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In this episode, Andrea explores the concept of "your bottom line" and how it plays a crucial role in the healing process after experiencing infidelity. She shares real-life examples from her clients and her own journey, illustrating how identifying and adhering to your bottom line can provide clarity and empowerment. She discusses the importance of self-reflection, understanding personal values, and establishing firm boundaries to protect oneself. Tune in to learn how to define your bottom line and why it’s essential for your emotional well-being.
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Importance of Knowing Your Bottom Line Real-Life Examples Andrea’s Personal Story How to Identify Your Bottom Line Communicating Your Bottom Line
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In this empowering episode, Andrea delves into the complex topic of your relationship to trauma. Andrea shares personal stories and professional insights to help you understand and redefine your relationship with trauma, especially in the context of infidelity. She challenges the conventional narrative that trauma must be a lifelong burden and offers a fresh perspective on how to transform your pain into growth.
Tune in to learn how to reclaim your life, shift your mindset, and build a future that's not defined by past hurts.
Understanding Relationships with Various Aspects of Life The Common Narratives Around Trauma Personal Story: Healing and Feeling Like a Victim The Role of Support Systems The Impact of Identifying with Trauma A Pivotal Moment: The Day My First Husband Died Changing Your Relationship with Trauma Practical Steps to Reclaim Your Life Invitation to Join the Program
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In this episode, Andrea delves into the concept she calls "The Boomerang Effect." Inspired by a coaching session with a client, Andrea explores how strong emotional reactions often lead us to make drastic decisions, only to later soften and reconsider our stance. She discusses how this phenomenon manifests in various aspects of life, including relationships, politics, and religion, and emphasizes the importance of finding a middle ground.
Tune in to learn how to navigate these emotional swings and make more grounded decisions.
The Origin of the Boomerang Effect Examples in Relationships The Role of Politics and Religion When to Fling Yourself Away The Softening Phase Personal Reflections and Advice
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In this episode, Andrea welcomes forgiveness expert Dara McKinley to explore the profound and transformative power of forgiveness. Dara shares her personal journey and professional insights into how forgiveness can liberate us from emotional burdens, helping us to heal and move forward. They discuss the misconceptions about forgiveness, the difference between forgiving and pardoning, and the role of unconditional love. Dara also provides practical advice on how to approach forgiveness, even in the most challenging circumstances, and emphasizes that everyone is inherently capable of this healing process.
Tune in for an enlightening conversation that promises to reshape your understanding of forgiveness.
Dara McKinley's Background The True Meaning of Forgiveness Dara's Personal Forgiveness Journey Practical Steps to Forgiveness Emotional Health and Forgiveness Addressing Misconceptions The Role of Unconditional Love Applying Forgiveness in Everyday Life
In this episode:Dara McKinley has studied and worked in the realm of spirituality and health for over three decades. In 2012, difficult life circumstances pointed her to forgiveness where she realized that many spoke prolifically about why one should forgive but no one spoke of how. Her background enabled her to successfully create and follow a forgiveness path that worked, but in the years that followed, the experience made her see some significant themes. In particular, she saw how mainstream forgiveness understanding (pardoning, ceasing anger, having compassion, and letting go) was obscuring the forgiveness path. She also saw that people who identified as spiritual-but-not-religious required a forgiveness path that was clear, and logical. This inspired Dara to devote her professional life to understanding forgiveness’ infrastructure and to making forgiveness the practical healing modality it was always meant to be.
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Today, Andrea dives into the complex issue of spiritual bypassing. She discusses how individuals often use spiritual practices as a way to avoid facing the real issues at the heart of infidelity. Through real-life examples and personal anecdotes, Andrea explains why it's crucial to address the root causes of betrayal rather than masking them with temporary solutions. She also highlights the importance of facing uncomfortable emotions and the potential negative impacts of spiritual bypassing, such as emotional confusion and codependency. Tune in to learn how to confront these challenges head-on and grow into a more authentic and confident version of yourself.
Real-life Examples Understanding Spiritual Bypassing The Problem with Avoidance Personal Anecdotes Negative Impacts of Spiritual Bypassing Signs of Bypassing
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In this week's episode, Andrea takes us on a heartfelt walk in the country to discuss the importance of recognizing and remembering your value. Learn how to move from needing validation to wanting it, and make powerful, courageous decisions that align with your true worth. Andrea shares personal stories, thought-provoking questions, and inspiring examples that will empower you to step into your full potential. Listen now and take the first step towards embracing your true value.
Discussing self-worth with teens Recognizing our own value Reactive vs. proactive actions Examples of valuing yourself Moving from "need" to "want" Questions for self-reflection
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Are boundaries hard for you? Do you struggle to know when to be firm and when to let up?
In this episode, I interview expert Linsday Poelman about boundaries, how to think about them, and what to try if you struggle to set them. You will leave with a concrete way to check in with yourself as you become more autonomous in your closest relationships.
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Do you wonder what will actually work for you in moving forward after the infidelity? With so much conflicting information, it can be quite confusing.
In this episode, I go into depth about the 5 milestones that, if practiced, will work for anyone, in any situation. Commitment to the process is what will get you strong results.
These milestones are built on each other, and the end product of mastering each one is a calm mind, vibrant relationships, and high-level practical skills you will use for the rest of your life. You can move forward, you can reclaim your life, and you can be a version of yourself you are so proud of.
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Do you ever wonder what you should be focusing on after infidelity?
This episode details the three areas that couples need to dive into in order to have a chance at building something better than what was there before -- or to go their separate ways as peacefully as possible.
Tune in to check in with where you are, what to lean into and what to let go of.
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One of the biggest struggles in the aftermath of infidelity is not knowing what to do.
Do I just wait on him to see what he does? How can I ever let this go? What if it happens again? Can I ever trust him again?
All of these questions lead to endless rumination and winding up more confused than ever.
In this episode you’ll learn an effective strategy that will help you know the next step to take. When you learn to scan out into the future and really see what is there, it can help give you the courage to make bold moves that will help ensure the future you want most.
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In this episode I go deep and personal with my journey since the ten year anniversary death of my first husband on July 9th.
Many struggle in the aftermath of infidelity with how to let go. They find themselves un-intentionally sabotaging new relationships because they are still focused on all that went wrong. I did the same thing, and share in this episode how I learned to let things be so I could be present with the life I was creating (and now enjoy!).
If you are stuck in replaying painful stories over and over, this episode is for you.
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After infidelity, you may believe your relationship is forever damaged. While you can never go back and undo it, there is an opportunity to build a wiser, stronger relationship than before.
Whether you stay or not, the reflecting and internal introspection that can happen as part of the healing process carves out wisdom in us that can transform our relationships, whether with the person we are now partnered with, or in the future.
This episode covers three different stages of relationships, what each has to offer, and how to turn the pain of infidelity into hard-won wisdom.
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As a follow-up to episode #138, “Losing Strategies,” this episode will cover “Winning Strategies.”
There are five skills that, when used (and practiced!!), can make a massive difference not only in your relationship, but in how to view yourself. Self-respect is based on how we view ourselves, so growing our skills of being more relational will reflect right back on how we view ourselves.
Tune in, pick one you want to practice, and watch your relationships change.
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For most people, any kind of infidelity or affair is quite a life-changing blow, but the reality is that not all affairs are the same.
In this episode, I go through several different types of affairs so you can educate yourself on what it is you are dealing with. Knowledge can be painful to hear, but in the end it will empower you to know what action to take.
You will know if it’s time to double down on rebuilding a marriage that was already in trouble, or if he has issues he needs to deal with alone.
Knowing what kind of affair it was can give you direction and courage to know how to proceed, and how to ultimately get some peace back, with the facts in hand.
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Join me this week as I share a personal experience of taking on a major project. You’ll hear some of the obstacles that made me want to quit, and the reasons why I kept going.
This episode is less about a renovation and more about what it actually looks like in real time to make your dreams happen. It is hard work that requires more skill of you than what you may currently have.
If you need some motivation to go after what matters most to you, don’t miss this one.
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A question I get asked a lot is, “Who should I tell?"
After infidelity discovery, you may want to shout it to the rooftops, or tell absolutely no one.
Tune in to this episode to get some ideas of who it might we wise to tell, and what to watch out for.
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As children raised by imperfect parents, we all have “core wounds” that inform much of our life. We may have had experiences we did not know how to process, and therefore made up stories of what those things meant that we still carry with us today.
As we get older, we adapt and learn to navigate those painful stories through our various adaptations.
Then as adults, we have an opportunity to look at some of our adaptations, and evaluate if they are still serving us, or if we can let them go.
In this episode, I explore 3 roles children are often “cast” in that can create issues later in life if not evaluated and healed.
You will likely see yourself and those you love most in some of these roles, and gain some insight into your own behavior, as well as the behaviors of your partner/loved ones. You will also leave with some tangible ideas of how to navigate next steps in healing those parts that need gentle love and nurturing.
To work with me, go to: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
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In this episode, I cover 3 common myths circulating about infidelity, and 3 truths to counter them.
With a lot of conflicting information out there, it can be quite confusing to navigate a clear path forward. By applying the principles discussed in this episode, you will be able to more clearly identify your own path and what is best for you.
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Most of my podcast episodes have been geared toward women who have experienced betrayal, but this one is for the men.
First I address men who have been betrayed by their spouse/partner. I cover how betrayal affects men differently than women and why that is.
Second, I address men who have betrayed their spouse. In my many years of coaching, I have learned that there is no black and white, and people are much more complicated than we make them out to be. You will learn some ideas that will help you heal and move forward, as well as how to support your spouse.
To work with me, go to: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
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Growing up, we all take on behaviors that we use when our safety feels threatened.
In this episode, I will be covering five strategies we use to try to get back a sense of safety.
While these behaviors are common and we all participate in some (or all) of them at times, you’ll learn why they will ultimately not get you what you want. There may be a temporary feeling of “winning,” but in the end, we will be less connected with others, and usually less connected with ourselves.
Tune in this week to learn what strategies you buy into, and what it may be costing you.
To work with me, go to: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
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