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In this episode, Ams and Kat report back on their sexy homework with Femme Domme power play.
A Femme Domme is a woman who takes the dominant role in a BDSM power play experience. A Dominatrix is "in charge" in the bedroom, but are we all just dressing the part and not actually taking control?
But first, mix up this episode's Canna-cocktail, the Apple Pie Float, while Kat shares her Hot Tale: The Kats take a trip to Desire Riviera Maya in Mexico where they meet up with Mr. Kat's Doppleganger. Twi Mr. Kat's at once?!?! That's too sexy by half!
Next, Ams and Kat report back on their Femme Domme Power Play experiences. Ams researched different types of dominant personas to come up with her own version of Femme Domme: more Mommy Goddess than Dominatrix. She also learned that you can separate Dominant/submissive from Top and Bottom, so that she could boss partners around in bed, while using as little energy as possible (in typical Ams fashion!) While Kat set up a 24/7 experience with Mr. Kat involving impact play, worship, discipline and just a touch of humiliation. Oh! And somebody got pegged, but you will have to tune in to find out.
Finally, the Wives just listeners Just the Tips on how to set up your own Femme Domme experience.
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In this episode, Ams and Kat take control in the bedroom by exploring domination, including an interview with professional Dominatrix, Queen Lo.
A Dominatrix, or Femme Domme, a woman who takes the dominant role in a BDSM power play experience. A Dominatrix is "in charge" in the bedroom, but are we all just dressing the part and not actually taking control?
But first, mix up this episode's Canna-cocktail, the Rosemary Grapefruit Fizz, while Ams shares her Hot Tale: during the Barbarella-themed house party, Ams slips away with six of her favorite guys for a seven-minute, Alien Abduction role play.
Next, Ams and Kat explore past experience with dominating partners in bed. Kat loves the clothes and the overall vibe of being in charge, but Ams, a submissive, struggles with channeling her dominant self.
To learn more about Femme Domme, the Wives interview professional dominatrix, Queen Lo.
Finally, the Wives set themselves sexy homework, setting up power play scenes with the Misters.
ABOUT QUEEN LO
Queen Lo is a professional dominatrix and host of the podcast âThy Queendom Come,â which provides an honest (and often hilarious) look at sexuality and power dynamics in the bedroom and beyond. She works with clients online from her home in the tropics and in person through tours and custom sessions, specializing in teaching men the power of sacred submission. Visit her online at thyqueendom.com for more information and to get in touch.
WANT TO BOOK A SESSION WITH A PROFESSIONAL DOMINATRIX?
When discussing a power play scene with a dominatrix, it's essential to ensure clear communication and establish boundaries to make the experience safe and enjoyable for both you and your partner. Here are some questions you might consider asking:
Experience and Approach: How long have you been practicing BDSM, particularly as a dominatrix? What is your approach to creating and executing power play scenes? Can you provide examples of previous scenes you've facilitated? Limits and Boundaries: How do you establish and respect boundaries during a power play scene? What are your hard limits, and are there any activities you won't engage in? How do you handle it if either participant feels uncomfortable during the scene? Communication: How do you encourage open communication before, during, and after a scene? Do you have a safe word system in place, and how does it work? Are there any specific questions you suggest partners discuss before engaging in a power play scene? Safety and Consent: What measures do you take to ensure physical and emotional safety during a scene? How do you verify consent throughout the scene? What steps do you take to mitigate risks associated with BDSM activities? Preparation and Aftercare: How should partners prepare for a power play scene mentally and physically? What does aftercare typically involve, and how do you support participants during this phase? Are there any potential psychological or emotional effects partners should be aware of? Customization and Preferences: How do you tailor power play scenes to meet the preferences and comfort levels of each participant? Can partners request specific elements or scenarios to be included in the scene? Are there any particular dynamics or roles you specialize in, or can accommodate? Logistics and Practicalities: Where do sessions typically take place, and what amenities or equipment are available? How long do sessions usually last, and what is the scheduling process like? What are your policies regarding confidentiality and privacy? Education and Resources: Do you offer resources or educational materials for partners new to BDSM or power play scenes? Are there any workshops or community events you recommend for further learning?Remember, open and honest communication is key when discussing BDSM activities, especially when exploring power dynamics. It's essential to prioritize safety, trust, and mutual respect throughout the process.
MORE FEMME DOMME RESOURCES
https://www.kinkacademy.com/category/subject-matter/dominance/
https://x.com/drksexeducator?s=21&t=hSGtdO1zrFzW6YbcsZ4yeg
@drksexeducator
https://www.losangelesdominatrix.com/classes/
@justineplayshttps://domsubliving.com/courses/
@domsubliving
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How did the Wives do with their sexy pornography homework? Tune in to find out.
But first, check out this episodeâs Canna-cocktail, the Cherry Blossom Smash: a yummy combination or cherries and blood orange juice with just a dash of cannabis tincture. Sip on this delicious cocktail listening to this episode's Hot Tale: the Wives host a Barbarella-themed house party and they get up to no good, with flogging, blindfolded kissing, eight-handed massages, and more!
Next, the Wives report back on their sexy homework: who's ready for a week-long, porn-o-thon? The Wives were so inspired by the hot, female empowered pornography, they start making plans to create their own..
Finally, the Wives give their tips on finding porn that feels female empowered and ethical.
MORE ABOUT ETHICAL AND FEMINIST PORNOGRAPHY
The concept of "ethical pornography" is subjective and can vary depending on individual perspectives and values. Generally, it refers to the production and consumption of adult content that aligns with ethical principles and values, such as consent, fair labor practices, and respect for performers. Ethical pornography may prioritize factors like transparency, communication, and empowerment of the individuals involved in its creation.
Key elements often associated with ethical pornography include:
Consent: Ensuring that all participants willingly and enthusiastically agree to be part of the production. Fair Labor Practices: Treating performers and other personnel involved in the production with respect, fair wages, and safe working conditions. Diversity and Inclusivity: Representing a diverse range of body types, genders, ethnicities, and sexual orientations to promote inclusivity and avoid reinforcing harmful stereotypes. Authenticity: Presenting realistic and consensual scenarios rather than perpetuating harmful or exploitative narratives. Transparency: Providing clear information about the production process, including the treatment of performers and the ethical standards followed.Feminist pornography is a genre of adult content created with the aim of promoting gender equality, empowerment, and consent. It challenges traditional pornography that often objectifies and degrades women by portraying them as passive objects of male desire. Instead, feminist pornography seeks to depict sexuality in a more realistic and respectful manner, often emphasizing communication, mutual pleasure, and diversity.
Key features of feminist pornography may include:
Consent: Scenes depict enthusiastic and explicit consent between all participants, ensuring that no one is coerced or objectified. Diversity: It embraces diverse body types, sexual orientations, gender identities, and ethnicities, representing a wider range of human experiences and desires. Authenticity: Scenes may focus on real intimacy and connection rather than exaggerated performances. This can involve more realistic portrayals of pleasure and arousal. Empowerment: Women are often depicted as active agents in their sexual encounters, exploring their desires and expressing their own pleasure. Ethical Production: There is a commitment to fair labor practices, including fair wages and safe working conditions for performers, as well as respectful treatment both on and off-camera.Feminist pornography aims to challenge societal norms and stereotypes surrounding sexuality and promote a more inclusive and respectful approach to adult content. It seeks to provide alternatives for individuals who may find traditional pornography problematic or alienating.
It's important to note that the definition of ethical and feminist pornography may vary among individuals, and what is considered ethical or feminist by one person may not be the same for another.
If you are interested in supporting ethical or feminist adult content, you may want to research and choose producers or platforms that align with your values and priorities.
Bellesa.co: traditional, graphic porn, produced by women
Sssh.com: Female-led and Female-focused we're your source for ethically produced, explicit, sex-positive films.
Afterglow. Porn by women; for everybody. Quiz and free video based on results.
Frolic me Beautiful erotica
Lustery real couple amateur porn.
Ersties fun, female produced porn with lots of tutorials
ForPlay Films erotica for women, by women
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In this episode, Ams and Kat explore Pornography, focusing on ethical porn and feminist porn.
Pornography is sexual content designed to arouse, and let's face it, pornography is everywhere. If you've written off pornography as not your thing, check out this episode for a fresh, feminist take on porn.
But first, if you are looking for a little buzz without the drawbacks of alcohol, why not try this Canna-cocktail, the the Lemon Blackberry Mule.
Mix one up while listening to this episodeâs hot tale: Ams gets the best birthday present from Mr. Ams, a year of monthly MFM threesomes! Listen in for what happened in February.
Next, Ams and Kat explore past experience with pornography: what they have liked and what's a little bit "ick".
To learn more about Pornography, the Wives interview producer and director, Inka Winter, owner of ForPlay Films.
Finally, the Wives set themselves sexy homework, including exploring new genres of porn and using porn for play dates and foreplay.
MORE ABOUT ETHICAL AND FEMINIST PORNOGRAPHY
The concept of "ethical pornography" is subjective and can vary depending on individual perspectives and values. Generally, it refers to the production and consumption of adult content that aligns with ethical principles and values, such as consent, fair labor practices, and respect for performers. Ethical pornography may prioritize factors like transparency, communication, and empowerment of the individuals involved in its creation.
Key elements often associated with ethical pornography include:
Consent: Ensuring that all participants willingly and enthusiastically agree to be part of the production. Fair Labor Practices: Treating performers and other personnel involved in the production with respect, fair wages, and safe working conditions. Diversity and Inclusivity: Representing a diverse range of body types, genders, ethnicities, and sexual orientations to promote inclusivity and avoid reinforcing harmful stereotypes. Authenticity: Presenting realistic and consensual scenarios rather than perpetuating harmful or exploitative narratives. Transparency: Providing clear information about the production process, including the treatment of performers and the ethical standards followed.Feminist pornography is a genre of adult content created with the aim of promoting gender equality, empowerment, and consent. It challenges traditional pornography that often objectifies and degrades women by portraying them as passive objects of male desire. Instead, feminist pornography seeks to depict sexuality in a more realistic and respectful manner, often emphasizing communication, mutual pleasure, and diversity.
Key features of feminist pornography may include:
Consent: Scenes depict enthusiastic and explicit consent between all participants, ensuring that no one is coerced or objectified. Diversity: It embraces diverse body types, sexual orientations, gender identities, and ethnicities, representing a wider range of human experiences and desires. Authenticity: Scenes may focus on real intimacy and connection rather than exaggerated performances. This can involve more realistic portrayals of pleasure and arousal. Empowerment: Women are often depicted as active agents in their sexual encounters, exploring their desires and expressing their own pleasure. Ethical Production: There is a commitment to fair labor practices, including fair wages and safe working conditions for performers, as well as respectful treatment both on and off-camera.Feminist pornography aims to challenge societal norms and stereotypes surrounding sexuality and promote a more inclusive and respectful approach to adult content. It seeks to provide alternatives for individuals who may find traditional pornography problematic or alienating.
It's important to note that the definition of ethical and feminist pornography may vary among individuals, and what is considered ethical or feminist by one person may not be the same for another.
If you are interested in supporting ethical or feminist adult content, you may want to research and choose producers or platforms that align with your values and priorities.
ABOUT INKA WINTER
Inka Winter is an erotic filmmaker and founder of ForPlay Films, an independent, all-woman porn production company. Spending her formative years living in an alternative artist commune in Austria gave Inka a critical eye for what constitutes sexy, consensual female pleasure and set the foundation for her creative endeavors in erotic filmmaking. Her background in costume design and styling informs her aesthetic and translates to the editorial feel of her films. Her films
titillate the senses through sexual chemistry, consent, autonomy, and the female gaze.
Because Inka believes that education and emotional wellbeing are a central part of a healthy sex life, she started a YouTube channel, Sexucation, which aims to provide adults with factual information, often with the use of comedy, on topics such as birth control, cunnilingus, polyamory, and how to communicate during sex. Inka is also a certified sex educator and counselor and provides desire and arousal coaching.
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How did the Wives do with their Tantric Sex homework? Tune in to find out.
But first, check out this episodeâs Canna-cocktail, the Orange Berry Tea with a new nano-tincture. Sip on this delicious cocktail while Kat shares her Hot Tale: a professional massage gets a BDSM vibe with cupping and scraping.
Next, the Wives report back on their sexy homework, inspired by Barbara Carrellas' book, Urban Tantra. Kat shares her tantra ritual with Mr. Kat, while Ams explored solo tantra, including a no-hands, Breath and Energy Orgasm.
Finally, the Wives give their tips on exploring tantric practices.MORE ABOUT TANTRA
The original practice of Tantra encompasses a wide range of beliefs, practices, and rituals, and its principles can vary among different schools and traditions. However, some core principles are commonly associated with Tantra:
Unity of the Divine: Tantra often emphasizes the oneness or unity of the ultimate reality, which may be referred to as Brahman, Shiva, Shakti, or other names depending on the specific tradition. The idea is that everything in the universe is an expression of this ultimate reality.
Energy and Consciousness (Shiva and Shakti): Tantra often conceptualizes the divine as a dynamic interplay between masculine (Shiva) and feminine (Shakti) energies. These energies represent the dual aspects of the supreme consciousness, and the practice of Tantra often involves awakening and harmonizing these energies.
Sacred Sexuality: Some Tantric traditions incorporate rituals and practices that involve sacred sexuality. The goal is not mere physical pleasure but rather the spiritual union of Shiva and Shakti energies within the practitioners, aiming for heightened awareness and divine connection.
Ritual and Symbolism: Tantra frequently employs rituals, symbols, and ceremonies to connect with the divine. These can include mantra chanting, yantra (geometric diagrams), mudras (hand gestures), and various ceremonies designed to invoke spiritual energies.
Embracing the Mundane: Unlike some ascetic traditions, Tantra embraces the material world and the experiences of daily life. It encourages practitioners to see the divine in everything, including ordinary activities, and to use the challenges of the material world as opportunities for spiritual growth.
Teacher-Student Relationship: Traditional Tantric practices often involve a guru-disciple relationship. The guru is seen as a guide and spiritual mentor who leads the disciple on the path toward self-realization.
Non-Dualism (Advaita): Many Tantric traditions advocate a non-dualistic perspective, emphasizing that the ultimate reality is beyond distinctions such as good or bad, pure or impure. Practitioners seek to overcome dualities and realize the underlying unity of all things.
Many Westerners have been applying Tantric principals to sex for over 100 years. Some of these principals include adding ritual and mindfulness to sexual experiences, focusing on breath and energy, fostering a deep connection between partners and focusing on pleasure and ecstasy as opposed to orgasm.
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In this episode, Ams and Kat explore Tantric Sex.
Tantra is a complex and multifaceted spiritual and philosophical tradition that originated in ancient India. Tantric sex is the practice of using Tantric principles, such as mindfulness, breathwork and energy connection, to sexual experiences.
But first, if you are looking for a little buzz without the drawbacks of alcohol, why donât try this Canna-cocktail, the Hot Buttered Cider.
Mix one up while listening to this episodeâs hot tale: Ams, Mr. Ams and their friends have a grown-up sleepover, complete with Seven Minutes in Heaven: mini-threesomes while one person watches and keeps time.
Next, Ams and Kat explore Tantric principles and past experiences with mindful sex.
To learn more about Tantric Sex, the Wives interview author and educator Barbara Carrellas.
Finally, the Wives set themselves sexy homework, including solo tantra work, breath and energy orgasms and all-day sex sessions.
MORE ABOUT TANTRA
The original practice of Tantra encompasses a wide range of beliefs, practices, and rituals, and its principles can vary among different schools and traditions. However, some core principles are commonly associated with Tantra:
Unity of the Divine: Tantra often emphasizes the oneness or unity of the ultimate reality, which may be referred to as Brahman, Shiva, Shakti, or other names depending on the specific tradition. The idea is that everything in the universe is an expression of this ultimate reality.
Energy and Consciousness (Shiva and Shakti): Tantra often conceptualizes the divine as a dynamic interplay between masculine (Shiva) and feminine (Shakti) energies. These energies represent the dual aspects of the supreme consciousness, and the practice of Tantra often involves awakening and harmonizing these energies.
Sacred Sexuality: Some Tantric traditions incorporate rituals and practices that involve sacred sexuality. The goal is not mere physical pleasure but rather the spiritual union of Shiva and Shakti energies within the practitioners, aiming for heightened awareness and divine connection.
Ritual and Symbolism: Tantra frequently employs rituals, symbols, and ceremonies to connect with the divine. These can include mantra chanting, yantra (geometric diagrams), mudras (hand gestures), and various ceremonies designed to invoke spiritual energies.
Embracing the Mundane: Unlike some ascetic traditions, Tantra embraces the material world and the experiences of daily life. It encourages practitioners to see the divine in everything, including ordinary activities, and to use the challenges of the material world as opportunities for spiritual growth.
Teacher-Student Relationship: Traditional Tantric practices often involve a guru-disciple relationship. The guru is seen as a guide and spiritual mentor who leads the disciple on the path toward self-realization.
Non-Dualism (Advaita): Many Tantric traditions advocate a non-dualistic perspective, emphasizing that the ultimate reality is beyond distinctions such as good or bad, pure or impure. Practitioners seek to overcome dualities and realize the underlying unity of all things.
Many Westerners have been applying Tantric principals to sex for over 100 years. Some of these principals include adding ritual and mindfulness to sexual experiences, focusing on breath and energy, fostering a deep connection between partners and focusing on pleasure and ecstacy as opposed to orgasm.
ABOUT BARBARA
Barbara Carrellas is an author, artist, innovator, instigator and thought leader in the fields of sex, gender and spirit.She is also a sex/life coach, sex educator, workshop facilitator, university lecturer, motivational speaker and theater artist. She is the author of Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century, Ecstasy is Necessary: A Practical Guide to Sex, Relationships and Oh So Much More, and Luxurious Loving: Tantric Inspirations for Passion and Pleasure.
https://barbaracarrellas.com/barbara-carrellas/
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Nowadays - Cannabis infused drinks https://trynowadays.com/
Amorus Cards: https://amorus.net/
Game of Lifestyle: https://www.gameoflifestyle.com/
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How did the Wives do with their Boudoir photography sexy homework? Tune in to find out.
But first, check out this episode's Canna-cocktail, the Winter Berry Smash. Thanks to a listener tip, Kat found a tincture that uses nano-technology for quicker absorbtion and a faster experience. Then, Kat brings it home with her Hot Tale: a threesome with the Wives and Mr. Kat. Is he the luckiest man on the planet? You decide.
Then, the Wives took a field trip to Nicole Marie's Boudoir Photography Studio in Easton, Maryland. Building on their experience taking boudior shots at Desire Resort in Mexico, the Wives came prepared with a Pinterest board, lots of wardrobe changes, and a bunch of beauty tips before they even get to the studio.
They got special hair and makeup treatment and had a four-hour photo session. Things got suprisingly naked! As a bonus, the Wives got to visit their friend Adrienne from Midlife Craving Podcast.
Finally, the Wives share Just the Tips on ways to have a fantastic boudoir photography experience.
Mentioned in this Episode:
https://allebachphotography.com/ https://www.botanyfarms.com/products/nano-delta-9-microdose-gummies -
Do you need to be "hot" to be successful in the lifestyle? In this episode, the Wives explore aesthetics and attraction in ENM relationships, including an interview with Coach April from Naughty Gym.
This bonus episode was inspired by a number of listener questions that the Wives have received, where listeners have shared their concerns and insecurities about looks in the lifestyle. So, do you need to be hot? The answer is not simple. On the one hand, lifestyle dating is a lot like vanilla dating, and looks are a big part of attraction. So, yes, looks play into success in the lifestyle and improving your looks can improve your chance of success. But on the other hand, people of all shapes, sizes and ages participate in the lifestyle, so no matter where you fall on that spectrum, there is a good chance that you can meet people and make a connection. Also, attraction involves more than looks: confidence, intelligence, and romantic mental and emotional connections are an important part of attraction for many people, including sapiosexuals, polysexuals, and demisexuals.
To get more advice on the issue of aesthetics, fitness and wellness in the lifestyle, the Wives talk with their good friend: Coach April from Naughty Gym.
Referenced in this Episode:
Be Better and Being Bad Don't You Want Me Baby Desire - Riviera MayaAbout April:
Coach April is a co-creator, with her husband Scott, of Naughty Gym, an online fitness and coaching platform tailored to the sex-positive community. April, a highly accomplished fitness and nutrition coach, has excelled in various fitness disciplines, such as competitive running, figure competitions, CrossFit, and Powerlifting. With a wealth of experience, she has guided thousands of athletes with diverse goals and fitness backgrounds, earning recognition as an expert in empowering women to feel confident in their bodies and motivating them to achieve their fitness aspirations.
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In this episode, Ams and Kat explore Boudoir Photography.
Boudoir photography is a style of intimate photography that captures individuals in a tasteful and empowering way, often in lingerie or semi-clothed, celebrating their unique beauty and sensuality.
Boudoir photography can be a powerful tool for promoting self-love, body positivity, and empowerment. It challenges beauty standards and encourages women to embrace their uniqueness.
But first, if you are looking for a little buzz without the drawbacks of alcohol, why donât try this Canna-cocktail, the Pumpkin Spice (or, if you are looking for a little extra spice, add Bourbon).
Mix one up while listening to this episode's hot tale: Ams never thought she would play on a show bed, but at a recent house party, she decides to hop on with a playful partner and a sexy voyeur. Never say never!
Next, the Wives describe their past experiences with boudoir photography, including professional pictures taken at Desire, plus some DIY photo shoots at home.
To get an expert's opinion, the Wives talk with photographer Nicole Marie, owner of Nicole Marie Boudoir.
Finally, the Wives decide to book in for a boudoir photo session as their sexy homework.
Nicole Marie is a boudoir and portrait photographer located in Easton, Maryland. She is a lifelong hobbyist photographer, professional photographer for 15 years and boudoir specialist for 9 years. Her passion is providing a luxury experience and empowering imagery for women from all walks of life.WEBSITE | FACEBOOK| INSTAGRAM
More About Boudoir Photography
What is a typical boudoir session like?
A boudoir session involves grooming, wardrobe selection and usually hair and make up. A positive mindset is important. It's about feeling comfortable and confident in your own skin.
Who Should Consider Boudoir Photography?
Boudoir photography is for anyone seeking to boost their self-esteem, celebrate their sensuality, or mark a significant life event. It's inclusive and welcomes individuals of all backgrounds and body types.
How Does a Session Usually Go?
A typical boudoir session includes a consultation with the photographer, hair and make up, followed by the photoshoot. The photographer creates a comfortable environment, guiding the subject through poses that highlight their best features.
Who Should Have Boudoir Photos Done?
Boudoir photography is for any women seeking to boost their self-esteem, celebrate their sensuality, or mark a significant life event. It's inclusive and welcomes women of all backgrounds and body types.
How Is It Beneficial for Women's Empowerment?
Boudoir photography empowers women by promoting self-confidence, challenging societal beauty norms, and fostering self-esteem. It allows women to see themselves in a new, positive light, which can have a profound impact on their self-esteem and well-being.
Resource Notes:
https://www.imaginated.com/blog/what-is-boudoir-photography/
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Boudoir_photography
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YmE8Uqx8gCE#:~:text=Learn%20how%20to%20take%20your%20own%20amazing,self%20portraits%20from%20me%20on%20Patreon%20at: for taking boudoir self-portraits
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ua-hOH-u_bA&t=0s composition for at home boudoir
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FzpQnm7ddPM diy boudoir
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How easy is it to line up a threesome as a unicorn? How about going to a sex club as a solo woman? How did Ams and Kat do on their sexy homework for Unicorn Threesomes? Tune in to find out.
A Unicorn is a single woman in the lifestyle. She may enjoy meeting and playing with other couples (i.e. - a Unicorn Threesome) or she may engage in all sorts of social and sexual activities with other people in the lifestyle. Don't fence her in!
Even though Kat and Ams are not single women, they are both curious to explore the dynamic of a Unicorn Threesome and wanted to experience what it is like to be the special guest star to a couple. In Unicorn Threesomes Part One (https://2hotwives.com/unicorn-threesomes-aka-come-and-knock-on-our-door/), they set themselves sexy homework: Kat decides to go to a sex club without Mr. Kat to see what that would be like, and Ams is going to ask some of her lifestyle couple friends if they would like to have a threesome. In this episode, they report back on their sexy homework.
But first, mix up this episode's Canna-Cocktail, the Autumn Bliss: mix honey simple syrup, cranberry juice, lime and ginger beer, then add your favorite cannabis tincture. Make sure it is alcohol based and not oil based so that it mixes into the drink better. And, if you prefer adding a spirit, add Gin instead.
While sipping on your canna-cocktail, listen to Kat share her hot tale of a sexy encounter on the Bliss cruise. Kat doesn't usually play on the first date, and never in a public setting. But, it turns out that a sexy Irish accent is all that she needs to break all of the rules. If you are curious about what the playrooms are like on the Bliss cruise, this hot tale is for you.
Next, Ams and Kat recount their sexy homework on Unicorn Threesomes. Can Ams line up a threesome with friends? Does Kat make it to the sex club? Listen in for the download.
Mentioned in this episode:
ForPlay Films: https://forplayfilms.com/ (Video: Menage a Tois, directed by Inka Winter)
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In this episode, Ams and Kat explore Unicorn Threesomes. Unicorns, you say? But unicorns are single women in the lifestyle and the 2HotWives areâŠwives! Well, even though Ams and Kat are not unicorns, they can still be âguest starsâ in a threesome.
But first, if you are looking for a little buzz without the drawbacks of alcohol, why donât try this Canna-cocktail, the Apple Pom Spritz! All you need is some apple cider, pomegranate syrup, and a little cannabis tincture!
Mix one up while listening to Ams share her sexy experience landing a hot, bi bro. And wait, there are pictures involved?!?
Next, the Wives explore what it means to have a Unicorn Threesome. Unicorn threesomes are just any old threesome, itâs a chance to be welcomed as the cherished âthirdâ in a coupleâs fantasy. While not every woman can be a unicorn, they can be the special guest in a threesome!
Why is it interesting to explore? Well, apart from being a fantasy for many women, itâs an opportunity for partnered women to explore their sexuality without their primary partners and to be treated as a special guest in a coupleâs most intimate space. But unicorn threesomes also pose some challenges. If you are a partnered woman, you may have trouble communicating your wants and boundaries alone. You may even have safety concerns.
To learn more, the Wives talk with YouTuber, Toronto Unicorn about the dos and donâts of exploring the lifestyle as a single woman.
Finally, the Wives decide on their sexy homework: Kat plans to go to a sex club with other ladies, while Ams looks for opportunities to invite herself into a coupleâs bedroom.
ABOUT TORONTO UNICORN:
TorontoUnicorn pulls back the curtain of secrecy on the swinger lifestyle, normally underground, for those curious to find their way to this sex positive lifestyle for themselves. Her mission is to âtake the scary out of swinging and sex clubsâ and invite sex positive people to observe the swinging world through her lifestyle vlogs and experiences.
Learn more at https://torontounicorn.com/
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How did the Wives come up with "Use Your Words" and do they follow their own advice?
Do the Wives still play on the second date?
Does Kat still use her Bedazzler before each theme party?
What other stories and advice from Season 1 is still true and what has changed?
In this episode, Ams and Kat reflect on Season 1: the good, the bad and the silly.
The Wives developed the idea of the podcast while in COVID lockdown, thinking if they can't play, why not talk about it in front of a microphone!
They discuss how their play style has changed over time and discuss the definition of a demisexual and demisexuality.
They also share behind the scenes details on the recording and production process of the podcast.
Now is a great time to re-listen to Season 1 while you wait for Season 4 to launch.
Links to episodes from Season 1:
2HotWives Use Their Words
2HotWives Hit the Dating Scene
2HotWives Get to Play
All About Erotica! (aka: The Wives Turbo Charge Their Sex Drive and Level Up Their Fantasies Through Sexy Stories)
Impact Play (aka: This will only hurt a little bit)
Triggers (aka: When Rough Sex Triggers Bad Feels)
Sexy Dress Up
Role Play the 2HotWives Way
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Did the 2HotWives break up? Did they get divorced? Maybe they set sail on the Bliss cruise and never returned???
The Wives are back to bring you an update on what's been happening in their lives since they last got in front of the microphone and to let you know that Season 4 will start on October 4th.
The Wives are excited to share new hot tales and sexy advice on swinging, polyamory and kink.
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TRIGGER WARNING: This episode and article discusses consensual non-consent. Consensual non-consent, or rape play, involves consenting adults pretending not to consent to sexual activities, and may be triggering to some people, especially survivors of sexual assault. Please use your discretion as to whether or not this content is right for you.
Is the reality of rape play as hot as the fantasy? Time to check in with the Wives on their homework!
Have you ever fantasized about being ravished by a handsome burglar? Did you grow up reading âbodice ripperâ romance novels and want to play out the scenes that you read? Do you sometimes hope your trusted partner will take what he (or she) wants, no matter how hard you protest or struggle? If yes, then you might be into Consensual Non-Consent.
In this episode, the Wives report back on their sexy homework with CNC.
But first, check out this episode's cocktail, the Apple Bomb (be careful, this drink is deceptively strong!), while Kat shares her Hot Tale. After exploring intense CNC experiences, Kat and Mr. Kat enjoy a sweet and slippery night with LOTS of Coconut Oil!
Then, the Wives share their sexy homework on Consensual Non-Consent.
Ams and Mr. Ams tries a "midnight intruder" scene, with mixed results, but has better luck with dirty talk and impromptu forced pleasure play.
Kat and Mr. Kat, in the meantime, plan an elaborate punishment and forced exhibitionism scene in a high end hotel, including a surprise visit from a stranger!
Finally, itâs Just the Tips if you want to rape play with a trusted partner.
A very special thanks to Abbey Snider for editing assistance on this episode! You can check out Abbeyâs podcast, Sweet Baby Gay at https://abbeydotproductions.com/.
FOR MORE INFORMATION:
https://sexwithemily.com/consensual-non-consent/
https://www.vice.com/en/article/m7vyk4/consensual-non-consent-meaning
https://www.reddit.com/r/CNC_Connect/
https://domsubliving.com/5-things-about-consensual-non-consent/
https://badgirlsbible.com/cnc-kink-consensual-non-consent
https://www.elitedaily.com/dating/what-is-consensual-non-consent/
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TRIGGER WARNING: This episode and article discusses consensual non-consent. Consensual non-consent, or rape play, involves consenting adults pretending not to consent to sexual activities, and may be triggering to some people, especially survivors of sexual assault. Please use your discretion as to whether or not this content is right for you.
Have you ever fantasized about being ravished by a handsome burglar? Did you grow up reading "bodice ripper" romance novels and want to play out the scenes that you read? Do you sometimes hope your trusted partner will take what he (or she) wants, no matter how hard you protest or struggle? If yes, then you might be into Consensual Non-Consent.
In this episode, the Wives discussed what CNC is and why so many women fantasize about it. They also get excellent advice from tenured professor and relationship coach, Dr. Tara.
But first, it's time for Fall, bitches! Whip up our latest cocktail, the Autumn Sangria while listening to Ams' Hot Tale - after some hot vacation sex with Mr. Kat, Ams gets in trouble with Mr. Ams and he has naughty punishment in store. If you love power play and have a thing for punishment kink, this Hot Tale is for you!
Then, the Wives discuss their current knowledge past experiences with CNC.
Consensual non-consent, otherwise known as CNC, rape fantasy or rape play, involves consenting adults pretending to engage in forced, coerced or non-consensual sex.
CNC is not one-size fits all. Itâs not even just rape play. CNC includes:
Rape Fantasy â a person is forced to perform sexual acts Somnophilia â sexual acts while one person is asleep Kidnapping Fantasy â someone is abducted and/or held against their will Blackmail Fantasy â the âvictimâ must do as the blackmailer demands to avoid unpleasant circumstances Selling Fantasy â a person is sold for sexual or manual labor against their will Hypnosis â A person is hypnotized and used for erotic purposesAs with all the kinks we explore, consent is the key difference between a healthy exploration of sex and a crime.
Also, as with most of the kinks we explore on 2HW, there is no one right way to do this. The Wives deconstruct the components of this type of play and explore each element so that, for any woman who is interested in this kink and wants to explore, she can take what she wants and leave what she doesnât want.
Because of the sensitive nature of this kink, this episode focuses on our mission of exploring in a safe, female-identifying only space. If you are a male listener and this turns you on, you might be shit-outa-luck if you donât have an enthusiastically interested partner. We highly recommend that you donât push an agenda for this kink. Your partner is either enthusiastically interested or not.
But for women who are interested in exploring CNC, hopefully by the end of this episode, you feel a little less alone in your interest, a little more normal, and a little more equipped to explore it in a safe way.
Next, the Wives chat with Dr. Tara, professor and host of the LuvBites podcast on how to explore CNC in a safe, sane and consensual way.
Finally, the Wives assign themselves sexy homework and discuss how to set this up with their potentially reluctant husbands.
A very special thanks to Abbey Snider for editing assistance on this episode! You can check out Abbey's podcast, Sweet Baby Gay at https://abbeydotproductions.com/.
Dr. Tara is a tenured professor of relational and sexual communication at California State University Fullerton (recieved her tenure at the age of 33), an award-winning researcher, a sex and relationship coach, and the host of Luvbites by Dr. Tara Podcast that focuses on sexual wellness and sexploration. Her work has been featured in Cosmopolitan, Womenâs Health Magazine, Insider, and other media outlets. She's also the Relationship Tech consultant for Couply and Scratch Adventure mobile apps.
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Time to check in with the Wives on their Exhibitionism homework!
Are you an exhibitionist? Exhibitionism is a sexual kink in which a person gets turned on by being naked or having sex while someone watches. Consensual exhibitionism means that all people, watchers and participants, enthusiastically consent to the experience, and thatâs the kink this episode focuses on.
But first, check out this episode's cocktail, the Cucumber Gin Martini (classy!) while Kat doubles-down on exhibitionism with her favorite single guy.
Then, the Wives share their sexy homework on exhibitionism.
Ams brings her sexy persona to a very public place when her and 25 of her closest friends enjoy a little cosplay at an outdoor pop up roller rink. She also plays up exhibitionism closer to home with Mr. Ams and a mirror.
Kat takes exhibitionism up a notch with a sexy vacation to Austin and a reunion with lifestyle friends.
Finally, itâs Just the Tips if you want to play with exhibitionism on your own, or with friends!
A very special thanks to Abbey Snider for editing assistance on this episode! You can check out Abbeyâs podcast, Sweet Baby Gay at https://abbeydotproductions.com/.
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Are you an exhibitionist? Exhibitionism is a sexual kink in which a person feels sexual arousal at the idea or reality of being seen naked or engaged in sexual activities by others. Consensual exhibitionism means that all people, watchers and participants, are enthusiastically consenting to the experience, and that's the kink this episode focuses on.
But first, if you are looking for a light, end-of-summer cocktail, look no further than the Cucumber Lemonade. Mix one up while listening to Ams' Hot Tale - Ams reconnect with Brandon on a lifestyle couples date and experiences the Jedi Mind F**k.
Then, the Wives discuss their past experiences and interests in exhibitionism.
Exhibitionism is a sexual kink in which a person feels sexual arousal at the idea or reality of being seen naked or engaged in sexual activities by others. Consensual exhibitionism means that all people, watchers and participants, are enthusiastically consenting to the experience, and that's the kink this episode focuses on.
There are many reasons people enjoy exhibitionism. Some people enjoy breaking with the convention that sex happens in private. Participating, or even thinking about, taboo sexual behavior can be very hot and can even cause a physical rush of adrenaline or genital arousal.
For others, "showing off" sexually to others is a way to bolster self-esteem. When watched by an enthusiastic voyeur, exhibitionism can result in tons of admiration and positive feedback. And when a woman is how beautiful and sexy they look when naked or provocatively dressed (or when engaging in sex) that positive feedback can lead to more confidence and positive body image. And if you feel better about your body, you probably will want to have more sex!
Women might also explore exhibitionism as a safer way to connect with more than her primary partner. Having someone watch you have sex can be a form of communication and connection that can be a real turn on: watching a voyeur become aroused, participating in non-verbal communication (such as a wink or blowing a kiss) are ways to connect with a non-participating partner that can add a sexy spin on parallel play.
Finally, exhibitionism on a lesser scale can be an empowering way to remind the world that you exist as a sexual being. For women of-a-certain-age, especially those that are mothers, society sends us messages that we are no longer sexual beings. Don't believe me, check Amy Schumer's brilliant skit: Last F**kable Day Really, for any woman who doesn't meet the very narrow definition of sexual beauty, exhibitionism in the form of provocative dressing can be a way to recall your sexuality, encourage healthy body image and feel sexually empowered.
The Wives share their past experiences with exhibitionism (spoiler alert: Ams and Kat have sex in front of people all the time, but it isn't always a turn on).
Next, the Wives get sage advice from Dr. Carol Queen on how to explore exhibitionism if you are experiencing shyness, a reluctant partner or body image issues.
Finally, the Wives assign themselves sexy homework to explore ways to get turned on when other people are watching.
A very special thanks to Abbey Snider for editing assistance on this episode! You can check out Abbey's podcast, Sweet Baby Gay at https://abbeydotproductions.com/.
Dr. Carol Queen is staff sexologist and Company Historian at Good Vibrations, the woman-founded sex shop, where she has worked since 1990. A noted cultural sexologist whose work has been widely published, she's written or edited several books, including Exhibitionism for the Shy; The Leather Daddy & the Femme; and The Sex & Pleasure Book: Good Vibrations Guide to Great Sex for Everyone (lead author, with Shar Rednour). She has been speaking publicly about sexuality for 45 years and frequently speaks to the media as well as college, conference, and other audiences. She debated the question of promiscuity ("virtue or vice?") at the Oxford Union. With Dr. Robert Morgan Lawrence, Queen co-founded the Center for Sex & Culture [IG @centersexculture] in San Francisco.
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Time to check in with the Wives on their sexy homework from the book, Come as You Are, and the companion Workbook.
Author Emily Nagoski states that everyoneâs sexuality is unique and normal. Thatâs a wonderful and liberating message, but how can a woman learn about her unique sexual temperament from a book? Itâs time to dig a little deeper and pull out the workbook for sexy homework!
But first, if you looking for a cocktail that wonât weigh you down in these dog days of summer, check out the Grapefruit Spritzer while listening to Kat recount 22 straight days of morning sex with Mr. Kat (âŠjealous much?!?!)
Then, the Wives share their sexy homework with Come as You Are and the companion Workbook.
Drop that baggage, girl! Most women bring a lot of âbaggageâ in the bedroom, much of which is based on cultural messages around sex. Using the workbook, Ams and Kat explore how idealized versions of the âpureâ âhealthyâ and âhigh performanceâ woman make real women feel inadequate and self-critical.
Time to Start a Sex Binder. Do you plan for sex? Why not?!?! We plan for the things in life that are important to us, so why donât we plan more for sex? Ams uses the workbook to identify the âperfect contextâ for sex and better ways that her and Mr. Ams can initiate.
Let that Shit Go. Is stress keeping you from an amazing sex life? Kat confesses that chronic stress has been a major âbrakeâ in her life over the past two years, and references Emilyâs wisdom from CAUA as well as Emily and Amelia Nagoskiâs book, Burnout, to complete the stress cycle.
Finally, itâs Just the Tips for Come As You Are and the companion Workbook
A very special thanks to Abbey Snider for editing assistance on this episode! You can check out Abbeyâs podcast, Sweet Baby Gay at https://abbeydotproductions.com/.
Check out our Podcasts and Articles Featuring Books about Sex.
Part 1 for Come As You Are including our interview with Emily Nagoski!
The Ultimate Guide to Seduction and Foreplay (Part 1 and Part 2) including our interview with authors Jessica OâReilly, PhD (Sex with Dr. Jess) and Marla Renee Stewart, MA
Book Review: Come As You Are
Book Review: The Ultimate Guide to Seduction and Foreplay
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Are you ready to unlock the mysteries of female sexuality? Come As You Are is a must-read for all vulva-owners and the partners who want to please them. In this episode, the Wives interview author Emily Nagoski on how her can help all women maximize their capacity for pleasure.
But before we dive into the details, mix yourself up this episode's Cocktail - the Blood Orange Mule, while Ams recounts a ridiculous attempt to buy THC-infused lube in California
Then, the Wives FAN-GIRL over their favorite author, Emily Nagoski, and her award-winning book, Come As You Are.
Based on their initial read, the Wives learned the nitty gritty of female anatomy (how male parts and female parts are analogs of each other!), the Dual Control Model (with the notorious sexual "accelerators" and "brakes"), the difference between spontaneous and responsive desire and how to get all parts of your mind and body moving in one direction, for absolutely mind-blowing pleasure.
Next, the Wives go straight to the source, interviewing the incomparable Emily Nagoski, on Come As You Are as well as her newest project, which focuses on staying connected in a long term relationship.
Finally, the Wives assign themselves sexy homework: time to check out Come As You Are, the Workbook.
If you find female sexuality confusing and even frustrating, this book is a game-changer.
A very special thanks to Abbey Snider for editing assistance on this episode! You can check out Abbey's podcast, Sweet Baby Gay at https://abbeydotproductions.com/.
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Get ready for the hottest homework of this season!
In this episode, the Wives report back on their sexy homework with Bondage.
But first, if summer shenanigans are making you feel run down, check out this episode's cocktail: the Bourbon Elixir. And trust us, you will want a drink in hand when you listen to Kat's hot tale, steamy foreplay with not one, not two, BUT THREE men.
Then, the Wives share their sexy homework with bondage, including a sexy foursome, Dom/sub play and the kink that cannot be named (...pssst, between you and I, it's a GANG BANG!!!)
Finally, itâs Just the Tips for anyone who wants to explore bondage and restraint play.
Four popular types of restraints are: rope, binders, bondage tape and shackles.
Shackles/Cuffsâ a great place to start.
Shackles refer to cloth, leather or metal ankle or wrist restraints.
They are easy to put on and do an excellent job of keeping your partner immobilized.
Ropeâ is super versatile, but a little tricky to use.
The material and type of rope matters. Cotton rope may be a good starting point, because itâs softer on skin.
It can involve suspension. It can be paired with all kinds of other erotic play.
Can change the position of your body so you experience sensation differently.
Binders- Not for Bondage newbies.
The most common form of binders are arm binders, which completely immobilize the wearerâs arms (unlike handcuffs which still give them a little bit of wiggle room).
Another option are leather leg binders, which keep the wearer from bending their knee or moving on their own.
Bondage Tape- If you are looking for sometime quick and pretty.
Unlike regular tape, it only sticks to itself. Not skin or hair Bondage tape can be used to create makeshift hand or ankle cuffs, to secure someoneâs hands, legs or almost any body part.
Safety note: with tape play, you need to be careful of nearby candles or heat of any kind. Some adhesives will become too sticky when heated, pulling the top layer of skin off when you go to remove the tape.
To get the low-down on all things Bondage, listen to Part 1 where the Wives interview Kayla Lords, cohost of the podcast Loving BDSM.
A very special thanks to Abbey Snider for editing assistance on this episode! You can check out Abbeyâs podcast, Sweet Baby Gay at https://abbeydotproductions.com/.
WANT TO LEARN MORE ABOUT BONDAGE
Check out our Season 1 episode on Impact Play
Our two-part episode on Dungeons (Part 1 and Part 2)
And our BSDM Articles:
Five Myths about Impact Play
Your Sweet, Kinky, Embraceable You
Essential Items for a Home Dungeon.
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEUNDER THE BED RESTRAINTS
EVERYTHING BONDAGE KIT
SHIBARI ROPE
HITACHI WAND
MASSAGE TABLE
EYE SHADES
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