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Episode 30 Desire for approval
Script:
Hello, everyone, how are you? This week, the topic is "desire for approval". Social media is becoming more and more popular these days, and we often hear the phrase "desire for approval." It means wanting others to recognize and praise us. For example, imagine you bake a cake and share pictures of it on social media, hoping to get comments and likes. When you see those comments, it makes you happy. It's the feeling of wanting everyone to acknowledge that you did something good. To acknowledge means to admit and accept.
Life used to be simpler before social media became so popular. We didn't feel the need to show pictures of ourselves or of our friends and family at a restaurant. The only time we would show pictures to others was probably when we went on trips.
But social media has changed everything. Nowadays, people, especially women, post pictures of their new clothes, shoes, and jewelry on their social media pages. They also post pictures of the food they eat at restaurants, sometimes even just a cup of coffee. They post their selfies at the gym. Why do they do that?
I think maybe they feel insecure. They need validation, which means they want other people to say that they are good or important. Social media gives them away to seek that validation from others. This desire for approval can stem from various factors. In today's digital age, social media has created a culture of comparison and competition. When we see others sharing their achievements and glamorous lifestyles, it can make us feel inadequate and fuel our own desire for validation. We may believe that receiving recognition from others will make us feel more valuable and worthy.
The number of likes, comments, and followers has become a measure of popularity and success. As a result, many individuals find themselves caught in a constant pursuit of more followers, striving to maintain an online presence that gather attention and praise.
However, it is essential to recognize the potential downsides of this reliance on external validation. The constant need for approval can lead to a distorted sense of self-worth, as our value becomes tied solely to the opinions of others. It can also create anxiety as we feel compelled to constantly seek validation inevery aspect of our lives.
It is crucial to shift our focus inward. Building self-confidence and embracing our unique qualities and accomplishments can help us break free from the cycle of seeking external validation. Our worth should not be determined solely by the opinions of others.
In conclusion, while the desire for approval is increasingly prevalent in the age of social media, it is important to understand its underlying causesand impact on our well-being. By striving to develop a stronger sense of self-worth and reducing our dependence on external validation, we can find ahealthier balance in our online interactions and cultivate a more authentic sense of happiness in our lives.
Vocabulary
acknowledge - means to admit and accept
validation – the act of checking and proving accuracy
inadequate – lacking the quality
distorted - twisted
prevalent - widespread
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Episode 29
This week I am going to teach you a few phrases on how to sound like a native speaker. I will give you two examples for each phrase.
The first one is
"You don't say...". It is an expression used to convey a sense of surprise or disbelief at something that has been said. It is often used sarcastically to suggest that the speaker already knew what was said.
Example 1:
Person A:"Did you hear that it's going to rain tomorrow?"
Person B:"You don't say. I guess I should pack an umbrella."
Example 2:
Person A:"I just found out that the movie we want to see is sold out."
Person B:"You don't say. Well, maybe we can catch a different movie instead."
Number 2
"Tell me about it". It is an expression used to express agreement or empathy with someone who is describing a frustrating or difficult situation. It suggests that the speaker has been through a similar experience and understands how the other person feels.
Example 1:
Person A: "I've been waiting in line for two hours to buy tickets."
Person B:"Tell me about it. I waited in line for three hours last week."
Example 2:
Person A:"I can't believe how hard it is to find a job right now."
Person B:"Tell me about it. I've been applying to dozens of places and haven't heard back from anyone."
Number 3
"I am losing it". It is an expression used to describe someone who is becoming increasingly frustrated, overwhelmed, or stressed out. It suggests that the person is struggling to keep their emotions under control.
Example 1:
Person A:"I have so much work to do and not enough time to do it."
Person B:"I know, it's really stressful. You seem like you're losing it a little."
Example 2:
Person A:"I can't find my keys anywhere and I'm going to be late for my appointment."
Person B:"Take a deep breath, you don't want to lose it over something small like this."
Number 4
"You tell me" – “You tell me" can be used to express agreement or emphasize that the speaker shares the same sentiment as the other person. It implies that the other person has made a valid point or observation, and the speaker is asking them to elaborate or offer their opinion.
Example 1:
Person A: I heard the new restaurant downtown has amazing food.
Person B: You tell me! I have been meaning to try it out but haven’t had the chance yet.
Example 2:
Person A: I think we should leave early to avoid the traffic.
Person B:You tell me. You know the roads around here better than I do.”
Number 5:
"Have a beef with someone" is an idiom used to describe a situation where someone has a strong disagreement or grievance with another person. It suggests that there is a conflict or tension between the two individuals.
Example 1:
Person A:"Why are you avoiding Sarah?"
Person B:"I have a beef with her. She said some things that really upset me."
Example 2:
Person A: "Why did you quit your job at the restaurant?"
Person B: "I had a beef with the owner. He was always micromanaging me and I couldn't take it anymore."
Thank you for listening.
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Episode 28: How to get unstuck and continue a conversation:
Hello, everyone. How are you? Last week I was not feeling well, and skipped an episode. Sorry about that.
This week, I want to talk about how to get unstuck and continue a conversation.
We have all been there. Sometimes, when somebody asks us a question, we need time to think of an answer, or we forget what we are trying to say. Sometimes, we simply don't know the answer.
What should we do when we are in these situations? It depends on the question that you are asked.
Scenario one. You need more time to get your thoughts together, so buy yourself time by saying something.
You can say,
a) "Great question, let me think about that for a moment."
b) "You know, I have never thought about that. Let me think about that."
c) "You know, I am not sure, let me think about that".
Scenario two: When somebody asks your opinion about something that you don't know, answer a question with a question.
You can say, "I am not sure, what about you?"
You often hear people say "what about you?" and "how about you?". These two phrases are often used to ask for the other person's opinion or response.
"What about you?" is more straightforward and direct. "How about you?" is less formal, more friendly and casual. It is often used as a follow-up question to a proposal and suggestion.
But this strategy doesn't always work. What if somebody asks you about your job and you are not sure how to describe it in English? You certainly cannot say, "I am not sure." However, you can say, "Let me think about how to say it in English. In the meantime, why don't you tell me about your job?"
Scenario three: What should you do if you don't understand the question? Those moments can be embarrassing.
First of all, don't panic. And secondly, don't pretend you understand the question. You can ask the speaker to repeat the question or speak more slowly.
a) "I am sorry, could you please repeat the question?"
b) "Could you say that again more slowly?"
c) "I didn't quite catch that. Could you say that again?"
d) "I am not sure I understood your question. Could you rephrase it?"
Sometimes, I hear people say, "say that again?" or "one more time please". "Say that again?" is very casual and informal and shouldn't be used at the workplace, unless you and your co-worker are more like friends. You should never say that to your boss or clients. "One more time please" is polite and simple. But the suggested phrases made you sound more professional.
Thank you for listening.
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Episode 27 - How to sound smarter at work by using 'smart' words
Hello everyone, how are you? This week, I want to teach you how to sound smarter at work by using more professional words.
Here are some suggestions.
1. Substitute "okay, no problem" with other phrases.
We often say "okay, no problem" when we agree to a request. It is fine when you are talking to your friends or family members. It is not rude to reply to your boss, co-worker or clients with, "okay, no problem" when they ask you to do something. However, it will make you sound more sophisticated when you use different words and phrases. Here are some suggestions:
"Certainly", or you can say, "certainly, I will get right on it."
"I will be happy to take care of that for you."
"Absolutely. When do you need it done by?"
"Consider it done. Is there anything else I can help you with?"
Note that the words "certainly" and "absolutely" are interchangeable. So you can say, "absolutely, I will get right on it".
2. Use the word "modify" instead of "change". For example, at a work meeting, somebody says, "we need to change the way we deal with customers". The word 'change' makes it sound like you need to change everything and nobody likes to make changes. Use the word "modify" instead. It means the same thing but sounds less drastic. Drastic means extreme and serious.
3. Say "sensational" instead of "awesome", or "amazing" or "great". These three words are being overused.
4. Ask the speaker to "elaborate" instead of saying "what do you mean?", or "I don't understand what you are saying" when somebody says something that you do not understand. It is less casual and more professional. You can say, "can you elaborate it a little?"
5. Substitute "confused" and "confusing" with "perplexed" or "perplexing".
Examples: I am perplexed.
This situation is perplexing.
6. Avoid using the word "like" too often. Some people use this word 3 times in one sentence. Substitute with "such as", or "for instance".
Example, "This client is very difficult. You have to be careful with him, like when you go for a meeting, make sure you are 5 minutes early". Instead of saying "like if you go for a meeting", you can say, "such as" or "for instance, when you go for a meeting.."
7. "Exactly" is another word that people may overuse. You can say, "yes, that's so true", "yes, you are right," "that's exactly how I feel", or "you are spot on" to substitute "exactly".
I hope these tips will help you. Thank you for listening.
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Episode 26: How to deal with gossips
A gossip is a rumor or a report of somebody, usually something bad. The conversation usually starts with, "Oh my God, did you hear...?" Gossips happen at work and at social gatherings.
Why do people gossip? People gossip for a variety of reasons, which can be both positive and negative. On the positive side, gossiping can help people build and maintain social connections by sharing information and stories about others. It can also provide a way for people to bond over shared experiences or even serve as a form of entertainment.
However, gossiping can also be used as a means of social control. People may spread rumors or negative information about others to damage their reputation, or it can serve as a way to make people feel superior by having exclusive information into other people's lives. If you are uncomfortable about gossiping, how do you politely ask somebody to stop talking badly about somebody else?
1. Change the topic. When somebody says to you, "Did you hear what she did yesterday?" You know the next thing that she says will be some kind of gossip or rumor. If you don't want to participate in a gossip or rumor, you can say, "no", and then immediately follow by saying something totally different, such as,
"Have you started watching that new TV show?", or "how are your kids?", or "how's the new project going?"
You make it clear you are not interested in the gossip, and want to move on to another topic. If that doesn't work, and the person is persistent in gossiping, then you can try the following strategy.
2. Shut it down. Simply be honest. Tell the person that you are not comfortable talking about somebody else when they are not here. You can even say,
"I am not really into gossip." You can ask to change the topic by saying, "Do you mind if we talk about something else?" or "Do you mind if you change the subject?"
It is good to be honest.
Thank you for listening.
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Episode 25 How to sound professional on the phone – common telephone conversations and phrases
Speaking on the phone in English can be nerve-racking for English students. Nerve-racking means causing stress or anxiety. You already feel nervous speaking English, and speaking in English on the phone makes you even more nervous. First of all, speak clearly and slowly. Enunciate your words, and avoid mumbling or speaking too fast. Enunciate means to pronounce clearly. The second tip is to listen carefully. If you cannot hear or catch what the other personis saying, don’t panic. Ask the person to repeat, by saying, “I am sorry. I didn’t quite catch that. Could you repeat what you just said?”
Use appropriate language and be respectful.
Here are some essential phrases.
1. When you are answering a call for work, state your name and company name. For example, “This is Audrey from ABC company. How can I help you?” or you can state the department where you are working in. “This is Audrey in the Accounting Department. How can I help you?”
2. If you are the one making the call, say, “this is Audrey calling from ABC company. I am calling about.. ( you state the reason why you arecalling). If you know the person that you are calling, maybe you speak to her regularly, you can speak less formally. You can say, “Hey, it is Audrey over at ABC Company… I just want to… ( and you state the reason why you are calling).
3. You are asking to speak to someone specific on the phone. Example, “Hi, this is Audrey from ABC company. May I speak with Laura?” or you can say “Is Laura available? “.
If it is not important who you want to speak to, but you need to speak to somebody inside a specific department, you can ask, for example, “could you connect me with someone in the Accounting Department?”
4. When you are answering a call and you need to put someone on hold because you are searching for information, or you are looking for the person, or you are simply too nervous and need to calm down and think about what to say, here are some phrases to say when putting someone on hold. “May I put you on hold?”, “Could I ask you to hold for a moment?” “Would you mind holding for a moment?”
I hope these phrases help.
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Script:
Hi, everyone, how are you? This week I am going to talk about two topics. The first one is making small talks.
Making small talks with somebody you don't know well can be intimidating, but it is a great way to connect with others and
build friendships. Here are some tips for making small talks.
#1 - Start with a greeting, say hi, introduce yourself, and ask them how their day is going. This will break the ice and set a friendly tone.
#2 - Ask open-ended questions instead of yes and no questions. For example, ask "how was your weekend?" if you are meeting that person at the beginning of the week. If you are meeting the person on Thursday or Friday, you can ask, "what are your plans for this weekend?"
#3 - Find common grounds. If you are talking to other parents, you can talk about the kids, or the school activities. If you are at a work event, you can talk about your job or the industry.
#4 - Listen attentively and ask follow-up questions.
#5 - Keep it light and positive, avoid sensitive topics and avoid oversharing your personal life.
The second topic that I want to talk about today is how to politely end a bad conversation. We have all been there - being in a boring conversation, or that the other person is saying something that makes you uncomfortable. Many people use excuses like, "excuse me, I need to get a drink", or "I need to use the bathroom". Everyone knows these are cliches. A cliche is a phrase or opinion that is overused and betrays a lack of original thought. An example of a cliche is, "life is too short." Have you heard of that cliche?
There are other excuses that are more positive, tactful and honest.
If you are at a party or a networking event, and you are stuck with somebody who has been talking to you for too long, or that the conversation is too boring, you can exit the situation by saying these:
1. "It has been really nice talking to you, but I promised myself I would mingle with others and get to know more people. I will catch you later."
2. "Oh, I see some of my colleagues over there, I would like to say hi to them. It is really nice chatting with you".
Emphasize it has been great talking with them.
The other strategy is to ask the speaker to introduce you to somebody else at the event. Say, "I hardly know anyone here, who do you think I should meet? I would like to meet a few new people at this event today. Can you introduce me to anyone?"
The third strategy is to introduce somebody to this person so you can get out of this conversation. The person that you know may have something in common with this person. You can say, "I see my co-worker, John, over there. I think the two of you have a lot in common. Let me introduce you.
The last tactic is to say, "I am sure I have taken a lot of your time. You have got a lot of people you want to talk to. I will let you go but it has been great talking with you.
Vocabulary
1. break the ice - do or say something to ease the tension or get the conversation going.
2. mingle - socialize
3. catch you later - used for saying goodbye to someone when you expect to see them soon, or later the same day.I will catch you later means I will see you later, chat with you later.
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Episode 23: How to conduct or participate in an English online meeting
Since the pandemic started three years ago, online meetings have replaced many face-to-face meetings. For those of you who have experience with onlinemeetings, you may find that you are unsure about online meeting etiquette, such as what to say in some situations. Today, I am going to share some tips with you.
1. Preparation
First of all, you need to prepare for a successful online meeting. That includes testing the microphone and camera in advance, especially if this is the first time you and the participants are using this platform. You can send an email to the participants a day before. You can also inform the participants audio and video before you start. Instead of a blank screen, you can create an image or slide that says:
"To prepare for the best experience, please check your audio and video before we start. Use headphones during the discussion."
2. Introductions and greetings:
If you are the host of the meeting, greet others and lead introductions. Include your name, position, and company name.For example: "Hi everyone, I am Audrey. I am a junior analyst at ABC company, and I will be leading the discussion today."
If there are new faces that will participate in this meeting, say, "There are some unfamiliar faces today, so let's do a quick round of introductions.”Be sure to call on each individual person.
3. Next, establish ground rules for active listening.
In a face-to-face meeting, we use verbal cues to show that we are listening, such as saying "a-ha," "that's right," "that's interesting." These verbal cues don't always work on an online platform. In an online meeting, try to utilize the tools on the platform, such as sending emojis or using the chat box. You can tell theparticipants the following:
"If you have any questions during the meeting, please let me know by using the raised hand emoji."
"If you like or agree with something, use the clapping hands or thumbs up emojis."
"You can also use the chat box to send me a message."
4. Etiquette
It would be a good idea to tell the participants to turn off distractions, such as their phones, and use mute if there are background noises. When you want tomake a comment or ask a question, use the raised hand emoji, or you can simply raise your hand.
When the host asks you to speak, say: "I am sorry to interrupt, but I would like to ask a quick question."Or say, "I am sorry to interrupt, but I want you to clarify something that you said."
What if there is an interruption, such as a technical difficulty? If possible, send the host a message; if not, send an email.
The next scenario is if you are the host, and you are showing a presentation and need some time, say,"Please bear with me for a moment (or please wait a moment) while I get ready to share my slides."
When you are ready after the short disruption, say, "I apologize for the wait."
5. Closing . Now it is time to end the meeting. If you are the host, summarize the meeting, repeat the main points, and thank the participants. Say,"We got so much done today; thanks, everyone, for coming."Thank you for listening.
Vocabulary
Etiquette – the customary code of polite behavior in society or among members of a particular profession
Cue -sign or signal
Utilize – use, make use of
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Episode 22 Pandora’s Box
Hello, everyone, how are you doing? Today I am going to talk about the idiom “open a Pandora’s Box”. The phrase "open a Pandora's Box" means to start something that will cause a lot of problems that you didn't expect. It comes from a Greek myth about a woman named Pandora who was given a box as a gift, but was told not to open it. Curiosity got the better of her, and when she opened the box, all the bad things in the world came out, like sickness, greed, and envy.
Here are some examples of how you might use the phrase "open a Pandora's Box" in everyday language:
1. When he decided to confront his coworker about their behavior, he inadvertently opened a Pandora's box of office politics and drama.
2. The government's decision to change the healthcare system without proper planning and consultation could potentially open a Pandora's box of unintendedconsequences.
3. By sharing that controversial opinion online, she opened a Pandora's box of hate comments and backlash from people with opposing views.
In each of these examples, "open a Pandora's Box" is used to describe a situation where something is started that has the potential to cause a lot of problems that were not expected or anticipated.
There are a few English idioms that are similar to "open a Pandora's Box" and convey a similar meaning. Here are a few examples:
1. "Let sleeping dogs lie" - This means to avoid stirring up trouble or controversy by leaving things as they are.
2. "The genie is out of the bottle" - This means that something has been done that cannot be undone, and that there will be consequences that cannot be avoided.
3. "Open a can of worms" - This means to create a complicated and unpleasant situation that is difficult to resolve.
All of these idioms suggest that sometimes it's best to leave things as they are, because opening up a difficult or complicated situation can lead to unforeseen and unwanted consequences.
Vocabulary
Inadvertently – accidentally, without intention
Controversial- giving rise to public disagreement
Backlash - a strong and adverse reaction by a large number of people, especially to a social or political development.
Thank you for listening.
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Episode 21: Cruise ship joke and chatGPT
Hi everyone, how are you? Have you heard of chatGPT? It is an amazing AI language model. I use it everyday. It is a great source for information and advice. Today I used chatGPT to help me with this week’s podcast.
Last week, I read an article on a Japanese news website about the government relaxing the mask policy and that people are not sure what they are supposed to do - to wear a mask or not. Japanese society has strong “peer pressure” that forces people to conform to the opinions of the majority. In this article, a joke about a cruise ship was briefly mentioned. I thought the joke was funny, so I posted the joke on my Facebook page. However, nobody liked or commented on it. I was thinking maybe it was considered a little racist. I removed the post and this morning I asked chatGPT to tell me the joke in details, and I asked it if the joke was racist or not.
Here is the cruise ship joke. I hope everyone will take it lightly and not be offended.
An international cruise ship was sailing across the ocean. Suddenly, it struck an iceberg and began to sink. The captain put the women and children in lifeboats. But there were not enough boats, so he had to convince the men to jump into the water.
One by one, the captain called up each national group, said something to them, then they jumped. Later, a reporter asked him, “How did you persuade each national group to jump?” “It was easy,” explained the captain.
“I told the Americans that, if they jumped, they would be heroes. For the British, I appealed to their sense of fair play and told them a true gentleman would jump. For the French, I appealed to their sense of reason and told them it was the most rational thing to do.
Germans are trained to obey commands, so I ordered them to jump. The Italians, in contrast, don’t like to obey rules. So, instead, I used reverse psychology and told them it was forbidden to jump. Finally, for the Japanese, I appealed to their sense of conformity. Everyone else has jumped, I told them, so they jumped, too.”
I asked chatGPT if this joke is racist or not, and it replied as follows:
It is considered by many people to be offensive and inappropriate because it relies on negative stereotypes about different nationalities.
The joke uses nationalities as a punchline, implying that Americans are heroic, Germans are obedient, and Japanese are self-sacrificing.
I myself find it acceptable, nothing inappropriate. What do you think?
Thank you for listening.
Vocabulary
1. Conform – to obey
2. Reverse psychology - strategy of suggesting a behavior that is opposite to what you actually desire, in order to encourage the other person to do what you actually want. In this example, the captain told the Italians not to jump, to make them jump.
3. Stereotype - a widely held but fixed and oversimplified image or idea of a particular type of person or thing.
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Episode 20: Do Canadians say sorry a lot?
Script:
Hello, everyone, and welcome back!
I'm sorry I missed last Friday's episode. I was really busy last week.
Today's topic is "Do Canadians say sorry a lot?" I chose this topic because I read an article that said Canadians apologize a lot, even if we're not at fault. The article is called "Sorry — Can We Talk About Why Canadians Apologize So Much?" by Emily Keeler.
Emily's favorite example of a Canadian apology is when you're out for brunch or at a restaurant and you need some ketchup. Instead of saying "Excuse me, can I have some ketchup please?", Canadians say to the waiter, "Oh sorry, hi, could I have some ketchup, please? Oh thanks, sorry."
She also mentioned that we say sorry even when the other person is at fault. For example, if we're biking and a car knocks us down, we apologize to the driver who almost killed us.
Really? Is that the case? I'm not sure. Most Canadians are polite, but not to this extent. Besides, it depends on the culture. Canadians come from all over the world.
Emily's theories as to why Canadians apologize so frequently are interesting. Theory number one is inherited awkwardness. We're a byproduct of British settlement. British identity — for better or worse — is fixed. What it means to be Canadian, on the other hand, is not. Hmm, I can't relate to this theory.
Her second theory is that we want to be different from Americans, who don't apologize as much. In the U.S., issuing an apology is often framed as an admission of inadequacy, weakness, or guilt.
After reading this article, I did my own research and found that we have an Apology Act in Ontario, Canada, that was established in 2009. The Apology Act is a law in the province of Ontario that states that apologies made by a person do not necessarily constitute an admission of guilt. It is a measure to give lawyers a fair chance to defend clients who were never guilty but apologized to the aggrieved.
Vocabulary:
Relate – connect to Aggrieved – a person who feels wronged, resentful, or unfairly treated because of a particular event. In legal contexts, it means the person who has suffered harm or injury. -
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Episode 19: How to benefit from news discussion lessons
Hello, everyone, welcome back.
My News Discussion lesson is popular among high-intermediate to advanced students. It is a good way to practice expressing your opinion in English. It is my favorite type of lesson because I have an opportunity to read news articles that I wouldn't normally read.
So, how do you maximize the benefits from the news discussion lesson? Here are some tips.
If you are selecting the articles yourself, please bear in mind the following points:
First of all, pick a topic that interests you. Do not randomly select an article just because it pops up on your news alert app. Make sure you understand the content. If there is anything that you don't understand about the article, you can ask me before the lesson.
I usually send discussion questions before the lesson. If you select the articles, I always ask why you chose them. It is for your own benefit to think about why you selected them. For example, you may be interested in the topic or concerned about the issue, and you should elaborate on this.
For example, if you pick an article about the benefits of yoga, a good answer to "why did you select this article?" would be:
"I am interested in fitness and health, and I recently started doing yoga. I have seen an improvement in my physical and mental health, so today I chose this article."
A not-so-good answer would be: "Ah, well, it is the most recent article on this website."
A bad answer would be, "I don't know.."Another question I like to ask is "What do you think of this situation?" There is no right or wrong answer, and you don't need to be shy about what you think. The objective of this lesson is to practice speaking English, and I encourage you to speak as much as you can. Whatever you say is between you and me, so express your opinion freely.
When you select the article, ask yourself what you think of the topic or situation. If you don't have an opinion, then it is probably not the right article for you. Find an article that you can talk a lot about.
Vocabulary
Objective – goal or purpose
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Episode 19: How to benefit from news discussion lessons
Hello, everyone, welcome back.
My News Discussion lesson is popular among high-intermediate to advanced students. It is a good way to practice expressing your opinion in English. It is my favorite type of lesson because I have an opportunity to read news articles that I wouldn't normally read.
So, how do you maximize the benefits from the news discussion lesson? Here are some tips.
If you are selecting the articles yourself, please bear in mind the following points:
First of all, pick a topic that interests you. Do not randomly select an article just because it pops up on your news alert app. Make sure you understand the content. If there is anything that you don't understand about the article, you can ask me before the lesson.
I usually send discussion questions before the lesson. If you select the articles, I always ask why you chose them. It is for your own benefit to think about why you selected them. For example, you may be interested in the topic or concerned about the issue, and you should elaborate on this.
For example, if you pick an article about the benefits of yoga, a good answer to "why did you select this article?" would be:
"I am interested in fitness and health, and I recently started doing yoga. I have seen an improvement in my physical and mental health, so today I chose this article."
A not-so-good answer would be: "Ah, well, it is the most recent article on this website."
A bad answer would be, "I don't know.."Another question I like to ask is "What do you think of this situation?" There is no right or wrong answer, and you don't need to be shy about what you think. The objective of this lesson is to practice speaking English, and I encourage you to speak as much as you can. Whatever you say is between you and me, so express your opinion freely.
When you select the article, ask yourself what you think of the topic or situation. If you don't have an opinion, then it is probably not the right article for you. Find an article that you can talk a lot about.
Vocabulary
Objective – goal or purpose
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Episode 18: Tipping culture in Canada
Hello, everyone. Welcome back. Today I am going to talk about the tipping culture in Canada.
I just finished reading an article about tipping in the United States. It says many U.S. consumers think it is getting out of control. This article inspired me to write about tipping here in Canada. I live in Toronto. I am not sure if the tipping culture is the same in other provinces but I would assume so.
Before digital payment with tipping options became popular, people left small change in the little tray on the table. The waiter could see how much tips you paid. Unlike in some countries, we pay at our table in a restaurant, not at the front of the restaurant where the cash register is. When we finish our meal, we ask the waiter, “can we have the bill please?” The waiter will bring the portable credit card machine to the table. The options for tips are prompted - 15%, 20% , other amount or “skip”. In some places, “skip” is not an option. I always press other amount and type in 10% to 12% depending on my satisfaction level. Actually, 10-12% is considered pretty low. 15-20% is the norm here. But with the rising prices, I really don’t want to spend money on tips.
These days, services that didn’t have a gratuity option before, now have one.
I took my dog to the groomer last Saturday, the price was $110 for the service. With 13% tax and 10% tip, I paid over $130. The groomer did an excellent job, but isn’t it her job to do an excellent job?
Same with other businesses. A server’s job in a restaurant is to serve customers. Why do we need to pay extra for the person to do a good job?
I guess one advantage for us customers is that, if there is no tipping system, then the wages of servers will be higher, which will be reflected on the prices of our meals.
The other problem is that with personal services like haircut, how much tip should you pay? If the haircut costs $50, isn’t paying $5, which is 10%, or $7 (which is less than 15%) a bit embarrassing? Paying $10 for a $50 haircut is just too much.
Tipping, whether done digitally or not, causes consumers a lot of stress.
The tipping culture is just outrageous!
Vocabulary
Prompt – to bring about an action
Norm – something that is usual and standard.
Gratuity - tip
Outrageous – shockingly bad
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Script:
Episode 18: Tipping culture in Canada
Hello, everyone. Welcome back. Today I am going to talk about the tipping culture in Canada.
I just finished reading an article about tipping in the United States. It says many U.S. consumers think it is getting out of control. This article inspired me to write about tipping here in Canada. I live in Toronto. I am not sure if the tipping culture is the same in other provinces but I would assume so.
Before digital payment with tipping options became popular, people left small change in the little tray on the table. The waiter could see how much tips you paid. Unlike in some countries, we pay at our table in a restaurant, not at the front of the restaurant where the cash register is. When we finish our meal, we ask the waiter, “can we have the bill please?” The waiter will bring the portable credit card machine to the table. The options for tips are prompted - 15%, 20% , other amount or “skip”. In some places, “skip” is not an option. I always press other amount and type in 10% to 12% depending on my satisfaction level. Actually, 10-12% is considered pretty low. 15-20% is the norm here. But with the rising prices, I really don’t want to spend money on tips.
These days, services that didn’t have a gratuity option before, now have one.
I took my dog to the groomer last Saturday, the price was $110 for the service. With 13% tax and 10% tip, I paid over $130. The groomer did an excellent job, but isn’t it her job to do an excellent job?
Same with other businesses. A server’s job in a restaurant is to serve customers. Why do we need to pay extra for the person to do a good job?
I guess one advantage for us customers is that, if there is no tipping system, then the wages of servers will be higher, which will be reflected on the prices of our meals.
The other problem is that with personal services like haircut, how much tip should you pay? If the haircut costs $50, isn’t paying $5, which is 10%, or $7 (which is less than 15%) a bit embarrassing? Paying $10 for a $50 haircut is just too much.
Tipping, whether done digitally or not, causes consumers a lot of stress.
The tipping culture is just outrageous!
Vocabulary
Prompt – to bring about an action
Norm – something that is usual and standard.
Gratuity - tip
Outrageous – shockingly bad
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Script:
Episode 17: Digital Detox
Hello, everyone. Welcome back. Today I am going to talk about digital detox.
What is digital detox? Digital detox is a period of time during which you refrain from using electronic devices such as smartphones or computers in order to reduce stress.
How many hours do you spend staring at your phone, computer, tablet or other electronic devices? Work aside, we use electronic devices to connect with our friends, check their social media page, watch Youtube, Instagram or Tik Tok videos, and reading the latest news. We also have apps for appointment reminders, and apps to track our exercise progress. There is an app for almost everything.
Many people have breaking news alert apps on their phones. There are also lots of people who enjoy watching funny videos on Instagram or Tik Tok and send them to others.
Staring at our devices may be pleasurable in the moment but it can get addictive. Neck and shoulder pain, and eyestrain are some of the side effects. Sometimes, it can even affect the quality of our sleep. Studies show two or more hours of screen time in the evening can seriously disrupt the melatonin surge needed to fall sleep.
Totally giving up on screen time is not practical, so what can we do?
1. Turn off push notifications - Getting constant updates on the news is distractive, especially when you are at work. When you receive the alert, it is hard not to read the news. It affects your productivity at work.
2. Designate tech-free time - it can be your meal times. Use this opportunity to stay away from the screen and focus on eating, or if you are eating with others, simply enjoy the conversation. Bedtime is also a good tech-free time.
3. Consider turning off all electronic devices at least half an hour before sleep, at a minimum. Try reading a book, taking a bath or doing some other type of relaxing activity.
4. Rediscover paper - try reading a paper book instead of e-book.
5. Limit yourself to one screen at a time. When we are trying to focus on work, and scrolling our phone at the same time, our brains go haywire. Multitasking is stressful and we get distracted.
6. Limit the number of apps you download. The more apps you have, the more time you spend on your phone or other devices.
How many hours do you spend on your phone a day?
Thank you for listening.
Vocabulary
Refrain – keep from doing
Addictive – a strong desire and need to do something
Melatonin – a hormone that makes us sleep
Productivity – the quality of being effective
Designate - choose, pick
Haywire – being out of order
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Script:
Episode 17: Digital Detox
Hello, everyone. Welcome back. Today I am going to talk about digital detox.
What is digital detox? Digital detox is a period of time during which you refrain from using electronic devices such as smartphones or computers in order to reduce stress.
How many hours do you spend staring at your phone, computer, tablet or other electronic devices? Work aside, we use electronic devices to connect with our friends, check their social media page, watch Youtube, Instagram or Tik Tok videos, and reading the latest news. We also have apps for appointment reminders, and apps to track our exercise progress. There is an app for almost everything.
Many people have breaking news alert apps on their phones. There are also lots of people who enjoy watching funny videos on Instagram or Tik Tok and send them to others.
Staring at our devices may be pleasurable in the moment but it can get addictive. Neck and shoulder pain, and eyestrain are some of the side effects. Sometimes, it can even affect the quality of our sleep. Studies show two or more hours of screen time in the evening can seriously disrupt the melatonin surge needed to fall sleep.
Totally giving up on screen time is not practical, so what can we do?
1. Turn off push notifications - Getting constant updates on the news is distractive, especially when you are at work. When you receive the alert, it is hard not to read the news. It affects your productivity at work.
2. Designate tech-free time - it can be your meal times. Use this opportunity to stay away from the screen and focus on eating, or if you are eating with others, simply enjoy the conversation. Bedtime is also a good tech-free time.
3. Consider turning off all electronic devices at least half an hour before sleep, at a minimum. Try reading a book, taking a bath or doing some other type of relaxing activity.
4. Rediscover paper - try reading a paper book instead of e-book.
5. Limit yourself to one screen at a time. When we are trying to focus on work, and scrolling our phone at the same time, our brains go haywire. Multitasking is stressful and we get distracted.
6. Limit the number of apps you download. The more apps you have, the more time you spend on your phone or other devices.
How many hours do you spend on your phone a day?
Thank you for listening.
Vocabulary
Refrain – keep from doing
Addictive – a strong desire and need to do something
Melatonin – a hormone that makes us sleep
Productivity – the quality of being effective
Designate - choose, pick
Haywire – being out of order
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Script:
Hi everyone, welcome back. It is a very cold day today! Minus 20 degrees!
Today I want to talk about gossips - why most people like to gossip.
When we hear the word "gossip", we tend to think about rumours or a juicy secret.
(Juicy means scandalous or appealing). An example of a juicy secret is if you find out your boss is sleeping with his secretary. But gossips can be defined as talking about somebody who is not present. We all gossip at some point.
Gossips can be positive. You are telling your co-workers that your son has been admitted to a university. That’s positive. Gossips can also be neutral – neither positive nor negative. You are merely sharing information with another person. For example, you are telling your friends that your cousin is getting married next weekend, or that your co-worker got a promotion.
Why do we gossip? Humans are social creatures. Gossip helps us bond with each other, regardless of whether the conversation is positive or negative. Generally speaking, most gossips are negative.
Many people who are insecure about themselves find temporary relief in judging others, and knowing something that others don't can make you feel important. Talking about something bad about another person also makes you feel superior.
Some people are sadistic. They enjoy knowing that somebody is experiencing pain or misfortune, delighted it is not happening to them.
Sometimes, we are simply bored or can't think of anything to talk about. Talking about other people can be exciting, especially if it is a juicy gossip. Also, it makes you the center of attention.
However, it is not good to gossip negatively because people will mistrust you. It is better not to gossip about other people.
If you are caught in the midst of a gossiping conversation, and feel like you are drowning in negativity, you can redirect the conversation by saying something positive about the person. Or you can simply leave the conversation.
Have you gossiped? Have you been the target of a hurtful gossip?
Thank you for listening.
Vocabulary
Juicy - a fruit that has is full of juice.
A juicy secret or gossip means that it is interestingly scandalous.
Sadistic – you feel happy when you see another person suffer.
midst - in the middle of
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Script:
Hi everyone, welcome back. It is a very cold day today! Minus 20 degrees!
Today I want to talk about gossips - why most people like to gossip.
When we hear the word "gossip", we tend to think about rumours or a juicy secret.
(Juicy means scandalous or appealing). An example of a juicy secret is if you find out your boss is sleeping with his secretary. But gossips can be defined as talking about somebody who is not present. We all gossip at some point.
Gossips can be positive. You are telling your co-workers that your son has been admitted to a university. That’s positive. Gossips can also be neutral – neither positive nor negative. You are merely sharing information with another person. For example, you are telling your friends that your cousin is getting married next weekend, or that your co-worker got a promotion.
Why do we gossip? Humans are social creatures. Gossip helps us bond with each other, regardless of whether the conversation is positive or negative. Generally speaking, most gossips are negative.
Many people who are insecure about themselves find temporary relief in judging others, and knowing something that others don't can make you feel important. Talking about something bad about another person also makes you feel superior.
Some people are sadistic. They enjoy knowing that somebody is experiencing pain or misfortune, delighted it is not happening to them.
Sometimes, we are simply bored or can't think of anything to talk about. Talking about other people can be exciting, especially if it is a juicy gossip. Also, it makes you the center of attention.
However, it is not good to gossip negatively because people will mistrust you. It is better not to gossip about other people.
If you are caught in the midst of a gossiping conversation, and feel like you are drowning in negativity, you can redirect the conversation by saying something positive about the person. Or you can simply leave the conversation.
Have you gossiped? Have you been the target of a hurtful gossip?
Thank you for listening.
Vocabulary
Juicy - a fruit that has is full of juice.
A juicy secret or gossip means that it is interestingly scandalous.
Sadistic – you feel happy when you see another person suffer.
midst - in the middle of
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Script:
Hello, everyone. Welcome back. Today's topic is dogs. Life is better with a dog.
Dogs are loyal animals. They love their owners unconditionally and offer devoted companionship and constant entertainment. Spending time with dogs work wonders for our wellbeing. Is it just a feeling, or is it science?
Researches show that people's lives are indeed better with dogs. Dogs make us happier, healthier and help us cope with crisis. They can also improve our social lives.
Here are some of the science-proved benefits.
Dogs offer unconditional love, emotional support and they are good companions. Studies show that dog ownership reduces loneliness.
Dogs are good for our physical health. Dog owners exercise more than non-dog owners. An average dog needs about one hour of walking every day. We become more active after we have dogs.
A recent research suggests that dog owners have lower blood pressure and improved responses to stress, and that the bond between humans and dogs can help us deal better with stress and crisis.
Dogs can improve our social life. When we take our dogs out, we have more opportunities to meet new people in the park. Commenting one’s dog can be a good conversation starter.
For those who are single, it may improve our dating life as well. A dog's presence makes us look more likeable and friendly. Studies also found that on dating sites, people with dogs in their profile pictures have more likes than those who don't.
In a study done by Japanese researchers in 2009, it was found that staring into our dog's eyes raises our level of oxytocin, also called "love hormones", which are natural mood boosters.
Of course, having a dog at home can be a source of stress. They require a lot of attention, exercise, play time and we have more cleaning to do.
But I think the benefits outweigh the disadvantages.
A dog that is about 7 – 9 kg is ideal for our family. However, we ended up buying a larger breed. My dog’s name is Oreo. She is now 9 months old and 25 kg already. It is tough taking her for a walk. But I must say, despite the challenges, our family is happier than before.
Vocabulary
Unconditionally – without any conditions
Devoted – loyal, faithful
Outweigh - exceed
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