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Dive into the curious world of “gooning,” a term that’s swept both the queer subculture and mainstream conversations. Daniel and Garet break down its roots as a kink-focused term used to describe a trance-like euphoric state, and discuss how it’s now become a playful way to express intense excitement. From pop icon obsession to reality TV indulgence, the hosts unpack why gooning isn’t just for sexual exploration anymore—it’s become part of everyday language, humor, and pop culture. What does it say about queer subcultures when their unique terms break into the mainstream? And should we be cautious about overusing and trivializing these identities, or is this just another step in the evolution of modern LGBTQ+ language? Tune in to find out, laugh, and maybe even discover your own goon face!
Key Highlights:
Gooning Origins: A deep dive into the history of “gooning” as a sexual practice within queer communities.Pop Culture Crossovers: How gooning has evolved from a kinky term to a mainstream word embraced by pop culture.Housewives and Pop Stars: The latest buzz from the world of pop icons like Tate McRae, Normani, and reality TV favorites.Language Evolution: A discussion on how queer slang like “gagged,” “gooped,” and “gooning” enters everyday language.Queer Subculture Insights: Exploring how niche sexual subcultures influence and shape larger societal trends.___
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In this insightful episode, Daniel and Garet sit down with Dan Harry, star of I Kissed a Boy and a powerful voice in HIV and sexual health advocacy. Dan opens up about his experience on the UK’s first gay dating show, shedding light on the pressures of on-screen dating and the vulnerability that comes with reality TV. Beyond the entertainment world, Dan is making a significant impact in the LGBTQ+ community by participating in an HIV vaccine trial and hosting the BBC documentary HIV, PrEP & Me. Together, they explore the evolving conversations around HIV prevention, the importance of breaking down stigma, and how the gay community can prioritize sexual health. Dan’s candidness about his personal struggles in dating, public perception, and advocacy work makes this a must-listen for anyone interested in both love and community activism.
Key Highlights:
Dan’s Reality TV Experience: Dan talks about his unexpected journey on I Kissed a Boy and how joining later in the show impacted his confidence and connections.HIV Advocacy and PrEP: Dan discusses his role in an HIV vaccine trial and his BBC documentary, highlighting the importance of PrEP and HIV prevention education.Breaking Stigma: The conversation dives deep into how HIV stigma still exists and why it’s essential to dismantle it, especially in the LGBTQ+ dating world.Dating in the Spotlight: Dan shares how being on reality TV has changed his dating life and the toxic traits he’s working to overcome.Words of Wisdom: Dan reflects on how what may be seen as weaknesses can be our greatest strengths, offering empowering advice for those navigating the dating world.___
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In this episode, Daniel and Garet unpack the complex role of the messenger, using Selling Sunset’s latest drama as a case study. From holding onto secrets to dealing with backlash, the hosts explore the fine line between being helpful and being perceived as stirring the pot. Is it ever okay to share private information if you think you’re protecting a friend? Or does the blame always fall on the one delivering bad news? Reflecting on both the show and their own experiences, the duo offers listeners relatable insights on trust, communication, and managing drama in their own relationships. Tune in as they dissect the fine art of being the vault, the ally, or the unfortunate bearer of bad news.
The Messenger’s Dilemma: Is delivering sensitive information an act of kindness or meddling?Selling Sunset Drama: The blurred lines between reality TV and real-life relationships.Trust vs. Intention: How your role as a messenger impacts the trust others place in you.Reality TV’s Influence on Friendship: How shows like Selling Sunset mirror real-life dynamics.Navigating Gossip: Balancing empathy and honesty when delivering uncomfortable truths.
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In this heartfelt episode, Daniel and Garet sit down with Jake and Sean from DaddiestoThree to explore the dynamic and sometimes unpredictable world of gay parenthood. From their initial desire to start a family to the unexpected news of triplets, Jake and Sean share the intimate details of their surrogacy journey, including the emotional impact of miscarriage and the joy of finally welcoming three healthy babies. As they navigate the complexities of IVF, surrogacy, and being visible gay parents, Jake and Sean open up about the importance of representation, the power of community, and the reality of daily life with three toddlers. This conversation is filled with moments of laughter, vulnerability, and inspiration, offering a unique glimpse into what it means to create a family on your own terms.
Key Highlights
From Surrogacy to Triplets: Jake and Sean recount their journey from finding a surrogate to the surprise of having triplets, highlighting the rollercoaster of emotions involved in gay parenthood.Overcoming Challenges: The couple opens up about their experience with miscarriage and how they found the strength to continue their journey toward parenthood.Importance of Visibility: Jake and Sean discuss the significance of sharing their story online, aiming to provide hope and representation for other LGBTQ+ individuals and couples.Support Systems: The episode dives into the crucial role of community and family support, especially during the highs and lows of their surrogacy process.Balancing Authenticity and Advocacy: They talk about balancing personal life with their advocacy work, especially in the current political climate, and how they use their platform to support other queer families.___
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Daniel and Garet dive into the concept of “short and sweet,” discussing how brevity can enhance various aspects of life, from storytelling to relationships. They explore the balance between keeping things concise while still conveying depth and meaning, touching on personal anecdotes and larger cultural phenomena like the upcoming Gay Games in Melbourne. The hosts challenge the notion that longer is always better, proposing that sometimes the most impactful moments are those that are brief but memorable. How do we determine when to keep things short and when to dive deep? And what can the LGBTQ+ community learn from the practice of mindful brevity in both personal and public spheres?
Key Highlights:
Understanding “Short and Sweet”: The hosts discuss the value of brevity in storytelling and daily interactions, and how this approach can often lead to more meaningful connections.The Gay Games 2030: A conversation about Melbourne’s bid to host the Gay Games, exploring its history, inclusivity, and the importance of representation in sports.Navigating Relationships: Insights on embracing short-term relationships, focusing on the lessons and growth they offer rather than their duration.Effective Communication: How to say more with less—developing the skill of impactful communication through mindful listening and concise expression.Cultural Reflections: Daniel and Garrett reflect on the importance of valuing experiences for what they are, without the pressure of longevity, and how this perspective can enrich both personal growth and community dynamics.___
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Daniel and Garet are joined by the legendary acting coach Margie Haber, who has helped shaped the careers of Hollywood stars like Halle Berry and Brad Pitt. Inspired by Margie’s book F*ck Your Comfort Zone, the trio dives deep into the paralyzing grip of fear and how to break free from it. Margie shares her journey of self-discovery and the importance of embracing discomfort to grow, offering powerful insights that go beyond acting. Whether you’re looking to change careers, come out, or simply live more authentically, this episode is packed with wisdom to help you say “f**k it” to your fears and start living the life you deserve.
Key Highlights
Overcoming Fear: Margie discusses how fear can either motivate or paralyze, and offers tools to harness it for personal growth.Comfort Zones as Traps: Insight into how comfort zones act as self-imposed prisons and why breaking out is crucial.The Power of Saying Yes: Margie shares how saying “yes” to opportunities, even when they’re scary, can lead to transformative experiences.Balancing Multiple Selves: Exploring the concept of embracing all parts of yourself, from the nurturing parent to the playful child.The Circle of Life: Understanding that life’s ups and downs are natural, and how to keep moving forward despite setbacks.___
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From the timeless romance of Sarah Paulson and Holland Taylor to the unique dynamic between RuPaul and George LeBar, these couples teach us that love is not one-size-fits-all. The discussion spans across monogamous, open, and polyamorous relationships, highlighting the importance of mutual respect, admiration, and staying true to your authentic self. How do these relationships thrive despite societal pressures and personal challenges? And what can we learn from their journeys to apply in our own lives? Tune in for a conversation that celebrates love in all its forms.
Key Highlights:
Monogamy, Open, and Everything In-Between: Insights into how different celebrity couples navigate various relationship dynamics.Sarah Paulson & Holland Taylor: A deep dive into their 32-year age gap and their mutual admiration that keeps their love strong.RuPaul & George LeBar: Exploring the balance of independence and togetherness in a 30-year open relationship.Tom Daley & Dustin Lance Black: The role of family and shared values in sustaining their monogamous marriage.Redefining Love: How these couples break societal norms and create their unique love stories.___
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In this episode of Modern Gays, Daniel and Garet delve into the ever-evolving landscape of modern dating, exploring new trends that are shaping how we connect and build relationships in 2024. They discuss the phenomenon of “beard fishing,” where profile pictures with misleading beard lengths cause confusion and disappointment in real-life encounters. The hosts also share insights on the rise of “soft starts” and “low-pressure dates” (LPDs), emphasizing the importance of a more measured and relaxed approach to dating. As they reflect on their own dating experiences and those of their friends, Daniel and Garet offer valuable advice for navigating the dating scene with authenticity and confidence. Whether you’re single, dating, or in a relationship, this episode provides a thoughtful and entertaining look at the current trends in LGBTQ+ dating.
Key Highlights
Beard Fishing: Discover the new dating trend where misleading beard lengths in profile pictures cause real-life surprises.Soft Starts: Learn about the trend of beginning relationships with low-key, non-committal interactions.Low-Pressure Dates (LPDs): Understand the significance of casual, stress-free dating activities for building genuine connections.Dating App Insights: Explore how platforms like Hinge are influencing LGBTQ+ dating with data-driven trends and practices.Personal Stories: Hear Daniel and Garet's own experiences and reflections on navigating the modern dating world.___
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Who's in your "close friends"? Daniel and Garet dive deep into the intriguing world of Instagram’s Close Friends feature, discussing how it reshapes online intimacy and the dynamics within the gay community. From personal anecdotes about provocative posts to the broader implications of creating micro-communities, they explore the various ways people use (and sometimes misuse) this green-circled space. They also touch on current events, including the Paris Olympics and its impact on gay culture, along with the recent Grindr restrictions within the Olympic village. Tune in to uncover how Close Friends can be a platform for authenticity, a space for provacative moments, or just another way to share the mundane moments of life with a selected few.
Key Highlights
Close Friends Feature: Understanding the purpose and personal experiences with Instagram’s Close Friends.Olympic Highlights: Discussing the Paris Olympics, including drag queen performances and Grindr restrictions.Privacy Concerns: Exploring the impact of privacy settings and the importance of intentional sharing.Community Building: How Close Friends can create micro-communities and safe spaces for self-expression.Content Strategies: Tips on effectively using Close Friends for personal and engaging content sharing.___
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In this episode of Modern Gays, Daniel and Garet dive deep into the realities of facing hate and criticism as members of the LGBTQ+ community. Inspired by a recent episode of RuPaul's Drag Race Canada vs. the World, they discuss the pervasive issue of haters, both online and offline, and the unique challenges queer individuals face in today's political climate. The conversation touches on personal experiences, the intersection of social media and public perception, and the importance of resilience and support within the community. They also explore the nuances of hate versus criticism and offer strategies for dealing with negativity in a constructive way. Tune in for an insightful discussion that balances heavy topics with moments of humor and hope.
Haters and Social Media: The impact of negative comments and how they altered Daniel and Garet's social media approach.RuPaul's Drag Race Inspiration: How a performance on the show sparked a deeper conversation about intra-community judgment.Political Climate: The hosts' thoughts on the U.S. election and its broader implications for the LGBTQ+ community.Coping Strategies: Tips for distinguishing between hate and constructive criticism and how to handle each.Community Support: The importance of uplifting one another and fostering a supportive environment within the LGBTQ+ community.
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From recounting personal stories of sweaty encounters to debating whether socks should stay on or come off during sex, Daniel and Garet provide a humorous yet insightful look at what constitutes good manners in intimate situations. They also explore the rules and excitement of cruising, the rise of Sniffies as a mainstream hookup app, and the essential etiquette tips everyone should know to ensure enjoyable and respectful experiences. Tune in for laughs, valuable insights, and a candid discussion that goes beyond the bedroom.
Key HighlightsSweaty Encounters: Daniel's hilarious story of a steamy, sweat-filled hookup.Socks Debate: The hosts weigh in on whether socks should stay on or come off during sex.Cruising 101: Unpacking the unspoken rules of cruising and the appeal of spontaneous encounters.Sniffies App: The rise of Sniffies as the new go-to for quick, anonymous hookups.Hookup Etiquette: Essential tips for clean and respectful sexual experiences.___
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Hosts Daniel and Garet delve into the concept of playersexuality in video games. They share nostalgic gaming experiences and discuss how modern games like The Sims have evolved to include diverse sexual identities. The conversation highlights the importance of inclusive representation in gaming, particularly for the LGBTQ+ community. The hosts analyze both the positive and negative aspects of 'playersexual' characters, emphasizing the need for deeper, more authentic character development. They also touch on the societal implications of gaming, how it fosters community and the growing trend of identifying as 'gaymers'. The episode concludes with a light-hearted discussion about potential future developments in LGBTQ+ gaming.
Key Highlights:
Nostalgic gaming experiences with classics like The Sims and Grand Theft Auto.Discussion on the evolution of games to include diverse sexual identities.Examination of the concept of playersexuality and its implications.Pros of playersexual characters: inclusivity, freedom, and positive representation.Cons of playersexual characters: superficiality, tokenism, and lack of depth.The significance of community and connection in gaming.The need for more authentic and rich LGBTQ+ character stories in video games.___
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Join Daniel and Garet as they explore the concept of "sadfishing," where individuals post overly emotional content online to seek validation. They delve into the reasons behind this behavior and its impact on relationships and social media interactions. Moving away from the digital realm, they highlight the growing trend of matchmaking, sharing personal anecdotes and the value of human connection in finding love. The episode covers the advantages of matchmaking over traditional dating apps, emphasizing the desire for meaningful connections and the challenges posed by superficial interactions online. They also provide tips on navigating these evolving dating landscapes with empathy and authenticity.
Key Highlights:
Explanation of sad fishing and its implications on social media.Personal stories about attraction, dating, and the difference between seeking attention and genuine vulnerability.Discussion on the revival of matchmaking and its benefits over modern dating apps.Insights into matchmaking experiences and the importance of personality and core values in successful matches.Comparison between digital and traditional dating methods, including the impact of gamification and the desire for deeper connections.Encouragement for listeners to be authentic and empathetic in their dating endeavors.___
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In this episode of Modern Gays, we sit down with TheeAlexanderJ, a dynamic influencer known for his vibrant fashion and confident demeanor. We delve into his background, discussing the origins of his confidence and the motivation behind his viral content. Alexander shares experiences growing up, highlighting the challenges and triumphs that shaped his journey. He emphasizes the importance of self-acceptance, breaking free from societal norms, and finding joy in one's uniqueness. The conversation also covers strategies for maintaining confidence in public spaces, dealing with negativity, and using social media as a platform for positivity. TheeAlexandeJ's insights on daily practices for confidence, manifestation, and the power of starting are invaluable for anyone looking to boost their self-esteem and live authentically.
Key Highlights:
The journey from insecurity to confidence, and the role of self-acceptance.Strategies for staying confident in public and dealing with negative feedback.The significance of breaking societal norms and embracing individuality.Daily practices for building and maintaining confidence.The impact of confidence on personal relationships and attracting supportive people.The power of manifestation and the importance of starting your journey.Connect with TheeAlexanderJ:
TikTokInstagramListen to "King Sh*t" by TheeAlexanderJ___
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Let's talk about "Delulu," a term that started as a playful social media jab but has evolved into a powerful mindset for achieving your wildest dreams. Daniel and Garet discuss how embracing a bit of delusion can lead to setting and achieving audacious goals. Through personal anecdotes, celebrity examples, and practical tips, they explore the transformative power of believing in your dreams, visualizing success, and overcoming mental barriers. Join the conversation and learn how to harness your inner "Delulu" to create the life you desire.
Overview:
Personal Stories of DelusionThe Power of Delusion in Goal SettingVisualization techniquesOvercoming mental barriersDelulu or Not: A Fun Game
Hosts and listeners play a game to identify delusional versus realistic goalsCelebrity Examples of Delusional Success
Ariana Grande, Sabrina Carpenter, Megan Thee Stallion, Walt DisneyPractical Tips for Embracing Delulu
Belief, Visualization, and Breaking ThroughSetting big, scary goalsTechniques for maintaining focus and overcoming negativity___
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Daniel and Garet are joined by love and relationship expert Trevor Kuhn from Love Daddy Trev. Together, they address common questions facing single gay men, such as why they might still be single, how to find the right partner, and navigating the complexities of dating in close-knit gay communities. The discussion also touches on the impact of Pride events on finding love, the competitive nature of dating among gay men, and the importance of self-love and authenticity in relationships. Trevor shares practical advice for dating, from engaging meaningfully with others to managing expectations on dating apps. The episode concludes with encouragement to prioritize self-love and genuine connections during Pride and beyond.
Chapters:
00:26 Friends vs. Dating in Close-Knit Communities01:28 The Impact of Pride on Finding Love03:09 Navigating Gay Social Settings05:20 The Competitive Nature of Gay Dating08:12 The Role of Attraction in Friendships and Dating16:13 Tips for Using Dating Apps Effectively___
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In this Pride edition of Modern Gays, Daniel and Garet delve into the deeper meaning of pride beyond the celebrations. They discuss how truly owning and expressing your gay pride every day can lead to incredible personal and societal transformations. From the importance of visibility and acceptance to the ongoing fight for equality and the resilience needed to face challenges, this episode is a heartfelt and empowering exploration of what it means to live with pride. The hosts share personal stories, practical tips, and inspirational insights to help listeners embrace their identities and take action for a more inclusive world.
Key Highlights:
The Importance of Visibility: Exploring how being openly gay impacts personal life and society.Acceptance: Personal journeys of acceptance and the importance of being accepted by others.Equality: The ongoing fight for LGBTQ+ rights and the importance of solidarity.Resilience: Overcoming challenges and thriving despite adversity.Taking Action: Practical steps to support LGBTQ+ rights and foster inclusivity.___
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Kevin Kasir, a gay mindset coach, shares his journey into self-development, emphasizing the importance of a positive mindset and self-love. The conversation covers recognizing negative thought patterns, the significance of taking small actionable steps towards self-improvement, and the impact of deep, supportive friendships. Kevin offers practical advice on overcoming laziness, the role of friendships in mental health, and how to make and maintain meaningful connections.
The trio delves into the unique dynamics of LGBTQIA+ friendships, highlighting how deep, supportive connections can significantly enhance mental health. Kevin provides insightful tips on making new friends, maintaining meaningful relationships, and the importance of clear intentions. He also shares creative ideas for nurturing these bonds through consistent, heartfelt communication.
Addressing the common issues of jealousy and judgment in friendships, Kevin explains the impact of insecurity and the need for fostering healthy relationships. He emphasizes living authentically as a means to attract quality connections, sharing his personal strategies for cultivating confidence and self-trust.
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Daniel and Garet are joined by psychotherapist Brian Spitulnik to explore the complex interplay between identity, sex, and the influence of porn in the LGBTQ community. Brian, known for his authentic and relatable advice on Instagram and TikTok, shares his expertise on how being gay can shape personal choices and relationships. Together, they dive into the core issues of shame, the importance of chosen families, and the challenges of forming authentic connections in a digital age.
Key Topics Discussed:
Common Challenges Faced by Gay Men: The pervasive sense of shame and its specific manifestations. How shame influences behaviors like addiction, body dysmorphia, and relationship dynamics.The Role of Chosen Families: Importance of finding true and honest relationships within the LGBTQ community. Brian's perspective on the adolescent phase gay men go through upon coming out.Navigating Romantic and Platonic Relationships: The complexities of building intimate and platonic relationships in the gay community. Balancing personal identity with societal and community expectations.Impact of Porn on Real-Life Intimacy: Discussion on how porn consumption affects emotional engagement in real-life relationships. Strategies to find a healthy balance between porn and personal connections.Listener Questions (Only Whispers Segment): Addressing Rex from Sydney's concern about balancing porn with real-life intimacy. Advice for Thomas from Boston on finding dates outside of dating apps.Practical Tips for Building Authentic Connections: Checking the facts to avoid miscommunication. Reflective listening to ensure understanding and clarity. Evaluating personal feelings towards others to foster genuine connections.Notable Quotes:
"True love is holding another's spiritual evolution as equal to your own." – bell hooks
"Everything changes. Nothing remains the same. To think that you're always going to want the same thing is not being in reality." – Brian Spitulnik
About Brian:
Brian Spitulnik, LMSW, is a psychotherapist in private practice and co-founder of Artists Reimagining Therapy & Systems (A.R.T.S.), a fully-funded program offering free group and individual therapy to artists and arts workers. Brian is committed to working with his clients to come fully into relationship with their environment and themselves while providing practical tools for behavioral change and emotional growth. Ongoing professional development and advanced training experiences are a critical component of Brian’s practice, ensuring a transformative impact on the individuals and communities he serves. Brian has earned degrees from The University of Michigan, Columbia University, and The Silberman School of Social Work at Hunter College. Before becoming a mental health practitioner, Brian performed on Broadway for over 15 years, wrote for Global Citizen, The Daily Beast, McSweeney’s, and Dance Magazine, and co-founded 85th Street Productions.
Brian's Links:
https://www.instagram.com/spitulnik/
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https://www.brianspitulnik.com
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In this lively and intimate episode of "Modern Gays," hosts Daniel and Garet delve into the complexities of dating across significant age differences within the LGBTQIA+ community. They discuss everything from the cultural concepts of "daddies" to the emotional and social dynamics that come with large age gaps in relationships.
Episode Highlights:
Topic of age differences in relationships, setting the stage for a discussion filled with personal insights and broader cultural reflections.Play "Top, Bottom, Flip," selecting celebrities to humorously discuss their preferences in a playful reimagination of the classic game.Daniel and Garet share their personal experiences with age gaps, both in their own relationship and with previous partners, revealing insights about perceptions and realities of dating across age lines.Defining a "daddy" in the community, focusing on attributes like maturity, mentorship, and emotional intelligence beyond mere physical age.Advantages and challenges they've faced due to their age gap, from emotional growth and mentorship to concerns about health and energy levels.Discussion on the social stigma sometimes associated with age differences and share how they've navigated these challenges within their relationship and in public perception.___
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