Episodes
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In this heartfelt episode, certified Connection Codes coach Bridgett Blood joins Tera and Phyllis for an honest and moving conversation about what it means to connect with yourself first. After facing the collapse of a romantic relationship that had initially introduced her to Connection Codes, Bridgett found herself aloneâand yet, divinely invitedâto use these emotional tools to begin healing from the inside out. She shares how journaling her core emotions, honoring the signals from her body, and staying present through the pain helped her rebuild a sense of wholeness and self-worth. This episode is a powerful reminder that the journey to connection with others must begin with ourselvesâand that even in our darkest seasons, we can learn to stay.
Links and Resources:
Download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://youtube.com/@connectioncodes?si=phORYBsGMOOrj9mA
Find out how to become a Certified Coach:â â â â â https://connectioncodes.co/certified-coachingâ â â â â
Find a coach:â https://connectioncodes.co/coaches#find-a-coach-menu
Chapters:
00:00:00 - Letâs Begin: A Gentle Disclaimer
00:00:39 - Welcome to the Space Where Connection Matters
00:01:32 - Meet Bridget: A Journey of Heart and Healing
00:03:03 - From Breakup to Breakthrough: Bridgetâs Path to Wholeness
00:03:55 - Her Daily Practice: Wheels, Words, and Staying Present
00:07:02 - Emotional Honesty: The Real Work of Being Human
00:11:20 - When Phyllis Needed the Tools Too
00:18:06 - How to Stay True to Yourself in Love
00:24:02 - Listening to Your Body When Itâs Screaming Softly
00:30:48 - Pain Isnât the EndâItâs the Invitation
00:31:16 - One Massage, a Lifetime of Emotions
00:32:20 - The Weight We Carry When We Donât Process
00:34:01 - What Our Bodies Remember from Generations Past
00:35:02 - The Science (and Soul) Behind the Bodyâs Memory
00:38:16 - Bridgetâs Road Back to Self-Care
00:40:07 - Loving Yourself While Loving Someone Else
00:42:27 - The Courage Men Need to Feel
00:45:42 - What Healing Sounds Like for All of Us
00:49:04 - Youâre Allowed to Ask for Help
00:55:19 - A Soft Landing: Final Thoughts & Tools for You
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In this deeply personal and eye-opening episode, Tera shares the emotional weight of discovering a lump and choosing silence over fearâuntil it became too loud to ignore. Phyllis opens up about years of stored anger and the physical damage it caused before she began the journey of emotional release. Alongside Dr. Glenn, they explore how unprocessed emotions donât disappearâthey go deeper, affecting not just relationships, but our health and sense of self. Through honest storytelling and the powerful tool of the Core Emotion Wheel, this conversation invites listeners to stop stuffing, start feeling, and gently uproot whatâs been buried for far too long. Itâs not about fixing everything overnightâitâs about finally starting.
Links and Resources:
Download the Core Emotion Wheel: â â â â https://www.connectioncodes.co/cew-podcastâ â â Find out how to become a Certified Coach:â â â â https://connectioncodes.co/certified-coachingâ â â â Find a coach:â â â â https://connectioncodes.co/all-coachesâ â â âChapters:
00:00:00 - Before We Begin: A Gentle Disclaimer00:00:39 - Welcome to Connection Codes: Letâs Get Real00:01:32 - Teraâs Story: When Fear Took Over00:02:27 - What Happens When We Avoid Emotion00:03:10 - How Emotions Take Root in Us00:05:05 - Phyllis on Anger: The Emotion She Never Spoke00:07:04 - Why Feeling Is Healing00:08:09 - The Brain-Body Link You Didnât Know About00:17:16 - Learning to Actually Connect With Yourself00:26:52 - The Paint Job Metaphor That Says It All00:27:18 - When Gratitude Becomes a Mask00:28:03 - Getting Honest About Gratitude00:28:49 - Why Downtime Is Not Optional00:30:12 - Success Means Nothing Without This00:31:33 - Using the Core Emotion Wheel to Process Life00:33:19 - Real-Life Ways to Apply the Wheel00:39:37 - How One Tool Is Changing the World00:40:19 - Making Emotional Check-Ins Part of Everyday Life00:45:13 - Your Invitation to Try the Core Emotion Wheel -
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Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill sit down with certified Connection Codes coaches Tanya and James, a couple whose journey into emotional healing began in an unexpected placeâdeep in a remote part of British Columbia. What started as a midnight podcast listen became a life-altering pursuit of authentic connection. Tanya and James open up about their transformation from emotional shutdown and chronic pain to a marriage bursting with joy, purpose, and practical tools. From ordering the book late at night to leading small groups in their home, launching initiatives in their church, and becoming certified coaches, they share how simpleâyet not easyâthe journey of emotional fluency has been. Their story is an invitation to bring the tools of Connection Codes into your home, your marriage, your communityâand to experience the life-changing impact for yourself.
Links and Resources:
Download the Core Emotion Wheel: â â â â https://www.connectioncodes.co/cew-podcastâ â â Find out how to become a Certified Coach:â â â â https://connectioncodes.co/certified-coachingâ â â â Find a coach:â â â â https://connectioncodes.co/all-coachesâ â â âChapters:
00:00:00 - Kicking Off the Journey: Meet Tanya & James00:01:11 - A New Chapter Begins: Who Are Tanya and James?00:02:10 - The Moment That Changed Everything: Discovering Connection Codes00:04:34 - Turning Insight Into Action: Bringing Connection Codes to the Community00:06:52 - Real Growth, Real Struggles: Their Personal Transformation Unfolds00:08:48 - A Ripple Effect: Teaching, Leading, and Inspiring Through Change00:09:33 - From Pain to Power: How They Faced Trauma and Chronic Struggles00:11:02 - Unlocking Emotional Power: The Gift of Processing Feelings00:16:36 - Redefining the Classroom: What Happens When You Connect First00:21:25 - From Hurt to Healing: Connection as the Bridge00:23:22 - Ready to Grow? Join Our Summer Coaching Cohort00:24:21 - Why Emotional Processing Is a Superpower (Yes, Again!)00:25:39 - Cracking the Teen Code: Helping Adolescents Be Understood00:26:58 - Glenâs Eye-Opening Tale: When Emotions Go Ignored00:29:14 - Transforming Communication: Using the Core Emotion Wheel00:35:59 - Chase the Dream: Why Your Passions Matter More Than You Think00:40:04 - The Transformation Is Real: What Connection Codes Changed00:43:09 - Your Next Step: Final Thoughts and an Invitation to Act -
Have you ever wondered if it's okay to raise your voice or show big emotion when you're deeply upsetâwithout damaging your relationships? In this powerful conversation, Tera, Dr. Glenn, and Phyllis dive deep into what it really means to express emotions like anger, fear, or sadness in a way that fosters connection instead of creating conflict. From breaking down the difference between acting through emotions and naming them out loud, to confronting the fear of ânot being sweet enough,â the hosts unpack the beauty of emotional clarity and the science-backed power of saying emotion words out loud. This episode offers both raw vulnerability and practical tools to help you show up as your full, intense selfâwithout shutting down or blowing up.
Links and Resources:
Download the Core Emotion Wheel: â â â https://www.connectioncodes.co/cew-podcastâ â
Find out how to become a Certified Coach: â â â https://connectioncodes.co/certified-coachingâ â â
Find a coach: â â â https://connectioncodes.co/all-coachesâ â â
Chapters:
00:00:00 - Kicking It Off: Big Emotions and How to Handle Them
00:01:01 - What It Really Means to Express Emotion
00:02:38 - Spoiler: Weâre Not Here to Be âSweetâ
00:04:13 - Why Saying âI Feel Angryâ Can Change Everything
00:06:12 - Letting Yourself Be LoudâWithout Hurting Others
00:08:45 - Anger Isnât the Villain: Itâs a Message
00:10:47 - Teaching Respect Through Raw Honesty
00:14:00 - When We Name It, We Process ItâTogether
00:18:03 - From Suppressing to Sharing: A Personal Emotional Shift
00:20:01 - Breaking the Fear Around Feeling Angry
00:23:37 - Emotion Words = Human Connection Magic
00:28:37 - Why the Core Emotion Wheel Is a Game-Changer
00:34:23 - Final Words: Youâre Allowed to Feel Fully and Freely
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Tera sits down with Vanessa Marin, licensed sex therapist and CEO of Vanessa Marin Sex Therapy, to explore how our early messages around sex shape our adult relationshipsâand how we can reclaim joy, freedom, and connection in the bedroom. Vanessa shares her personal journey of unlearning shame, learning how to speak up for her needs, and rewriting her sexual story. From navigating body confidence to overcoming a sex-negative upbringing, this conversation is a powerful reminder that healing is possibleâand your pleasure matters. Whether you're struggling with desire, communication, or emotional intimacy, Vanessaâs insights will leave you encouraged, empowered, and equipped.
Links and Resources:
Download the Core Emotion Wheel: â â https://connectioncodes.co/get-the-cewâ â Find out how to become a Certified Coach: â â https://connectioncodes.co/certified-coachingâ â Find a coach: â â https://connectioncodes.co/all-coachesâ â Vanessa Marin on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vanessaandxander/?hl=enWebsite: https://vmtherapy.com/Chapters:
00:00:00 â A Warm Welcome + A Quick Note on Therapy00:00:50 â Meet Vanessa Marin: Sex Therapist, Real Talker, Freedom Fighter00:01:39 â Growing Up Silent: How Shame Shaped Our Sexual Narratives00:04:32 â From Shame to Liberation: Vanessaâs Personal Turning Point00:06:11 â The Call to Sex Therapy: Where Curiosity Meets Calling00:11:01 â Kids, Chaos & Connection: Keeping Intimacy Alive in Parenthood00:17:21 â Desire Decoded: What Your Libido Might Be Telling You00:23:02 â Letâs Talk Initiation: Who Starts, Why It Matters00:29:42 â Spicing It Up: Creating a More Playful Sexual Menu00:30:09 â What Actually Works for You? Redefining Sexual Connection00:31:13 â Vanessaâs Go-To Tools & Practices for Better Sex00:32:58 â Sex Positions: Myths, Pressure & What to Let Go Of00:33:26 â Fresh Energy: How to Stay Curious in Long-Term Love00:36:16 â Permission to Laugh: Why Playfulness Belongs in the Bedroom00:42:38 â Too Busy for Sex? Why Prioritizing It Changes Everything00:46:55 â Itâs More Than Just the Act: The Deeper Value of Sex00:47:52 â Orgasm Isnât the Goal: Navigating Challenges Without Shame00:50:38 â Where Emotional Safety Meets Sexual Connection -
Tera and Wes Wages get vulnerable about what truly makes â and breaks â connection over time. In this heartfelt and revealing conversation, they explore the hidden challenges of long-term love, from battling insecurity and body image fears to maintaining consistency through the daily chaos of life. They also candidly share insights on emotional validation, how minor daily efforts like scheduled texts can transform a relationship, and why talking openly about sex â even without pressure â can reignite intimacy. With real-life stories, expert emotional tools, and a viral 8-million-view surprise moment, this episode is an honest look into the beautiful, messy, and rewarding journey of authentic connection.
Links and Resources:
Download the Core Emotion Wheel: â https://connectioncodes.co/get-the-cewâ Find out how to become a Certified Coach: â https://connectioncodes.co/certified-coachingâ Find a coach: â https://connectioncodes.co/all-coachesâChapters:
00:00:00 - 17 Years In: What Marriage Really Looks Like Behind the Scenes00:01:01 - How Wes Became Instagramâs Favorite Husband (And the Viral Moment)00:03:03 - Why Feeling Truly Seen Changes Everything in Relationships00:03:59 - The Small Acts of Validation That Keep Love Alive00:10:04 - Facing Insecurities Head-On: Real Talk About Marriage Fears00:11:50 - Building Unshakable Trust by Processing Core Emotions00:20:38 - Why Consistency, Not Grand Gestures, Sustains Long-Term Love00:21:20 - Juggling Dreams, Kids, and Marriage: Finding the Balance00:24:07 - The Daily Connection Habit That Makes or Breaks Relationships00:27:45 - How Scheduling Texts Can Actually Save Your Relationship00:28:54 - Power Tools for Deeper, Faster Emotional Connection00:30:03 - How Connection Codes Revolutionized Our Marriage00:35:05 - Getting Real About Sex, Pressure, and Intimacy After 17 Years00:40:45 - Final Takeaways: Hope, Growth, and Staying Connected Through It All -
Do you ever lay in bed exhausted, but your mind wonât turn off? This episode breaks down why itâs not your to-do list thatâs draining youâitâs unprocessed emotion. Hosts Tera, Phyllis, and Dr. Glenn explore the physiological and psychological toll of unacknowledged fear, anxiety, and emotional overload in todayâs high-stress world. From Sunday scaries and doom-scrolling to navigating news-induced stress and personal loss, they reveal how naming your feelings and using the Core Emotion Wheel can bring your nervous system back into balance. With neuroscience, vulnerability, and practical insight, this conversation offers a roadmap to emotional regulation, deeper connection, and truly restorative rest.
Links and Resources:
Download the Core Emotion Wheel: â https://connectioncodes.co/get-the-cewâ Find out how to become a Certified Coach: https://connectioncodes.co/certified-coachingâ Find a coach: â https://connectioncodes.co/all-coachesChapters:
00:00:00 â A Sleepless Mind & The Chaos Within00:01:04 â Welcome to the Place Where Emotions Finally Make Sense00:01:44 â Fear Isnât the ProblemâItâs the Key00:03:02 â What Science Says About What You're Feeling00:04:28 â Can Fear Really Wreck Your Sleep? YesâHereâs How00:07:21 â Cortisol: The Tiny Hormone Running Your Life00:12:26 â Are You Being Emotionally Hijacked by Your Phone?00:16:38 â What Happens When You Choose Peace Over Noise00:21:31 â Human Connection: Your Brainâs Favorite Medicine00:31:51 â When Caring Becomes Crushing: Walking the Advocacy Tightrope00:38:55 â Speak the Fear, Set Yourself Free00:39:25 â Safe People: Your Emotional Safety Net00:39:56 â Is That Fear Even Real? Letâs Talk About It00:40:57 â This Simple Tool Could Change the Way You Communicate Forever00:42:50 â Real Fear, Real Stories, Real Healing00:44:19 â The 8 Words That Can Set You Emotionally Free00:50:38 â Donât Dismiss Their FeelingsâHereâs Why It Matters00:52:56 â The Wheel Isnât Just a ToolâItâs a Game-Changer01:00:37 â Youâre Not AloneâAnd You Donât Have to Stay Stuck -
In this weekâs episode, Tera, Dr. Glenn, and Phyllis dive deep into the power of hurtâspecifically, how we respond when our partner is hurt by something weâve done. If youâve ever deflected, avoided a tough conversation, or struggled with shame and guilt in your relationship, this episode is for you. Learn practical tools to process hurt, communicate with compassion, and move forward with authentic connection.
Download the Core Emotion Wheel:
https://connectioncodes.co/get-the-cew
Find out how to become a Certified Coach:
https://connectioncodes.co/certified-coaching
Find a coach:
https://connectioncodes.co/all-coaches
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What if the story youâve been telling yourself⊠isnât even yours? In this deeply validating and insight-rich episode of the Connection Codes podcast, Tera Wages joins Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill to explore how childhood messages, cultural labels, and relationship dynamics shapeâand often limitâour identity. Through personal stories, including leaving church, navigating marriage intimacy, and feeling misunderstood by family, the hosts unpack what it means to "wear a hat" that no longer fits.
Listeners will be challenged to ask: Who put this label on me? Why am I still wearing it? With raw emotional depth and practical wisdom, the episode empowers you to identify the inner âjudge,â rewire internal narratives, and intentionally reclaim who you want to become.
Links and Resources:
Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min?month=2025-03 â â â Connection Codes: â https://connectioncodes.co/â â â â â(If links are not working, please copy and paste connectioncodes.co to your search bar and look through our site menu!)â â
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Chapters:
00:00:00 â Identity Isnât Just a ConceptâItâs Personal00:02:26 â When You Realize Youâve Been Wearing the Wrong Hat00:05:53 â Do I Even Matter⊠to Me?00:09:23 â The Labels We Live By (And How to Let Them Go)00:13:26 â How External Voices Shape Internal Battles00:25:56 â Old Messages, New Awareness: What Are You Still Carrying?00:27:19 â Step Into the Judgeâs ChamberâYou Might Be Surprised Whoâs Inside00:28:14 â The Dishwasher Story: It Was Never About the Dishes00:29:28 â Tearing Off the Labels That Keep Us Small00:32:46 â Speak Life: The Words That Shape Who You Become00:42:00 â Feel It to Heal It: A Real Look at the Core Emotion Wheel -
Tera, Dr. Glenn, and Phyllis explore one of the most foundational elements of human connection: identity. What does it mean to give identityâor to take it away? Through tender personal stories and real-life encounters, they unpack how kindness, often seen as a simple virtue, carries the power to either affirm or strip away someoneâs sense of significance. Phyllis introduces the concept of the "identity meter"âa powerful internal gauge that shifts based on whether we're seen, valued, and understood. From social media judgments to a heartfelt moment with a grieving artist, the episode beautifully illustrates how much we long to matterâand how our everyday interactions either feed or deplete that longing. If youâve ever asked yourself, âDo I matter to them?â, this conversation will resonate deeply.
Links and Resources:
Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: â â â â â â â â â â â â â https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min?month=2025-03 â â Connection Codes: https://connectioncodes.co/â â(If links are not working, please copy and paste connectioncodes.co to your search bar and look through our site menu!)â â
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Chapters:
00:00:00 - What If Identity Could Heal the World?00:01:22 - Is Kindness Actually the Key?00:02:21 - Social Media: Boosting or Breaking Your Identity Meter?00:03:24 - She Left Him⊠and He Finally Knows Why00:04:37 - The Hidden Definition of Identity in Love00:07:10 - Tiny Acts, Massive Emotional Impact00:08:48 - The Domino Effect of a Single Kind Word00:16:36 - When Faith and Identity Collide00:27:25 - One Greeting. One Shift. One Human Seen.00:28:15 - The Power of Being NoticedâReally Noticed00:29:34 - âDo You Even Know Me Anymore?â00:30:31 - Rebuilding Intimacy, One Small Gesture at a Time00:31:41 - What Happens When We Truly See Someone00:33:05 - Unspoken Needs That Quietly Destroy Connection00:34:58 - From Global Conflict to Family Feuds: Itâs All Identity00:36:30 - When Human Connection Becomes a Superpower00:43:48 - The Cost of Feeling Invisible00:43:57 - One Tool to Help You Understand Whatâs Firing Inside00:50:00 - Youâre Not BrokenâYou Just Need to Be Seen00:53:25 - Your Challenge: Give Identity Today -
Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill unpack a recent âmissâ in their relationshipâone that reflects a broader season of emotional exhaustion, grief, and life transition. From losing Glennâs mother to living a nomadic life out of a suitcase, the Hills open up about the cumulative weariness theyâve been carrying. Phyllis courageously names the fear of âforever missing each otherâ and the exhaustion that sometimes keeps her from even wanting to analyze the disconnection. This episode is not about offering quick fixesâitâs a raw, heartfelt look at what it means to live through heavy seasons and still choose connection. Whether youâre in burnout, walking through grief, or feeling stuck in cycles of disconnection, this episode will remind you: youâre not alone, and thereâs hope in the wide lens.
Links and Resources:
Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: â â â â â â â â â â https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min?month=2025-03 â To download the Core Emotion Wheel: â â â â â â https://www.connectioncodes.co/wheelâ â â â â To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: â â â â â â https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-onlineâ Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: â â â â â â https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-helpâ(If links are not working, please copy and paste connectioncodes.co to your search bar and look through our site menu!)â â
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Chapters:
00:00:00 â Weâre Not Okay (and Thatâs Okay)00:01:20 â When Life Just Keeps Coming at You00:04:16 â Tiny Misses, Big Emotional Impact00:06:39 â I Felt It, But I Didnât Know Why00:13:17 â The Moment We Completely Missed Each Other00:26:16 â From Laughing⊠to âWhat Just Happened?â00:26:43 â Unpacking the Emotional Whiplash00:27:18 â Are You Seeing Me As the Enemy?00:28:21 â You Thought I Was Mad⊠I Wasnât00:30:21 â Slowing Down Before the Disconnect00:33:06 â Reconnection Starts with Brave Vulnerability00:36:08 â How the Emotion Wheel Saved the Moment00:43:48 - Encouragement for Listeners -
So many of us live as stunt doubles, showing up in spacesâchurch, work, even our own homesâfeeling like we have to perform instead of just be. In this episode, Dr. Glenn and Phyllis unpack the weight of that, the exhaustion it brings, and how Connection Codes gives us the tools to step out of the act and into real, life-giving connection. They share stories from their recent event in Austin, the impact of this work around the world, and the freedom that comes when we stop masking and start living fully as ourselves.
Links and Resources:
Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: â â â â â â â https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min?month=2025-03 To download the Core Emotion Wheel: â â â https://www.connectioncodes.co/wheelâ â â â To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: â â â â â https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-onlineBook a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: â â â https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help(If links are not working, please copy and paste connectioncodes.co to your search bar and look through our site menu!)â â
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Chapters:
00:00:00 - Welcome! Are You Living a Stunt Double Life?00:01:29 - Behind the Scenes: What We Learned in Austin00:03:04 - Real Stories, Real Change: Connection Codes in Action00:07:37 - Why Hiding Hurts & How to Show Up Fully00:12:34 - Stunt Doubling at Work, Church & HomeâAre You Doing It?00:25:01 - Feeling Drained? The Link Between Emotions & Productivity00:28:30 - Burnout is RealâHereâs How to Spot It & Stop It00:30:22 - Loneliness Creeping In? How to Find Genuine Support00:32:10 - Whatâs in Your Emotional Backpack? Time to Unpack It!00:33:38 - Want Deeper Connection? Hereâs How to Create Safe Spaces00:40:02 - The Core Emotion Wheel: Your Secret to Stronger Relationships00:48:03 - Final Thoughts: Ditch the Act & Start Living Fully -
Marriage is full of seasonsâsome where youâre both thriving, some where youâre both struggling, and the hardest ones, where one of you is drowning while the other is doing just fine. In this episode, Tera, Echo, and Phyllis get real about what it looks like to stay connected when your partner is in a tough place, how codependency sneaks in without us realizing it, and why we were never meant to carry everything for each other. They unpack the guilt, the resentment, and the loneliness that can show up in these seasons, and share the tools that helped them stop fixing, start seeing, and actually enjoy their marriage again.
Links and Resources:
Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: â â â â â â https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30minâ â â â â â To download the Core Emotion Wheel: â â https://connectioncodes.co/wheelâ â â To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: â â â â https://connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-onlineâ â â â Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: â â https://connectioncodes.co/marriage-helpâ â â(If links are not working, please copy and paste connectioncodes.co to your search bar and look through our site menu!)â â
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Connect with Echo Hill Vetter:
Echo Hill Vetterâs Substack | Letters from Nashville: â â â https://substack.com/@echohillvetterâ â â Echo on Instagram: â â â https://www.instagram.com/echohillvetterâ â â Schedule 1:1 Coaching or Group Coaching with Echo: â â â https://calendly.com/echohillvetterâ â â Echoâs LinkTree: â â â https://linktr.ee/echohillvetterChapters:
00:00:00 â The Part of Marriage No One Prepares You For00:01:06 â Saying the Wrong Name, Every Time00:02:04 â When Life Drains You and Your Spouse Doesnât Get It00:03:40 â The Worst Thing You Can Do When Your Partner is Struggling00:07:03 â How We Accidentally Made Marriage Impossible00:11:50 â Your Spouse is Not Your Village00:24:18 â Codependency Feels Like LoveâUntil Itâs Not00:28:27 â The Silent Ways We Sabotage Ourselves00:29:06 â The Cost of Ignoring Your Own Body00:31:29 â The Difference Between Asking and Expecting00:33:50 â Speak Now or Resent Later00:35:42 â The Secret to Processing Without Over-Talking00:38:34 â Breaking the Patterns That Keep You Stuck00:49:15 â You Werenât Meant to Do This Alone00:52:12 â Itâs Time to Stop Pretending Everythingâs Fine -
In this episode, Tera Wages sits down with Phyllis Hill and Echo Hill Vedder to talk about a game-changing concept: desire vs. capacityâthe difference between what we want to do and what we actually have the bandwidth for. They discuss how ignoring our capacity leads to burnout, why so many of us push through exhaustion, and how tuning into our bodies can be the key to reclaiming energy and joy. Echo shares how she learned to listen to her body instead of the judge in her head, and Phyllis gets real about hitting empty after years of over-functioning. They explore many ways to grow capacity, shift limiting beliefs, and make space for what truly mattersâwithout guilt or shame. Plus, they break down how emotional processing through Connection Codes helps expand capacity and disrupts the pain cycle not just for ourselves, but for our entire community. If youâre feeling exhausted, stuck, or constantly running on fumes, this episode is a must-listen!
Links and Resources:
Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: â â â â â https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30minâ â â â â To download the Core Emotion Wheel: â https://connectioncodes.co/wheelâ â To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: â â â https://connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-onlineâ â â Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: â https://connectioncodes.co/marriage-helpâ â(If links are not working, please copy and paste connectioncodes.co to your search bar and look through our site menu!)â â
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Connect with Echo Hill Vetter:
Echo Hill Vetterâs Substack | Letters from Nashville: â â https://substack.com/@echohillvetterâ â Echo on Instagram: â â https://www.instagram.com/echohillvetterâ â Schedule 1:1 Coaching or Group Coaching with Echo: â â https://calendly.com/echohillvetterâ â Echoâs LinkTree: â â https://linktr.ee/echohillvetterâChapters
00:00:00 - The Tug-of-War Between Wanting and Doing00:04:10 - A Room Full of Connection Code Coaches00:05:11 - When Your To-Do List Laughs at You00:08:48 - Burnout Doesnât KnockâIt Kicks the Door Down00:11:58 - Your Body is Keeping Score (And Itâs Not Looking Good)00:16:33 - Why Some Days You Can Handle It, and Some Days You Canât00:22:48 - The Science of Saying No (And Actually Meaning It)00:26:57 - The Invisible Cost of Always Saying Yes00:31:37 - The Brain vs. The Body: Who Wins?00:32:34 - When Life Demands More Than You Can Give00:34:38 - SOS: Finding Help Before You Collapse00:36:36 - Systems That Save You From Yourself00:42:56 - Self-Care Isnât a LuxuryâItâs Survival00:48:07 - Why Emotional Processing is the Secret to More Energy00:54:33 - Final Thoughts From Three People Whoâve Been There -
In this episode, Tera sits down with trauma-informed coach Echo Vetter to unpack something most of us were never taughtâhow to process anger in a healthy way. Echo breaks down the difference between core anger and secondary anger, why we misdefine it, and how it actually exists to protect us. She explains how unprocessed anger lives in the body, often showing up as chronic pain, stress, or emotional shutdown, and shares practical ways to reconnect with ourselves so we stop resisting our own energy. Phyllis opens up about her personal journey of storing anger for decades, the toll itâs taken on her health, and the fear that facing it might damage her closest relationships. Echo offers powerful insight on how we can rewire the way we relate to angerâso instead of being afraid of it, we learn to partner with it and let it fuel the change we need.
Links and Resources:
Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: â â â â https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30minâ â â â To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://connectioncodes.co/wheelâ To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: â â https://connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-onlineâ â Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: https://connectioncodes.co/marriage-helpâ(If links are not working, please copy and paste connectioncodes.co to your search bar and look through our site menu!)â â
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Connect with Echo Hill Vetter:
Echo Hill Vetterâs Substack | Letters from Nashville: â https://substack.com/@echohillvetterâ Echo on Instagram: â https://www.instagram.com/echohillvetterâ Schedule 1:1 Coaching or Group Coaching with Echo: â https://calendly.com/echohillvetterâ Echoâs LinkTree: â https://linktr.ee/echohillvetterChapters:
00:00:00 - The Weight of Unprocessed Anger 00:00:37 - Whoâs in the Room? Meet the Voices Behind the Mic 00:01:48 - A Road Trip, A Wedding, and Deep Talks 00:03:27 - Anger Isnât Just One Thing 00:04:26 - Why We Have Anger (And Why We Fear It) 00:05:08 - Making Friends with an Uncomfortable Emotion 00:09:25 - How to Stop Fighting Your Own Energy 00:14:49 - Three Pages a Day: Writing Through Emotion 00:23:17 - Why Men and Women Experience Anger Differently 00:29:51 - The Moment You Realize Youâre Holding More Than You Thought 00:30:21 - Is This Anger Mine to Carry? 00:32:42 - The Survival Strategies We Never Question 00:38:31 - What Happens When You Ignore Your Bodyâs Signals 00:40:26 - How the Judgment Cycle Keeps You Stuck 00:42:12 - The Smallest Shift That Changes Everything 00:50:38 - The Emotional Tool You Need (That No One Taught You) 00:54:04 - Closing Thoughts & What Happens Next -
Tera sits down with Meaghan Hill for an update that so many listeners have been asking for. Nearly a year after her diagnosis, Meg shares what this journey has been likeâthe hard days, the unexpected moments, and the deep gratitude she has for the people who have surrounded her. She talks about what itâs like to sit in the emotions that come with something this heavy, how faith has played a huge role, and why she refused to accept the prognosis she was given. Tera and Meg also talk about connectionâwhat it means to truly show up for each other, how to navigate the ups and downs with the people you love, and the small, everyday moments that mean everything. This conversation is real, emotional, and full of perspective on what really matters in life.
Links and Resources:
Megâs Healing Journey: https://www.megshealingjourney.com To download the Core Emotion Wheel: â https://www.connectioncodes.co/wheelâ To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: â â https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-onlineâ â Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: â â â â â https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-helpâChapters:
00:00:00 â The Update Youâve All Been Waiting For 00:02:14 â âGo Make MemoriesââMegâs World Shifts 00:04:06 â Anesthesia Wears Off, Reality Sets In 00:05:39 â When Survival Means Ignoring the Odds 00:10:03 â The People Who Refused to Let Meg Go Through This Alone 00:14:07 â Defying Expectations, One Scan at a Time 00:23:24 â The Moments That Matter Most (and We Almost Miss) 00:23:42 â What Pain Taught Me About Living 00:25:19 â Fear Knocking, Faith Answering 00:26:24 â Laughing in the Face of the Unthinkable 00:28:22 â Why We Need People More Than We Realize 00:32:26 â Sorting Out Emotions When Life Throws Everything at You 00:38:32 â If Someone You Love Has Cancer, Listen to This 00:42:27 â A Final Word on Hope, Healing, and What Really Matters -
Certified coach Bridgett Blood joins Phyllis Hill for a conversation about sexual joy and sexual lonelinessâwhat they actually mean and why weâre so uncomfortable talking about them. Bridgett explains how these feelings show up whether you're single or married, why weâve been taught to fear our own sexual energy, and how embracing it can lead to deeper connection and self-acceptance. She shares her experiences (including a really funny one about a Twister game), pushes back against old beliefs, and talks about why desire isnât just about sexâitâs about play, delight, and knowing your own worth. If youâve ever felt disconnected from your body or unsure how to talk about what you actually need, this episode is a must-listen!
Links and Resources:
To download the Core Emotion Wheel:â https://www.connectioncodes.co/wheelâ To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: â â https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-onlineâ â Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: â â â â â https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-helpâConnect with Bridgett:
Bridgett Blood:https://bridgettblood.comBridgett on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/bridgettbloodRecover Your Life Podcast on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@BridgettBloodRecover Your Life Podcast on Spotify:https://tinyurl.com/bdebz6ntBook a FREE discovery coaching call with Bridgett:https://tinyurl.com/vhbfb6jxChapters:
00:00:00 â What No One Told You About Sexual Joy and Loneliness00:00:53 â The Connection Codes Podcast Kicks Off00:01:46 â Sexual Joy vs. Sexual Loneliness: Whatâs Really Happening?00:04:05 â Personal Stories That Will Shift Your Perspective00:09:15 â The Hidden Triggers of Sexual Activation00:12:07 â What Your Body Is Telling You (That Youâve Been Ignoring)00:15:43 â Breaking the Shame Cycle Around Sexual Energy00:18:32 â Why Naming Your Desires Changes Everything00:20:19 â A Framework for Processing Sexual Activation00:29:31 â How the Core Emotion Wheel Rewires Your Understanding00:37:13 â Final Thoughts, Resources, and Next Steps -
Tera Wages is joined by Bridgett Blood and Phyllis Hill to explore the concept of Psycholationâa state of psychological isolation where people experience emotions alone, even when surrounded by others. They discuss how past experiences can make us want to keep pain to ourselves and the impact it has on relationships and mental well-being. Bridgett shares how she overcame isolation, while Phyllis and Tera get into the importance of safe connections and finding trusted people to process emotions with. They also provide steps for breaking out of Psycholation, including identifying safe relationships, expressing needs, and seeking supportive communities. Tera, Bridgett, and Phyllis will give you encouragement to recognize emotional patterns, build trust, and reach out for connection instead of carrying burdens alone.
Links and Resources:
To download the Core Emotion Wheel: â https://www.connectioncodes.co/wheelâ To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: â â https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-onlineâ â Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: â â â â â https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-helpâ Bridgett Blood: https://bridgettblood.com Bridgett on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bridgettblood Recover Your Life Podcast on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@BridgettBlood Recover Your Life Podcast on Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/bdebz6nt Book a FREE discovery coaching call with Bridgett: https://tinyurl.com/vhbfb6jxChapters:
00:00:00 - Storing It All Day, Exploding at Night 00:01:04 - The Experts Step In: Meet Bridgett & Phyllis 00:01:49 - A Live Emotional Check-In: What Will Surface? 00:04:30 - Cyclation: The Word You Didnât Know You Needed 00:06:13 - Childhood Blueprints: How We Learn to Isolate 00:07:55 - Secrets We Keep: Why Hiding Feels Safer 00:10:16 - Finding the Exit: Steps to Escape Isolation 00:14:21 - Safe People: Who Are They and Why Do We Need Them? 00:17:20 - The Heavy Load: Are We Expecting Too Much from One Person? 00:23:37 - Whoâs Safe and Whoâs Not? A New Way to See It 00:28:05 - Sharing Without Oversharing: Navigating Emotional Conversations 00:29:30 - The Small but Mighty Power of a Simple Text 00:30:19 - Three Feet of Fear: How We Experience and Respond 00:33:38 - Looking in the Mirror: Are You a Safe Person Too? 00:35:55 - Capacity vs. Desire: The Boundary We All Need 00:42:11 - Dream Solutions: What If the Life You Want Is Within Reach? 00:50:53 - Time to Act: One Step to Break the Cycle -
Elijah Runyan, a Connection Codes-certified coach, wellness mentor, and father of four, joins Tera to dig into the emotional rollercoaster of parenting. In this episode, Elijah opens up about the challenges of raising teenagers and young kids, trying to understand their emotional needs, and confronting his own fears and shame as a parent. He shares how Connection Codes tools have completely changed his approach, moving from reaction to intentional connection, and how heâs helping his kids process trauma and anxiety. This conversation is a look at how real change begins within and offers hope for parents everywhere seeking deeper relationships with their kids.
Links and Resources:
To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/wheel To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: â https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-onlineâ Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: â â â â https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-helpConnect with Elijah:
Schedule a CC Coaching Session with Elijah: https://runyanstronghealth.as.me/schedule/5204ed3a Runyan Strong Health: https://www.runyanstronghealth.com Elijah on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elijahrunyan Elijah on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@runyanstronghealthChapters:
00:00:00 - A Day with Elijah: Diving Deep 00:01:27 - The Buzz Behind Connection Codes Certification 00:03:08 - Parenting Without a Script 00:06:24 - Fear, Shame, and Teenage Drivers 00:10:15 - When School Stops Feeling Safe 00:15:10 - The Trauma We Didnât See Coming 00:19:06 - Co-Regulating: The Secret Sauce 00:20:13 - A New Approach to Safety for Kids 00:21:40 - Breaking Old Parenting Cycles 00:26:15 - Repairing Connections: The Art of the Apology 00:27:10 - How Hungry is Your Kidâs Heart? 00:31:07 - Wheels of Emotion: A Parenting Tool 00:32:04 - Raw Reflections from Parenthood 00:37:03 - Resources, Encouragement, and Hope for Parents -
Phyllis and Dr. Glenn are joined by Elijah Runyan, a seasoned Connection Codes coach and the director of their coaching certification program. Elijah shares how fear of shame, fear of emotions, and avoidance can drive our behaviors in relationships and everyday life. Through real-life client stories and his own experiences, he explains how slicing emotions thinner and processing them authentically can lead to breakthroughs in intimacy, parenting, and self-awareness. The conversation unpacks tools, the role of energy in emotional connection, and why avoiding emotions only strengthens barriers.
Links and Resources:
To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/wheel To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: â https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-onlineâ Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: â â â â https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-helpConnect with Elijah:
Schedule a CC Coaching Session with Elijah: https://runyanstronghealth.as.me/schedule/5204ed3a Runyan Strong Health: https://www.runyanstronghealth.com Elijah on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elijahrunyan Elijah on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@runyanstronghealthChapters:
00:00:00 - Unmasking Emotions: The Start Of It All 00:00:22 - Meet The Minds Behind Connection Codes 00:01:49 - Elijahâs Aha Moment On Fear Of Shame 00:04:00 - When Fear Holds Relationships Hostage 00:07:27 - The Hidden Depths Of Anger And Hurt 00:16:25 - Stories That Change Perspectives 00:24:30 - Processing Emotions: The Turning Point 00:27:26 - Fear, Anxiety, And Emotional Breakthroughs 00:29:41 - Why Emotional Regulation Is Everything 00:33:49 - Secrets To Connection In Every Relationship 00:41:11 - A Glimpse Into The Coaching Universe 00:44:13 - The Final Thought That Says It All - Show more
