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“A period of stuckness always precedes a period of serious growth.”
So many of us find ourselves grappling with the overwhelming feeling of being stuck, especially as we navigate midlife. Weighed down by societal expectations and self-imposed narratives, we can struggle to align our lives with what we truly value and desire. Enter Deanna deBara, writer and host of the “Season of Stuck” podcast, where she shares her journey of overcoming "stuckness" and offers practical tools to help others do the same.
In this episode, Erin and Deanna explore how to shift from a place of stagnation to a state of thriving, and the transformative power of giving oneself permission to change and grow. We cover:
Why feeling stuck, though isolating, is a universal experience—and how it can become a catalyst for transformation in midlifeHow the stories we tell ourselves shape our reality, either keeping us stuck or opening the door to changeThe role of self-compassion and authenticity in fostering growth and changeTechniques for shaking off feelings of being stuck, including movement, cold plunging, and micro ‘yeses’Strategies for rewriting internal limiting narratives about ourselves and cultivating a compassionate, supportive inner dialoguePractical advice on navigating midlife transitions, challenging societal expectations, and redefining personal successOUR GUEST: Deanna deBara is a freelance writer living in Portland, OR. When she's not busy building her business or typing away at her keyboard, she enjoys spending time hiking in the Pacific Northwest, traveling with her soon-to-be husband, or doting on her dog, Bennett.
Want more Deanna? Tune into her podcast Season of Stuck and learn more about her work at https://www.seasonofstuck.com/ and follow on Instagram @seasonofstuck
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Is entrepreneurship truly a solo journey, or would you rather start a business with a friend? For Dr. Keri Ohlrich and Kelly Guenther, co-founders of the leadership and HR consultancy the Abbracci Group and co-hosts of “The Breakout” podcast, the answer is clear: collaboration is key. Together, they’re on a mission to help women and entrepreneurs navigate both professional and personal changes, big and small. Their book, “Whatever the Hell You Want”, is a guide to identifying the “boxes” that confine us, creating a roadmap to break free, and living a life of choice and freedom. Keri and Kelly’s story is a powerful testament to the transformative potential of partnership and support.
In this episode, Erin, Keri & Kelly dive into themes of change, growth, and the pursuit of personal fulfillment. Hear how taking bold, sometimes daunting steps can help break free from traditional paths and bring about lasting happiness. Tune in as we discuss:
The challenges and rewards of entrepreneurship and why a supportive business partner can make all the difference, especially for womenReimagining community over competition in the workplace and fostering mutual support for women Identifying your core values, wants, and motivations as key to your next steps in life and careerHow growth often emerges from painful experiences, revealing what’s no longer serving youWhy workplace gender bias still persists, even in progressive workplacesHow women leaders can drive change by mentoring the next generationTips for embracing the uncertainty and instability that come with entrepreneurshipOUR GUESTS: Kelly Guenther and Dr. Keri Ohlrich are the co-founders of Abbracci Group, co-hosts of The Breakout podcast, and co-authors of Whatever the Hell You Want. Together, they bring a wealth of experience in leadership, HR, and professional development, focusing on empowering individuals and creating supportive workplace cultures.
Kelly Guenther applies a holistic approach to leadership and talent development, combining her experience in sales training and certification for top-level executives with a deep understanding of both team dynamics and individual strengths. She holds a Master of Education from Carroll University, a Bachelor’s in English from the University of Wisconsin-Oshkosh, and is certified in iPEC professional coaching and Prosci® change management, among other assessments.
Dr. Keri Ohlrich brings over 20 years of HR leadership experience spanning start-ups to Fortune 500 companies, where she has been instrumental in redesigning HR processes and driving large-scale change management initiatives. With a PhD in Human Development and Organizational Systems, as well as dual master’s degrees in Peace and Conflict Resolution and Global Human Resources, she is committed to transforming workplaces into thriving ecosystems. Keri also serves as a court-appointed special advocate (CASA) volunteer for children’s welfare.
Want more Dr. Keri & Kelly? Tune into their podcast The Breakout and learn more about their work at https://abbraccigroup.com/. Check out their books Whatever the Hell You Want and The Way of the HR Warrior.
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“Sex isn't really worth having without vulnerability.”
Sexuality and intimacy can be sensitive topics, especially in long-term relationships. But what if these conversations could be transformed into pathways to deeper connection and more fulfilling, mutually satisfying sex? In this episode, we’re thrilled to welcome our first couple(!) to Hotter Than Ever: Vanessa and Xander Marin. Vanessa, a licensed psychotherapist with 20 years of experience, and her husband, Xander, bring their unique perspectives together to foster honest, vulnerable discussions around sex and intimacy. Together, they’ve written the NYT bestselling book “Sex Talks” and are on a mission to help couples achieve true closeness.
Join us for an illuminating conversation on the essential ingredients for a rewarding sex life and on dismantling long-standing misconceptions about intimacy. This episode is a powerful reminder that true intimacy—whether in long relationships or new ones—requires courage, open communication, and a fresh look at what we really need and desire. We discuss:
Why open conversations about sex are crucial for fostering intimacy and connection between partners.Breaking down male expectations around intimacy and performance, and how these notions can block true connection and vulnerability.Prioritizing quality over quantity in sex—focusing on enhancing pleasure and satisfaction over frequency.Practical, small-scale actions to boost emotional intimacy, like expressing gratitude, embracing a 30-second hug, or sharing a 6-second kiss.Cultivating your own individual sexuality to reinforce a sense of self and desire, no matter your relationship status.Navigating sexual changes through perimenopause and menopause, with tips on staying connected to your body and sexuality.OUR GUESTS: Vanessa and Xander Marin are the dynamic duo behind the NYT bestseller “Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life”. Vanessa, a certified sex therapist, and her husband Xander, who left a career at Google to join her in this mission, combine their expertise and candid, down-to-earth approach to help couples kick shame out of the bedroom and embrace deeper connection, pleasure, and joy. Together, Vanessa and Xander have been featured in top publications like O, The Oprah Magazine, Harper’s Bazaar, Vogue, and Goop, and Vanessa has contributed to The New York Times, Allure, and Lifehacker.
Want more Vanessa & Xander? Tune into their podcast Pillow Talks for practical relationship advice, real-life insights, and plenty of laughs as they share what truly goes on behind closed doors.
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If you’ve ever wondered why stories of women in midlife are so rare in movies and TV, you’re not alone. In a landscape where male-centered narratives often take center stage, Laura Fischer (Co-President of director Paul Feig’s feature film company Feigco) stands out as a force for change. In partnership with the iconic comedy director, Laura champions films anchored by funny women (think Kristen Wiig, Melissa McCarthy and Leslie Jones) and helps showcase the work of diverse creators while balancing the complexities of family life and career with remarkable grace and determination.
Join us as we delve into issues impacting women today, from societal expectations to the untapped potential of stories about older women, all through the lens of Laura’s inspiring career. Laura’s journey underscores the power of authentic storytelling and the importance of defining your own priorities amid the many roles we, as women, navigate. Here’s what’s on the table:
Embracing failure as a normal part of creative and professional growth.Practical tips for managing the ever-elusive work-life balance as a mother and professional.Why prioritizing YOU—and the pursuits that ignite your passion—helps you best show up for the people you love and support.Post-divorce insights: successful co-parenting and the liberating freedom of prioritizing yourself and your work.Breaking free from the constraints of corporate life to unlock personal and creative freedom.The ongoing fight for representation of women over 40 in media and why more female voices in decision-making roles matter.A reminder that at every stage of life, you have the power to choose your own path.OUR GUEST: Laura is Co-President of Feigco Entertainment, where she and Paul Feig oversee the company’s film and TV projects, currently including A Simple Favor 2 for Amazon. She also serves as CEO of Powderkeg, a content company dedicated to uplifting female, LGBTQ+, and BIPOC creators. Through Powderkeg, she has launched programs like Fuse, a short film initiative for emerging female directors, and Break the Room, focused on diverse writing talent. Previously, Laura led original series production at Yahoo! and worked on Emmy-winning projects at Disney-ABC. She is a member of the Producers Guild and the Television Academy.
Want more Laura? Find more of her work at https://x.com/Feigco and https://powderkegmedia.com/ and follow her on:
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Ever wondered why some women experience low libido and what can be done about it? Or what orgasms look and feel like for different women? These questions often go unanswered, but Dr. Maureen Slattery—a board-certified OBGYN specializing in sex and menopause—is here to change that. A leading advocate for women’s sexual health, Dr. Slattery joins us in this episode to share her mission of empowering women through education and enhancing sexual well-being during perimenopause and menopause.
Join Erin and Dr. Maureen as they dive deep into the complexities of women’s sexual health, exploring how reclaiming pleasure and purpose can be a transformative experience in midlife. We discuss:
Why comprehensive sexual health education is often overlooked in the medical field, and the consequences for women’s health.How puritanical and patriarchal attitudes have shaped women’s sexual education and self-understanding.The effects of hormonal changes on sexual pleasure, desire, and overall well-being.Understanding low libido and Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder (HSDD).Tips for having open, productive conversations about sex and pleasure, especially in long-term relationships.The importance of raising sex-positive children and navigating talks about consent, relationships, and body positivity.OUR GUEST: Dr. Maureen Slattery is a board-certified OBGYN with 20 years of experience, specializing in sexual health and menopausal care. An AASECT-certified sex counselor, she has contributed to AARP and Rochester Regional Health on topics like sexual health and hormone therapy. Maureen teaches medical students and professionals about menopause and sexual health in Rochester, NY, and at the University of Michigan. Her passion lies in helping patients rediscover pleasure and educating healthcare providers about sexuality. She is a sex-positive, kink-aware, and LGBTQIA+ ally.
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"I think our value and our values get all kinds of conflated and mixed up."
We often hear about self-love and its pivotal role in creating a joyful life. But defining self-love is subjective and multifaceted. It involves caring, self-respect, boundaries, and counteracting our harsh inner critic. Today, Erin delves beyond self-love to examine the societal and personal metrics we use to gauge our worth.
Join Erin as she questions the conflation of material wealth, career success, physical appearance, and external approval with our intrinsic value. She asks us to reconsider what true value means in our lives and how our values may have been skewed by societal norms.
In this episode, Erin discusses:
The societal emphasis on material wealth and the pros and cons of caring a lot about financial successWhether career achievements and professional accolades truly correlate with self-worthThe complicated relationship women have with physical appearance and desirability as we ageThe roles of daughter, sister, wife, friend, and mother, and how we assess our value within these relationshipsThe deep-rooted cultural messages that impact our self-worthThe internal qualities and strengths that may hold true value, such as creativity, resourcefulness, kindness, and impact on othersWant more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper.
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“Astrology is a tool, not a rule. And when you use it as a tool, it can expand your power, your consciousness, your awareness.”
Long-time listeners of Hotter Than Ever know Erin tends to be a skeptic when it comes to anything ‘woo’ (remember the episode “Woo Adjacent”?). So, it might come as a surprise that today’s episode dives deep into astrology. But after hearing from astrologer Ophira Edut, even the most doubtful minds might find themselves intrigued, if not completely converted. Ophira, along with her sister Tali, form the AstroTwins, the long-standing resident astrologers for Elle magazine, authors of over 20 books, and frequent faces on TV. Together, they’ve created a practical, digestible approach to astrology that goes beyond the stars and into your everyday life.
Join Erin and Ophira to learn more about how astrology isn’t just about horoscopes, but a powerful framework to help navigate life’s mysteries, challenges, and opportunities in the second half of life. We discuss:
Ophira’s unplanned journey into astrology, sparked by her first birth chart readingBringing the ‘woo’ of astrology into a logical, business-driven worldThe difference between horoscopes and astrologyUnpacking the historical skepticism and gender discrimination that astrology has facedHow astrology can be a practical tool for women in midlife to make decisions, plan ahead, and design a life aligned with their valuesUnderstanding astrology’s personal archetypes to help identify strengths and areas for growthTake the I*AM Quiz, find out if you’re an Innovator, Authority or Maven: https://astrostyle.com/astrology-advantage/iam-archetype-quiz/
OUR GUEST: Ophira and Tali Edut, known as The AstroTwins, are top astrologers and intuitive advisors, serving clients like Beyoncé, Dua Lipa, and Emma Roberts. As resident astrologers for ELLE Magazine and authors of over 20 books, they’ve guided CEOs, celebrities, and entrepreneurs worldwide. They've appeared on Bravo, MTV, Good Morning America, and the Today Show, and created the astrology-based dating show Cosmic Love (Amazon Prime Video, 2022). Their new book, The Astrology Advantage (Simon & Schuster, 2024), introduces their IAM System, which simplifies astrology into three archetypes. The AstroTwins have taught thousands through their platform and retreats.
Want more Ophira? Find her online at astrostyle.com and buy her book THE ASTROLOGY ADVANTAGE: Use Your Horoscope for Personal and Professional Success
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“How much fun can we have and what is that going to do for us as we age?”
In this milestone 100th episode of Hotter Than Ever, we’re celebrating not only the podcast's journey but also the incredible community it has built around redefining midlife for women. To mark this special occasion, we’re thrilled to present an extraordinary conversation with CJ. CJ isn’t just a kink and non-monogamy coach; she’s an inspiring guide helping Gen X women embrace erotic evolution and neuro-expansion as they age. With certifications as a sex coach, life coach, and cuddle facilitator (!), CJ’s transformation from living a conventional life to embracing a kinky, non-monogamous lifestyle that meets her sexual and emotional needs is a great example of what is possible when we learn and pursue what we want.
Get ready for an eye-opening and liberating discussion on sexual expression, breaking free from conventional relationship molds, and reclaiming your desires in the second half of life. Tune in as we explore:
CJ's evolution from a serial monogamist to a liberated non-monogamous lifestyle.The vital role of sex and intimacy in personal well-being and relationship health.How divorce can offer the freedom to reclaim time, identity, and pleasure.Navigating kink, BDSM, fetish, and jealousy in relationships.The power of setting and respecting boundaries in both polyamorous and monogamous relationships.Rediscovering pleasure in your body and creating experiences that make you feel sexy and desired in midlife.Why midlife is the perfect time to explore new aspects of your sexuality, whether it's trying kink, exploring bisexuality, or finding new ways to experience pleasure.OUR GUEST: CJ is a kink and non-monogamy coach and mentor who is all about liberating sexual expression and cultivating new pleasure palates. She gets off on debunking the myths around female aging, desire and desirability as well as talking about the taboo. She loves welcoming Gen X women into alternative pleasures and lifestyles so that they can experience erotic evolution and neuro-expansion as they age. She is a Certified Sex Coach, Life Coach and Cuddle Facilitator and has lived a transformational kinky, non-monogamous life for the past 8 years.
Want more CJ? Find her online at https://www.noshamewithcj.com/ and listen to her podcast ‘No Shame with CJ’
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It’s no secret that our culture often presents aging in a negative light, particularly for women, leaving many of us uncertain or even fearful about life beyond 40, 50 or (god forbid), 60. But one iconic sitcom has challenged these stereotypes with humor, heart, and authenticity: The Golden Girls. For Maria Carpiac, a professor of Gerontology at California State University, Long Beach, and an advocate for healthy aging, The Golden Girls offers a shining example of how we can view aging with optimism and a sense of humor.
In this episode, Erin and Maria explore the complexities of aging, highlighting the importance of community, jou, and adaptability in leading a fulfilling life, with insights from The Golden Girls. From Blue Zones to finding purpose as we age, this conversation reveals how we can all live longer, healthier, and more meaningful lives—no matter what stage we're in. Tune in as we explore:
How to embrace aging instead of fearing it—it’s a journey we all share!Why "anti-aging" is a myth, and why the focus should be on aging well.The key elements of healthy aging: community, stress management, nutrition, and movement.Creative housing solutions like communal living and co-housing to foster supportive, connected communities as we age.How the media shapes our perceptions of aging and why The Golden Girls still resonates, even in today’s TV landscape.Exploring the Japanese concept of "ikigai" (reason for being) and its role in aging well.Why retirement isn’t just about money—it’s about staying engaged and connected.The dangers of conflating normal aging with disease, and how healthcare biases affect aging women.OUR GUEST: Dr. Maria Carpiac is a Professor of Gerontology and Director of the Gerontology Program at California State University, Long Beach. She holds a BA, MSW, and PhD in Social Work from UCLA, specializing in Older Adults. A Fellow of the Academy of Gerontology in Higher Education (AGHE), Dr. Carpiac teaches courses such as Social Policy & Aging and Women and Aging. Her research focuses on holistic health programs for assisted living and Age Friendly Universities (AFU). Under her leadership, CSULB joined the AFU Global Network, and the Gerontology Program received Program of Merit distinction in 2020.
Want more Dr. Carpiac? Learn more about her Gerontology program at www.csulb.edu/gerontology
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Optimal Aging & Gerontology, Beach TV Women and Aging: Lessons from the Golden Girls, KSROCSULB Class Uses the Golden Girls in Every Lesson, Spectrum 1 NewsWant more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper.
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As “Hotter Than Ever” nears its 100th episode, we’re reflecting on the impact this podcast has had since launching a year and a half ago, and the steps needed to elevate its vision to new heights.
Join Erin as she candidly shares the realities of transitioning from a financially stable corporate life to the entrepreneurial hustle. This episode is about peeling back the layers of how Erin is supporting the show, the internal struggles she faces as an entrepreneur, and the financial realities that come with following your passion. We dive into:
The challenges of self-funding as an entrepreneur, while navigating financial uncertainties and the practicalities of being a single Mom.Confronting and counteracting that harsh inner critic that tells us we’re not enough.How to confidently present your expertise and tangible skills to pave the next steps in your journey.Honoring slow growth and the organic process of building something meaningful amidst a fast-paced, instant results culture.Practical steps to generate additional income while growing your passion project into a business.Want more Hotter Than Ever?
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If you’re searching for proof that our most successful chapters can unfold in midlife, look no further than Melissa Palmer, co-founder and CEO of the skincare brand Osea. While Melissa and her mother launched Osea 28 years ago, it wasn’t until year 20 that their business truly skyrocketed. And as her career soared, Melissa also found the most significant relationship of her life, showing us that midlife can truly be a time of profound rewards and joy.
In this episode, we dive into Melissa’s unique entrepreneurial path and the empowerment that comes with embracing change. It’s a reminder that age doesn’t put a limit on reinvention, personal growth, or love. Tune in as we discuss:
The dynamics of building a business alongside your mother and how trusting each other’s strengths creates balance.Why success is as much about persistence, patience, and luck as it is hard work.The invaluable perspective women over 40 bring to professional spaces.Trusting your intuition and standing firm in your choices—even when others disagree.Redefining “anti-aging” as focusing on feeling strong, agile, and confident as you grow older.Why midlife dating and relationships can be especially fulfilling, free from the pressures of earlier stages of life.Embracing change, reinvention, and staying open to new opportunities, even in established careers and lives.OUR GUEST: Melissa Palmer is the Co-Founder and Chief Executive Officer at OSEA. Melissa was previously CEO of Hoopnotica, the industry leader in hula-hoop fitness. Since 2016 she’s been the CEO of OSEA and continues to lead the company today. Melissa was recently named EY Entrepreneur of the Year 2024 Greater Los Angeles. If you can’t reach Melissa she’s most likely swimming in the ocean.
Want more Melissa & Osea? Check out Osea online at https://oseamalibu.com and use code “Hotter Than Ever” on oceamalibu.com to get 10% off of their amazing products.
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Instagram: @happypalmer @oseamalibu Facebook: @oseamalibuLinkedIn: @melissa-clair-palmer Twitter/X: @happypalmer @oseaincWant more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper.
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“I’m in a phase of my life where I want to f*cking shine. I do not want to shrink.”
Sometimes we just need to admit we’re mad. While society may not always make space for women's anger, when we reflect on the challenges we face today, it can be hard not to feel it. Why do women still carry the heaviest load of care in relationships? Why are we still criticized for our ambition and judged for maintaining our independence?
In today’s conversation, producer Erica joins us as we dive into these questions and more. We’re not holding back, and we’re definitely in our feels. Here’s what we’re unpacking:
Why women often bear the emotional labor in relationships, managing not just their own feelings but also the well-being and self-esteem of their partners.How patriarchy’s grip leaves women shouldering more at home, even in seemingly progressive partnerships.How the very traits that make women successful— independence, competence, and resilience— can be weaponized against us.Freeing ourselves to express anger to mitigate the build up of stress and resentment.Re-examining our relationships with men—not just as wives and mothers, but as individuals who deserve care and support too.Exploring financial freedom, communal living, and the pursuit of independence.The challenge of finding emotionally intelligent partners who respect boundaries.Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper.
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“We need to understand that pleasure is not a luxury—it’s a necessity for sending good signals back to the brain.”
When Dr. Nan Wise had a panic attack at just 21 years old, it sparked her lifelong fascination with the brain. Today, as a seasoned behavioral neuroscientist and sex therapist, Dr. Nan is at the forefront of research exploring the deep connection between sex, pleasure, and brain health, particularly as we age. Her studies have uncovered the vital role that orgasms play in boosting oxygen flow to the brain, underscoring the critical role pleasure plays in our overall well-being.
Join Erin and Dr. Nan for an eye-opening conversation about the transformative power of pleasure and how it can help us cultivate healthier, more fulfilling relationships with ourselves and others as we grow older.
Pleasure isn't a luxury—it's essential for a healthy brain and maintaining well-being.Why many women experience better sex as they ageUnpacking elements of modern life that diminish our ability to experience genuine pleasure.The importance of engaging in pleasurable activities for managing anxiety, depression, and stress.Why active sexual desire isn't necessary for a healthy sex lifeTips to maintaining and ‘rebooting’ long-term relationships Cultivating an attuned relationship with your body and the things that bring you pleasureOUR GUEST: Dr. Nan Wise is a licensed psychotherapist, cognitive neuroscientist, certified sex therapist, and clinical hypnotherapist with 30 years of experience. Motivated by a deep curiosity about the brain's role in shaping moods and behaviors, she earned a Ph.D. in cognitive neuroscience from Rutgers-Newark in 2014. Her research, particularly her fMRI study on female orgasm, has filled critical gaps in understanding the neural basis of human sexuality, attracting international recognition. Dr. Nan’s journey is rooted in both personal and professional experiences, having faced anxiety from a young age and turning her challenges into a lifelong pursuit of emotional well-being.
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If you’ve ever paid attention to female representation in Hollywood or the push for more women filmmakers in entertainment, you’ve likely encountered the work of Melissa Silverstein. As the founder of Women and Hollywood, one of the pioneering platforms advocating for gender diversity in the film industry, Melissa has been a driving force in this movement. She also co-founded the Athena Film Festival, a celebration of female-driven films, established the Girls Club, an online community for women creatives, and hosts the podcast In Her Voice, which offers a behind-the-scenes look at women who make films. A true trailblazer, Melissa has dedicated decades to elevating women and their stories and is now turning the page to focus on her own creative journey.
Join Erin and Melissa as they delve into the importance of creating spaces that spotlight women’s stories and explore the opportunities that arise from challenging the status quo—especially the patriarchy. We discuss:
The ongoing struggle for women’s stories and representation in the film industry.The crucial role of women behind the camera in bringing authentic, diverse narratives to the forefront of entertainment.Why it’s essential to see women, especially women of color, in powerful on-screen roles to shift societal attitudes and dismantle patriarchal structures.Expanding the conversation on gender representation in media to include trans and non-binary voices.The ongoing challenges of getting women’s stories made in Hollywood and the importance of women investing in and supporting each other's projects.The current disruption in the media industry and how it creates an opportunity to develop new storytelling models for women over 40.OUR GUEST: Melissa Silverstein is the founder of Women and Hollywood and the Artistic Director and Co-Founder of The Athena Film Festival at Barnard College. She is also the founder of the Girls Club, an online community for women creatives.
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“I want you to know what your options are at this point in your life.”
In this special episode, we’re breaking from our usual format to bring Hotter Than Ever producer, Erica, out from behind the scenes for a candid conversation with Erin about the podcast's journey and it’s future. Inspired by thoughtful feedback from our hottie listeners and Erin’s reflections during this ‘slow-roll summer,’ we’re diving into Erin’s evolving views on midlife, personal transformation, and the unique challenges and opportunities facing women over 40 as we navigate this uncharted chapter of life.
While the road ahead is filled with uncertainty, one thing remains clear: Hotter Than Ever is committed to offering our community not coaching or self-help advice, but a variety of possibilities for thriving in midlife and beyond. Join us as we discuss the themes and ideas that have shaped this podcast and will drive its next evolution, including:
The myth of “having it all,” its impact on women, and why a stronger support system and equal distribution of labor are essential.The feminization of wealth and the potential for women to increasingly step into their power.Unpacking the systemic nature of the stresses and challenges women face in midlife.Embracing the unknown and discovering new ways to live, even without a clear precedent or roadmap.Reconnecting with the joie de vivre of youth, while harnessing the wisdom and experience that comes with midlife.Why being in community is vital for our emotional and social well-being.What’s next for Hotter Than Ever: a book, live events, stand-up comedy, filmed episodes, partnerships, and more!Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on:
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As part of our ‘slow roll summer’ on Hotter Than Ever, we’re revisiting one of our favorite early conversations with Oprah dynasty legend, author, producer and transformation doula Sheri Salata.
In this episode, we explore self-love and renegotiating what life looks like after you’ve achieved your wildest dreams (hint: it’s not over!). We unpack what it means to focus on yourself beyond your work, and what happens when we choose to step out from behind the curtain and into the spotlight. Join us as we discuss:
The price of amassing conventional success and achievements, and how that factors into our self worth Learning how to steward your own wellbeing and ascend beyond people pleasing Recovering from self betrayal–in the many forms it takes–and learning how to have your own back What it means to choose discomfort in order to continue evolving, releasing, healing and upleveling, until our very last breath Getting over the shame that comes with the desire to be front and center, and to have a public voice and presenceOvercoming chronic dissatisfaction and learning to appreciate the time you have left in this world (and start using it to its fullest) Knowing that you can’t complain your way to the life of your dreams. Our actions are completely informed by the stories we tell ourselves, so start telling yourself an incredible story and get going!Free for Hotter Than Ever listeners! Check out Sheri’s Change 10 Words Workbook using this link.
OUR GUEST: Sheri Salata is an author, world class producer and transformation doula. She is the founder + CEO of The Support System, a global membership group for women dedicated to creating real-life transformation. Sheri’s memoir, The Beautiful No: And Other Tales of Trial, Transcendence and Transformation is an Amazon Editor’s Choice Best Memoir and an Apple Must-Listen audio book. Sheri spent 20 years in the land of Oprah finishing that glorious run as the final Executive Producer of The Oprah Winfrey Show, President of Harpo Studios and President of OWN as captured in the cable hit series Season 25: Oprah Behind The Scenes. Learn more about “The Support System,” Sheri’s global membership group for women empowerment through this link. Check out her incredible memoir, “The Beautiful No” here.
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In a world where beauty standards are constantly evolving and societal pressures can feel overwhelming, makeup artist Molly R. Stern brings a refreshing perspective to the conversation. With a career spanning over two decades and a client list that includes some of Hollywood's most iconic faces, Molly has witnessed firsthand the struggles women face with self-perception and the impact of the beauty industry on mental well-being. In this candid and insightful episode Erin and Molly dive deep into the complexities of beauty, aging, and self-love.
Join us for an eye-opening discussion as Molly shares her wisdom on navigating the beauty industry while staying true to oneself. We explore:
Why negative self-talk is so pervasive among women, regardless of fame, wealth, or appearance and the importance of shifting towards self-love and acceptance.The role of societal pressures and marketing in creating insecurity, and how to combat these influences.Molly's approach to her work as a makeup artist: prioritizing making her clients feel good about themselves and focusing on their individual needs and empowerment.The changing ideals of beauty over time and the importance of being inspired rather than emulating unattainable standards.The impact of the body positivity movement, and the rise of weight loss drugs on beauty standards.Practical beauty tips, including self-massage and nurturing skincare routines as acts of self-love and self-care.OUR GUEST: For over 30 years, Molly R. Stern has been a trusted artist and influencer in Hollywood with an engaged social media audience of over 60K followers. Molly has been recognized with numerous industry accolades. She was awarded Makeup Artist of the Year at the prestigious Hollywood Style Awards, and her outstanding makeup on the acclaimed HBO series Big Little Lies was nominated twice for an Emmy. A couture piece from her cult apparel line, m.r.s, was selected for the Goddess exhibition at the Costume Institute of the Metropolitan Museum of Art. The stunning makeup Molly created for the Disney blockbuster film, A Wrinkle In Time, was immortalized in a collectible signature Barbie doll line by toy manufacturer Mattel. Her #LOVEyourself mantra led to the collaboration with renowned jewelry brand Sarah Chloe. Molly resides in Los Angeles, CA with her husband, 3 children and 2 dogs.
Want more Molly? Find her online at https://www.mollyrstern.com/ and shop her Sarah Cole Love Yourself Collection HERE. Follow her on:
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“The job of life is to get good at change, because it never stops.”
Why do so many of us resist change instead of embracing it? For our host Erin, life over the past few years has become almost unrecognizable, but in the best way possible. In this episode, she takes us through her journey of navigating and thriving through these shifts. From battling COVID to a complete lifestyle overhaul, Erin explores the evolving landscape of her life and what it means to fully embrace change.
Join Erin as she recounts her experiences of significant personal and professional changes, emerging stronger, more self-assured, and more connected to her desires. We discuss:
Dismantling the "boxes" society places around us: work, marriage, motherhoodStaying connected to your desires and being open to new experiences, from romantic adventures to deepening friendships.Practical ways to actually ‘thrive in ambiguity’ and embrace the inevitability of change.Lessons from various life phases, from parenthood to navigating modern dating.Ways to identify and let go of dynamics and situations that no longer serve you, and embrace new, enriching experiences.Want advice about some aspect of your life over 40? DM us on IG @hotterthaneverpod or text/leave a voicemail on the Hotter Than Ever Hottie Hotline at (323) 844-2303 and your question could end up on the show!
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“I'm striving for excellence, but I'm not pretending to be perfect anymore.”
The Covid-19 pandemic was a watershed moment of change for everyone, reshaping both personal and professional lives. For our host Erin, it catalyzed her divorce and sparked a career pivot that led to the birth of “Hotter Than Ever”. But what major trends emerged post-pandemic that are now influencing how we navigate our next chapters—midlife and beyond?
To explore this, we’re joined by Lori Hamilton, an award-winning writer, director, performer, and insights expert. In this episode, Lori delves into her research, highlighting how the pandemic prompted a reassessment of our relationship with work, redefined our notions of success, and emphasized the value of authentic connections. Erin and Lori also discuss the joy and fulfillment that come from identifying and pursuing your unique talents and finding work that aligns with your core values, moving beyond the pursuit of perfection.
Join us as we embrace authenticity and explore:
Recognizing and pursuing your true gifts rather than forcing yourself into roles that don’t fit.Balancing corporate work with artistic endeavors for a more fulfilling career.How sharing vulnerabilities can enhance our well-being and relationships.Post-COVID corporate dynamics and the efforts made to shift from perfectionism to authenticity and genuine care in the workplace.The importance of aligning your relationship with your employer to your personal values.Focusing on relationships and activities that bring true joy and fulfillment, and setting boundaries with those that do not.Prioritizing environments that appreciate and value your contributions.OUR GUEST: Lori Hamilton is an award-winning writer, director, performer, and creator with 69 awards for creative excellence, including 28 for short films. Her work includes Project Spudway, a take off of Project Runway with animated potatoes, to Landalor Industries, a serious corporate satire, to North Star (or what I listened to instead of my intuition), a one-woman show from the Edinburgh Fringe Festival, to 150+ short films, comedy bits, TV pilots and feature film scripts.
Want more Lori? Find her online at https://thelorihamilton.com/ and follow her on:
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Navigating modern life as a working mother and a creative professional is no small feat. In this episode, we dig deep into comedian and Mom Ophira Eisenberg's journey through comedy, storytelling, and podcasting. Ophira, a multi-talented comic, storyteller, and host of the podcast "Parenting is a Joke," shares her captivating story with humor, and recounts the diverse roles she has embraced to carve out a meaningful career all while juggling motherhood and beating back toxic positivity culture, one post-it note at a time.
Join us for an insightful conversation as Erin and Ophira explore:
How career pivots can lead to greater professional successThe challenges of balancing career ambitions with motherhoodThe need for realistic, tangible support for working mothers How societal systems often place the burden of systemic issues on individuals, especially working mothersUnpacking the cultural shift towards positivity and gratitude, and the negative impact of the commercialization of wellness practices targeted at womenThe importance of creating space for real, honest humanity and actionable support for one anotherThe ongoing journey of self-care, setting boundaries, and the liberation that comes from learning to say "no"OUR GUEST: Ophira Eisenberg is a standup comedian, writer, and host of the award-winning podcast Parenting Is A Joke. She also hosted NPR’s Ask Me Another, interviewing and playing games with celebrities like Neil Patrick Harris, Rosie Perez, and Awkwafina. Ophira has appeared on CBS’s The Late Late Show, Sherri!, Comedy Central, HBO, and The Moth Radio Hour. Her memoir, Screw Everyone: Sleeping My Way to Monogamy, was optioned for TV, and her comedy special, Plant-Based Jokes, is streaming on YouTube. She performs regularly at The Comedy Cellar and other New York clubs, and her solo show, Leaving A Mark: A Comedy About Scars, won the Women in the Arts & Media Award for Solo Show Scripts.
Want more Ophira? Find her online at https://www.ophiraeisenberg.com/ and listen to her podcast Parenting is a Joke. Follow her on:
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