• Ever found yourself knee-deep in unfinished tasks, feeling like a browser with far too many tabs open? My latest heart-to-heart explores the amusing irony of my struggle with 'closing the loop,' where I take you through the winding paths of a year's worth of thoughts and the pivotal role of completion in our multifarious lives.

    Now switch gears with me to the profound impact of communication and the fruits of the Spirit on marriage—an intertwining of personal anecdotes and spiritual guidance. Grasp how a simple act like holding hands amidst discord can be a lifeline of understanding, and get a glimpse of what's brewing with an upcoming series on the transformative power of perspective. So, let's raise our coffee cups to the art of reconnection and the anticipation of where we might be led next; this conversation is one you'll want to circle back to time and again.

  • Even though If Gathering celebrated a decade of uplifting women in faith, I have to say it was the tapestry of friendships that shone brightest in my heart. As always the worship and speakers were superb, but it was the fellowship that flourished among old friends and new that I'll remember most.

    I'm super sad that we won't be able to get together in 2025, but rest assured, 2026 we will be back together and I hope all y'all join me!

    Love y'all deep xoxoxoxo

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  • Even as a self-proclaimed extrovert, I confess to moments of hesitation in my ability to converse effectively, and together, we'll unpack the strategies to not only improve our chit-chat but turn it into an art form.

    Ready to disarm social anxiety and prepare like a pro for any interaction? We're breaking down the Christopher technique of inquiry, a method designed to peel back the layers of one's experiences and forge genuine connections that go beyond surface-level exchanges. From the historical significance of the 'gift of gab' to the contemporary need for finding common ground, our conversation is a treasure chest of anecdotes, humor, and the shared pleasure of human connection. Whether you consider yourself a social butterfly or someone looking to spread their conversational wings, this episode offers insights and techniques that promise to revitalize how you engage with the world around you.

  • Have you ever found yourself nodding along in agreement, your lips saying 'yes' when your heart screamed 'no'? Join me as I peel back the layers of my own 'yes' habit, revealing the raw struggle of a chronic people pleaser. Together, we embark on a personal odyssey to understand the why's and how's of setting boundaries and the transformative potential of learning to say 'no'. Our conversation leads us down the path of introspection, examining not only my quest for external validation but the deeper spiritual implications that influence our need to be accepted. We strip away the facade of selflessness, bringing to light the true nature of people pleasing – a pursuit often rooted in avoiding conflict and the discomfort that accompanies being authentic.

    Hear me that I am totally working through this alongside you. And I share with you vulnerably how I have struggled bad with this in the past and how there has to be an end at some point. Especially with kids and a marriage at stake.

    So let's chat about people pleasing! What are your thoughts? Head over to the instagram after today's episode to talk about it with me!

    xoxoxo love y'all deep!

  • Feeling overwhelmed by life's relentless pressures, I found myself at a crossroads, questioning the joy in recording our conversations and sharing my journey with you. The raw truth is, like many of you, I've been running through dreamlike mud, feeling stuck, and at times, losing my grip on the spiritual grounding that has always anchored me. Today, I open up about those intimate struggles, the mental barriers, and the transformative power of faith that guides us through. As we discuss the resilience symbolized by a cherished willow tree angel and the Japanese art of kintsugi, I invite you to find solace in the idea that our brokenness can pave the way to a more precious existence, enriched by divine grace.

    This episode also captures the palpable excitement from the annual IF Gathering, an event that never fails to enrich my spirit with insightful wisdom. As I recount the moments that struck a chord with me, I extend an invitation for you to accompany me on this enlightening journey over the coming weeks. We'll navigate the complexities of life's trials together, celebrating small victories and seeking the peace that faith assures us, even when the path ahead seems daunting. Join me, and let's uplift each other with stories of strength, healing, and the shared anticipation of growth that lies within our community.

    Love y'all DEEP oxoxoxoxox

  • Life's curveballs have a way of testing our mettle, and this past week was no exception. Join me as I recount the rollercoaster of events that began with the excitement of my lifelong best friend's visit, and quickly escalated into a maelstrom of weather woes, household disasters, and health scares. From the laughter-filled anticipation of snow tubing and attending BSF, to the unexpected burst pipe and school cancellations, to my youngest daughter Poppy's alarming illness—this episode is a testament to the resilience of the human spirit. As I share our family's journey through these trials, culminating in a contagious bug that swept through the household, you'll hear how we embraced the chaos, finding strength and humor in the face of adversity.

    Looking beyond the tumult, there's a smorgasbord of joy on the horizon. My taste buds are tingling at the thought of bringing Ina Garten's mouthwatering tomato crostata to a gathering of fellow food aficionados. The weeks ahead are brimming with promise—a family reunion of sorts at my cousin's performance in "Frozen," an invitation to don my detective hat at a murder mystery party, and the delights of a Galentine's celebration clashing with Super Bowl Sunday. And let's not forget the warm, engaging discussions to come at the women's conference in Dallas and the personal growth I'm ready to embrace. So, pour yourself a comforting cup and join me in savoring not just the culinary concoctions inspired by the Barefoot Contessa, but the rich tapestry of experiences and changes that lie ahead, all shared with heartfelt gratitude for your companionship on this journey.

  • It was during one of those quiet moments of reflection that the "maybe" story was shared in BSF, unexpectedly anchoring itself in my heart. I'm thrilled to bring that same epiphany to you, as we explore the art of finding joy and peace in the whirlwind of life's ever-changing scenarios. Throughout our discussion, I weave in the tranquility and steadfast faith I've found in Jesus, a theme that took root in my soul during the previous year's If Gathering. Together, we ponder Psalm 23, considering how our individual journeys through life's peaks and valleys can transform our understanding of this scripture's eternal comfort.

    As sunlight breaks through the dawn, we're reminded in 'Morning Rest' of the fresh hope each new day brings, much like the promise found in Lamentations 3:22-23. These verses have been a lighthouse to me amidst the storms, offering clarity and solace when I've needed it most. I invite you into this intimate space where we appreciate the constancy of the Lord's love and the importance of greeting each day as a clean slate. Share in this heartfelt exchange and carry the conversation over to Instagram, where our community continues to grow. Until we meet again next week, may you bask in the assurance of God's unwavering faithfulness and may our shared stories fill you with anticipation for the journey ahead.

  • Have you ever felt the slow build-up of resentment in your relationship, like a silent tide rising between you and your partner? Christopher and I confront this head-on in our latest heart-to-heart discussion, revealing the emotional challenges that external pressures and frequent work travel can impose on our family life. Together, we peel back the layers of these complex feelings, unearthing the strategies that help us maintain a vibrant connection amidst the everyday trials of marriage. Our conversation is an open book, showcasing the importance of tackling discontentment and cherishing the joy found in the day-to-day moments we share.

    Navigating the delicate interplay of love and respect in a marriage isn't just about knowing the steps; it's about feeling the rhythm of your partner's needs. We challenge the conventional wisdom served up in traditional counseling, introducing a fresh perspective with our quadrant system to help visualize the balance of love and respect needed in effective communication. Delving into how shared traumas can forge deeper bonds and the role personality types play in our interactions, our discussion is a dance of empathy and understanding, offering a new beat for couples to move to.

    Ever noticed how a change in tone can transform a simple request from nagging to nurturing? In this candid exploration, I share how the nuances of our voices are like punctuation in our spoken words, dramatically altering the meaning behind them. Through laughter and lighthearted examples, we demonstrate the astonishing impact tone has on preventing negative spirals and encouraging mutual understanding. As we close this episode, I invite you to join me in a pledge to self-reflect, to minimize resentment, and to embrace the enriching connections that make life truly worth living.

  • As the new year unfolds, I find myself standing at a crossroads of self-improvement, carrying a heart full of resolutions and a mind brimming with strategies for intentional living. Join me as we navigate the art of planning for a future that cherishes our well-being and the precious moments with our loved ones. We'll explore how to tackle the silent battles against negative thoughts and the emotional baggage that can impede our growth. This candid conversation isn't just about setting goals; it's about facing our innermost fears, choosing empathy over judgment, and making peace with the echoes of our past.

    Every year brings its own set of challenges and learnings, and this time, I'm eager to share a transformative tale of resilience borrowed from my father's wisdom—a guiding light through professional storms. The episode is a tapestry of heartfelt stories, biblical inspirations, and the quest for a guiding word that anchors us through the year's ebbs and flows. As I reveal "home" as my personal beacon, I invite you to find solace in your chosen word, fostering connections and planting seeds for a future where opportunities blossom not just for us, but for the generations to come. Let’s raise a toast to personal milestones and the collective journey ahead, one story at a time.

  • Every Christmas, my family gathers around, each taking a turn to stumble through the grand words of Luke 2, etching a tradition that's as much about laughter as it is about the miraculous tale it tells. This Christmas Day, as I cozy up with a heart brimming with joy, I'm inviting you into that precious circle. Let's share the deep-seated warmth and love that only this time of year can bring, reflecting on the true meaning of our celebrations—the birth of our Savior. Picture us together, you in your festive jammies, coffee in hand, surrounded by love, as we give thanks and revel in the hope of promises yet to come.

    Today's episode is a heartfelt journey through memory lane, sprinkled with chuckles at Christmases past, and a reading from Luke 2 that might just bring a tear to your eye or a smile to your face. It's a story that never grows old, no matter the occasional trip over a word or two. You'll hear the echoes of a heavenly chorus and feel the peace and joy of a narrative that has stood the test of time. So, settle in for a tale that's been told for millennia, and let's celebrate the Christmas story together. Merry Christmas to each of you, dear listeners, and may your day be as splendid as the story we cherish.

  • As Christmas Eve casts a serene glow over our hearts, we gather to honor the profound message of love that is central to this sacred season. With the lighting of the fourth Advent candle, we immerse ourselves in a reflection on love's greatest manifestations: from the divine love of Jesus' birth and sacrifice, to the steadfast love Joseph held for Mary, and the deep, nurturing love of Mary for her child. This episode, filled with the warmth of holiday spirit, invites you to explore these acts of love against the backdrop of cherished scriptures like 1 Corinthians 13:13 and John 3:16, pillars of faith that have withstood the test of time.

    Embracing the theme that Jesus is the light of the world, this conversation extends an invitation to step away from life's distractions and focus on the true, unwavering light of our Lord and Savior. We share heartfelt experiences of bringing dark secrets to light and discuss the liberation found in surrendering our burdens to Jesus. Join us for an intimate and uplifting journey through the powerful emotions of the season, and let's celebrate the joy and solace found in the quiet, light-filled moments of Christmas Eve.

  • As Christmas Eve Eve unfolds, I'm wrapped in the warmth of family and the profound spiritual legacy that's been handed down to me. My heart is full as I share stories of my mom’s influence on my faith journey, reflecting on how her devotion and personalized Bible studies during my youth have shaped my path to an intimate relationship with Jesus. This Podmas Day Ten episode is a celebration of generational blessings and the indelible impact of family on our spiritual lives, set against the backdrop of 2nd Timothy 1:5 and its message of faith that spans generations.

    Join us for a heartfelt conversation that explores the nuances of growing up in the church, the personal discovery of faith, and how an individual walk with Jesus can be a lifelong pursuit filled with curiosity and a desire to emulate His love. This episode is not just an intimate look at familial ties to faith, but an invitation to anyone seeking to deepen their connection with their spirituality during this Advent season and beyond. Come be inspired by the stories, reflections, and encouragement that this special time with my parents has stirred within me.

  • Christmas birthdays can often feel overshadowed by the holiday cheer, but not on my watch—especially when it's my little Kitty's third trip around the sun. We're celebrating her birthday with the same vigor and sparkle as a snowflake glistening under the winter sun, acknowledging the unique joy each child brings into the world. In our latest heartwarming session, we're wrapping you up in a cozy blanket of reflections on parenting, birth order, and the distinctive personality traits that make our children who they are, much like the individual beauty of snowflakes. All while reminiscing about snowy landscapes that transform from New Hampshire's guaranteed white Christmases to Seattle's occasional flurries.

    We're also inviting you on a whimsical exploration into the world of snowflakes—their symmetrical splendor and their unparalleled uniqueness. Christopher's musings on individuality inspire us to see our little ones as perfect, singular pieces of a larger, more beautiful whole. So, as we celebrate the festive season and my daughter's birthday, let's marvel at the magic of each snowflake and child, recognizing the wonder in their differences and the joy in our shared human experience. Bundle up for a journey that promises to warm your heart, no matter the weather outside.

    This makes me think of Romans 12:4 "... we have many members in one body, but all the members do not have the same function."

    And what a mark of our maker. How sweet that even the most intimate details of our lives, like a microscopic snowflake are important to God.

    “But now ask the beasts, and they will teach you;

    And the birds of the air, and they will tell you;

    Or speak to the earth, and it will teach you;

    And the fish of the sea will explain to you.

    Who among all these does not know

    That the hand of the Lord has done this,

    In whose hand is the life of every living thing,

    And the breath of all mankind?

    — " Job 12:7-10

    But ultimately in this advent season as we expectantly hope and wait for our Lord to come again, we are met with the reality of our personal struggles with sin. So for today let’s remember God’s promise despite our seemligly hopeless state:

    “Come now, let us reason together,” says the LORD. “Though your sins are like scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they are red as crimson, they shall be like wool.” Isaiah 1:18

    xoxox love y'all deep

  • As our home transforms with the twinkle of holiday lights and the murmur of cherished carols, I invite you to a cozy corner of the Duffy household where the spirit of the season is in full swing. Amidst the merry chaos, my husband and I find solace in our morning devotions, a practice that anchors our days and strengthens our family bond. With the warmth of a freshly brewed cup of coffee in hand, we navigate the excitement of preparing our girls for the day ahead, all while carving out those much-needed moments of rest. This episode unwraps the true essence of holiday routines, the joy of everyday life, and the precious opportunity to craft new friendships and memories during this enchanting yet demanding time of year.

    There’s something profoundly refreshing about reflecting on scripture during Advent, and in this heartfelt episode, I share how we draw closer to God through the pages of the Bible, finding guidance in verses from James and Jeremiah. These sacred words remind us of the transformative power of seeking God with a sincere heart. Together, let’s ponder the state of our spiritual journeys and embrace the encouragement that resonates through biblical wisdom. As we pause our busy lives to celebrate the holiday season, I extend a heartfelt invitation to continue nurturing our faith, rejoicing in the love, and eagerly anticipating the ongoing conversations that enrich our lives. Join me as we explore these themes, filled with anticipation for the growth and understanding that lie ahead.

    Love y'all deep! xoxoxo

  • When the holiday season rolls around, our homes become more than just living spaces; they transform into hubs of warmth, laughter, and memories in the making. This year, as I welcome my parents into our abode for an extended stay, I've been reflecting on the true essence of holiday hospitality and the profound joy it brings. Gather 'round, friends, and let the spirit of the season wash over you through my tales of intimate dinners, the magic of morning coffees, and the hearty laughter that echoes through the halls when loved ones are near.

    In our latest heartwarming chat, we peel back the layers of what makes these gatherings so meaningful. It's not just the act of sharing a meal, but the deeper connection fostered by inviting fresh faces to our tables—those who haven't journeyed with us from the beginning but join us now, weaving their stories into the tapestry of our lives. I also share my personal evolution from a hostess focused on perfection to one who cherishes harmony and togetherness above all. Sprinkled with practical tips for making any guest feel at home, this conversation is an invitation to open your doors and hearts with a renewed sense of purpose this festive season.

    Like the feeling of being warm and welcomed in my moms home starts from the moment you enter but it’s how she moves from person to person making sure everyone is taken care of, or how she somehow cleans a kitchen without anyone noticing because everyone is so relaxed. Or how she’s quick to drop everything to take a phone call from me - that's hospitality from a distance. And I think this has been learned, because it’s in her bones to be a busy bee, but she has worked hard to see people how God sees them, full of intrinsic value in the image of God and full of purpose and importance. So that’s your challenge today my gals, seek to host people like Jesus would. And don’t forget the most important part and initial start and that’s inviting them in.

    1 Timothy 5:10

    10 and is well known for her good deeds, such as bringing up children, showing hospitality, washing the feet of the Lord’s people, helping those in trouble and devoting herself to all kinds of good deeds.

    xoxoxo love y'all deep

  • As the holiday season wraps its arms around us, I can't help but reminisce about Christmases past and the quiet moments of reflection that left me awake. In today's Podmas episode, I peel back the layers of festivity to reveal the raw emotion that can accompany this time of year. Through my own narrative of navigating the ebbs and flows of joy and solitude, I connect with all who have felt the sting of loneliness amid the season's cheer. We confront the haunting ghost of FOMO and discuss the transformative journey from feeling out of place at holiday events to discovering new communities and creating connections that resonate with our lives now.

    Turning to the resonating comfort found within the pages of scripture, I draw upon Psalm 118:5, weaving its timeless message of hope into our Advent reflections. This verse, a beacon during times when we feel "hard pressed," promises a path to a "spacious place," reminding us of the strength and solace that can be found in our faith. I invite you to join me in a candid conversation about the power of these biblical words and the deep reassurance they offer, not just during the holidays, but in every challenging chapter of our lives. Together, we embrace this season with open hearts, affirming our hope and finding peace in the knowledge that we are never truly alone.

    love y'all deep xoxoxoxoxo

  • Enjoy this one - it's lighthearted and I'm sure you'll learn something - I did!!

    Enjoy today's devo from Isaiah 9:6 through 7 and it’s:

    For to us a child is born, to us a son is given; and the government shall be upon his shoulder, and his name shall be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace. Of the increase of his government and of peace there will be no end, on the throne of David and over his kingdom, to establish it and to uphold it with justice and with righteousness from this time forth and forevermore.

    Love y'all deep xoxoxoxoxo

  • Today we're lighting the pink candle, a symbol of the divine joy that transcends our worldly worries. We're revisiting the enlightening episode, "Joy Begets Joy," reflecting on God's blessings that often go unnoticed. Also today's big question is a fun one - what's your favorite animated kids' movie?

    And as for the concept of Joy, I love how the gospel coalition describes this when they said “God designed our hearts to desire what he desires. We were made to find joy in what he finds joy in, be disgusted by what he’s disgusted by, be saddened by what grieves him, be angered by what angers him, and fear the things he identifies as threatening. In other words, our desires—and the emotions expressed by them—worship God as they imitate his.”

    And I think of the psalm that talks about For his anger lasts only a moment, but his favor lasts a lifetime! Weeping may last through the night, but joy comes with the morning. (Psalm 30:5)

    But for today I really want to share my life verse because I think that part of joy can only be unlocked through the desperate realization of our condition and the painful walking through the storms of life. And I was met with this beautiful scripture in my darkest days following our miscarriage and some pretty ugly moments with God where I discarded and began to reconstruct my faith and so our devo for today is Lamentations 3:22-23 and that’s "Because of the LORD's great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness."

    xoxoxo love y'all deep!

  • December is the busiest and quickest month of the year, and on top of that Christopher went out of town for one week of it (but to give him immense credit he took a redeye so he could be there for bedtime and flew home as quickly as he could, sweet man!)

    And Christopher and I do prioritize date nights - making sure to not miss a week without having precious babysitter time and because of that we actually have a line item on our budget for babysitters, but so for today I wanted to talk with you about holiday date nights because in my opinion they are among the best time of the year for date nights (maybe behind summer date nights? Up for debate)

    And I had an old boss encourage me to prioritize my marriage among a season of lots of work travel because he felt passionately that if you weren’t growing closer together you are growing apart and you can set up as much boundaries and fail-safes but if you rely too much on those then you will all of a sudden pick your head up and not even recognize who you’re married to. So in this season of busyness be sure to not lose sight of the people in your life versus the things you do or have.

    So our motivation for that comes from Mark, but I believe this is quoted in other parts of the Bible but it’s from mark 10:6-9 and it it says: But at the beginning of creation God ‘made them male and female.’ ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife,and the two will become one flesh.’So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”

    xoxoxo love y'all deep!

  • This holiday special episode is all about the joy of holiday cooking and baking, btw are you a cook or a baker? Also, we talk through the ins and outs of my newly formed cookbook club – a delicious mix of friendship and culinary exploration.

    We end with working through the commonly used story from the Bible when working through womanly duties and that's the story of Mary vs. Martha. Join me in the discussion around who was right and who was wrong... And although Jesus calls us to commune with him, I could find a way to empathize with both sides!

    So here’s our devo verse for today from Psalm 27:4, "One thing have I asked of the LORD, that I will seek after: that I may dwell in the house of the LORD all the days of my life, to gaze upon the beauty of the LORD and to inquire in his temple."

    xoxoxox love y'all deep!