Masturbating with matesThe Hook Up add
Recently, Sir Paul McCartney of the Beatles revealed a bit more than we bargained for in a GQ interview about sex acts he’d performed in front of his writing partner, John Lennon. Which lead us to ask, how many of us masturbate with our mates and is there anything wrong with that? Featuring lecturer from the School of Political and Social Sciences at the University of Melbourne, Dr Lauren Rosewarne.
Sounding aka putting a steel rod in your pee holeThe Hook Up add
Ever thought of putting a steel rod into your urethra for sexual pleasure? Sounding can be done no matter what genitals you have. You’ll hear from Mistress Tokyo on what’s involved with this act and why it might be best left to the pros, and producer James Findlay goes to a sounding workshop to see how to sound a penis first hand.
Being the 'other lover'The Hook Up add
While it’s rough being cheated on, what’s it like to be the ‘other lover'? How can you reconcile the conflicting feelings around being that person, hoping that one day they might leave their partner and be with you? You can also find yourself in a spiral of thoughts finding reasons to justify your actions…
Guys who can't cum during sexThe Hook Up add
If you’re having sex with a partner and they don’t cum, do you feel inadequate? Not cumming during intercourse is usually something we associate with cis, hetro women, but it happens to a number of guys as well. It can leave the guy feeling unsatisfied and leave their partner feeling like they’re not good enough. Especially when guys are assumed to cum all the time.
You’ll hear from a couple of guys who just can't cum during penetrative sex, and from a sex therapist on how this problem works and how you might be able to fix it.
Fear of abandonmentThe Hook Up add
Have you ever experienced clinginess in a relationship or have stayed with someone because you’d rather not be alone? It might be because of something that happened when you were just a kid.
Learn about the fear of abandonment and attachment styles when a psychologist drops by and hear how a listener's fear of abandonment has been effecting his relationships.
Latex and rubber fetishThe Hook Up add
You may have heard of people having a leather fetish, but have you heard much of rubber and latex fetish? It’s where you wear special latex and rubber costumes.
Can you imagine how hard they might be to put on…?! You'll meet Mistress Mynx, a kink personal trainer and latex enthusiast and a young Melbourne guy who became the country's first Rubberman and then went on to be the runner-up in the International Rubberman competition.
Swingers, sex dance clubs and gay saunasThe Hook Up add
Have you ever been out at a bar or a club with your partner, or maybe someone you just picked up, and thought, “I can’t wait, I just want to have sex right now … in front of all these people…” Well, there are special places where that can happen. They’re called sex on premises venues, bars, clubs and spaces where you can have sex, right there, without leaving.
Some provide beds, cubicles, saunas and pools to play, and for many people, they had conjured up a seedy sort of image. Darkened hallways, cum stains and sweat, but what are they really like inside? On the podcast you’ll hear from some owners and organisers of these types of venues, and Nat went to my first gay sauna to see what’s on offer.
Dating on a budgetThe Hook Up add
If you go on a lot of dates, you might be burning a hole in your wallet trying to find love. There’s the food, the movie tickets, that flash new outfit, and if you’re going on several dates a week it can add up. So how can you woo someone on a budget? New research from dating site eHarmony has found that young Aussies are spending around $2000 a year on dates. That’s not an insignificant amount of dosh. You’ll hear from former serial-dater, Rose Callaghan on some cheap date ideas, and how can we find romance without going broke with psychologist Sharon Draper.
BDSM healingThe Hook Up add
BDSM usually conjures images of whips, chains, ropes and restriction AKA implements of pain! But for some people, it’s a way of overcoming physical, psychological and sexual trauma. On this podcast, we’re exploring the world of bondage therapy. You’ll hear from sex therapist Jeremy Shub on why it works, and holistic councillor Bianca Wolff on whether it can work for you. You'll also meet Ollie from Sydney, who lives with cerebral palsy and has tried BDSM as a way of helping him feel better in his body.
The Hook Up's Kissing MasterclassThe Hook Up add
Kissing is fun and it’s a great way to get to know someone intimately, but it’s pretty easy to get it wrong. How much tongue is too much? Eyes open or closed? And what do you do with your hands? Welcome to The Hook Up's Kissing Masterclass with sexuality and relationship educator Emma "The Tonguinator" Power.
Bucks and hens nightsThe Hook Up add
If you or a mate are getting married any time soon, you might have to deal with the last hurrah: the bachelor or bachelorette party. On this podcast, we’re looking at where the idea of the debaucherous last night of freedom comes from and what to do when your hens or bucks goes too far and ruins your big day. You’ll hear from theatre maker, sex worker and former stripper, Nicole Henrisken, on her experiences doing bucks parties and psychologist Gemma Cribb will be in to talk about why the last hurrah is a bit problematic.
Consent Part 3: Alcohol & lessons from BDSMThe Hook Up add
You made it to part three of our podcast mini-series on consent. On this episode you’ll find out how to navigate consent when alcohol is involved and dominatrix Mistress Tokyo will teach us how consent works in BDSM. We continue our conversation with sex therapist Tanya Koens and psychologist Dr Stephen Andrew. And you’ll hear from singer Tia Gostelow - who also happens to be a passionate consent advocate - about her friends' negative experience at schoolies
Consent Part 2: Enthusiastic consentThe Hook Up add
This is part two of our podcast mini-series on consent. On this podcast, we look at what enthusiastic consent is and how you can apply it in the bedroom. You’ll hear from sex therapist Tanya Koens about how we define consent, psychologist Dr Stephen Andrew on why some might think they have consent when they don’t and Dr Nikki Goldstein on how and when you can change your mind, and why some people endure sex they’re not 100% into.
Consent Part 1: How To Pick Up in the #MeToo eraThe Hook Up add
Welcome to part one of our podcast mini-series on the C word. Yep, we're talking about consent. We’ve been told it’s as simple as making a cup of tea, so why are so many people so confused about it? We’re getting into every aspect of consent in this mini-series. On this podcast, you’ll learn how to apply consent when meeting new people at the bar or online, and get some consensual pick up tips. And we'll also look at where the conversation around consent is up to in the post #MeToo world.
Dating with OCDThe Hook Up add
Have you ever had a partner who insists everything needs to be super tidy? Imagine every time you’d catch up with them, they feel the need to clean. You, sitting in the bathroom having a chat while they’re cleaning the shower…
Obsessive Compulsive Disorder can have a real effect on your relationships. You’ll hear from a psych on how you can work through dating with OCD, from Alex, a speaker from Batyr, who’s working his way through living with OCD.
If anything in this podcast brings something up for you, you can call Lifeline on 13 11 14.
What is Hepatitis C?The Hook Up add
How much do you know about Hepatitis C? Up until recently the medication to treat people with Hep C had a lot of side effects, but recent medical advances have made Hep C really easy to get rid of - especially now the government is helping to pay for the medication.
While it’s not technically and STI, it can be transmitted during sex. Featuring Professor Greg Dore from the Kirby Institute.
More info: Hepatitis Australia
National Hepatitis Info Line on 1800 437 222
Can you date someone who doesn't like the same books, TV shows or music as you?The Hook Up add
If you’re a big music lover, or a movie buff, how do you deal when your partner doesn’t share your taste? Is it a dealbreaker for you?
You’ll hear from relationships therapist Amanda Lambros on how you can reconcile your differences and Junkee music writer Jared Richards on when he dated someone who's cultural tastes just didn't match.
Sex in video gamesThe Hook Up add
Robert Yang is a game designer from New York, a lot of his games focus on gay sex in pretty full on ways. So full on, he’s been constantly banned from the Steam online game store and Twitch, the livestreaming game platform. Nat also checks out his game 'Ruck Me', a game about AFL and homosexuality.
ForeskinsThe Hook Up add
You might not think about them at all, but some people are kinda obsessed with them. On the podcast you’ll hear a little about foreskin fetish with a sex therapist Cat O'Dowd and you’ll also find out why it’s so important to keep it clean (among other things) with Dr Brad.