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How much time do you spend focusing on how other people should change or behave differently?
Why we often struggle to show up as the partners / friends we really want to beWhy owning our own behaviours is important (rather than justifying them with the actions of others)And how to step into that future version of YOU
If it's quite a lot... you're not alone!
Our brains love to focus on how other people aren't doing it 'right' and how if they'd just change, life could be so much easier.
But in today's episode, I'm going to be talking about turning that focus inward.
And focusing on who YOU want to be in your relationships, regardless of what the other humans are doing.
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Do you feel a looming pressure to 'get your shit together' by a certain age?
Maybe it's a pressure to find a romantic partner...Buy a house...Get married...Have a child...
Her experience with fear and dread about turning 30Milestone myths - and the biggies we get caught up inSocietal pressures and how to handle themThe expectation gap - and how to close itAND her 4 step approach for overcoming milestone anxiety
Do you often compare yourself to other people? Like your brain is cataloguing all their milestones, just to tell you how far behind you are?
In today's episode - I have a conversation with the amazing Kate Berski - author of 30 Phobia.
And we'll be digging into:
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Do you find yourself feeling anxious when your partner isn't responding to you?
Why we struggle to feel safe when our partners are distant or taking spaceHow to regulate your nervous system and create inner safetyHow to challenge the beliefs and thoughts creating your fear
Or does your partner like to take some space after an argument - and when they do, you feel panicky and unable to calm down until they've returned?
If so - this episode is for YOU!
I'm covering:
Processing emotions meditation
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Do you ever fear that challenging your thoughts about other people's behaviour means you're gaslighting yourself?
The reason why we challenge our thinkingWhen fear of leaving a relationship gets in the way of making a conscious decisionHow the first thought your brain offers you isn't the ultimate 'true' thought
Do you want to make sure you're using these tools in a way that empowers you and doesn't keep you stuck in relationships that aren't truly what you want?
Then this episode is for YOU!
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Do you often find yourself feeling responsible for the way other people feel?
Feeling guilty if they're mad at you? Or changing your behaviour to try and manage other people's emotions?
Do you hear me say that other people don't create our feelings... but find that hard to grasp when it comes to your actions influencing other people's emotions?
If so - this episode is for YOU!
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Today I’m sharing a blast from the past - in the form of one of the first podcast episodes I ever recorded.
Do you struggle with trusting your partner?
Are you constantly questioning... but WHAT IF they are going to cheat or leave me one day? How can I trust them!!
Then this episode is for you.
We're going to uncover what trust actually is and why you don't need to focus so much on trusting THEM when you can trust YOURSELF. -
Our unmanaged minds can create so much unnecessary pain and drama in our relationships.
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If you often feel rejected and hurt in your relationships - then this episode is for YOU.
I'm offering you 5 questions to help you take back control of your fearful brain and feel empowered - regardless of what the other person is doing.
Ready? LISTEN NOW.
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When we're constantly spiralling in 'What if...' thoughts...
Why rejection seems so terrifyingWhat we're actually afraid ofHow dirty pain is the cause of a lot of our sufferingAND how to overcome your fears and feel confident and secure
- What if they break up with me?
- What if they're mad at me?
- What if they're lying to me?
- What if they leave me?
... it's because of how we're subconsciously answering those questions.
In today's episode, I'm talking about:Ready? LISTEN NOW.
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Do you tend to take things personally?
How to become rejection proof - FREE master classMaster Your Fear of Rejection - 8 week group coaching programme
Always interpreting things your partner or friends do as a rejection and then feeling miserable?
Do you anxiously worry about the future of your relationships? Spiraling in scary 'What if...' thoughts?
Do you avoid conflict? So afraid of losing people from your life for good?
If so - you likely have a fear of rejection.
And in today's episode, I'm sharing 7 symptoms of fear of rejection and how each of them f*cks with our relationships.
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Do you struggle feeling confident? And often find yourself feeling anxious, insecure, and filled with self-doubt?
Where confidence comes from (and where it doesn't come from)Confidence-eroding thoughts vs confidence-producing thoughtsAnd the two key components to creating unshakable confidence
Did you know that, despite what a lot of us think, confidence isn't actually something you're just born with?
And that you can actually create MORE confidence by managing the way you think?
In today's episode, I'm talking about:
Self Esteem Building Kit
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When you look in the mirror, are you quick to berate yourself with criticism?
The Self Esteem Building Kit
Mentally noting all the ways you need to change or 'fix' something about how you look in order to be 'good enough'?
When you look at pictures of yourself - do you instantly hone in on what's 'wrong' and beat yourself up?
With my wedding coming up, I have had a similar experience of noticing increasing pressure from my brain to look and be 'good enough'.
And in today's episode, I share 4 steps for overcoming these thought patterns and getting out of the 'good enough' trap.
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There's a lot of talk in the online space about needs and the importance of finding partners that meet our needs.
What do we really mean by 'need'?Why we often don't just ask for what we wantWhy need entitlement causes issues in relationshipsHow to see needs as a collaboration How to meet your own needs when your partner can't
But how do we actually go about asking for what we want?
In this episode, I'm discussing:Ready?
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Do you often avoid having the harder conversations with loved ones?
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Not really being truly honest about how you feel and sweeping things under the rug to avoid conflict?
Or maybe you do bring up issues, but you do it in a way that doesn't tend to result in connection...
Then this episode is for YOU!
I'm going to talk you through some key steps for cleaning up your own mind before difficult conversations and some practical tips for showing up as your best self.
AND how to make the conversation a SUCCESS - regardless of their response.
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Do you ever find yourself obsessing over and trying to decipher how much someone else likes you?
Why answering the question isn't cut and dry Why we're so obsessed with it in the first placeA better question to focus on in your relationships instead
Whether your partner loves you as much as you love them...
Or whether your friends feel as close to you as you do to them...
If so - this episode is for YOU!
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Self Esteem Building Kit
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Do you find yourself being pretty critical of the people in your life?
Questioning Your Thoughts Cheat Sheet
Your partner, your friends, your family members...
Feeling frustrated and negative about the ways they show up or the things they do / don't do?
Our brains' habit of criticizing can cause so much unnecessary disconnection in our relationships.
Tune into this episode to find out WHY we're doing it and useful tips for how to stop.
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In this episode, I chat with the lovely Sarah Siegert - Expat Friendship Coach, on all things FRIENDSHIP.
The manuals and expectations we have of our friendsFriendship breakupsWhen friendships change due to life circumstancesMaking new friends as an adultWhy it's really all about our thoughts about ourselves
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Whether you're in a long distance relationship or not - there will be something in this episode for you!
Emotional permanence, and how some of us struggle to believe our partners still care about us when they’re not physically with usCompromise and deciding how a long distance relationship will lookManaging your anxious brain and processing your emotionsThe fears that often come up in long distance relationshipsFeeling pressure for the time you spend together to be perfectAND how you can feel connected to your partner, even when they’re not around or in contact
We're going to cover:
Processing emotions meditationQuestioning your thoughts cheat sheet
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In this week's episode, I'm talking about how our upbringing, society, and external influencers can shape and determine the way we think about ourselves, love, and relationships.
Do you automatically think being single in your 30s is a bad thing?Do you feel a bit shocked when you hear someone doesn't want kids?Do you find yourself behaving in ways that don't really serve you, but you're not sure why?Are you super hard on yourself? And feel like you're never meeting the standard you (or others) have set for you?
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If any of these things relate, this episode is for you.
I will also be sharing 6 common beliefs I see screwing with my clients' brains and offering ways to challenge them.
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Do you try to use the tools and concepts I teach to manage your mind - but sometimes struggle to actually feel better?
Questioning your thoughts cheat sheetEmail about 1:1 coaching - [email protected]
Do you struggle to understand why something is bothering you and feel like you're skirting around the root of the issue?
Or often just have NO idea what you're thinking and where to even begin with thought work?
Thought work is the practice of working with our thoughts to change our emotional experiences.
As you may have heard before - our thoughts create our reality!
But often we can be so unaware of the thoughts creating our pain that we prevent ourselves from being able to address the real issue.
This episode is going to talk about moving past your surface-level thoughts to find the thoughts really creating your suffering.
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Are you often feeling disappointed, hurt, and rejected in your relationships?
What the 'They don't care' trap isWhy we end up thereThe problems it creates in our relationshipsAnd most importantly... how to get out of it!
And like the people in your life just don't make you feel loved and important?
You may be falling victim to the 'They don't care' trap...
Which is a pattern I see a lot of clients getting stuck in.
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