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  • Named one of the top 100 heroes and icons of the century by Time Magazine, Deepak Chopra has long been a towering figure in alternative medicine and spirituality. On this episode of Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu, Deepak Chopra examines the nature of consciousness and pursues eternal questions like, “Who am I? What do I want? What’s my purpose? What am I grateful for?” While advocating reflection, meditation and awareness, he describes the results of the deeply examined life, and gives concrete advice on how to deal with chronic illness, day-to-day suffering, and even the fear of death.

    For further information about Deepak Chopra please see www.deepakchopra.com.


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    SHOW NOTES:

    Deepak describes peptides, the “molecules of emotion” [2:42]

    How do you know what you know? What is the source of consciousness? [5:19]

    No neuroscientist can explain exactly how electrical information becomes experience [7:35]

    We have done a good job of dealing with acute illness, but not chronic illness [9:31]

    In addition to physical illness, humans also suffer from existential illness [12:15]

    Deepak advocates that everyone needs to ask clearly, “Who am I?” [13:50]

    Deepak discusses the benefits and limitations of panpsychism [18:45]

    Deepak describes the different forms of consciousness [21:28]

    Deepak explains what it means to say that the subject/object division is artificial [25:13]

    Consciousness can only know itself through experience [28:18]

    Why you should become comfortable with questioning your habitual certainties [29:01]

    Tom and Deepak discuss the power of silence [30:40]

    Deepak gives a brief breakdown of epigenetics [33:13]

    Deepak describes his daily routine and the four things he does every day [35:00]

    Deepak talks about his work and how he enjoys himself [37:26]

    Death is not the end of consciousness, it’s the end of a storyline in consciousness [38:37]

    Deepak talks about love [40:53]

    Deepak describes his mother’s incredible storytelling skills [44:20]

    Deepak explains why gratitude is so important [46:44]

    Deepak discusses the future of medicine [47:02]

    Deepak shares the impact he wants to have on the world [50:03]

    QUOTES:

    “To observe a thought is to know you’re not a thought. To observe an emotion is to know that you’re not the emotion. To observe the body is to know that you’re not this bundle of sensations and perceptions. So who are you? What is it that knows?” [13:01]

    “When you have time to be still, question your habitual certainties, you realize that actually, we know nothing. Nothing. Everything we know is made up. It’s a human construct.” [29:56]

    “Love is not a sentiment. Love is not an emotion. Love is the ultimate truth, and the heart of creation.” [41:09]

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    BOOKS MENTIONED:

    “Meta-Human” by Deepak Chopra [2:18]

  • Flying cars, virtual reality, quantum computing, genetic modification, artificial intelligence, migration into space, a real-life holodeck… Things that once seemed impossible are now becoming reality, and they are becoming reality much faster than most people had predicted. It’s not just that things are changing rapidly, it’s that the pace of change itself is speeding up. On this episode of Conversations with Tom, two of the world’s leading futurists, Peter Diamandis and Steven Kotler, join with Tom Bilyeu for a discussion of the future of technology, culture and the human mind. This future is brighter, wealthier, more abundant and filled with more meaning than most of us could have believed, and it may be coming faster than anyone is prepared for.

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    SHOW NOTES:

    Flying cars are even cooler than anyone expected [1:03]

    The rate of change is much faster than anyone thinks [5:22]

    Tom doesn’t even own a car, and hardly anyone rents a car any more [6:03]

    Quantum computing has been taking huge leaps forward [7:52]

    A company is now 3D printing rockets [10:33]

    3D printed houses will be three or four times cheaper than current houses [13:33]

    The rate of change is so rapid that people become afraid, but they shouldn’t be [16:17]

    What can be done if you’re seriously averse to loss, or afraid of change? [17:53]

    We’ve forgotten how fast things have changed already [20:38]

    We turn thoughts into things. What’s the difference between insight and intuition? [24:36]

    What will happen when we all have a version of Jarvis? [27:53]

    There will soon be brain to computer connection, and even brain to brain connection [30:53]

    Perhaps by the 2030’s we’ll be able to directly connect from our brains to the cloud [33:59]

    The panel discusses how virtual reality and AI could really mess up human relationships [35:11]

    What will happen when Jarvis or Alexa hears all your arguments with your spouse? [38:59]

    Peter brings up the problem of deep fakes [40:20]

    Is the rate of change so fast that we are just falling into things instead of creating them? [42:48]

    How do you change people’s frame of reference? [46:53]

    We create our own futures, limitations and expansive abilities [50:30]

    We will create more wealth in the next decade than we did in the last century [52:41]

    Hardly anyone writes near-future fiction any more because things change too fast [57:31]

    Peter talks about how new technologies will change real estate, business and storage [1:00:58]

    Peter and Tom discuss the need to be monomaniacal as an entrepreneur [1:04:29]

    How do we create a hopeful, compelling and abundant future? [1:07:05]

    The panel discusses gene modification [1:09:19]

    What are the ethics behind genetic modification? [1:14:52]

    There are already contacts that have augmented reality and virtual reality [1:20:13]

    Creating meta-intelligence and migration into space [1:24:57]

    Peter describes his experiences with plant medicine [1:29:04]

    Steven describes the potential downsides of plant medicine [1:40:52]

    In the next 20 years the human race will start irreversibly moving off the planet [1:42:01]

    We are getting very close to being able to constantly being in flow [1:46:56]

    What happens when VR becomes more meaningful than physical life? [1:50:02]

    Steven discusses learning to control dopamine [1:53:18]

    We will have more control of our own experiences in the future [1:55:06]

    BOOKS MENTIONED:

    “Abundance: The Future Is Brighter Than You Think”, Diamandis and Kotler

    “The Future is Faster Than You Think: How Converging Technologies Are Transforming Business, Industries, and Our Lives.” Peter Diamandis

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    FOLLOW STEVEN:

    WEBSITE: stevenkotler.com

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  • Hip hop star, venture capitalist and entrepreneur Chamillionaire embodies the hope that anyone, no matter how humble their background, can succeed at the highest level. He went from growing up poor in Houston to becoming one of the biggest stars in popular music, then flipped the script entirely and started an incredible winning streak as an investor. Through it all, he remained loyal to his core values and his community. On this episode of Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu, Chamillionaire explains exactly how he succeeded in hip hop, speaks passionately about the importance of forming and nurturing relationships, and even talks about how to overcome the primary roadblocks that stop most people from achieving their dreams.

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    SHOW NOTES:

    Chamillionaire credits his perceptiveness for much of his success [3:08]

    People don’t like to get advice, even when they need to hear it, because they feel judged [4:20]

    The number one thing that stops people from being successful is fear [8:16]

    Chamillionaire shares the story of his neighbor being murdered [12:57]

    You have to be brutally honest with yourself to change your life [17:18]

    Chamillionaire explains how he succeeded at hip hop [19:45]

    Chamillionaire describes having one foot in the streets and one in venture capital [25:37]

    Chamillionaire talks about the importance of relationships as opposed to money [26:49]

    Chamillionaire explains how he becomes as efficient as possible [31:46]

    Chamillionaire describes his attraction to the letter “C” [34:09]

    You won’t succeed as an individual, you’ll need a team [37:00]

    Chamillionaire shares the impact he wants to have on the world [39:09]

    QUOTES:

    “When people see my name, Chamillionaire, they instantly think of money. My first song, before Ridin Dirty, was a song called In Love With My Money. Everybody used to think I was in love with my money. But I wasn’t really in love with my money. It was really fighting for something bigger.” [28:15]

    “If you want to have success at scale, you’re never going to do it by yourself.” [36:59]

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  • This episode was originally published on Impact Theory's sister channel, Women of Impact, hosted by Tom's wife Lisa Bilyeu.

    For more content like this be sure to check out Women of Impact on YouTube or wherever you listen to podcasts.

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    SHOW NOTES

    What does it take to make a marriage work? On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu invites the person she most trusts to offer insight into that question--her husband of 17 years, Tom Bilyeu. And if nothing else, he’s certainly the only person she could reasonably ask to discuss his most embarrassing relationship stories. Over the course of the episode Tom and Lisa share their history and talk about how to build trust, why you need to keep your sex life alive forever, the extent to which you can influence your partner, and how to deal with changing roles in the relationship.

    SHOW NOTES:

    Why you have to choose the right person to be with in the first place [3:28]

    Your personalities can be different, but your values need to be quite similar [6:08]

    Tom discusses how easy it was to have differences when he wasn’t giving anything up [7:37]

    “I don’t even know who I am without you.” [13:24]

    To what extent can you change, manipulate or influence your partner? [14:13]

    You should never weaponize your knowledge of your partner [16:57]

    Lisa and Tom discuss the importance of defining words clearly [20:04]

    Tom talks about defining roles in a relationship [20:58]

    At first it was incredibly hard for Lisa to admit that she had outgrown being a housewife [25:04]

    Tom tells the story of how Lisa’s changing role affected him [27:20]

    Lisa and Tom discuss loving each phase of the relationship for what it is [32:36]

    You will always find other people attractive [35:19]

    Never take anything for granted, and keep your sex life alive forever [37:33]

    “Don’t make me feel bad for asking, and I won’t make you feel bad for saying no.” [41:48]

    Tom shares the story of how he and Lisa learned to not test each other or drop hints [43:02]

    FOLLOW TOM:

    WEBSITE: https://impacttheory.com

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    TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2SgF7TN

  • Functional medicine aims to uncover the laws of biology, treats the human body as an ecosystem, and is about creating health, not just curing illness. Mark Hyman is one of the foremost practitioners of functional medicine, one of its earliest advocates, and is certainly one of its best spokesmen. On this episode of Health Theory with Tom Bilyeu, Mark Hyman explains the rationale behind functional medicine and describes its most important features. He also gives detailed advice on improving the diet, talks about what it means to say that food is information, and discusses the connection between the body, mind, gut and brain.

    Get a copy of Mark's new book "Food Fix" here: https://amzn.to/38mWyY8

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    SHOW NOTES:

    What does it mean to say the body is an ecosystem? [1:41]

    How do you find the root cause of an illness? [3:18]

    Functional medicine is about creating health, not curing illness [6:08]

    How should you deal with bacterial overgrowth in the upper gut? [10:05]

    Mark explains how to test your microbiome [11:33]

    There is lots of conflicting information on nutrition but there are some common principles [14:40]

    Factory vegetarian diets harm the environment, but regenerative meat diets help [19:17]

    Why should we eat more vegetables? [21:30]

    What are the laws of biology regarding diet and nutrition? [23:19]

    Soy traditionally was processed in a very different way than it is now [26:30]

    All food is information [28:00]

    Mark describes the dietary principles nearly everyone should follow [29:17]

    Which kinds of vegetables should you be eating? [34:12]

    Mark explains the effects of eliminating the most toxic foods from a diet [35:56]

    We have the most inflammatory diet in history, and it directly causes illness [38:17]

    Mark shares his journey towards Buddhism, wisdom and compassion [41:10]

    Your brain, mind, body and gut are all connected [43:26]

    Mark shares the one change people need to make [48:11]

    FOLLOW MARK:

    WEBSITE: drhyman.com

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  • What if everything you think you know about yourself is wrong? Most people have the intuition that they have a self separate from their body and brain, and that they can control their experience with conscious will. But what if that isn’t true? Best-selling author Annaka Harris is devoted to challenging our deepest intuitions about the nature of consciousness and the self. On this episode of Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu, she discusses experiments on the cutting edge of physics and neuroscience, and explains why those experiments matter. The result is a fascinating conversation that will leave you questioning some of your most cherished, comforting intuitions.

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    SHOW NOTES:

    Consciousness is exactly as mysterious as it seems to be [2:29]

    Annaka defines what consciousness is [4:54]

    Tom and Annaka discuss the story of Phineas Gage [6:31]

    Annaka talks about the difference between consciousness and high level thought [9:14]

    There is a basic level of consciousness that doesn’t involve awareness of consciousness [11:35]

    Challenging intuitions is a basic element of the scientific method [14:58]

    Is there outer evidence of conscious experience? Is consciousness doing anything? [18:46]

    Upending comfortable intuitions is eventually a freeing experience [20:57]

    Annaka explains how the brain binds disparate signals to make them seem congruent [22:23]

    Annaka and Tom discuss how much unconscious brain functioning we take for granted [27:09]

    Annaka describes the false sense of self and conscious will [29:53]

    We make decisions before we are aware of them [33:41]

    Annaka discusses the question of whether or to what extent plants are conscious [35:30]

    Trees take care of their own kin, and defend their kin [40:48]

    What if consciousness is a field like gravity? [43:39]

    Annaka describes the double slit light experiment [46:13]

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    Measuring an event can change the past [51:41]

    Annaka discusses problems with the views that consciousness emerges from life [54:25]

    Annaka shares the impact she wants to have on the world [1:03:06]

    QUOTES:

    “There’s something jarring about learning that the things that feel most true to you about reality are possibly not structured that way.” [21:29]

    “We feel that consciousness is behind our willed actions, when in fact, there is a lot of neuroscience to suggest that it’s actually the reverse. It’s at the end. That all this processing happens, a decision gets made, and we’re kind of the last to know.” [31:54]

    “We have no evidence that consciousness is due to complexity.” [1:00:24]

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    BOOKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

    “Conscious: A Brief Guide to the Fundamental Mystery of the Mind”, https://amzn.to/2u7OR9H [2:19]

  • Unfortunately, most people never realize that their past does not define them. Former drug dealer Chris Cavallini has a past that would sink a lot of people. But instead of letting it own him, he has taken complete ownership of his own actions and their consequences. This process of learning, in his words, how to be a man, led him to start an extraordinary nutrition company that employs people who need second chances just like he once did. On this episode of Conversations with Tom, Chris Cavallini and Tom Bilyeu discuss constructing the self, living with integrity, and answer some tough questions about what it really takes to change someone’s life.

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    SHOW NOTES:

    Tom and Chris discuss the different reasons they each started working out [1:20]

    Chris shares the story of his childhood, not having a father figure and getting arrested [3:36]

    Around 25 or 26 Chris started to change his story of being a victim [5:04]

    Chris explains the events that led him to join the military [6:44]

    Boot camp was exactly what Chris needed as a youth [9:31]

    The most important thing about boot camp was that it got Chris out of Boston [13:38]

    Who you think of as “you” is a construct [14:20]

    The people around you dictate your standards, whether you like it or not [17:03]

    Chris shares the story of how he became a drug dealer [18:06]

    Chris explains why he finally changed his life course [20:35]

    You are hopelessly average, which means you can improve [24:41]

    Helping other people was the fundamental trigger causing Chris to change [26:41]

    What makes life worth living? [29:00]

    Chris advocates helping others even if your motivation is fundamentally selfish [32:15]

    Chris made a decision that he’d rather sit in prison than sell someone else out [36:12]

    Chris explains how he decided to take full responsibility for his actions [39:36]

    What does it mean to be a man? [43:08]

    Chris shares the story of getting a true second chance [46:18]

    It doesn’t work out a hell of a lot more times than it does [49:18]

    Chris explains what he looks for in potential employees [50:13]

    When you own your past mistakes, people stop looking down on you [52:47]

    Tom explains how he became reasonably good at interviewing people [54:51]

    Whatever you do, you have to do it badly before you do it well [1:00:59]

    Tom advocates that you need to have savings to make good decisions [1:02:56]

    When you aren’t legitimately passionate, it’s very hard to go above and beyond [1:05:43]

    The key to passion is mastery [1:10:23]

    How you do anything is how you do everything [1:13:06]

    Tom talks about taking control of the pain [1:16:24]

    Actively seeking out discomfort makes it easier to fix real-world problems [1:19:41]

    Chris advocates changing your diet to create self-confidence [1:26:28]

    Personal development is the most important work in your life [1:31:29]

    BOOKS MENTIONED:

    “So Good They Can’t Ignore You”, Cal Newport

    “Extreme Ownership”, Jocko Willink

    FOLLOW CHRIS:

    WEBSITE: www.christophercavallini.com

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  • John Maxwell is the most widely recognized expert in the field of leadership. But his accomplishments did not come easy, and he experienced plenty of setbacks and failures along the way. On this episode of Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu, John C. Maxwell explains why everyone has to go through adversity, and shows the best way to learn the most you can from experience. Specifically, he details the precise questions you should ask other leaders, describes the methods he uses to reflect on both hardships and successes, and explains exactly how you should go about having hard conversations with your peers and teammates.

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    SHOW NOTES:

    Leadership is nothing more or less than influence [2:59]

    John explains the power and value of connecting [3:39]

    Everything rises and falls on leadership [5:06]

    John discusses the extent to which leadership comes from your environment and mentors [6:29]

    “I changed from a goal mindset to a growth mindset” [9:37]

    We influence people by intentionally adding value to their lives [10:37]

    John details strategies for learning leadership skills [14:05]

    Before you lead people you have to find them [16:34]

    John claims that character is mostly developed out of adversity [18:34]

    John describes a U-turn leader [21:40]

    John advocates that competence and skills come from years of practice [22:42]

    John explains how he reflects and how he learns from experience [24:10]

    John explains how he deals with the hard conversations [25:42]

    What are the keys to developing leaders in your organization? [31:54]

    John tells a fascinating story about how influence works in groups [37:38]

    John then tells a great story about how to fail completely as a leader [41:31]

    John shares the impact he wants to have on the world [43:31]

    QUOTES:

    “One is too small a number to achieve greatness.” [4:17]

    “I stopped asking the question, “How long will it take?” And I started asking the question, “How far can I go?” And everything changed that day.” [9:20]

    “The character of a person comes out of their failures, not out of their success.” [15:20]

    “You can’t grow yourself if you don’t know yourself.” [19:20]

    FOLLOW:

    WEBSITE: johnmaxwell.com

    INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/30SqXL1

    FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/30SuBEW

    TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2Gj6mWM

    BOOKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

    By John Maxwell:

    “The Leader’s Greatest Return” https://amzn.to/3awosT4

    “Leadershift: The 11 Essential Changes Every Leader Must Make” https://amzn.to/2vd6LaY

    “Good Leaders Ask Great Questions” https://amzn.to/2Guzx9H

  • Dr. Shawn Baker is an extraordinarily accomplished athlete, but he is best known as one of the foremost advocates of the carnivore diet. On this episode of Health Theory with Tom Bilyeu, Shawn Baker addresses the controversy surrounding the carnivore diet, and perhaps surprisingly, does not advocate that every single person ought to go full carnivore. But he does explain the evolutionary logic behind the carnivore diet, describes its benefits, and makes a strong case that people need to take responsibility for their own health instead of delegating that responsibility to professionals.

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    SHOW NOTES:

    Shawn discusses the controversy surrounding the carnivore diet [0:40]

    There is no doubt that humans are omnivorous, but how suitable are most foods? [2:24]

    If at age 85 you can run 100 meters in 15 seconds, you’re probably doing things right [3:40]

    Shawn describes his methods of holding back aging [4:40]

    Shawn believes that not everyone needs to use a carnivore diet [5:33]

    Why you should chase health and not lab values [6:02]

    Why is sexual function important? [8:37]

    Yes, you can gain muscle at any age [10:20]

    Strength is much more important than size when it comes to muscle [12:03]

    The very first animals were carnivorous, and early humans were primarily carnivorous [14:00]

    Shawn describes what a basic human diet probably was thousands of years ago [18:34]

    Shawn speculates on why seed oil is so dangerous [20:02]

    Tom discusses his own transformative dietary journey [22:42]

    Shawn describes the absolute requirements for the human diet [26:15]

    The truth about why diets fail [27:24]

    Shawn discusses a forth-coming study on the carnivore diet [29:21]

    Tom and Shawn talk about how to measure improvements in health [31:58]

    Shawn addresses questions about whether people should eat organ meat [35:28]

    Shawn describes his experience in the military [37:51]

    Shawn talks about becoming somewhat immune to trauma as a war-time surgeon [39:59]

    Shawn learned how to improvise and think on his feet in war [41:45]

    What is one change people can make that would most improve their health? [45:03]

    FOLLOW SHAWN:

    WEBSITE: shawn-baker.com

    INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/38NZdds

    FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2tb8VaE

    TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2tWFMjC

  • An acknowledged leader in the “science-help” movement, Kelly McGonigal has dedicated her career to using neuroscience and psychology to develop methods of improving mental well-being. And she is now at the forefront of researchers and advocates who continue to explore the connection between mind and body. On this episode of Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu, Dr. Kelly McGonigal explains how to change your emotional states through physical movement, and also explains why movement has such a strong effect on the brain. She also describes ways to become more compassionate, shares the story of her own struggles with chronic pain, and gives surprising insights into why it’s not always good to try to control your inner experiences.

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    SHOW NOTES:

    “This is the book I was born to write.” [3:30]

    Movement and exercise are essential to mental well-being [4:15]

    Kelly explains the hypothesis that we have large brains for physical movement [5:50]

    Tom and Kelly discuss runner’s high and why he doesn’t get it [7:12]

    Working out your core reduces anxiety [11:03]

    Kelly explains how your brain receives information from your muscles and tendons [11:51]

    Kelly and Tom discuss how physical improvement changes your self-image [13:15]

    Kelly talks about why it’s not always good to try to control your inner experiences [17:53]

    Kelly describes her experience with chronic pain [21:05]

    Kelly has a strong gut instinct for whether or not things are consistent with her values [24:00]

    How do you teach someone to be compassionate and self-compassionate? [27:56]

    How to be a better listener [31:41]

    Kelly explains how she teaches self-compassion [34:52]

    Tom’s crucial insight that even the average human is the ultimate adaptation machine [38:05]

    Tom and Kelly discuss competition and cooperation [40:48]

    Kelly describes overcoming the need to be better than others [42:33]

    Kelly shares the impact she wants to have on the world [44:29]

    QUOTES:

    “Your literal moment to moment sense of self is always being informed by what your body is doing.” [11:36]

    “You can choose your values over trying to control your inner experiences.” [23:49]

    “So you’re lifting something heavy. Your brain is going to get feedback from muscle contraction and tension from the tendons on your joints. Your brain does not get that information and think, ‘my bicep is strong.’ Or, ‘my lats are strong.’ The brain thinks, ‘I am strong.’” [12:02]

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    BOOKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

    “The Willpower Instinct” https://amzn.to/38fkb4B [2:07]

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    “The Joy of Movement” https://amzn.to/2TvIXsU [2:53]

  • Ben Greenfield defies easy categorization. A science freak and renowned functional medicine practitioner, he is also deeply spiritual with a profound faith in God. That means there are some times when he and Tom are on exactly the same path, and others where they see the world in dramatically different ways. On this episode of Conversations with Tom, Ben Greenfield and Tom Bilyeu explore both the differences and the connections. Their discussion travels into fascinating and often hilarious territory as they talk about everything from raising children with love and logic to optimizing sex and the unexpected consequences of fecal transplants.

    SHOW NOTES:

    Ben describes stealing a bottle of bourbon from his father’s office [0:45]

    “In our house, there are no rules.” Ben describes love and logic. [2:35]

    Tom wonders how his Mom prevented him from doing stupid things [7:18]

    Ben talks about how small doses of things like alcohol can be good [8:22]

    Tom questions how much the benefit of wine is social [11:32]

    Ben recommends Cyrax laboratories for functional medicine testing [14:02]

    Ben discusses how autoimmune conditions are caused by all sorts of things [15:09]

    Tom and Ben discuss Lisa’s chronic illness and peptides [15:44]

    Tom and Ben discuss treatments to clear brain fog and increase energy [20:11]

    Ben talks about an app that improves memory [23:37]

    Ben goes into depth on the LL37 peptide and talks gut health [28:32]

    Ben describes combining anti-inflammatory remedies with exercise [35:05]

    There are fewer people in prisons because we have gyms [39:29]

    Ben talks about which exercises improve longevity the most [46:28]

    Ben and Tom discuss world records for things like push-ups [50:51]

    Ben talks about his ideal physique and diet [52:58]

    Ben and his family love cooking and their dinners are a big production [57:43]

    Ben finds confidence and comfort in spirituality, and having hope [58:53]

    Tom wonders what Ben imagines when he talks about soul and spirit [1:02:42]

    Ben discusses eye-gazing [1:07:17]

    Tom talks about why he does not connect with spirituality [1:08:37]

    Tom and Ben discuss how physical changes cause mental and spiritual shifts [1:13:03]

    Ben believes there is a divine purpose to life, to love as deeply as possible [1:16:31]

    Ben hasn’t hurt himself much as a biohacker [1:23:43]

    Ben and Tom discuss why you might want to avoid supplements [1:26:21]

    Ben talks about fecal transplants and their surprising range of effects [1:28:03]

    Ben explains his “bastardized” version of the carnivore diet [1:32:42]

    Health food companies need to make healthy versions of comfort foods [1:38:04]

    Ben describes the methods he uses to create boundless energy [1:39:44]

    How to optimize sex. [1:41:37]

    Ben and Tom talk about the spiritual side of sex [1:47:27]

    Ben explains how we can detect electrical fields produced by others [1:55:00]

    Ben and Tom discuss that sharks detect electricity and humans see light [1:59:12]

    Ben had to cut out of Boundless advice on mitigating the effect of partying [2:03:29]

    Ben talks about how he weaves science and survivalism into his fiction [2:05:08]

    Tom tells the story of how Impact Theory came about [2:07:54]

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  • Life coach to billionaire and one of the greatest influencers of all time, Brendon Burchard knows exactly how to make an impact. So, on this episode of Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu, Brendon details precisely how to achieve impossibly high performance, evaluate yourself and your goals, and deal with failure and stress. And he does it all while still bringing his trademark joy and revealing the qualities that have allowed him to build and maintain exceptional relationships and a vibrant community. Oh, and he still repels all the jerks!

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    SHOW NOTES:

    Brendon shares the story of being suicidal, then being in a nearly fatal accident [3:03]

    Brendon describes becoming obsessive about learning leadership and psychology [4:53]

    Your life is determined by each decision you make, every day [7:20]

    Brendon describes his self-evaluation and visualization process [10:33]

    How to observe your life dispassionately [17:55]

    Brendon explains how to deal with failures and feeling bad [21:04]

    Going through the motions is the death of high performance [24:29]

    Tom and Brendon discuss leveraging guilt and pain, courage and contemplation [25:56]

    Brendon strongly advocates the need for community [29:48]

    Tom advocates learning to endure hardship, failure and stress [31:50]

    Brendon advocates allowing joy and deep pleasure [34:45]

    Brendon explains how he came to value relationships so deeply [39:05]

    What one change could people make to have more of an impact [43:27]

    QUOTES:

    “Your life doesn’t end up an accident. Your life is a series of actions that you initiate or don’t initiate.” [7:58]

    “I’m totally cool with guilt. It’s good that we feel bad when we do something that is below our standards or that’s not right.” [22:29]

    “The world completely underestimates the power of visualization, completely misutilizes the human power of contemplation. The number one thing I say to my clients: Going through the motions is the death of high performance.” [25:15]

    “Emotion is not something you have. Emotion is something you generate.” [31:00]

    “I don’t attract assholes. I’m too annoying. I’m too happy for them. There’s too much positive psychology happening so all the assholes say, ‘I don’t like that guy.’ They don’t come to my seminars. They don’t buy my stuff. I repel all the jerks.” [41:05]

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    BOOKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

    High Performance Habits www.hpxlife.com [2:40]

  • Dr. Jolene Brighten is one of the foremost practitioners of functional medicine to try to understand health holistically, recognizing the connection between mind and body, nutrition and emotion, wellness and community. On this episode of Health Theory with Tom Bilyeu, she shares her own intense stories of dealing with autoimmune issues, chronic illness, an abusive family, bullying, and the long-term effects of using hormonal birth control. While describing her journey to genuine health, Jolene Brighten also talks about the three keys to rapid healing, explains why she doesn’t focus on what not to eat, and gives plenty of concrete suggestions on how to improve your diet.

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    SHOW NOTES:

    Jolene shares her battles with chronic illness and bullying [0:50]

    Jolene talks about growing up in an abusive and controlling household [5:25]

    We can choose to re-write our narratives [7:00]

    One tactic Jolene always uses is to carve out time to just think [10:41]

    Jolene talks about how her negative experiences contributed to her chronic illness [11:43]

    Jolene shares a story of when she publicly called herself on her own BS [14:21]

    Tom talks about the connection between mind and body, nutrition and emotions [18:25]

    Jolene strongly advocates that food is medicine, and that food is communication [20:13]

    Jolene explains the benefits of turmeric [22:27]

    Inflammation is not always bad--you need a little bit of it [23:25]

    “I don’t want to focus on what NOT to eat.” [24:27]

    Jolene is not a fan of products that have been dramatically genetically engineered [27:29]

    Jolene discusses the connection between soy and estrogen [30:00]

    Jolene describes good ways to get proteins and fats [31:50]

    Jolene talks about the difficulty of making recommendations when evidence is limited [34:09]

    Jolene explains the real effects of the birth control pill [36:00]

    A woman may find a different man attractive when she’s using birth control [39:55]

    Jolene advocates for a more balanced view of hormonal birth control [43:00]

    Unapologetically love yourself fiercely, set and hold your boundaries [47:35]

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  • Legendary motivational speaker Les Brown has overcome the most profound challenges. Over the course of his incredible career, he went from being labelled mentally retarded and working menial jobs to inspiring audiences of up to 80,000 people at a time. On this episode of Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu, Les Brown shares the truth about how everyone has to fail their way to success. He also details his strategies for improving his mindset, explains exactly how he transformed the story he tells himself about himself, and talks about how to deal with negative thoughts and negative people.

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    SHOW NOTES:

    Life is a battle for territory [3:07]

    Les discusses his battle with cancer, which he has been winning for over 20 years [4:35]

    Les explains how he changed his beliefs and the stories he told himself about himself [7:21]

    Les shares his experience with prejudice, and how he learned to have hope [11:53]

    Les explains how the dominant culture dismantles people’s creativity and sense of self [17:15]

    Les describes the most important lessons about success he ever learned [19:46]

    Les strongly advocates embracing your own uniqueness [22:53]

    Don’t live the life that was given to you by your circumstances [26:40]

    Les strongly recommends reading, changing your social circle, and finding a mentor [29:13]

    Les makes some surprising book recommendations [32:23]

    Les talks about holding negative thoughts in check [33:31]

    Les details his strategy for continuously improving his mindset [35:43]

    Les shares the impact his mother had on his life [37:25]

    Les tells the story of how he learned to be unstoppable [43:02]

    Les advocates listening, telling stories, and orchestrating an experience [45:37]

    Les shares the impact he wants to have on the world [47:30]

    QUOTES:

    “Someone’s opinion of you does not have to become your reality.” [21:34]

    “Life is a fight for territory. Once you stop fighting for what you want, what you don’t want will automatically take over.” [3:45]

    “No excuse is acceptable.” [24:18]

    “You will fail your way to success.” [24:46]

    “If your achievements outgrow your sense of self, you will unconsciously engage in self-destructive behavior.” [36:59]

    “If information could change people, everybody would be skinny, rich and happy.” [46:59]

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  • Sometimes a “learning disability” turns out to be a superpower. Sometimes traits that are labelled dumb or defective turn out to be necessary and brilliant. Eric Weinstein is someone who was told throughout his schooling that there was something wrong with him. No. There was (and is) something wrong with the system. On this episode of Conversations with Tom, Eric Weinstein delves into exactly what’s wrong with our education and economic system. While doing so, he also delivers some fantastic tactics and secrets on how to optimize your own learning and mindset. By the time Tom and Eric are finished with their discussion, you might start to consider the possibility that the Matrix really was a documentary after all.

    SHOW NOTES:

    Eric and Tom discuss the Matrix [1:17]

    Eric talks about how people literally see different colors [5:54]

    Eric discusses altered consciousness and mind states [8:10]

    Eric and Tom discuss spending time closer to a state of nature [10:23]

    Eric talks about how technology has changed his attention span [14:12]

    Eric discusses his goal of giving people the superpower of extraordinary learning [16:08]

    Eric talks about teaching disabilities and the failures of the education system [23:31]

    Eric explains how to eliminate the errors you make [25:58]

    Eric and Tom discuss learning to play guitar [29:33]

    Eric and Tom discuss using violent language [33:13]

    Eric talks about balancing rationality and archetypal spirituality [35:23]

    Tom and Eric discuss making a “steel man” argument [40:53]

    Eric explains that the guitar itself is born out of impurity [45:44]

    Tom and Eric talk about the math and physics inherent in music [49:34]

    Eric talks about how his learning disabilities forced him to find new ways to learn [56:02]

    Yo-Yo Ma never won any competitions as a youth [1:01:38]

    Do not over-medicate your kids. They can learn anything. [1:05:11]

    Eric explains how to teach music in a completely alternate way [1:06:23]

    Eric and Tom discuss the education system and why it fails [1:11:42]

    “My PhD belongs to every learning disabled family in the country.” [1:15:51]

    The kid you put in the dumby pile might have some superpowers [1:20:51]

    Tom discusses a billion wicked thoughts and sexual desire [1:25:05]

    Eric talks about how technology and economics have changed sexuality and family [1:31:18]

    Tom and Eric discuss economic growth and the lack of wage growth [1:39:48]

    Eric explains why people are not excited about their economic future [1:44:45]

    Eric ends by returning to the parable of the Matrix [1:53:00]

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  • Retired Navy Seal, globally recognized leadership expert and author of one of the most empowering books ever, “Extreme Ownership”, Jocko Willink knows all about making an impact. And now he is finally on Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu! In this episode, Jocko Willink details his leadership principles and explains how to apply them. He also talks about building relationships and trust, understanding human nature, and learning to control your ego and emotions. And he even takes some time to share his newest undertaking, writing children’s books.

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    SHOW NOTES:

    People asked how to apply leadership principles, so Jocko wrote his new book on tactics [2:07]

    Jocko tells the war story of how he learned to take a step back and detach [4:38]

    Jocko explains how he learned to avoid arrogance and to listen to people [8:48]

    Jocko then explains how he learned that he doesn’t always need to be the leader [11:33]

    Jocko advocates the importance of relationships and building trust [14:25]

    Jocko asks questions instead of making statements when disagreements arise [19:43]

    Jocko compares manipulation and leadership [23:14]

    If you want to be a good leader, you need to understand human nature [29:01]

    Jocko talks about why it’s so important to control your emotions [30:45]

    Jocko advocates learning jiu jitsu to help you control your ego and emotions [32:29]

    Jocko explains how to gain influence and respect [35:07]

    Jocko and Tom talk about Jocko’s children’s books [36:21]

    But seriously, if you’ve never checked out Jocko’s children’s books you really should [40:00]

    Jocko and Tom discuss how to focus on improvement instead of talent [43:44]

    Jocko talks about standing up to bullies [45:32]

    Jocko shares the impact he wants to have on the world [49:01]

    QUOTES:

    “If I’m manipulating you, I’m trying to get you to do something that’s gonna benefit me. If I’m leading, I’m trying to get you to do something that’s gonna benefit you, that’s gonna benefit the team, and it’s gonna benefit the mission.” [24:47]

    “It’s OK to be inexperienced as a leader. You can get through that as long as you’re humble, and you listen, and you take advice from other people. You should be able to do fine. No one expects you to know everything as a leader.” [9:07]

    “When I look back at my career in the navy, in the seal team, just about every single thing that I ever did was through relationships.” [15:58]

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    BOOKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

    “Extreme Ownership”, “The Dichotomy of Leadership”, “Leadership Strategy and Tactics” https://amzn.to/2ExQQpj [1:58]

  • Famed biohacker and best-selling author Dave Asprey is used to being on the cutting edge of functional medicine. Now he is trying to help everyone become superhuman and live to 180 (or beyond). On this episode of Health Theory with Tom Bilyeu, Dave Asprey discusses the primary dietary mistakes people make, advocates for some pretty unusual health practices, and details simple, inexpensive changes you can make to reverse the aging process and radically improve your day-to-day health.

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    SHOW NOTES:

    Dave talks about how to face death [1:14]

    Tom and Dave discuss reincarnation [4:04]

    Dave explains that the key is not time or money, but energy [6:41]

    The first step to living to 180 is to not die [8:10]

    Aging is death by a thousand cuts so the key is to take less cuts [11:07]

    Aging boils down to the mitochondria [11:43]

    Dave describes some tactics to optimize your mitochondria [14:49]

    Dave explains his methods of fasting [17:05]

    Dave describes chryotherapy, cold showers and cold exposure [22:10]

    Dave and Tom discuss dietary and weight loss mistakes [26:13]

    Dave discusses the utility of sometimes using a vegan diet [29:23]

    Dave advocates not overdoing protein consumption [31:07]

    Dave does not advocate a carnivore diet but suggests trying it for a brief time [34:36]

    Dave gives some simple recommendations to become superhuman [38:14]

    Dave talks about using amber light and red light [40:54]

    Dave advocates better sleep as the single most important change people need to make [44:56]

    FOLLOW DAVE:

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  • Manual therapist and movement coach Aaron Alexander knows that better health is inseparable from deep healing. As a result, he helps people align their mind, body, environment, posture and movement, achieving incredible results. On this episode of Health Theory with Tom Bilyeu, Aaron Alexander details exactly how to change a multitude of small aspects of your life to become physically and mentally healthier. Along the way he tells his own family story of a father addicted to crack cocaine, advocates dancing and just hanging, and discusses how to deal with the stress that seems to overwhelm modern life.

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    SHOW NOTES:

    Aaron talks about how body language, posture and dance affect the brain [1:08]

    Tom and Aaron discuss how music causes physical and emotional state change [3:26]

    Aaron describes the focus of rolfing, and getting the body into alignment [5:17]

    Aaron and Tom discuss how changing your facial expression changes your emotions [8:20]

    Aaron has benefited from psychedelics and they have helped him deal with the ego [11:10]

    Aaron practices compassion by going past surface level conversation and connecting [13:54]

    Aaron advocates becoming more childlike in certain ways [16:03]

    Aaron talks about some of the “diseases of affluence” like sitting too much [19:05]

    Aaron strongly advocates spending some time each day hanging [23:17]

    Aaron and Tom discuss “micro-opportunities” to live in a more pre-modern way [25:51]

    Aaron shares the story of watching his father become addicted to crack [28:20]

    You can’t teach what you know. You can only teach what you are. [31:20]

    Aaron describes how he uses stillness and meditation [32:01]

    Aaron and Tom discuss the importance of admitting what’s going wrong [36:24]

    Aaron shares the one change he would have people make to improve their health [40:21]

    FOLLOW Aaron:

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  • Legendary actress Kathy Bates has probably lost count of how many awards she has been nominated for and won. But very few people know about her battles with cancer, her family history of suicide attempts, or her own struggles with PTSD and depression. On this episode of Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu, Kathy Bates talks about gratitude, moments of grace, and the fact that you don’t have to be perfect to be remarkable. Along the way she tells stories of healing and tragedy, life and death, and memorably explains why she always thanks the crew.

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    SHOW NOTES:

    Kathy advocates that actors can create empathy and bring people out of their tribes [3:09]

    Kathy shares her family’s story of suicide [5:48]

    Kathy details the ways her mother had such a positive impact on her [11:14]

    Kathy discusses her own struggles with depression and his father’s similar struggles [13:39]

    Kathy describes the worst relationship she’s ever been in, and her battle with cancer [16:07]

    Kathy tells the story of a dead finch that turned into a powerful sign [19:15]

    Kathy explains how she learned to not always try to fix or control everything [24:13]

    Kathy talks about letting go and tells a humorous story about coke [26:12]

    Tom and Kathy discuss faith, God and moments of grace [27:21]

    Kathy explains how she opened up to a new relationship [31:10]

    Tom and Kathy talk about how you don’t have to be perfect to be remarkable [35:10]

    Kathy advocates humility and keeping a beginner’s mindset [38:59]

    Kathy interrupts her discussion of humility to discuss being mistaken for a stripper [40:48]

    Kathy tells Richard Jewell’s story [43:15]

    Kathy discusses working with Clint Eastwood and worrying that she was finished [48:51]

    We need truth in the media and government [52:19]

    Kathy shares her response to the question of what impact she wants to have [54:01]

    QUOTES:

    “I want to fix things, and you can’t always fix things. And you don’t always have the right to fix things. Sometimes those moments of grace just have to come. You can’t will them; you can’t push them on somebody else.“ [25:10]

    “You have to just slow down. You have to cut out all the noise. You have to respect yourself.” [33:50]

    “That’s why I always thank the crew. I’d be dancing around in an empty parking lot in my underwear just spouting lines without everybody. Even marketing people, PR people, everybody makes a movie.” [42:27]

    FOLLOW KATHY:

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  • Even Beyonce needed her alter ego, Sasha Fierce, in order to conquer the entertainment industry. And peak performance coach Todd Herman, after working with hundreds of Olympians and champion athletes, has learned that alter egos are an absolute requirement for extraordinary achievement. On this episode of Conversations with Tom, Todd Herman details exactly how powerful the alter ego can be. Along the way he and Tom Bilyeu discuss the need for rituals, share the real stories of how they got where they are, and even explain exactly how to have abundant energy in every area of your life.

    SHOW NOTES:

    Todd talks about what he likes about New York City [1:50]

    Todd explains why people struggle with change [5:01]

    The common words and phrases we use are actually what trap us [6:51]

    The brain tries to protect you from looking like an idiot to yourself [9:10]

    Todd explains how environment changes people [11:39]

    Todd describes the basic reason people need to create an alter ego [12:47]

    We all have multiple identities and uniforms, and they are all flexible and malleable [15:50]

    Todd doesn’t need to know who you are, because he can see your results [21:57]

    Todd asks “what are you”, not “who are you” [23:10]

    Todd doesn’t spend any time talking to people about motivation [24:39]

    Todd and Tom discuss how labels trap people and limit them [27:47]

    Todd loves archetypes but he doesn’t always use them [32:51]

    The most common alter egos people adopt are, surprisingly, Grandmas [34:57]

    Todd describes the need for triggers and rituals [39:00]

    Todd and Tom discuss the power of birthing emotional states with physical triggers [40:11]

    Todd and Tom discuss Sasha Fierce and why even Beyonce needs an alter ego [42:58]

    Any time you try to trick, deceive or impress others, it’s not healthy [46:35]

    We react to people based on the clothes they wear [48:57]

    The study that showed that kids did better when dressed up as Batman [51:03]

    Tom strongly advocates self-signaling and using totems to stay obsessed [55:00]

    Todd explains why he uses his glasses as a totem and ritual to get into his alter ego [58:17]

    Tom strongly advocates decisiveness [1:03:13]

    One of the great powers people have is playfulness [1:06:40]

    Tom talks about the need for scarring rituals to mark big life changes [1:09:52]

    Todd discusses how people’s family narratives can hold them back [1:13:15]

    The moment you decide that you want the ball in the final seconds, all bets are off [1:17:13]

    Why are horses so empathetic? [1:18:47]

    Todd explains how people find the alter ego they need for exceptional performance [1:19:45]

    Everything you need to be successful is already inside you [1:23:00]

    Pressure does not exist in Todd’s universe [1:24:03]

    Todd explains how to rebuild after a crushing loss [1:27:37]

    Tom talks about how important it is to love the struggle, not just the results [1:33:20]

    You have many identities and many roles that you play in life [1:39:13]

    It may be more important to be in a stable hierarchy than to be at the top [1:40:35]

    Todd and Tom strongly advocate mentorship and really learning something [1:43:37]

    Todd and Tom discuss authenticity and whether there is an authentic self [1:50:00]

    Todd explains how he is a completely different person for his family [1:53:54]

    Energy is not a tank that gets depleted in a day [1:57:09]

    Whatever it takes to get you to take action, do it, even if it’s “fake” [2:01:01]

    Tom and Todd discuss the real story on the mindset necessary for greatness [2:03:11]

    Todd shares the story of being sexually abused as a 12 year-old [2:08:12]

    Tom and Todd discuss the healing effects of MDMA [2:11:33]

    Be playful and be Batman [2:15:14]

    BOOKS MENTIONED:

    “Long Walk to Freedom”, Nelson Mandela https://amzn.to/2Pe7EXc

    “The Alter Ego Effect”, Todd Herman https://amzn.to/2Rrkyns

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