We were super jazzed to have psychotherapist and author of "Polysecure", Jessica Fern, return with her co-author David Cooley to chat about their new book, "Polywise" which is an amazing resource on healthy relating. We discuss restorative relationship conversations, parts work, codependency, ambiamory and how Eastern philosophy helped shaped their journey, as well as we dive into their own relationship history. Eye-opening and genuine conversation with two awesome humans! We had a blast!
NOTE: Outtakes at the end!
"Polywise: A Deeper Dive into Navigating Open Relationships" by Jessica Fern and David Cooley @Thornapple Press
#polywise #polyamorousrelationship #relationships #polyamory #polyamorous #ethicalnonmonogamy #healthyrelationships #nonmonogamy #openrelationship #internalfamilysystems #codependency #polysecure #polyrelationship #polyamory #polyam
You may not have heard about Ambiamory - the ability to be in either monogamous or polyamorous relationships. For those who identify as Ambiamorous, like Leanne, there are challenges and gifts. We invite you to explore what Leanne's journey of Ambiamory is like.
If you're confused about why your mono-mind is so active when you really WANT to be polyamorous, or you wonder why as a monogamous person you can't shake the need to have other connections, this may be the episode for you!
Leanne & Greg Million are International Certified Relationship, Sexuality and Empowerment Coaches specializing in polyamory, consensual non-monogamy, kink and alternative lifestyles. Join our FB group: Empowered Poly Relationship Support and Advice.
Reach out to us directly at [email protected] and [email protected]. #polyamory #polyamorousrelationship #openrelationships #ambiamory #openrelationship #nonmonogamy #ethicalnonmonogamy #relationships #relationships #healthyrelationships #identity #relationshiporientation #personaldevelopmentjourney #relationshipdynamics #polyamorous #monopolyrelationships #monogamy #polymono
#polyamory #polyamorousrelationship #openrelationships #openrelationship #nonmonogamy #ethicalnonmonogamy #relationship #relationships #healthyrelationships #entitlement #possessiveboyfriends #possessiveness #unhealthyrelationships #personaldevelopment*Content Warning: sexual assault mentioned.
Steeped in the mindset of possessiveness and ownership, entitlement can show up in ANY relationship, and polyamory is no exception. We chat about what entitlement is and how it's different than deserving, about the ways in which people feel entitled to you and why it's important to shift away from it when it does show up for you. Join us (Leanne & Greg Million) as we share our insights from our own experiences as well as what we've observed as Relationship Coaches. And sometimes we have an "aha" moment during one of these shows!
Here's the article that Leanne couldn't remember the name of: https://solopolyamory.quora.com/I-Apologize-To-The-Entire-Poly-Community-For-This-One-https-joreth-dreamwidth-org-408917-html?ch=10&oid=7600056&share=47611ca0&srid=Ov6Zz&target_type=post
#polyamory #polyamorousrelationship #openrelationships #openrelationship #nonmonogamy #ethicalnonmonogamy #relationship #relationships #healthyrelationships #entitlement #possessiveboyfriends #possessiveness #unhealthyrelationships #personaldevelopment
#polyamory #relationshipcoach #ethicalnonmonogamy #relationshipadvice #breakingup #breakups #endingarelationship #shiftingarelationship #polyamorous #openrelationship #openrelationships #relationshipcoaching #howtobreakup #managingabreakup
In this episode, we take a look at how to mindfully frame a breakup in a healthy way, managing our feelings, holding space for the other person and dealing with potentially challenging or difficult breakups.
During this podcast, we actually had a slight misunderstanding. Leanne had offered the idea of bringing to your partner how you would like to be broken up with, and Greg misheard this as "ask your partner how they'd like to be broken up with". Subsequently, Leanne didn't correct him, but went with the flow (as she is wont to do) and assumed she'd said it incorrectly. We missed that left turn and ended up in Albuquerque (if you know, you know). Ultimately, it all turned out fine in the end with some important discussion.
Trigger warning: we mention situations where someone may be at risk and need to leave immediately, and we also mention getting help if you are in danger from yourself or others. These are not discussed in detail.
Reference to the book "Illunimata: a Return to Prayer" by Marianne Williamson.
#openrelationship #polyamory #relationshipcoach #ethicalnonmonogamy #openrelationship #polyamorous #polyamorousrelationship #polyamory #relationshipcoach #relationshipcoaching
As Relationship Coaches specializing in consensual non-monogamy and polyamory, we see a lot of stress occurring around meeting your partner's partner (your "meta").
So in this episode we ask...What are some things to consider when you are deciding whether or not you want to meet your meta(s)? Why might your partner be feeling obligated to meet their meta(s)? Why do some people choose not to meet their meta(s)?
We chat about all of these and then give you some great TIPS for those of you who decide to go ahead and meet your meta(s).
#sexualhealth #safersex #polyamory #sexuallytransmitteddiseases #std #sexuallytransmittedinfections #ethicalnonmonogamy #openrelationship #polyamorous #polyamorousrelationship #polycoach #relationships #relationshipcoach #relationshipcoaching
In this VERY IMPORTANT episode, we discuss what sexual health is, address the stigma of STIs and how we can help normalize having "the talk", disclosure, consent, and Leanne's journey with her own STI. Disclaimer: The contents of this episode should not be used in place of medical advice. We encourage you to consult with your local STI health clinic or doctor when making decisions around your health. NOTE: Cytomeglovirus, although discusssed, is not considered an STI. (Apologies for the sound quality for Leanne - her lapel mic wasn't working!)
#consensualnonmonogamy #ethicalnonmonogamy #poly #polyamorous #polyamory #openingup #disentangling #mononormativeprogramming #codependency #enmeshment #boundaries #relationshipcoaching #relationshipcoach #ethicalnonmonogamy #ENM #CNM
Opening Up from being monogamous, whether you're solo poly or from a couple, is very challenging no matter which relationship dynamic you choose on the consensual non-monogamy spectrum. We take a look at what the most challenging aspects of Opening Up are, and how you can navigate them, including codependency, enmeshment, disentangling, autonomy, boundaries and communication. If you want to learn more about what to consider when Opening Up, or even if you've already opened up, but are struggling and want to know if there was something you should be tending to, this is the episode for you!
Trigger warning: abusive relationships are mentioned, no detail given.
#consensualnonmonogamy #ethicalnonmonogamy #poly #polyamorous #polyamory #kitchentablepoly #triads #cohabitation #triangulation
What is it we are drawn to in seeking out Kitchen Table Poly? What are some of the challenges and how can we manage them? In this episode we take a swim in the deeeeeep end of the poly pool...where you and your metamours (your partner's partners) hang out, socialize, and maybe even live together! Sometimes Triads organically occur in these situations, and our special guest and friend, Sex, Love & Relationship Coach Ellecia Paine, knows from her own experience what opportunities and challenges KTP offers.
You can find Ellecia online at elleciapaine.com, on IG @elleciapaine and you can follow her podcast, "Nope, We're NOT Monogamous" on Spotify, Google and Apple.
#consensualnonmonogamy #ethicalnonmonogamy #poly #monopoly #polyamorous #polyamory #monogamous #openingup #relationships #relationshipdynamics #relationshipadvice #relationshipcoaching
In this episode we dive into one of the more challenging relationship dynamics on the planet - the Polyamorous and Monogamous pairing. We will share with you our personal experiences as well as our experiences as Relationship, Sexuality and Empowerment coaches as we chat about poly-bombing, guilt, helicopter partnering, ambiamorous-ness, relationship snobbery, disentangling, KTP (kitchen table poly - where partners and metas feel comfortable enough to spend time together) and parallel poly (keeping relationships separate) and relationship identities. We'll give you some things we found helpful when navigating the particularly bumpy landscape of this challenging but also very rewarding relationship dynamic.
#monogamy #openingup #polyamory #polyamorous #monopoly #griefinrelationships #relationshipstructures #relationshipdynamics #relationshipcoaching #poly #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy #relationshipadvice
In this episode we tackle the grief that comes, as Greg puts it, as "many little deaths" when opening up a previously monogamous relationship. It isn't easy and many of us struggle, even unconsciously, with moving through the grief as we adjust to all the changes that come with opening up. The messages that we receive all of our lives about what love is and isn't create conflict in our minds as we grapple with pushing back against our identities, societal norms and expectations others have of us.
NOTE: our definition of "solo poly" was incomplete. Here's a blog that explain many nuances to the term in this person's experience of it: https://solopoly.net/2014/12/05/what-is-solo-polyamory-my-take/
Here is Leanne's Poly Playlist on Spotify reference in the episode: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4qMkzemGbyazOaY7q0gcAf?si=ca0b191b3c0d4d41
And the song she was struggling to remember is: "I'm Free" by The Soup Dragons ...AND there is another one on the list called "Free" by Donovan Frankenreiter.
#relationshipadvice #relationshipcoaching #sexuality #polyamory #consensualnonmonogamy #ethicalnonmonogamy #newrelationshipenergy #emotionalmanagement #fomo
If you struggle to manage your own NRE (New Relationship Energy) or you know it's impacting your other relationships, this one is for you! We share some of our experiences with NRE, how it can affect you and your behaviour and what you can do about creating more balance.
While we're all ultimately responsible for managing our emotional reactions, being a compassionate partner is about taking responsibility for our own behaviour and mitigating negative effects of NRE, creating a safe space for honest dialogue about it, and preventing resentment from building up.
NOTES: Asexual individuals can experience sexual arousal, but not always. NRE can be brought about through touch without sexual arousal. Also any limited information agreement should still allow for information about whether fluid exchange occurred during intimacy.
Our Facebook Group name has changed from EMPOWERED NOW to EMPOWERED POLY Relationship Support and Advice - please join us! https://www.facebook.com/groups/2723042208009580
Websites and blogs: gregmillion.com and leannemillion.com IG: @leannemillion and @thegregmillion
#ethicalnonmonogamy #polyamory #relationshipcoaching #coupleprivilege #hierarchyinenm #healthyrelationships #autonomy #unicornhunting #vetopower
This is the continuation of our interview with Michael Love (co-host of the ENM Talk Podcast and co-admin of the Ethical Non-Monogamy FB group) because we had so much to chat about!
In Part 1 we covered what couple's privilege and hierarchy are and how we all found autonomy in our relationships.
In THIS episode we discuss veto power and unicorn hunting.
You can find Michael's podcast ENM Talk Podcast on YouTube here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPfgHA1i6Zrh6I05f-rkFxQ as well as anywhere you like to listen.
And if you'd like to join his Facebook ENM Community group you can find it here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/enmgroup
#ethicalnonmonogamy #polyamory #relationshipcoaching #coupleprivilege #hierarchyinenm #healthyrelationships #autonomy #unicornhunting
This was such an awesome interview with Michael Love (co-host of the ENM Talk Podcast and co-admin of the Ethical Non-monogamy FB group) that we had to keep going and ended up creating 2 parts!
We discuss what couple's privilege is and how it impacts relationships, how you can work toward more autonomy and why you may want to, and what hierarchy is in this context. And in part TWO we get into veto power and unicorn hunting!
You can find Michael Love's ENM Talk Podcast here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPfgHA1i6Zrh6I05f-rkFxQ as well as anywhere you like to listen.
And if you'd like to join his Facebook ENM Community group you can find it here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/199655087914476
#toxicrelationships #toxicbehaviour #emotionalmanagement #boundaries #healthyrelationships #relationshipcoaching #faultvsresponsibility #healingwounds #emotions
Yep, we thought this one would be easy...but it's complicated! Join us, Greg and Leanne, Empowerment and Relationship Coaches, as we tackle what exactly we can do about toxic behaviour in a relationship. Are you experiencing toxic behaviour in a relationship? Or maybe you're the one with the toxic habits? We ALL have learned behaviour that we would like to change. Watch for the moment when I (Leanne) use hurtful humour to deflect...and you can bet I apologized once I realized I'd done it. Oof.
Book mentioned: "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck" by Mark Manson
#vulnerability #malevulnerability #gender #genderexpression #authenticity #manboxculture #tonyporter #brenebrown #lewishowes #connection #emotionalmanagement #anger #strengthisvulnerability #intimacy #healthyrelationships #relationshipcoach #relationshipadvice #selfawareness #maleidentifying
Join us, Greg and Leanne, Emotional Empowerment and Relationship Coaches, as we welcome our good friend and fellow podcaster, Binyam Asress to this episode to delve into what Male Vulnerabiilty is, why it's a struggle and what it has to do with "the fuller flavour to savour"! A frank and honest discussion featuring two publicly vulnerable men, (and a woman learning more about male vulnerability) addressing the inherent challenges male identifying folx face when trying to express themselves fully and what we can do to change the narrative.
Binyam Asress is a podcaster who can be seen often on Instagram and TickTok, spreading kindness. He first became well known for interviewing his riders for TikTok when he was driving for Uber. His podcast, "Bin Checkin' In" just launched it's 100th episode. Binyam has spent a lifetime studying how people connect...and how we can do so more meaningfully. In his various roles as a father, friend and confidant, he aims to live life on purpose and grow in the midst of community. Find him here: https://www.tiktok.com/@binyamasress https://www.instagram.com/binyamasress/ https://open.spotify.com/show/11FyLlbgm814X9ui4DCjgu
Recommended reading for those interested in Male Vulnerability:
"The Mask of Masculinity" by Lewis Howes, "Breaking Out of the Man Box - a Call to Men" by Tony Porter, "Men, Women and Worthiness" by Brene Brown.
#authenticintimacy #authenticityinrelationships #sexualfreedom #selfadvocacy #intimacy #autonomy #newrelationshipenergy #feelingtakenforgranted #polyamory #ethicalnonmonogamy #monogamy #ENM #poly #authenticity
Greg and Leanne share their own personal discoveries about what intimacy is and isn't, how it can be nurtured and how it can be lost, and how it's different from sex. Getting vulnerable about how intimacy shows up in relationships and how we often take it for granted is what this episode is all about. They look at how much we value sex as a form of intimacy and how sexual autonomy might look if one person isn't feeling sexual. Does sex have to be at the heart of our shared intimacy? They examine the issue from both a monogamous relationship p.o.v. and also touch on new relationship energy and how it can impact established relationships for poly/CNM folx.
#chronicillness #chronicconditions #chronicpain #mentalhealth #relationshipcoaching #relationshipadvice #relationships #autonomy #listentoyourpartner #relationshipbuilding #healthyrelationships
In this episode Relationship and Emotional Wellness coaches Leanne and Greg Million offer their insight into the challenges of coping with chronic illness or conditions within a relationship. They provide perspective about how to help your partner, how to respect their independence and how to connect using these 4 pillars: Listen, Self-care, Relationship Building and Being Real.
For more details check out Leanne's blog article here: https://www.leannemillion.com/2021/08/29/managing-chronic-illness-conditions-in-a-relationship/
This episode is lovingly dedicated to the memory of Leanne's father, Mel Maschmeyer 1944-2021.
#compersion #consensualnonmonogamy #ethicalnonmonogamy #polyamory #nonmonogamous #polyamorous #jealousy #relationshipadvice #relationshipcoaching #sexuality
Greg, an Emotional Empowerment Coach, and Leanne, a Relationship and Sexuality Coach explain the term "compersion" as used by the Poly/CNM community. They explore it's origins, why people think they need it, and how it feels to have it, in both comfortable and uncomfortable ways.
#groupsex #threesomes #orgies #multiplepartners #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmongamy #monogamish #openrelationships #polyamory #sexualautonomy #safesex #elleciapaine #relationshipcoach #sexcoach #sexadvice #relationshipadvice
Join Greg and Leanne in welcoming fellow Love, Sex and Relationship Coach, Ellecia Paine to the show! Sometimes a silly yet still very informative discussion about sex with multiple partners at once including things like how to address STI safety, offering really practical advice about how to manage your physical and emotional well being as well as what challenges, red flags and joys might be encountered when engaging with more than one intimate partner at a time. A must-see for those curious, who want to try or who just really enjoy group sex!
Where you can find Ellecia:
Download the SPIEL .pdf: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1pVSpJsvvgCKmpJ6ixmouvrue9vD3YLwN/view?usp=sharing
#relationshipadvice #compassion #communication #relationshipcoach #polyamory #consensualnonmonogamy #ENM #poly #selfadvocacy #autonomy #authenticity #vulnerability
Join Emotional Wellness and Relationship coaches Greg and Leanne Million as they explore what being a compassionate partner is, and what it isn't. With a slight detour into what the differences and similarities are between a Relationship Anarchist and Greg's coined term, "Relationship Autonomist", the Millions explore compassionate partnering and surprise even themselves with how much it means to them.
NOTE: This is a poly-friendly podcast, and the content is applicable to all types of relationships.
IMPORTANT: While it is important to self-advocate in our relationships, if you feel unsafe, please consult a local therapist, social worker or shelter to help you plan an exit strategy.