Right now in uncertain times we are living in chaos all around us. The news is distracting, social media is a time suck, and our children are home and pulling us away from our typical routines.
You may need some help figuring out when are you going to find that time to focus on a particular task or finding out how to replace those 8 hours that you used to have during the day - so here are some tips to getting that focus back and finding focus.Match your schedule to your child's schedule - when you need focus - find a time when they are usually quiet and focused as well. Use technology to keep you from looking at your phone, daydreaming, or getting distracted - find all my apps here! Do something normal and get back to your routine. But also be flexible and create new morning and evening routines if needed. Take your breaks and ACTUALLY give yourself grace - don't just pay it lip service.
Toni Collier has experienced being a mom through brokenness and has gone through the process of healing to come out on the other side. I talked with her about how she was able to heal for herself and her daughter and what her life looks like now!
I wanted to know and understand parenting because I didn't see it in my childhood - I wanted to learn what parenting looked like
You're not just an unhealthy person but it leaks into other areas of your life
You cannot pour out what you don't have on the inside of you
Without nurturing I had to go find that place and heal it...to be a more nurturing mother
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Codie Elaine Oliver is a wife, mom, and filmmaker of the Black Love series on OWN. We chatted about her beautiful family and how she made it work having to return to the office so soon after the birth of her children.
Key takeawaysAll of the balls don't stay in the air - we do what we can to move things around If I'm going to do it (working soon after having baby) then I better do it well We do check-ins with my husband and the kids to figure out what they need
I was reminding myself that I love what I'm doing and it's important work to me. I did take pride in knowing that if I'm going to do it I'm going to do it well.
Now that almost every school is closed across the country, moms are stepping in to make sure kids are taken care of during the day. If you can stay home with them - here are some tips to make the days go by more smoothly.
Co-parenting together with a spouse or the father of your child is one of the hardest parts of being a mother that we don't talk about enough. Getting on the same page and finding the best tips for co-parenting can be exhausting.
Here are some of my top tips and why the show Black-ish has been a big help!
Find more here: http://mommifaceted.com/how-black-ish-helps-us-parent-together-better-+-tips-for-co-parenting
Dr. Kiarra King is a board certified obstetrician gynecologist that always “delivers” a dose of style! She's on the podcast talking about how her knowledge as a OB/GYN affected her pregnancy and why she decided to balance her medical career with her creative side.
Key takeaways:stressful jobs can impact your pregnancy - and being a new mom while making career choices embracing creativity and just going for it get inspired by other people, stay connected and bounce ideas off of each other
I'm very multi-passionate, I have to keep the momentum going... I have to just keep moving and staying connected.
Dr. Kiarra King
Being a mom and spouse can be two of the hardest roles you'll ever have because they are the most important relationships you'll have. Our guest, Lakia Brandenburg is here to help us master both!
Here are some top takeaways:Children deserve to be heard and seen – they are being trained and need to learn how to express themselves She had to learn how to shift her role and schedule because of her desire to follow her dreams. Her husband didn’t marry an entrepreneur – she became one I was going against the grain and the blueprint, and it was hard but she wanted to be happy.
I have one life to live and it’s going to be a great life, and I’ll do my best to make sure my children have a great life, but they will have to understand that mommy comes first too!
One of Ambreia R. Meadows-Fernandez's goals is being a good mom, but she's come up against the realized she can shape parenting in whatever way she wants it to be - and that still makes her a good mother.
Going against the grain of what a mother is supposed to be is how she decided to intentionally parent.
Find more at: http://mommifaceted.com/you're-still-a-good-mom-even-if-you-don't-look-like-one-with-ambreia-meadows-fernandez
Figuring out what it takes to be a working mom of 2 is a whole job and figuring out how to go back to work after having a baby was my mission for these last 4 weeks.
Now I'm not saying I'm a pro, but these things are my must do's to keep my sanity as I return to work after having my baby and while pumping breastmilk at work.
Being a working mom is not for the faint of heart, but it can be done as smoothly as possible.Get prepared the night before Ask colleagues for updates and help Talk to family about what you need Stop trying to do it all Manage expectations for yourself and others Drink water Phase yourself in Treat yourself
All of this is explained and I share HOW I do it on the podcast. Take a listen.
Giving our children independence is one of those parenting rituals that no one tells you about before you have children. It's especially hard for parents of special needs children.
Dr. Ali Griffith shared the ways she is working to give her son independence and embrace his uniqueness as he gets older and wants to do more on his own. We go back to her early momming days and she shares about her son's diagnosis and how she initially didn't see the signs that eventually led to confirmation of Autism.
She reminds us that we have to cheer ourselves on and realize they will be ok without us always around - something that can be impossible to get over!
At the beginning of December I started to do a quick inventory, feeling like I wasn't doing enough, and looked at my accomplishments and thought “what have I been spending my time doing?!”
I was in a little bit of a frenzy through December.
I was feeling like I hadn’t done enough. Really, more like I hadn’t done anything and certainly not enough given the level of tired and lazy I was feeling.
After writing down everything I did in a day, I realized something that was new to me. Learn more athttp://mommifaceted.com/you-are-doing-enough-so,-why-don't-you-feel-like-you-are?/(opens in a new tab)
I'll be the first to admit - I'm not ready for 2020!
Even this post is up late - but here it is!
In this episode I share a recap of what happened with the podcast and with myself throughout 2019 as well as what I will be focusing on in 2020.
Camryn Wells and I talk about real motherhood and how she is finding joy in motherhood and the challenges of motherhood. For her, the role of being a mother comes pretty naturally. She fell into her duties and responsibilities without much fuss, but that's not to say that there aren't challenges.
Despite the challenging parts of being a working wife and mother she's able to see what is truly happening and there is some joy in seeing her children developing.
We also talk about how we have to parent our children differently and the answers to our questions don't come in black and white. The answers aren't easy to find because motherhood doesn't work that way.
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Melanie Oates is making it her mission to ensure every mom gets what they need and learn how to advocate for your child. As the mom of two special needs kids she had a transition of getting through the shock of what her motherhood journey would ultimately look like. She quickly realized that she wasn't going to have those mother daughter times as she thought, they would look different. Now that she's gotten more education and the resources she needs, she can enjoy her relationship even more than she thought with her children.
Find more athttp://mommifaceted.com/how-to-advocate-for-your-child/(opens in a new tab)
This year I'm having fun with these holidays and sharing some last minute gift ideas! I actually decorated for Thanksgiving AND Christmas, hosted Thanksgiving - cooking a full meal (minus the dessert) and will probably contribute for Christmas.
I know that last minute gift buying is a real thing so I'm sharing some ideas to relieve some of the stress you may be feeling. To up the ante, I'm mixing in some of my FAVORITE things from the year, a la Oprah style, in hopes that you get something good for yourself too!
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Almashea Spotser has been facing change and making big pivots as necessary to become the woman she is now. From career changes, to moving with her family, to deciding to go after her dream after putting it off for too long, she's not afraid to switch things up.
On the podcast we talk about doing the work to move past the obstacles that come up for us. She shares what she's making time for now that's just for her, and we have a giveaway!Like us on Instagram!
The type of mom I am changes on any given day, but I'm truly figured out the type of mom I want to be. Mommifaceted is all about helping you get to or keep becoming the type of mom you want to be. That's why we've opened the doors to the Mommi Collective. Join us today before we start in 2020!
What is the Mommi Collective?
It's the membership portion of Mommifaceted. Within the membership you'll have access to a monthly live expert speaker. We'll have the speaker present and then you get to ask her your own personal questions in a Q&A. The monthly topics will include:Intimacy after children Authenticity in all spaces Becoming a mommy blogger Boundaries in motherhood Entrepreneurship while momming Financial planning more!
In addition to the monthly speaker (which will be recorded and the replay available in the portal), you'll have other exclusive content released monthly. There will be extra podcast episodes, child age based information, mindful parenting techniques, challenges, and workshops, the list is endless. We can do a lot through the membership portal and the team is ready to share all of it with you.
Sounds great right? Join at www.mommifaceted.com/membership
Jenny LeFlore is the mama behind Mama Fresh and she's got the confidence and fresh perspective to be an example of modern motherhood. Jenny talks on the podcast about becoming a mom later in life and how she grew and changed through marriage and motherhood.
We discuss how having confidence in yourself can be a major step in being the type of mom you truly want to be. As a mom, you may change some of the things you used to do, but as Jenny and I talk - it comes out that with confidence in who you are as a woman, you won't have to change the essence of who you are.
She also shares how she maintains her relationships and what she needs to keep them strong before they break down.
Tahnee Cole is a single mom of 2, works full time, writes on her blog, Black Pumps, Pink Slippers, and has experienced some unexpected challenges. When becoming a mother she realized she had to work through some of her past experiences through therapy and getting clear on what was important to her. She's learning what she needs to say no to - which is real life! Something that can be hard for many of us.
Tahnee is a motivator for other moms because she truly knows the power of a mom.
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Courtney May has a stressful and demanding job as a police officer in Washington, DC and juggles motherhood at the same time. We talk about how motherhood has affected her performance of her career.
Courtney and her husband, who is also a first responder, have managed to figure out childcare, shifting her focus from work to mommy mode, shift work, and crazy work schedules.
First and foremost, Courtney makes sure to let her husband and family what she needs communicating to help her make it all work.
Thank you Courtney!