational fields. It can’t be seen, but we know it's there, because of the evidence, which is that we are not floating.”“The brain is a physical part. The thoughts come in the mind, which makes the experience into a physical thought.”

    [15:41] Power of Choice

    “The non-conscious mind is the biggest part of who you are. It's the most intelligent part of who you are.”“You can never change your story of what happened in childhood, adolescence, early adulthood and whatever stage of your life, because your stories happened. But what you can do is change what it looks like inside of you. And then therefore you can change how it plays out into the future.”“We spend way too much time ignoring the cause. And then once we do face the course, we then try and spend a lot of time trying to find why someone did that?”

    [25:08] Subconscious

    “The Subconscious is the bridge”“No emotions are bad, and no emotion should be suppressed because they are incredible messages.”“The non-conscious sends signals through the subconscious, into the conscious mind. So depression, that's an emotion. It's one of four signals, not an illness. It's a warning signal, embrace it.”“Energy is never lost. It's transferred. So as I did this, I'm starting to build a little replacement thought.”

    [34:00] Neurocycle

    “It's a systematic ordered mind management system that drives the neuroplasticity of your brain, therefore changing right down to the level of your DNA of every cell of your body.”“It's an embraced process to reconceptualize over time, to break these established patterns.”“It's not a mental health pandemic. It is a mismanagement of the mind. That's the real issue. We've got to reteach people how to manage their minds.”

    Connect With Dr.Caroline:

    drleaf.com

    https://www.instagram.com/drcarolineleaf/

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  • Welcome Back Coachable Fam! From homeless to hero Michael Unbroken, is the Founder of Think Unbroken, best-selling author, award-winning speaker, podcast host, coach, and advocate for adult survivors of childhood trauma. Since 2016, Michael has empowered over 100,000 trauma survivors to get out of The Vortex, learn to love themselves, and become the hero of their own story. Michael has written multiple books including the best seller Think Unbroken: Understanding and Overcoming Childhood Trauma.

    [7:00] Michaels Story

    At 4 years old Michael’s mother cut off his right index finger, she was a drug addict and alcoholic.At 6 his hyper-abusive step-father beat and hospitalized him. At 7 he was molested by a den mother in the Mormon Church. From 8-12 he was often homeless and in deep poverty and did what it took to survive from stealing food and only bathing at school. He got high for the first time at 12 and drunk at 13. By 15 he was expelled from school for selling drugs. At 18 he found himself deep in The Vortex and began chasing money to solve his problems. By 25 Michael was 350 pounds, smoking two packs a day, drinking himself to sleep, and attempted suicide for the second time.Then he had his mirror moment and decided to stop being a victim of trauma and to be the HERO of his own Story

    [20:00] The Turn Around

    “We're only willing to tolerate what we're willing to tolerate.”“Every day you don't move towards your dreams. You're moving towards a death, filled with regret.” “A radical acceptance of accountability is the only true sense of freedom that you'll ever have.”

    [29:00] OvercomingTrauma

    “With trauma and abuse it’s not the finger that was cut off. It’s the thing that we carry with us, it’s the theft of our identity.”“You have to get to the place in your life where you find the thing that forces you forward with momentum.”“Nobody's coming to save you. There is no Disney moment, whatever it is that you think is going to happen, it ain't happening.”“The more you try to figure it out on your own, the more confused you are..And here's why, because what, you know, got you to where you're at… And so if you want to get to where you want to go, you better go ask somebody else”"You can only build confidence through consistently doing incredibly uncomfortable things continually."

    [48:00] Mindset

    "Mindset is what you think becomes what you speak, what you speak, becomes your actions and your action becomes your reality.""If you want something you're going to have to work for it, you cannot get by in your charms and your good looks"“If you want to have something you've never had before you got to do something you've never done before”"If you don't believe in yourself, who will?"

    Connect With Michael:
    thinkunbroken.com
    @michaelunbroken

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  • Welcome back Coachable Fam! This week i'm honored to have Lisa Bilyeu. Lisa co-founded Quest Nutrition, which grew 57,000% in its first three years. She is also the co-founder and president of Impact Theory Studios, a revolutionary, digital-first studio, that produces wildly entertaining, original content focusing on themes of empowerment. Throughout her career, Lisa has created a slate of content that has been viewed over half a billion times and by overseeing all in-house content development at Impact Theory, she, along with her husband, have built a global audience of over 7.5 million. As host of her digital series “Women of Impact,” Lisa spends her days having real, uncensored conversations with the most inspiring women.

    [5:00] Radical Confidence

    "Confidence means taking all your fears, all your insecurities, all your inadequacies and doing it anyways.""You actually have to practice and the practice is what makes you competent. And it's the competent, that gets you confident."

    [13:00] Critic To Coach

    “What I've done is I've allowed a critic in my head to become my coach. I've literally had her now teach me and tell me what I'm fearful of and then have a plan in order to mitigate that from happening.”“I actually now very much use that negative voice in my head to help tell me what I'm about to face and then come up with a plan to help coach me into.”“When we get clear on what we really want, it becomes easy to say no to the things that are going to help us get there.”

    [26:00] Relationship With Failure

    “Growth mindset is putting yourself in situations that you do find comfortable and putting yourself in situations that you don't have confidence in.“I actually have the trust in myself that if I mess up, if I fail, I can get back up.”“Failure. Isn't really an option. It's just about learning and expanding”

    [36:00] Having a Why

    “I was evolving from my why to be this fear-based thing to then becoming a mission. I realized that the mission was the key piece to pulling the heartstrings.”“Having a why needs to be the first step”“When something comes at me that I don’t expect or I feel inadequate, I always can remember my why”

    [41:00] Relationship To Quitting

    “So many of us want to quit when it's hard, when we don't feel good about ourselves, when we try that new thing. But it's because of the emotion, it's not because of the thing.”“Identify in those moments, is it the thing or the emotion that you don't feel good enough about?”“Vowing “I'm not going to quit on a bad day” is a really, really powerful way to make sure that you don't give up too, too soon”

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  • Monica Berg is the co-host of the popular podcast Spiritually Hungry, author of Fear Is Not an Option and Rethink Love, mother of four kids and self-professed Change Junkie. She has lectured all over the world, serves as the Chief Communications Officer for Kabbalah Centre International, and has been featured on Good Morning America: GMA3, The Talk, Home & Family, Cheddar, Good Day NY, Well+Good, Popsugar, and more.

    [7:00] Seeking Purpose

    “Although we get feedback from external things, it's our responsibility to make sure that the most profound influence that we have is from internal.”“You need to make sure that you take the time to hear what you desire, what your calling is, what lights you up and that you take that voice seriously.”“The time is because now is the time now is the only time. And that this wants to come through me.”

    [15:00] Consciousness & Awareness

    This lightbulb moment of “I am so much more than I think I am”“My perception was such a very skewed, limited, small perception of the vast, expansive, true definition of who I am at my core at my deepest essence.”“It opened another window of spirituality for me in terms of how I feel about death, and also the urgency of creating the life that you want.”

    [21:00] Fear

    “If you don't challenge your fears, as they come up, you're going to carry them with you.”“You have to be able to change the way you view your life and the way you view your day and not fear the unknown, but in fact, embrace it because that's where true freedom lies.”“I’d rather have the pain of discipline, than the pain of regret.”“Fear defaults us into negative thinking”

    [30:00] Overcoming Fears

    “Fear is not an option because when fear is no longer an option and you tell yourself that you're going to look for other viable other options.”“When you see life as things that happen to you, rather than through you, you're going to live a very different life..”“Fear is one of the emotions that we have, so it will always be there. What changes is its intensity, and the duration.”“You can also transform it and it can no longer be a fear.”“There's healthy fear, there's real fear, and there's a logical fear”

    [42:00] Dealing With Difficult Situations

    “Appreciation and gratitude for just being.”“Understand that life is going to happen to all of us.”“We all go through hard times, but it's through that darkness.. That you have an understanding of what light is”“Give yourself a moment in time to say, I don't want this, but it needs to have a time limit”

    Connect With Monica:
    rethinklife.today
    @monicaberg74

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  • Welcome Back Coachable Fam! This week we are joined with Jen Szpiegiel. Jen is the founder and CEO of Becoming Iconic, a 7 figure global business & leadership brand that elevates entrepreneurs who desire to create a 7 figure legacy through integral leadership.

    [5:00] How Coaching Has Evolved

    “The responsibility starts to rise and it rises because you see trends and you see things come and go and you start to identify areas in the industry. It is just a side effect of social media that swings into hype."We start to slip into moments where we don't feel gratitude, where people start to look like numbers for us versus heartbeats.”“When did we stop thinking about impact as much and put income in its place?”

    [12:00] Your Why

    “I am committed to being a mission driven messenger and working with mission driven messengers, because if you don't have a deeper why”“Our job is to take people along our journey and to show our progression.It's not about this perfection.”“Faith it till you make it not fake it till you make it” “It comes down to this realization that we were worthy upon arrival. Worth is not earned.It was our God-given birthright.”

    [20:00] Becoming Iconic

    “It's this whole story of becoming iconic could be an iconic stay-at-home mom or an iconic entrepreneur and iconic corporate career, iconic relationships, and what to me defines iconic is the person who is willing to pursue a better version every single day.”“It's the pursuit of seeing all of ourselves and being all of ourselves.”“It's peaceful confidence and peaceful confidence to me is the ultimate for a woman.”“She's the woman who walks in a room and does not need to be loud and boisterous and declare her space.It is simply from the inside out.”

    [30:00] Leadership

    “These are my five pillars. The first is embodiment, the pursuit of your truth, your integrity, I believe the second one is relationships, the third being wellness.“The 4th being your business or what it is you do out in the world and the fifth thing being spirituality.”“Every single day, I'm going to intentionally do something to grow them, to foster them, to nourish them, to flourish them.”

    [40:00] Imposter Syndrome

    “I actually welcome things like that, because that tells me I've stretched into something and I am Uber uncomfortable. I am in territory that I've never been in before. So I better shape up and figure out the skills and learn the lessons.”“I stand a little straighter. People feel imposter and what do they do? They shrink. I would challenge anybody listening. If you're feeling imposter syndrome, walk towards it, that means you're doing something new.”

    [47:00] Student For Life

    “My hindsight becomes my foresight”“Tear the pedestal down that you have placed others on”“We are all humans doing life”

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  • Randy is a New York Times Best Selling Author, Partner at High-Performance Institute, and Passionate Entrepreneur! His favorite thing in the world is to help grow companies and people. As a Partner at Tamarak, our focus is to help build durable and purposeful companies.He works closely with some of the world's most recognized CEOs, companies, thought leaders, and experts.

    [3:00] What drives you

    “Seeing those that I work with really win and that's winning to me.”“I really love being that servant leader and that role model leader.”“I am all about high performance leadership”

    [9:00] Playing at a high level

    “The very first habit is to seek clarity out of all the habits that are out there, like, do you set clarity and seek clarity out of every single day?”“If you don't have your strategy on one page, you don't have a strategy.”“Then the next habit is to generate energy. It's hard to have really good energy if you don't know where the heck you're going.”

    [16:00] Time

    “Time is free, but it's priceless. You can't own it. But you can use it. You can't keep it, but you can spend it. But once we've lost that we will never, ever, ever get it back.”“You need to take a break every 50 minutes, but you also need to plan time to really think"I used to feel guilty that I was taking a rest or a break. It's actually, a need you need to plan for it a lot”“High performance is doing things better than average over the long-term while maintaining relationships, you cannot be high performance by yourself.”

    [22:00] The Essence of Living

    “The master and the art of living actually makes little distinction between whether he's working or playing, his love and his leisure are the same, his mind and his body or a one.”“A lot of that breaks down to what are your daily habits? How are you spending your day? "“You can't do life alone and you can't win by only playing defense."“We like to say defense wins championships, but offense is what makes you score. And I think part of playing offense is being really intentional about the people that you surround yourself with.”

    [31:00] Increase

    “If You cannot maintain positive relationships. You cannot be a high performer.”“Once you seek clarity, that helps you generate energy, then the next one is to increase.”“If you don't have your own goals, somebody else will use you for theirs and that will drain your energy.”"What's the motive? That's what drives me and ultimately sustains me over time because if we don't have that deeper “WHY” we'll do the sprint, but then we'll quit.”


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  • Welcome back Coachable Family! This week you are in for a treat! Tori Dunlap is an internationally-recognized money and career expert, and podcast host. After saving $100,000 at age 25, Tori quit her corporate job in marketing and founded Her First $100K to fight financial inequality by giving women actionable resources to better their money. She has helped over three million women negotiate salary, pay off debt, build savings, and invest.

    Host of the #1 Business Podcast, Financial Feminist; author of the upcoming book “Financial Feminist” and Adweek's "Finance Creator of the Year.” Tori now travels the world writing, speaking, and coaching about personal finance, online businesses, and confidence for women.

    [3:00] Financial Literacy and Education

    “I realized that this financial education I had was a privilege. And with that privilege came a responsibility.”“We don't have any sort of equality for any marginalized group until we have financial equality.”“I work to see personal finance education as a form of protest"“When you have financial stability, you have options, you have choices.“You can't talk about money and not talk about systemic oppression and talk about these narratives that are perpetuated in order to keep you underpaid and overworked”

    [13:20 ] Shame and Money

    “We have so much shame and judgment around money because no one taught us how to money. And we are then shamed for our choices. Women specifically, we are told, ‘stop spending your money on frivolous things’.”“Shame, loves silence and loves the quiet corner of the room, and that's what the talking about money is: this taboo narrative telling you “don't talk about money, that's shameful or you’re going to get judged”“Talking about money is a form of protest. That's why having financial resources and understanding the financial system are forms of protest against that society and that system that is actively keeping you and gatekeeping that information from you.”

    [22:00] Re-empower yourself

    “The vast majority of your money habits are cemented by age seven”“What is the first time you remember consciously having thoughts about money?”“Moving from defense to offense was replacing that belief with making money is a natural byproduct of doing things I love”Knowing it's okay to want money. It's okay to want choices. Every single person wants those choices. It's not bad.

    [30:00] Money = Choices

    “The vast majority of people don't just want money in order to see a literal stack of paper in their bank account. They want what that stack of paper gives them in terms of options. Wanting money, pursuing money is not a bad thing.“Money gives you choices. I don't have to stay in a situation I don't want to be in because I'm financially dependent on that situation”“99% of domestic violence cases have some sort of financial abuse tied to them. And we know from research that the number one reason people can't leave those situations is because they don't have the money to do so they don't have the financial ability to do so.”“Personal finance and financial education and a financial foundation is so important. And it can be in those cases, life or death for people.”

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    @herfirst100k @financialfeministpodcast @treasuryapp @torikdunlap

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  • Welcome Back Coachable Family! Today Tori breaks down the levels of self-mastery and what it takes to truly be successful in anything in life, and what are some of those pitfalls that continually trip us up. This is going to be really illuminating for some of you that find yourself continually starting things and never making the progress or getting the results that you really want.

    [2:00] Self-Mastery and Success.

    “Our culture tells us that if we understand something, we should be able to do it.”“Repetition is the mother of mastery.”“We tend to stay in our comfort zones of what we're naturally good at.”

    [7:00] Cognitive mastery

    “The first level of self-mastery or mastery of any skill begins with cognitive mastery. This is the intellectual understanding.”“Knowledge is not power applied Knowledge is” “In this phase we’re excited and we're committed. We're like, yes, I'm going to do this thing. And we have cognitively mentally decided, and we understand intellectually, what it's going to take.”“Maybe it's going to be 30, 60, 90 days to create this habit. But here's the thing. You can only do what, you know, so naturally the more, you know, the more you can do”

    [12:00] Repetition and emotional mastery

    “You have to feel it. And what you're going to feel here is resistance.”“The work doesn't start until you get uncomfortable. A lot of us want to stay in that comfort.”“Repetition: continually, consistently doing something is when you're starting to develop emotional mastery over that thing. You no longer allow fear to dictate your choices or decisions, or your willingness to show up and do it.”“This is where you develop the discipline to do the thing in the face of discomfort.”“When you're learning a new skill, if we can apply an emotional consequence, good or bad, it will help us to remember and to recall it when we need it.”

    [20:00] Lifestyle to Identity

    “This is the actual embodiment where it's not just a habit that you can learn in 30, 60, 90 days.”“This is who I am. Now, you embody it. You own it. It's in your psychology. It's in your physiology.”“Showing up consistently and doing the thing consistently actually pays off.”“Dare to care about something.. dare to want something so badly that you're willing to fail at it over and over and over again until you get it.”

    [30:00] Prevention vs Pain Relief

    “We live in a culture where we tend to not, you know, we don't invest in prevention.”“We invest in pain relief because when everything is good in your life, you're not motivated to do anything different when you've got the money in the bank.”“Look at where you are and think about where you've come from and the stretch of that journey that you've already completed. You've already walked the hard things that you felt would destroy you and you've come through. Let that be a reminder that you can move through resistance and that you can make it to the other side.”“What if we consistently showed up every day? So in the future, we weren't in pain.”

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    Ig:@coachtorigordon

    www.torigordon.com/intensive

  • Today Gabby Bernstein joins us on The Coachable podcast to get deep about her path from trauma to profound freedom. For over sixteen years, Gabby Bernstein has been transforming lives—including her own. She connects with her community through her books, her Miracle Membership, and her podcast Dear Gabby. Gabby joins us today to talk about setting yourself free, being a beginner, and gaining the freedom from trauma that you deserve. This is one episode you don't want to miss.

    Happy Days [6:42]

    “This is a story of surviving and thriving after living through trauma.”“I really teach the methods for how to gently face into and honor your life's experiences and all that you've been through and to give the reader the guided path from that trauma to profound freedom and inner peace.”

    How do I know if I have trauma? [10:48]

    “We all have trauma. Sometimes it's trauma with a big T like mine, like yours with your sister trauma with a small being bullied, being told you're stupid.”“Whether we're aware of the trauma or not consciously, we do everything we can to push them down so that we don't have to let their presence be known in our day-to-day adult life."

    Triggers [15:03]

    “We have to be brave enough to look at and take an inventory of what triggers us and the ways that we run from it in order to begin.”“Typically a reflection of an unresolved wound from our childhood.”“What is it that triggers you? What does it feel like when you're triggered? How are you running and avoiding that trigger. Asking yourself those three questions and going down the list of all the triggers that are super active for you will help you notice the patterns.”

    IFS [19:34]

    “The goal of IFS is to recognize, honor, and respect the protectors and the managers, and then give yourself permission to get closer to the parts of you that are activated and honor, and respect them as well.”“When we're triggered, it's really the child, parts of us that are getting triggered..And then the protector parts come in to save us from having to feel the trigger”


    BEING A BEGINNER [32:33]

    “Being committed to being a student and being willing to learn and being willing to grow. And sometimes, that looks like being a beginner.”“There's purpose in the pain that you cannot see yet..find the holy in the s**t."


    COACHING WITH TORI [46:14]

    “I am focused on personal transformation and embodiment. My mission on this planet is to help relieve as much unnecessary suffering as possible."I'm a trauma informed breath worker, a breathwork facilitator and transformation coach.“I work with people individually, privately one-on-one, and in a group setting."


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    Ig: @gabbybernstein
    https://gabbybernstein.com/happy-days-book/

  • Today I’m joined by Jamie King. She is an online marketing coach and business mentor, passionate about helping creatives, coaches, course creators scale their digital business to multiple 6 and 7 figures through her “Slay Your Business” Networking Series, The Slay School Podcast, and The Summit of Slay. In this episode, we dive into her top tips for using your ADHD superpower to help grow your business.

    ADHD and Business [4:40]

    “I felt misunderstood. Everyone gave me labels and it made me feel like who I was was bad.”“I had this career that I had worked so hard for, but I couldn’t make it work-I had new priorities.”

    The Bigger Picture [14:00]

    “Each skill and each career led to the thing I was supposed to be doing.”“When I look back at all of the things that I’ve been through that I couldn’t piece together, it’s all played a role and it had a purpose in the path to where I am now.”“Things that you think are falling apart are actually falling into place.”

    Imposter Syndrome [16:30]

    “I felt like I was having to swim upstream in someone else’s creek.”“If I’m not organized, or a planner, or type A, how can I make this simpler for myself?”“I identify as type A and an overachiever, but I don’t achieve in the way others achieve.”“In my program, we teach how to find your passions and skills to make a signature offer with a profitable return of your time and investment.”“My brain is like my computer, it has so many tabs open with great ideas.”“Follow your curiosity- but watch for the follow through.”

    The Reward System [23:00]

    “I stopped avoiding those feelings, and started training my brain to look for the chemical reward at the end.”“When I’m in the thick of things that look hard, I start focusing on the long-term reward and making that reward big enough to be able to focus inside of my discomfort.”“Measure your progress and see how much you’re moving in that direction.”

    See the Results [29:40]

    “Inside my business, I looked for the offer that made the most bang for my buck. I looked for the offer that was the most scalable that I don’t hate.”“Create an offer that is valuable to your audience.”“Look at where your current audience is having problems, and find a solution to that that you love.”

    ADHD is a Superpower [38:45]

    “It’s possible to be extremely successful, do what you love, and create balance in a way that works for you while having ADHD.”“ADHD is a call to find your own way.”

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    IG: @jamiejoslinking @theslayschool

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  • Dr. Alexandra Solomon joins us on The Coachable Podcast to talk about Relational Awareness and Conscious Dating. She is a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University and a clinical assistant professor in the Department of Psychology at Northwestern University. We dive into everything from relationship myths to generational differences in dating. If you’re seeking relationship advice, this is the podcast for you.

    Extend the Pause [3:40]

    “The relationship with self becomes the foundation for intimacy and connection.”“Can we increase the pause between stimulus and response to inquire within ourselves without reactivity?”“We are in the midst of a collective grief and we are more at risk than ever to be falling back on whatever our self-protective urges are.”“My triggers are my roadmaps to my healing.”“Where our walls are, are where our wounds are.”“Our relationships are a space where healing happens.”

    Let Go of The Myths [15:00]

    “We can’t make a nice, neat flowchart, there has to be a willingness to take accountability for our own sh*t.”“There will be things in your relationship that you can’t solve. You can choose to be in that dance together despite the fact that no one is right.”“I am here for grieving and letting go of the myth that, “If you’re truly the right one for me,I’ll never feel discomfort, doubtful or hesitant.’”“Sometimes the healing has to start in the little spaces.”

    Love Today [23:00]

    “Dating is hard because it’s hard! Not because you’re broken or wrong or haven’t figured it out.”“We can’t have our grandparents' love story because the context is different.”“All of this noise is overwhelming out in the world. When you’re in the quiet space of therapy or coaching, you can finally start to see what’s yours and what is not yours.”“A couples love story belongs to them.”

    Our Original Love Classroom [34:00]

    “When we are little, we are observing and absorbing messages.”“The first type of message is observing the dynamics of the big people in the house.“Type 2 is relating to and becoming who the big people in the house need us to be.”“We’re in love with falling in love. When we get past that 6-12 month period and they start to show their baggage, your perception of that person starts to change.”“The more compassionate you are with yourself, the more compassionate you can be with your partner.”“That fear and shame that keeps us hiding is also the thing that keeps us from deep intimacy.”

    Not Being Chosen [46:00]

    “Not being chosen by someone is painful. You can hold the pain, or turn it against yourself. Be aware if the pain turns into shame.”“The most courageous thing we can do is not going to our typical response and just be with the feelings.”“You can let yourself be sad, but still care for yourself and recognize that it’s a wave. It will get smaller and smaller until it passes.”

    Connect with Dr. Solomon

    Podcast: Reimagining LoveBooks: Loving Bravely Taking Sexy BackCourses: courses.dralexandrasolomon.comSocial Media: @dr.alexandra.solomon

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  • Today we are joined by the incredible Connor Beaton. Connor is the founder of ManTalks, an international organization focused on men’s health, wellness, success, and fulfillment. In this episode, we talk about what men want, healthy masculinity, and ask some relationship questions. This episode is packed full of tips and information you don’t want to miss.

    Connor’s Why [5:00]

    “I wanted to support other men and create an environment where we could not have to hide certain aspects of ourselves but feel manly and masculine and develop more robust, mature versions of masculinity.” “After my rock bottom, I had somebody in my life who believed in me more than I believed in myself.”

    Vulnerability [12:00]

    “The one rule of men: You don’t talk about what it’s like to be a man, specifically a man who is suffering or struggling.”“When a man hasn’t experienced contained powerlessness, he will always abuse power.”“Men need to have a right relationship with power.”“They think about everything around them, but they don’t actually experience it.”“Shame loves to hide.”“It’s important to teach boys that it’s okay and safe to be vulnerable.”“To be courageous is to be vulnerable. To be vulnerable is to be courageous.”“I don’t compete with the people in my inner circle, I celebrate with them and share my biggest challenges.”

    Women Embracing the Masculine[24:00]

    “The narrative that ‘I don’t need you’ pushes men away. It takes away from his capacity to contribute.”“Look at where the narrative came from- who told you that you don’t men? Was it a social narrative, coming from a family member?”“Start communicating with a man how you want him to contribute.”“When a woman is vulnerable with a man, that is when you really meet the man. Is he able to stay grounded and respond in a vulnerable way?”

    Courage in Your Relationship [30:00]

    “Take the step and say, ‘I’m going to let the more feminine oriented parts of me come forward and be present. I am going to communicate those parts even though it feel vulnerable and scary.’”“If we don’t feel safe, we try and perfect our circumstances, which can come off as controlling in a relationship.”“Where we seek to have power, we are out of love. Leadership in a relationship is about helping to see where a relationship is going.”“Do you have agreements about how you’re going to operate in arguments?”

    Core Feminine Needs [39:00]

    “A core feminine need that is often not met by the masculine is being understood.”“When a woman says she’s hurt, the natural hard wired response is to protect. We move into a place where we want to solve your problem but we don’t know how because we don’t understand what you’re experiencing.”“Courage doesn’t happen in your mind, it happens in your heart and being in that experience with your partner.”

    Viewing The Unconscious Mind [45:00]

    “Most men live in their head and are detached from the emotional and intuitive body.”“There’s a bit of unconscious resentment that can come up in some men when they see a woman express real emotion. They feel like they don’t have the freedom to express emotionally.”“Actively create a place for a man to provide for you. Get really clear on that, ‘Here is what I crave from you.’”

    Get in touch with Connor

    Social media: @mantalkshttps://mantalks.comGrab his free resource https://training.mantalks.com/shadow-work-journal

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