In this episode I dive into one of the MOST requested topics ever: How to advocate for yourself in a relationship that is highly valuable to you- WITHOUT lashing out, being aggressive, or damaging the relationship in any way.
PLUS you will have the opportunity to sign up to my free guide, which lays all the steps out for you with examples, straight to your inbox!
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In the Queenrise World, self defense is all about PREVENTION. And doing what it takes to make sure you are well equipped to stop violence way before it EVEN STARTS! So, this episode is all about TRUSTING the little iffy things that show their heads in otherwise great relationships. They warning signs of what is off, what is wrong, or even what may be revealed about someone else down the road.
If you are experiencing one or more of the red flags listed in this episode, you MAY be in an abusive relationship. I'm here to support you, but you may want to consider a hotline. You aren't alone.
This week I am giving you a chance to be your OWN knight in shining armor by delivering the most effective way to respond to harassment, what to do when even that doesn't work, and then what to do when even THAT doesn't work, so that you feel 100% certain that you could handle anything coming your way. Plus, of course, all of the mindset that goes into responding powerfully. Enjoy!
I get questions ALL the time from women who are working on setting better boundaries but end up LASHING OUT when they don't want to.
They are desperate to tow that fine line between letting someone walk all over them, and not wanting to hurt the people they love the most.
This week's episode explores that middle ground and gives you practical tips plus the mindset you need to set boundaries from a calm, centered, peaceful place while remaining authoritative and in power. Enjoy!
This week I speak about what it means to live the life we WANT rather than the safest life, and how self defense (of course, hem hem) helps ease the fear of living life to its fullest!
This episode turned a little heavy as I thought about current events that happened this week, but the good news is that I am delivering
SOMETHING WE CAN DO ABOUT IT!
Because often when we hear horror stories in the news we feel Powerless.
And then we move through our to-do lists and the rest of our routines like that.
Listen to this episode for a 3-second exercise that gets you out of a powerlessness funk.
I am sending love and healing to Texas and praying for the families of the lost lives there today.
I went from being wrapped up in an emotionally abusive relationship, unable to even see that what was happening wasn't ok, to being an internet authority on boundaries and abuse prevention. My student went from barely being able to get out a "no" in my workshop, to also becoming a boundaries and self-defense instructor!
Here's what didn't help us make those transformations:
In this episode I dig into the secret of what DID help her myself, transform into radically confident badasses changing the world.
This week I delve into:
👊 The real reasons why FIGHTING may be a better choice than running
👊 Why I teach girls and women to FULLY knockout their attackers (yes, you heard that right)
👊 The mindset shifts it takes to be able to do that.
I also mention this Reel in the episode: https://www.instagram.com/p/CciP2BDFJmg/
I could teach you self defense moves...
and you might be able to apply them...
depending on what's happening in the moment,
I could teach you the principles of fighting so that you can apply them to ANY situation.
That is what I do in this 7 minute episode.
Don't get me wrong I am SUCH an advocate for professional therapy!!
But therapists themselves have told me that this one piece is missing from their practice.
Because learning self-defense after trauma isn't just about regaining a sense of control or preventing something from happening again. It's about something MUCH deeper and more healing. Listen to find out what it is.
Did you ever wish you could just KNOW where your boundaries are, without having to THINK about it?! I know I have!
You see, boundaries are that exact line between what is ok with you and what isn't, and that can be tricky because there are sure to be situations in which you may not even be sure if you're okay with what's happening or if it's what you want!
So, today, I am revealing to you the most fool-proof sure-fire way to know EXACTLY what's going on with you and your boundaries WITHOUT having to use rack your brain too much.
This week I am CELEBRATING Episode #10 of the season!
Plus diving into this one difference between terror and abuse will definitely have you thinking 🤔
This time I am asking you a question and I would love your answer. So hit me up!
In this episode I am putting it ALL TOGETHER so that you can apply some simple tools to your day-to-day life, to communicate clearly about what you want, and actually get it!
In this episode I give you:
The Queen of all Queens of the Empowerment Self Defense tools that impacted my boundary setting and healing journey the most.
A concrete tool (no this isn't fluff or just confident feelings) for how to make sure people take you seriously when you tell them "No."
A permission slip to ditch the inter-generational gender conditioning that we must be polite at all times,
A reminder (complete with a jingle sung by yours truly 😆) of what it takes to get good at boundary setting.
In this week's episode, I dive into the strongest most influential language on the planet.
It is the #1 thing that helps you exude confidence in a way that says "Back Off Creeps!"
Listen to find out what it is!
In this week's episode, I dive into what you can actually DO when you're having trouble pinpointing whether or not you feel safe with what another person is doing.
Plus, what to do the moment you realize someone is a threat.
In this episode, I give away my BIGGEST self defense secret, and the most valuable thing people take away from my workshop: a color-coding system for danger, safety, and boundaries, that empowers you to make a choice and know exactly how to respond!
In this episode, I delve into the difference between 'badassery' and true empowerment - why badassery is appealing, but true empowerment is really the way forward.
This week I dive into why we avoid our problems and how mustering the courage to face your fear is a self defense MUST.
In this week's episode, we dive into this controversial topic of victim blame, and safety responsibility.
Is the promotion of self defense putting the "onus" of violence against women in women themselves?
Is that fair?
Where does accountability really need to be taken?
In this episode, I answer all these questions and more...