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  • Masks have become a polarizing political symbol in our society this year. Opinions on them have changed and developed throughout the entirety of COVID-19, but they are still quite divisive. Depending on our backgrounds, experiences, and personal perspectives, we all view this tiny piece of cloth in a different way. That is why I wanted to have a conversation today with my friend and repeat guest, Kristina Wong.

    Kristina is the creator of Radical Cram School, a social justice school on YouTube for girls of color. She is also a performance artist and Muslim-elected representative in Koreatown in LA. When the pandemic first hit in America, she began making masks for the homeless and others who were immunocompromised and had no access to masks. This led to countless requests and the eventual creation of the Facebook group, Auntie Sewing Squad.

    In today’s episode, we talk about both of our experiences with masks during COVID-19, as well as what we are doing to help. If you are interested in learning more about what it has been like to be an Asian American during this time, listen in to the amazing insights and stories Kristina shares.

    Show Highlights:

    Our personal experiences with masks and COVID-19 in general. How Kristina got started sewing masks for the less fortunate. An explanation of the term “auntie” in Asian culture. The transformation and current culture of the Auntie Sewing Squad group. How Kristina has valued the women of color in her sewing squad. How I have recruited children to help the vulnerable with my mass sewing camp. How to support the Auntie Sewing Squad.

    Links (affiliates included):

    Radical Cram School - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aI3voZCASp0

    Auntie Sewing Squad - https://www.facebook.com/auntiesewing/

    Auntie Sewing Squad Donor Link - https://donorbox.org/auntie-sewing-squad?fbclid=IwAR3rixvhPJiuYrux150Ql2ZWPo_0hHPIxpEr5ay81gO4HU_s00LX9EUsWE4

    Seamstresses United Navajo & Hopi Nation Amazon Wish List: https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/1YPMOKVP3L56J?fbclid=IwAR20RjSKqmIAug3otJoJ-tULKsbF-RSl-7HS096EatiAsH2Qpn5xegHH0HE

    SIGN UP TO BE NOTIFIED OF THE NEXT MASK SEWING CAMP - https://mailchi.mp/08c18bd2b620/mask-sewing-camp-with-auntie-sewing-squad

    Parenting Forward Conference Sessions - https://www.parentingforwardconference.com/2019-sessions

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    Parenting Forward, the Book - https://amzn.to/2GB6eDB

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  • It’s easy to forget that our kids are people too. They have just as much humanity as we do and yet we place so many limits on them. We have to understand that kids experience the same amount of stress we experience. They just lack the brain development to express it in a way we can understand. In today’s episode, we discuss all of this and more.

    Jeff and Amy Olrick are the parents of three boys as well as human rights activists. Jeff is a child psychologist who has a passion for helping parents understand what is happening scientifically to their children’s brains. Jeff and Amy are also the authors of The Six Needs of Every Child: Empowering Parents and Kids Through The Science of Connection.

    I get asked often for books that are not fundamentalist, but still speak to Christians and communicate a Christian worldview. That’s exactly the kind of book this is. Tune in to the episode to hear all about it and benefit from Jeff and Amy’s knowledge about the science of parenting.

    Show Highlights:

    How parents can navigate through the stress of being quarantined with their kids. Why we need to reframe the questions we ask in our relationships. The systemic problem with the productivity model in our country. Why adults actually aren’t fundamentally different from children. How to become conscious of our attachment patterns from childhood and break the cycle for our own kids. The importance of giving ourselves grace in parenting. How Jeff and Amy want to serve and challenge the Christian community with their book. The six needs of every child. How Jeff and Amy navigated writing their book while being parents to actual children.

    Links (affiliates included):

    Jeff and Amy Olrick’s website: https://www.growingconnected.com

    Parenting Forward Conference Sessions - https://www.parentingforwardconference.com/2019-sessions

    Join us at the Parenting Forward Patreon Team - https://www.patreon.com/cindywangbrandt

    Parenting Forward, the Book - https://amzn.to/2GB6eDB

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  • Today, I brought my friend Rebekah Gienapp on to talk about raising antiracist kids. A lot of you have been asking questions about how to talk to your kids about everything that has been going on and we wanted to answer them for you. Rebekah is a former community organizer from Memphis, Tennessee who wrote the guide Raising Antiracist Kids: An Age by Age Guide for Parents of White Children. She has so much wisdom to share on nurturing brave kids with a love for justice and in this episode, we discuss it all.

    As you all know, I am constantly creating antiracist resources and have always been committed to dismantling white supremacy through this podcast and beyond. With the recent death of George Floyd, this is all the more urgent. So many of us are looking for resources to help us process this tragedy and teach us what steps we can take to combat racism. The process won’t be glamorous, but I plan to never stop educating myself. I hope you will persevere through it with me.

    Show Highlights:

    Rebekah’s upbringing in a majority-black city and experience as a community organizer. How she got back into the world of social justice when she noticed her son’s mostly white world. Why we should push back against the belief that our children are too young or innocent to talk about racism and the death of George Floyd. How to move past our discomfort and overcome white fragility. What we can learn from Jilian Best’s conversation with her child about race and justice. How these conversations about race are dividing families and what to do about that.

    Links (affiliates included):

    Rebekah Gienapp’s website - https://www.rebekahgienapp.com

    The video to Jilian Best’s conversation with her child about race - https://www.facebook.com/100012209014313/videos/978240022592956/

    Parenting Forward Conference Sessions - https://gumroad.com/parentingforward?sort=page_layout

    Join us at the Parenting Forward Patreon Team - https://www.patreon.com/cindywangbrandt

    Parenting Forward, the Book - https://amzn.to/2GB6eDB3

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    If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

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  • It’s so important that we put real-world events into accessible language for our children so they can form their own opinions on them. Too much of mainstream media either hides hard topics from kids altogether or translates them so thoroughly that they are no longer based on facts. Francesca Cavallo is a children’s author who is on a mission to transform this part of our culture.

    Francesca is the author of 7 children's books and co-creator of the compilation of 100 tales of extraordinary women. This crowdfunding project raised more than a million dollars in pre-sales and is now a bestseller in homes across the world. Her latest book, Dr. Li and The Crown Wearing Virus, tells the story of the brave doctor who exposed the spread of the coronavirus. In today’s episode, I talk with her about the process of writing this book as well as the other stories for rebel girls that she loves to tell.

    Show Highlights:

    Francesca’s goal of inspiring children to be who they are through the stories of heroes. The most impactful historical and modern figures she has met. Mainstream family entertainment and its journey towards progressivism. Creating spaces for children to weigh in on real-life issues. How her book gives children the space to form their own ideas about the Coronavirus and protects them from xenophobia. Using accessible language so children can reach tough topics on their own.

    Links (affiliates included):

    Dr. Li and the Crown Wearing Virus - https://bit.ly/progressiveLi

    Parenting Forward Conference Sessions - https://www.parentingforwardconference.com/2019-sessions

    Join us at the Parenting Forward Patreon Team - https://www.patreon.com/cindywangbrandt

    Parenting Forward, the Book - https://amzn.to/2GB6eDB

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    If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

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  • Today, I'd like to introduce you to the authors of the upcoming book, The ABC's of Diversity: Helping Kids (And Ourselves!) Embrace Our Differences. Joining me to share some of the ABC's are Carolyn Helsel and Joy Harris-Smith.

    As I was reading their book, I was struck by how compassionately Carolyn and Joy set the table to speak for these hard conversations. Their goal is to walk parents and kids through the learning process of living fully in the diversity of who we are as families and as a society. I am excited to share their work and message with you today.

    Show Highlights:

    Conversations about identity, gender, race, or religion are not easy. Carolyn and Joy’s work is an attempt to put forth a balanced view about how we move forward in a world that is increasingly globalized and becoming more globalized every day. Some of the challenges parents and children face when embracing diversity. Conversations don't move toward action. They are the catalysts. But at some point, you have to move beyond the dinner-table conversation. How to practice moving from dialogue to informed action. Carolyn and Joy share some of the ABC's of Diversity from their book, including the unhelpful reactions we typically have talking about or being around people who are different. How to address white fragility - aka exerting control over the situation as a way of dealing with your anxiety, acknowledging those automatic ABCs, and moving into a more intentional response. "We don't want people to feel bad about being fragile. We want them to move through and past the fragility." Helping children educate themselves about social media sources and encouraging them to embrace diversity within social spaces. We explore the question, "Is it possible to have nuanced conversations that lead to real change?"

    Links (affiliates included):

    The ABCs of Diversity: Helping Kids (and Ourselves!) Embrace Our Differences - https://amzn.to/2XMifgh

    Anti Racism resources for white people -

    https://docs.google.com/document/d/1BRlF2_zhNe86SGgHa6-VlBO-QgirITwCTugSfKie5Fs/mobilebasic?fbclid=IwAR3JxqkXrlC15fZBsGddsO6feOsVv5WZUYUgYxLQlHZy_fWEVrVxgy_WXFg

    Parenting Forward Conference Sessions - https://gumroad.com/parentingforward?sort=page_layout

    Join us at the Parenting Forward Patreon Team - https://www.patreon.com/cindywangbrandt

    Parenting Forward, the book - https://amzn.to/2GB6eDB3

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    EPISODE CREDITS:

    If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

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  • Shannon Brescher Shea is a mom who writes about parenting, social justice, and sustainability. This week she joins me on the podcast to talk about her new book, Growing Sustainable Together, and how we can guide our children to cultivate kindness, our bodies, our minds, and Earth together as a family. I hope that as we work to move through the current global pandemic, we will take the giant wake up call from Mother Earth and move into a more sustainable way of living.

    Show Highlights:

    We discuss green guilt, the pressure to raise kids with self-awareness, and awareness about the world we live in. What it means to help our kids get closer to the food system. Introducing children to our food resources is not just about going and buying a tomato from the grocery store. It's about all the people and all of the environmental aspects that made that tomato. How a close connection to our food system helps our children grow up to be happy and healthy. Some of the ways families can stay in touch with their local community. How to listen and engage with children in environmental activism, including modeling social activism for younger children, and then inviting them in, if they're interested. A reminder to be engaged with your children, your community, and the food system in a sustainable way.

    Links (affiliates included):

    Barbara Brown Taylor’s session: https://www.parentingforwardconference.com/2020-sessions

    Shannon’s website: https://welleatyouupweloveyouso.com

    Growing Sustainable Together: https://amzn.to/2zu6FOF

    Join us at the Parenting Forward Patreon Team - https://www.patreon.com/cindywangbrandt

    Parenting Forward, the Book - https://amzn.to/2GB6eDB3

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    EPISODE CREDITS:

    If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

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  • Today we're talking about how to raise children with healthy sexuality. I've hosted a couple of episodes in the past about sex and parenting. I've also done an episode on breaking free from purity culture. In this episode, we're going to combine those two topics and discuss parenting after purity culture. Joining me to explore this topic is expert, Erica Smith. Erica is an award-winning sexuality educator. She has been providing sex education, HIV prevention, and support services to young women, LGBTQ, youth, and families since 2000. I'm excited to share our conversation with you.

    Show Highlights:

    Why dropping out of purity culture is not at all like dropping an actual class. Some of the biggest challenges Erica sees in her students and clients as they navigate this messy path out of purity culture. Advice for parents who are trying to deal with their purity culture and raise kids with sex-positivity. There can't be any sex-positive parenting without examining your feelings and beliefs about sex. Confusion is common, and not knowing what to say is normal. Parents need to understand that they're not alone, and being uncomfortable is typical for these conversations. What to do if your child comes across sexually explicit material online. We work through a lot of reframing for those of us who grew up in purity culture and evangelicalism; to change our minds about this idea that we have a right to pleasure. Erica offers some best practices for people to successfully execute these reframes. The beautiful thing about raising kids in sex positivity is that they won't have to do the difficult work of reframing as they grow into adolescence and adulthood. Overcoming purity culture may mean rejecting a particular set of values, but it doesn't mean entering into a vacuum of ethics. Recommendations for parents and families to help determine their sexual ethics.

    Links (affiliates included):

    Erica Smith’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ericasmith.sex.ed/?hl=en

    Sex Positive Families: https://sexpositivefamilies.com

    Cath Hakanson, Sex Ed Rescue: https://transactions.sendowl.com/stores/9866/125275

    Join us at the Parenting Forward Patreon Team - https://www.patreon.com/cindywangbrandt

    Parenting Forward, the Book - https://amzn.to/2GB6eDB3

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    EPISODE CREDITS:

    If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

    He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

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  • Today, I am sharing some of my own stories and reflections to hold witness to this unique moment in history - the COVID-19 crisis. I wanted to provide five pandemic parenting lessons I've learned so far. As we make our way through this crisis, I am sure there will be more lessons to uncover. I hope this episode inspires you, encourages you, and offers you support in some way.

    Show Highlights:

    The importance of giving transparent information to our kids. Some ways in which we can raise our kids to not buy into conspiracy theories. Our children can be a resource for us just as much as we are for them. How to capitalize on heightened spirituality. How to have a conversation with our children about privilege, equity. And how our well-being is intricately connected to the well-being of those around us in our neighborhoods, states, and even across the world. Why we should be raising our children to be storytellers.

    Links (affiliates included):

    Why did Jesus make the coronavirus? - https://mailchi.mp/21b30be69120/why-did-jesus-make-the-corona-virus?e=[UNIQID]

    Join us at the Parenting Forward Patreon Team - https://www.patreon.com/cindywangbrandt

    Parenting Forward, the Book - https://amzn.to/2GB6eDB3

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    EPISODE CREDITS:

    If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

    He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

    Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

  • A couple of weeks ago, we wrapped up the Parenting Forward conference. Today, I’m going to air some highlights from the conference so that you can experience some of the best parts of the speakers too.

    It may feel hyperbolic to say the conference changed my life, but in many ways, it did. Not only were the conversations I had with the speakers so incredibly life-giving, but the experience of going live with the attendees and engaging with them more intimately reminded me powerfully of how listeners of this podcast are full, powerful human beings with families, jobs, and hobbies.

    Please go check out each of the speakers’ work: follow them on Twitter, buy their books, and let’s continue to be in conversation about parenting with healthy spirituality.

    Show Highlights:

    Barbara Brown Taylor shared six different ideas parents can help to re-enchant the world with our children. Next up, Casper ter Kuile shared the problem we all are facing as a culture of loneliness, and how we can begin to address it with ritual and belonging. Rabbi Danya Ruttenberg talked about how we find theology and profound spirituality in the act of parenting. Lauren Duca discussed the different ways that young people have been boxed out of connection to a sense of agency. Next up, we had Danny Cortez, who talked about parenting and the patriarchy. Rev. Jacqui Lewis helped parents to tell a better story for their children. Our job is to be story weavers or to midwife a story to help a child midwife a story, to own an account, to change a story, and to be transformed. Micky Scottbey Jones discussed Enneagram and Parenting. Sometimes Enneagram spaces can feel very white and evangelical, so I appreciated having Micky’s perspective as a certified Enneagram instructor. Jessica Taft goes through five different assumptions, how to become aware of these assumptions, examine them, and disrupt them. Rachel Goble and Matthew Paul Turner talked about the ethics of telling children’s stories. Last, but certainly not least, Science Mike shared with us what it’s like to parent after faith deconstruction.

    Links (affiliates included):

    Parenting Forward Conference 2020 Sessions - https://www.parentingforwardconference.com/2020-sessions

    Join us at the Parenting Forward Patreon Team - https://www.patreon.com/cindywangbrandt

    Parenting Forward, the Book - https://amzn.to/2GB6eDB3

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    EPISODE CREDITS:

    If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

    He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

    Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

  • As the world is going through major growing pains, some days, it seems impossible to extricate the pandemic from the conversation about religion and spirituality. If you are a parent going through a rocky ride when it comes to your faith, or maybe you are watching your parents maneuver a faith crisis of their own, this episode is for you.

    There is something unique about the way people are handling their faith crisis because of how public and loud it is. And I wonder how that impacts the process of raising kids. To help me explore what to do when parents have a faith crisis, Diana Butler Bass joins me.

    Diana Butler Bass is an author, speaker, and independent scholar specializing in American religion and culture. What I appreciate most about her knowledge is how she frames her analysis of pop culture and religious events through the lens of the history of the church and how it has shifted and transformed. Her perspective is so valuable. I hope you enjoy our conversation.

    Show Highlights:

    Diana answers the question, "Are parents of today facing a faith crisis more tumultuous than their parents and their parents' parents?" People going through a faith crisis right now are doing it in a very public way. Public sharing has created permission for people to talk about things they hadn't talked about before. What can we draw from the differences between our faith crisis and that of our parents' experiences? A reminder for parents: Children have their journey as well. They're going to see things differently than you do. For one, they're not privy to your inner thoughts and your faith unless you communicate it to them. Children are active faith agents themselves. The role adults should play when they see children in a youth activist or spiritual capacity.

    Links (affiliates included):

    Diana Butler Bass - http://dianabutlerbass.com

    Parenting Forward Conference - https://www.parentingforwardconference.com

    Join us at the Parenting Forward Patreon Team - https://www.patreon.com/cindywangbrandt

    Parenting Forward, the Book - https://amzn.to/2GB6eDB3

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    EPISODE CREDITS:

    If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

    He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

    Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

  • Calling all kids! Today's episode is just for you. Check this out: usually, I talk to your parents about how to raise you with healthy spirituality. You know how doctors, nurses, and scientists can help you to stay physically healthy (like help you when you have a sore throat or stomach ache)? Well, there's another way of staying healthy too, and that's through spiritual wellness. Helping your parents and you stay healthy, spirituality, that's my job.

    I've invited my friends Brad Montague, Anna Skates, and Noah Glenn to the show. They're really good grownups who wanted to share a bit about themselves, about YouTube, and about how your parents can be better grownups. Plus, they want to remind you that you matter, you're fantastic, and even though the world is big and sometimes scary, there are little things we can all do to make it better. I hope you'll listen!

    Show Highlights:

    Brad asks you to consider this question: Where's your power? Things can be challenging. But there are little things we can do every single day to help. We talk about how the world is big, but you sometimes feel insignificant, like you can't do anything at all. But there are things you can do. What are they? Know the world can be better, and you'll be the cause. Keep going. Anna reminds you that you matter just as much as anyone else. We discuss big feelings too. How to talk about them and what to do. And we share a reminder: you're not alone. Finally, Noah helps us make some wishes for grownups listening and takes us through a mindfulness practice known as loving-kindness meditation.

    Links (affiliates included):

    Be a Better Grownup: BeABetterGrownup.com

    Anna Skates’ weekly zoom chats: https://www.wearekidco.com

    Noah’s Like You Podcast: https://likeyoupodcast.com

    Parenting Forward Conference - https://www.parentingforwardconference.com

    Join us at the Parenting Forward Patreon Team -https://www.patreon.com/cindywangbrandt

    Parenting Forward, the Book - https://amzn.to/2GB6eDB9

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    EPISODE CREDITS:

    If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

    He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

    Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

  • One of the biggest concerns I see among parents undergoing faith deconstruction is the desire or need to find a meaningful community. This week, Casper ter Kuile joins me to discuss how parents can find community in a post-religious world. Casper is the co-host of the popular podcast, Harry Potter and the Sacred Text. He's also the author of The Power of Ritual. Casper serves as a consultant to individuals who are exploring and interpreting the changing landscape of community and spiritual life.

    If you are asking questions like, "How do I gather with others, so my children have a solid community?" Or "How can I feel a sense of belonging if I no longer hold to my previously held religious convictions?" These are real concerns for many people, as spiritual demographics change drastically within this generation. Casper offers an insightful and helpful perspective on these topics. He's such a dynamic person, and I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did.

    Show Highlights:

    We discuss the true definition of community and why we crave it so much. Community is a conveyor of belonging. Casper offers why it's easier to connect when we're vulnerable. We talk about the podcasting community and how it is changing how people gather. The fluidity and freedom in relationships in today’s world is ever-changing. We can cultivate a sense of commitment and connection in our children's' lives; one way to do that is to be committed and to be there for them. We are living in a golden age of myth-making where these epic stories of good and evil are being played for us on big screens with ever-increasing frequency. So if we look at that as religious behavior, you know, religion is all around us. We don't call it that. We talk about rituals and ask, "What ritual would you like to have had in your childhood?"

    Links (affiliates included):

    Casper’s book, The Power of Ritual - https://amzn.to/2V0T3T8

    Parenting Forward Conference - https://www.parentingforwardconference.com

    Join us at the Parenting Forward Patreon Team - https://www.patreon.com/cindywangbrandt

    Parenting Forward, the Book - https://amzn.to/2GB6eDB9

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    EPISODE CREDITS:

    If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

    He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

    Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

  • Throughout the series, Parenting Decentering Whiteness, my special co-host, Leslie Arreola Hillenbrand, and I have been interviewing parenting influencers of color. Parenting spaces are majority white, which is a massive distortion of the actual world in which we live. If we want to raise our children into developing meaningful relationships with those around them, we have to start listening to voices that reflect the actual life experiences of our world.

    Today, we are joined by Iris Chen. Iris is a Chinese American known for her work with unlearning and detoxing from tiger parenting, aka untigering. She is a deconstructing tiger mother who is trying to become a gentle and respectful parent. We are so happy to have her with us to talk about her work and her perspective on parenting.

    Show Highlights:

    Tiger parenting, what it is and the practice of untigering Iris shares her own experience with tiger parenting and how she began to question what she was doing; and recognized the ways it was hurting her son and hurting their relationship. How Iris said she leaned on coercion, domination, and oppression over children and how she wants to encourage all of us to change and transform from those patterns and those strategies to anti-oppressive ways of relating with children. Perspectives on the orientation of undoing or dismantling - is it too negative? Some gaps that need to be filled in the Asian parenting community and what we wish would be talked about more. Speaking on ethnic identity, we discuss whether or not there are nonviolent or liberating parenting practices that are particular to the Asian American story. Whatever our culture is, we don't want to be wasteful. The idea of the shared plate in Asian culture and allowing a child to choose how much to put on their plate; acknowledging there are ways to practice not being wasteful yet also honor our kids' autonomy.

    Links (affiliates included):

    Iris Chen Untigering - https://untigering.com

    Gene Luen Yang - https://amzn.to/39Nb7UK

    Parenting Forward Conference - https://www.parentingforwardconference.com

    Join us at the Parenting Forward Patreon Team - https://www.patreon.com/cindywangbrandt

    Parenting Forward, the Book - https://amzn.to/2GB6eDB9

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    EPISODE CREDITS:

    If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

    He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

    Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

  • This week, we continue with the series, Parenting Decentering Whiteness. We are talking about what it means to raise free people with Akilah Richards. And, returning as my co-host is Leslie Arreola Hillenbrand of Latinx Parenting.

    Akilah Richards is a writer, unschooling organizer, and host of the Raising Free People podcast. In this episode, she shares why she decided to embark on the unschooling journey, what it means to trust our children, and how our children deserve to always be themselves. We have so much to learn from Akilah and her community. I'm honored to have her as our guest!

    Show Highlights:

    How to strike a balance when children are all of a sudden put into a situation where they are no longer going to school. Thoughts on how to become a better listener to our children What it means to trust our children truly and what it looks like in the context of parenting We don't need to be the resource. Instead, be good at listening and asking the questions. Our parents didn't mean respect. They meant obedience. It's easy to see how some of us are continuing those cycles of oppression. Akilah's shares her experience as a person and family of color in the unschooling space. We have a brief discussion on whitewashing and how it is in all kinds of forms because whether it's in your home or not when you step out into a classroom, you are also subjected to that in a different format, even when it's with amazing teachers. The importance of being very deliberate, intentional, and consistent about questioning the narrative and whiteness status quo



    Links (affiliates included):

    Akilah Richards’s website: https://www.raisingfreepeople.com

    Parenting Forward Conference - https://www.parentingforwardconference.com

    Join us at the Parenting Forward Patreon Team -https://www.patreon.com/cindywangbrandt

    Parenting Forward, the Book - https://amzn.to/2GB6eDB

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  • This week we discuss Parenting for Liberation and the work Trina Greene Brown is doing within her organization for the Black community. As we continue the series, Parenting Decentering Whiteness, we explore what it means to be a Black parent and raising a Black child in today's world.

    Leslie Arreola Hillenbrand, the founder of Latinx Parenting, re-joins me as my co-host. We welcome Trina Greene Brown to the show. Trina is a mother, activist, and founder of Parenting for Liberation. Parenting for Liberation believes in the power of Black parents to conceive, birth, and nurture liberation for the future.

    Show Highlights:

    How Parenting for Liberation works to challenge notions of what it means to be a Black child As parents, as children, and as a family, we must ensure we are resilient, bold, proud, and joyful as Black folks. Parenting for Liberation tries to bring parents together to look at the ways the systems have oppressed us historically, current ongoing oppression, and how can we heal them Trina discusses the delicate balance between the positive and the negative parts of this her work It takes many different people in different movements to see how that contributes to the broader movement. A challenge to those who don't identify as parents of color because we could potentially interrupt the cycles of violence that impact communities of color at the hands and leadership of non-communities of color. We have a conversation about spanking and why gentle parenting, not spanking your children, is something we strive to do. We explore why white parents should be talking about the intersection of oppression, slavery, colonization, and its impacts on communities of color and the way we parent. Parenting during the COVID-19 pandemic as Black, Indigenous, or People of Color



    Links (affiliates included):

    Trina’s website - https://parentingforliberation.org

    Parenting for Liberation: A Guidebook for Raising Black Children -https://amzn.to/2Wx4EKV

    Stacey Patton - https://amzn.to/2wu55eg

    Post Traumatic Slave Syndrome - https://amzn.to/2J6i8oT

    My Grandmother’s Hands - https://amzn.to/2J58rag

    We live for the We - https://amzn.to/3bmqqoT

    Parenting Forward Conference - https://www.parentingforwardconference.com

    Join us at the Parenting Forward Patreon Team -https://www.patreon.com/cindywangbrandt

    Parenting Forward, the Book - https://amzn.to/2GB6eDB

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    If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

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  • I am excited to bring you my next series, Parenting Decentering Whiteness. This series features interviews with parenting influencers of color, people challenging authoritarian parenting paradigms while contending with whiteness. Joining me to co-host this special series is Leslie Arreola Hillenbrand, co-founder of Latinx Parenting.

    If you are a person of color listening to the series, I hope you'll find resonance and support as you listen in on how some of us are managing, navigating, and being in the arena. If you are a white person, I hope you will learn from our perspectives, help to dismantle white supremacy in parenting spaces, and become more inclusive of voices that are not white. The parenting influencers featured in this series are the people who are helping guide you to shape the next generation.

    Show Highlights:

    The default narrative and face of what we see is very white, but parenting influencers of color do exist The best way to combat the fact that white culture is not universal is through the power of story Leslie's organization Latinx Parenting is an organization that offers nonviolent parenting or parenting with nonviolence Parenting influences of color contend with whether we create for an audience of people of color or the white audience. And if it's both how to navigate that complexity. Why we think it's important to talk about parenting decentering whiteness and what it means A white parenting world is not factual, and it's not true. When we are talking about parenting, truth is so crucial to a child's identity. What white parents can learn from Latino families

    Links (affiliates included):

    Latinx Parenting - https://www.latinxparenting.org

    Latinx Parenting Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/latinxparenting/

    Nikolai Pizarro -https://www.instagram.com/raisingreaders/

    Mercedes Samudio - https://www.diversityinparenting.org/our-founder

    Parenting Forward Conference - https://www.parentingforwardconference.com

    Join us at the Parenting Forward Patreon Team -https://www.patreon.com/cindywangbrandt

    Parenting Forward, the Book - https://amzn.to/2GB6eDB

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    If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

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  • Today we are going to talk about healing attachment wounds and creating safe communities, as we wrap up the series on Parenting After Religious Trauma. As parents with spiritual trauma wounds, how can we participate and be a part of society without continuing to trigger ourselves? That is just one of the questions we'll answer in this episode.

    To help explore this topic, Brian Peck is back as my co-host. And our guest expert is Janelle Stauffer. Janelle is a licensed clinical social worker and a trauma-informed attachment therapist who works with children, parents, and families. She's a fierce advocate for trauma survivors and shares her wealth of knowledge as a university instructor, clinical supervisor, speaker, and clinician. She shines the brightest as a mom to her two amazing humans.

    We covered much ground in this series, yet I know there's still more to be said. Thank you for joining me on my healing journey from religious trauma. We can get through everything together.

    Show Highlights:

    Attachment: what it is and why it matters. Some conditions or factors that support attachment as a healthy connection, as opposed to an insecure attachment. Which factors make attachment challenging or difficult. When a caregiver is the source of fear and trauma, a child cannot come back and regulate themselves, they're stuck in a fear state. We explore the attachment relationship and the idea of God. We're all wired for growth unless we have unmet needs, and then we're wired to meet those needs. Practical strategies parents can implement to create a context for secure or earned attachment to form. The importance of being mindful when parenting after religious trauma Secure attachments solve some big conflictual problems that are showing up in our communities. When people are safe, they enter the world with security, the adverse outcomes from conflict decrease significantly. Why parents should have open communication with kids and allow them an exit strategy.

    Links (affiliates included):

    Janelle Stauffer, LCSW - http://www.janellestauffer.com

    Parenting After Religious Trauma Mini-Course Registration- https://workshop.www.religioustraumainstitute.com/parenting_after_religious_trauma

    Religious Trauma Institute - https://www.religioustraumainstitute.com

    Religious Trauma Institute Facebook Page -https://www.facebook.com/religioustraumainstitute

    Religious Trauma Institute Instagram -https://www.instagram.com/religioustraumainstitute

    Parenting Forward Conference - https://www.parentingforwardconference.com

    Join us at the Parenting Forward Patreon Team -https://www.patreon.com/cindywangbrandt

    Parenting Forward, the Book - https://amzn.to/2GB6eDB

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  • In Part 3 of the series, Parenting After Religious Trauma, we debate the use of the term spirituality and discuss why language matters. We also continue our conversation on how we can engage with healthy parenting practices as parents with religious trauma.

    My co-host, Brian Peck, is co-founder of Religious Trauma Institute and is a licensed clinical social worker specializing in religious trauma. He brings his expertise to this series as we expound on our reflections as survivors of spiritual trauma. Tori Williams Douglass also returns, she first joined us in Part 2 of the series. Tori is a parent and fellow survivor of religious trauma.

    Show Highlights:

    We continue our conversation on how to respond to our children's spiritual curiosity, given our spiritual trauma. Empowering children that you can believe whatever you want, as long as you are treating other people with respect and dignity. We debate and discuss the term spirituality and how it can be triggering. We recognize the importance of making space for people to define spirituality the way they wish to describe it. How to respond when you see your child has a transcendent experience. Be willing to let your children walk their journey. Our role is to listen, support, accept, and believe what they are going through as their own experience. Responding to children's spiritual or religious rituals. The challenge for parents who have religious trauma is to navigate the minefield of triggers. Tori shares some background about her work, creating anti-racist education.

    Links (affiliates included):

    White Homework - https://www.patreon.com/toriglass

    Parenting After Religious Trauma Mini-Course Registration - https://workshop.www.religioustraumainstitute.com/parenting_after_religious_trauma

    Religious Trauma Institute - https://www.religioustraumainstitute.com

    Religious Trauma Institute Facebook Page -https://www.facebook.com/religioustraumainstitute/

    Religious Trauma Institute Instagram -https://www.instagram.com/religioustraumainstitute/

    Parenting Forward Conference - https://www.parentingforwardconference.com

    Join us at the Parenting Forward Patreon Team -https://www.patreon.com/cindywangbrandt

    Parenting Forward, the Book - https://amzn.to/2GB6eDB

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  • Today as we continue the series Parenting After Religious Trauma, we discuss some of the common parenting struggles we may have after religious trauma. The focus for this entire series is to address the health and well-being of people who suffer from religious trauma, how to heal, and find wholeness. This series teaches parents to be healthier, break toxic cycles of religiosity, and pass on health and wholeness to their kids. It's a win-win for parents, children, and the world.

    Brian Peck, co-founder of Religious Trauma Institute returns as my co-host. Joining us as our special guest is Tori Williams Douglass, an anti-racist educator, writer, and content creator. Tori was raised as an evangelical, left evangelicalism, and is the mother of two children. Together we talk about her experiences parenting after religious trauma, the common responses to adverse religious experience, and how to can engage with healthy parenting practices.

    Show Highlights:

    Tori’s experiences and upbringing in an evangelical household. Fear, shame, and powerlessness are common responses to an adverse religious experience. Ways shame shows up in parenting everyday scenarios. The ideal situation for parents is to be authentically themselves so their kids can be authentically themselves too. Tips for navigating intergenerational relationships when you're trying to be the religious cycle breaker. Loss of Community and Relationships after Religious Trauma: How to find your way through the loneliness. Ways to respond to children's spiritual curiosity with questions or exploring spiritual practices, given your own spiritual trauma.

    Links (affiliates included):

    White Homework - https://www.patreon.com/toriglass

    Parenting After Religious Trauma Mini-Course Registration - https://workshop.www.religioustraumainstitute.com/parenting_after_religious_trauma

    Religious Trauma Institute - https://www.religioustraumainstitute.com

    Religious Trauma Institute Facebook Page - https://www.facebook.com/religioustraumainstitute/

    Religious Trauma Institute Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/religioustraumainstitute/

    Parenting Forward Conference - https://www.parentingforwardconference.com

    Join us at the Parenting Forward Patreon Team - https://www.patreon.com/cindywangbrandt

    Parenting Forward, the Book - https://amzn.to/2GB6eDB

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    If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

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  • How do you know if you're a parent who suffers from religious trauma? If your goal is to raise children with healthy spirituality then, first, you have to acknowledge and address your own spiritual wounds and religious trauma. It is one of the biggest challenges to cultivating healthy spirituality for our children.

    This is why I am excited to be launching a brand-new series. The series, Parenting After Religious Trauma, works to provide listeners with information, tools, and resources to unpack and work through religious trauma. I will be collaborating with the Religious Trauma Institute which provides a space for mental health clinicians, advocates, researchers and survivors to expand the conversation about adverse religious experience. Brian Peck, co-founder of Religious Trauma Institute and licensed clinical social worker, will be my co-host for this special series.

    Today with the help of Laura Anderson, licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and a Ph.D. candidate and co-founder of Religious Trauma Institute, we define religious trauma, discuss the symptoms, talk about adverse religious experiences, and more.

    Show Highlights:

    Religious trauma: How do you know you have it? What are the symptoms? Trauma is very perceptive. It doesn't have to be that something real is happening. It's the perception that something is dangerous or unsafe. Why it's so important to think about trauma through the lens of the nervous system. You have religious trauma if you suffer or if you struggle with responses to something that's happened to you. We talk about adverse religious experiences and how they span a whole spectrum of different experiences. Religious Trauma Institute’s goal is to help others understand how to be safe inside of religion as well as to help religious organizations recognize from a harm reduction perspective, how their various beliefs, practices, and structures are harmful. We discuss how to know when your nervous system is responding to religious trauma. Some practices to help you get to a place where you feel powerful again.

    Links (affiliates included):

    Religious Trauma Institute - https://www.religioustraumainstitute.com

    Religious Trauma Institute Workshop - www.workshop.religioustramainstitute.com

    Religious Trauma Institute Facebook Page -https://www.facebook.com/religioustraumainstitute/

    Religious Trauma Institute Instagram -https://www.instagram.com/religioustraumainstitute/

    Parenting Forward Conference - https://www.parentingforwardconference.com

    Join us at the Parenting Forward Patreon Team -https://www.patreon.com/cindywangbrandt

    Parenting Forward, the Book - https://amzn.to/2GB6eDB

    ***

    EPISODE CREDITS:

    If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

    He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

    Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com