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Most of us know how important things like self-care, self-compassion, and self-love are. But knowing and doing can sometimes be two different things. Lee Harrington not only talks about why these things are so vital but also teaches us HOW to do them. Lee walks us through forging the path to self-forgiveness, compassion, care, healthy boundary setting, and becoming our own beloved through self-courtship and deepening our most important relationship -- the one we’re in with ourselves. As a bonus for kinky folks, the tools Lee lays out can easily be adapted to your self-collaring journey too. And as a bonus for everyone, this process not only helps strengthen your relationship with yourself, it can help you become a better friend or partner to others too.
Lee Harrington Bio
Lee Harrington (he/they) is an internationally known spirituality, identity, relationships, and personal authenticity author and educator. He brings a combination of playful engagement and thoughtful academic dialogue to a broad audience, having taught classes, shared presentations, and delivered keynotes worldwide for over twenty years. An award-winning author and editor on gender, sexual, and sacred experience, his many books include “Sacred Kink: The Eightfold Paths of BDSM and Beyond,” “Shibari You Can Use: Japanese Rope Bondage and Erotic Macrame,” and “Traversing Gender: Understanding Transgender Journeys.” He has been blogging online since 1998 and has been teaching since 2001. You can check out Lee’s adventures, as well as his podcast, tour schedule, free essays, videos, and more, over at PassionAndSoul.com.
Episode 205 Helpful Links & ResourcesBecome Your Own Beloved: A Guide to Delighting in Self-Connection by Lee Harrington https://a.co/d/hk8Sw63
Lee Harrington Website http://www.PassionAndSoul.com
Lee Harrington Twitter http://twitter.com/PassionAndSoul
Lee Harrington YouTube http://www.youtube.com/user/passionandsoul
Lee Harrington Patreon http://www.Patreon.com/PassionAndSoul
Lee Harrington Instagram https://www.instagram.com/passionandsoul/
Lee Harrington Facebook http://www.facebook.com/pages/Lee-Harrington/62534792160
Lee Harrington Fetlife http://fetlife.com/users/24336/
Passion And Soul Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/passion-soul-podcast-by-lee/id840372122
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How do you live your authentic kink life when your needs don't match up with the BDSM community status quo? In part 1 (ep 203) Mollena Williams-Haas told us how returning to the leather community after parting ways sparked an unexpected journey of healing and growth. In this discussion, Mollena shares practical advice for digging past the stereotypical BDSM “supposed to’s” in order to identify your needs and honor them. D/s relationships are about making life better for both doms and subs -- but how exactly do we go about that? Mollena has some helpful answers …
Mollena Williams-Haas BioMollena is a writer, actress, BDSM Educator, Storyteller, sobriety fiend since March 2007, and Award-Winning Executive Pervert. Owned & collared by renowned contemporary composer Georg Friedrich Haas, she serves as his beloved slave, submissive, wife, servant, and Muse. February 2016 saw a groundbreaking piece about their relationship featured in the New York Times. They are also both the subject of the documentary The Artist and The Pervert.
As a two-time leather title holder and kink educator, Mollena's viewpoints on Kink-related issues are frequently sought after by sources like The New York Times, Newsweek, Essence, Ebony, etc. A frequent guest expert on Dan Savage’s “Savage Lovecast,” Tristan Taormino’s “Sex Out Loud”, and Margaret Cho’s “Monsters of Talk” podcast, she’s even spoken about Kink at Harvard, Yale, and Princeton. Mollena is also the co-author of the “Toybag Guide: Taboo Play” and “Playing Well With Others: Your Guide to Discovering, Exploring and Navigating the Kink, Leather and BDSM Communities”.
A professional stage performer since age 5, Mollena’s credits include The Wiz and co-starring with Danny Bonaduce in underground cult-classic America’s Deadliest Home Video. Her short film, IMPACT, won “Cinekink’s Best Experimental Film." Mollena’s latest performance piece and movie is Hyena, a collaboration with her husband. Mollena also appeared on Sex with Sunny Megatron on Showtime. Her latest endeavor is The Kink Doula. (Mollena's Full Bio: http://www.mollena.com/about/ )
Episode 204 Helpful Links & ResourcesPart 1 of this discussion, Episode 203 https://sunnymegatron.com/mollena-williams-haas-bdsm-leather-community/
All That and Mo, Podcast hosted by Mollena Lee Williams Haas https://allthatandmo.com/
Kink Doula https://kinkdoula.com/
Mollena Lee Williams Haas Website http://www.mollena.com/
Mollena Lee Williams Haas Facebook https://www.facebook.com/mollena
Mollena Lee Williams Haas Instagram https://www.instagram.com/mollena_lee_williams_haas/
Mollena Lee Williams Haas Twitter https://twitter.com/mollena
Mollena Lee Williams Haas Patreon https://www.patreon.com/MollenaLeeWilliamsHaas
Mollena on RISK! Episode 442 “Slave” https://soundcloud.com/riskshow/slave-by-mollena-williams-from-episode-442-slave
Hyena Teaser Trailer https://youtu.be/UrAJji7qdwk
The Artist and the Pervert Trailer https://youtu.be/ko_6bGeADGU
The Artist and the Pervert Documentary on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/Artist-Pervert-Georg-Friedrich-Haas/dp/B08NC5C1PK
The Restrict Act Bill S. 686 https://www.congress.gov/bill/118th-congress/senate-bill/686/text
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Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron
American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
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Today we are sharing a preview from one of our favorite podcasts that we think you’ll enjoy. On Sluts and Scholars, therapist and sexologist Nicoletta Heidegger talks with diverse professionals about all things pleasure and sexuality. In this preview, strap in for some strap on information with Sex and Pleasure Educator Luna Matatas. Nicoletta and Luna talk about pegging, anal play, and why it is so hard to just receive pleasure. Join these slutty scholars as they help to make your sex smarter, and your smarts sexier. Listen to Sluts and Scholars at https://www.slutsandscholars.com/ and follow them on Insta @slutsandscholars
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Today we’re sharing a preview of a new podcast we’re enjoying and we think you will too!
On this episode of the Cultivating H.E.R. Space podcast, Dr. Dom and Terri have a deep conversation about the truth of gaslighting, red flags, and manipulation. Maybe you’ve heard these terms recently, but do you really know what they mean? Accessing the language around these pieces of the cycles of abuse can help you create a toolkit that can help you identify them earlier in your relationships. Knowing these terms can also help you identify when you have been the initiator of potentially harmful behavior. Listen to this episode with your journal and a ton of grace and self-compassion. Terri and Dr. Dom clearly lay out the signs so that you can see them early and make decisions from a centered place. Listen to Cultivating H.E.R. Space at https://herspacepodcast.com/
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Mollena Williams-Haas, a.k.a. The Kink Doula, is back to serve up a slice of community healing. As a BDSM Leather community veteran and legend, Mollena understands the challenges of living your truth when it falls outside of the alt-sex status quo. In this convo, she shares how her rocky relationship with a community she once loved transformed into an unexpected journey of healing and growth. And, in true Mollena fashion, the insights she gleaned from this transformative, powerful experience are life lessons we can all benefit from, no matter our chosen community or family. This is part one of our two-episode extended conversation.
Mollena Williams-Haas BioMollena is an NYC-born and raised writer, actress, BDSM Educator, Storyteller, sobriety fiend since March 2007, and Award-Winning Executive Pervert. Owned and collared by renowned contemporary composer Georg Friedrich Haas since 2013, she serves as his beloved slave, submissive, wife, servant, and Muse. February 2016 saw a groundbreaking piece about their relationship featured in the New York Times.
Active in the Leather community since 1996 and teaching since 1998, Mollena's viewpoints on Kink-related issues are frequently sought after by sources like The New York Times, The Huffington Post, Newsweek, Essence, Ebony, etc. She is a frequent guest expert on Dan Savage’s “Savage Lovecast,” Tristan Taormino’s “Sex Out Loud”, and Margaret Cho’s “Monsters of Talk” podcast. She’s even spoken about Kink at Harvard, Yale, and Princeton.
Molena is also a leather titleholder– International Ms Leather 2010 and Ms. San Francisco Leather 2009. She’s the co-author of the “Toybag Guide: Taboo Play.” and “Playing Well With Others: Your Guide to Discovering, Exploring and Navigating the Kink, Leather and BDSM Communities”.
A professional stage performer since the age of 5, Mollena’s credits include singing on the soundtrack for The Wiz and co-starring with Danny Bonaduce in underground cult-classic America’s Deadliest Home Video. Her short film, IMPACT, won the “Cinekink’s Best Experimental Film" Award. Mollena’s latest performance piece is Hyena, a collaboration with her husband. They are also both the subject of the documentary The Artist and The Pervert. Mollena also appeared on Sex with Sunny Megatron on Showtime. Her latest endeavor is The Kink Doula.
Mollena's Full Bio: http://www.mollena.com/about/
Episode 203 Helpful Links & ResourcesAll That and Mo, Podcast hosted by Mollena Lee Williams Haas https://allthatandmo.com/
Kink Doula https://kinkdoula.com/
Mollena Lee Williams Haas Website http://www.mollena.com/
Mollena Lee Williams Haas Facebook https://www.facebook.com/mollena
Mollena Lee Williams Haas Instagram https://www.instagram.com/mollena_lee_williams_haas/
Mollena Lee Williams Haas Twitter https://twitter.com/mollena
Mollena Lee Williams Haas Patreon https://www.patreon.com/MollenaLeeWilliamsHaas
Mollena on RISK! Episode 442 “Slave” https://soundcloud.com/riskshow/slave-by-mollena-williams-from-episode-442-slave
Hyena Teaser Trailer https://youtu.be/UrAJji7qdwk
The Artist and the Pervert Trailer https://youtu.be/ko_6bGeADGU
The Artist and the Pervert Documentary on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/Artist-Pervert-Georg-Friedrich-Haas/dp/B08NC5C1PK
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Mike Stabile, who appeared in Netflix’s Moneyshot: The Pornhub Story joins us to talk about important details that didn’t make it into the documentary. Some of what we discuss:
The aftermath of the 2020 New York Times article that shook up the adult industry
How the far-reaching consequences affect us all
Who’s behind the Traffickinghub campaign, related anti-trafficking organizations & why
What Pornhub did wrong & did right
The role of adult performers in maintaining checks & balances in the industry
The ins & outs of data collection & site moderation on Pornhub
The recent surprise announcement that Pornhub was acquired by a company called Ethical Capital Partners
Guest Bio – Mike Stabile
Mike Stabile is an activist, journalist, and documentary filmmaker who has written about and advocated for the rights of sex workers and sexual speech for over a decade. His firm, Polari Media, has developed press and media strategies for some of the adult industry's most well-known brands. Mike currently serves as the Director of Public Affairs at Free Speech Coalition, the trade and advocacy group for the adult industry.
Episode 202 Helpful Links & Resources
Mike Stabile Twitter https://twitter.com/mikestabile
Free Speech Coalition https://www.freespeechcoalition.com/
FSC Twitter https://twitter.com/FSCArmy
MoneyShot: The Porn Hub Story on Netflix https://www.netflix.com/title/81406118
The Restrict Act Bill S. 686 https://www.congress.gov/bill/118th-congress/senate-bill/686/text
ResistBot https://resist.bot/petitions
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Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons joins us for a conversation about the ways racial inequity hurts the sex lives of BIPOC folks. Although many view sex as an escape from the stresses of real-world issues and a common experience we all share -- it’s not that simple. Orgasms are not the great equalizer. Political, cultural, and systemic societal forces have everything to do with the ways we experience pleasure. Some of what we unpack in this episode:
How the belief that only men who have money deserve sex impacts BIPOC communities The importance of distinguishing between pleasure worthiness & entitlement Why sex ed in schools & adult pleasure education are key Tips for navigating cultural pressures in relationships while prioritizing pleasure, boundaries & survival Why good sex can be an act of revolution & resistance How race, capitalism, and sex intersect in complex ways What we can do as allies & PoC to shift the culture, subvert systems & moreGuest Bio – Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons
Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons is an award-winning associate professor of counseling psychology at the University of Kentucky, where she studies sexual wellness and liberation. She is the host of F*ck the System: A Sexual Liberation Podcast and How to Love a Human, a liberation podcast that asks people with multiple marginalized identities what the world would be like if it loved them. She has published over 50 research articles and has been featured in the Huffington Post, the APA Monitor, Good Housekeeping, Women's Health, Blavity, Cosmopolitan, and the New York Times.
Episode 201 Helpful Links & Resources
Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons Website www.DrCandiceNicole.com Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons Instagram https://www.instagram.com/dr.candicenicole Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons Facebook https://www.facebook.com/drcandicenicole/ Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons Twitter https://twitter.com/drcandicenicole F*ck the System: A Sexual Liberation Podcast https://m.youtube.com/@dr.candicenicole FTS Podcast on TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@fts_podcast How to Love A Human Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-love-a-human/id1198383806 Women Of Color Sexual Health Network https://www.wocshn.org/ Sex Positive Families https://www.instagram.com/sexpositive_families Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansexEpisode 201 Sponsor & Affiliate Discount Codes/Links
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Veronika Kestrel joins us for a conversation about creating safe & inclusive kink spaces for everyone across the gender spectrum. Despite the BDSM subculture's roots in the queer community & emphasis on inclusivity, many communities remain steeped in heteronormativity, leading to the fetishization and othering of gender non-conforming and trans people. Some of what we touch on:
Why gender bias exists in kink The commodification & politicization of GNC & trans kinksters Tips for vetting communities & individuals The responsibilities of allies & accomplices Issues with sissy play & cuckolding Commonalities between marginalized groups in BDSM & moreGuest Bio – Veronika Kestrel
Veronika Kestrel (She/Her) is a Professional Dominatrix and kink lifestyle educator affiliated with the Los Angeles Sanctuary. A 15-year veteran of the kink lifestyle, she began her kink journey in the Denver community and relocated to Southern California in 2018, where she helped facilitate trans-focused events in the Orange County scene. Since then, she has conducted clinics for the LA Sanctuary, CancerPhase Productions, and at numerous private venues. She was a panelist at DomCon 2022, and has appeared on "Your Kinky Friends", "Pink Kink Podcast", and, of course, "American Sex Podcast"! She prides herself in her efforts to make Kink a friendlier, more ethical, and inclusive community in any way she can. She can be often found helping facilitate newbie-focused events in her local community and hosting the Kestrel Industries Monthly Doll Play munch in Anaheim, CA.
Episode 200 Helpful Links & Resources
Veronika Kestrel Tiktok http://tiktok.com/@switchvero Veronika Kestrel OnlyFans https://onlyfans.com/vkestrel Veronika Kestrel Instagram https://www.instagram.com/veronikakestrel/ Veronika Kestrel Twitter https://twitter.com/VeronikaKestrel Veronika Kestrel FetLife https://fetlife.com/users/13001382 Ep 176 Dollification with Veronika Kestrel https://sunnymegatron.com/dollification-doll-play-kink/ The Dom/sub Virtual Summit on demand VIP Package $99 http://bit.ly.sunnydssummit 94 Nonbinary BDSM Titles & Honorifics https://zippermagazine.com/non-binary-bdsm-names-dom-sub/ Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansexEpisode 200 Sponsor & Affiliate Discount Codes/Links
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Adult grooming is often misunderstood -- from what it looks like, to who is most vulnerable, what types of people groom, and why -- most assume it can’t happen to them. The fact is, grooming comes in many forms and can happen in any type of relationship - including BDSM dynamics. And because kink often involves power imbalances, it can be especially difficult to recognize in this context.
Whether you're new to kink or a seasoned veteran, episode 199 of American Sex will give you the tools to spot unhealthy power dynamics in BDSM and deconstruct preconceived notions of what manipulative abuse looks like, who can do it, and why. You'll also learn:
How the 6 stages of grooming apply to D/s dynamics How to recognize coercive abuse in BDSM relationships How pop culture kink stereotypes fuel grooming within BDSM The reasons groomers manipulate & who they are How my breakable rules analysis can help you spot unhealthy kink & morep.s. Don‘t forget to grab your FREE ticket to the Dom/sub Virtual Summit 2/20-24 where I'll be teaching my "No B.S. Approach to Consent & Safe Words." http://bit.ly.sunnydssummit
Guest Bio – Sunny Megatron
Sunny Megatron is an award-winning Sexologist, BDSM & Certified Sexuality Educator, and media personality. She’s the host & executive producer of the Showtime original series, Sex with Sunny Megatron, co-hosts AASECT Award-winning American Sex Podcast and Open Deeply Podcast, and was 2021's XBIZ Sexpert of the Year. Currently, she’s the Editor-in-Chief of kink-focused Zipper Magazine.
Known for her one-of-a-kind, build-your-own-adventure approach to sex, kink & relationships, Sunny coined the BDSM community catchphrase, Kink is Customizable™. In her sell-out workshops, her unique brand of “edutainment” seamlessly combines her humorous teaching style, interactive exercises, and the latest sexuality research. Sunny’s passion is helping others overcome shame and find their power through play and pleasure. Currently, she’s working on her first book, “Customizable Kink: A Strategic Guide to Adult Play.”
Episode 199 Helpful Links & Resources
Sunny Megatron website https://sunnymegatron.com/
Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron?
Sunny Megatron Twitter https://twitter.com/sunnymegatron
Sunny Megatron Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sunnymegatron/
The Dom/sub Virtual Summit 2/20-24 http://bit.ly.sunnydssummit
Everything You Need to Know About Safewords by Sunny Megatron https://zippermagazine.com/everything-you-need-to-know-about-safewords/
What's the Difference Between a Tradwife & Domestic Service Submissive? https://zippermagazine.com/tradwife-vs-domestic-service-sub/
BDSM Test American Sex Podcast episode https://sunnymegatron.com/the-bdsm-test/
193 - Safewords episode part 1 https://sunnymegatron.com/safewords-consent-kink-is-customizable/
194 - Safewords episode part 2 https://sunnymegatron.com/kink-nuance-podcast/
Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Library http://bit.ly/kinkacademy
Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb
How to Tell if Your BDSM Relationship is Abusive https://www.vice.com/en/article/panjbz/how-to-tell-if-your-bdsm-relationship-is-abusive
The 6 stages of grooming https://www.skillsplatform.org/blog/6-stages-of-grooming-adults-and-teens-spotting-the-red-flags/
Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron
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Here’s the quickie bonus episode link you’re looking for! http://bit.ly/sunnydssummit
Want a recap? Read on …
The Dom/sub Dynamic Virtual Summit was designed to help you improve your D/s relationship & navigate the BDSM lifestyle. The Summit features 5 jam-packed days of classes from 15+ educators covering topics ranging from confidence in the bedroom to dealing with chronic illness, and everything in between.
Get your free ticket to The D/s Dynamics Virtual Summit here: http://bit.ly/sunnydssummit
You also have options! Attend each day during the scheduled stream with the speaker or watch the replay any time you’d like within 24 hours. You also get access to the private virtual group to talk with other attendees plus you'll get a few more free perks too.
The All-Access-Pass purchase grants attendees lifetime access to the classes/materials plus a bunch of additional free education from the instructors like worksheets, passes to their paid digital classes, etc (I’m surprised at how much stuff is offered, TBH -- and I’m not easily impressed, lol!).
Thanks & hope to see you there!
p.s. Keep an eye on my socials for my All-Access-Pass giveaway too!
And here’s the link to my @SunnyMegatron social media posts about the D/s Dynamics Virtual Summit if you'd like to share or read what others have to say: TikTok, Instagram, Twitter, Facebook
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Midori joins us to discuss Japanese BDSM & why recognizing fundamental differences in various cultures around the world is the key to understanding the how & why behind kink.
We talk about differences in consent & safety, how differing social norms & hierarchies influence our collective play styles, and how these insights can enhance our own relationships.
Most of us aren’t great at recognizing our way isn’t the only way. But even if you plan on never venturing outside your local BDSM community, a global perspective can broaden your understanding of the psychology behind what we all do, no matter where we do it.
Guest Bio – Midori
“Your Fairy God-Auntie of Kink. Exploding Expectations. Challenging Conventions.”
Trailblazing educator, sexologist, artist, and irritant to banality, Midori founded Rope Dojo and ForteFemme: Women’s Dominance Intensive. She penned the first English instruction book on Shibari, “Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage” in 2001, paving the way for the popularity of rope. Dan Savage calls her the “Super Nova of Kink,” while others affectionately call her Auntie Midori for her cool, tell-it-like-it-is, funny, reality-based teaching. She is also the author of “Wild Side Sex,” “Master Han’s Daughter,” and “Silk Threads.”
Education, Coaching, Private Learning & Art: https://planetmidori.com. Special membership perks! Learn, laugh, and enjoy her special online classes, events, and art at www.patreon.com/PlanetMidori where she is working on her next shibari book!
Episode 198 Helpful Links & Resources
Midori Twitter https://twitter.com/PlanetMidori Midori Instagram https://www.instagram.com/planetmidori/ Midori Newsletter https://www.fhp-inc.com/newsletter Midori class/event calendar http://www.FHP-Inc.com/classes Midori’s Patreon https://www.patreon.com/PlanetMidori/ What's the Difference Between a Tradwife & Domestic Service Submissive? https://zippermagazine.com/tradwife-vs-domestic-service-sub/ Dear Gen Z Tradwives: Have You Considered Kink Instead? https://zippermagazine.com/gen-z-tradwives-have-you-considered-kink/ Caning Fetish & the Surprising Reason Behind Its Popularity https://zippermagazine.com/caning-fetish-popularity-miss-ruby-marks/ Everything You Ever Wanted To Know About Santa Fetish https://zippermagazine.com/what-is-santa-fetish/ 20 Christmas Roleplay Ideas https://zippermagazine.com/christmas-kink-scene-role-play-ideas/ Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Library http://bit.ly/kinkacademy Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb Zipper Magazine Instagram https://www.instagram.com/zippermagdotcom/ Zipper Magazine Twitter https://twitter.com/ZipperMagDotcom Zipper Magazine Facebook https://www.facebook.com/Zipper-Magazine-113123824749292 Zipper Magazine Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxFDRtDhukxyQ_9t-Xfo2-w Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Library http://bit.ly/kinkacademyEpisode 198 Sponsor & Affiliate Discount Codes/Links
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Fact: The BDSM world has a race problem. Queer, Black, kink educator, Phrygian Monk joins us to talk about it. This conversation stemmed from one of their no-nuance November observations: “Kinktok is heavily segregated and pretty racist – like 1950s level.” They bring all the nuance and then some. We discuss why it’s essential for everyone to consider how different forms of play relate to POC kinksters, why we should take a pause before condemning all forms of race play, why many kinksters of color never feel fully safe playing with white folks, what those in the community can do to foster genuine inclusivity and be actively anti-racist, and more.
Guest Bio – Phrygian Monk
Phrygian Monk (They/Them) is a BDSM presenter and educator who is bringing diversity and a new outlook to kink education. With a 5-plus year background engaging in the kink and leather communities, Monk has decided to take the education that they have received, and pass that on to their fellow peers. With classes in subjects such as vetting, negotiation, and various forms of play, Monk hopes to connect with fellow younger kinksters and provide a space for peer learning and education. Also an activist in the kinky world, Monk uses their experiences and knowledge as a black queer individual to share about and fight for a more inclusive and safer community for all people. Having hosted and participated in various talks, discussion groups, and panels on the subject of race, racism, and how they impact the kink community, Monk hopes to see change, growth, and diversity flourish in local communities and individuals as they introspect, grow, and become active participants in fighting for a community that is for everyone.
Episode 197 Helpful Links & Resources
Phrygian Monk TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@phrygian_monk No Nut November https://zippermagazine.com/whats-the-fuss-about-no-nut-november/ Race & Kink Series with Marla Renee Stewart & Luna Matatas https://www.eventbrite.com/e/race-kink-a-discussion-series-tickets-244730093297 Loladex, Dirty Lola’s list of marginalized pleasure educators https://twitter.com/i/lists/1028473897627385856 Challenge at the Intersection of Race and Kink: Racial Discrimination, Fetishization, and Inclusivity Within the BDSM (Bondage‑Discipline, Dominance‑Submission, and Sadism‑Masochism) Community https://www.dropbox.com/s/hj0yzhzcv401eue/Erickson%2C%20Slayton%2C%20Petersen%2C%20Hyams%2C%20Howard%2C%20Sharp%2C%20%26%20Sagarin%20%282022%29%20Challenge%20at%20the%20Intersection%20of%20Race%20and%20Kink.pdf?dl=0 Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Library http://bit.ly/kinkacademy Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb Zipper Magazine website https://zippermagazine.com/ Zipper Magazine Instagram https://www.instagram.com/zippermagdotcom/ Zipper Magazine Twitter https://twitter.com/ZipperMagDotcom Zipper Magazine Facebook https://www.facebook.com/Zipper-Magazine-113123824749292 Zipper Magazine Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxFDRtDhukxyQ_9t-Xfo2-w Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Library http://bit.ly/kinkacademyEpisode 197 Sponsor & Affiliate Discount Codes/Links
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Having difficult conversations with one partner is hard enough. When consensual non-monogamy is part of the equation it can feel overwhelming. In this episode, therapist Kate Loree gives insight and actionable strategies for working through uncomfortable emotions in polyamory/CNM like jealousy, envy, insecurity, and feeling disempowered. She also provides valuable tips on identifying & managing triggers with our partners and metamours. Some of what we touch on:
Attachment injury Triggers Grounding techniques Getting into your “resilient zone” The EPIC communication modelGuest Bio – Kate Loree, LMFT
Kate Loree, LMFT, is a sex-positive licensed marriage and family therapist with a specialty in non-monogamous, kink, LGBTQ, and sex worker communities.
In addition to her master’s in marriage and family therapy, she also has an MBA and is a registered art therapist (ATR). She is an EDSE-certified sex educator and an EMDR-certified therapist with additional training in the Trauma Resiliency Model (TRM) for the treatment of trauma. She has been practicing psychotherapy since 2003.
Kate is the author of Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships (release date 4/19/22) and cohosts the sex-positive podcast of the same name, Open Deeply, with Sunny Megatron. She’s been featured in Buzzfeed videos, and has guested on Playboy Radio and many podcasts, including American Sex, Sluts and Scholars, and Sex Nerd Sandra. She’s written for Good Vibrations, Hollywood Magazine and is a frequent public speaker.
Episode 196 Helpful Links & Resources
Kate Loree Website: http://kateloree.com Kate Loree Facebook http://facebook.com/kateloreelmft Kate Loree Twitter http://twitter.com/kateloreelmft Kate Loree Instagram http://instagram.com/opendeeplywithkateloree Kate Loree YouTube https://www.youtube.com/kateloree Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships book https://www.amazon.com/dp/164742335X/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_dp_ZHACQ8RJHMR2R9HGHBMY Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com Ken Melvoin-Berg's Thunderpants Academy Gaming Page https://www.facebook.com/ThunderpantsAcademy Ken Melvoin-Berg's Twitter https://twitter.com/ThunderpantsDM Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb Zipper Magazine website https://zippermagazine.com/ Zipper Magazine Instagram https://www.instagram.com/zippermagdotcom/ Zipper Magazine Twitter https://twitter.com/ZipperMagDotcom Zipper Magazine Facebook https://www.facebook.com/Zipper-Magazine-113123824749292 Zipper Magazine Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxFDRtDhukxyQ_9t-Xfo2-w Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Library http://bit.ly/kinkacademyEpisode 196 Sponsor & Affiliate Discount Codes/Links
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Asexuality and kink?! Isn’t that a contradiction?! Nope! Asexual BDSM is quite common. In fact, a significant segment of the kink subculture is on the ‘ace’ spectrum. On ep 195, Evie Lupine joins to talk about it. A few of the things we discuss:
Asexuality vs. Responsive Desire & how to tell the difference How someone can be asexual but still have & enjoy sex Why the kink community appeals to many aces What IS sex? Do we have the definition all wrong? The relationship between sex & BDSM + why some allosexuals prefer “platonic kink” How asexuality factors into the “Kink at Pride” discourse & moreAre there asexual folks in your community or life that you’d like to understand better? Maybe you’ve considered this identity for yourself? Does it blow your mind that many ace identified people practice kink & enjoy sex? We cover a lot in this episode that will help you answer those questions!
Evie Lupine Bio
Evie Lupine is an asexual kink educator and YouTuber that first began her journey into the lifestyle about 7 years ago. In that time, she's been a 24/7 collared submissive, a petplayer, a bondage freak, and an occasional sadist. Her passion for learning as well as her diverse interests within kink naturally led her in the direction of helping others with their own discovery processes. She focuses on supporting folks developing happier, healthier relationships while separating the fantasy from the reality of doing BDSM everyday.
Episode 195 Helpful Links & Resources
Evie Lupine YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/EvieLupine Evie Lupine Twitter https://twitter.com/EvieLupine Evie Lupine Patreon https://www.patreon.com/EvieLupine AVEN Forum (Asexual Visibility & Education Network) https://www.asexuality.org/en/ Emily Nagoski Come As You Are (book) https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Come-As-You-Are-Revised-and-Updated/Emily-Nagoski/9781982165314 Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb com https://zippermagazine.com/ Zipper Magazine Instagram https://www.instagram.com/zippermagdotcom/ Zipper Magazine Twitter https://twitter.com/ZipperMagDotcom Zipper Magazine Facebook https://www.facebook.com/Zipper-Magazine-113123824749292 Zipper Magazine Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxFDRtDhukxyQ_9t-Xfo2-w Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Library http://bit.ly/kinkacademyEpisode 195 Sponsor & Affiliate Discount Codes/Links
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In episode 194 of American Sex Podcast, Sunny Megatron continues her deep dive into the murky, messy, nuances of kink. She examines some of the most popular kink “rules” pertaining to consent & safewords and the grey areas that cause community friction:
“Never renegotiate during a scene” “When there’s a problem someone will use their safeword” “Never do heavy impact without a warm-up” “Safewords can be abused” “Safewords are for sex and BDSM”This episode will help you diversify what’s in your consent toolbox, assess risks in intimate situations, evaluate exceptions to BDSM rules, differentiate personal preferences from useful & inclusive best practices, and more.
Sunny Megatron Bio
Sunny Megatron is an award-winning BDSM & Certified Sexuality Educator, Certified Relationship Coach, and media personality. She’s the host and executive producer of the Showtime original television series, SEX with Sunny Megatron, plus co-hosts AASECT Award-winning American Sex Podcast and Open Deeply Podcast. Sunny was also named XBIZ Sexpert of the Year 2021 and is Editor-in-Chief of kink-focused Zipper Magazine.
Known for her one-of-a-kind build-your-own-adventure approach to sex, kink & relationships, Sunny coined the BDSM community catchphrase, Kink is Customizable™. In her sell-out workshops, her unique brand of “edutainment” seamlessly combines her humorous lecturing style, interactive exercises, and the latest sexuality research. Sunny’s passion is helping others overcome shame and find power through play and pleasure. Currently, she’s working on her first book, “Customizable Kink: A Strategic Guide to Adult Play.”
Episode 194 Helpful Links & Resources
The History of SSC (Safe, Sane & Consensual) vs. RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink) https://historyofthedominatrix.com/blogs/blog/the-history-bdsm-consent-ssc-vs-rack Putting SSC in perspective TikTok Video https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron/video/7147630034147233066 Why do many consider SSC harmful and outdated? https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron/video/7016472196205956357 Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb Everything You Need to Know About Safewords by Sunny Megatron https://zippermagazine.com/everything-you-need-to-know-about-safewords/ ZipperMagazine.com https://zippermagazine.com/ Zipper Magazine Instagram https://www.instagram.com/zippermagdotcom/ Zipper Magazine Twitter https://twitter.com/ZipperMagDotcom Zipper Magazine Facebook https://www.facebook.com/Zipper-Magazine-113123824749292 Zipper Magazine Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxFDRtDhukxyQ_9t-Xfo2-w Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron Ken’s charity DnD game Mondays 4pm-7pm PT https://www.twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Library http://bit.ly/kinkacademyEpisode 194 Sponsor & Affiliate Discount Codes/Links
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Safe words aren't as deep & complicated as we make them out to be. They aren’t necessarily as simple as we think either. In kink & sex, safe words are simple communication tools that stop the action & trigger a predetermined protocol. What they mean, how they're used & what you do after is up to you. How do you decide that? Episode 193 of American Sex Podcast will help you figure it out.
This convo was inspired by a listener suggestion to unpack some of the fiercest kink community debates about consent, how BDSM *should* be done, and the customizability of kink. Sunny Megatron explores ways you can evaluate BDSM rules and decide if, when, and how much to customize them to fit your own needs. She does this entirely through the lens of safe words and consent. This is also the first show back from summer hiatus and in the intro, Sunny announces some big changes for the future of both American Sex and their family.
Episode 193 Links
Everything You Need to Know About Safewords by Sunny Megatron https://zippermagazine.com/everything-you-need-to-know-about-safewords/ Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb ZipperMagazine.com https://zippermagazine.com/ Zipper Magazine Instagram https://www.instagram.com/zippermagdotcom/ Zipper Magazine Twitter https://twitter.com/ZipperMagDotcom Zipper Magazine Facebook https://www.facebook.com/Zipper-Magazine-113123824749292 Zipper Magazine Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxFDRtDhukxyQ_9t-Xfo2-w Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron Ken’s charity DnD game Mondays 4pm-7pm PT https://www.twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Library http://bit.ly/kinkacademyEpisode 193 Sponsor & Affiliate Discount Codes/Links
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For 40% off unlimited access to Calm’s entire library go to http://CALM.COM/Sunny 30-day free trial of Dipsea Stories when you use code SUNNY at http://dipseastories.com/sunny 20% off an at-home lab test at http://everlywell.com/sunny Hot & Healthy Erotic Humiliation recorded class https://gum.co/humiliationclass Prostate Play for Beginners (recorded class) from Sugar Baltimore https://www.sugartheshop.com/prostate-milking-for-beginners.html Sunny & Ken’s classes on Kink Academy http://bit.ly/kinkacademyelectric & http://bit.ly/kinkacademyhumiliation 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more) http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts 10% off your order at Lovehoney when you use this link http://bit.ly/lovehoney15 This link can be a little wonky and does not keep tracking cookies. If the discount does not show up in your cart (or disappears after you shop around on the site), access the site with that link again. Your items will still be in your cart & the discount will appear) 15% off everything at Lelo.com with code SUNNY 10% off everything (with minor restrictions) online from woman-owned, feminist, trans & queer-friendly Early To Bed http://bit.ly/sunnyetb with code SUNNY 10% off everything from Fun Factory using this link http://bit.ly/sunnyfunfactory and the code SUNNY at checkout 15% off most items from Stockroom https://bit.ly/sunnystockroom15 with code SUNNY_______________________________________________________________
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“The BDSM Test” is infamous in the kink community and beyond. Since 2014, thousands have proudly posted results like a badge of honor on FetLife profiles. We use it as a roadmap, educational tool, and kink negotiation starter. It’s even gone vanilla as the focus of social media challenges and pop magazine writeups.
But is this kink subculture phenomenon all it's cracked up to be? While some find it helpful & validating, many say it’s othering, stigmatizing, and normalizes red-flag behavior disguised as “kink.”
Midori & kinky therapist Joe Zarate-Sanderlin join us on ep 192 to deconstruct the BDSM test question by question + explore its wider impact. Why don't we scrutinize it the same way vet other educational sources? Who wrote this kink test, why, and what are they using the massive amount of data they’re collecting about our deviant desires for? Turns out, it’s a bit of a mystery…
Midori Bio
“Your Fairy God-Auntie of Kink. Exploding Expectations. Challenging Conventions.”
Trailblazing educator, sexologist, artist, and irritant to banality, Midori founded Rope Dojo and ForteFemme: Women’s Dominance Intensive. She penned the first English instruction book on Shibari, “Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage” in 2001, paving the way for the popularity of rope. Dan Savage calls her the “Super Nova of Kink,” while others affectionately call her Auntie Midori for her cool, tell-it-like-it-is, funny, reality-based teaching. She is also the author of “Wild Side Sex,” “Master Han’s Daughter,” and “Silk Threads.”
Education, Coaching, Private Learning & Art: https://planetmidori.com. Special membership perks! Learn, laugh, and enjoy her special online classes, events, and art at www.patreon.com/PlanetMidori where she is working on her next shibari book!
Joe Zarate-Sanderlin Bio
"Joe Zarate-Sanderlin, an Assigned Male at Birth non-binary person (pronouns: they/them/theirs), came of age in the New York City kink scene in the late 1990s and early 2000s and they have connections in the Boston and San Francisco kink communities. They are a California Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a private practice in San Francisco where they specialize in working with gender, sexuality, and relationship diversity. They teach several courses at Golden Gate University and were recognized as an Outstanding Adjunct Professor for 2022. They provide training and consultation regarding Talking to Clients about Sex, Gender in Psychotherapy, Open Relationships, BDSM Relationships, and other topics. In addition to private practice, their clinical experience includes being supervised by Dossie Easton for two and half years plus volunteering at a Catholic school for three years, a continuation high school for one year, and at a low-fee clinic for four years. They worked for the Burning Man Emergency Services Department for ten years, both in the Nevada desert and in the streets of San Francisco. In their spare time, they ski, coach and referee soccer, brew kombucha, dance to 80s music, and parent elementary-aged old twins."
Episode 192 Links
Midori Twitter https://twitter.com/PlanetMidori Midori Instagram https://www.instagram.com/planetmidori/ Midori Newsletter https://www.fhp-inc.com/newsletter Midori class/event calendar http://www.FHP-Inc.com/classes Midori’s Patreon https://www.patreon.com/PlanetMidori/ Joe Zarate-Sanderlin Twitter https://twitter.com/jzsmft Joe Zarate-Sanderlin Website http://www.jzsmft.com/ Joe Zarate-Sanderlin Email: [email protected] Joe Zarate-Sanderlin GGU Presents: Empathic Communication https://tinyurl.com/GGU-Empathy Joe Zarate-Sanderlin Gender Inclusive Language https://tinyurl.com/GGU-Gender Joe Zarate-Sanderlin Rebel Therapist: Express Yourself https://rebeltherapist.me/podcast/93 The BDSM Test http://BDSMTest.org @FocusedOnInfinity “Welcome to America” https://www.tiktok.com/@focusedoninfinity/video/7113012283181190442?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc&web_id=6901962179530294789 @MargaretCho “Don’t Be Scared” https://www.tiktok.com/@themargaretcho/video/7112909096608730410?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc&web_id=6901962179530294789 TASHRA -THE ALTERNATIVE SEXUALITIES HEALTH RESEARCH ALLIANCE https://www.tashra.org/ CARAS - The Community-Academic Consortium for Research on Alternative Sexualities https://www.carasresearch.org/ Sexual Health Alliance Kink Informed Certification Program for Therapists & Care Professionals https://sexualhealthalliance.com/kink-informed-certification-program Romancing the Shadow: Challenging Limiting Beliefs Through Kink- Midori https://zippermagazine.com/challenginglimiting-beliefs-through-kink/Additional Links
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Kink & BDSM stigma is alive and well in the mainstream, in our own communities, and even in professional/academic spheres. In episode 191 of American Sex Podcast, Sunny Megatron busts some of the most common kink myths + provides clinical & academic resources for therapists, academics, and skeptical naysayers. She deconstructs the following kink & BDSM myths:
Kink is always sexual and platonic kink does not exist Kink is considered abnormal by psychologists & the scientific community There's a dramatic difference between academic/clinical understanding of kink (that's always more accurate) and BDSM community education Dark age play aka sexual littles' play is abusive and reenacting pedophilia Kink practitioners engage in unhealthy self-harm by proxy and/or glorify abuse Kinks are caused by unresolved trauma … and more!Sunny Megatron Bio
Sunny Megatron is an award-winning BDSM & Certified Sexuality Educator, Certified Relationship Coach, and media personality. She’s the host and executive producer of the Showtime original television series, SEX with Sunny Megatron, plus co-hosts AASECT Award-winning American Sex Podcast and Open Deeply Podcast. Sunny was also named XBIZ Sexpert of the Year 2021 and is Editor-in-Chief of Zipper Magazine.
Known for her one-of-a-kind build-your-own-adventure approach to sex, kink & relationships, Sunny coined the BDSM community catch-phrase, Kink is Customizable™. In her sell-out workshops, her unique brand of “edutainment” seamlessly combines her humorous lecturing style, interactive exercises, and the latest sexuality research. Sunny’s passion is helping others overcome shame and find power through play and pleasure. Currently, she’s working on her first book, “Customizable Kink: A Strategic Guide to Adult Play.”
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Sunny Megatron website https://sunnymegatron.com/ Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron? Sunny Megatron Twitter https://twitter.com/sunnymegatron Sunny Megatron Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sunnymegatron/ ZipperMagazine.com https://zippermagazine.com/ Science of BDSM Research Team https://www.scienceofbdsm.com/ Tell Me What You Want Dr. Justin Lehmiller https://read.amazon.com/kp/embed?asin=B0776PYDNM&preview=newtab&linkCode=kpe&ref_=cm_sw_r_kb_dp_WFW3MV22QFGNPEMR6T4F Sex and Psychology Podcast https://www.sexandpsychology.com/podcasts/ Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality (SSSS) https://www.sexscience.org/ TASHRA -THE ALTERNATIVE SEXUALITIES HEALTH RESEARCH ALLIANCE https://www.tashra.org/ CARAS - The Community-Academic Consortium for Research on Alternative Sexualities https://www.carasresearch.org/ AASECT - The American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists https://www.aasect.org/ Sexual Health Alliance Kink Informed Certification Program for Therapists & Care Professionals https://sexualhealthalliance.com/kink-informed-certification-program Why Good Sex Matters Book by Nan Wise, PhD https://www.amazon.com/dp/1328451305/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_dp_x_tPnCFb0FAF4R5 Hurts So Good: The Science and Culture of Pain on Purpose, Leigh Cowart https://read.amazon.com/kp/embed?asin=B08RYPSNVB&preview=newtab&linkCode=kpe&ref_=cm_sw_r_kb_dp_CG15B6Z43TYVFCDDPA3V Play: How it Shapes the Brain, Opens the Imagination, and Invigorates the Soul, by Stewart Brown, M.D. & Christopher Vaughan https://read.amazon.com/kp/embed?asin=B001SCK720&preview=newtab&linkCode=kpe&ref_=cm_sw_r_kb_dp_VCMYS78KPC9ENVJTX9K7 The Erotic Mind: Unlocking the Inner Sources of Passion and Fulfillment, Jack Morin Ph.D. https://read.amazon.com/kp/embed?asin=B009YJYEKK&preview=newtab&linkCode=kpe&ref_=cm_sw_r_kb_dp_FMT1SPK6QAABA7EYYKGX Woodhull Sexual Freedom Foundation 2018 Research, Littles: Affects and Aesthetics in Sexual Age-Play (“Download” unlocks the free PDF) https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s12119-018-09580-5 Why You Need BDSM's "Prime Directive" By Mollena Williams-Haas https://zippermagazine.com/why-you-need-bdsms-prime-directive/ Romancing the Shadow: Challenging Limiting Beliefs Through Kink- Midori https://zippermagazine.com/challenginglimiting-beliefs-through-kink/Prior Related Episodes
Therapeutic Kink With Andrea Glik – Ep 189 https://Sunnymegatron.Com/Therapeutic-Kink Attachment Styles With Aida Manduley – Ep 130 https://Sunnymegatron.Com/Attachement-Styles-Aida-Manduley/ The Science Of Sexual Fantasy With Dr. Justin Lehmiller – Ep 74 https://Sunnymegatron.Com/Justin-Lehmiller-Sexual-Fantasy-Podcast/ Kink Informed Therapists & Care Professionals W/ Midori – Ep 165 https://Sunnymegatron.Com/Kink-Certification-Midori/ Geek Therapy With Nicki Line – Ep 155 Https://Sunnymegatron.Com/Geek-Therapy/ Sex, Kink & Trauma W/ Jamila M. Dawson August Mclaughlin - Ep 173 Https://Sunnymegatron.Com/Sex-Bdsm-Trauma/ Decriminalizing BDSM W/NCSF, National Coalition For Sexual Freedom – Ep 185 Https://Sunnymegatron.Com/Explicit-Prior-Permission-Ncsf-Podcast/ Rethinking Kink With Kate Loree & Sunny Megatron – Ep 184 Https://Sunnymegatron.Com/Rethink-Kink-Podcast/ BDSM Community Real Talk w/ Sunny Megatron & Kate Loree – Ep 188 Https://Sunnymegatron.Com/Bdsm-Community-Influence/ Kink Education Freestyle w/ Sunny Megatron – Ep 172 Https://Sunnymegatron.Com/Bdsm-Education-Sunny-Megatron-Podcast/ Kink Education Freestyle Part 2 w/Sunny Megatron – Ep 180 Https://Sunnymegatron.Com/Kink-Education-Sunny-Megatron-Podcast/Additional Links
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Many of us go through periods in our lives when we’re not happy with the amount of sex we do or don't want. In Ep 190 of American Sex Podcast, Cyndi Darnell gives tips for changing our relationship to pleasure and navigating intimacy when one partner is perpetually ‘not in the mood.’ Some of the things we touch on:
Mismatched Libido Responsive vs spontaneous desire Arousal vs libido vs desire vs attraction How gender & orientation factor in Reasons people have desire changes & discrepancy Common myths about desire & arousal that keep us stuck How to talk to partners & work together to find common groundSunny also makes an exciting announcement about the new, kink-focused digital publication, Zipper Magazine!
Cyndi Darnell Bio
Cyndi Darnell (she/her) is a clinical and somatic sexologist and author of Sex When You Don’t Feel Like It The Truth About Mismatched Libido & Rediscovering Desire (Rowman & Littlefield). Originally from Australia, she’s now based in New York City where she runs a global consulting practice to clients worldwide. A psychotherapist by training, Cyndi currently supports individuals, couples and polycules navigating relationships and sexual difficulties, plus professional mentorship and case consultations to clinicians and sexologists worldwide seeking to deepen their understanding of the links between psychotherapy, sexology, relationships work and somatic practice. She's a Clinical Associate of Pink Therapy UK & Board Affiliate for University of Wisconsin STOUT Sex Therapy Certification program.
Her podcast The Erotic Philosopher brings guests of diverse backgrounds together to explore issues affecting modern sex and relationships. Her numerous academic works are published in Journal of Sexual & Relationship Therapy and Journal of Sex Education among others. Her expert opinion is frequently sought by media outlets worldwide.
Episode 190 Links
Cyndi Darnell Website www.cyndidarnell.com Cyndi Darnell Twitter https://twitter.com/cyndi_darnell Cyndi Darnell TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@cyndi_darnell Cyndi Darnell Facebook https://www.facebook.com/cyndidarnellpage Sex When You Don't Feel Like It: The Truth about Mismatched Libido and Rediscovering Desire https://www.amazon.com/When-Dont-Feel-Like-Rediscovering/dp/1538161702 Zipper Magazine Launch 6/8/22 https://zippermagazine.com/ Zipper Magazine Instagram https://www.instagram.com/zippermagdotcom/ Zipper Magazine Twitter https://twitter.com/ZipperMagDotcom Zipper Magazine Facebook https://www.facebook.com/Zipper-Magazine-113123824749292 Zipper Magazine Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxFDRtDhukxyQ_9t-Xfo2-w Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron Ken’s charity DnD game Mondays 4pm-7pm PT https://www.twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Library http://bit.ly/kinkacademy Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwbEpisode 190 Sponsor & Affiliate Discount Codes/Links
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Kink isn’t a replacement for therapy, but it can be therapeutic. On Ep 189 Andrea Glik, LMSW explains the impact of trauma on our nervous system, depression as a survival response, the stress response cycle, the difference between glimmers and triggers, how BDSM can be used to heal trauma for both doms and subs, how she integrates clients BDSM experiences into therapy, plus how healing can manifest through CNC, little space, subspace, aftercare, and more. Even if you're not a kinkster, this episode will help you discover how trauma & shame affect your s3xual identity. Also a must-listen for mental health providers and those struggling to get their therapists to understand the importance of kink in their lives.
Andrea Glik BioAndrea Glik, LMSW is a psychotherapist, somatic healer, and sex educator. Andrea specializes in treating trauma and PTSD for women, survivors, and queer & trans folks, utilizing body-based and feminist therapy practices to help clients come home to themselves. Andrea practices on occupied Lenape territory (colonized as NYC) and can also be found on Instagram @somaticwitch.
Episode 189 Links Andrea Glik Instagram https://www.instagram.com/somaticwitch/ Andrea Glik YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVUm2ZAxWeu7DrcMRpP1JPw? Andrea Glik website https://www.andreaglik.com/ Healing through BDSM class & https://www.andreaglik.com/post/healing-through-bdsm Other workshops andreaglik.com/shop Inside Eyes Podcast, Healing Sexual Trauma with Psychedelics & Entheogens https://www.lauramaenorthrup.com/inside-eyes-podcast Burnout, The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Response Cycle by Emily Nagoski https://www.amazon.com/Burnout-Secret-Unlocking-Stress-Cycle/dp/198481706X Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma by Peter Levine https://www.amazon.com/Waking-Tiger-Healing-Peter-Levine/dp/155643233X Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron Ken’s charity DnD game Mondays 4pm-7pm PT https://www.twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Library http://bit.ly/kinkacademy Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb Episode 189 Sponsor & Affiliate Discount Codes/Links*by using our links & codes you can help support our work while saving a few bucks too—win/win!
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