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  • Christine Koh is giving us advice on how to parent smarter, not harder. Parenting is often easier when we simplify, and that there are benefits to our kids when we let ourselves off the hook, too. Christine is the co-author of the book Minimalist Parenting and co-host of the podcast Edit Your Life. In this episode we also talk about:

     Ecoslay Orange Marmalade Flaxseed and Aloe Curl Definer 
    Pure Synergy Super B Complex Supplements
    Julep Multistick
    Supergoop Defense Refresh



     

    Chronic stress impacts our immune system, energy levels, and mood, and has lasting effects on your overall health. Apollo is a new wearable that improves your body’s resilience to stress, so you can stay healthy and productive. Apollo engages with your sense of touch, training your nervous system to bounce back more quickly from stress, going from “fight or flight” to “rest and digest” so you can stay calm, focus, relax, sleep, and stay healthier. Apollo actually trains your nervous system over time, so the more you wear it, the less you’ll need it to bounce back from stress. Try Apollo today and get 15% off your purchase at http://apolloneuro.com/SELFIE. 

  • We are talking with author Melanie Shankle on raising teenagers, finding our own sense of self as a mom, and being in the weird middle place of life. BJ is talking about how to manage people in our lives who have done things that are really hurtful, and Claire is giving advice on how and when to use that hydrating mist. In this episode we also talked about:

    On the Bright Side: Stories about Friendship, Love, and Being True to Yourself
    Rage Against the Minivan
    Love Beauty And Planet Shampoo Bar for Color Treated Hair The Executive Functioning Workbook for Teens: Help for Unprepared, Late, and Scattered Teens 
    Baron Fig
    Steven Smith Tea



    Chronic stress impacts our immune system, energy levels, and mood, and has lasting effects on your overall health. Apollo is a new wearable that improves your body’s resilience to stress, so you can stay healthy and productive. Apollo engages with your sense of touch, training your nervous system to bounce back more quickly from stress, going from “fight or flight” to “rest and digest” so you can stay calm, focus, relax, sleep, and stay healthier. Apollo actually trains your nervous system over time, so the more you wear it, the less you’ll need it to bounce back from stress. Try Apollo today and get 15% off your purchase at http://apolloneuro.com/SELFIE.

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  • We are chatting with Elyse Snipes, licensed therapist, founder of Radical Wellness Collaborative, and co-host of Trailercast, a podcast about mental health. BJ talks to us about how we can improve our self-esteem and Claire talks about how to deal with hyperpigmentation and acne scarring. In this episode we also talk about:

    Evidence Skincare (ESK) 
    Ben Platt Live from Radio City Music Hall | Netflix
    Elyse Snipes Collective 
    NYX Jumbo Eyeliner Pencil
    Yoga ball



    Today’s episode is also sponsored by Hero Cosmetics. They have an incredible product called the Mighty Patch, a hydrocolloid patch that extracts impurities so well that you can see the impurities in the patch after removal. If you struggle with acne popping up at the worst time, it’s a great solution.  If you want to try the Mighty Patch for yourself use code SELFIE15  for 15% off at herocosmetics.com.

    Personal (R)evolution is a 3-month podcast course that will help you create a clear vision for what you want out of life. Hosted by best-selling author and life coach Allison Task,  Personal (R)evolution helps you take control of your life with inspiration and humor, so that you move from where you are now to where you want to be (and have fun doing it). It's available wherever you listen to podcasts or you can find all episodes of the show at https://www.himalaya.com/revolution1.

    If you are struggling with debt right now, and high interests rates are making it hard for you to get our of the credit card debt on your own, sponsor Payoff.com may be an option to get out of the debt cycle.  A Payoff Loan is a personal loan, backed by member-centric credit unions, designed to help you pay off your credit cards. With rates as low as 5.99% APR, and loan amounts up to $35,000. There are no hidden fees and Payoff.com offers customer service support to help you reach your financial goals. Go to Payoff.com/Selfie to learn more. 

    Chronic stress impacts our immune system, energy levels, and mood, and has lasting effects on your overall health. Apollo is a new wearable that improves your body’s resilience to stress, so you can stay healthy and productive. Apollo engages with your sense of touch, training your nervous system to bounce back more quickly from stress, going from “fight or flight” to “rest and digest” so you can stay calm, focus, relax, sleep, and stay healthier. Apollo actually trains your nervous system over time, so the more you wear it, the less you’ll need it to bounce back from stress. Try Apollo today and get 15% off your purchase at http://apolloneuro.com/SELFIE. 

  • Kristen talks about staying nice in the midst of a book launch. We chat with R. Eric Thomas about the weird world of writing on the internet, and finding the balance between writing about humor and pop culture and also writing about social justice issues. This episode was recorded a few weeks ago, and as we discussed how we've tried to engage people on issues of racial justice, little did we know it would soon be a national conversation. BJ gives us advice on living in authenticity, and Claire talks about what to do if your cloth face covering is making you break out. In this episode we talk about:

    Here For It: How to Save Your Soul in America,
    Rage Against the Minivan
    Fitbit Flex 2
    Minted Art at Target
    Katie Craig
    Milk Makeup Kush Lip Balm Green Dragon
    Mudhouse Sabbath by Lauren Winner

    Hero Cosmetics has an incredible product called the Mighty Patch, a hydrocolloid patch that extracts impurities. If you struggle with acne popping up at the worst time, it’s a great solution.  Use code SELFIE15  for 15% off at herocosmetics.com.

    It can be really hard to know what vitamins or supplements you should be taking, but Care/of makes it easy with an online quiz that let’s you know exactly what you need for daily vitamins. Care/of delivers daily vitamin and supplement s customized to your recommendations, sent right to your door every month. For 50% off your first Care/of order, go to TakeCareOf.com and enter code selfie50.

    Shopping and meal-planning has been made even more challenging. HelloFresh cuts out stressful meal planning and grocery store trips, so you can enjoy cooking and get dinner on the table in just about 30 minutes. Easily change your delivery days or food preferences, and skip a week whenever you need. There’s something for everyone, including low-calorie, vegetarian, and family-friendly recipes every week. Go to HelloFresh.com/60selfie and use code 60selfie to get $60 off your first three weeks, including free shipping on your first box. Additional restrictions apply, please visit HelloFresh.com for more details.

    If you are struggling with debt right now, and high interests rates are making it hard for you to get our of the credit card debt on your own, sponsor Payoff.com may be an option to get out of the debt cycle.  Go to Payoff.com/Selfie to learn more. 

    Today’s charity focus is SaveTheChildren.Org. Right now, the coronavirus is the biggest global health crisis of our lifetime-threatens children in every way.  Covid-19 has already left many children without caregivers, out of school and exposed to violence and exploitation. With your support SaveTheChildren.Org can help kids in unsafe households and help support distance learning in the face of school closures.

  • Kristen talks about launching her book, Roo braves the public wearing of her sports bra, Claire answers if the Clarisonic lives up to the hype, and BJ discusses attachment styles. We also chat with Jonathan Merritt about learning to overcome the drive to please and perform. 

    In this episode we also talked about:


    Rage Against the Minivan
    Learning to Speak God from Scratch
    Cooks Innovations Non-Stick Oven Liner
    Cook Once, Eat All Week: 26 Weeks of Gluten-Free, Affordable Meal Prep 
    Acupressure Therapy Balls
    Acorns Investing app



    This episode is sponsored by SaveTheChildren.Org. Right now, the coronavirus is the biggest global health crisis of our lifetime-threatens children in every way.  Covid-19 has already left many children without caregivers, out of school and exposed to violence and exploitation. With your support Save the CHildren can help kids in unsafe households and help support distance learning in the face of school closures.

    Today’s episode is also sponsored by Hero Cosmetics. They have an incredible product called the Mighty Patch, a hydrocolloid patch that extracts impurities so well that you can see the impurities in the patch after removal. If you struggle with acne popping up at the worst time, it’s a great solution.  If you want to try the Mighty Patch for yourself use code SELFIE15  for 15% off at herocosmetics.com.

    If you are struggling with debt right now, and high interests rates are making it hard for you to get our of the credit card debt on your own, sponsor Payoff.com may be an option to get out of the debt cycle.  A Payoff Loan is a personal loan, backed by member-centric credit unions, designed to help you pay off your credit cards. With rates as low as 5.99% APR, and loan amounts up to $35,000. There are no hidden fees and Payoff.com offers customer service support to help you reach your financial goals. Go to Payoff.com/Selfie to learn more.
    NMLS ID# 1396805. Not all applicants may qualify. Loans only available within the United States. Loan is not available in all states. Payoff works with lending partners who originate the loans. Additional terms, conditions, and eligibility requirements may apply. More information is available at payoff.com/Selfie.

  • Kristen and Roo are talking about the murder of George Floyd and learning to be better allies, and are sharing some of the black voices that have helped shape their views. We are also talking with Glennon Doyle about letting go of expectations and redefining "perfect", and her new book Untamed.

    In this episode we talk about:

    The Condemnation of Blackness: Race, Crime, and the Making of Modern Urban America, With a New Preface by Khalil Gibran Muhammad
    How to Be an Antiracist by Ibram X. Kendi
    I’m Still Here: Black Dignity in a World Made for Whiteness by Austin Channing Brown
    The Hate U Give by Angie Thomas
    Reddit: Black People Twitter
    IjeomaOluo
    Luvvie Ajayi
    Rachel Cargle
    Latasha Morrison
    Baratunde Thurston
    Jamil Smith
    Gene Demby



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    This episode is sponsored by SaveTheChildren.Org. Right now, the coronavirus is the biggest global health crisis of our lifetime-threatens children in every way.  Covid-19 has already left many children without caregivers, out of school and exposed to violence and exploitation. With your support Save the CHildren can help kids in unsafe households and help support distance learning in the face of school closures.

    Today's episode is also sponsored by Hero Cosmetics. They have an incredible product called the Mighty Patch, a hydrocolloid patch that extracts impurities so well that you can see the impurities in the patch after removal. If you struggle with acne popping up at the worst time, it's a great solution.  If you want to try the Mighty Patch for yourself use code SELFIE15  for 15% off at herocosmetics.com.

    If you are struggling with debt right now, and high interests rates are making it hard for you to get our of the credit card debt on your own, sponsor Payoff.com may be an option to get out of the debt cycle.  A Payoff Loan is a personal loan, backed by member-centric credit unions, designed to help you pay off your credit cards. With rates as low as 5.99% APR, and loan amounts up to $35,000. There are no hidden fees and Payoff.com offers customer service support to help you reach your financial goals. Go to Payoff.com/Selfie to learn more. 
    NMLS ID# 1396805. Not all applicants may qualify. Loans only available within the United States. Loan is not available in all states. Payoff works with lending partners who originate the loans. Additional terms, conditions, and eligibility requirements may apply. More information is available at payoff.com/Selfie.

  • We talk with Brit Barron about learning to live with fear and uncertainty, and letting go of the need to control outcomes. Kristen and Roo discuss the things they’ve let go of during quarantine, and how priorities have shifted. In this episode we also talk about: 

    Worth It: Overcome Your Fears and Embrace the Life You Were Made For 
    Swaddle Designs Face Masks (kid sizes and designs)
    Dead to Me
    Lauren Ostrowski Fenton’s It’s OK Meditation
    Beeswax candles (on Etsy)
    Beeswax candles (on Amazon)

    New sponsor Jupiter is fast and effective stress-relief in a bottle. Their USDA Organic CBD Drops relax your mind and body.  Try Jupiter risk-free for 30 days with FREE shipping and use the code SELFIE during checkout to get 10% OFF your entire purchase.

    This episode is also sponsored by SaveTheChildren.Org. Right now, the coronavirus is the biggest global health crisis of our lifetime-threatens children in every way.  Covid-19 has already left many children without caregivers, out of school and exposed to violence and exploitation. With your support Save the CHildren can help kids in unsafe households and help support distance learning in the face of school closures.

  • We are discussing strategies for keeping the house clean, if that's important to you, including how to get kids to help. We talk with Jamie Wright about divorce after a long marriage. And BJ shares help for ongoing anxiety in the midst of a pandemic.

    In this episode we also talk about:

    The Circle Home Internet Monitor
    The Half of It on Netflix
    Buy Nothing Group
    R+Co Badlands Dry Shampoo Paste

     

     

  • We are chatting with Latasha Morrison, author of Be the Bridge, about racial justice, and specifically about Ahmaud Arbery and how we can take our outrage and push towards action. BJ gives us advice for that Mother's Day hangover, Roo shares a new meditation habit, and Kristen discloses some of the new difficulties of coparenting in a pandemic.



    In this episode we also talk about: 

    Drunk Elephant D Bronzi Anti Pollution Sunshine Drops
    Healist CBD Calm Chews
    Smash Live 
    Hamilton coming to Disney+
    Sustain Lip Balm

     

     

  • We're giving you a sneak peek and another podcast today, called Motivate Me. Dean is obsessed with being better today than he was yesterday, so he created a daily podcast to share the golden nuggets of inspiration and knowledge he picked up along his self-development journey. The idea for Motivate Me is that every episode has the potential to transform your life. You can find Motivate Me on Apple Podcasts or on your favorite podcast listening app.

  • We are chatting with Michelle Keinan, wellness coach and co-founder of City Wellness Collective, about how to deal with our own stress and trauma so we aren’t taking it out on others. BJ talks about how to make meaning of this season, and Claire gives advice on dealing with razor bumps.

    In this episode we also talk about: 

    Mrs. America 
    Heathmade Sandalwood and Vanilla Lotion Bar
    Joggers
    Towel wrap



    Photo by niklas_hamann on Unsplash

  • We’re chatting with Jen Hatmaker about how women can break free of perfectionism and people-pleasing, and BJ reads a meditation over us, while Claire answers a listener question about crow’s feet.

    We also talked about:

    Fierce, Free and Full of Fire by Jen Hatmaker
    Life Elements CBD Topical Cream
    ChocZero's Dark Chocolate Almonds with Sea Salt Keto Bark
    Costa Farms Clean Air House Plants
    Ellia Wind Down Essential Oil
    Honest Company Retinol
    Satin Pillow Cases

  • We are all struggling with how to feed a family in quarantine. It’s so much meal prep, and groceries can be inconsistent. Stacie Billis, of the Didn't I Just Feed You?! podcast,, is here to offer advice. BJ talks about the importance of self-care, and Claire answers a reader question about what to do with wiry facial hair.

    In this episode we also talk about:

    Winner! Winner! Chicken Dinner: 50 Winning Ways to Cook It Up! by Stacie Billis
    Make It Easy: 120 Mix-and-Match Recipes to Cook from Scratch by Stacie Billis
    Turmeric Supplements for inflammation by Pure Synergy
    Organic VItamin C® Capsule
    New York Times Monday Puzzles
    Amazon Echo
    Kristen’s Hair-Removing Coil
    Tea Tree Oil



    Photo by Stefan Vladimirov on Unsplash

  • The pandemic is affecting everyone, but what about dual-household families? And what do you do when each parent has a different outlook on CDC recommendations? In this episode, we interview Erin Levine from Hello Divorce to discuss how shelter-in-place orders are affecting everyone with custody schedules. Claire talks about how to deal with dry hands when we’re all washing our hands obsessively, and BJ gives us advice on how unresolved grief and trauma can effect our current collective grief and trauma states.

    In this episode we talked about:

    Cheeky Custom Night Guards 
    Cocooil Ocean Leave-In Spray
    Compression Socks
    Fanny Pack
    Trader Joe’s Supreme Hydrating Eye Cream (only $5.99!)
    Dr. Bronners Balm
    Honest Beauty All Over Balm



    A huge thanks to Podcorn for sponsoring this episode. Explore sponsorship opportunities and start monetizing your podcast by signing up here: https://podcorn.com/podcasters/

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    Photo via Diego Jock.

  • The global pandemic requires that we stay home and pause from all the usuals — and the isolation is affecting even the most introverted of us (Kristen!). But social distancing is really about physical distancing, and we're all finding ways to remain social. In this episode, Kristen and Roo discuss staying connected and whether or not six-feet-apart-driveway-hangouts are ok (they both say no — you'll hear why). BJ answers a listener question about living in a marriage when the sex life has died.

    In this episode we also talked about:

    Pressure Point Ball
    Shiner Photo: Custom Photo Prints on Wood
    The Good Stuff Botanicals Organic Skin Care
    24-Pack Cleaning Towels
    Tea Towels
    Austin Channing Tatum's A Conversation With My Jaw



    Photo by Kelly Miller on Unsplash

  • The stress of the current pandemic has affected sleep for many of us. We are talking about strategies and routines for making sure we are sleeping well. BJ talks about how to avoid living in a state of anticipated grief, and ow to get out of the cycle of trying to control things we can't. And we give a check-in on our quarantine self-care efforts, including Roo's still-missing COVID-19 test results.

    In this episode we also talked about:

    $130 Chromebook
    Paww SilkSound Wireless Headphones
    Clip-On Ring Light with Phone Mount
    HD Clip-On Web Camera
    TimeCube
    Guts by Raina Telgemeier
    SimpleHabit (now free!)



     

    Photo by Megan te Boekhorst on Unsplash

  • In this episode, we can’t not discuss COVID-19. We chat about our current struggles — guidelines for COVID and asthma being contradictory and how that affects Kristen; Roo still waiting for her COVID results — as well as laughing so we don’t cry. (For example, Kristen attempts explaining reality TV show plotlines to an incredulous Roo.)BJ also responds to the anxiety many of us have been having around COVID and leads us through a soothing meditation. Our Selfie Podcast Community on Facebook has been a great place for support and talking through ideas in the midst of all of this. If you’re looking for a place to vent or connect, please join us there!Last week, we also did our first “Social Distancing Social Hour” via Zoom, and we had a great time. Look for an upcoming “Selfie Happy Hour”!In this episode we also talked about: TABLETOPICS Family TableTopics Teen TABLETOPICS Family Gathering The Spatty Galison Puzzles (Frank Lloyd Wright) Galison Puzzles (Book Club) Fingertip Pulse Oximeter Dr. Jart Ceramidin Cream Kim's Convenience | Netflix Schitt's Creek | Netflix Brooklyn Nine-Nine | NBC Ramy | Hulu 60 Days In | A&E Previse Hydromilk Pressed Serum Bella Terra BB Cream, Tinted Moisturizer ACURE Seriously Soothing Cloud Cream Honest Beauty Deep Hydration Face Cream with Baobab Seed Oil & Shea Butter Keys KPRO 1-Step All Natural Tinted Moisturizer Lotion Foundation Vapour Organic Beauty Atmosphere Soft Focus FoundationCBD has many benefits, and we are big proponents. But not all CBD is created equal. Unlike other CBD brands, who offer just CBD, Hempfusion is CBD plus omegas plus terpenes plus other natural ingredients to help you feel 100%. HempFusion’s specific blend of natural ingredients help with stress, sleep, and energy, and it can be shipped anywhere in the US. Use the promo code SELFIE for 20% off of your first order and free shipping at hempfusion.com.Photo by Thought Catalog on Unsplash

  • In this episode, we move from our usual format to take a deeper dive into what’s happening with COVID-19 and how it’s affecting every aspect of our lives. If you’re worried, well, you’re not alone. We have an open and honest conversation about our fears of the future, one of us getting tested for COVID, and — for the sake of a moment of levity — apocalyptic grooming and the things that are keeping us sane. Some stuff we currently can’t live without:Suddenly Homeschooling?: Masterclass (my kids are loving this, it’s $15 for the whole family — KH) Khan Academy (math and grammar and it’s free — KH & RP) Dominoes (not for the traditional game; let them spend hours making domino runs; plenty of math, creativity, and physics involved! — RP) Clipboards (print out some worksheets and a writing prompt, stick it individual clipboards, and let them work through those at the kitchen table — RP)Apocalyptic Self-care Cuticle butter (removed my gel nail polish myself, DIY nail care here on out — RP) Emery boards Weleda Skin Food (with all of us washing our hands extra extra, it keeps my hands from feeling like sandpaper — RP) At-home hair dye (COVID won’t catch me with roots — KH) You are the Beloved by Henri Nouwen (a balm to my soul in these trying times — RP)CBD has many benefits, and we are big proponents. But not all CBD is created equal. Unlike other CBD brands, who offer just CBD, Hempfusion is CBD plus omegas plus terpenes plus other natural ingredients to help you feel 100%. HempFusion’s specific blend of natural ingredients help with stress, sleep, and energy, and it can be shipped anywhere in the US. Use the promo code SELFIE for 20% off of your first order and free shipping at hempfusion.com.Photo by Paweł Czerwiński on Unsplash

  • We are talking about the growing fears around the COVID-19 virus and how we are finding the balance between being prepared and not panicking. BJ talks about social anxiety vs. introversion and Claire discusses the temptation to tan before a vacation.

    In this episode we talked about:

    Trophy Skin RejuvadermMD at Home Handheld Microdermabrasion Machine
    SNOOZ White Noise Machine
    Glossier Boy Brow
    Glossier Lipstick
    Glossier Super Bounce
    Glossier FutureDew
    Dr. Bronner’s hand spray
    KeepCup
    Coronavirus Stats



    CBD has many benefits, and we are big proponents. But not all CBD is created equal. Unlike other CBD brands, who offer just CBD, Hempfusion is CBD plus omegas plus terpenes plus other natural ingredients to help you feel 100%. HempFusion’s specific blend of natural ingredients help with stress, sleep, and energy, and it can be shipped anywhere in the US.  Use the promo code SELFIE for 20% off of your first order and free shipping at hempfusion.com.

    Photo by Anna Earl on Unsplash

     

  • Roo and Kristen are both dealing with PTSD and talk about how it has affected their lives. BJ addresses the number one mental health topic in our community: anxiety. And Claire offers her best recommendations for moisturizing body oil.



    In this episode we also talked about: 

    Fab Slabs Anti Bacterial Cutting Boards
    CLEARstem VITAMINscrub Daily Exfoliation
    TikTok App
    Better Than Before by Gretchen Rubin
    Honest Company Body Oil
    All Good Organic Coconut Oil Skin Food w/Lavender Essential Oil
    Earth Love Glowing Places Body Oil
    SheaMoisture Coconut & Hibiscus Bath, Body & Massage Oil

    CBD has many benefit, and we are big proponents. But not all CBD is created equal. Unlike other CBD brands, who offer just CBD, Hempfusion is CBD plus omegas plus terpenes plus other natural ingredients to help you feel 100%. HempFusion’s specific blend of natural ingredients help with stress, sleep, and energy, and it can be shipped anywhere in the US.  Use the promo code SELFIE for 20% off of your first order and free shipping at hempfusion.com.

     

    Photo by Freshh Connection on Unsplash