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So often in the midst of change or the unknown where our mind goes first is what are we going to do?
But what if the key to being able to navigate change and uncertainty was less about doing, but rather a way of being?
Today, I'm in conversation with April Rinne, a futurist, speaker, and author of the book, Flux: 8 Superpowers For Thriving In Constant Change, where she shares what she has found is the most effective way for navigating the current world of rapidly accelerating unexpected change.
We talk about the illusion that keeps us from seeing things as they are, why cultivating a flux mindset now is more important than ever before, and some of the superpowers that can empower you when responding to change and making decisions.
Topics Covered
03:03 How did you start down this path
04:08 April's three lenses on change
07:14 Shifting from doing to becoming
08:16 Are you viewing change with hope or fear?
11:33 We don't like change that we can't control
13:05 Now, more than ever, we need to learn how to be with change
16:18 The history of the illusion of control
17:40 What would be possible when we choose to lift the veil
20:24 Flux mindset as a key for navigating change
21:56 How does Flux mindset relate to Growth mindset
23:15 The 8 superpowers of the Flux mindset
25:24 The superpower that makes you cringe may point to where your relationship to
change needs extra attention
26:19 Superpower 1: Run slower
26:44 Superpower 2: See what's invisible
27:09 Superpower 3: Get lost
27:33 Superpower 4: Start with trust
28:04 Superpower 5: Know your enough
28:10 Superpower 6: Create your portfolio career
28:40 Superpower 7: Be all the more human
28:53 Superpower 8: Let go of the future
29:44 Know your enough / Know you're enough
38:10 The benefits of embracing getting lost
43:10 Parting words
Guest Bio
April Rinne is a “change navigator,” speaker, investor, and adventurer whose work and travels in more than 100 countries have given her a front-row seat to a world in flux. She is ranked one of the 50 leading female futurists in the world by Forbes and is a Harvard Law School graduate, a Young Global Leader at the World Economic Forum, a Fulbright Scholar, a member of the Silicon Guild, and the author of Flux: 8 Superpowers for Thriving in Constant Change. April is a trusted advisor to well-known startups, companies, financial institutions, nonprofits, think tanks, and governments worldwide, including Airbnb, Nike, Intuit, the World Bank, the Inter-American Development Bank, AnyRoad, and Unsettled as well as governments ranging from Singapore to South Africa, Canada to Colombia, and Italy to India. Earlier in life she was a global development executive, an international microfinance lawyer, and a hiking guide. As a certified yoga teacher, she can often be found upside-down, doing handstands around the world.
Resources
Flux: 8 Superpowers for Thriving in Constant ChangeTo learn more from Michelle about decision making, check out
The Ask A Decision Engineer websiteHer Stanford Continuing Studies courseHer self-paced course Decision Toolkit for Personal DecisionsHer Decision Toolkit for Coaches and Counselors virtual workshop on Maven -
Whenever I teach about decision making, inevitably, the comment comes up, "These frameworks are great and all, but what do I do about the other people in the room?"
Decision making in groups definitely adds a layer of complexity. That's why I invited Katherine Rosback, an expert decision and risk analysis facilitator and a colleague of mine from the Society of Decision Professionals onto the show.
We'll be talking about the science behind asking questions, how to lay the groundwork for shifting someone's perspective, and strategies for facilitating more effective meetings.
Topics Covered
02:35 How Katherine came to do this work
4:28 What do I do about organizational politics?
5:14 The science behind questioning
9:16 Look at the system, not the individual
11:07 Facilitate what is happening, not what you think ought to be happening
12:08 Asking > Telling
14:10 The mountain peak vs the tectonic plates
15:10 The bridging technique
20:42 Center meetings around questions instead of objectives
24:20 Meetings are the most expensive form of communication
26:24 How to think about who should be in the room
30:33 Be mindful about ensuring people are heard
32:54 After we've solicited these different perspectives, then what?
35:13 Islands, bananas, and keeping the boat from turning around
38:30 Two key lessons to take away
Guest Bio
Katherine Rosback is an expert in coaching decision and problem-solving teams and facilitating the messy, ambiguous but must-succeed meeting. She has a BS in Chemical Engineering and an MA in Organizational Communication. Katherine has over 25 years’ experience facilitating decision teams, cross-functional strategic planning workshops, and teaching team facilitators and decision boards how to improve decision quality by asking the better question and navigate the inevitable behavioral complexities. Katherine works with Fortune 500 industries such as airline, oil & gas, and pharma. She is the author of Asking is Better than Telling and host of the podcast, What’s Another Question.
Resources
Asking is Better Than Telling bookKatherine’s websiteTo learn more from Michelle about decision making, check out
The Ask A Decision Engineer websiteHer Stanford Continuing Studies courseHer self-paced course Decision Toolkit for Personal DecisionsHer Decision Toolkit for Coaches and Counselors virtual workshop on Maven -
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In all my years of teaching about decision making, no topic generates more angst than the need to know. But how do you know what you know? How do you know when you know what you know? And how do you integrate this knowing into some of the most important decisions of your life?
In this episode, I invited Dave Evans onto the show to talk all about these topics of knowing and discernment. Dave is the co-author of Designing Your Life and Designing Your New Work Life. He co-founded the Stanford Life Design lab and holds the title of discernment lead for a social impact accelerator.
He shares a number of things he's learned from sitting with thousands of lives via the Designing Your Life programs, including how to go beyond cognitive knowing, the important distinction between certainty and faith, how to approach when things go wrong, and exercises for honing your discernment.
Topics Covered
1:01 A story of how Dave ran smack up against this discernment topic
2:27 It's ok to not have it all figured out
4:40 Defining discernment
5:58 You're not just a brain on a transport system
7:36 Overcoming resistance to tapping into the emotional center of knowing
10:11 The peak-knowing and trough-knowing exercise
10:59 Your brain announced it, but your brain didn't do it
12:21 The importance of articulating and reflecting on what's happening
12:54 Surrogation vs. analysis
14:47 We are humans, not robots
15:26 There is no knowing. Simply give it your best possible shot.
17:40 But what about when things go wrong?
21:16 Where the bias toward causality gets us in trouble
22:46 The falsehood of knowing and distinction between certainty and faith
24:55 The philosophical underpinnings of human-centered design
26:05 Faith and acceptance
28:41 How growth and collaboration factors into this
30:50 Most big decisions are a bet on your future self
33:48 Improve decision making by using multiple ways of knowing
34:10 The Odyssey plan as a tool for tapping into how various futures feel
36:01 In hard decision making, it's not about deciding the right thing
38:19 There's no elimination of risk, just reduction of risk. Know your threshold.
41:14 How to tune into other ways of knowing
42:51 Three levels of discernment: transaction, practice, and formation
45:08 The be-do-become cycle
Guest Bio
From saving the seals to solving the energy crisis, from imagining mice to redefining software — Dave’s been on a mission, including helping others to find theirs.
Starting at Stanford in the 70’s with dreams of following Jacques Cousteau as a marine biologist, Dave realized (a bit late) that he was lousy at it and shifted to mechanical engineering with an eye on the energy problem. After four years in alternative energy, it was clear that this idea’s time hadn’t come yet. So while en route to biomedical engineering, Dave accepted an invitation to work for Apple, where he led the mouse team and introduced laser printing to the masses. When Dave’s boss at Apple left to start Electronic Arts, Dave joined as the company’s first VP of Talent, dedicated to making “software worthy of the minds that use it.”
Having participated in forming the corporate cultures at Apple and EA, Dave decided his best work was in helping organizations build creative environments where people could do great work and love doing it. So he went out on his own working with start-up teams, large corporate executives, non-profit leaders, and countless young adults. They were all asking the same question. “What should I do with my life?” Helping people get traction on that question finally took Dave first to Cal and then Stanford, where Dave is co-founder of the Stanford Life Design Lab in the Stanford Design Program.
Dave and his partner Bill Burnett made their popular Stanford course Designing Your Life into a New York Times #1 Bestselling book of the same name, released in September 2016, followed by Designing Your Work Life in February 2020 and Designing Your New Work Life in October 2021.
Dave holds a BS and MS in Mechanical Engineering from Stanford and a graduate diploma in Contemplative Spirituality from San Francisco Theological Seminary.
Resources
Designing Your Life websiteDesigning Your Life bookDesigning Your *New Work Life bookTo learn more from Michelle about decision making, check out
The Ask A Decision Engineer websiteHer Stanford Continuing Studies courseHer self-paced course Decision Toolkit for Personal DecisionsHer Decision Toolkit for Coaches and Counselors virtual workshop on Maven -
Risk. For some people, the very thought sends chills down their spines, yet for others, the topic prompts a sense of thrill. Why is that the case? And what does that mean for how we think about risk in decision making?
To answer those questions and more, I turned to Michele Wucker, author of the books, The Gray Rhino, and You Are What You Risk. We chat about how the way we define risk matters, the layers of factors that make up our risk fingerprint, and things to keep in mind about risk when making group decisions.
Topics Covered
03:11 What brought Michele to studying risk
08:12 The way you define risk, matters
12:26 Awareness is the first step in adjusting your natural tendency
13:14 Risk and group dynamics
16:06 Getting the right kind of diversity in the room to promote better decision making
18:02 The risk fingerprint concept
21:36 Optimizing your risk fingerprint given your personality and experiences
23:59 What feels risky depends on your values
25:13 How to build your risk muscle
25:31 Practice
26:32 Self-awareness
27:47 Surrounding yourself with the right people
28:56 Little hacks
30:14 How risk empathy can improve group decision making
31:25 Questions you can ask to better understand someone else's risk fingerprint
35:48 Thinking about risk in decisions that have broader impact
39:39 Me-here-now vs. Us-everywhere-forever
41:00 Final words of wisdom
Guest Bio
Strategist, speaker, and best-selling author Michele Wucker coined the term “gray rhino” as a call to take a fresh look at how we respond to obvious, probable, impactful risks. She founded the Chicago-based advisory firm Gray Rhino & Company and is a former media and think tank executive. Her four books include the influential global bestseller THE GRAY RHINO: How to Recognize and Act on the Obvious Dangers We Ignore and the recently released sequel, YOU ARE WHAT YOU RISK: The New Art and Science of Navigating an Uncertain World.
Resources
THE GRAY RHINO: How to Recognize and Act on the Obvious Dangers We IgnoreYOU ARE WHAT YOU RISK: The New Art and Science of Navigating an Uncertain WorldTo learn more from Michelle about decision making, check out
The Ask A Decision Engineer websiteHer Stanford Continuing Studies courseHer self-paced course Decision Toolkit for Personal DecisionsHer Decision Toolkit for Coaches and Counselors virtual workshop on Maven -
Confidence is a critical part of decision making and being an effective leader. Not enough confidence and you won't move a decision to the action or be able to cultivate the support needed to move it forward.
Too much confidence and you could make decisions that unnecessarily put you and others at risk. So how do you walk the line of having just the right amount of confidence?
Today, I speak with Don Moore: confidence expert, UC Berkeley Haas School of Business professor and author of the book, Perfectly Confident. We discuss the different types of overconfidence we should be aware of as well as ways that decision makers can better calibrate their confidence. He'll also share insights from his latest book Decision Leadership, which helps leaders think about how to empower people within their organizations to make better choices.
Topics Covered
03:02 What is at stake when confidence is not well calibrated?
04:52 Defining confidence
06:31 Confidence, reality, and the downsides of overconfidence
08:56 Calibrating confidence among startup founders
10:32 The 3 types of overconfidence
11:05 How to better calibrate your confidence
14:01 The importance of probabilistic thinking
15:52 Making decisions by calculating expected value
18:11 Beware of hindsight bias + Importance of documenting
19:44 What role should intuition play in decision making?
22:54 Some ways in which intuition is predictably biased
23:32 What decision makers should keep in mind - think beyond yourself
25:05 Leader as decision architect
28:03 Other ways leaders can positively influence the quality of decisions in their org
29:23 What to track
31:02 Choosing when to stop gathering information
32:49 Don't fall into the trap of focusing solely on what's easy to quantify
34:03 The downsides of underconfidence
Guest Bio
Don Moore is a professor of management of organizations at UC Berkeley's Haas School of Business. He is the author of Perfectly Confident and a co-author of the books Judgement in Managerial Decision Making and Decision Leadership. His expertise and research interests include overconfidence, ethical choice, decision-making, and negotiation. He is only occasionally overconfident.
Resources
Perfectly ConfidentDecision LeadershipLearnMoore.orgTo learn more from Michelle about decision making, check out
The Ask A Decision Engineer websiteHer Stanford Continuing Studies courseHer self-paced course Decision Toolkit for Personal DecisionsHer Decision Toolkit for Coaches and Counselors virtual workshop on Maven -
Decisions. They are the way we can steer our lives forward, yet how much thought do people give to how they are making them? And more importantly, what are the small things we can do to improve them?
In this episode, I go back to basics with global decision making expert, Ralph Keeney. Ralph is a Professor Emeritus of Business Administration at Duke University and a Professor Emeritus of Industrial and Systems Engineering at the University of Southern California. He has written multiple books on decision making, including Value-Focused Thinking, Smart Choices, and Give Yourself A Nudge.
We talk about why it's worth putting thought into how you make decisions, the impact of shifting focus from decision problems, to decision opportunities, the importance of defining your values in a decision and some quick things you can do to improve your decision making.
Topics Covered
3:25 Why is it worth it to take time to think about decision making?
4:57 Learning the skill of decision making through practice
6:52 Which decisions are worthy of thought
7:46 How much time and effort to put into decisions
10:58 Shifting from alternatives-focused to value-focused thinking
14:46 Decision problems vs. decision opportunities
19:04 Decision opportunities as a way to reduce bad outcomes
21:03 Where you should focus your efforts to improve a decision
22:19 The three keys
24:40 The three keys: an example
27:41 How to nudge yourself to make better decisions
28:43 A nudge for those obsessed with finding the best option
31:29 Little nudges > Learning decision analysis
32:52 Practice on your personal decisions
34:45 Advice for those uncomfortable with decision making in the face of uncertainty
36:17 The upside of uncertainty
38:27 Parting words of wisdom
Guest Bio
Ralph L. Keeney is an expert on decision making. His passion is to help individuals and organizations improve their decision making skills. He has written extensively on the foundational ideas and concepts for making quality decisions and on practical procedures to routinely use, and applications of, those ideas and concepts on important decisions. Dr. Keeney has consulted on a wide range of decisions including corporate management problems, public policy, and significant personal decisions.
Professor Keeney’s books, which have been translated into numerous languages, include Decisions with Multiple Objectives with Howard Raiffa (1976, 1993), Value- Focused Thinking: A Path to Creative Decisionmaking (1992), Smart Choices: A Practical Guide to Making Better Decisions, with John S. Hammond and Howard Raiffa (1999), and Give Yourself a Nudge: Helping Smart People Make Smarter Personal and Business Decisions (2020).
Keeney received a Ph.D. in engineering and operations research from the Massachusetts Institute of Technology. He is a Research Professor Emeritus of Business Administration at Duke University and a Research Professor Emeritus of Industrial and Systems Engineering at the University of Southern California. He recently received an honorary doctorate from the University of Waterloo in Canada and has been a member of the National Academy of Engineering of the U.S. since 1995.
Resources
Give Yourself a Nudge: Helping Smart People Make Smarter Personal and Business Decisions (2020) Smart Choices: A Practical Guide to Making Better Decisions, with John S. Hammond and Howard Raiffa (1999)Value-Focused Thinking: A Path to Creative Decisionmaking (1992)Oji DecideTo learn more from Michelle about decision making, check out
The Ask A Decision Engineer websiteHer Stanford Continuing Studies courseHer self-paced course Decision Toolkit for Personal DecisionsHer Decision Toolkit for Coaches and Counselors virtual workshop on Maven -
Decision-making is not just a cognitive exercise; there are benefits to approaching it as a whole person.
To talk more about this, I invited Amy Day, decision educator and executive director of the nonprofit Clarity for Action, to my podcast. Amy likes to say that she grew up in a decision laboratory, surrounded by giants from the field of decision science. She's certified as a decision educator, coach and advisor through Stanford, continuing studies.
Over the past 20 years, she has combined her native background in decision quality, with insights, from social emotional learning, in order to teach emerging adults and parents to integrate whole person decision making into their lives in order to get clarity and take purposeful action.
Today, Amy explains how to check one's decision fitness with a simple acronym, the four components of whole person decision making, and what parents and adults can do to cultivate decision skills and the young people they support.
Topics Covered
2:49 Whole person decision making
4:27 Growing up in a decision laboratory
7:24 Working the emotions that arise in decision making
8:34 Decision fitness and my internal operating system
14:10 Four areas of whole-person decision making
14:20 Values: Who am I
16:02 Internal Operating System: How am I, decision fitness, and HALT
18:36 The importance of putting on your own oxygen mask first
19:37 Decision Process: What could I
26:53 Action: What are my action steps
27:55 Quality of decisions, quality of outcomes
32:11 Decision aftercare
36:00 Decision classroom
About Amy Day’s nonprofit, Clarity4Action
Our goal at Clarity4Action.org is to support people in moving from feeling confused and stuck to calm clarity and effective action in their choices. We teach and coach whole-person decision making to young people as they emerge into adulthood and the people who support them.
Resources
Clarity4Action website Clarity4Action.orgThe Four Outcomes GuideSign up to receive our weekly email for integrating better decision making into your life. https://clarity4action.org/thoughtful-thursday-blog/To learn more from Michelle about decision making, check out
The Ask A Decision Engineer websiteHer Stanford Continuing Studies courseHer self-paced course Decision Toolkit for Personal DecisionsHer Decision Toolkit for Coaches and Counselors virtual workshop on Maven -
How can you know you've made a good decision, even before you know how things turn out? It’s all about understanding decision quality.
To talk about that, I invited award-winning decision quality expert, Carl Spetzler onto today's show. Carl is the co-founder and chairman of Strategic Decisions group, a leading strategy consulting firm, renowned for its expertise in strategic decision making for greater value creation. He also literally wrote the book on decision quality along with his colleagues, Hannah Winter and Jennifer Meyer.
Today, we talk about how the concept of decision quality has helped companies make better decisions when millions and billions of dollars are on the line, how you can employ the six links of decision quality to be confident you are making a good decision, as well as other tips for making better decisions.
Topics Covered
2:49 The early days of decision analysis and engineering economics
6:17 Applications of decision quality in the corporate world
7:55 Applications of decision quality in everyday life
11:28 How to have a good decision at the time you make it
11:35 Appropriate frame
14:08 Creative alternatives
14:45 Values
16:14 Information
17:12 Sound reasoning
17:53 Commitment to action
21:05 Your decision is only as good as the weakest link
22:06 How to use the six links when you need to make decisions quickly
23:58 Having the right decision agenda
25:34 Pay attention to how you relate to clarity and action
Guest Bio
Carl Spetzler is the co-founder and chairman of Strategic Decisions Group, a leading strategy consulting firm renowned for its expertise in strategic decision-making for greater value creation. He is also the lead author of Decision Quality: Value Creation from Better Business Decisions (Wiley, 2016) with coauthors Hannah Winter and Jennifer Meyer.
He serves on the board of the Decision Education Foundation, a nonprofit organization dedicated to improving the decision-making skills of youth. In 2004, Dr. Spetzler received The Ramsey Medal, the highest honor awarded by the Decision Analysis Society of INFORMS for lifetime contributions to the field.
Resources mentioned
Strategic Decisions GroupSociety of Decision ProfessionalsDecision Education FoundationStumbling on Happiness by Daniel GilbertTo learn more from Michelle about decision making, check out
The Ask A Decision Engineer websiteHer Stanford Continuing Studies courseHer self-paced course Decision Toolkit for Personal DecisionsHer Decision Toolkit for Coaches and Counselors virtual workshop on Maven -
Making decisions as an individual has its challenges, but having to make decisions as a group adds many other layers of complexity. To talk about that, I brought my friend, Alexis Gonzales-Black onto today's show.
Alexis is a Partner and the org design lead at August Public. Before August, she led the implementation of Holacracy at Zappos and helped shape an emerging org design practice for world-class clients at IDEO. She is an expert in organization design and is driven by a desire to make workplaces more inclusive, agile, and fun.
In this episode, we talk about what she's noticing about the future of work in a hybrid environment, why consensus is not the right approach 90% of the time, what truly inclusive decision processes look like, and a quick reframe that enables you to make group decisions faster.
Topics covered
03:02 Moving from remote to hybrid
06:16 Decision making as a persistent challenge
09:04 We love consensus
09:47 Decision making as a spectrum
10:46 Two other approaches to try
16:22 Stakeholder mapping
18:26 Inclusion in decision-making processes
21:05 What's possible when you reframe decision making as a skill learned over time
22:25 What happens when you push decision making down to the levels closest to the
work
23:29 Leading the roll out of Holocracy at Zappos
25:09 A tangent on releasing ourselves from the idea that we can achieve certainty
26:01 Back to Holocracy at Zappos
29:13 Human centered org design at IDEO
31:28 What has been most fascinating about the work at August Public
35:23 Decision making as a perfect proxy for understanding what's going on in an
organization
37:30 Key things to remember or try
Guest Bio
Alexis is a Partner and the Org Design lead at August Public. She is an expert in organization design, change activation, and the future of work. Over the past 15 years, she's worked with some of the world's most respected companies to design innovative organizational practices and implement large, complex change programs. Before August, she led the implementation of Holacracy at Zappos and helped shape an emerging org design practice for world-class clients at IDEO. She is driven by a desire to make workplaces more inclusive, agile, and fun.
Resources
Learn from the experts at August Public: https://www.aug.co/learningTo learn more from Michelle about decision making, check out
The Ask A Decision Engineer websiteHer Stanford Continuing Studies courseHer self-paced course Decision Toolkit for Personal DecisionsHer Decision Toolkit for Coaches and Counselors virtual workshop on Maven -
When making a decision, we should seek out the "best" option, right? Turns out, seeking to maximize your outcomes is likely to leave you less happy and more stressed. On the show today I bring you one of my mentors, Barry Schwartz, who wrote the game-changing book The Paradox of Choice, Why More is Less.
Barry shares why maximizing is a bad goal, talks about the benefits of constraints, and shows how practical wisdom is what will enable us to succeed in the face of uncertainty and ambiguity.
Topics covered
03:01 What prompted him to get into this field
06:48 What makes a decision bad? And people making decisions inconsistent with their
goals.
09:07 Maximizing is a bad goal
11:07 Culture's influence on maximizing and unhappiness
12:14 Why constraints are good
22:37 Support Barry's grandkids' education!
23:13 Practical wisdom
28:02 What is needed is judgment, not rules
31:24 The need to learn how to live with uncertainty and ambiguity
34:56 Why you should learn to be a chefs vs. a cook
37:59 Analytical tools can help…
40:11 Key things to remember
Guest Bio
Barry Schwartz is an emeritus professor of psychology at Swarthmore College and a visiting professor at the Haas School of Business at Berkeley. He has spent fifty years thinking and writing about the interaction between economics, psychology, and morality. He has written several books that address aspects of this interaction, including The Battle for Human Nature, The Costs of Living, The Paradox of Choice, Practical Wisdom, and most recently, Why We Work. Schwartz has written for sources as diverse as The New York Times, The New York Times Magazine, the Chronicle of Higher Education, Slate, Scientific American, The New Republic, the Harvard Business Review, and the Guardian. He has appeared on dozens of radio shows, including NPR’s Morning Edition, and Talk of the Nation, and has been interviewed on Anderson Cooper 360 (CNN), the PBS News Hour, The Colbert Report, and CBS Sunday Morning. Schwartz has spoken four times at the TED conference, and his TED talks have been viewed by more than 20 million people.
Resources
The Paradox of Choice book
To learn more from Michelle about decision making, check out
The Ask A Decision Engineer websiteHer Stanford Continuing Studies courseHer self-paced course Decision Toolkit for Personal DecisionsHer Decision Toolkit for Coaches and Counselors virtual workshop on Maven -
Decisions about what you want to do next in life feel big- they can literally change your life. That's why so many people feel stuck in the process. Today I'm speaking with my friend, Kathy Davies, the Managing Director of the Life Design Lab at Stanford University. She is also the co-founder of Designing Your Life for Women and a Master Trainer of the Designing Your Life process.
In today's episode, Kathy provides an overview of what it looks like to apply design thinking to life decisions, talks about the value of sitting with emotions and feelings, explains why community helps us get unstuck, and invites employers to help co-create new options that work for both companies and employees.
Topics Covered
03:23 What is life design?
05:05 The human centered design thinking process
05:36 Empathy
05:43 Define
06:27 Ideate
07:33 Prototype
08:42 Prototyping as a mindset shift
9:30 Start small
10:54 Prototyping careers through conversation
12:26 Test: incorporate your learnings
14:08 The importance of recognizing when it's time to engage in the process, and when
it may not be time
16:12 The value of recognizing what we need
18:10 The value of sitting with emotions and feelings
19:48 We are all in process, especially at the time of transition
21:10 It helps to do this in community
22:39 The feelings that keep people stuck
25:29 The opportunity companies have in co-creating options that work
30:38 Four-step process for getting started with life design
35:38 The key mindset shift
Guest Bio
Kathy Davies is the Managing Director of the Life Design Lab at Stanford University, where she teaches Product Design, Mechanical Engineering, and “Designing Your Life”. She is also the co-founder of Designing Your Life for Women and a Master Trainer of the Designing Your Life process. She has 15 years of experience developing electromechanical and software products, and proudly holds five patents. Kathy consults with Silicon Valley companies, teaches design thinking, conducts ethnographic research, and develops product strategies and concepts. She believes design thinking and life design are powerful mechanisms for getting unstuck, and is a passionate advocate for use of design thinking to empower social change, especially around equity for women.
Resources
The Designing Your Life websiteThe Stanford Life Design LabUpcoming Designing Your Life for Women and Designing Your Life for Everyone workshopsDesigning Your Life for corporate teamsSeason 3 of Ask A Decision Engineer - All the feelsTo learn more from Michelle about decision making, check out
The Ask A Decision Engineer websiteHer Stanford Continuing Studies courseHer self-paced course Decision Toolkit for Personal DecisionsHer Decision Toolkit for Coaches and Counselors virtual workshop on Maven -
In this fourth season of the podcast, I'm bringing folks on the show who have influenced my work on decision-making. And who better to start with than Seth Godin, without whom this podcast would not exist.
Seth is an entrepreneur, an author of multiple New York Times bestselling books, writer of one of the most popular blogs in the world and a dear teacher of mine when it comes to dancing with the emotions that come up in decision-making. Today, we talk about making decisions with intent, the difference between intent and purpose, why fear is not a bad thing, and how to dance with fear when making decisions.
Topics covered
02:20 Why is learning to make good decisions important?
03:39 Mindful decision making: intent vs instinct
04:56 The useful practice of meta-cognition
06:04 The difference between purpose and intent
07:51 Being on the hook is the best place to be
08:24 How to grapple with the fear of being on the hook
09:59 Staring down fear is a good signal
13:46 What's the payoff of dancing with fear?
16:01 Quality of decisions is distinct from quality of the outcome
16:36 How to dance with the fear of regret
16:36 Dancing with the fear of what others may think
21:52 Decision making as a posture
24:01 The freedom that comes with understanding sunk costs
Guest Bio
Seth is an author, entrepreneur, and most of all, a teacher.. In addition to launching one of the most popular blogs in the world, he has written 20 best-selling books, including The Dip, Linchpin, Purple Cow, Tribes, and What To Do When It's Your Turn (And It's Always Your Turn). His book, This is Marketing, was an instant bestseller in countries around the world. The latest book is The Practice, and creatives everywhere have made it a bestseller. Though renowned for his writing and speaking, Seth also founded two companies, Squidoo and Yoyodyne (acquired by Yahoo!). By focusing on everything from effective marketing and leadership, to the spread of ideas and changing everything, Seth has been able to motivate and inspire countless people around the world.
Resources
The altMBAAkimbo, home of The Podcasting Workshop and othersAnnie Duke’s book, Thinking in BetsTo learn more from Michelle about decision making, check out
The Ask A Decision Engineer websiteHer Stanford Continuing Studies courseHer self-paced course Decision Toolkit for Personal DecisionsHer Decision Toolkit for Coaches and Counselors virtual workshop on Maven -
When facing big decisions, even the smartest people can get tied into knots. But it doesn't have to be that way.
Hi, I'm Michelle Florendo.
I studied decision engineering at Stanford and over the past 15 years, I've helped hundreds of people navigate complex decisions in their professional and personal lives.
In season four of my podcast, Ask A Decision Engineer, I'll be interviewing guests on the show who will share insights, strategies, and tools to help you work through your decision-making challenges.
You'll hear from authors, professors and practitioners spanning the fields of decision science, psychology, organizational behavior, and human centered design.
New episodes drop in June. Subscribe now, wherever you get your podcasts.
To learn more from Michelle about decision making, check out
The Ask A Decision Engineer websiteHer Stanford Continuing Studies courseHer self-paced course Decision Toolkit for Personal DecisionsHer Decision Toolkit for Coaches and Counselors virtual workshop on Maven -
In this Ask Me Anything (AMA) episode, I answer a question from a listener about how to tell whether the decisions he has made were the best ones. Listen in as I discuss how to reduce doubt after making a decision.
Key topics covered in this episode:
1:55 - what this listener is really asking4:02 - the short answer to the question5:23 - what would be more helpful when facing this question6:13 - the feeling that prompts this question and why you feel it7:58 - the surprising truth about wanting to maximize your outcomes9:25 - the first step in feeling better about your decisions10:23 - the power of choosing contentment over conditioning11:33 - how to get clear with your objectives12:47 - the importance of committing to staying presentTo learn more from Michelle about decision making, check out
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In this Ask Me Anything (AMA) episode, I answer a question from a listener about how to approach decisions so that she can move past overwhelm and feel more confident in her decision making. Listen in as I discuss four key steps for her to tackle decisions with more ease.
Key topics covered in this episode:
1:23 - Process orientation vs. outcome orientation2:32 - Improving confidence by discarding unrealistic bars for decision quality5:32 - Knowing where to focus by using the Covey's Circles tool8:39 - Breaking decisions down into bite-sized pieces using the 3 Components framework10:41 - Key questions to ask to drive toward clarity in each component17:44 - Other ways you can use the 3 Components framework19:19 - The critical last step in any decision making processTo learn more from Michelle about decision making, check out
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Sometimes there are decisions that are so overwhelming and emotionally draining that what we decide to do to stay mentally and emotionally fit enough to make the decision is as important as the decision process itself. In today's episode, you'll hear from a guest client facing a difficult decision regarding care for her aging mother with a mental health condition. Learn strategies for working through tough decisions involving others.
Key topics we cover:
1:58 - What's key to consider in emotionally difficult decisions2:30 - Constraints in decision making8:31 - How Covey's Circle of Influence is a tool that can be used to identify where to focus your efforts15:11 - The importance of identifying where you have control and where you don't have as much17:22 - Divergent vs Convergent thinking in exploring options22:05 - How constraints can sometimes be helpful26:04 - How to deal with feelings that seem like an obstacle29:45 - The importance of identifying what it will take to resource yourselfResources if you are impacted by mental illness:
NAMI.org - National Alliance on Mental IllnessNational Suicide Prevention Lifeline - 1 (800) 273-8255To learn more from Michelle about decision making, check out
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How do you figure out what to do after you graduate from college? In this episode, I show a college student how to clarify what she wants, reduce the stress of finding the perfect job, and avoid getting overwhelmed by uncertainties.
Key topics we cover:
2:27 - How to reframe "I don't know what I want"5:58 - How to use the "Happiness Pyramid" to clarify what you want8:48 - What to do with advice that tells you to follow your passion13:50 - Why feelings can be super useful in the process of clarifying what you want14:40 - How to shift your thinking so that it's easier to recognize the options you have16:24 - How to think about options18:33 - How you should approach generating new options if things don't work out21:05 - Why it's critical to learn how to deal with uncertainty25:26 - How to design exercises that make the job search less overwhelmingTo learn more from Michelle about decision making, check out
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Key topics we cover in this episode:
03:47 - What to do when your intellect says one thing and your intuition says another07:21 - Breaking big decisions into smaller microdecisions07:57 - Unpacking feelings about money and deciding to invest in one's business14:05 - What's keeping her awake at night17:17 - Clarifying her objectives19:12 - What it means when there is an option you're not willing to entertain20:40 - What to do about information gaps28:03 - Determining the value of information29:29 - How to deal with the desire to just make a decision alreadyThere are three key things that I hope you take away from this episode.
If you find yourself torn between your intellect and your intuition, bring your intuition and feelings into the light. In other words, leaned in and determine what data your intuition and feelings can provide to your intellect so that you can get all parts of you on the same page.If you find that there's a particular objective that triggers an emotional reaction that may overshadow your rational thinking such as feelings about money. Set that objective aside to look at the decision with a clear lens and then bring it back into consideration later.If you have information gaps examine, ask yourself what is the value of gathering additional information and whether it is actually worth making that investment. If it is worth it to make that investment, explore how you can get comfortable with the tension that you'll experience until you're able to resolve some of those unknown.Your head and your heart need not battle it out. When you make space to bring both types of thinking into the picture, you'll leave with a much clearer picture of how to move forward.
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Today's episode touches on a number of different feelings: the excitement of a new path and the doubts around whether it will pan out the questioning around how much our desires are a result of the culture we've been surrounded by, or if deep down inside, we actually want something else. When we feel like we are swimming in an ocean of thoughts and feelings, it can be extremely useful to get those thoughts down on paper in a structured way.
Consider doing a brain dump and categorizing things into the three components, objectives, options, and informationIf you are having a hard time articulating what you want, imagine how you want to feel in the futureA decision matrix can be a useful tool to organize what comes to mind with those three componentsPerhaps try to map out different options and scenarios onto a decision tree so that you can make sure you are exploring all branches, fairlyStructure can help you make better sense of all the inputs you have so that you can see things more clearly.
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If you have already decided what course of action to take, but are having a hard time actually acting on it, explore:
what emotions are arising as you think about taking action?where are those emotions coming from?if one of those emotions is fear or dread, what is on the other side of that?if what you fear were to come to fruition, what will you decide to do then?how might you keep the positive benefits of the course of action you chose top of mind?To learn more from Michelle about decision making, check out
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