Episodes

  • What is the impact of burnout on teachers, and how can it trickle down to students and our communities?  We are talking with Stanford professor Greg Hammer about post-pandemic burnout and how to center ourselves. BJ answers a community question about needing psychotropic medications to function, and how to get out of guilt about a brain that needs meds.

    In this episode we also talked about:

    Gain without Pain: The Happiness Handbook for Health Care Professionals
    Enjoy Life Thai Chili Lime Lentil Chips 
    AG Hair Curl Re:coil Curl Activator
    Cottage Core Print Kit
    Stilts
    Bigger Stilts

    Usual Wines are wines for the modern drinker. They make single-serving wines in adorable glass bottles. They are great for travel, great for girl’s nights or date nights when people want their own type of wine, and perfect for gifts. Usual Wines has several varieties: a red blend, a rosé, and a sparkling white wine. All of their wines are low carb with 0 grams of sugar. Go check out their website at usualwines.com and use our discount code “SELFIE” for $8 off your first order and your first glass on us!



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  • Matthew Paul Turner joins us to talk about the new book he completed with our late friend Rachel Held Evans, and we chat about our memories of her. BJ gives advice on finding a good therapist for kids. 

    In this episode we also talk about:

    What Is God Like? by Rachel Held Evans and Matthew Paul Turner
    Jordans Skinny Syrups Sugar Free Blueberry Lavender
    Sencha Green Tea Powder Decaf 30 Single Serving Packets
    Anastasia Brow Freeze
    Amazon Essentials Tech Tee 2-Pack

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  • Lacey Dunn, author of The Women's Guide to Hormonal Harmony, helps us understand how to make sense of declines in metabolism. BJ gives advice on how to talk to kids about sex.

    In this episode we also talked about:

    Bee's Knees Lavendar + Honeysuckle Cocktail Kit
    African Dream Foods Safari Smoke Seasoning and Brai BBQ
    Theanine for sleep
    Ouai Hair Oil

    It can be really hard to know what vitamins or supplements you should be taking, but Care/of makes it easy with an online quiz that let’s you know exactly what you need for daily vitamins. Care/of delivers daily vitamin and supplement s customized to your recommendations, sent right to your door every month. For 50% off your first Care/of order, go to TakeCareOf.com and enter code selfie50.

     

    Photo by Bruno Nascimento on Unsplash

  • Nicole Lynn Lewis, author of the new memoir Pregnant Girl, talks to us about community care for teen moms and young families. Roo and Kristen discuss their kids getting the vaccines and BJ talks on the gender gap and why women tend to carry a greater emotional load.

    In this episode we also talked about: 

    Generation Hope
    Pregnant Girl: A Story of Teen Motherhood, College, and Creating a Better Future for Young Families
    Exa High Fidelity Foundation
    Nutracollegen Immune Maximizer+
    Burke Williams Spa
    Amazon Basics Round Foam Roller
    Sun Bum Tinted Lip Balm

    Usual Wines are wines for the modern drinker. They make single-serving wines in adorable glass bottles. They are great for travel, great for girl’s nights or date nights when people want their own type of wine, and perfect for gifts. Usual Wines has several varieties: a red blend, a rosé, and a sparkling white wine. All of their wines are low carb with 0 grams of sugar. Go check out their website at usualwines.com and use our discount code “SELFIE” for $8 off your first order and your first glass on us!

    Photo by Shari Sirotnak on Unsplash

  • Jessica Bacal, author of the new book The Rejection That Changed My Life, helps us normalize rejection, and shares what she learned interviewing powerful women about their own rejections. BJ talks about the difference between victimhood and victimization. 

    In this episode we talk about:

    Waxelene
    Mychelle Ultra Hyaluronic Hydrating Cream - Hyaluronic Acid, Plant Stem Cells, Blue Lotus, Rose Petals, and Freshwater Algae.
    The Rejection That Changed My Life: 25+ Powerful Women on Being Let Down, Turning It Around, and Burning It Up at Work
    Daily Rituals: Women at Work 143 artists on how they paint, write, perform, direct, choreograph, design, sculpt, compose, dance, etc. 
    Cocokind Oil-to-Milk Cleanser

    It can be really hard to know what vitamins or supplements you should be taking, but Care/of makes it easy with an online quiz that let’s you know exactly what you need for daily vitamins. Care/of delivers daily vitamin and supplement s customized to your recommendations, sent right to your door every month. For 50% off your first Care/of order, go to TakeCareOf.com and enter code selfie50.

    Usual Wines are wines for the modern drinker. They make single-serving wines in adorable glass bottles. They are great for travel, great for girl’s nights or date nights when people want their own type of wine, and perfect for gifts. Usual Wines has several varieties: a red blend, a rosé, and a sparkling white wine. All of their wines are low carb with 0 grams of sugar. Go check out their website at usualwines.com and use our discount code “SELFIE” for $8 off your first order and your first glass on us!

  • Nupeutics Health’s Bernadette Judge helps us understand adrenal fatigue and how to treat it.,Roo talks about sucking at transitions, Kristen talks about the relief of having kids back in school, and BJ helps us figure out how to build back our post-pandemic friendship muscles and dormant social skills.

    In this episode we also talked about:

    Washable Reusable Mask Carrying Cases 
    Watermelon CBD Gummies
    We Toast CBD Cigarettes
    Ice Face Roller
    imissmycafe.net
    Nupeutics Stress Master Supplements

    The Total Eye Lift from Clarins is a plant-based formula is fueled by ingredients of 94% natural origin. A combo of Organic Harungana extract and Cassie Flower wax give a visible lifting and wrinkle-smoothing effect. It works on crow’s feet, dark circles, and puffiness, and it’s also an anti-aging cream. 80% of women who tried it reported a visible eye lift in :60 seconds flat*  86% noticed a visible difference in 4 weeks and visibly firmer skin. Discover more about Clarins products at clarinsusa.com, and get 10% off your purchase of Total Eye Lift with the code SELFIE10.

    EveryPlate’s easy-to-follow recipes and pre-portioned ingredients take the stress out of dinnertime. Great for kids learning to cook and great for parents who are stressed between work and school supervision.  EveryPlate does the meal planning, shopping, and prepping for you, taking the time-consuming guesswork out of cooking. Try EveryPlate for just $1.99 per meal plus an additional 20% off your next 2 boxes by going to EveryPlate.com and entering code selfie199.



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  • We are talking about how we are navigating the pace of life picking up as COVID restrictions ease, and how to know the right time to leave a marriage.

    In this episode we also talk about:

    Ergonomic Mouse
    Ethique Dandruff Shampoo Bar
    Sweet + Sassy Shampoo Bar
    Preemptive Love Candle 
    Breakout Box

    Photo by Katja Ritvanen on Unsplash

    The Total Eye Lift from Clarins is a plant-based formula is fueled by ingredients of 94% natural origin. A combo of Organic Harungana extract and Cassie Flower wax give a visible lifting and wrinkle-smoothing effect. It works on crow’s feet, dark circles, and puffiness, and it’s also an anti-aging cream. 80% of women who tried it reported a visible eye lift in :60 seconds flat*  86% noticed a visible difference in 4 weeks and visibly firmer skin. Discover more about Clarins products at clarinsusa.com, and get 10% off your purchase of Total Eye Lift with the code SELFIE10.

    It can be really hard to know what vitamins or supplements you should be taking, but Care/of makes it easy with an online quiz that let’s you know exactly what you need for daily vitamins. Care/of delivers daily vitamin and supplement s customized to your recommendations, sent right to your door every month. For 50% off your first Care/of order, go to TakeCareOf.com and enter code selfie50.

  • We interview Daisy Dowling, author of the book Workparent, about what the pandemic revealed about working moms, and how to work towards that elusive balance as we move forward. 

    In this episode we also talk about:


    Jenny Lawson’s new book, Broken in the Best Possible Way
    Sweetology Cake-Decorating Kits
     Neutrogena Ultra Sheer Face Stick 
    ”I’m Vaccinated” Buttons
    Peter Thomas Roth Instant Mineral Broad Spectrum SPF 45 
    Workparent: The Complete Guide to Succeeding on the Job, Staying True to Yourself, and Raising Happy Kids

    Photo by Sai De Silva on Unsplash

  • We’re chatting with Brooke Baldwin, journalist and television host who had been at CNN from 2008 until she announced her departure from the network last month. Her new book Huddle: How Women Unlock Their Collective Power is all about how women can lift each other up.

    In this episode we also talked about

    The Libby App for audiobooks from your local library
    Very Gay Paint (@verygaypaint) on TikTok
    Ursa Major Fortifying Face Balm
    Paula’s Choice 2% Liquid Exfoliant

     

  • Kristen and Roo talk about indecision spirals, Ingrid Harm-Ernandes helps us understand pelvic floor health, and BJ gives advice for finding a good therapy. In this episode we also talk about:

    Utopia Kitchen Flour Sack Dish Towels
    Parchment Paper Sheets 16x24 Inches,
    Worry Stones
     Standing Punching Bag



    The Total Eye Lift from Clarins is a plant-based formula is fueled by ingredients of 94% natural origin. A combo of Organic Harungana extract and Cassie Flower wax give a visible lifting and wrinkle-smoothing effect. It works on crow’s feet, dark circles, and puffiness, and it’s also an anti-aging cream. 80% of women who tried it reported a visible eye lift in :60 seconds flat*  86% noticed a visible difference in 4 weeks and visibly firmer skin. Discover more about Clarins products at clarinsusa.com, and get 10% off your purchase of Total Eye Lift with the code SELFIE10.

     

    Photo by Kyle Glenn on Unsplash

  • Roo and Kristen discuss forgetting how to socialize in the pandemic, BJ talks about the pandemic void only girlfriends can fill, and author Kathy Khang helps us make sense of racism against the Asian American community, and how to be an ally/co-conspirator.

    In this episode we talked about:

    Kathy Khang on instagram
    Kathy Khang on twitter
    Stop AAPI Hate
    APIA Vote
    Asian American Day of Action
    Bianca Mabute-Louie on Instagram
    Angry Asian Man
    A Call for Solidarity from AAPI Faith Leaders on Youtube
    Multipurpose Immersion Hand Blender 
    Derry Girls on Netflix
    Baked by Melissa
    Encyclopedia of New York



    The Total Eye Lift from Clarins is a plant-based formula is fueled by ingredients of 94% natural origin. A combo of Organic Harungana extract and Cassie Flower wax give a visible lifting and wrinkle-smoothing effect. It works on crow’s feet, dark circles, and puffiness, and it’s also an anti-aging cream. 80% of women who tried it reported a visible eye lift in :60 seconds flat*  86% noticed a visible difference in 4 weeks and visibly firmer skin. Discover more about Clarins products at clarinsusa.com, and get 10% off your purchase of Total Eye Lift with the code SELFIE10.

     

    Photo by Jason Leung on Unsplash

  • Meagan Francis: writer and author, podcaster at The Mom Hour, and mother of reinvention.is chatting with us about divorce and coparenting in the time of COVID. BJ is helping clarify the difference between a boundary vs. an ultimatum when dealing with difficult people.

    In this episode we also talked about:

    The Happiest Mom: 10 Secrets To Enjoying Motherhood,
    Target Hair Clip
    OLOVES Natural Whole Pitted Olives
    Dr Dennis Gross Alpha Beta Peel
    Matrix Green Shampoo



    The Total Eye Lift from Clarins is a plant-based formula is fueled by ingredients of 94% natural origin. A combo of Organic Harungana extract and Cassie Flower wax give a visible lifting and wrinkle-smoothing effect. It works on crow’s feet, dark circles, and puffiness, and it’s also an anti-aging cream. 80% of women who tried it reported a visible eye lift in :60 seconds flat*  86% noticed a visible difference in 4 weeks and visibly firmer skin. Discover more about Clarins products at clarinsusa.com, and get 10% off your purchase of Total Eye Lift with the code SELFIE10.

     

    Photo by Jackson Simmer on Unsplash

  • Lauren Ellman, author of BRB: A Memoir About Coming of Age In the Digital Age, is talking with us about the intersection of social media and anxiety, and how she learned that connection was causing distress. Kristen shares about getting the vaccine, she and Roo remember the FlyLady cleaning craze, and BJ helps us determine the difference between adult ADHD and pandemic brain fog.

    In this episode we also talked about:

    Jordan’s Skinny Classic Coffee Syrup Trio
    Flour & Branch Cookies
    Eekontos Ceramics
    Mask Case

    The Total Eye Lift from Clarins is a plant-based formula is fueled by ingredients of 94% natural origin. A combo of Organic Harungana extract and Cassie Flower wax give a visible lifting and wrinkle-smoothing effect. It works on crow’s feet, dark circles, and puffiness, and it’s also an anti-aging cream. 80% of women who tried it reported a visible eye lift in :60 seconds flat*  86% noticed a visible difference in 4 weeks and visibly firmer skin. Discover more about Clarins products at clarinsusa.com, and get 10% off your purchase of Total Eye Lift with the code SELFIE10.



    Photo by Jakub Kriz on Unsplash

  • We are talking with Dr. Cynthia Hayes about toxic positivity and how to avoid projecting it onto our friends with serious illness. 

    In this episode we also talk about:

    The Big Ordeal: Understanding and Managing the Psychological Turmoil of Cancer
    Sourse Chocolate Supplement Bites
    The Durrells in Corfu on MASTERPIECE on PBS
     Baron Fig Journals (Use Roo’s link for $10 off!)
    Paddywax Candles

    The Total Eye Lift from Clarins is a plant-based formula is fueled by ingredients of 94% natural origin. A combo of Organic Harungana extract and Cassie Flower wax give a visible lifting and wrinkle-smoothing effect. It works on crow’s feet, dark circles, and puffiness, and it’s also an anti-aging cream. 80% of women who tried it reported a visible eye lift in :60 seconds flat*  86% noticed a visible difference in 4 weeks and visibly firmer skin. Discover more about Clarins products at clarinsusa.com, and get 10% off your purchase of Total Eye Lift with the code SELFIE10.

    Photo by Kelly Sikkema on Unsplash

  • We are talking with Emily Paulson, co-founder of the Sober Mom Squad, about drinking in mom culture, and how the pandemic has affected drinking habits. BJ talks about the loss of her aunt to COVID, and how the pandemic compounds the grief of losing a loved one.

    In this episode we also talked about:

    Bowls of Plenty: Recipes for Healthy and Delicious Whole-Grain Meals
    3,001 This or That Questions
    Women Who Dared: 52 Stories of Fearless Daredevils, Adventurers, and Rebels 
    Pacifica Stress Rehab & Caffeine Facial Mask
    Why Sobriety is a superpower for women | Emily Paulson | TEDxBeaconStreet

    Ana Luisa is jewelry company with amazing design, as well as a sustainable mission. In addition to making beautiful earrings, necklaces and bracelets, their company offsets 100% of their carbon emissions, starting with the sourcing of their raw materials. They are also committed to quality, with long-pasting pieces created from high-quality metals, and a 365-day warranty to back  it up, with fair prices starting at $39. These pieces are a fantastic gift for yourself and the ones you love. Ana Luisa is offering 10% off all products with the code SELFIE at analuisa.com.

    Photo by Zachary Kadolph on Unsplash

  • Stephanie Estima, author of The Betty Body and a clinician in functional neurology, is sharing how more orgasms can actually improve our health on a number of levels. We also talk about hitting that pandemic wall and what we are doing about it, and how much privacy vs. supervision we should be allowing our kids on their phones.

    In this episode we also talked about

    Johnny Was Face Masks
    VOVO STYLEMENT VB-3000SE Electronic Bidet Seat,
    SKIMS bralettes and underwear
    TruSkin Vitamin C Serum

    EveryPlate is up to 58% cheaper than other major meal kits on the market, and an inexpensive alternative to takeout or delivery. Recipes come together in about 30 minutes and EveryPlate offers contactless delivery to your doorstep for easy home cooking on a budget. EveryPlate’s easy-to-follow recipes and pre-portioned ingredients take the stress out of dinnertime. Try EveryPlate for just $1.99 per meal plus an additional 20% off your next 2 boxes by going to EveryPlate.com and entering code selfie199.



     

    Photo by Johnathan Kaufman on Unsplash

  • Kristen is chatting with Candace Burch about the results of a recent hormone test, her results (which were problematic but also common) and what she can do to do get things back on track. BJ helps us with breaking free of the cellphone pull.

    In this episode we also talked about:

    Old Survivor episodes on Prime
    Cards Against Humanity: Family Edition
    Imagine Out Loud
    Weighted Bar
    Your Hormone Balance

    Ana Luisa is a jewelry company with amazing design, as well as a sustainable mission. In addition to making beautiful earrings, necklaces and bracelets, their company offsets 100% of their carbon emissions, starting with the sourcing of their raw materials. They are also committed to quality, with long-pasting pieces created from high-quality metals, and a 365-day warranty to back it up, with fair prices starting at $39. These pieces are a fantastic gift for yourself and the ones you love. Ana Luisa is offering 10% off all products with the code SELFIE! Check out analuisa.com/SELFIE. Last day to guarantee US standard shipping before V-Day is FEBRUARY 10. 

     



     

    Photo by Patrick Fore on Unsplash

  • We’re talking mom-shame, life on the internet, writing, and more with our friend Laura Tremaine, author of the new book Share Your Stuff: I’ll Go First. Kristen and BJ also chat about what a deeper shift in soul-care looks like (hint: it’s not bath bombs.)

    In this episode we also talk about:

    Imperfect Foods Produce Delivery
    Thistle Meal Delivery
    Amazon Subscribe + Save Pantry Goods
    Charitea Berry Fields Forever
    Yoassi 2 Pack 18/8 Stainless Steel Tea Infuser Mesh Strainer
    SYLVECO Body Care for Sensitive Skin
    OUAI hair oil
    Etsy chore cards

    Ana Luisa is a jewelry company with amazing design, as well as a sustainable mission. In addition to making beautiful earrings, necklaces and bracelets, their company offsets 100% of their carbon emissions, starting with the sourcing of their raw materials. They are also committed to quality, with long-pasting pieces created from high-quality metals, and a 365-day warranty to back  it up, with fair prices starting at $39. These pieces are a fantastic gift for yourself and the ones you love. Ana Luisa is offering 15% off all products leading up to Valentine’s Day! Check out analuisa.com. Last day to guarantee US standard shipping before V-Day is FEBRUARY 10.  



    BJ’s GROUNDING EXERCISE

    It's preferable to do this with bare feet in grass or dirt, but not necessary. If possible, take off your shoes, even if it's inside.

    Stand with feet shoulder width apart, arms relaxed at your sides.
    Be sure feet are comfortably positioned on the ground.
    Posture should be aligned but relaxed.
    Shake out your arms and roll your head slowly for a few moments to feel your body relax and release any excess energy.
    Begin to "roll" your feet on the ground until every part of the surface of your feet has touched the ground, including the arch and the base of your toes (spreading the toes and pressing them down helps with this).
    Once you've completed that, find the most comfortable position on the ground for your feet.
    Begin to sway side to side then front to back slowly for about 30-60 seconds, or as long as you'd like.
    Raise your arms up over your head, inhaling as you go and stretching your body to its fullest length.
    As you exhale, lower your arms out to the side then continue down, bending to touch your toes.
    Repeat this motion as many times as you'd like until the body feels fully relaxed.
    Now extending the forearms from your sides forward, elbows snug but relaxed against your sides, with palms turned upward, relax into your feet.
    You may stand still or sway side to side, whatever feels most comfortable to you.
    At this point, your body should begin to feel heavy, and you should feel a sensation of being "pulled" through your feet into the earth.
    Stay in this position for as long as you like. 

    EXPRESSIVE WRITING PROTOCOL

    To start, in a few words, write down what you are feeling. 

    Then with a scale of 1-10, rate how positive you feel with 1 being not at all positive and 10 very positive. 
    Now do the same with any negativity you feel. 1 is not negative at all, 10 is very negative. 
    Then rate how meaningful life feels to you right now with 1 being not at all meaningful and 10 very meaningful. 
    Now write for 10 minutes about anything that is bothering you. Set a timer and when it goes off, finish the sentence you're writing then rate yourself again on Positivity, Negativity and Meaning. Only this time rate how meaningful the writing exercise was. 
    You can do this for any length of time UP TO 10 minutes but not longer. However, if you are still bothered, you can repeat the process as many times as you like. But don’t skip over the ratings at beginning and end. 

    MORNING PAGES - FOR ANXIOUS THOUGHTS & OVERWHELM

    Morning Pages are three pages of longhand, stream of consciousness writing, done first thing in the morning. 
    There is no wrong way to do Morning Pages – they are not high art.

  • We are talking decision fatigue . . . that paralysis and exhaustion that happens when we have too much to decide. We talk about how we’ve been trying to simplify and automate to avoid decision fatigue where we can.

    In this episode we also talk about:

    Everlane cashmere scrunchie
    Zen Heel Socks
    The Lazy Genius
    Bite Toothpaste Bits
    NanoBio Protect Nasal Antiseptic

    Today’s episode of Selfie is sponsored by shapeandfoster.com.  Shape & Foster is a lifestyle development app that provides monthly actionable insight from six experts in mental health, financial planning, nutrition, fitness, yoga, and a life coach. It is a one stop shop for self-improvement.  The app provides a proactive and informed approach to improving your mental well-being, by enabling practices and habits to be built. Visit www.shapeandfoster.com for your free 14-day trial.

     



    Photo by Brett Jordan on Unsplash

  • Between the pandemic and political strife, the world feels upside-down right now. We are talking through how to process the political upheaval we are collectively experiencing, and how to balance self-care with staying aware of what’s going on in the world. 

    In this episode we talk about:

    Thistle
    Perfect Image Glycolic 30% Gel Peel
    Cell Phone Sanitizer
    Pill Box

    Today’s episode of Selfie is sponsored by shapeandfoster.com.  Shape & Foster is a lifestyle development app that provides monthly actionable insight from six experts in mental health, financial planning, nutrition, fitness, yoga, and a life coach. It is a one stop shop for self-improvement.  The app provides a proactive and informed approach to improving your mental well-being, by enabling practices and habits to be built. Visit www.shapeandfoster.com for your free 14-day trial.