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  • Sara and Jay are back this week to finish our discussion of justice-centered sex education! This week we discuss moral panics and also provide structure, guidance, and questions to ask yourself to build sex ed centered on trans justice.

    We tried to focus on offering structures, guidelines, and tangible ways you can question your own work, but there's no way we could cover everything in one show. For more on this, check out our previous episode, number 63, and also Episodes 1, 9, 11, 21, 23, 24, 34, and 53.

    Transcript: https://otter.ai/s/IicmJZnuTvGPk7Ojfgieqg

    Segments:
    1:30 - Intro
    4:59 - Word of the Show: Moral Panic
    20:33 - Famous Moral Panics of the Past and Present
    28:43 - Patreon Message
    32:30 - Main Topic Intro
    38:49 - 5 (+2 Extra) Steps for Building Justice-Centered Sex Education
    44:32 - Working Backwards to Build a Foundation
    49:11 - Power Dynamics and Sex Ed
    56:11 - We Can't Do This Work in a Vacuum
    59:02 - Helpful Guidelines to Start From
    1:07:15 - Questions to Ask Yourself

    Show Links:

    https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/wicked-deeds/201507/moral-panic-who-benefits-public-fear

    https://www.newstatesman.com/culture/games/2019/08/moral-panic-over-fortnite-and-purpose-play

    https://www.aier.org/article/the-anatomy-of-a-moral-panic/

    https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/youre-wrong-about/id1380008439

    https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/american-hysteria/id1441348407

    https://rossieronline.usc.edu/youth-and-racism/akiea-gross-op-ed

    https://www.bgdblog.org/2016/04/how-sex-education-fails-people-of-color-in-the-united-states/

    https://wearyourvoicemag.com/sex-and-health/sex/sex-education-centering-whiteness

    https://www.huffpost.com/entry/afrosexology-sex-positivity_n_5b69b913e4b0de86f4a59f1a

    http://www.nativeyouthsexualhealth.com/whatwebelievein.html

    https://rewire.news/article/2015/04/09/can-teach-kids-consent-without-bringing-sex-conversation/

    https://theestablishment.co/the-sad-case-of-laci-green-feminist-hero-turned-anti-feminist-defender-322515344297/

    https://www.themarysue.com/laci-green-terf-impression/

    Sex Education Guidelines:

    https://www.bzga-whocc.de/en/publications/standards-in-sexuality-education/

    https://siecus.org/wp-content/uploads/2018/07/Guidelines-CSE.pdf

    https://culturallyboundgender.wordpress.com/2013/03/09/toward-an-end-to-appropriation-of-indigenous-two-spirit-people-in-trans-politics-the-relationship-between-third-gender-roles-and-patriarchy/

    https://www.bgdblog.org/2016/07/appropriating-two-spirit/

    https://intersexroadshow.blogspot.com/2016/08/the-problematic-ideology-of-natural-sex.html

  • This week, Sara and Jay talk about the difference between "trans-inclusive" sex ed and building sex ed based on a justice framework more broadly. Also discussed, inclusion, virginity, life-long sex ed, and reproductive justice.

    Transcript: https://otter.ai/s/yxW1Eq_tTeefHcc5G02ZVg

    Segments:
    1:30 - Intro
    3:22 - Accountability Corner
    17:57 - Word of the Show: Inclusion
    25:00 - "The Language of Appeasement" Article Discussion
    35:09 - Patreon Message
    36:40 - Main Topic Intro
    41:41 - What's Wrong With Sex Ed?
    54:12 - Why Make Sex Ed Better?
    1:04:59 - Being Justice-Centered
    1:15:03 - Risk Aware Sex Ed
    1:28:00 - Sex Education isn't a Biology Class

    Show notes:

    www.them.us/story/sex-with-acrylics-is-safe

    www.twitter.com/DrDLStewart

    www.insidehighered.com/views/2017/03/30/colleges-need-language-shift-not-one-you-think-essay

    www.zora.medium.com/when-black-women-go-from-office-pet-to-office-threat-83bde710332e

    www.queersexed.org/archive/2018/4/20/reproductive-justice-and-family-building-queer-sex-ed-podcast-episode-21

    www.queersexed.org/archive/2018/1/18/identifying-desire-asexuality-and-aromanticism-queer-sex-ed-podcast-episode-9

    www.queersexed.org/archive/2018/2/5/sharing-your-desires-queer-sex-ed-podcast-episode-11

    www.queersexed.org/archive/2019/4/21/biological-sex-and-expanding-the-trans-medical-model-queer-sex-ed-podcast-episode-53

    www.medium.com/@QSE/the-xx-xy-lie-our-social-construction-of-a-sex-and-gender-binary-4eed1e60e615

    www.coloradoindependent.com/2019/05/23/colorado-laws-sex-ed-consent/

    Audre Lorde Reads Uses of the Erotic: www.youtube.com/watch?v=xFHwg6aNKy0 (CW: cissexism, anti-pornography) Text version: https://uk.sagepub.com/sites/default/files/upm-binaries/11881_Chapter_5.pdf

    www.akpress.org/pleasure-activism.html

    www.medium.com/@JessieRaeFisher/on-neopronouns-eec46705c5dc

    www.nonbinary.miraheze.org/wiki/English_neutral_pronouns

    www.cnn.com/2010/HEALTH/10/01/guatemala.syphilis.tuskegee/index.html

    www.siecus.org/sex-ed-is-a-vehicle-for-racial-justice/

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  • Join Jay and Sara as we explore the innies and outies of genital torture play (sometimes called CBT). We'll talk about pain tolerance, dysphoria, safety tips, and give examples of genital torture play you might never have thought about before!

    Transcript: https://otter.ai/s/Bjuvrzx9T2mvJ37L3CWrAQ

    Segments:
    1:30 - Intro
    7:21 - Word of the Show: Pain Tolerance
    14:40 - How Do You Find Your Pain Tolerance?
    22:40 - Patreon Message
    25:57 - What is Genital Torture Play?
    29:48 - Why Not Just Use "CBT"?
    33:23 - Types of GT Play
    52:42 - Trans-Specific Tips for GT
    1:10:28 - Harm Reduction Safety Tips
    1:23:04 - Negotiating GT

    Show notes:

    https://www.cnet.com/how-to/australian-fires-everything-we-know-about-the-crisis-and-how-you-can-help/

    https://www.npr.org/2019/01/31/690363402/how-the-cia-overthrew-irans-democracy-in-four-days

    https://www.vice.com/en_ca/article/mg4pqn/we-asked-a-cock-and-ball-torture-expert-about-the-art-of-dilating-urethras

    https://www.teenvogue.com/story/anal-sex-what-you-need-to-know

    https://theprincessfantasy.com/blogs/news/figging-101-from-ancient-punishment-to-modern-pleasure

    https://sextoycollective.com/best-sex-machines/sybian-saddle/

  • Sara and Jay jump into the first topic discussion of Season 2, how to navigate sex and dysphoria as a trans person! We discuss strategies, validate the struggles, and give some tips from our experience.

    Transcript: https://otter.ai/s/FM-xOB1SR4ek6UXYWOjcRg

    Segments:
    1:30 - Intro
    2:10 - Word of the Show: Gender Dysphoria
    20:09 - Dysphoria Tips
    45:46 - Patreon Message
    47:54 - Exploring Sex As A Trans Person
    59:17 - HRT Effects on Sex and Orgasm
    1:19:58 - Final Takeaway Tips

    Show notes:

    https://everydayfeminism.com/2015/08/not-all-trans-folks-dysphoria/

    https://www.teenvogue.com/story/how-to-navigate-gender-dysphoria-during-sex

    https://www.buzzfeed.com/kaichengthom/the-search-for-trans-womens-orgasms

    [NSFW] https://crashpadseries.com/

    [NSFW] http://troublefilms.com/

    http://instar-books10.mybigcommerce.com/nerve-endings-the-new-trans-erotic/

  • Season 2 kicks off with a question episode catching up on your emails to us over the break! We discuss endometriosis, herpes transmission, identity-based humiliation play, and more! We are so excited to be back in your podcast feed with regular weekly episodes again.

    Transcript: https://otter.ai/s/p3FKnWmQTyS8jynNBQ_Mvw

    Segments:
    2:35 - Season 2 changes to QSE
    6:18 - Endometriosis and Testosterone HRT
    20:11 - Identity-based Humiliation Play and Slurs
    32:26 - Patreon Message
    36:32 - Oral Herpes Transmission and Communicating Boundaries
    53:21 - STI Risk with New Tongue Piercing
    1:05:53 - Wrap Up
    1:09:51 - Bonus! An Anti-Fascist Rant

    Show notes:

    [Last Week Tonight, Bias in Medicine]
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TATSAHJKRd8

    https://www.history.com/news/chamberlain-kahn-act-std-venereal-disease-imprisonment-women

    https://www.akpress.org/pleasure-activism.html

    Editors note: I accidentally left the same small clip of audio in the show at the end twice. I don't know how it happened, but I can't redo it without redoing the entire time-coded transcript so I'm leaving it in. I'll try and be more careful in the future.

  • This week, Jay and Sara spend some time talking about the general changes people can expect when starting testosterone or estrogen, progesterone, and spironolactone as hormone replacement therapy (HRT). Also discussed: muffing, exploring new sensations, and a response to Buck Angel's recent fearmongering about the risks of taking testosterone.

    Segments:
    3:48 - Word of the Show, Muffing
    13:13 - Patreon Message
    14:46 - Intro to Hormones and HRT
    25:21 - Talking with the doctor about HRT and sex
    36:26 - Effects of Testosterone
    49:17 - Effects of Estrogen
    1:01:10 - Effects of Spironolactone
    1:10:07 - Effects of Progesterone
    1:15:12 - In Response to Buck Angel's Recent Post About Hysterectomy
    1:26:12 - Wrap-up and Tease for Next Week

    Show Links:
    www.vice.com/en_us/article/59dxw3/a-guide-to-muffing-the-hidden-way-to-finger-trans-women

    Direct link to buy Fucking Trans Women by Mira Bellwether: https://payhip.com/b/hRtK

    https://www.wpath.org/publications/soc

    www.hrc.org/resources/safer-sex-for-trans-bodies

    www.transhealth.ucsf.edu/trans?page=guidelines-home

    www.instagram.com/p/Bz57jmKjtTj/ (SERIOUS CW for body gore and bloody images. This is the Buck Angel post Jay is responding to around the 1 hour 15 minute mark. I feel we describe it well enough in the show to make our larger point without needing to see the actual picture, but I know some people will want to see the original thing for context.)

    Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019/2020 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email [email protected] to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing.

    You can send your questions to [email protected] for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org.

    This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

  • Jay and Sara answer more questions from you, the listeners! Questions include bondage for disabled folks, lower sex drive on SSRIs, period sex, and Fetlife tips. Also discussed: new HHS regulations that discriminate against LGBTQ people.

    Segments:
    3:07 - Accountability Corner
    6:22 - New "Conscience Rule" in Effect Now
    18:55 - Future HHS Regulation Proposed to Allow Discrimination
    28:34 - Rope Bondage and Disability
    38:35 - Lower Sex Drive on SSRI Medication for Depression
    55:27 - Patreon Message
    57:54 - Period Sex Taboos
    1:14:32 - Fetlife Tips and Navigating Kink as a Newbie

    Show Links:
    Make a comment and learn more about new HHS guidelines at www.protecttranshealth.org

    https://www.huffpost.com/entry/and-then-they-came-for-tr_b_9258678

    https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/acts-of-faith/wp/2015/03/23/indiana-house-passes-controversial-religious-freedom-bill/

    https://www.splcenter.org/hatewatch/2018/05/15/10-things-you-need-know-about-tony-perkins-and-family-research-council

    http://www.brynntannehill.com/drums-in-the-deep/

    https://www.postroehandbook.com/

    Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email [email protected] to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing.

    You can send your questions to [email protected] for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org.

    This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

  • Sara and Jay spend this week's episode discussing the legal and political movement to outlaw abortion in the United States, including the propaganda strategy of CPCs, the history of US abortion law, the current state of abortion rights, and how you can help protect abortion access in your area.

    Segments:
    4:44 - Accountability Corner
    8:54 - Word of the Show, Crisis Pregnancy Centers (CPCs)
    21:08 - Patreon Message
    23:43 - Intro to Abortion Rights
    26:20 - Pushing Back on Anti-Abortion Propaganda
    35:55 - US History of Abortion (1800-1990s)
    47:04 - TRAP Laws After PP v Casey Supreme Court Case
    1:06:57 - Current State of US Abortion Rights
    1:12:35 - What Can We Do to Protect Abortion Rights?

    Show Links:
    https://www.politico.com/magazine/story/2014/05/religious-right-real-origins-107133

    https://www.thecut.com/2019/05/how-extreme-abortion-bans-in-alabama-and-georgia-happened.html

    https://www.marieclaire.com/politics/a27615254/abortion-bans-the-south/

    https://qz.com/1620691/alabama-abortion-law-kay-ivey-and-the-white-women-for-trump/

    https://www.motherjones.com/politics/2019/05/georgia-alabama-abortion-ban-hollywood-dont-boycott

    https://rewire.news/article/2019/05/21/the-auntie-network-local-funds/

    https://www.thecut.com/2019/05/how-to-help-alabama-6-week-abortion-ban-georgia.html

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/After_Tiller

    Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email [email protected] to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing.

    You can send your questions to [email protected] for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org.

    This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

  • This week Jay and Sara give tips on doing kink play in free and cheap ways! Also discussed: Pervertables, classism in kink spaces, where to find cheap toys, and kinky craft time.

    Segments:
    3:18 - Word of the Show, Pervertables
    8:03 - Kinky Craft Time!
    14:34 - Our Favorite Pervertables
    26:50 - Pervertable Safety Tips
    40:29 - Patreon Message
    43:27 - Kink Doesn't Need to Be Expensive to Be Good
    58:16 - Planning Your Cheap Kinky Play
    1:06:12 - Tips for Exploring Kink Alone, With Partners, and With Strangers/Acquaintances

    Show Links:
    http://www.asubmissivesjourney.com/bdsm_toy_bag.html

    https://archive.org/details/ThePrivilegeOfPerversitiesRaceClassAndEducationAmongPolyamoristsAndKinksters

    Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email [email protected] to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing.

    You can send your questions to [email protected] for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org.

    This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

  • This week Sara and Jay are talking about online dating, hooking up, consent communication online, and the culture of dick pics and other boundary crossing online. Also discussed: the male gaze, what app developers could do better, what we can do better as users, and tips for making your online dating focused on consent, communication, and mutually sexy fun.

    Segments:
    5:56 - Word of the Show, Dick Pic
    14:55 - How All Men Benefit From Misogyny #yesallmen
    22:30 - Why Are Dick Pics So Bad?
    31:36 - Patreon Message
    35:06 - What We Mean By "The Male Gaze"
    43:05 - Apps Designed By Cis White Men & For Cis White Men
    58:00 - Using Tools That Weren't Meant For Us
    1:10:08 - Better Online Communication

    Show Links:
    https://everydayfeminism.com/2016/01/why-men-send-dick-pics/

    https://www.nytimes.com/2019/02/13/magazine/women-coding-computer-programming.html

    https://www.1843magazine.com/features/the-scientists-who-make-apps-addictive

    Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email [email protected] to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing.

    You can send your questions to [email protected] for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org.

    This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

  • This is the culmination of our four-part series on transgender medicine, focused on what a trans liberation future really looks like.

    What would it mean for all people to live, express, and love free from shame and the threat of violence?

    How can we work in solidarity with all marginalized people of intersecting identities to build a future of mutual support, honest communication, and unlimited love?

    Also discussed: A trans research update from Jay's conference including exciting news about HRT, fertility, PReP, and more!

    Segments:
    2:32 - Trans Research Update of the Show!
    6:57 - WPATH Changes Are a Mixed Bag
    10:28 - HRT Research Updates
    20:02 - PReP & HIV Prevention Research
    28:16 - HRT and Fertility Study
    44:18 - Public Health Updates
    58:39 - Patreon Message
    1:00:31 - What Would Trans Liberation Really Be?
    1:20:15 - Envisioning Revolution Without Centering Violence
    1:24:53 - Trans Liberation Isn't "Genderless" It's Genderful
    1:33:02 - What Does Full Bodily Autonomy Look Like?
    1:37:48 - What Else Would You Be Doing?

    Show Links:
    http://transhealth.ucsf.edu/protocols

    https://www.huffpost.com/entry/opinion-broadnax-afrofuturism-black-panther_n_5a85f1b9e4b004fc31903b95

    https://chicagounbound.uchicago.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1052&context=uclf

    https://www.law.columbia.edu/pt-br/news/2017/06/kimberle-crenshaw-intersectionality

    Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email [email protected] to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing.

    You can send your questions to [email protected] for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org.

    This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

  • This week Jay and Sara dig down into "biological sex" and break down why it's a problem, how it's more complicated than you probably know, and new ways to discuss bodies without binary sex. Also discussed: research impacts of using biological sex, expanding the trans medical model, and how we project gender and sexuality onto animals.

    Segments:
    5:46 - Word of the Show, Biological Sex, Real Sex, or Sex
    42:02 - Patreon Message
    45:01 - Quick Medical Model Review
    48:34 - How Research Focuses on Binary Sex AKA "We Start With Gender to Prove Gender"
    1:04:26 - Animals Don't Have Binary Sex or Gender
    1:11:40 - How The Medical Model Has Been Helpful

    Show Links:
    https://medium.com/@QSE/the-xx-xy-lie-our-social-construction-of-a-sex-and-gender-binary-4eed1e60e615

    https://www.queersexed.org/archive/2018/3/3/audio-article-the-xx-and-xy-lie-our-social-construction-of-a-sex-and-gender-binary-queer-sex-ed-podcast-episode-15

    https://www.nature.com/news/sex-redefined-1.16943#/spectrum

    https://www.newstatesman.com/future-proof/2015/02/sex-isn-t-chromosomes-story-century-misconceptions-about-x-y

    https://broadly.vice.com/en_us/article/qvyq8p/transgender-non-binary-stock-photos-gender-spectrum-collection

    Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email [email protected] to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing.

    You can send your questions to [email protected] for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org.

    This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

  • This week Sara and Jay begin their series about everything anal! This show covers the basics of butt anatomy, ass play safety tips, and all of the many reasons we enjoy butt stuff. Future episodes will cover more specific activities, answer your butt questions, and dive further into why there is so much stigma built up around butt sex and ass play.

    Segments:
    3:16 - Word of the Show, Lube
    29:43 - Patreon Message
    33:19 - Basics of Ass Anatomy (Ass-natomy)
    48:05 - Ass Play Examples
    1:02:23 - Butt-Specific Safety Tips
    1:26:48 - What We Like About Anal Sex and Ass Play

    Show Links:
    https://www.teenvogue.com/story/anal-sex-what-you-need-to-know

    https://www.redbubble.com/people/queersexed/works/32887307-buttbase-queer-sex-ed-t-shirt?p=classic-tee

    https://www.redbubble.com/people/queersexed/works/32890343-buttbase-queer-sex-ed-tote-bag?p=tote-bag&size=large

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j8ZF_R_j0OY

    https://www.ohjoysextoy.com/buttsex/

    http://www.newnownext.com/ive-contracted-my-third-gastrointestinal-parasite-from-rimming-and-i-cant-be-the-only-gay-man-suffering/01/2018/

    Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email [email protected] to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing.

    You can send your questions to [email protected] for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org.

    This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

  • Jay and Sara continue their discussion of trans medicine by focusing on current barriers to care caused by our medical model of trans identity. Also discussed: transmedicalism, solidarity work, and what non-binary transition can look like.

    Segments:
    4:44 - Word of the Show, Transmedicalism
    32:09 - Patreon Message
    35:12 - Medical Model Recap
    39:18 - How does the medical model influence trans medicine?
    1:06:37 - Political and social impact of the trans medical model

    Show Links:
    http://feministing.com/2016/03/10/my-auntie-buffalo-bill-the-unavoidable-transmisogyny-of-silence-of-the-lambs/

    http://bilerico.lgbtqnation.com/2013/03/the_emergence_and_danger_of_the_acceptable_trans_n.php

    https://everydayfeminism.com/2015/07/not-born-in-the-wrong-body/

    https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2015/jul/24/alena-bradford-transgender-south-georgia

    Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email [email protected] to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing.

    You can send your questions to [email protected] for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org.

    This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

  • Sara and Jay discuss the recently finalized trans military ban, including how we must address the impact of that on our community and still be abolitionist in our criticism of US imperialism and the military as an institution of violence. We also answer listener questions about staying dominant while you are bottoming, and navigating when one partner needs space when the other has abandonment trauma.

    Segments:
    7:36 - Trans Military Ban
    30:30 - Patreon Message
    34:30 - Question Intro
    41:22 - Question 1, Staying dominant while bottoming
    52:30 - Question 2, What to do when one partner needs space and the other struggles with abandonment
    1:10:18 - Question 3, Finding a trans-competent therapist for my son

    Show Links:
    - www.apnews.com/ae07308b29c342429c3c627b7fc0b404

    - www.queertranswarban.wordpress.com

    - www.polyamoryonpurpose.com/polyamory-drama

    Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email [email protected] to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing.

    You can send your questions to [email protected] for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org.

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  • Jay and Sara share some of the deep and complicated history of transgender medicine to discuss how physical differences become a medical diagnosis. Also discussed: the "medical model" of trans identities, and the process of medical pathologizing

    Segments:
    8:22 - Word of the Show (Pathologize)
    34:59 - Patreon Message
    36:48 - A Quick History of Transgender Medicine
    (Genital Invert, Transvestites, Harry Benjamin, and the DSM)
    1:18:05 - What is the "Medical Model" of Trans Identity
    1:38:10 - White Supremacy, Colonialism, and Transphobia
    1:43:26 - Current Trans Medicine (ICD 10, ICD 11, and Autogynophilia)

    Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email [email protected] to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing.

    You can send your questions to [email protected] for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org.

    This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

  • This week Sara and Jay discuss different types of sensory deprivation play, including how to do it, what tools to use, and tips for staying safe. The word/phrase/concept discussed at the beginning is Dungeon Master (the kink kind, not the D&D kind).

    Segments:
    2:33 Word of the Show, Dungeon Master
    19:07 Patreon Message
    20:21 Sensory Deprivation Intro
    33:38 Why do folks like Sensory Dep?
    46:36 Sensory Dep Safety
    1:01:00 Fun stuff, toys, and personal stories!
    1:23:21 Negotiation tips

    Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email [email protected] to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing.

    You can send your questions to [email protected] for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org.

    This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

  • Happy 2019! The wait is over and we're back to answer your listener questions about sex, family, queerness, fat allyship, and more. Thank you to all the vulnerable people who sent us questions and put themselves out there. We really appreciate your questions and a chance to share your growth with the QSE audience.

    Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email [email protected] to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing.

    You can send your questions to [email protected] for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org.

    This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

  • This is an audio version of Sara's Medium article titled Protecting Transgender People Is Not A Political Choice.

    Read along here: https://medium.com/@QSE/protecting-transgender-people-is-not-a-political-choice-c5c2187f3773

    QSE will be back NEXT WEEK, I promise. Thank you for your patience and understanding

  • Sara and Jay discuss news stories that you may have missed this year. We also discuss stories to keep tracking in 2019.

    QSE will be back next year after a short break for the week of New Year's. We hope you have a wonderful time celebrating the last year and finding love, support, and community in 2019.

    Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email [email protected] to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing.

    You can send your questions to [email protected] for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org.

    This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.