Wow! This spiritual stuff is really great but...A Quiet Mind add
In this episode of A Quiet Mind I will be smashing some paradigms of spirituality, enlightenment and do-goodery.
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Failure, the Other F WordA Quiet Mind add
Life is difficult. There is pain and suffering and at times there is a deep misery or depression beyond our control. Sometimes we fail and sometimes the world just kicks our ass.
It's ok to fail, forget, blow it, lose it and fall. To move forward we must allow ourselves to look the fool, to trip up and make mistakes. The saying goes, fall six times and get up seven but no one tells you how long you can stay down. I say, stay down as long as you need to and you'll know when to get back up.
Just know this: what keeps us down is how we talk to ourselves in our heads. Watch out for self deprecating thoughts and actions but don't try to use positive mantras to get up again. Your job is to just watch and observe where the thoughts come from and become aware of how you may be sustaining your own failures by your thinking patterns.
We can move forward without the harsh inner critic and the condescending mind chatter. Be aware of the difficulties in going against the stream of normalcy and learn how to coast where you need to coast.
Things to remember:
We don't need to feel bliss to be ok in life. That type of thinking denotes that there is someone who is feeling bliss and someone who is not. Bliss just is and we are that.
Create time to be natural and discover what the natural state is without using the mind to define what is natural.
Give yourself permission to fail.
Watch out for holding on to expectations of perfection.
See that it's all perfect when the judgements and expectations are silent.
In life we are goal driven and it's ok to have a goal to pay the bills and put food on the table but we should be weary of holding onto goals of being a perfect person.
Observe without taking notes and labeling your progress. Just watch the one who watches. Once we start to become aware of the witness inside, the pure awareness that we are, we can experience the non dual (our natural state) first hand.
Everythings gonna be okA Quiet Mind add
Reminders on the path
Don't worry so much.
You're only doing the best you can.
Fully embrace every aspect of who you are right now.
Rest in being here right now.
Decided to feel good.
Don't try so hard.
Just be yourself
Be the ONE
When sitting in meditation be comfortable, don't try to meditate.
Watch your breath go in and out.
If you have thoughts, no problem just keep sitting.
If your butt hurts that's fine just keep sitting.
If you can't sit, just sit anyway.
So you want a quiet mind eh?A Quiet Mind add
Once upon a time there was a thought, and the thought was, "a quiet mind is all you need." A quiet mind is all anyone needs to feel happy, peaceful, whole and complete. If your mind just stops and becomes still, what remains? It’s simple really and anyone can see this. What remains is quiet and quiet by its very nature is peaceful and peace is nice. Peace feels good, it feels serene, and who doesn't like serene?
Boy oh boy, what a crazy thought (to quiet the mind) because now there was a goal and a mission, an impossible mission at that. I must tell you, if you give the hyper analytical mind of an obsessive being such as myself a goal, you better watch out because it will stop at nothing to achieve said goal. So began the twenty year quest to achieve the impossible, to achieve having a quiet mind.
What a wonderful journey it has been. I have seen so much and learned so much. I'm literally bursting with things to share with you at this plateau of understanding, you the listeners, you the fellow travelers. If I haven't said it before or often enough, I want to say it again and again. Thank you, fellow adventurer from the bottom of my heart for being here, for being my listening ears. I bow to you all with the deepest, heartfelt gratitude. Without you my friends, I would never have been able to make such a difficult journey.
How can one achieve a quiet mind and feel peace, happiness and contentment all the time? Those questions and many others will be answered in this next series of podcasts that will deal directly with how to quiet your mind. What do you need to do? All you need to do is show up and listen. I’m here to remind you that you are what you seek and happiness is your true nature. We are THAT and a quiet mind can bring peace, happiness and contentment to your life. Is that the end? No I think it's only a good start but it's a powerful start. So together let’s do this thing.
Lizard Brain is Behind the WheelA Quiet Mind add
Do you have lizard brain behind the wheel? Scared? Fearful? Angry? Defensive? This podcast addresses our survival instinct we may have while driving and how we can evolve beyond a scared reptile into a calm, kind and compassionate traveler. Know the warning signs of lizard brain driving:Feeling a lack of control Anger Rage Feeling trapped or powerless Feeling suppressed Outbursts of anger like shouting, cursing Using your car like a shell or shield for protection Using your car as a weapon or threat Identify with your car as an extension of you
You are not your car; this is not your hermit shell that needs protection. Do you want to defend your car and your opinion or do you want to feel peaceful and calm in this moment? Remember you are not your story, your feelings, emotions, thoughts or possessions. You are something much bigger than that. Your co-pilot is calm.
The Highway 101 BluesA Quiet Mind add
It's Monday morning and your late again. Your stuck in bumper to bumper traffic and losing it. That jerk in the convertible just cut you off and that crazy person behind you is ridding your ass. Your trapped behind a Wal-Mart truck that is spewing diesel fumes into your passenger side widow making you choke and tear up. The widows rolled down because the air conditioner is on the fritz again and your spritzing like an animal. You can feel the rage beginning to build up inside you.
It's hot, smelly, overcrowded and insane. Your on the edge…How can you possibly meditate or relax in this situation? Listen to this podcast to learn some ways to help you navigate through the chaos and noise. Explore some innate abilities that help you cope and relive your suffering, dis-ease and stress.
Heart MindA Quiet Mind add
When the attachment to thoughts subsides our mind naturally gets quiet and we begin to experience gaps between thoughts. In these gaps we can hear the soft -spoken voice of the heart. This soft-spoken voice is a compass, that can point us to the direction we need to travel - inward.
In life sometimes we need guidance and advice so we may look outward to our friends and family for counsel and wisdom. My advice to you is this, seek the inward path to your own inner teacher, it’s there for us at anytime and any place. This guide has always been there within us we were born with it, at times it’s just difficult or impossible to hear. The voice of the heart is quiet, soft and non intrusive. On the other had the external noises of life are often so harsh and loud that the soto voice of our heart is drowned out completely.What can we do to hear our inner guidance? Daily seek a place of solitude and calm and simply stop. Set everything down. Be still. Take several long slow deep breathes in and out. Allow yourself to settle. Each day we have the opportunity to acknowledge this inner stillness and the soft voice of our can our heart-mind. Each day we can make this moment of stillness a priority. It’s up to us.
Happiness NowA Quiet Mind add
In every moment there is the opportunity to see that your true nature is happiness. There is no need to seek for what is already yours. The treasure is within you.Spend quiet time alone contemplating nothingness See that you are perfect in this moment Accept things as they are and be gracious Change is a constant Thoughts will come and go You are much bigger than you know Practice being still The felling you have that everything is OK is not wishful thinking In the morning be aware of the morning Grinch telling you that everything is miserable, you are miserable, it's all miserable. Who or what is that voice inside you? Enquire, be curious and know your true Self
How to Wake UpA Quiet Mind add
Everyone wants a clear and concise "how to wake up" method, this is impossible without the willingness of the participant to jump in and take the necessary risks to give up their old ways of thinking and seeing.
The Podcast is at the bottom of the article
If you want to know the truth about who you really are and what this is really all about you have to be willing to give up the old methods, to reach beyond thought and thinking mind and to take the dive into the unknown.
You must ask yourself, “What do I want?” and then be willing to risk it all to have that.
So what do you want? If you want peace, happiness and serenity, what are you willing to give up to have that?
Are you willing to give up your attachment to thoughts, memories, concepts, judgements and beliefs to have peace?
Sacrifice is part of the path of no path.
You don’t have to give up everything and walk into the woods (though I’ve done that) to discover the truth, but you may have to give up trying to think your way to the truth. There comes a time when we have to leave behind our precious beliefs and open to newness.
I’m not talking about Robert’s way, I’m talking about rediscovering your own innate wisdom, happiness, and contentment that you arrived with.
I can only point to this truth and MY way means nothing at all.
All I ask of you is this -Can you look deeply into your own heartmind and see that you had it all along, that nothing is broken in you and nothing needs to be fixed. Your OK The way to IT is simple. It’s down beneath the thinking mind and it’s found in silence.
Returning to IntimacyA Quiet Mind add
Return to the one that is not touched by the circumstances of the world. The one that lives in this world but not of this world. Drop the meditator, drop the form and just sit without any rigid model. There is no reconnection or creation of an experience or paradigm, it's ordinary and easy to do.Just sit Don't try to do anything Accept, accept , acccept Be compassionate with the mind noises Invite them in for tea and cake Don't try to create a quiet mind Don't try to let go Don't try to do it right Be breathed No special tools required No special words or prayers needed Just be you.A stillness practice does not need to be another task or your list, just sit and be there with what is and don't resist whatever comes up. Just embrace all arrising phenomenon as it is and sit with what is. You are not here to accomplish anything or get anything right, just be and remember all thought is just thought and all pain is arising phenomenon. Breathe and accept. Breathe and be. Breathe and return to intimacy.
Barking Dog MindA Quiet Mind addDo you have a barking dog mind that wont shut up?
Are you trying to distract it with treats, and other bribes? Do you ignore is barks and try to drown them out with other sounds? Do you numb out with television, alcohol, food, games, internets or other drugs? Are you tired of the non stop yapping? Are you ready to learn how to quiet your inner barking dog? Then read on.At present we can observe that we have a very noisy mind, it barks day and night, even in our sleep. We’ve tried a million things to quiet it and it never stops and in most cases it gets even louder. If we can be honest with ourselves and see that the present methods of taming the inner canine have failed then we have reached the first step accepting what is so. Up to this point your methods have failed, or they are temporary and fleeting at best. Can you drop your old ways and open to something new? That is the second step. The third step is to introduce new ways of thinking about your mind barking.
So we have these steps to take. Accepting old methods are not working. Make room for some new ideas Introduce a new way to look at your present state of being.
When we accept things and stop fighting our own minds the brain has a chance to rest and settle. When it settles we can reach a point of clarity and stillness that allows for a certain freshness, a hollowed ground so to speak, a place to plant new seeds?When we let go of ideas and preferences we can make room for newness to enter into our experience. When our minds are full there is simply no room for new ideas. Can you suspend your beliefs and have an open mind? If so continue on.
Congratulations you have moved on and you are ready to test out some new ideas and concepts. That’s right we are going to test things out for ourselves. A wise teacher once said, “You don’t have to take my word for it. Simply try it for yourself.” And this is very true, we should always try a teaching for ourselves and see if it fits.
New ideas. You are not your thoughts. You are not who you think you are. You can be free from you barking dog mind. Know that most of what we see and experience in others is also barking dog mind.Presently we think that we are the thoughts that stream through our minds. They come and go and sometimes never leave us alone. These thoughts are just like radio signals, we can choose to tune in, or tune out, or tune off. Can you try out this new way of thinking?
The new way to think is, “I’m not my thoughts, or the voices arising from this mind and I can let them pass”
Try this out for a week and report back to share your insights.
Ego schmego!A Quiet Mind addThe invitation to arrive in this moment is constantly being offered to you. It's up to you to take it.
The mind wants to believe that we can't live without it and when we begin to see that we can, it's soft underbelly is exposed and vulnerable. In this state it's first reaction is to strike back against it's attacker and use all of it's defense mechanisms. These defense mechanisms come in varied form but in most cases it uses fear as it's primary weapon. It may also use numbing tactics like immersing oneself in a mindless television shows, playing a video games, or getting drunk, or high.
What can we do?
When we use our breath to come home and check in we can catch ourselves before we use a tactic, habit or substance to escape the rat mind. When we catch ourselves before we engage in that habit we can instill this practice, the practice or activity of just observing. Observing silently, without judgment and letting the thoughts pass by. Try sitting today for just two minutes. If your mind say's it's bored, then just sit there and be as bored as you can. Do boredom all the way. If your mind wont stop spinning, just let it spin and don't try to do a thing. Do nothing all the way everyday for just a few minutes. There is no need to have a formal meditation practice, just sit quietly, watch, listen and breath.
Fire your ego and call off the search. You are home and you have arrived.A Quiet Mind add
Learning to breathe.A Quiet Mind add
*At the bottom of this post is a link to hear the podcast.If you think about it we were never taught to breath, isn’t that strange? We have been living out our whole lives without the basic instructions on how to breathe properly. Isn’t that shocking? Most of us breathe like little chipmunks that are being chased by Mr. Twinkles the neighborhood cat. That type of breathing is fight or flight, or panic breathing. We are all running from Mr. Twinkles in our own way throughout the day.Some examples of using panic breathing would be: Rush hour traffic someone cuts you off. The boss yells at you in front of your whole team. Your child runs into the street. You have a confrontation with a co-worker, friend, or spouse that erupts into a full fledged argument. You are in pain from a stomach ache, injury or severe illness.In all the instances we are usually taking very short and shallow breathes that only worsen the circumstance or situation. So what can we do? We can learn to breath properly. Here are some steps to proper breathing and recognizing the warning signs of panic breathing. Your body tenses up, clenched fist, or clenched jaws. Your sweating, shaking, tensed in the neck or shoulders. You have body aches in neck, shoulders, or hands. You have stomach aches, ulcers, or allergies. Trouble eating, sleeping, relaxing.The signs are there and I recognize them, now what do I do? Stop and check in with yourself. Become aware of the signals you are receiving. Excuse yourself from the circumstance or situation and find a quiet corner. Exhale all the breath from your body and let your head, shoulders and stomach relax. Take a long, slow, deep breath and do this several times. On your exhale try saying to yourself, “In, I’m breathing in. Out, I’m breathing out.” Notice the minds casting about habit to find ways that it may make itself right. It may use tactics that include saying things like this: “He was wrong and treated me with disrespect!” “That jackass cut me off. He’s going to kill someone!” “No one can treat me like this, I’m going to report that jerk!” Gently bring your attention back to your breathing. Repeat until calm and don’t give in to the minds demands.
This is not about pushing these feelings or emotions down, or to be in denial of your personal rights, freedoms etc. This is about calming the ego/mind before you respond using your emotions, rather than calm reason. This is about creating a platform for a proper response. The concept I’m presenting here is about not been run by the emotional outbursts that our ego may throw out there to defend itself. We are calming the mind in order to relax back into our natural state of being before we respond or act on impulse.Just breathe...
What is your heart's desire? With Mallika ChopraA Quiet Mind addHere are the four questions we asked Mallika Chopra.
What would your answers be?1. What is you heart's desire?2. What motivates you?3 How do you stay on track when you feel like giving up?4. What is the biggest secret to following our heart's desire?
Where I become a test subject for following your heart's desire.A Quiet Mind add
I'm jumping in and taking you with me! Join me on the journey of following your heart's desire. Let's step into the unknown together and take the leap of faith. In this podcast we talk about: Embracing your own inner teacher/guide and waking up to your full potential.
We create an experiment to see what happens when we turn around 180 degrees and go in the direction we are guided to go.
Embracing the opportunity to wake up and see our true self.
The void we feel. The disconnect is nothing more than a thought or thoughts arising that we decide to hook in to, give meaning to, embellish and create the story we call 'self'. We look at being content, happy and peaceful by dropping the concept that something from the outside will make us whole. (If only I could change such and such about myself, I could feel good and be happy.)
If you no longer attached to these thoughts and you dropped thinking all together, what would your life be like ?
We came in here complete, needing nothing but the basics in life. We complicated this by constructing a separate self. That is the idea of a self that is separate from all others and all things. We can dissolve this separate self and experience life the way it was meant to be experienced. Happy, blissful and full of joy!