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We’re in shock.
Jenn Tran’s Bachelorette story comes to a horrifying ending in the season finale, and we are devastated and frankly livid with this franchise. In this Bachelorette recap, we review the season finale where we learn Jenn and Devin’s engagement came to a near-immediate end shortly after filming ended and then see a disgustingly cruel After the Final Rose live finale where Jenn is made to watch her proposal to Devin for the first time on stage with him setting next to her. This show failed Jenn in so many ways.
We are absolutely aghast that this season — which we had been so excited and hopeful about, which loudly promoted Jenn as their first Asian American lead and promised us an incredible love story with her as the main character — ended in such a horrific way. We unpack that horrible ATFR segment, what happened between Jenn and Devin (and why we weren’t surprised by his swerve), as well as takeaways from the Jenn and Marcus breakup (because we’ve known men like Marcus).
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Fantasy suites brought us *two* surprise confessions of love, and if we’re being honest, neither of them felt great.
In this Bachelorette recap of Jenn Tran’s season episodes 8 & 9, we deep dive into Jenn’s connection with Marcus and why she’s so invested in making their relationship work when there’s little reciprocation— and why one of us (for better or worse... er, well, mostly for worse) actually swooned just a little over them this week.
Then, we get to the Devin of it all. Devin spirals with doubt, Jenn confesses she doesn’t know how to be in a healthy relationship, and they finish with “I love you’s” prompting us to dig into how the conversation could’ve really gone—if they were being honest.
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Why did Jenn’s hometown dates feel so… concerning?
It’s hometowns week on Jenn Tran’s season of The Bachelorette (Season 21, Episode 7). Usually hometowns is a big ol’ nothing-burger, but Jenn’s hometowns with Devin, Jeremy, Jonathon, and Marcus actually raised many new questions and concerns about her final four men and the relationships she has with each of them. Devin says I love you to Jenn, but the rest of the men seem to be way far behind in terms of their feelings for her. Jeremy goes home for it, but Jonathon and Marcus both also seem to be struggling to emotionally get there with Jenn.
In this Bachelorette recap, we dig into why Jenn’s final men all seem to be hesitating now that we’re getting to the end of the season, how Marcus became the new unavailable man in Jenn’s life, and how Jenn get still get the happy ending she deserves.
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This episode helped us learn a lot about Jenn - and it was heartbreaking. In this Bachelorette recap of episode 5 of Jenn’s Bachelorette season with special guest Jeremy, we break down her dates with Jonathon and Grant. We chat about Austin self-eliminating created an important vibe shift to her season, and one of Jenn’s most vulnerable moments to date. We go over why going back to an ex doesn’t always work, what it looks like to date someone in the middle of a big healing journey, and who we could see her ending up with at the end.
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Sam M goes off-script, and Jenn sends him packing!
In this Bachelorette 2024 Episode 6 of Jenn’s season, Jenn has her first one-on-one date with Marcus. We weren’t totally sure about Marcus — we’ve heard some fairly gruesome allegations about his past and we don’t know if he’s ready to get married with Jenn — but we can finally see why Jenn likes him so much.
We talk about Sam M and Jenn’s drawn-out breakup and why it’s important she completed the process on her own time. We dissect Sam M short-circuiting on the show, his misogyny, and how Jenn’s family patterns may have subconsciously influenced their attraction. Then we chat about her surprising connection with Jeremy and their cute interfaith connection, our shock on Grant and Spencer going home.
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We don’t often get a Bachelor date with so many red flags to unpack all at once, but the one-on-one between Jenn and Sam M. was really chock full of concerning moments. In this Bachelorette recap of episode 4 of Jenn’s Bachelorette season, we break down each interaction from this date and what went wrong, from the way he unilaterally made decisions on her behalf to ignoring her feelings and boundaries— and also the complex way Jenn herself responded to the stressful situation.
We also talk about Jenn and Marcus who make notable strides in their connection this week, as well as what we know about Jenn’s ex Matthew who she apparently only dated for a few months several years ago.
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It’s week 3 and we’ve finally formulated a theory for Jenn’s season! Let’s get into it.
In this Bachelorette 2024 Episode 3 recap, the conflict hasn’t stopped and Thomas N and Sam M are continuing to perpetuate a culture of pettiness and negativity. We chat through their (many) red flags obsessing over the other men in the house, putting down Sam N, and focusing on anything other than Jenn. We chat about our complicated feelings liking Devin (with some trepidation) and how he may have the only genuine connection with Jenn. We talk about our excitement seeing Jenn making sense of her dating story, finding her voice, cutting off the toxic men in the show, and refining her dating picker—all in real time.
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It’s only week 2, and the villains are already emerging. But… which guy is it?
In The Bachelorette 2024 Episode 2, conflict begins to brew among Jenn Tran’s men—in particular, between Devin, Aaron, and Thomas N. Devin is quickly becoming a controversial character, with some fans on the internet saying he did nothing wrong and others already ready to get him off the screen. In this Bachelorette recap, we dig into some of the key moments between these three men that helped us form our opinions of the situation—and why we’re secretly not so fond of any of them.
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We’ve been waiting all season for Jenn Tran’s season premiere, and it did not disappoint! The episode kicks off with Jenn’s intro package where she opens up about her Asian-American background, her passion being a physical assistant, and her history with toxic relationships. We start the night at a new mansion (!) where she meets her 25 men — and she gives her first impression to Sam McKinney and giggles with Thomas Nguyen, Dylan Buckor, Devin Strader, and others.
Throughout this Bachelorette recap, we also dissect our early first impression of Jenn, our mixed emotions about her early standouts, her slow approach to physical intimacy and why that may be due to her upbringing, and then dig into our predictions for her season.
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Joey’s season was one for the history books.
During the season finale, we speak about the beauty of Daisy and Kelsey subverting the inherently comparative and competitive dating model of the show, if we thought Daisy stole their thunder, and how we wish the show highlighted Kelsey’s incredible emotional intelligence to be there for her friend during her proposal day. We discuss our shifting feelings on Daisy, the refreshing narrative of sisterhood the show is featuring, and our happiness on Joey and Kelsey’s engagement. Then we gush over Jenn Tran’s history-making debut as the Bachelorette, if we think she’ll get married, and all of the things we can’t wait to cover.
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This was an emotional Women Tell All episode. Rachel opens up about the racist messages she’s been receiving, and it gives us all a lot to think about when it comes to the ways in which we all interact with popular media and create the culture we live in. Throughout this Bachelor recap we also talk about Jenn’s cycle-breaking story this season, our complicated feelings about Maria (spoiler alert: we weren’t impressed by her behavior at the WTA), and why we’re starting to get a little worried about Joey and Kelsey after what happened with that letter.
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In this week’s Bachelor 2024 Episode 9 recap of Joey’s season, we’re getting into Fantasy Suites week and is it hot in here or is it just Kelsey and Joey STEAMING up the TV? We talk about their palpable chemistry and her frontrunner energy.
We analyze her conversation with Golden Bachelor frontrunner Leslie, and why it’s important to hold space for someone with skill. Then we go over Joey’s sweet yet lackluster connection with Daisy (we’re still not seeing it!!) and his rocky date with Rachel. We bring up Rachel’s recent negative social media backlash and why we need to uplift diverse stories in media.
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Joey knew what he wanted this episode - and chaos was not it. In this Bachelor recap, we talk about why Joey sending home Maria was a good idea, and our speculations that Rachel might be next on the chopping block. We analyze his strong connection with Kelsey and how it feels slightly different to Daisy’s sweet albeit slightly underdeveloped relationship. In between, we discuss our favorite frontrunners for Joey and how much we missed Jenn’s potential hometown this week.
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You have to know someone to love them, but who is Joey really? In this Bachelor recap, we talk about why we think Daisy’s really not that into him and our surprise on Joey sending home Jenn who is actually super into him.
We talk about Maria’s conflict styles and how they’ve been polar opposites the entire season - except for how they need their partner to show up for them. And why that quality may be Joey’s dealbreaker. Along the way, we discuss why Kelsey A is a perfect combination of what he’s looking for, plus our doubts that he’ll actually choose her.
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Relationships are all about timing, and for Joey and Lexi, timing is not on their side. In this Bachelor recap, we talk about Lexi’s surprising decision to leave the show after learning that Joey wants a longer engagement and marriage before having kids - something that she can’t get on board with. We discuss the challenge of navigating differing timelines in relationships and why Lexi’s choice is so commendable.
We also dig into what we’ve long surmised would be Joey’s greatest struggle as the bachelor: figuring out how to open up and put himself first. As these issues start to come to the forefront, which woman will be able to embrace Joey in all his struggles and imperfections? We have our thoughts…
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We were rooting for you, Lea!!! Why?!
This week’s two-day Bachelor special brought the demise of one villain and the rise of the next. Maria and Sydney went head to head in a two on one date, and we were disturbed and also just kinda saddened by Sydney’s behavior before she left. Then we get into the Lea of it all, including her squishy confrontation with Madina, her hard line with Maria, and why we’re both disappointed in her… but also sort of question the nature of the criticism she’s now facing.
Along the way, we talk about the ways in which therapy can fail us, how age can affect the ways we show up to disagreements, and the importance of taking women’s pain seriously.
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Let’s talk about this Sydney and Maria conflict, because there are SO many nuances to this situation. At first glance the drama seems to be about something pointless (a comment Maria made challenging the idea of age 31 being “old”), but Episode 3 unveils many more layers. In this Bachelor recap, we unpack the use of the words “bullying” and other therapy speak, the power of “in” and “out” group dynamics, and how Maria and Sydney each handled (and mishandled) the conflict.
We are SO excited and honored to be joined by the wonderful JENNA from DATE CARD, one of our absolute favorite Bachelor podcasts! Jenna analyzes the The Bachelor franchise from a queer feminist lens, and her critique (and hilarity) always blows us away.
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Joey’s Bachelor season is upon us, and we are actually super excited! After the season premiere and limo entrances, we have our initial thoughts on who we think Joey Graziadei is most compatible with among his cast of women—and what we think he’s going to struggle most with this season. It’s episode 2 of Joey Grazidei’s Bachelor season, and we have some new dating theories! We discuss our new frontrunner picks, why we love Maria Georgas flirting game, and what Joey is really looking for in a match—and it’s not what you think.
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Joey’s Bachelor season is upon us, and we are actually super excited!
After the season premiere and limo entrances, we have our initial thoughts on who we think Joey Graziadei is most compatible with among his cast of women—and what we think he’s going to struggle most with this season.
We’re Kelly and Julie, and we’re Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL!
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Even though Bachelor in Paradise is over, some of the couples (Eliza & Aaron B, Kylee & Aven, John Henry and Kat) are still going strong way after the finale. We discuss if we can see them working as a couple, why it’s so hard to date someone with too many expectations, and how everyone is deserving of love—yes even the “villains” who don’t end up learning anything from their past experiences.
We’re Kelly and Julie, and we’re Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t.
We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL! (And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!)
Watch the live recording of this podcast on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/HereToFindLove Get personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow - Montre plus
