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Have you ever looked around your home and realized just how much you’ve accumulated over the years? When it’s time to move into assisted living, it’s not about taking everything — it’s about being thoughtful and intentional with what you bring.
This next chapter is all about comfort, safety, and simplicity. You’re creating a space that’s manageable, meaningful, and truly feels like home — not just a smaller version of your current house. It’s an opportunity to surround yourself with the items you love and use the most, while letting go of things that no longer serve you.
Not long ago, someone shared with me a story about their family member's jewelry being stolen in assisted living. This got me thinking about the importance of protecting our valuables. My own mother and her husband are on this journey towards assisted living, and I’ve been reflecting on what truly needs to be left behind. Let’s take a look at the key things you might want to reconsider bringing along to ensure a safe and comfortable transition.
Chapters:00:00 Introduction and Clarifications01:53 Welcome to Aging and Style02:23 Things Not to Bring to Assisted Living03:28 Detailed List of Items to Avoid08:58 Final Thoughts and Personal Advice11:31 Conclusion and FarewellWhat You Shouldn't Bring To Assisted Living
First on the list of what to leave behind: big, bulky furniture.
On the surface, this might seem arbitrary, but when downsizing from a house to a cozier living space, every square inch counts. Most people moving into assisted living have some level of mobility issues, which could be aggravated by cramped spaces. Walking aids or wheelchairs require space to maneuver. I recommend looking at the floor plan of the new place and bringing in only those pieces that will fit comfortably within that layout.
Then, there are fire hazards. Items such as hot plates or space heaters fall into this category and should be left behind. These items are generally prohibited within assisted living communities for your safety and the safety of others. Rest assured, the community will ensure your new home is safe and cozy without these potential risks.
Valuables are another category worth a second thought. I'm not insinuating that your things will be stolen, but both personal experience and hearsay remind us that things do disappear. Cases of jewelry theft in assisted living, whether by third parties like caregivers or rare unscrupulous visitors, are not unheard of. My advice? Store those heirlooms, treasures, and large sums of cash in a safety deposit box, or entrust them with a family member.
When it comes to clothes, remember that you’re not packing for a fashion runway. If you haven't worn it since 1985, chances are you won't miss it. Assisted living is an opportunity to downsize and focus on comfort and essentials. Try to pare down your wardrobe, keeping only those items you frequently wear. Remember, closet space is often limited.
Harsh cleaning chemicals are another item on the do-not-pack list. Assisted living comes with the perk of housekeeping services. They provide cleaning products, and they tackle chores like washing sheets and general cleaning, so you don’t have to.
As for gym equipment, while staying fit is crucial, there’s no need to lug your treadmill or indoor bicycle along. Most communities offer gym facilities with exercise rooms and equipment. However, if small items like a yoga mat or set of light weights are part of your daily routine, feel free to bring them along.
Weapons, surprisingly, are sometimes not considered, but this too is a no-go. Regardless of historical or personal significance, weapons should never accompany you to assisted living. It’s safer and wiser to pass them on to a trusted relative or keep them in secure storage.
Lastly, pets—oh yes, our furry friends! While...
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When finding suitable senior housing for yourself or a loved one, the journey can seem daunting and filled with unknowns. But if you're in the state of Texas, recent legislative changes promise a safer and more transparent path forward. With the enactment of Senate Bill 1383, the senior placement industry is set to undergo significant shifts towards enhanced oversight and accountability, bringing peace of mind to families navigating these critical life decisions.
As a senior living expert who's been in the trenches for 18+ years, I've seen firsthand the pressing need for these changes. The industry can often feel like the wild west because it lacks uniform standards and checks. But now, with these new regulations, families can breathe a little easier knowing that the people they trust are held to higher standards of integrity and professionalism.
Chapters:
00:45 Understanding Senior Placement Services01:10 How Senior Placement Agencies Operate03:40 The Need for Senate Bill 138306:31 Key Requirements of Senate Bill 138310:23 What This Means for Consumers13:21 Lori's Personal Stories and ExperiencesAt the heart of Senate Bill 1383 is the need to protect our most vulnerable population. Why was this necessary? Simply put, not everyone in the senior placement world played by the rules. Before this legislative change, entering the industry was relatively easy, leading to a patchwork of service providers. Although many are motivated by a genuine passion for helping seniors, others joined without a full understanding of the responsibilities involved.
The law requires a criminal background check on anyone involved with seniors and their families. It's crucial that we trust those who are meant to guide us through these pivotal transitions. Additionally, the mandate for liability insurance while it might seem like a no-brainer is sometimes overlooked. This insurance protects not only the families we serve but also the agencies themselves.
Documented proof of a valid license and a community's good standing are now prerequisites for referral agencies, ensuring that the places we recommend meet state standards. I've always emphasized the importance of walking through these spaces, being boots on the ground, and ensuring that they live up to their promises. However, for many, this bill will be a needed push in that direction.
Full disclosure now extends to compensation methods as well. Although placement services are free for families, there's often confusion about how businesses like mine sustain themselves. We receive payment directly from the senior living communities but are obligated to reveal how and why we are compensated. No more guessing games for families trying to understand the process.
The right to discontinue a service without consequence is now enshrined in law. In the past, families frequently found themselves tied to agencies without proper informed consent. This often happened when they mistakenly contacted a national service instead of a local one. Now, any family unhappy with a service can easily transition to another without any strings attached.
Additionally, disclosure requirements mean families must be informed if they're not being presented with every available option. Sometimes families need to be reminded that there might be places we do not recommend due to contractual or quality reasons, but that should never limit their right to explore all their options. The power is now back in the hands of the families.
Lastly, I must say, my agency's been adhering to these best practices even before the legislation required it. But knowing that now everyone must follow the same rigorous standards gives me great comfort. These measures set a precedent for excellence and integrity across the state that should serve as a model elsewhere.
The journey to find the right living...
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Have you ever pondered the challenges faced by LGBT seniors when searching for welcoming communities and services? Imagine walking into a new environment with the fear that being true to yourself might not be met with understanding or tolerance. As someone who values inclusivity and acceptance, I've been moved by the stories and efforts to create culturally competent spaces for aging adults in the LGBT community.
I had the pleasure of discussing this very topic with Founding Board Member, Treasurer, and Chairman of the Housing Committee, Robert Emery and Executive Director Dr. Diane Thornton, and their passion for supporting our LGBT seniors is nothing short of contagious.
Chapters:
00:00 Introduction and Initial Research01:13 Welcome to Aging and Style Podcast02:00 Discovering the Coalition for Aging LGBT03:55 Meet the Guests: Robert Emery and Dr. Diane Thornton05:34 The Importance of LGBT-Friendly Senior Housing06:32 Challenges Faced by LGBT Seniors08:14 The Coalition's Mission and Impact10:17 Creating Inclusive Senior Communities16:17 Personal Stories and Testimonials24:02 Concluding Thoughts and ResourcesPicture this: you’re seeking a welcoming community for your aging mother and her wife. The initial responses from senior residential facilities may be positive, but scratch the surface, and you might find they lack specific programs or awareness needed for LGBT inclusivity. This stark reality prompted the Coalition for Aging LGBT to take action, and they’ve devised innovative measures to improve the landscape for our aging LGBT friends. By instilling cultural competence in senior living facilities across North Texas, they are paving the way for a more inclusive future.
The Coalition for Aging LGBT began with a pivotal moment in 2011—an invitation to a meeting at the Obama White House focused on aging in America. When their founder returned to Dallas, he realized the pressing need to address the unique requirements of the 200,000 LGBT seniors residing in North Texas. Through surveys and personal anecdotes, it became clear that housing was a primary concern for this demographic, motivating the coalition's continuous advocacy for legal and legislative change. They also focus on health issues and financial security.
Their efforts didn't just stop at advocacy; they developed an LGBT Friendly Senior Housing Guide with a rigorous metric system to assess the preparedness of facilities. What stands out is their commitment to education and awareness—training staff at all levels to foster a welcoming environment. This isn't about transforming spaces into exclusive LGBT communities; it's about ensuring everyone feels at home, opening dialogues, and moving from implicit support to explicit acknowledgment and inclusion.
It's vital to understand the microaggressions faced by LGBT seniors, often stemming from unintentional but nevertheless hurtful comments. A classic example is the assumption that being LGBT is a "choice"—a misconception the coalition addresses through their training. The end goal is to create environments where revealing one's identity isn't met with silence or judgment but rather acceptance and support. In this way, LGBT seniors and their family members can enjoy peace of mind about their care and community.
As our conversation concluded, I was filled with hope and determination, recognizing the impact that education, acceptance, and informed dialogue can have on creating inclusive spaces for LGBT seniors. I invite you to reflect on the stories shared and consider how we, as a community, can continue to support LGBT seniors in living their truth in comfort and security.
Thank you for joining this journey towards inclusiveness. If you're inspired and want to know more, think about reaching out to organizations like the Coalition for Aging LGBT or...
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What does the real estate market look like in 2025 for seniors who want to sell their homes?
As more senior homeowners consider downsizing or relocating to be closer to family, the real estate market presents both opportunities and challenges. Navigating this transition requires careful planning, a trusted realtor, and a strategy tailored to meet individual needs.
Whether you're contemplating selling your lifetime residence or simply curious about current trends, understanding what lies ahead in 2025 will be instrumental in making informed decisions.
In our latest episode of Aging and Style with Lori Williams, we dive into the complexities of the real estate market for seniors. Joined by Tricia Spurrier, a seasoned realtor with expertise in working with senior clients, we explore the current real estate market's considerations, the impact of market changes, and how seniors can maximize their home equity during this pivotal stage of life.
Understanding the Market Dynamics
The real estate market in 2025 has seen some significant shifts since 2021. Gone are the days of the "crazy hair on fire seller's market" spurred by the pandemic and low-interest rates. Instead, we're experiencing a more stabilized environment, though still a seller's market with increased inventories across regions like the Dallas-Fort Worth metroplex.
The key difference today is inventory levels. Seniors looking to sell now face about two to three months' worth of inventory compared to the meager weeks available in previous years. This means homes may stay on the market longer but are still selling due to the ongoing demand driven by life changes like marriage, divorce, or relocation.
Embracing Buyer Trends
Tricia highlights a demographic shift in today's buyer profile, with the average first-time homebuyer being 38 years old compared to the early twenties seen in past decades. Economic factors and cultural changes contribute to Americans waiting longer to buy homes, but their purchasing decisions are driven by necessity and lifestyle changes, ensuring a steady market for sellers.
Seniors selling their homes have an opportunity to capture this buyer interest, especially when relocating buyers, such as those from other states seeking to be near family, are factored into their strategies.
Real Estate Options for Seniors
One of the most reassuring takeaways from our conversation is the multitude of options available to seniors. Whether it involves placing a home on the MLS or considering an off-market cash offer, working with experienced realtors like Tricia ensures seniors are well-equipped with all the information they need. In some cases, working with trusted investors provides a straightforward and stress-free path, allowing seniors to bypass the traditional listing process altogether.
Seniors often hesitate to contact a realtor due to the fear of being pressured into making quick decisions or undergoing extensive home renovations. Tricia assures us that professional assessments can be done without urgency or obligation, empowering seniors to make comfortable and informed decisions about the sale of their homes.
Navigating Emotional Transitions
Selling a home after several decades encompasses more than financial transactions; it's a deeply personal journey. Emotions run high as homeowners sift through years of memories, and the thought of packing and moving can feel overwhelming. This is where senior-focused real estate services, including specialized movers, make a difference by easing the transition process.
Also, multigenerational living is becoming increasingly popular, with seniors choosing to cohabitate with family members rather than live independently. Whether moving into a dedicated suite within a family home or pooling resources to purchase a new property, this trend...
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What if a dog could break through silence, spark healing, and bring peace to the most vulnerable people—just by showing up?
In this episode of Aging in Style with Lori Williams, you’ll hear the incredible story of a nonverbal woman in a senior facility who spoke and sang for the first time after petting a therapy dog. This is just one of many emotional, real-life moments shared by Debbie Piland and Kelly Ray from Canines for Christ Therapy Dog Ministry.
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00:01:00- Introduction to Canines for Christ00:02:00 - The mission: loving God, loving people, loving dogs00:05:00 - Expanding beyond senior care to crisis response and prisons00:09:30 - Luca the therapy dog and his path to certification00:17:00 - Training, testing, and how any dog can become a therapy dog00:20:00 - Real-life stories of impact and healing00:27:00 - Overcoming fear of dogs through therapy sessions00:34:00 - Volunteer roles and ambassador opportunitiesThis isn't just about dogs offering comfort—it's a mission rooted in faith, compassion, and powerful connection. From memory care facilities to crisis response scenes like Uvalde, Texas, these dogs (and their handlers) are offering more than presence—they’re changing lives. If you’ve ever wondered how therapy animals really work, or if your dog might have what it takes, this episode is your guide.
Canines for Christ is an international Christian ministry using therapy dogs as vessels of healing, hope, and love. Volunteers visit senior living communities, hospitals, children’s grief centers, crisis sites, and even prisons. With a unique “ministry of presence,” these animals open doors where words often fail, reaching people in emotional and spiritual pain.
Debbie and Kelly share not only their personal journeys but also the training and qualifications involved in becoming a Canines for Christ therapy dog handler. From passing the AKC Canine Good Citizen test to understanding each dog’s temperament and gifts, this episode breaks down what’s truly needed to get involved. You’ll also learn about the diverse programs offered—from reading buddies to junior handlers—and how every visit is tailored to the emotional needs of the setting.
Through touching stories and practical insight, this conversation unveils the beautiful, often unexpected ways dogs connect with people. Whether it’s a child in trauma, a veteran in hospice, or a lonely senior missing their pet, therapy dogs can break barriers, inspire conversation, and even stir memory and song. And with only one chapter currently in the Dallas-Fort Worth area, the need for more volunteers is real and growing.
If this story stirred your heart, don’t just listen—get involved. Learn more, donate, or start your journey toward becoming an ambassador with Canines for Christ at k9forchrist.org. You can also visit LoriWilliams-SeniorServices.com to hear more inspiring episodes, and don’t forget to share this one with someone who loves dogs—or needs hope.
Resources mentioned in this episode:
Get my new book, 'Surrounded by Love: One's Family Journey Through Stroke Recovery': https://loriwilliams-seniorservices.com/book
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On the last week of Stroke Awareness Month, we're diving deep into the emotional journey that families experience when a loved one suffers a stroke. Throughout May, I've been sharing about the profound impact that strokes have had on my family, especially on me as a caregiver to my husband, Mark, who is a four-time stroke survivor.
To start with, let me transport you back to that chilling Christmas night in 2022. I remember driving to the hospital, it was freezing cold, and I was in complete shock and disbelief, praying that Mark would be okay. These immediate feelings of shock and crisis mode are something many families go through.
Chapters:
00:59 Personal Stroke Journey01:39 Emotional Impact on Families02:42 Immediate Reactions to a Stroke05:41 Living in Crisis Mode 09:42 Role Reversal and Family Dynamics 15:06 Long-Term Psychological Effects26:23 Coping Mechanisms and Support for Stroke Survivors and their families31:51 Honoring Joyful Moments 34:49 Closing Thoughts and ResourcesThe initial impact is intense, but it doesn’t end there. Mark didn’t come home for seven months, moving from one hospital to another and then to rehabs. During this time, my life was filled with hypervigilance, always on high alert for fear of falls or seizures. I also share a deeply personal incident where Mark had a massive seizure, an event even more terrifying than the strokes, which left my son and me shaken for months.
The role reversals hit us hard as well. Our son, Chris, had to step into the caregiver role, something that I’m incredibly proud of yet saddened by. It's tough seeing your child taking care of their parent, but Chris has been a rock through it all. We also experienced a shift in my relationship with Mark. As his primary caregiver, our dynamic shifted away from being partners to me being more in a caretaker mode. This shift is common for many families dealing with chronic illnesses.
Long-term psychological effects are real and tough to manage. I experienced chronic anxiety and even PTSD-like symptoms, particularly after Mark’s seizure. Little things would trigger this constant state of anxiety, whether it was a cough sounding off or the fear of another stroke. Depression and grief also crept in when I least expected it. I found myself grieving the man Mark used to be and the life we had planned together, like traveling in an RV across the country or going to Europe. To cope, I’ve sought support from friends and occasionally use medication for anxiety. It’s vital to have an emergency plan. We keep a detailed medication list on the refrigerator, have a grab bag ready for hospital trips, and maintain an A, B, C plan for caregiving.
It gave me peace of mind to have these in place. Educating myself about strokes and connecting with support groups also helped me feel empowered. Yet, amidst all this, it’s crucial to honor the joyful moments. There are still beautiful, small victories to celebrate, like Mark walking up the stairs with the help of a wonderful PT or going for a walk in our neighborhood after two and a half years. These moments, although they may seem small to others, mean the world to us.
Many families are walking similar paths, dealing with the ripple effects of a loved one’s illness. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, seek help, whether it’s through therapy, a support group, or just talking to a friend. Don’t forget to take care of yourself and find something to laugh about each day. Thank you for sticking with me through this month of Stroke Awareness. Please share this episode with friends and family who might be going through the same journey. Follow us on social media, and don’t miss our new episodes every Friday. Until next time, take care, and remember to find the silver lining in every situation.
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When my husband had his first stroke on Christmas Day 2022, I wasn’t prepared for how much our lives would change. One moment, we were preparing a late dinner; the next, I was rushing him to the hospital. That night marked the beginning of a series of events that would redefine our family's routine and my role as a caregiver.
Since then, I’ve learned a lot about strokes, from prevention to recovery, and how crucial it is to be stroke-smart. Through my personal journey, I hope to share what I’ve learned to help other families avoid some of the mistakes I made and prepare for the challenges of stroke recovery.
Understanding Strokes: What I Wish I Knew
Looking back, I wish I’d known that 80% of strokes are preventable. This is a staggering statistic that continues to resonate with me. If we’d been aware of the risk factors, maybe we could’ve prevented my husband’s strokes. The fact that strokes are the fifth leading cause of death and a leading cause of long-term disability underscores just how critical it is to be informed.
So, what exactly is a stroke? There are two main types:
Ischemic stroke, the most common type, occurs when a blood clot blocks a vessel in the brain.Hemorrhagic stroke happens when a blood vessel ruptures, causing bleeding in the brain.Spotting a Stroke: The B.E. F.A.S.T. Method
If you suspect someone is having a stroke, time is of the essence. The B.E. F.A.S.T. method helps you identify the signs and act quickly:
Balance lossEyesight changesFace droopingArm weaknessSpeech difficultyTime to call 911I made the mistake of driving my husband to the hospital instead of calling 911, which delayed the care he needed. Calling 911 ensures the stroke team is ready when you arrive.
The Long Road to Recovery
Recovery after a stroke isn’t quick, but the brain has an incredible ability to adapt, thanks to neuroplasticity. Through continuous physical, speech, and occupational therapy, my husband has made progress, even two years later. We celebrate every win, no matter how small. If you or your loved one is recovering from a stroke, remember that improvement is possible—even years later.
Takeaways from the episode:Know the Signs of a Stroke: Balance loss, eyesight changes, face drooping, arm weakness, speech difficulty, and the importance of calling 911 immediately.Prevent 80% of Strokes: Maintain healthy blood pressure and cholesterol levels, quit smoking, stay physically active, and manage health conditions like diabetes and sleep apnea.Understand Stroke Impact: Strokes cause permanent brain damage and can result in a wide range of physical and cognitive disabilities.Leverage Neuroplasticity for Recovery: Engage in repeated therapy to help the brain re-route around damaged areas and promote recovery.Support and Community Matter: Simple acts like meal trains and walking the dog significantly ease the burden on families going through medical crises.Resources mentioned in this episode:
Get my new book, 'Surrounded by Love: One's Family Journey Through Stroke Recovery': https://loriwilliams-seniorservices.com/book
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In the midst of a crisis, words can be powerful. They can uplift and support, or they can unintentionally wound. After experiencing a medical emergency with my husband, Mark, I've come to appreciate the importance of words. People often want to help but can end up saying the wrong thing, leaving the person in crisis feeling more stressed and alone. Today, I want to share some things you should avoid saying to someone in a crisis based on my own experiences, because sometimes the most supportive thing is knowing what not to say.
Chapters:
00:00 Introduction and Personal Story00:37 Welcome to Aging and Style01:08 Stroke Awareness Month01:58 Things Not to Say During a Crisis07:43 Caregiver Challenges and Self-Care11:09 Conclusion and ResourcesMisguided Attempts and Multilevel Marketing
As Mark battled his strokes, I encountered a statement that still baffles me: “My heart hurts for Mark that you're using traditional medicine. You should use my supplements.” This suggestion overlooked the gravity of four strokes that my husband faced and minimized the urgency of his situation.
Multi-level marketing pitches, regardless of the product, aren't helpful in serious medical scenarios. Replace recommendations with empathetic support – that's far more valuable.
Business as Usual?
During one of our toughest times, someone remarked, “I guess you’re out of business now,” on merely the third day of our crisis. As an entrepreneur, my business not only supports us financially but also provides the insurance covering Mark’s medical bills. The presumption of failure was not only premature but demoralizing. Instead, show understanding and respect for the balancing act of those who own a business while handling personal emergencies.
Aging Under Stress
Another unexpected comment landed like a punch: “This has all really aged you.” During a period of immense stress, highlighting someone’s appearance isn’t going to help. While I may have looked tired and worn, it was because I was focusing my energies on survival -- both my husband's and my own. In our youth-obsessed culture, expressing anything about someone’s age or appearance during a crisis shows insensitivity. Let’s choose compassion over unnecessary critiques.
Competing Compassion
Then, a perplexing offer came amidst the chaos – “I have exciting news since you’re so busy with Mark. I’m starting a business just like yours in the same town.” In moments where I was trying to maintain my business while caring for Mark, such competition was not comforting. Rather than staking claim on someone’s livelihood, try asking how you can help shoulder their burden.
The Caregiver's Dilemma
Lastly, it’s not uncommon to hear, “You need to take care of yourself.” Although well-intentioned, this advice can overlook the challenging logistics of caregiving. As many caregivers know, self-care appointments often fall by the wayside because the person we care for frequently needs immediate attention. Remember, offering practical help is often more appreciated than general advice.
Reflecting on these experiences, I urge everyone to be mindful of their words during crises. Sometimes, the simplest acts of listening and genuinely asking, “How can I help?” can make all the difference. Let’s aim to be the comfort, not the critique. For more insights on navigating life’s challenges, visit my website, Lori Williams Senior Services, and share these lessons with friends and family. Together, we can cultivate a more understanding and supportive community.
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Life as we knew it completely transformed on Christmas Day, 2022, at precisely 7:00 PM. It was a day that started normally, with my husband Mark about to say the blessing at dinner. Suddenly, he couldn’t speak, and our world exploded into chaos. That evening marked the beginning of an unexpected journey after Mark suffered four strokes.
As I reflect this May, Stroke Awareness Month, I am inspired to share our experiences over the past two and a half years. Our journey has been overwhelming, but in its challenges, I’ve learned invaluable lessons and found silver linings.
The Unexpected Journey
Strokes are known as the silent attackers, and no one is prepared for their stealthy arrival. What started as one stroke quickly escalated to four, leaving Mark severely disabled. The prognosis initially seemed grim, with medical professionals suggesting six months post-stroke as the optimal timeframe for recovery. But Mark has defied these expectations, showing remarkable improvement, such as walking upstairs with assistance—a feat we never imagined.
Building Our Support Team
Being thrust into the role of a caregiver has emphasized the importance of support. One of my dearest friends, Karyl, helped me realize that I couldn't do this alone. We developed a strong support team, including our children, Chris and Abby, who have taken on more responsibilities. Chris has been invaluable in helping with caregiving duties like showering Mark, which has relieved some of the pressure from me. Abby, balancing her college life, chips in whenever she's home.
Having professionals like our caregiver Rebecca and the wonderful therapists from Rehab Without Walls has been life-changing. They have pushed Mark beyond expectations, helping him make strides in his recovery.
Lessons and Reflections
Every challenge has shaped us. I’ve become resilient, learning to find positivity amid adversity. My children have grown into compassionate and responsible individuals, shaped by our experiences. Our golden retriever, Sadie, has been a source of comfort and joy—Mark’s constant sidekick and our family’s happy distraction.
Humor remains an essential tool. Even small victories, like Mark managing new words, bring laughter and relief. Our daily life, though challenging, has humor woven into its fabric. Finding these moments is crucial to staying positive and resilient.
Advocacy and Sharing Our Story
Advocating for Mark through his rehabilitation has taught me to question and push for continued therapy, a role I embraced from the start. Sharing my story has become a passion, leading me to write "Surrounded by Love: One Family’s Journey Through Stroke Recovery." It was a therapeutic endeavor aimed at providing a resource for others facing similar challenges.
Through this journey, I’ve met many caregivers. We are united by our roles, often facing silent struggles. I am determined to offer support and share the resources and knowledge we’ve gained. As caregivers, knowing we are not alone is vital, and promoting stroke awareness can prevent similar stories.
Moving Forward
Two and a half years in, my anxiety has lessened. I’ve learned to address challenges with newfound calmness. Each setback has been a lesson in resilience, positioning us not just to survive but thrive amidst adverse circumstances.
This update is both a chronicle and a reminder that strength can emerge from struggle. Stroke awareness is a lifelong mission. If you or someone you know is navigating this path, connect with me for guidance or visit my website, LoriWilliamsSeniorServices.com, to explore further resources. Together, we can face tomorrow with optimism and strength—an ever-important message of hope and unity.
Thank you for taking this journey with us. I look forward to continuing to share our story and hearing yours.
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The month of May holds special importance for me, as it is Stroke Awareness Month – a cause that has touched my life profoundly. My husband, Mark, had his first of four strokes on Christmas Day 2022, a moment that changed everything overnight and set me on a mission: to educate and advocate so others might avoid a similar path or, at the very least, navigate it with more clarity.
Stroke Symptoms in WomenThough both men and women can experience these classic stroke symptoms, women may also show signs often overlooked: confusion, hiccups, shortness of breath, seizures, and changes in behavior. These subtle cues can be misdiagnosed, presenting a unique challenge, especially for younger women who might not fit the assumed profile of a stroke victim.
Chapters:
00:00:00 – Introduction to stroke symptoms, including lesser-known signs in women.00:01:30 – Personal story about Mark’s first stroke and the inspiration for advocacy.00:03:00 – Explanation of the BFAST acronym and the urgency of calling 911.00:06:00 – Why women have worse outcomes from strokes and challenges they face.00:10:00 – Fighting for the right stroke rehab care and the importance of advocacy.
The Unseen Struggle and AdvocacyThe statistics are sobering: women often have worse stroke outcomes, and many face these challenges alone. Whether it's due to living alone or receiving less aggressive treatment, the deck can seem stacked against recovery. Throughout Mark’s strokes, my knowledge and contacts ensured he received the right care—a reality not everyone is equipped to navigate.
Connecting with others on this journey brings me solace and purpose. Writing "Surrounded by Love: One Family's Journey Through Stroke Recovery" was a way to share our experiences and offer a resource to those facing what often feels like an insurmountable struggle. It’s not just our story; it's a beacon for others who might feel lost in the chaos of caregiving and advocating for a loved one.
Moreover, living in an area like Dallas afforded us exceptional medical resources, which many do not have. This disparity is why I'm committed to standing as a guide, sharing insights and strategies to empower caregivers to become strong advocates for their loved ones.
Caregiving: A Role of Love and DeterminationCaregiving is no small feat—it requires being a powerful, unwavering advocate. I’ve faced challenges convincing healthcare professionals of the necessity for specific treatments, knowing systemic misunderstandings could hinder Mark’s recovery. Not everyone has the knowledge or the support system to tackle these issues, underscoring the need for advocacy education.
Strokes are a personal and communal fight. Each conversation I have, every person who reaches out to connect over shared stories of struggle or need for advice, is a reminder that this journey is impactful. My mission is clear: educate to prevent and fight for the best care when necessary.
To those who share this path, my heart is with you.
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Have you ever received a phone call saying there’s a warrant out for your arrest?
That’s exactly what happened to my brother. The jury duty scam is making waves across the U.S., and it’s not just targeting older adults. It sounds legitimate, it’s terrifying, and it’s catching even the most skeptical people off guard.
In today’s episode, we break down this sophisticated scam that uses fear, authority, and just enough truth to reel in victims. It’s a growing problem with real consequences—and being aware is your first defense. Whether you're caring for aging parents or just want to protect yourself, this conversation could save you or someone you love thousands.
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00:00:00 – “There’s a warrant out for your arrest.”00:02:00 – Craig's shocking phone call from a fake detective00:04:30 – The red flags start adding up00:06:00 – The "bond payment" twist00:08:00 – Visiting the real sheriff’s office00:10:00 – Why the scam felt so real00:12:00 – Other scams targeting seniors00:14:00 – Tips to protect yourself from phone fraud00:16:30 – Final thoughts and scam reporting resourcesI’m joined by someone very close to me—my brother Craig Martin. Craig’s not an expert in fraud prevention, but he became an unwilling student of scam tactics when he was nearly caught up in a convincing jury duty scam. His firsthand story is equal parts alarming and eye-opening.
Craig shares how a regular day turned sideways after one phone call. The scammer had all his personal info and even directed him to the real sheriff’s department—making the con feel completely legit. He’ll walk us through every twist and turn, including how they tried to get $3,000 out of him under the guise of a “bond.”
We’ll talk about the psychology of these scams—how scammers use urgency, fake authority, and legal jargon to manipulate their targets. Craig will share the exact red flags that made him pause and how he ultimately avoided losing money.
We also cover how this isn’t just an isolated trick. I’ve experienced a version of it too, and many others I know have received similar calls. We’ll explain why older adults are often targeted, and how you can help protect your loved ones from falling prey to phone scams, including Medicare fraud and the grandparent scam.
We’ll answer common questions like:
• What does a real jury duty notice look like?
• How do scammers get your personal info?
• What should you do if you get a suspicious call?
Want to stay one step ahead of scams and get expert guidance on all things senior living? Visit loriwilliams-seniorservices.com for more helpful resources, tips, and tools to keep you and your loved ones informed and protected. You’ll also find previous podcast episodes, blog posts, and ways to connect with trusted senior living services. Let’s age wisely—together.
Resources mentioned in this episode:
Get my new book, 'Surrounded by Love: One's Family Journey Through Stroke Recovery': https://loriwilliams-seniorservices.com/book
To suggest a topic, be a guest or support the podcast, please email [email protected]
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Let's be honest: the thought of exercising often brings up a sense of dread.
Many of us create countless excuses, with "lack of time" being the most popular. But let’s be real — we all know how essential it is.
Exercise is not about achieving that six-pack or preparing for marathons; it’s about maintaining independence, preventing falls, and keeping our strength for those who depend on us. Like many, my priorities regarding exercise have changed over the years.
In my twenties, it was all about aesthetics, fueled by those classic Jane Fonda workout tapes. But now, at 61, I'm focused on health and balance. Exercise has shifted from a chore to a necessity—for me and my family.
Chapters:00:00:00 Opening & Fall Risk Stats00:01:00 The Real Reason to Exercise00:02:30 My Personal Fitness Journey00:04:00 Exercise Anxiety & Gym Intimidation00:05:30 Signs of Aging & Simple Solutions00:07:00 Recommending Movement Options00:11:30 It's Never Too Late to Start00:12:30 Budget-Friendly Fitness00:14:30 Walking Groups & Community Ideas00:16:30 Final Encouragement & Caregiver TipsAs a caregiver to my husband, Mark, who suffered multiple strokes, and as the breadwinner of my household with a daughter in college, excuses come easily. Yet, reaching 61 served as a wake-up call. I need to stay fit not just for myself but for those relying on me.
Gyms have always intimidated me. However, it was a revelation when a friend recommended Pilates. It offered a non-threatening environment among peers of all ages, and to my surprise, it hooked me. The classes fly by, and though they challenge muscles I didn’t know I had, they’re invigorating!
We know the major risks of not exercising are weak muscles and poor balance, notably problematic as we age. Simple activities like Tai Chi can enhance balance, flexibility, and strength, as can yoga and Pilates. Resistance training using weights or bands adds to core strength, crucial for preventing falls. Moreover, staying active doesn’t have to be costly or complicated.
Leisure walking is an excellent, low-impact start for increasing endurance. For those on a budget, free online resources or affordable local community centers, such as senior centers and YMCAs, offer various exercise classes. Medicare beneficiaries could explore Silver Sneakers for cost-effective programs.
For those who haven’t found their exercise niche, give different activities a try—whether it’s dancing, water aerobics, or chair exercises; there’s something for everyone and every mobility level. Move when and how you can; explore free resources on platforms like YouTube. As we move into sunnier days, let’s seize this opportunity to take our health into our own hands.
Exercise is a commitment to ourselves, bolstering our physical and mental well-being. As we age, keeping active is a gift to ourselves — one that promises energy, resilience, and peace of mind.
So, let me know what you’re doing to keep moving. Your journey inspires me, and together we can encourage one another to maintain our health and vitality. Our ultimate goal is to prevent those falls and to adopt a mindset where exercise is good. Thanks for joining me today. I invite you to subscribe for more discussions every Friday, and remember, it’s never too late to start investing in your health. Let’s thrive, not just survive.
Resources mentioned in this episode:
Get my new book, 'Surrounded by Love: One's Family Journey Through Stroke Recovery': https://loriwilliams-seniorservices.com/book
To suggest a topic, be a guest or support the podcast, please email
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Have you ever wondered how Tai Chi might help aging seniors remain vibrant and active? As an advocate for senior wellness and living, I was eager to explore this topic with my Aunt Edna Silva. Edna is a remarkable woman—a retired registered nurse with six decades of experience and a Tai Chi expert with a passion for helping others. Together, we're uncovering the rich history of Tai Chi and its invaluable contributions to senior health.
Discovering Tai Chi’s Benefits
Our conversation revealed so much more than I’d anticipated—Tai Chi’s benefits extend far beyond the graceful, flowing movements it's known for. Originally founded as a martial art, Tai Chi has evolved into a holistic practice that addresses the critical aspects of fitness that we especially need as we age: aerobic capacity, muscular strength, flexibility, and balance. Edna highlighted compelling research indicating that regular Tai Chi practice can reduce the risk of falls by up to 45%. This is not merely impressive, but a potential life-saving benefit for seniors, turning Tai Chi into an indispensable ally in maintaining independence longer.
Chapters:
00:00 The Impact of Tai Chi on Fall Prevention
01:22 Understanding Tai Chi: Basics and Benefits
03:06 The Origins and Philosophy of Tai Chi
05:52 Tai Chi as a Comprehensive Exercise
11:33 Personal Journey: Discovering Tai Chi
18:50 The Evolution and Styles of Tai Chi
24:40 The Health Benefits of Different Tai Chi Styles
24:50 The Importance of Practice and Perseverance
25:28 Tai Chi as Moving Meditation
29:11 The Five Key Principles of Tai Chi
33:41 Tai Chi for Everyday Health and Independence
44:18 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
A Personal Journey with Tai Chi
Hearing Edna’s personal journey into Tai Chi has been inspiring. Her transition from traditional nursing to a focus on prevention illuminated Tai Chi's profound impact on lifestyle-related health issues. She reminisced about her transformative experiences with Tai Chi, sharing how the unexpected moment of realizing she could aid in keeping others out of the hospital fueled her passion. The serenity and strength she gained from Tai Chi were pivotal—not only in fortifying her own health but in empowering her to guide others toward this peaceful and powerful practice.
The Four Components of Fitness
In exploring Tai Chi deeper, I learned that it seamlessly integrates the four critical components of fitness, addressing the full spectrum of our physical needs. Aerobic fitness is catered to through the continuous rhythmic movements akin to a brisk walk. In my discussions with Edna, I was captivated by how Tai Chi strengthens not just the legs but the upper body through its extensive movements. Flexibility is enhanced through these gentle stretches, providing a supple body that greatly aids in stability and fall prevention. The most intriguing aspect, however, is perhaps its role in improving balance—a vital skill that tends to decline with age. Edna made it clear that with perseverance and regular practice, Tai Chi holds the power to transform one’s health outlook significantly.
Building Community and Wellbeing
The communal aspect of practicing Tai Chi cannot be understated. Through her classes in Tucson and internationally through Zoom, Edna has woven a supportive and inclusive community, where everyone from novices to seasoned practitioners can find joy and improvement. The power of moving together with others, united in purpose and motion, has enhanced the meditative and healing aspects of Tai Chi. In our day-to-day lives, stress reduction is crucial, and this practice offers a unique moving meditation, emphasizing present-moment awareness and fostering tranquility.
Conclusion
Tai Chi stands out as a life-enhancing...
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Dementia is not just an individual’s disease. In fact, it’s estimated that it requires two-and-a-half loved ones to care for someone with dementia. And caregiving is a 24/7 job.
Unfortunately, caregivers often neglect their own needs to care for a loved one with dementia. They will delay their own appointments and engagements while enduring the mental, emotional and physical toll of caregiving – which can even leave them in a worse state than those with dementia!
Strategies to manage stress are pivotal. Megan Rowe, Senior Program Manager for the Alzheimer’s Association Dallas and Northeast Chapter, joins us to discuss the 10 symptoms of caregiver stress. Not only that, she’ll discuss ways to alleviate stress and prevent caregiver burnout.
Too much stress can be harmful to both a person with dementia and the caregiver. Often at the beginning, caregivers experience denial about the disease and the impact it’s having on them and their loved one. This leads to them putting off the help their loved one needs as dementia progresses.
Also, caregivers often wonder how they’ll handle it all and experience anxiety as a result. This may be paired with depression, which is often demonstrated through apathy, or giving up due to the burnout and stress. Irritability is also common as a sign someone is exhausted and overwhelmed.
It’s important to get connected with dementia-friendly services in the community to provide support for the caregiver and provide meaningful engagement for the one with dementia. It’s also helpful to prepare for the future, before the situation gets worse. Self-care every step of the way is critical.
Takeaways from this episode:
- Visit caregiver support groups or connect with the Alzheimer’s Association for crisis intervention and helpful resources.
- If your loved one’s behavior is deviating from the norm – maybe they always went to church and now they don’t – that’s a big sign of dementia.
- If you’re over 40 and care for someone over 65, you may qualify for support services, and potentially respite vouchers.
- Churches and other faith-based organizations may offer adult day stay programs to use for a few hours or all day so caregivers can get much-needed time back in their day.
- Use your breaks however you need. If you want a bubble bath, take one! Self-care and recharging is important, and you have permission to do what you love and enjoy.
- Try breathing and meditation apps and YouTube videos to use for as little as 15 seconds, as well as physical activity to help reduce stress and help overall wellbeing. (Even better if you can get your loved one to join!)
-There’s a lot to do to prepare for memory care, including paperwork, so don’t wait until an emergency strikes to research memory care assistance.
- Keep your doctors’ appointments in addition to your loved ones’. Maintaining your health is best for everyone involved.
Resources mentioned in this episode:
Get my new book, 'Surrounded by Love: One's Family Journey Through Stroke Recovery': https://loriwilliams-seniorservices.com/book
To suggest a topic, be a guest or support the podcast, please email [email protected]
For more senior resources and to sign up for the newsletter, please visit:
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In the ever-changing landscape of senior living, I’ve found that choosing the right community for a loved one is both daunting and crucial. The process becomes even more challenging when the community you carefully selected undergoes unexpected changes. Based on my recent experiences, I wanted to share some insights and tips on how to navigate these complexities effectively.
Chapters:00:00 Introduction and Team Efforts
01:02 A Facebook Post That Inspired This Episode
03:19 Five Practical Tips for Senior Living
03:21 Tip 1: Trust Your Gut and Gather Facts
05:32 Tip 2: Communicate with Community Leadership
06:45 Tip 3: Visit at Different Times
10:18 Tip 4: Talk to Other Families
11:13 Tip 5: Know When It's Time to Make a Change
12:19 The Role of Senior Placement Services
14:56 Conclusion and Contact Information
Understanding Change in Senior Living Communities
It’s not uncommon for senior living communities to experience shifts—whether it's staff turnover or changes in ownership—and these can deeply affect the quality of care and the environment your loved one experiences. When a community no longer feels like the one you once knew, addressing these changes becomes necessary.
1. Trusting My Gut and Gathering Facts
When changes occur, I suggest paying close attention to the loved one’s behavior and the care they receive. If something feels off, I advise documenting every detail—whether it’s noticing them looking uncared for or socially withdrawing. Understanding if these changes are due to staffing or a shift in your loved one’s condition helps approach the situation with a clear perspective.
2. Communicating with Community Leadership
Armed with observations, I suggest approaching the leadership in your loved one’s community. Professional and honest communication is key in these situations. By requesting a care plan meeting, you can discuss your concerns and work collaboratively towards a solution. A quality community will welcome this feedback and make efforts to resolve issues.
3. Visiting at Different Times
To gain a comprehensive understanding, I advise visiting the community at various times of the day. This allows families to observe different caregivers and the overall atmosphere outside scheduled tours. Such insights are critical, especially in memory care settings, where consistent care is essential for your loved one's well-being.
4. Engaging with Other Families
Talking to other families provides valuable perspectives on the community’s current state. Discovering whether others have similar concerns or different viewpoints can be reassuring. Finding common ground with other families validates your observations and highlights issues that might need collective attention from the community’s leadership.
5. Knowing When It’s Time to Consider a Change
Despite all efforts, there might come a time when moving becomes the best solution. Recognizing when the community no longer meets your loved one's needs is important, and staying open to exploring other options helps ensure the best care. Utilizing a local senior placement service can ease this transition, offering options that align with your specific needs.
The Role of a Senior Placement Service
Senior placement services, like mine, are designed to guide families through these transitions. While acknowledging that changes in communities are inevitable, my service remains committed to providing accurate information and support, ensuring that loved ones continue to receive top-notch care. As always, these services are free, with a strong focus on community engagement to stay informed on local senior living...
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Should I move an elderly family member in with me? Or should we look into senior living?
This is a question I receive a lot. Before I dive in, it’s important to remember that every situation is different. Be sure to do what’s best for you and your family. But to gauge what’s right, I have a list of pros and cons for you to consider.
Pros:
· Living with your loved one can help connect the family. Some of my fondest memories are of my grandmother Emelita living with us. Multiple generations living together can create special memories, especially the kids and their grandparents.
· If everyone’s in agreement for your loved one to move in, it can be a great cost-saving measure. A common fear for many seniors is outliving their funds.
· If your loved one is healthy, they can support you around the house. Some of my memories with my grandmother involve her staying busy by folding clothes, cleaning the kitchen, and more.
· You can help remind your loved one to take their medications and keep an eye on them, especially if they have an existing health condition.
Cons:
· Moving a loved one in with you can increase your responsibility, sometimes significantly. It can impact your lifestyle and add new demands on your time and energy.
· If your loved one is at home and can’t drive, they may have limited socialization. I recommend signing them up at the local senior center and finding transportation. That way they can socialize with others and stay active and moving instead of sitting home all day watching TV.
· You and your members of the household may enjoy less personal space.
· Depending on the situation, burnout can be a risk. If your loved one has health issues, it can be stressful and exhausting.
Remember that in all situations, the dynamic of your household can change. And yes, it can be a big life change for all involved! Make sure everyone is on the same page in your household as you make plans.
Topics discussed:
· Caring for an elderly family member
· Pros and cons of living with older family members
· Dynamics of multigenerational homes
· Caregiver burnout
· Staying social as a senior
· Cost-saving considerations for seniors
Takeaways from this episode:
· Discuss the different considerations for opening your home to a senior family member with the other people in your household. If the family doesn’t get along, don’t do it.
· Consider your existing relationship with that loved one along with their current needs. Establish ground rules with the rest of your family if needed.
· Welcoming a family member into your home is a great cost-saving measure, but be sure to weigh that against your existing responsibilities and demands.
Resources mentioned in this episode:
Get my new book, 'Surrounded by Love: One's Family Journey Through Stroke Recovery': https://loriwilliams-seniorservices.com/book
To suggest a topic, be a guest or support the podcast, please email [email protected]
For more senior resources and to sign up for the newsletter, please visit:
https://www.facebook.com/LoriWilliamsSeniorServices/
https://www.instagram.com/theloriwilliams/
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As life throws inevitable challenges our way, caregiving for a loved one—especially during a medical crisis—can test our resilience and resourcefulness. In this episode, I share my personal experiences as a caregiver and senior living expert. From unexpected medical emergencies to the necessity of being a strong advocate, I offer practical insights and compassionate advice for anyone navigating a similar journey.
Chapters:
00:00 Preparing for the ER: Essential Tips
00:49 My Personal Journey: Navigating Senior Care
02:33 The Importance of Advocacy in Healthcare
06:49 Challenges in the ER and Hospital
10:32 Fighting for the Right Rehab
28:53 Final Thoughts and Takeaways
The Emergency Room Experience: Prepare with a “Go Bag”
Emergencies can happen when we least expect them, and being prepared can make a world of difference. I’ve learned firsthand that having a go bag ready can help minimize stress in critical moments. Here are a few essentials I always recommend packing:
A warm blanket – Hospital environments are notoriously cold.Snacks – You never know how long you’ll be waiting, and food options may be limited.Personal medications – Always keep them with you in case of extended stays.Personal items – A phone charger, a book, or anything that provides comfort.I’ve experienced the discomfort of long ER waits without the right essentials, and I can’t stress enough how a little preparation can make a big difference.
Advocacy: Speak Up and Be Persistent
Being an advocate is about more than just being present—it’s about ensuring your loved one receives the best care possible. Here’s what I’ve learned:
Speak up—especially if your loved one cannot.Keep records—maintain a list of medications and treatments.Verify everything—double-check that medical staff administer treatments correctly.Ask questions—if something doesn’t seem right, don’t be afraid to push for answers.I’ve had to advocate fiercely for my husband to receive the right rehabilitation care. It was a lesson in persistence and the power of informed communication. Being proactive can make all the difference in securing the best treatment and outcomes.
Building a Support System: You Can’t Do It Alone
One of the most valuable lessons I’ve learned is the importance of a strong support network. Whether it’s family, friends, or professional caregivers, having a team you can rely on is invaluable.
Coordinate with family and friends—lean on them when you need help.Involve them in the process—make sure they understand emergency plans and care protocols.During a medical emergency, my family worked together seamlessly, and that organization played a crucial role in ensuring the best care for my husband. I couldn’t have done it alone.
The Role of Knowledge and Experience
Experience is empowering—it equips you to handle situations that might otherwise feel overwhelming. My background in senior living gave me insight into making informed decisions, but I know that’s not the case for everyone. That’s why I always encourage caregivers to:
Educate yourself—understand your loved one’s medical conditions and possible complications.Know your resources—from medical services to insurance benefits, being informed can save time and stress.The more you know, the more confident you’ll feel navigating complex healthcare...
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So, you decided your loved one needs a caregiver…what’s next? Where do you find one? How do you choose the right fit?
I'm not only a senior living expert with 17+ years of experience in the industry, but I am also the primary caregiver for my husband who is a stroke survivor. I have the perspective of helping others find the right resources while navigating this reality for my own family.
With this unique position, I have gathered 7 tips for choosing a caregiver:
1. Understand the needs of your loved one. Do they have dementia? Find someone with relevant experience. Which tasks do you need help with? Also, figure out if you need someone only a few hours a week, or a few hours each day.
2. Know your finances. If you don’t have Medicare, you may be paying out of pocket. Consider what you can reasonably afford. Read your long-term care policy or contact your agent to make sure you understand financial limitations.
3. Involve your family. Make sure everyone’s on board with a caregiver. Communicate with them if you’ve been the caregiver up to this point and you’re burning out.
4. Decide on an agency vs. a private caregiver. Ask around at your church or in your social groups for recommendations. There are also franchises, but those tend to be pricier than local options and may require a minimum amount of time per day or week.
5. Ask others about their experience. Look at online reviews and see what people are saying about certain agencies.
6. Interview the candidate. Find a fit for your needs – and consider personality too! This could be someone that spends a lot of time with your family. Do you have a dog? Make sure they’re okay with dogs.
7. Communicate with your loved one and have a plan. It may be hard for your loved one to accept they need a caregiver. Present your plan and tell them it’s for their safety and your own well-being as well.
Topics discussed:
- Hiring a caregiver / home care
- Caregiver considerations
- Long-term care provisions
- Home care agencies
- Private caregivers
- Home care reviews
- Caregiver rates
Takeaways from this episode:
- Know if your loved ones have a pension, what their expenses are, and anything else that can impact your plan for hiring a caregiver.
- Consider reverse-mortgaging your home to access more funds.
- If your loved one is a veteran, there are different VA programs such as aid and attendance. Some agencies even have a contract with the VA to cover home care.
- Big-name home care franchises tend to be more expensive, depending on your state, and can be $30-35 per hour. A private caregiver averages $25 an hour.
- Home care may require a minimum amount of time with you – for example, 4 hours a day, 12 hours a week.
- Have a plan in place before telling your loved one about home help coming in. Stand firm if adding help to your life is something you need to feel safe.
Resources mentioned in this episode:
Get my new book, 'Surrounded by Love: One's Family Journey Through Stroke Recovery': https://loriwilliams-seniorservices.com/book
To suggest a topic, be a guest or support the podcast, please email [email protected]
For more senior resources and to sign up for the newsletter, please visit:
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In life, as in everything else, preparation can be the key to gracefully overcoming challenges. Understanding and planning for our loved ones’ aging years not only mitigates stress but ensures decisions reflect their wishes—before difficult moments arrive.
As a senior living expert, author, educator, and caregiver, I know it's key to explore essential strategies to navigate your parents’ aging years with empathy and foresight. In this episode, we'll discuss the importance of open discussions, understanding family dynamics, and preparing for unexpected scenarios.
The Importance of Open Conversations
Conversations about aging can often be uncomfortable, but they are crucial. Early dialogue ensures clarity on your parents' wishes and plans. For example, discussing health and financial matters before a crisis provides clear understanding when your parents may no longer be able to express their desires due to illness or an accident.
Talking about these topics isn't easy, but I want to encourage you to engage in these discussions proactively. Here are some tips:
Choosing the Right Time and Setting: Opt for a relaxed, private environment rather than attempting to breach these subjects during family gatherings or events.Using Open-Ended Questions: Instead of diving into heavy subjects, start with general questions like, "How have you been feeling lately?" or "What do you think about your living situation?"Sharing Personal Stories: Relate stories of friends or your experiences to gently encourage openness without pressure.Involving Parents in Decisions: Instead of assuming control, encourage their involvement in planning to ensure the decisions made are reflective of their desires.Family Dynamics: Communicating and Collaborating
Getting everyone on the same page can prove challenging with multiple siblings involved. Differing opinions may arise due to denial, fear, or varying perspectives. Therefore, fostering effective communication is vital:
Regular Family Meetings: Schedule discussions to express each person’s views and update on issues collectively.Define Roles and Responsibilities: Identify each family member's strengths and divide tasks accordingly, like assigning financial responsibilities to a family member with finance expertise.Involve Professionals: Engage mediators if necessary to facilitate smoother conversations.Preparation and Planning: Understanding Wishes and Estate Planning
With only 32% of Americans having a will, many families face complications when unprepared. Estate planning and understanding your loved ones' wishes in advance help avoid complexities and ensure a smoother transition through challenging periods. Consider crafting a comprehensive binder of necessary documents, such as wills, birth certificates, and insurance policies.
Preparing for the Unexpected
Having contingency plans is paramount. When crises like sudden illness or injury strike, knowing the process for care, finances, and housing options in advance can significantly ease the burden. For instance, comprehending the logistics of assisted living or home health care empowers families to make rapid, well-informed decisions.
Conclusion
Successfully navigating your parents' aging years hinges on preparedness and involvement. Open conversations, familial cooperation, and future-proofing plans are vital steps worth taking today. Equip yourself with knowledge and ensure your family is ready to gracefully tackle any obstacles that arise.
Please share this post with family and friends. To delve deeper into these topics, visit my website at LoriWilliams-SeniorServices.com and explore...
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After years of helping families, I've come across a myriad of myths about assisted living that are nothing short of fiction. Today, we’re setting the record straight and exploring why assisted living can be a fantastic choice for many.
Busting Common Myths About Assisted Living
Assisted living often brings up images of sterile, institutional environments, stuck in a time warp of outdated care practices. But as Theresa Williams, a sales director at Rambling Oaks, and I discussed, the reality is far different.
Myth #1: Assisted Living Is a Nursing Home
Contrary to popular belief, assisted living is not a synonym for a nursing home. They provide vibrant communities with independent living spaces and assist as needed. Most are privately paid and not covered by Medicare. And yes, they have chefs crafting meals to cater to dietary needs and preferences, making the dining experience a cornerstone of community life.
Myth #2: Limited Freedom and Loss of Personal Space
People often think moving into assisted living means relinquishing personal freedom. But in truth, you can make your apartment your own—paint the walls, bring your furniture, and even keep your wine collection. As Theresa aptly mentioned, residents often enjoy the autonomy to create their living spaces to reflect personal tastes.
More Than Just a Living Arrangement
Dining Flexibility with All-Day Dining
Worried about rigid schedules? Many communities, like Rambling Oaks, offer all-day dining options, giving you the freedom to decide when and what to eat. Indeed, for those who love their morning sleep-ins, waking up to a sumptuous breakfast after 10 a.m. is entirely doable.
Social Opportunities Abound
Community living also means vibrant social engagement. From organized outings to impromptu coffee dates, there are plenty of chances to make connections and even find a little romance! Theresa shared delightful stories of residents building new friendships and rekindling romance in their golden years.
The Real Benefits of Assisted Living
Emphasizing Independence with Support
Assisted living aims to keep you as independent as possible with help when you need it. This means you can enjoy life without the added burden of home maintenance, meal preparation, or wondering who will help if you fall.
Potential Cost-Savings Over Time
Assisted living might seem expensive initially, but consolidating living expenses compared to maintaining a home and hiring external caregivers often shows significant savings. Many communities offer financial guidance, helping families tap into previously unexplored resources like veterans' benefits or long-term care insurance.
Eliminating Everyday Stressors
The move often results in testimony of families wishing they had chosen assisted living sooner. Not dealing with the stress of home upkeep or potential safety hazards at home means everyone can focus on enjoying life.
Addressing Lesser-Known Concerns
Theresa and I also touched on more obscure myths like assisted living regulating your daily routine, prohibiting family visits, or being a place only for the elderly. We’re debunking these fears by highlighting personalized care plans, community events for families, and resident age diversity ranging from the 60s to centenarians who thrive in these enriched environments.
If you're out there juggling the decision for yourself or a loved one, I urge you to look beyond the myths. Assisted living communities like Rambling Oaks offer dynamic, supportive, and enriching environments that serve as a great venue to flourish in later years.
Should you have questions or if there’s a myth we missed, I'd love to hear from you. Visit my website at...
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