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  • School Safety and Mental Health

    It doesn't matter when you listen to this episode, if will always be relevant. School Safety is on the hearts and minds of most people all over the world.

    It seems like every day there is a new story talking about a school shooting, a teen suicide or some other tragic crisis among our young people.

    In this episode, John talks about the importance of prevention and mental health for our young people, and what we all can do to help.

    John also talks about why he's been gone from his podcast for awhile, and what he is doing now.

    If you are a school school staff, administration, a parent, or a student you need to listen to this episode!

    You can reach John on his website johncordray.com and on Twitter @JohnPCordray.

  • Signs of Depression

    If you think you may have depression or if you think someone you know has depression this episode is for you.

    Depression is an often misunderstood emotion and many simply try to deny it. But, depression should never be ignored.

    In this episode, John talks about the difference between feeling, 'down-in-the-dumps' and full blown depression.

    John talks about the current situation with the flooding in his home town to address this important topic.

    A few signs of depression that John talks about:

    Withdraw Sudden personality change Lack on interest Change in appetite and sleep patterns

    Learn what the biggest thing to do if you are depressed or if you want to help someone who is in this episode.

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    As always, thanks for listening!

    John

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  • Does Faith Play a Role in Mental Health?

    This is a great question from listener who asked me about my opinion about faith and mental health.

    I am a Christian, in fact, I spent 25 years in youth ministry helping teens navigate the up's and down's of life and helping them live their live's for Christ. So, when I was asked this question I was eager to talk about it on my show.

    As a therapist I offer Christian counseling, but only to those who desire it. I realize that many of my clients are not Christians, just like I know many of my listeners are not Christians, and I want to make sure they (and possibly you), understand that I do not judge you for believing something different than me.

    I have talked with many Christians who struggle deeply with their mental health and therefore, struggle deeply with their faith that God still loves them.

    In this episode I address some of the concerns within the church that I have heard from people who struggle with mental health issues.

    Feeling judged by other Christians Feeling guilty for doubting God's love Feeling shame for not attending church as often Feeling all alone

    These are common feelings among Christians who struggle with mental health. If you have or are, feeling down or your faith is slipping because of your mental health, please try to hold on to the truth that God does indeed love you. I don't know why you are struggling, but I do know that God cares for you.

    I hope this episode is encouraging to you!

    John

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  • Where Panic Attacks Come From and How to Stop Them

    If you have ever had a panic attack you know how scary it can be. In this episode, John talks about where panic attacks come from and what you can do right now, to stop them.

    People often misidentify a panic attack for a heat attack. Although the two can have similar symptoms, they are much different.

    Note: If you believe you are having a heart attack don't ignore it and get help immediately.

    Common symptoms of a panic attack:

    Heart races Hot flashes Sweaty palms and forehead Irrational thoughts Dizziness

    John provides helpful tips about what you can do right now to be proactive before your next panic attack. Panic attacks can come out of nowhere and it's best to know what to do when it hits.

    Thanks for listening!

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  • Don't Feed the Bully! How to Deal with External and Internal Bullies

    Can you think of a bully you have had in your life? Maybe you're experiencing a bully right now.

    In this episode:

    John tells a story of almost getting beat up in high school by the meanest, toughest bully in his school and what surprised him. What to do with the internal bully. How to stand up to your bullies. Why standing up to a bully can be the hardest and best thing you can do for yourself.

    Every time you give into a bully and believe their harmful lies you feed the bully. The more you feed the bully, the bigger they get.

    You can stand up to your bullies! Learn how to stand up to them the right way and you'll soon discover your inner strength.

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  • How You Can Support the Show!

    Visit http://www.patreon.com/johnpcordray to support the show.

    This was recorded for John's Patreon page.

    ABOUT ME

    I'm John Cordray, a Licensed Professional Counselor and a National Certified Therapist and I own a private practice in St. Louis, Missouri. I started podcasting and broadcasting video (Live & Edited) in 2015. I'm using Patreon to help find people who believe in the message that I am providing to help people around the world learn to cope with a mental illness. I hope to find individuals to support what I do with my podcast and videos to help me pay for equipment and to help cover other expenses that go into production.

    ABOUT THE SHOW

    Helping End the Stigma of Mental Illness One Show at a Time.

    The Mental Health Today Show started as a podcast helping thousands around the world with mental health topics. The show recently added live video on Facebook Live, where John interviews guests and encourages people who struggle with a mental health issue. People who tune in live can also comment instantly to John and he is able to answer their questions in real time.

    John also produces The Mental Health Minute as a short (PSA) with helpful tips.

    99% of what I do online is free to the public, but it can be expensive to keep up with production costs. With your help I'll be able to continue to help thousands of people who need to know that someone like me (a therapist) is here for them.

    WANT TO BE A PRODUCER OF THE SHOW?

    You can be one of my awesome "Producers" by supporting my work. There are 5 level tiers to choose from (every tier is a monthly subscription):

    Junior Producer ($3.00/mo)
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    Current needs to keep the show on the air:

    If you're not interested in becoming a producer (as mentioned above) you can choose to provide support for a specific need.

    Podcast Hosting Services + App = $30.00 / mo
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    Video / Audio / Graphic Design Editing Software = $75.00 / mo
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    Mic = $65.00
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    FAQ


    Q: How does becoming a Patreon work?
    A: Patreon is a convenient way for content creators to be paid for their work. So many creators are doing great work and Patreon is often the only way they can get paid. In my case, for example, Patreon is the ONLY way I am paid for my work, and I put a lot of work into my show every week.

    Q: I've never heard of Patreon, can they be trusted?
    A: Absolutely, Patreon was established in 2013 and has over 70 employees working hard to make sure your experience is great! I trust them with my content too!

    Q: How often do you publish your show?
    A: I produce new episodes (podcasts & videos) every week. My goal is to produce two a week. As I find more supporters I will be able to produce even more! Once I have enough supporters to go full-time I will have a daily show M-F.

    Q: Will I support you monthly or per creation?
    A: All of my Patreon supporters are monthly supporters. You won't be charged every time I publish a new podcast or video. I think it's easier for you to budget your support this way.

    Q: Is Patreon the only way you're being paid to produce your show?
    A: Yes, I have been producing my show without payment since June 2015, but it has been difficult to continue to pay for production costs.

    Q: What do you use to process payments?
    A: Paypal is the payment processor that I use. This means you can pay from your Paypal account or use your credit card. Paypal is also a great because it's a universal payment processor to make it easy for international supporters.

    Q: Are you really a therapist?
    A: Yes, I am a Licensed Professional Counselor and a National Certified Therapist. I also speak at conferences about my experience using social media, podcasts, and live video to help people with mental health struggles.

    Q: What if I can't afford or don't see a good option I want to support you with?
    A: First, thank you for your interest in supporting my work! If you don't see a good option on the suggested ways to support me you can always enter your desired amount. Anything helps, even $1.00 / month!

    Q: What if I have additional questions?
    A: Great question! If you have more questions you can visit the Patreon help center.

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    A: Super, thanks! It's really easy, just click on the link below and follow the instructions.

    Become a Patron and support the show here http://www.patreon.com/johnpcordray

    With your help we can promote a more positive perception of mental health. Together, let's say #GoodbyeStigma!

    Thank you,
    John Cordray, LPC, NCC


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  • Hollywood Actress, Erin Marie Hogan, Opens Up About Her Battle with Anxiety and Depression

    Have you ever wondered how an actor could be in a film, yet struggle with a mental illness? Think Robin Williams, Erin Bell, Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson and many more.

    I think we sometimes assume that movie stars have it made and live a perfect life, but as you will hear from Erin, it's not always as glamorous as it may seem.

    Erin talks about when her anxiety and panic attacks began, what triggered her first panic attack, and what she is most known for as an actress.

    Erin is best known for her role as Samantha Finley in Paranormal Entity and has starred in Hold Your Breath (Natasha), House of Manson (Linda Kasabian) and she has played on many TV shows including,The Bold and the Beautiful.

    IMDb: www.imdb.me/erinmariehogan

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  • Is Anxiety Really a Thing?

    I have been asked this question many times and I wanted to address this topic today. This podcast has been also recorded on The Mental Health Today Show Facebook Live.

    In this episode John talks about:

    The difference between worry and anxiety The importance of speaking up Anxiety in kids Taking ownership of your anxiety

    To watch this episode on Facebook visit The Mental Health Today Show Facebook Page. Be sure to "Like" the page to be notified of updates and other live recordings.

    If you're interested in being a "producer" that John talked about in this episode visit John's Patreon page to learn more at www.patreon.com/johnpcordray

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    Thanks for listening!

    John

  • PTSD and Firefighters with Carl Waggett

    Carl has been a full-time firefighter for 15 years and he is currently the acting captain of his firehouse. Carl talks about his denial that PTSD was real, to why it's so important to get the help you need.

    Carl recently had a dear friend end his life and now Carl wants to helps others to not feel the despair and hopeless that PTSD often inflicts.

    Post Traumatic Stress Disorder is very common, and does not only affect first responder and military personnel.

    Carl talks about the importance to not give in to being alone or to push others away when your struggling.

    Carl's two biggest tips are:

    1. Don't do this alone.

    2. Seek out help from a professional

    Carl's podcast (iTunes)

    Carl's blog

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  • How to Help an Anxious Person Without Being a Jerk

    Most people want to help, and they mean well, but sometimes it comes out wrong. John provides helpful tips for someone who wants to help an anxious person and for the anxious person to speak up and say what would be helpful.

    If you are someone who is anxious a lot, you've probably have had someone in your life say things that made you feel dumb. Things like "Try to think more positive" or "Just do it and it will be fine" or better yet, "Just snap out of it".

    These comments are not helpful. In fact, they can make things worse. Here are a few tips for both the helper and the anxious person.

    For the Helper:

    1. Don't offer advice. If you have never had true anxiety before you really don't understand what it's like.

    2. Do say that you want to understand. It's okay to ask the person what it's like to live with anxiety and how bad it currently is.

    3. Don't always try to offer a solution. Calming anxiety is not a quick fix, so stay away from offering a one-size-fits-all solution.

    4. Don't pressure. Do not pressure someone to feel better on your terms.

    For the Anxious Person:

    1. Be open with trusted people. Don't keep your anxious thoughts to yourself. Learn to open up to someone you can trust.

    2. Educate those who don't understand. The only way for someone to learn about what it's like to live with anxiety is to tell them. Don't assume everyone understands.

    3. Help others who have anxiety. You are a pro at living with anxiety. You know all too well what it's like, so you, more than anyone, understands what it's like. Sometimes only saying that you know what it's like can make a big difference.

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    John Cordray is a National Certified Therapist and the host of The Mental Health Today Show.

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  • You Only Have One Life To Live

    How would you act if you knew if you were going to die at the end of the week?

    Would knowing that you did not have much time make you have a sense of urgency to change your mindset about your life?

    There is so much hate and hurt in our world today that I think we often take our life for granted. We assume that we have plenty of time left on this earth - but we don't really know that.

    How about, instead of hating and hurting people, instead of tearing them down and judging the way they look or believe, we treat all people with respect and dignity that they deserve.

    We only have one life to live and we should live it to it's fullest. To be helpful to our fellow man, instead of criticizing.

    How will you live the only life you have? I choose to live my life by loving others and promoting respect and positivity.

    I hope you'll do the same.

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  • How Self Awareness is Vital to Emotional Health

    Understanding who you are and what makes you tick is pivotal for developing a healthy emotional life.

    John talks about how many people end up on one end of the spectrum of either self doubt or self inflation.

    Having self awareness means that you know and understand what your weaknesses are and working towards becoming a better person.

    Many people are either living in self doubt and shame and can only focus on their weakness. This allows for low self confidence to take over which often creates anxiety and depression.

    Other people tend to focus on their strengths and become arrogant and haughty. This allows for judgement and entitlement to take over which often leads to putting others down in order to build themselves up.

    John talks about how to achieve a healthy emotional balance which is good for everyone.

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  • Recovering From Grief and Loss

    Going through a loss of a loved one, or even a beloved pet can be so difficult, and almost unbearable for some.

    In this episode, John talks about how everyone grieve's in their own way, but it's important to know when to move forward.

    Moving forward from a loss does not mean forgetting. It means you realize moving on means celebrating the life that was loss. You will always have a whole in your heart, but you can, and must, recover and live.

    Some people talk about the 5 Stages of Grief, but John realizes that not everyone finds those particular stages helpful.

    If you have or are experiencing a loss, please find others who knew the person who has passed and try to share memories and even funny moments. Your loved one would want you to be happy instead of stuck deep into depression.

    You WILL be okay!

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  • Meditation May Be Just What You Need

    Life is full of stress, deadlines and overwhelm and you may need to do something about your life before you have a mental breakdown.

    Meditation may seem weird or a bit mystical to you, but meditation has been practiced by most religions for centuries.

    Meditation does not have to be weird or mystical, but it will likely help you become more self-aware and confident than ever.

    You can practice meditation anywhere and at any time and it involves these elements:

    Clearing your mind Calming your heart Being in the moment (mindfulness)

    If you are stressed, have a hard time sleeping, or feel overwhelmed, meditation may be just what you need. Try it, you just may become a calmer person.

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  • Dealing with Suicidal Thoughts

    Many people deal with suicidal thoughts every day. Sadly, suicide is the second leading cause of death among our young people. If you are dealing with suicidal thoughts you have options.

    There are many different reasons why someone would think about ending their own life, and many of the thoughts involve some form of distorted thinking that somehow everyone would be better off.

    But, that's far from the truth. If you are dealing with suicidal thoughts there are people who care about you.

    Find a good friend or family member to talk with, or contact a suicide lifeline to talk to someone who cares.

    In the US contact the Suicide Prevention Life Line (800-273-8255) or go to their website www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org

    For my international friends visit the International Association for Suicide Prevention at www.iasp.info

    There is always help when you are at your darkest hour. Please don't give up hope, tomorrow is a new day.

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  • Emotional Abuse is a Silent Killer

    Emotional abuse - is abuse (period)! Emotional abuse can be just as harmful as physical abuse, but emotional abuse is not that easy to identify.

    Emotional abuse is when someone constantly belittles another person for the purpose of building themselves up.

    Emotional abuse is never okay, and should never be dismissed.

    If you believe you are in an emotionally abusive relationship get help. Find a therapist to help you establish healthy boundaries and help you establish your next steps to be safe.

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  • Living with a Narcissist

    Living with a narcissist or working for a narcissist can be very challenging. Many times you're made to feel inferior to them and you feel like a doormat.

    A few hallmarks of a narcissist is an elevated and exaggerated sense of self worth. A narcissist believes he or she is "special" and better than the average person.

    A lack of empathy and therefore a lack of affection is another trademark of a narcissist. A narcissist can't relate to other people's struggle because if they're not struggling then no one else should either.

    Someone who is a narcissist will always want to win and will often go to great length's to prove their ability to win.

    Often times, narcissistic people have high ranking positions such as CEO's, pastors, administrators, etc. and their way is the only right way.

    If you are living with a narcissist you first need to work on yourself and build your self-confidence and then set firm and strong boundaries that require the narcissist to get help.

    You must be able to set firm boundaries if you want change to take place.

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  • Anxiety That Makes You Feel Nauseous

    Has anxiety ever made you feel sick? You probably skip a meal when you feel nauseous don't you?

    In this episode of The Mental Health Today Show, John talks about how anxiety can make you feel sick and what to do about it.

    It's not good to skip meals, but when you feel nauseous you don't feel like eating a big meal. What do you do?

    John offers some practical tips to help you stay hydrated and healthy, even if you feel anxious and sick. Listen as John give you some ideas about what to do and make a list of your own ideas.

    What do you do to stay healthy when you feel anxious and nauseous?

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  • Your Emotional Intelligence is Greater Than Your IQ

    We spend too much time talking about IQ within our educational system and not enough time talking about emotional intelligence.

    Most employers don't ask to see your GPA, but nearly all employers ask for references. Why? Your future employer wants to make sure you'll be a good fit and will do your job. References are for learning about how you get along with people as it is with how well you do your job.

    The next time you get down on yourself, don't confuse your emotional struggles with your IQ. Stop calling yourself stupid when you don't understand something right away.

    Learn to become self-aware and start working on becoming a better human being who likes people, and spend less time comparing your IQ with others - that's not productive.

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  • Overcoming Unhealthy Family Patterns

    As anyone ever told you, You are just like your mom or You are just like your dad? Or, maybe you have thought those words yourself.

    John talks about ways you can overcome unhealthy family patterns that you may have learned as a child growing up.

    Some of you respond to this in one of two ways: Shame or Denial.

    Feelings of shame, regret, and resentment will destroy your self-confidence and effect your relationships.

    Feelings of denial can come across as selfish, self-centeredness and outright refusal to change.

    Both ways of handling unhealthy family patterns are, well... unhealthy. If you want to build your self-confidence or become more humble you must be willing to work on your stuff.

    John will encourage and admonish you to start working on yourself and to (once and for all) overcome the unhealthy patterns that were passed down from your family!

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