Episodes
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Today's topic is one that a lot of people find intimidating, yet so many are curious about. We're talking all things KINK and I can't wait to share this expansive conversation with all of you.
Here's a bit about my guest:
Katherine Friedman (she/her) is a psychotherapist and intimacy consultant living and working in New York City and the Hudson Valley. She is a New York Licensed Mental Health Counselor, an Oregon Licensed Professional Counselor, and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist. She uses her mindful, embodied approach to assist people in all areas of sex therapy and exploration, with a particular enthusiasm for working with people from marginalized communities and those pursuing alternative sexualities and relationship styles to meet their unique desires. As a teacher, Katherine provides classes on mindfulness, embodiment, kink, empowerment, and trauma in an array of venues. As a provider, she provides both long-term therapy and short-term consulting based on the needs and locations of clients.
Katherine also happens to be OG Nothing Confidential Alum! And I am SO EXCITED to welcome her back on the show! You can listen to our first conversation here:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/nothing-confidential-the-podcast/id1490318058?i=1000472980657
In THIS sit-down, we're venturing into the world of kink and exploring:
The evolution of Katherine's trauma adaptations Healing trauma through kink Bondage & Why you need to know what a Non-collapsing single column tie is ;)Why everyone is confused about kink
What NOT to do when getting into kink
What NOT to do when getting into kink
The biggest problem with the 50 shades franchise
Tips for getting better at dirty talk
And Katherine's Car Wash Kink (trust, you do not want to miss it!)Resources/Links
Work with Katherine!
www.articulatedesire.com
E-mail Katherine:
Read Katherine's Writings & Follow Her on IG:
https://www.instagram.com/articulatedesire/
Kink Books:
The New Bottoming Book
The New Topping Book
Playing Well with Others
Educators:
https://www.avgisaketopoulou.com/
https://www.instagram.com/mollena_lee_williams_haas/
https://www.instagram.com/stellaharriserotica/?hl=en
https://planetmidori.com/
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**PART 2**
Former party boy turned podcast host, Dustin Rybka hosts Sex Party, a show where he talks about all things sex and relationships with a different guest each and every Wednesday. As with any good party though, sometimes things get messy...
Like this 2-part conversation you're about to hear!
In today's episode(s), my pal Dustin and I will be taking you on a journey through the many twists and turns of his reluctant quest for self-betterment.
I went in with some expectations (which almost got me in trouble)... But when I dropped those (20-30 minutes in), what got to happen instead was an incredibly layered, multi-dimensional, textured conversation that wreaks with humanity, honesty, and innate goodness.
A few things we're excavating are:
Exploring the pain threshold: Self-punishing or healing?
How terrifying vulnerability can be+Vulnerability with boundaries.
Trusting the consistency/predictability of painful experiences over the vulnerability of hopefulness...
What happens when we believe that our pain and struggle are the most interesting things about us...
How scary/painful that moment before choosing healing/transformation can be.
AND ALL KINDS OF THINGS YOU NEVER SAW COMING!This is one of those conversations that will leave you with more questions than answers and I LOVE THAT. It takes courage to examine the parts of you that are incongruent. It takes courage to be in messy process. It takes courage to keep asking the hard questions of ourselves and those around us in order to gain clarity about where we're going and who we ultimately want to be.
We hope this conversation gives you permission to be messy. Be curious. Be human.
XO,
Christin & Dustin
Connect with Dustin
IG:
https://www.instagram.com/dustinrybka
Listen to My Interview with Dustin on Sex Party!
(And check out the other steamy episodes on ALL THE THINGS!)
IG:
https://www.instagram.com/sexpartyfm
Referenced Material
Existential Kink by Carolyn Elliott
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Former party boy turned podcast host, Dustin Rybka hosts Sex Party, a show where he talks about all things sex and relationships with a different guest each and every Wednesday. As with any good party though, sometimes things get messy...
Like this 2-part conversation you're about to hear!
In today's episode(s), my pal Dustin and I will be taking you on a journey through the many twists and turns of his reluctant quest for self-betterment.
I went in with some expectations (which almost got me in trouble)... But when I dropped those (20-30 minutes in), what got to happen instead was an incredibly layered, multi-dimensional, textured conversation that wreaks with humanity, honesty, and innate goodness.
A few things we're excavating are:
Exploring the pain threshold: Self-punishing or healing?
How terrifying vulnerability can be+Vulnerability with boundaries.
Trusting the consistency/predictability of painful experiences over the vulnerability of hopefulness...
What happens when we believe that our pain and struggle are the most interesting things about us...
How scary/painful that moment before choosing healing/transformation can be.
AND ALL KINDS OF THINGS YOU NEVER SAW COMING!This is one of those conversations that will leave you with more questions than answers and I LOVE THAT. It takes courage to examine the parts of you that are incongruent. It takes courage to be in messy process. It takes courage to keep asking the hard questions of ourselves and those around us in order to gain clarity about where we're going and who we ultimately want to be.
We hope this conversation gives you permission to be messy. Be curious. Be human.
XO,
Christin & Dustin
Connect with Dustin
IG:
https://www.instagram.com/dustinrybka
Listen to My Interview with Dustin on Sex Party!
(And check out the other steamy episodes on ALL THE THINGS!)
IG:
https://www.instagram.com/sexpartyfm
Referenced Material
Existential Kink by Carolyn Elliott
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AAAAAANNNDDDDD I've got something BRAND NEW for you! Again!
For the first time EVER, I'm sharing a client tell-all. In this episode, my former client, Natasha, gives you an intimate behind-the-scenes on the 6-month somatic sex coaching we did together.
This conversation is filled with juicy tidbits of wisdom, reflection, and heart-opening honesty.
But first, here's a bit more about this phenomenal Woman:
Natasha Rankin is a Business Mentor & Wealth Expander for spiritual women. Sheâs a wife, mama, yogi, and real estate investor. Natasha is the creator of The Sensitive Business Academy which helps coaches and healers package their magic into a signature group program and turn it into a 6-figure revenue stream. In all of her offerings, Natasha combines intuitive marketing & sales strategy with deep mindset and healing work to create the greatest transformation for her clients.
Post our time together in a private coaching container, Natasha has also become a friend and beautiful presence in my life. I am so grateful for her willingness to demystify the process of healing (and stepping into) Her relationship to authentic sexual expression.
Here's what we're unpacking:
The belief that Sexual brokenness was âfixedâ; That She was fundamentally broken and ânot a sexual personâ.
How our work together was the âdeepest edgeâ she had ever lived into on her personal growth journey.
The key differences between her experience of traditional therapy and the somatic work that we did together.
The state of disconnect between knowing in the head and feeling in the body.
SAFETY. The vital, non-negotiable role of safety in healing the tenderest parts of ourselves.
Tashâs journey from turtleneck lady to cleavage Queen!
The inner conflict of being turned off by objectification and a deep need to be seen and desired.
Sexuality as a facet of wholeness and wellness.
What changed when she started having and enjoying more sex.
AND. SO. MUCH. MORE.
I truly loved this conversation. My desire is that it support and nourish you on your own quest for deeper healing, alignment, and authentic expression.
XO,
Christin
Connect & Work with Natasha!
Visit Her Website: https://www.natasharankin.co/
Follow Her on Instagram: www.instagram.com/thenatasharankin
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I'm back from Hiatus and feeling GIDDY to reconnect with YOU, my amazing listeners, and bring you FRESH conversations that ooze beauty, humor, and VITALITY.
In my rambling 20-minute intro, I'm updating you on where I've been (my head) and what's been going on behind the scenes.
When I finally wrap up the hemming and hawing (I'm a little rusty after a few months off), I introduce you to award-winning novelist, a former client, and my friend, Mrs. Brooke Adams Law.
About Brooke:
Brooke Adams Law is an award-winning author, book coach, and CEO of Writing Brave Publishing.
She helps creative, intuitive women who have always wanted to be writers step into their author identity and start, finish and publish brave, dazzling books.
Brooke's debut novel Catchlight was chosen as the winner of the Fairfield Book Prize, named a Best Indie Book of 2020 by Kirkus Reviews and featured on Good Morning Americaâs blog.
She's famous for teaching a juicy, Divine-Feminine-inspired creative process that makes the journey of writing a pleasure, inspiring her clients to write and finish books they love, find new layers of richness in the stories they want to share, and express their most empowered creative selves.
In this Episode:
We explore...
Honoring our multi-faceted humanity
by normalizing sex through story
Character development as a practice in deep empathy
Prioritizing the process over the result and permission to not know where things are going
The evolution of Brooke's own sex life post shifting away from being so goal-oriented (and how this approach also changed the way She shows up to create art)
Reconnecting with âturn onâ in order to deepen both sexual and creative expression
Pleasure as fuel for our ActivismLinks:
Work with Brooke!
Connect with her on Instagram
Publish Your Book
Purchase & Read Her Juicy Novel!
Protect Women's Rights to Health Care & Bodily Autonomy
Purchase & Read 'Pleasure Activism' By Adrienne Maree Brown
Join the Fight to End Gun Violence
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This episode is by far the most vulnerable (for me personally) I've ever released.
When I asked Victoria Washington back for round 2 (check out Ep. #45 for our first conversation!), I knew we were going to go DEEP...I just assumed it would be around conscious leadership, building a multi-million dollar empire, Her life-changing embodiment work, and the fact that this QUEEN released a documentary at the beginning of the year to reveal her new name/identity to the thousands of humans in her global community...
And we kind of did touch on all of that. The first 40ish minutes of the conversation unpack:
The exhale that comes when we tap into the currency of peace What happens when we shift from HAVING a big vision to being held by our vision The difference between originality and our original assignment How to stop judging our dissatisfaction and allow it to fuel our creativity Difference between alignment and momentum Jealousy and celebrating other's wins as our own + A whole HOLY host of other stuff that may end the podcast...we shall see.You can join the embodied wealth revolution and follow Victoria's breathtaking artistry on Instagram.
https://www.instagram.com/iamvictoriawashington/
NEW WEBSITE and Offerings coming SOON!
XO,
Christin
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This Month's conversation isn't an easy one and it comes with a *TRIGGER WARNING*.
3 courageous, beautiful women, who are also my close personal friends, agreed to sit down with me and speak candidly about their miscarriages.
1 in 4 women will experience the loss of a pregnancy in their lifetime...and yet, this topic is still extremely closeted. It can feel awkward, uncomfortable, shameful, or even unsafe to share. Because of this, we as a society do not understand how to support ourselves or those we love as we navigate one of life's most tender and impactful events.
-We discuss the differences and commonalities in each of their experiences
-The most supportive thing a friend can do for a friend who has miscarried
-What no one tells you about miscarriage
-How the health system fails women going through pregnancy loss
-What it's like to be pregnant after losing a pregnancy
My hope in holding space for this conversation is to see and honor those who have miscarried and equip those who haven't with increased awareness that may help them offer deeper support and compassion in the future.
DISCLAIMER: These are the lived experiences of individuals. This conversation should not be treated as medical or professional advice.
Deep gratitude to Liza Witonis, Lesley Gordon-Malone, and Erica Ballard Nelson for sharing their stories with us. I hope you have found healing in them.
XO,
Christin
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This Month's conversation isn't an easy one and it comes with a *TRIGGER WARNING*.
In part one of this 2-part episode, 3 courageous, beautiful women, who are also my close personal friends, agreed to sit down with me and speak candidly about their miscarriages.
In part 2, my close friend Erica (who you met in part 1) and I go deeper into the conversation.
-Erica shares openly about the things no one tells you about miscarriage
-The mind-fuck of being in a post-pregnancy loss body
-What awareness she gained from going through the experience
-Things you're "not allowed" to say about miscarriage
-How partners can be more supportive
I'm so grateful to Erica for her raw, unfiltered sharing. Our hope is that you leave this conversation feeling seen and loved.
DISCLAIMER: These are the lived experiences of individuals. This conversation should not be treated as medical or professional advice.
XO,
Christin
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WELCOME BACK, Y'ALL!!!
Season 3 of Nothing Confidential has undergone a bit of a "glow up" and I'm so excited to share deep, intentional, soul-shifting conversations with you on a monthly basis.
Our first 2-part Episode titled "Dearly Departed" features two breathtaking humans who were gracious in sharing their sacred experiences with me.
We'll be exploring the dying process-How we feel, think, speak about it, and interact with it. There's so much here in honoring life, allowing ourselves to feel love and grief in the same measure.
I told you we were going deep this year and baby, I'm swimming in the depths. Feeling it all. Noticing the urge to "hurry up and get to something happier".
I hope that you will listen and allow yourselves to be impacted, softened, and perhaps cracked open just a smidge wider-letting more love and life in.
In Part 1 of this tender conversation, I am honored to talk with Michele D'Ercole.
Micheleâs professional career in the Holistic healing arts has been constant since 1982 but the healing of Her body trauma of cancer, car accidents, autoimmune dis-ease, and emergency surgery is where She really began putting the teachings into practice. Herbal Medicine, extensive Massage Therapy modalities, Energy medicine, Yoga, and a deep spiritual practice are all pieces of the healing journey incorporated in working with Her.
In this conversation, Michele shares the powerful story of how she came to support both her Mother and Father in their end-of-life transitions. Her warmth, candor, and wisdom can be felt throughout.
Learn more about Michele and her work here:
https://www.facebook.com/michelelouiseLLC
https://instagram.com/michelelouise_thevitalitycoach
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In the second half of this 2-part conversation, "Dearly Departed", Kiana shares one of the most profoundly impactful experiences of her life-Singing her Grandmother to the other side.
Kiana Reeves is a Somatic Sex Educator, sexological bodyworker, pelvic health practitioner, full-spectrum doula, mother of 2, and Chief Brand Officer at Foria. With over a decade in the field of sexual wellness, Kiana's work brings together teachings from the fields of birth, sex, pleasure, intimacy, and embodiment.
Some of the topics we gently probe in this conversation:
Experiencing a more natural integration of loss...
The similarities between the process of being born and the process of dying...
Allowing the depth of our grief to open us to the amount of love that is present in the same measure...
Allowing our children to witness the process of dying.
Viewing death as our final invitation to deeply know someone and be known.
You can lightly (and respectfully) stalk Kiana on Instagram!
https://www.instagram.com/kiana.reeves/
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We're BACK!
No, we didn't ghost you.
No, it's not YOU.
Yes, it's us.
Yes, we're still here! And we're excited to close out Season 2 with this juicy, cosmic AF conversation.
Vanessa Cuccia is the Founder and CEO of Chakrubs, the original crystal sex toy company. She is also a writer, artist, musician, and 100% that witch! We are so excited to share her powerful story of past trauma, self-love, healing, and innovative transformation.
In this episode:
-Sex crystals! (What are they? How do they work?)
-Past trauma and how to begin healing
-Sex as a sacred practice
-Building a company/brand that flows from feminine energy
-Pleasure alchemy
-Lots more witchy magic!
You can learn more about+SHOP Chakrubs at:
www.chakrubs.com
Use our special code: 'NothingConfidential' for 10% OFF!
Follow on Instagram:
@Vanessa_cuccia
@chakrubs
@frequemagazine
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This conversation (and others like it) are the reason we do what we do. It's juicy, and twisty, and we cover a lot of unexpected territories.
What we're sharing this week:
How we consciously build fires on the "hearth" of our relationships when they're in their "winter" season. The cultural glamorization of toxic "love", and how it has impacted our connection with romantic partners (past and present). The sneaky ways our trauma adaptations show up in partnership. Creating space for Eroticism in long-term partnerships. Whatever else popped into our brains.If this conversation gifts you an "ah-ha!", we would LOVE to hear about it. Shoot us a DM on Instagram or leave a comment/review on the podcast. We crave dialogue with our people (YOU!).
XO,
Christin & Jo
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YA'LL. IT'S OUR 50TH EPISODE, BABEEEEE!
And today's guest is truly ICONIC...
As CEO of Dame Products, Alexandra Fine translates the nuances of our sexualities into human-friendly toys for sex. A lifelong student of sexual health, Fine earned her Masters in Clinical Psychology with a concentration in sex therapy from Columbia University. Realizing that her skills would be best put to use making concrete improvements to peopleâs lives, Fine began developing her own vibrators at home and asking friends to give her their feedback. She was gaining startup experience with an organic shampoo company and decided the time was right to put her passions and her business acumen to use in the world of sex toys. Over the past six years, Alexandra has led Dameâs team to sell over 150K products in retailers all over the world. Perhaps more importantly, sheâs translated her role as CEO into one of a dedicated activist for womenâs health, gender equity, and prioritizing pleasure, leading efforts to uncover sexism in the industry at every turn.
We talked to Alex for 2 hours straight - it was one of those conversations that just flowed and dipped and flipped with ease. We talk about her personal experience as a human who identifies as a Non-binary woman, motherhood, running a multi-million dollar sex toy empire, relationship fluidity, what we're all looking for in our dream #momsquad, and so much more. We split this convo up into 2 parts for easier digestion. Be sure you listen to both and don't miss our podcast post-mortem at the end of part 2.
XO,
Christin & Jo
Links:
Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/afinehuman
Shop Dame Products! Use our code 'NCPOD15 ' for a special discount! :)
https://www.dameproducts.com/
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YA'LL. IT'S OUR 50TH EPISODE, BABEEEEE!
And today's guest is truly ICONIC...
As CEO of Dame Products, Alexandra Fine translates the nuances of our sexualities into human-friendly toys for sex. A lifelong student of sexual health, Fine earned her Masters in Clinical Psychology with a concentration in sex therapy from Columbia University. Realizing that her skills would be best put to use making concrete improvements to peopleâs lives, Fine began developing her own vibrators at home and asking friends to give her their feedback. She was gaining startup experience with an organic shampoo company and decided the time was right to put her passions and her business acumen to use in the world of sex toys. Over the past six years, Alexandra has led Dameâs team to sell over 150K products in retailers all over the world. Perhaps more importantly, sheâs translated her role as CEO into one of a dedicated activist for womenâs health, gender equity, and prioritizing pleasure, leading efforts to uncover sexism in the industry at every turn.
We talked to Alex for 2 hours straight - it was one of those conversations that just flowed and dipped and flipped with ease. We talk about her personal experience as a human who identifies as a Non-binary woman, motherhood, running a multi-million dollar sex toy empire, relationship fluidity, what we're all looking for in our dream #momsquad, and so much more. We split this convo up into 2 parts for easier digestion. Be sure you listen to both and don't miss our podcast post-mortem at the end of part 2.
XO,
Christin & Jo
Links:
Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/afinehuman
Shop Dame Products! Use our code 'NCPOD15' for a special discount! :)
https://www.dameproducts.com/
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Today we're taking a deep dive into the rich and powerful topic of astrology. We're getting our charts read LIVE and learning how understanding the stars can shape our path, purpose, and relationships.
Our guest of honor, Hannah Siddiqui, is a 22-year-old writer, educator, and spiritual coach from the sunny San Francisco Bay Area. Her purpose in life is to help people uncover their own spiritual power through utilizing the tools of manifestation, positive affirmations, and astrology. On her social media platforms she coins affirmations, horoscopes, and "real life" talks daily, inspiring thousands of people to turn inwards and begin to recognize their own power. As one fan notes, Hannah has cultivated a "welcoming and inclusive community," and has "helped people everywhere find their voice and confidence within themselves." Her career began at the tender age of 16 with the founding of The Road to Hannah, a lifestyle blog that quickly gained traction due to her "punk rock nature" and "no-filter attitude". After participating in national ad campaigns, collaborating with some of the world's most notable brands, and even giving a TEDx talk in 2017, she began to set her sights on photography (which she retired from in 2020) and has worked alongside the likes of Adidas, Facebook, Toyota, and more. As of 2019 she is also a certified meditation and breathwork instructor and teaches both online and in-person at Anchor Meditation in San Francisco, California. Hannah is also a recent graduate of the University of California, Berkeley, having studied Sociology and English Literature (Go Bears).
Links:
www.instagram.com/theroadtohannah
www.tiktok.com/@theroadtohannah_
www.theroadtohannah.com
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Ann is a Vietnamese American Womenâs Sexual Empowerment coach whose work centers on pleasure as a liberatory practice & fuel for personal empowerment. She teaches women how to love their bodies, to see sexuality as sacred, and how to channel orgasmic pleasure into better relationships, careers, leadership, and self-love. Through her coaching and online programs, she reconnects women to the power of their sexuality and facilitates deep transformation for sexual reclamation. Most of all - sheâs here to make our modern-day sexual revolution fun & accessible to all
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Today we depart from our usual soft structure to include you in the MOMENTOUS OCCASION that is our 1 YEAR FRIENDAVERSARY!
We're taking you back to the beginning of it all and divulging the most intimate details and inner-workings of our relationship. We're also keeping it festive with LIVE play of our favorite conversation game, "We're not really strangers". And trust us-it gets juicy! :-*
As per usual, we laugh, we cry, we GUSH. We hope you find value and/or entertainment in this episode...but if you don't, well, honestly? This one is mostly for US.
XO,
Christin & Jo
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Today we're talking all things witchy moon magic, periods, cycle-syncing, the feminine mystique, matriarchal societies, and everything that branched off from there with our BFF, the BRILLIANT and fascinating Rachel Moranis. Who, NBD, totally created the hottest new period tracking app that we're both OBSESSED WITH, Stardust (now available on itunes)!
Are you a RED WITCH or a WHITE WITCH?! WE want to know!
Hitch your wagon to this star!
https://www.instagram.com/stardust/
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About Today's Guest:
Tori Washington is a Business Mentor, Transformational Speaker, and Wealth Embodiment Coach who went from bankruptcy to multiple-6 figures in just 18 months. Her secret? Wealth Embodiment Flowâą, a movement-based manifestation practice she founded in 2019 to support womxn in going beyond surface-level money mindset. Wealth Embodiment Flowâą guides you on a journey of financial transformation and today has supported over 1,200 womxn in saying yes to reclaiming their wealthiest expression.
Among her community, she's known as the sacred rebel who challenges the status quo within the coaching/spiritual community. If you want to revolutionize your relationship with money and embody a new standard of leadership, Tori is your woman!
Links:
https://www.toriwashington.com/
https://www.instagram.com/iamtoriwashington/
https://www.instagram.com/wealthembodimentflow/
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Just us two plus all of you!
This week we're shootin' the shit and gettin' real about what it means to hold space for someone and how to be a "fishbowl"!
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