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  • Comedian and season 1 guest Ester Steinberg is back for a special cumgratulations: we are celebrating her first Mother's Day! She tells us about the bizarre techniques that the internet suggests for inducing labor, how often she masturbated during pregnancy, and what breastfeeding was like for her. Finally, hear why Ester recommends everyone have an open relationship with their partner before they get engaged.

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  • You've requested it, and it's FINALLY HERE! We're talking anti-depressants and sexual dysfunction with psychiatrist + sex therapist Dr. Barbara Bartlik and comedian Andrew Collin! Andrew tells us about his journey with anxiety, depression and medication. We cover the sexual frustration that comes with the loss of orgasms while on SSRIs and how he has learned to cope, with sex positions that work best for him. We discuss weighing out the pros and cons when it comes to maintaining sexual and mental health, and Dr. Bartlik offers advice for anyone dealing with similar issues.

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  • We’re talking sensitivity with comedian crooner JR De Guzman (Netflix, Kevin Hart’s Hart of the City). From his heart to his uncircumcised head JR knows sensitivity and joins us for a heartfelt conversation on falling in love deep and fast, the 5 love languages, and the importance of talking about these topics among other men. We get confronted about our relationship with ourselves and our capacity to love others while learning to establish healthy boundaries. How to change the narrative from finding someone to learning how to be, love, and care for yourself as “the one”.

    We get existential while we consider our purpose as humans on this earth and how we have gotten so disconnected from nature’s balance (especially in urban contexts). Finally, we discuss uncircumsized dick shaming, and how high school was hell for everyone with “abnormal” genitalia when actually, we all had shitty Sex Education and didn’t really know what “normal” reproductive organs actually look like.

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    Learn further about the causes and effects of climate change, and what short and long-term solutions there are. FutureLearn and edX are some sites that offer (mostly free) environmental science courses. Keep up with current events. You can begin by following @cnnclimate, @intersectionalenvironmentalist, and @unclimatechange on Instagram. DONATE to or spread the word about climate justice organizations such as The Coalition for Rainforest Nations, 350.org, and Direct Relief International. Articles: How to Stop Global Warming (NRDC), Why the Fight for Climate Justice is a Fight for Justice Itself (Landscape News) Documentaries: How the Climate Crisis and Systemic Racism are Deeply Connected (Youtube), Environmental Racism Explained (Youtube) A Life on our Planet (Netflix), Kiss the Ground (Netflix)

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  • Undeniably hilarious comedian and producer of FX’s new documentary ‘Hysterical,’ Jessica Kirson joins us on this exciting episode. We discuss her new film, in which she stars in alongside fellow iconic female stand-ups. Hysterical chronicles the endeavor of reaching success in a male-dominated industry (which is relevant for all women, honestly) and the importance of lifting each other up, and recognize that there is space for everyone.

    We learn how Jessica was personally selected by Robert DeNiro to teach him how to perform stand up comedy on the set of The Comedian, and how she subsequently became a producer.

    We also discuss Jessica's sexual journey: Cumming early in life, coming out later in life, having sex with men but no orgasms, as well as how she became a mother of four daughters when she never intended on having children at all!

    She shares why she never wanted to have kids as well as why she is so happy that she did.

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  • This week we are joined by internationally known disability advocate and stand-up comedian Pamela Rae Schuller. Pamela tells us about growing up as a person of short stature with Tourettes and OCD, "The cute kind of Tourettes!" But also the kind that caused a tic strong enough to break her neck.

    We discuss the portrayal of disability in the media and how it perpetuates misconceptions that promote stigma. We talk about how children with all kinds of disabilities struggle to fit in and often get thrown into special ed, and the differences between the structural shaming of these kids in public school and the boarding school that helped her fall in love with comedy by fully embracing who she is. Pamela tells us about her experiences talking in schools and the difference between the way adults and kids respond to her talks.

    She spills the tea about her experience with Peloton Bikes and the hate she received after her New York Post article, which was meant to raise awareness around inclusion and accessibility for fitness brands, especially during this pandemic. Finally, we hear about imposter syndrome and discuss finding the balance to nail new opportunities. Also on this episode: Cumpanion Cumgratulations! Thank you to Becky (40s, Florida) for sharing your stories with us. TW: Sexual Violence, Offensive Language

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  • This week witnessed Khloe Kardashian's unedited photo "scandal" and we talked to two NYC photographers, Dave Krugman and Jenni Walkowiak, about the hyper-visual age we live in and the psycological effects it has on us.

    The need for better online personas has made photoshoots an ordeal we must all go through, whether it’s for LinkedIn, your CV or your new Instagram profile picture. Have you ever had a meltdown because you couldn’t communicate with your photographer? Or because you looked like shit and you felt awkward ‘cause you don’t really know how to pose for your body type? Or your nose looked crooked? Well, we have. We talked to our two photographers about taking better pictures from a male and female perspective. They give us useful tips on how to pose, and tricks for a more comfortable photoshoot (spoiler alert: a pet helps with anxiety). Will this help with our body image issues? Join us for this awesome and eye-opening episode.

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  • We have a special cumgratuations: Celebrating Betches Media 10 year anniversary with Co-Founder and Chief Creative Officer Sami Sage! Betches is a female-founded and led entertainment brand that provides a space for all women to get real. Join us to learn about how they started as an anonymous blog between friends and grew into a profitable multi-faceted media source (with 11 brands under their belt) that we love because of their ability to adapt to societal change.

    Sami tells us about Betches’ process of evolving as creators and leaders, the many factors of coming from a place of privilege; and deciding to use that privilege for good. We also discussed the toxic positivity surrounding “Girl Boss Culture” and how a Girl Boss differs from a Business Betch.

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  • Trigger warning: this episode discusses the increase of violence against AAPI folks.

    Join us for this important conversation around the intersection of racism and sexism around hate crimes and white terrorism. In the wake of Atlanta’s recent tragedy and the rise of violence against the Asian community, Dominique Nisperos is a comedian and doctoral candidate in sociology that wants Asian-Americans to know that their experience is valid. She aces putting her feelings into words and shining a light on what BIPOC and white allies can do to help.

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    Books Mentioned by Dominique:
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    The Ethnic Myth - Stephen Steinberg
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    Myth of the Model Minority - Rosalind S. Chou
    My Grandmother's Hands - Resmaa Menakem

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  • Only 6 more days until hot girl summer!! How to get washboard abs in just 7 days! -- And other fitness headlines that will make you click, but won't work. We're talking fitness with personal trainer and fitness instructor Nicole Pearce and CEO and founder of DanceFit Melody Afkami. We talk exercise clickbait, binging and quitting, and the dangers of only working out to look hot. Melody and Nicole teach us how to work out for the right reasons and find workouts that actually work for us.

    Our Cumpanion cumgrats is a special one as we welcum back comedian and former guest Riley Lassin (S1E19 Merry Vaginismus Part II) for an exciting NEW cumgrats!

    TW: Brief mention of the terrorist attack in Atlanta, Georgia

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  • Remy welcums Ben back to celebrate their 1 year anniversary of accidentally living together, a year in review for all the craziest news from March 2020-March 2021, and to tell you about an exciting little cumgrats of their own.

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  • We're talking social media and celebrity; how fake they can both be, and how scammers, grifters, and con artists are taking over the internet-- and why we're following so intently. Remy welcomes back Emmy-nominated producer and 'Hype' author Gabrielle Bluestone, as well as pop culture writer and critic Sophie Ross, and one of the 3 stars of HBO's new documentary 'Fake Famous' Wylie Heiner.

    We talk pop-culture scandals, internet culture vulture's, how to spot someone's PR team in the press, and what Wylie learned from his time on Fake Famous

    Trigger Warning: Sexual Abuse

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  • This week we are celebrating self love through self loathe with comedians and co-hosts of the Flat Bottom Girls podcast, Maddy Smith and Jordan Jenson. We talk about all the reasons we hate ourselves and how to not do that so much!

    Trigger Warning: Eating Disorders

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  • We're talking manliness vs. toxic masculinity this week with our sweet friend, Comedian Stan Talouis as well as an awesome South African Cumpanion named Tom. We discuss how early life experiences and certain cultural ideals about "manliness" effected them both and how much they've grown since unlearning those things.

    TW: Sexual Assault, Violence, Suicidal Ideation

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  • We are joined on this momentous episode by NYTimes Best Selling Author Wednesday Martin PhD and 'World's Best Sex Hacker' Kenneth Play to answer EVERY question you've EVER asked us about ~*squirting*~ ! Is it pee? How do I do it? Are there special sheets I can buy? (There are!)

    Wednesday tells us about having her first squirt recorded LIVE for her podcast -- and Kenneth tells us what it was like giving it to her! It is a wet and wild ride + we hope you love it as much as we do.

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  • Season 4 kicks off with comedian, activist, musician, and forever sexually curious icon Margaret Cho. We discuss the importance of maintaining sexual curiosity throughout life and why we shouldn't just let our sex lives get stale or "plateau." Margaret tells us about what she's tried recently and introduces us to SO MANY sex toys + sexercises we've never heard of.

    Finally, we talk dungeons, dominatrixes, and sexual innovation in times of plague; Margaret tells us that leather became popular in BDSM during the AIDS crisis because fluid bonding wasn't possible, and we wonder: will gas masks become a new kink post-Covid?

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  • Remy and Ben are back to discuss rape-culture, Armie Hammer's cannibalism "scandal" and abuse of upward of 200+ "Kittens" (young women) and Emerald Fennell's powerful and radical new anti-rape film, Promising Young Woman.* (SPOILERS)

    TW: Rape, assault, abuse, cannibalism, violence

    *This film is now considered "required viewing" by the How Cum team. Rent it on YouTube or search google for where it is streaming in your country if not available there

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  • Hi best friends! For our season 3 finale we are celebrating C*mgratulations and FRIENDSHIPS! Two things that got us through this wildly tough year. We're joined by two amazing Best Friends, hilarious Stand-up Comedians and co-hosts of the 'Unofficial Expert' podcast, Sydnee Washington and Marie Faustin. Sydnee and Marie tell us about how they met and fell in friend love, making friends as adults, working with friends, and what it takes to make a great long-lasting friendship work. Remy talks about it being hard to be friends as an insecure person, and why it is important to be there for them rather than roast them. Finally, we cover the importance of your friends getting along with your partner easily; along with having different friends for different things while still having a 'home base friend'.

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  • Trigger Warning: Rape/Sexual Assault/Cults

    This week we are joined by comedian, writer and professor Brooke Arnold. Brooke tells us all about her experience of growing up in a cult that has been called "The world's most woman-hating cult" from the ages of 7 to 17, how she escaped and what adjusting to life afterwards was like. We get a look deep inside her former cult-- The Institute in Basic Life Principles (IBLP) and its ‘7 Non-Optional Life Principles’ - and how those principles (Design, Authority, Responsibility, Suffering, Ownership, and Freedom) were constructed to justify and perpetuate a pyramid scheme of abuse and sexual assault. We discuss what makes something a cult, how to tell if something is a cult, and what makes people vulnerable to being sucked in. Finally Brooke tells us how cults are just indicators of larger culture, why she prefers a psychedelic approach to therapy and how a recent trip to her former cult leader Bill Gothard’s house led her to a healing revelation.

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  • We're talking hormones and women's healthcare with a prominent leader in women's medicine and author of 'Beyond The Pill,' Dr Jolene Brighten.

    Dr Brighten tells us how she combines naturopathic and conventional medicine to treat various hormonal imbalances and runs us through different options of birth control for women depending on how their bodies respond. She tells us about PCOS (Poly Cystic Ovarian Syndrome), which can occur after coming off of birth control and how she and other women have been misdiagnosed with it.

    Finally, Dr Brighten tells us about navigating health issues for the trans community, a horrifying TikTok trend that sheds light on how the US healthcare system is failing women and sexual abuse survivors, and how to better advocate for yourself in medical situations.

    TW: Sexual Assault/Rape

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  • This week we are joined by two hilarious comedians to talk about advice and whether the people who dish it out can be trusted.

    Joey Dardano, host of 'Help From A Hypocrite' podcast and Irene Morales, host of 'Dear Nana: Advice From An Idiot' talk the best advice they've received on their respective podcasts, gaining life experience in order to give advice and how to properly take on any advice that someone gives you. Joey and Irene both tells us about about growing up as Cuban Catholics and we discuss how God/ The Universe plays a factor in people's lives differently. We talk about Irene's miraculous recovery from Spinal Meningitis and Joey tells us about recovering from a break up and why casual sex doesn't work for everyone. Finally, we talk Joey's IBS (Irritable Bowel Syndrome) and how he became TikTok famous because of it, as well as the difficulties surrounding bringing it up with a new partner.

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