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  • Are you good at sharing your needs with others? Most people aren’t.
    Today on the podcast, Erin from Texas called in to talk to me about the fact that she has a really hard time opening up with others and being vulnerable about what she really needs and how she feels.

    She’s seen patterns in her life of putting others first and staying silent about her own needs…until it’s become problematic.

    We unpack some of the relationships where she struggles the most, and then I ask her some questions to help her get to the root of WHY — so she can begin making changes! If you have a hard time sharing your needs, listening to this conversation will get you processing your own story and give you some steps you can take to begin making changes in this really important area of your life!!



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  • Today on the podcast, I have a favorite friend back on for a SECOND on-air session, JP Pokluda!!

    In our initial conversation, JP and I talk through some of his challenges with having too much on his plate and moving into a season of burnout (listen to the conversation here).

    In that conversation, I asked if he had ever dug into his past history— and how it might be impacting what he does in the present.

    Today on the podcast, we jump into part two of the conversation and I ask him a few questions to consider from his past, and specifically his relationship with his dad and how that may have shaped his beliefs.

    Does he have father wounds that he needs to deal with? What could that look like? How may have his relationship with his father shaped his beliefs and motivations?

    No matter what type of past we come from, it’s important for us to look back and assess exactly how our past has influenced & shaped our beliefs and our identity.

    Tune in to my conversation with JP Pokluda!


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  • Today on Talk To Me hotline, I talk to Andrew from Texas! His question is, “How do you know you are healed after a past relationship?”

    After a 16 year marriage ended in divorce, he’s wondering how to know when he has healed…
    And even more specifically, when is it time to consider dating again after divorce?

    I answer him by explaining that it’s a complicated question, because everyone’s situation is so different… But if I narrow it down to one thing that I believe differentiates those who are healed from those who are unhealed.

    What’s that one thing you ask? That’s why you’ve got to tune into this podcast episode, I think it will help you change your perspective no matter what type of relationship you are trying to heal from in your past. We are talking about healing from past relationships today on Talk To Me!


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  • How do you handle rejection?
    Worse yet, how do you handle rejection from people you hoped to be able to trust?
    How do you recover from feeling unwanted or unneeded? How do you keep it from becoming part of your beliefs and identity?
    This week on the podcast I have a powerful on-air session with Alexandra Hoover, and we start putting together the pieces of the puzzle of what caused her to have a vulnerability towards rejection.
    I help her identify where this came from, and how it might be impacting other parts of her life and ministry. It’s a powerful and emotional conversation, and I believe it will really challenge and bless you in your personal life as well as in your ministry.



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  • Today on the podcast, I talk with Faith from Georgia!
    She’s 37 and single so she really wants to know how to know when you are trusting God with your dating life — versus when you are taking control of the situation yourself.
    Do you have to sit back and wait for things to happen, or can you take initiative?
    And what if you are a woman, where does that leave you in the equation of making a dating relationship happen – considering some people think it’s wrong for a woman to take an initiative.
    We talked about what waiting on God actually means and what it doesn’t mean… And how to be proactive with your love life in the meantime!!
    It’s an episode every single who is wanting to date should listen to!!!!



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  • Is it possible to serve God and stay filled all at the same time?
    We know for a fact Jesus did it. But why is it that so many struggle to keep the “balance?” What does avoiding burnout look like for everyday pastors and leaders who are juggling family and ministry and life obligations? How do you even make time to fill up?

    Today I have a conversation with Pastor Tim Timberlake, who so graciously wrote the foreword for Soul Care, and we discuss what avoiding burnout looks like practically in his life today as a husband, father, and senior pastor of Celebration Church. We talk about how he prioritizes resting his body as well as his time with Jesus.
    You’re not going to want to miss this FINAL episode of the Soul Care series. 



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  • Rest isn't a luxury, it's a necessity.

    Even Jesus, who was by nature God, yet also fully man -- took the time to REST. But so many Christians struggle to believe that it's okay to slow down, pace yourself, and rest - in a culture that encourages and affirms hustle, grind, and a fast-pace.

    In this on-air session, I talk to Kayla about the importance of rest and we unpack her struggle to live it out in her life, as well as help her get to the roots of her why. If you struggle to rest, this episode is for you.


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  • Today I am joined by Lindsi who called in to discuss her tendency to ignore or repress her emotions — until they suddenly and forcefully come up to the surface of her life.
    She feels like her emotions take over at that point, and she doesn’t know how to control them. She gets set off by the smallest things, ends up engaging in conflict — and she is desperately trying to figure out how to navigate this unwanted cycle.
    We talk about the rhythm of TUNE IN and how important it is to understand and practice in order for us to engage in SOUL CARE.


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  • So much of how we feel and what we do, is influenced by what’s going on underneath the surface of our lives.
    This is why we have to take the time to “tune in”.
    We’re tackling the rhythm of TUNE IN and today I am joined by Candace Cameron Bure for an on-air counseling session where we process her people-pleasing tendencies, where they come from, the work she has to do in order to fight off her people-pleasing nature, and what God has been teaching her in the process.


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  • Do you find that it’s hard to be present?
    Why do so many of us get stuck on the fears of the future, discontent in the here and now, or regrets from the past? Or what about the devices that we have living in our pockets, tempting us to scroll, and click, and watch — wasting our everyday moments?
    Today, I have an on-air session with Chris where we talk about his personal struggle to stay present, battle discontent, and enjoy the life he’s been given today. 


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  • Today on talk to me, I have an on-air counseling session with the one and only Ann Voskamp.
    We talk about the importance of savoring life through the gift of gratitude. And then we talk about how to actually go about savoring life when you are a season of suffering and it feels really hard to savor.
    If you are struggling with gratitude, being present, and wanting to do a better job savoring life…. This episode is going to bless you and encourage you to savor.

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  • Is self-care biblical?
    So many Christians are held back from the message of practicing SOUL CARE because of misbeliefs about the theology of self-care and soul-care. They have been taught that the Christian way is “self neglect”.
    In this special episode, I am joined by my new friend, theologian Joel Mudamalle, as we differentiate between soul care and self-care, as well as unpack some verses that help us make sense of the importance of caring for ourselves and why it matters.
    Tune in to this important episode on the theology of self-care!


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  • What happens when you are on the line of burnout on a regular basis?

    Today’s caller, Liz from California, feels like she’s constantly straddling the line of burnout. She has a really hard time with boundaries, especially with ministry. She feels like she’s taught to “trust the Lord” and push through, but not actually replenish herself. She’s watching people in ministry burn out left and right, and no one is teaching her a better way to do it. She’s even seen her own leaders filled with stress and fatigue — but it doesn’t look or feel healthy, and she doesn’t believe that is “trusting the Lord”.

    So where do you go when you’re bad at boundaries and no one has taught you any better? How do you even set boundaries in ministry when there is so much to do?

    We talk through all of this in today’s conversation. 




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  • Why do so many Christians struggle with boundaries?

    We are taught that boundaries are wrong, sinful, or selfish — and that we should always say YES and be ready to sacrifice and serve at a moment’s notice.

    But is this really the way of Jesus? Or could this lead us down a path of emotional burnout, codependency, and unhealthy relationships?

    Today, we continue this Soul Care series with an on-air counseling session with my friend, Bianca Olthoff. Bianca has been on the podcast before, processing pain from the past (listen here if you missed it!) but today we dive into the topic of BOUNDARIES and learning to protect your heart and calling.

    Bianca shares how she lived so many years with low to no boundaries, and the damage that caused in her life and in her relationships. We talk about her childhood, and how the concept of low boundaries began to take root in her life…and followed her into adulthood.

    It’s probably my favorite conversation on the Soul Care series so far, and I know it will challenge and change you!! If boundaries have been a weakness for you, you HAVE TO make time to listen to this episode from start to finish! Setting healthy boundaries is the Jesus way.

    Find out how!



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  • How many friends do we actually need? And does the desire to connect change through different seasons of life, or is it a sign that something is wrong? Today as we continue the Soul Care series, I have Cindy from South Africa joining me on the hotline to talk about her recent journey with friendships, and her decreasing desire to connect with people. We process whether or not this is healthy, where it might be coming from, and how she should respond to these feelings. It’s a really good conversation if you’ve ever wondered what friendship in adulthood should actually look and feel like.

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  • Isn't it amazing how we can feel so disconnected, when our culture is more "connected" than ever before through social media?
    Today as we continue the Soul Care series, I have an on-air counseling session with Carlos Whitaker, and we dive into his feelings of disconnect from his friends and family, ironically, during the rise of his online connections on social media. He had a lot of "followers" on social media, but not many real "friends". We talk about the roots that got him to that point in life, and unpack some things from his childhood that influenced his difficulty connecting in real life. And then we process what he's been doing to learn to connect in relationships in healthy and life-giving ways.
    It's such a meaningful and insightful conversation, so make sure you tune in!

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  • It’s book launch day for my new book Soul Care!! And I couldn’t be more excited to share this message with you. It’s a message about avoiding burnout, and staying filled. It looks at the 6 essential rhythms that Jesus practiced to care for his soul, and how we can do the same. I have no doubt it’s a message that will change your life like it changed mine.

    I have been anticipating this day for so long, and it’s finally here!! So, today on Talk To Me, I not only share my heart about Soul Care with you, but I also read you the first chapter myself with some fun extra side-notes as I read! I can’t wait for you to get your hands on this book, and tell me what you think!!


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  • Is there such a thing as going TOO FAR with caring for our body? Though the church culture can be silent about caring for our body, the world seems to make too much of it. How do you know when you’ve taken it too far and then what do you do about it?

    Today on the podcast I have an on-air session with Emily who feels like she tends to go TOO FAR when it comes to fitness and exercise, and wants to know how to find the right balance of Soul Care as it relates to nourishing her body. I help her find the source of the “lack of balance” (it’s pretty interesting!) and figure out what to do next today on Talk To Me!

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  • We continue our Soul Care Series today starting with the rhythm of NOURISH. The functioning of our bodies impacts every other part of who we are, but it’s one of the most neglected messages in the church.

    Today I have an on-air counseling session with fitness influencer Jasmine Mays, as we dig into her own story of learning to nourish her body after growing up in a world where she actually abused her body, without realizing it, by the way she was treating it. We talk about the impact of trauma on how we care for ourselves (or neglect ourselves) and it gets deep fast.

    But this conversation is so healing and life changing, and an essential part to Soul Care. Nourishing our body leads us to nourishing our souls. Give it a listen today on Talk To Me!
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    DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!
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  • Why do some people have a tendency to feel more burnt out than others? Why is it so hard to break cycles of feeling depleted and drained? Why is it so hard for some people to say no, to set boundaries, and to care for their souls? 

    Today on the podcast, we start our brand new SOUL CARE SERIES to answer all these questions and dig into some of these important topics in anticipation of my new book! 

    My first conversation is with Cyndi from New York who is struggling with burnout…and doesn’t know why she keeps repeating patterns that she knows aren’t healthy. She goes, goes, goes at work until she feels totally drained — and feels like her family gets her leftovers. The most important question is WHY….before we can practice healthy rhythms to care for our soul we have to get to the root of why we don’t to begin with. I help her unpack this in this really important conversation today on Talk To Me. 


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    DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!
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