Episodes
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What are you leaving behind in 2024?
How do you plan to make more space for growth in 2025?
Today, Jay reflects on the art of letting go to make space for personal growth in 2025. He shares a transformative framework for self-improvement by identifying ten habits, beliefs, and mindsets to leave behind. Using the Buddha’s analogy of a raft, he emphasizes the importance of releasing old tools that no longer serve us to navigate life’s new challenges more freely.
Jay taps into impactful topics, from overcoming the fear of mistakes to releasing self-consciousness and rethinking the cultural glorification of busyness. He encourages listeners to embrace risk, foster self-compassion, and reframe their relationship with time and perfectionism. Thought-provoking anecdotes, like the role of light and dark in optimizing sleep and the illusion of justice as a universal principle, provide actionable insights for creating a balanced and intentional life.
In this episode, you'll learn:
How to Let Go of Fear and Embrace Mistakes
How to Balance Self-Criticism and Self-Compassion
How to Stop Waiting for the Perfect Time
How to Make Space for New Habits and Growth
How to Find Silence in a Noisy World
As we prepare to step into a new year, remember that growth doesn’t come from adding more to your plate – it comes from letting go of what no longer serves you.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
01:29 The Journey Told by the Buddha
04:57 #10: Avoid Making Mistakes
08:09 #9: Leave Self-Consciousness Behind
10:58 #8: Belief that Busy is Good
14:05 #7: Turn Down the Noise
16:08 #6: Walk Away from Waiting for Justice
18:16 #5: Getting Serious About Light and Dark
20:27 #4: Leave Self Criticism Behind
21:53 #3: Waiting for the Perfect Time
23:40 #2: Mediocrity
25:48 #1: Stop Fighting Fate
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What stresses you out the most?
Have you noticed stress hurting your health?
Today, Jay sits down with Dan Harris, journalist, meditation advocate, and the author of 10% Happier. If you’ve ever felt like stress and anxiety are running the show in your life, this episode is here to remind you that you’re not alone—and better yet, there’s a way forward.
Dan opens up about the growing levels of anxiety and stress we’re all feeling, thanks to modern life’s endless distractions like social media, political turmoil, and the ripple effects of the pandemic. He unpacks the difference between stress and anxiety and offers some eye-opening perspectives on why we often feel overwhelmed. But this isn’t just a heavy conversation about what’s wrong with the world—it’s packed with solutions.
Jay and Dan dive into the magic of human connection, the science of mindfulness, and the art of not being so hard on yourself. Dan shares personal stories about grappling with anger, dealing with claustrophobia, and navigating his own inner critic. You’ll hear how meditation has been a game-changer for him, not in making life perfect, but in making it manageable—and even joyful.
They also get into the nitty-gritty of practical tips: How do you set boundaries with your phone? How do you learn to live with discomfort instead of running from it? And how can you reframe that negative self-talk that’s always lurking? Spoiler alert: It’s not about silencing your inner critic; it’s about befriending it.
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to Differentiate Stress from Anxiety
How to Build Meaningful Connections That Reduce Stress
How to Reframe Negative Self-Talk
How to Identify the Root Cause of Your Anger
How to Embrace Discomfort for Personal Growth
How to Recognize and Change Destructive Habits
You don’t need to have all the answers or fix everything overnight. It’s about showing up, being kind to yourself, and embracing the messy, imperfect journey of personal growth.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
01:08 How Are You Handling Stress?
02:51 What is Stressing You Out?
07:24 How to Build Deep Relationships
11:32 How Develop a Healthy Relationship
19:43 The Possibility of Reprogramming Your Inner Dialogue
24:16 The Benefits of Meditation
26:51 What is “ME”?
31:14 How Do You Befriend Your Mind?
38:37 There’s a Reason Why You Keep Wanting More
40:39 Get More Familiar with Your Thoughts
43:39 What is Your Daily Meditation Practice?
47:10 The Modular Model of Mind
51:49 Healthy Anger Versus Destructive Anger
57:07 Are You Defensive or Dismissive?
01:00:12 The Power of Having a Sense of Humor
01:03:05 Observe Nature to Understand Yourself
01:07:23 Dan on Final Five
Episode Resources:
Dan Harris | Website
Dan Harris | TikTok
Dan Harris | LinkedIn
Dan Harris | Instagram
Ten Percent Happier | YouTube
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Are you tired of dating?
What’s your biggest dating struggle?
Today, Jay talks about the complexities of dating, relationships, and building meaningful connections in today’s fast-paced world. He emphasizes the importance of focusing on trust, emotional maturity, communication, and shared values – traits that truly matter in a partner – while learning to move past surface-level “icks” that can distract us from finding real love.
Through personal anecdotes and insights from Match’s Singles in America study, Jay explores why many of us are chasing outdated ideas of love, trying to recreate the romanticized relationships of our younger selves. Instead, shift your focus to the present, to nurture healthy dynamics built on honesty, respect, and mutual growth.
In this episode, you'll learn:
How to Build Trust in Relationships
How to Spot the Right Partner Through Their Actions
How to Ask Questions That Reveal True Priorities
How to Balance Patience and Expectations in Relationships
How to Handle Communication Differences Effectively
No matter where you are on your journey –single, dating, or in a long-term relationship – remember that love is a process, not a destination.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
01:01 Why Dating Has Become Extremely Challenging
06:24 The Core Values Feature
10:28 Questions to Ask on the First Date
12:58 Top Two Turn On with a New Partner
13:55 Are You Being Patient with the Right Person?
17:30 Does Your Partner’s Opinion Bother You?
19:14 Allow Other Forms of Relationships to Grow
21:54 Do You Communicate Properly with Your Partner?
24:01 Most Relationships Has a Healing Problem
25:16 Are You in the Wrong Relationship?
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How do you stay disciplined when life gets busy?
What’s a routine that keeps you on track?
Today, Jay welcomes Alexis Ohanian, tech founder, venture capitalist, and advocate for social change. Known as the co-founder of Reddit and founder of venture firm 776, Alexis shares the profound lessons he's learned from building communities, parenting, and navigating personal and professional challenges.
Alexis shares insights into the evolution of online identities and the surprising dedication of individuals who moderate and foster online spaces; his role as a father, offering a candid glimpse into the delicate balance between introducing his children to the digital world and preserving their innocence.
The conversation also tackles larger societal issues, such as the importance of role models for young men and the transformative potential of positive male friendships. Alexis doesn’t shy away from discussing the darker sides of technology, including the need for ethical boundaries and his personal experiences advocating for change within Reddit.
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to Foster a Sense of Community Online
How to Introduce Kids to the Internet Safely
How to Navigate Cultural Differences in Relationships
How to Encourage Grit and Perseverance in Children
How to Lead a Team with Empathy and Vision
How to Prioritize Family While Building a Career
In today’s fast-paced and ever-evolving world, it’s easy to lose sight of what truly matters. Yet, the foundation of a fulfilling life lies in embracing challenges, building strong relationships, and staying true to our values.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
00:40 The Human Mind’s Deep Need for Community
02:59 The Challenges of Moderating Online Communities
05:26 Raising Kids to Navigate the Internet Safely
10:13 Why AI Can’t Replace Human Empathy
17:28 The Power of Optimism in Uncertain Times
21:42 Drawing Ethical Lines in Content Moderation
29:52 Saying No to Risky and Irresponsible Startups
33:05 The Key Milestones Behind Reddit’s Success
35:05 A Family’s Journey of Resilience and Survival
41:46 Coping with Family Tragedy While Moving Forward
52:27 The Joy of Seeing Hard Work Pay Off
01:00:15 Lessons Learned Through Loss and Reflection
01:12:45 Building Greatness with a Strong Partnership
01:19:19 Choosing the Right Partner for Life and Growth
01:27:23 Teaching Kids to Embrace Failure and Grow
01:35:27 Alexis on Final Five
Episode Resources:
Alexis Ohanian | Facebook
Alexis Ohanian | TikTok
Alexis Ohanian | LinkedIn
Alexis Ohanian | Instagram
Alexis Ohanian | YouTube
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How do you unwind after a long day?
What’s your favorite way to relax quickly?
Today, Jay sits down with David Ko, the CEO of Calm and author of the groundbreaking book Recharge. Together, they unravel the complexities of stress, mental health, and how to create a fulfilling life in today’s fast-paced world.
David shares his personal journey, from navigating childhood stress to becoming a leader who champions mental wellness. He introduces the “battery analogy,” a simple yet profound way to gauge our mental and emotional energy levels. Drawing from his book, David explains how understanding and managing our “battery” can transform our approach to stress, productivity, and personal growth.
Jay and David discuss the power of presence, the necessity of balance, and how redefining stress—from harmful to helpful—can lead to resilience and growth. Their conversation dives deep into actionable strategies, such as creating rituals to recharge, fostering vulnerability at work, and redefining leadership to prioritize mental health.
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to Recognize When You Need to Recharge
How to Foster Vulnerability in Leadership
How to Balance Good Stress and Bad Stress
How to Build a Culture of Gratitude in the Workplace
How to Take Breaks for Better Productivity
How to Identify and Remove Stress-Inducing Triggers
Recharge your mind, body, and spirit—not just to keep going, but to thrive with purpose and joy. Prioritize yourself, because when you’re recharged, you’re unstoppable.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
02:10 What’s Something You’re not Calm About?
03:31 How's Your Battery?
05:42 The Four Battery Zones
10:59 The Importance of Recharging
14:24 Vulnerability in Leadership
18:37 Good Stress vs Bad Stress
25:25 Mental Health in the Workplace
28:56 Listen and Become More Purposeful
28:57 How to Take Care of Your Team
30:44 Supporting Employees’ Mental Health
38:10 Tools for Managing Burnout
44:19 How Do You Deal with Stress?
52:02 Put Your Focus on Healthy Stress
53:27 Daily Practices for Recharging
01:01:42 What is a Quality Decision?
01:07:08 David on Final Five
01:14:90 Is Your Battery Full?
Episode Resources:
David Ko | Instagram
David Ko | LinkedIn
Calm | Website
Calm | Instagram
Calm | Facebook
Calm | X
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What in your day makes you happiest?
Where do you see yourself in five years?
Today, Jay sits down with the iconic rapper, multi-platinum artist, and entrepreneur Wiz Khalifa. The episode explores Wiz’s journey from navigating the challenges of his youth in Pittsburgh to becoming one of the most recognizable names in the music industry. Throughout their conversation, Wiz shares profound insights into his personal growth, family values, and the discipline behind his success.
Wiz reflects on his early days, including the loss of a record deal and the resilience it took to rebuild his career. He discusses his evolution as an artist and individual, emphasizing the importance of gratitude, patience, and staying true to oneself. The conversation also dives into the balance between his professional life and personal responsibilities, particularly as a father. Wiz talks about raising his 11-year-old son, Sebastian, and his new daughter, Cadence, shedding light on how fatherhood has deepened his perspective on life and masculinity.
Jay and Wiz also explore deeper topics like handling grief, cultivating self-discipline, and the nuanced concept of masculinity in today’s world. Wiz’s candid anecdotes, whether about quitting alcohol, building financial literacy, or practicing MMA for mental clarity, inspire listeners to live authentically, embrace personal growth, and focus on what truly matters.
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to Rebuild Confidence After a Setback
How to Balance Personal Life and Career Successfully
How to Find Gratitude in Everyday Moments
How to Stay Calm Under Pressure
How to Teach Discipline and Politeness to Kids
How to Manage Money as a Creative Professional
How to Stay Authentic in the Spotlight
Every setback is an opportunity to rebuild stronger, and every triumph is a chance to inspire others. Prioritize what matters, whether it’s your personal growth, the relationships you cherish, or the values you stand for.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
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What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
04:15 Navigating Fame As A Star
09:18 The Craziest Fan Interactions
10:07 Family Matters The Most
11:49 Dealing With Grief
13:04 Seeking Family Support
13:54 Finding Balance In Grief
14:50 Life Before Fame And Success
16:47 What's It Like To Lose A Record Deal?
17:15 Confidence In The Face Adversity
18:37 Advice To Younger Self
19:22 Driven Goals And Compulsion
20:50 Being Contented With What You Have
21:30 What's The Hardest Conversation You Have Ever Had?
24:40 Building Connections With Your Audience
25:50 Ever Caught Anything Crazy On Camera?
26:45 Then VS Now Journey With Other Stars
29:13 Advice For Up And Coming Artists
32:11 How Far Do You Plan Your Goals?
32:49 Best Moves In Money Management
35:58 Dumbest Thing I Have Ever Bought
36:35 Best Investment I Have Ever Made
38:20 Relationship With God
40:30 Moving Around In My Childhood
41:58 How My Childhood Experiences Has Impacted Me
44:48 How My Views On Fatherhood Has Changed
50:17 How I Take Control Of My Career As An Artist
54:17 What I Learnt From My Mom
55:31 Something People Should Know About Me
1:00 How Working Out Helped Me
1:02 My Advice For Men Who Want To Get Into Health And Fitness
1:03 My Perspective On Masculinity
1:08 My Take On MMA And Martial Arts
1:12:09 How I View My New Album And Most Viewed Video
1:16:22 My Motivation To Go Sober From Alcohol
1:18:01 First Thing I Do Before I Go To Bed
1:18:32 Wiz on Final Five
Episode Resources:
Wiz Khalifa | Website
Wiz Khalifa | Instagram
Wiz Khalifa | TikTok
Wiz Khalifa | YouTube
Wiz Khalifa | Facebook
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What does a "rich life" mean to you?
Do you focus more on what you have or what you lack?
Today, Jay will redefine what it truly means to live a "rich life." While society often equates wealth with material possessions and financial success, Jay challenges this narrow definition and explores how richness can also encompass time, energy, relationships, and inner fulfillment.
Drawing on personal experiences, historical insights, and anecdotes from his conversations with inspiring figures like Kobe Bryant and Tom Hanks, Jay illustrates how people can find peace and purpose by focusing on what genuinely matters. He also addresses the pitfalls of tying happiness solely to financial success, emphasizing that it’s not money itself but our mindset—whether driven by envy, ego, or gratitude—that shapes our sense of abundance.
Jay further unpacks our personal definitions of wealth. Are we in a season of prioritizing career growth, family, love, or personal development? He explores how life’s richness comes from aligning with our true values and fully embracing the priorities that resonate most in each phase of life, without guilt or external judgment.
In this episode, you'll learn:
How to Define Your Rich Life
How to Shift to an Abundance Mindset
How to Find Purpose Beyond Money
How to Focus Your Energy for Growth
How to Live Authentically and Fully
Richness isn’t about how much you have but how deeply you experience life. Prioritize what matters, invest your energy where it counts, and trust that each step you take toward alignment with your values brings you closer to a truly abundant existence.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
02:39 How Do You Define Wealth?
06:59 What You Do Becomes Your Identity
10:26 How to Create a Rich, Abundant Mindset?
11:46 The Difference Between Resume and Eulogy Virtues
17:01 How Do You Spend Your Time and Energy?
19:46 Looking at Richness Beyond Money
22:47 The Five Regrets of the Dying
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What’s the first step to making money with no savings?
How do you choose which opportunities to start with?
Today, Jay sits down with Codie Sanchez, author of “Main Street Millionaire”. Codie is a powerhouse entrepreneur, investor, and the mind behind Contrarian Thinking, a platform dedicated to empowering people to build real wealth through unconventional investments and small business ownership. Codie’s journey is anything but typical: she went from a middle-class background to finance jobs at Goldman Sachs and Vanguard, then pivoted into journalism, and finally found her calling by building wealth through owning small businesses.
Codie breaks down the idea that you don’t need groundbreaking ideas or tons of cash to get started, just a willingness to look beyond the obvious. From laundromats to vending machines, she explains how these “boring” businesses can actually be gold mines, offering steady and substantial returns that often get overlooked in today’s flashy, social media-driven vision of success.
Together, Jay and Codie dive into practical steps for starting your journey in business ownership. They discuss the essentials, how to make deals, manage risk, and recognize the right opportunities. Along the way, they debunk the myth that you need to be rich or have a finance degree to succeed. Instead, they focus on the importance of learning the language of money, cultivating grit, and keeping a curious mindset.
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to Take Control of Your Financial Future
How to Start Building Wealth Without a Big Idea
How to Identify Profitable Small Businesses
How to Build a Strong Relationship with Money
How to Turn Curiosity into Cash
How to Leverage Ownership for Financial Freedom
How to Find Under-the-Radar Investment Opportunities
You have the ability to create meaningful change, not only for yourself but for those around you, by building something that truly matters. Keep moving forward, and believe that financial freedom is within your reach.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
01:57 What Makes Rich People Rich?
04:40 The Reason Why People Don’t Talk About Money
06:30 Where Are We At Financially?
09:50 Misconceptions About What Makes Money
13:00 4-Step Process to Consistently Make Money
14:47 Academic Skills Don’t Translate to a Stable Career
17:44 Do You Need Money to Make Money?
23:06 The Key to Wealth is Taking Risks
26:48 We Can All Get Rich Together
32:52 Focus on the Foundation, not Tactics
35:28 You’ll Make Less Money if You Think You Will
36:57 Learn To Ask the Right Questions
43:57 The Best Mentorship Advice
49:06 You Can Make Money From Anything
52:33 The Richest People Started Small
54:19 What Core Business Skills You Should Invest In
01:00:16 Recognize Your Value to Get Better Deals
01:10:21 Every Business has a Value
01:13:49 Are You Bad at Math
01:17:47 Codie on Final Five
Episode Resources:
Codie Sanchez | Website
Codie Sanchez | YouTube
Codie Sanchez | Instagram
Codie Sanchez | Facebook
Codie Sanchez | TikTok
Codie Sanchez | LinkedIn
Main Street Millionaire: How to Make Extraordinary Wealth Buying Ordinary Businesses
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What makes you feel confident about yourself?
How do you build your confidence when it’s low?
Today, Jay discusses a topic that's all too familiar - the constant barrage of unrealistic beauty standards. He challenges the notion of a singular "most beautiful woman in the world" and explores how societal expectations and media influence our perception of beauty.
Jay breaks down the historical and cultural factors that shape beauty standards, from the ancient Greek ideals of symmetry and proportion to the modern-day obsession with youth and perfection. He highlights the role of social media in perpetuating unrealistic beauty ideals and encourages listeners to question these norms and embrace their individuality.
In this episode, you'll learn:
How to Embrace Individuality
How to Build Self-Love
How to Set Boundaries
How to Appreciate Uniqueness
How to Practice Mindfulness
By understanding the forces that shape our perception of beauty and cultivating self-love, we can live authentic, fulfilling lives. Remember, true beauty radiates from within.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
03:21 Different Ways We Think About Beauty
07:32 Definition of Beauty Through History
13:49 Beauty Standards of the West
16:11 What Do We Believe to be Beautiful About Ourselves?
17:05 3 Ways to Build Self Love
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What triggers envy for you?
How do you turn envy into action?
Today, in this eye-opening episode, Jay Jay sits down with the legendary Dr. Jordan B. Peterson, a psychologist, educator, and bestselling author. This conversation has been in the making for years, and it’s packed with deep insights on human development, identity, and how ancient wisdom ties into today’s challenges.
One of the standout moments is when Jordan talks about his upcoming book, We Who Wrestle With God. He takes listeners through the timeless stories of the Old Testament, explaining how they provide profound lessons on values, integrity, and personal growth. He also talks about the importance of always telling the truth and viewing life as an exploration of what’s possible.
Jay and Jordan discuss how easy it is for people to get trapped in “false adventures”—chasing immediate gratification or quick fixes that ultimately don’t fulfill. Jordan reminds us that real growth involves shedding old parts of ourselves to move forward and align with bigger, long-term goals.
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to Build a Life of Integrity
How to Turn Failure into Learning Opportunities
How to Stay True to Long-Term Goals
How to Practice Gratitude Daily
How to Recognize and Avoid Short-Sighted Decisions
How to Align Your Actions with Your Purpose
How to Balance Ambition and Ethical Living
This conversation highlights the power of facing challenges, learning from experiences, and staying aligned with long-term goals.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
1:24 How Technology Exacerbates Manipulation
08:13 Escaping A Limited Reality
09:41 Addressing Problems At The Root
13:55 The Effectiveness of Psychotherapy on Psychopaths
18:17 The Mindset of Predatory Psychopaths
21:03 Tips for Women to Protect Themselves from Manipulative People
24:16 PTSD And Its Impact
27:17 How Stories Shape Our Identity
37:06 Why Self-Consciousness Leads to Misery
40:03 The Difference Between Seeing and Thinking
47:54 The Importance of Long-Term Vision
52:56 The Dangers of Envy
55:28 Strategies to Overcome Envy
59:57 The Role of Pride and Arrogance in Personal Growth
01:05:14 The Art of Understanding Through Listening
01:09:04 Avoiding the Weaponization of Truth
01:10:45 How Short-Term Gratification Derails Progress
01:13:11 Setting Standards With Encouragement
01:16:31 Sources Of Hope Today
01:26:02 Jordan On Final 5
Episode Resources:
Dr. Jordan B. Peterson | Website
Dr. Jordan B. Peterson | YouTube
Dr. Jordan B. Peterson | Instagram
Dr. Jordan B. Peterson | Facebook
Dr. Jordan B. Peterson | TikTok
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What drains your energy the most?
How do you deal with toxic behaviors?
Today, Jay tackles a topic we can all relate to – dealing with those challenging family members and coworkers who add a little extra stress to our lives, especially as the holiday season rolls around. If you’re already bracing yourself for gatherings with people who seem to bring more tension than joy, Jay’s got you covered. He dives into why certain people fall into negative or toxic patterns, breaking down types like the pessimist, the complainer, the eternal victim, the energy drainer, and the “just good enough” person. Jay’s perspective sheds light on how these behaviors aren’t really who they are at their core but are often habits born from past hurts or unmet needs.
Jay doesn’t just stop at explaining, though – he shares some really practical, relatable tips on how to navigate these tough dynamics without letting them throw you off balance. He talks about ways to respond with empathy, set emotional boundaries, and even gently redirect conversations when they start to drag you down.
In this episode, you'll learn:
How to Handle Toxic Family Members at Gatherings
How to Protect Your Peace Around Negative People
How to Set Boundaries with Draining Coworkers
How to Turn Negative Conversations Around
How to Recognize Negative Patterns in Loved Ones
How to Stop Taking Toxic Comments Personally
You can’t always change someone else’s behavior, but you can protect your own joy and keep a positive outlook. So, as you head into those family gatherings or work meetings, just remember to stay grounded and prioritize your well-being – you deserve it!
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
01:24 How Do You Deal with Toxic People?
03:26 What Makes a Person Negative or Toxic?
04:34 Type 1: The Pessimist
06:06 Type 2: The Complainer
08:05 Type 3: The Eternal Victim
10:19 Type 4: The “Just Good Enough”
13:19 Some Toxic Behavior is Meant to Protect You
15:13 Tips and Strategies to Deal with Toxicity
17:12 Tip 1: Try to Understand Their Story
19:01 Tip 2: The Negativity Begins with Themselves
22:47 Tip 3: Respond with a Reflective Remark
24:05 Tip 4: Create Distance and Boundaries
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Have you ever felt stuck in a negative relationship cycle?
Have you ever struggled with setting boundaries in your relationships?
Today, Jay welcomes back a community favorite, the renowned psychotherapist, bestselling author, and podcast host Lori Gottlieb, for an insightful chat about love, relationships, and emotional growth. Lori, best known for her book Maybe You Should Talk to Someone and as co-host of the popular Dear Therapists podcast, brings her deep wisdom and practical advice that really hits home with listeners.
Lori shares how people often step into love with unrealistic expectations, thanks to social media and pop culture. She reminds us that while the spark of initial chemistry is thrilling, true, long-lasting love thrives on a deeper connection and genuine understanding. One of the highlights is Lori’s take on “idiot compassion” versus “wise compassion.” She breaks down how real compassion means looking at ourselves honestly, recognizing our patterns, and owning our part in the relationship. This is essential for anyone feeling trapped in negative cycles.
As the conversation unfolds, Jay and Lori dive into family dynamics, especially around in-laws and blending families. Lori offers practical tips on how to support your relationship while still showing respect for parents, pointing out that these challenges are usually a couple's issues, not just external ones.
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to Let Go of Unrealistic Expectations
How to Practice Wise Compassion
How to Break Negative Patterns
How to Handle Pressure to Rush Relationships
How to Prioritize Clear Communication
How to Avoid Pop Culture Relationship Pitfalls
How to Cultivate Emotional Resilience
Remember, true connection flourishes when we commit to growth, communicate openly, and remain empathetic to both ourselves and others. Every step taken toward understanding and compassion brings you closer to creating a life filled with genuine, lasting connections.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
02:29 What is Everyone Doing at My Age?
05:08 Why Doing Self Work Matters
08:40 Why You Need to Slow Down to Save Time
13:03 How Your Attachment Style Affects Your Relationship
17:03 First Date Impressions Aren’t Always Accurate
21:26 How Do You Define Real Human Connection?
24:33 Do You Fully Understand Your Partner?
28:24 Learn to Communicate Your Desires
31:26 This is What Happens When You Don’t Communicate
35:24 Why We’re Unreliable Narrators of Our Story
37:52 Be Consistent with Your Boundaries
42:36 We All Want to Be Liked
45:46 You’re Not Ready to Marry Yet
49:51 Practice Being Your True Self All the Time
52:36 The Blind Spots of Dating
57:08 The Truth About Future Tripping
01:00:10 How Do You Feel About the Other Person?
01:01:33 The 7-Year Mark of Marriages
01:03:50 Can Having Children Save a Marriage?
01:07:35 In-Law Issues is a Couple Issue
01:12:01 The Concept of Feeling Felt
01:16:50 How Long Can You Tolerate Disrespect from Your Partner?
Episode Resources:
Lori Gottlieb | YouTube
Lori Gottlieb | Instagram
Lori Gottlieb | Website
Maybe You Should Talk to Someone
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Do you ever try focusing on just one thing at a time?
What’s one way you avoid distractions?
Today, Jay’s diving into a struggle we all know too well: distraction. If you’ve ever found yourself scrolling on your phone without even thinking about it, you’re definitely not alone. Jay breaks down why it’s so hard to stay focused in a world full of constant notifications and packed schedules. But this episode isn’t about making us feel guilty—instead, it’s about giving us simple, doable strategies to actually make focus easier.
Jay’s packed this episode with practical tips, like creating “no-phone zones” at home and setting tech-free times during the day to really be present. One of the standout strategies he shares is the Pomodoro Technique—working in short, focused bursts with breaks in between to keep your brain sharp and productive. Jay’s main message? Real productivity isn’t about doing more, faster—it’s about doing things better. He even shares some unique Ayurvedic advice, like chewing each bite 32 times (yes, really!) to emphasize how slowing down can improve our lives.
In this episode, you'll learn:
How to Slow Down for Better Productivity
How to Stay Present in Conversations
How to Find Calm by Unplugging
How to Build Stronger Focus Habits
How to Reclaim Your Attention
By setting intentional boundaries, slowing down, and practicing mindfulness, we can take back our attention in a way that enhances productivity, deepens our relationships, and brings peace to our daily lives.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
01:46 Have You Been Feeling More Distracted?
04:03 What Research Says About the Decline in Focus
06:12 Majority of Us Can’t Multitask
09:00 Doing Things Slower Makes Better Progress
11:43 #1: The Pomodoro Technique
13:38 #2: No Tech Zones, No Tech Times
15:56 #3: Go For a Walk, Stay Off Your Phone
20:34 #4: Finish What You Start
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How do you handle negative self-talk?
What helps you overcome self-doubt?
Today, Jay sits down with Grammy Award-winning artist Alicia Keys as she shares her journey of self-discovery, resilience, and holistic living. Alicia founded Keys SoulCare, a skincare line emphasizing holistic well-being, and is a co-founder of the initiative She Is the Music, advocating for gender equality in the music industry. The conversation sheds light into Alicia's evolution from a young girl with dreams to an icon balancing a multifaceted career. Jay and Alicia discuss the highs and lows of fame, navigating self-doubt, and the pressures of public life, providing listeners with valuable insights on managing stress and fostering a positive self-image.
Alicia reflects on her childhood fears and the challenges of finding self-worth, candidly revealing how these experiences shaped her. She emphasizes the importance of staying grounded through practices like affirmations, journaling, and mindful rituals—habits that help her stay true to herself amid a whirlwind career.
Jay and Alicia then talk about the beauty of affirmations and the importance of letting go of perfectionism, a journey that led Alicia to adopt a more holistic approach to life. In her partnership with husband Swizz Beatz, she finds a harmonious balance of "flow" and "design," where they support each other's growth and freedom. This dynamic extends to their parenting style, where they teach their children gratitude and self-acceptance while instilling a sense of humility and grace.
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to Embrace Your True Self
How to Overcome Self-Doubt and Fear
How to Find Confidence Within Yourself
How to Turn Negative Thoughts into Positivity
How to Discover Your Inner Strength
How to Set Boundaries for Self-Care
How to Be Kind to Yourself
How to Trust Your Own Choices
The journey through self-doubt, fears, and external pressures highlights the importance of staying grounded, trusting intuition, and letting go of the need to seek others' approval.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
03:54 What Would You Say to Your Younger Self?
05:34 When You Have the Need to Protect Yourself
09:02 From Being Doubtful to Becoming Curious
13:43 What Is Your Affirmation Today?
15:30 Stop Being Mean to Yourself
19:06 Finding the Will to Love Your Own Skin
26:49 Spend More Time with Yourself
32:14 The Gifts and the Gaps
36:19 What Have You Learned From Your Partner?
38:06 Having Healthy Conflict in Your Relationship
45:53 Finding Balance Between Control and Flow
47:51 The Love for Crystals
51:32 Losing the Ability to Trust Yourself
57:15 What Are Your Go-To Rituals to Feel Better?
01:00:08 Teach Your Children to Practice Gratitude
01:03:45 Allow Other People to Speak and Just Listen
01:05:22 Creating Safe Space for Children
01:09:35 Hell’s Kitchen on Broadway
01:15:19 Be Clear with Your Vision
01:22:12 How Have You Protected Yourself from Fame and Success?
01:26:32 Alicia in Final Five
Episode Resources:
Alicia Keys | Website
Alicia Keys | YouTube
Alicia Keys | Instagram
Alicia Keys | Facebook
Alicia Keys | TikTok
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Are you open to just being friends with an ex?
Do you think they want the same kind of friendship?
Today, Jay’s diving into a question we've all probably wrestled with at some point: can you really stay friends with an ex? He kicks things off by laying down some ground rules, pointing out that not every ex is friendship material, especially if there was any toxicity or harm in the relationship. For those open to trying a platonic bond post-breakup, he highlights the real-life complexities and the level of emotional maturity it takes to make it work.
Jay also brings in some interesting science, sharing that studies show people stay connected with their exes for reasons like security, convenience, keeping things civil, or even unresolved feelings. But each of these reasons can get messy, and Jay explains that often, the urge to stay friends might have more to do with wanting a sense of safety or familiarity than with genuine friendship.
In this episode, you'll learn:
How to Decide if an Ex Deserves Friendship
How to Set Boundaries with an Ex
How to Manage Shared Friends Post-Breakup
How to Avoid Using Friendship to Win Them Back
How to Avoid Hurting Your Ex Twice
Sometimes, the boldest and most courageous thing you can do is to walk away, taking the lessons with you and leaving the rest behind. Focus on what makes you feel good and helps you build the life you truly want.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
00:52 Not Every Ex Deserves Friendship
04:36 Four Core Reasons People Stay Friends with Their Exes
09:30 Four Ways to Know Being Friends with an Ex Won’t Work
13:52 How to Start Being Friends with an Ex?
18:33 Friends and Family Can be Casualties of a Breakup
21:41 Establish New Rules of Engagement
22:50 Consider the Welfare of Children
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How do you usually handle stress?
Have you tried hypnosis for stress?
Today, Jay with Dr. David Spiegel, a leading expert in psychiatry and behavioral sciences, to explore the transformative power of hypnotherapy. Dr. Spiegel, with over 45 years of experience in clinical and research fields, shares profound insights into the science behind hypnosis, dispelling myths and misconceptions. He explains how hypnosis is a natural, self-directed process that allows individuals to tap into heightened focus, manage pain, reduce stress, and address deep-seated traumas.
The conversation begins with Dr. Spiegel explaining the foundations of hypnosis, highlighting its ability to narrow one’s focus, similar to a telephoto lens, and create a dissociative state where one can temporarily suspend self-limiting beliefs. This unique focus enables users to challenge habitual thoughts and reframe experiences. Dr. Spiegel shares real-life success stories, such as a war veteran who found peace with traumatic memories and individuals overcoming chronic pain and stress using hypnosis.
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to Sleep Better Using Hypnosis
How to Improve Focus by Narrowing Attention
How to Process Trauma Safely with Hypnosis
How to Use Visualization to Relieve Stress
How to Focus Your Attention Deeply
How to Filter Out Pain with Hypnosis
By learning how to access a focused, relaxed state, you can reshape your response to pain, manage stress more effectively, and explore emotions or memories that might otherwise feel overwhelming.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
02:17 What is Hypnosis
05:08 How Beneficial Hypnosis is For You?
09:14 What Happens to Your Brain During Hypnosis
14:40 Can You Control Other People with Hypnosis?
16:13 Is It Possible to Hypnotize Anyone?
26:14 You’re Still in Control of Your Body
31:28 How Can Hypnotherapy After Memory Recall?
38:29 Guided Hypnotherapy at Home is Possible
40:59 Let Your Brain Heal Your Body
43:34 The Worst Mental Case Under Hypnosis
50:26 We Lose the Hypnotic Ability as We Age
55:39 How Hypnosis Can Help You Focus More
57:38 David on Final Five
Episode Resources:
Reveri | YouTube
Reveri | Instagram
Reveri | Facebook
Reveri | LinkedIn
Reveri | Website
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Have you ever felt like success affected your dating life?
Have you ever felt judged for your level of ambition?
Today, Jay addresses the insecurities some men may feel when partnered with highly driven women, shedding light on societal conditioning and personal growth. discusses how societal expectations traditionally placed men in provider roles, which can lead to an unease when faced with a partner who exemplifies drive and independence.
Jay also delves into recent studies, such as the "Clooney Effect," showing that most men actually value intelligence and confidence in their partners. By examining these narratives, Jay dispels myths that successful women are inherently intimidating to men. Instead, he encourages ambitious women not to diminish their goals but to seek partners who celebrate and complement their journey.
In this episode, you'll learn:
How to embrace your ambition without guilt
How to address insecurities in your relationship
How to balance mutual respect and personal ambition
How to seek partners who uplift, not compete
How to identify and avoid unhealthy relationship roles
True partnership means valuing each other's journey, working through insecurities together, and building a foundation where both people can grow freely and authentically.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
00:49 Are Men Less Attracted to Successful Women?
05:15 Men Have Had to Play the Protective Role
06:48 The Negative Dating Mindset You Should Stop Having
13:04 Have an Understanding of What Both are Pursuing
14:29 Are You Making Your Partner Feel Insecure?
18:29 What Makes You a Healthy Partner?
21:04 Respect Each Other’s Ambitions
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What does a balanced life look like for you?
Are you getting enough time to recharge?
Today, Jay engages in a deeply reflective conversation with legendary actor, filmmaker, and writer Tom Hanks. With a career spanning over four decades, Hanks is renowned for his roles in iconic films like Forrest Gump, Saving Private Ryan, Cast Away, and The Green Mile, earning him two Academy Awards.
Tom opens up about his unconventional childhood, moving frequently and adjusting to new environments, which shaped his adaptability and taught him the art of letting go. As he reflects on his career, he discusses how he continues to find purpose and depth in his work, emphasizing the joy of collaboration and the importance of staying curious.
Together, Jay and Tom discuss how certain locations hold emotional weight, becoming symbols of comfort or life-changing reflection. They also touch on generational wisdom, the role of luck, and finding joy in small, shared experiences. With his characteristic humor and humility, Tom offers listeners a glimpse into his contemplative nature and the lessons he's learned over the years, reminding us all of the power of presence and community.
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to Find Comfort in Solitude
How to Embrace Life's Unexpected Changes
How to Connect Across Generations
How to Trust Your Instincts and Take Risks
How to Stay Curious at Any Age
How to Discover Purpose in Your Work
How to Show Up Fully in Relationships
How to Find Wisdom in Life’s Challenges
How to Pursue Meaning over Perfection
Life isn’t about having all the answers; it’s about embracing the unknown with openness, honoring the journey, and finding meaning in each moment, each experience, and each relationship.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
01:17 Early Life Lessons: Childhood, Change, and Resilience
05:37 Mastering the Art of Detachment
10:15 Discovering Theater and Passion in High School
18:56 Can We Create Our Own Luck?
21:35 Exploring the Sacred Sites of Jerusalem
27:03 Owning Your Mistakes and When to Take Personal Responsibility
30:52 The Third Space: Finding Balance Beyond Work and Home
37:03 Fathers and the Lasting Impact on Their Sons
38:42 Nurturing Kids’ Interests for Genuine Growth
42:59 The Value of Academic Ambition
45:21 Capturing the Present: Finding Magic in Every Moment
52:46 Reflections on Seeing Your Younger Self in the Movie
55:03 Finding Presence in Everyday Life
58:04 The Freedom of Following Your True Desires
01:04:25 Imagining the Dream Life: Building a Path to Fulfillment
01:07:29 Themes of Time and Place in the Film Here
01:09:01 The Fascination with Reaching the Moon
01:11:04 Unraveling a Deep Fascination with WWII
01:18:01 Becoming America’s Most Trusted Voice
01:21:07 Grateful for the Blessings of Family
01:22:04 Observing Life’s Passing Moments
01:27:42 Honored with Greek Citizenship
01:31:31 Tom on Final Five
Episode Resources:
Tom Hanks | Instagram
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Have you ever regretted not saying something sooner?
Do you think holding in your emotions causes stress?
Today, Jay takes us on a journey through the principles of the Tell Them Method, explaining that whether it's a simple decision like not wanting to attend an event or a deeper emotion like feeling unappreciated, the key is to directly communicate those feelings to the person involved. He highlights that most of us practice what he calls the "Tell Everyone But Them" method—where we vent to others but avoid speaking directly to the person who needs to hear it. This behavior, Jay argues, not only erodes trust and intimacy in relationships but also traps negative emotions within us, leading to stress and even physical discomfort.
Jay uses relatable anecdotes and insights from research to underline the significance of expressing emotions in a healthy way. He discusses how bottled-up emotions can lead to passive-aggressive behavior, overreactions, and even health problems. By directly telling people how we feel—whether it’s disappointment, love, or frustration—Jay believes we open the door to deeper understanding and connection.
In this episode, you'll learn:
How to Use the Tell Them Method
How to Stop Avoiding Hard Conversations
How to Pick the Best Time to Talk
How to Share Feelings Without Fighting
How to Ask Instead of Accuse
Practicing the "Tell Them Method" approach in everyday life not only improves our relationships but also enhances our emotional well-being, giving us the clarity and peace that comes from being truthful and intentional in our interactions.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
02:33 What is the Tell Them Method?
06:11 Why it’s Hard to Tell Someone How You Feel
09:29 Underestimate the Value of How Something is Said
16:06 The Three Things That Happen When Emotion is Experienced
18:26 How Trapped Emotions Can Create Trauma
22:52 Figure Out the Best Time to Talk About It
25:57 Don’t Wait for the Last Minute to Tell Them
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Have you ever tried different ways to get rid of belly fat?
Have you ever tried different ways to suppress your appetite?
Today, Jay welcomes women’s health expert, bestselling author, and podcast host Dr. Mindy Pelz to discuss how women can optimize their health, particularly through fasting, hormones, and metabolic health. Dr. Pelz explains the biological differences between men and women and emphasizes the importance of understanding the female body's rhythms and cycles for maintaining health and hormonal balance.
Dr. Pelz begins by discussing common fasting mistakes, highlighting how doing the same fast daily can slow down metabolism. She introduces the concept of "feast-famine cycling," stressing the need for variety in fasting durations and windows, particularly for women. According to her, fasting must be adapted to the individual’s lifestyle and, for women, their menstrual cycle. She also addresses Jay’s personal approach to fasting and offers tailored advice for him, including when to eat before and after workouts.
The conversation then turns to the topic of belly fat and how stress and toxins contribute to weight gain, particularly around the belly area. Dr. Pelz explains that excess cortisol, which is heightened by stress, leads to belly fat, and she provides practical tips to manage cortisol levels, including movement, time in nature, and spending time with positive people.
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to Start Fasting Gradually
How to Manage Stress with Movement
How to Reduce Belly Fat Naturally
How to Customize Your Eating Schedule
How to Stabilize Blood Sugar with Timing
How to Stay Full Longer with Healthy Fats
How to Lose Weight with Fasting Cycles
How to Align Fasting with Your Menstrual Cycle
The message is clear: everyone has the ability to transform their well-being by taking small, intentional steps toward a healthier lifestyle. With the right mindset and commitment, a vibrant and balanced life is within reach for all.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
02:59 The Worst Mistake One Can Make While Fasting
04:38 How Do You Fast Properly?
06:22 What’s Your Intention for Your Health?
09:37 What’s the Fastest Way to Lose Belly Fat?
13:42 Common Toxins That Accumulate in the Body
18:00 The Chemicals that Turn Stems Cells to Fat Cells
19:43 Does Counting Calories Matter?
25:45 How to Have a Better Relationship with Food
29:16 How to Detox from Sugar Cravings
32:47 How Much Protein Should You Eat?
38:19 What is Toxic Fat?
39:50 When is the Best Time to Eat Fat?
43:38 Are You Getting Enough Nutrients for Your Hormones?
46:14 What is the Fasting Cycle?
49:08 The Female’s Hormonal System is Highly Complex
52:52 Should You Reconsider Hormone Replacement Therapy?
55:22 Positive LIfestyle Changes That Could Help You
58:40 Is There Anyone Who SHouldn’t Fast?
59:58 What is a Clean Protein?
01:03:25 How to Empower Your Body
01:04:40 How to Know Your Got Your Meal Right
01:09:09 How Do You Train Yourself to Fast?
01:12:44 Is the Female Body Meant to Have More Fat?
01:17:37 How Do You Manage Fasting and Working Out?
01:20:22 Mindy on Final Five
Episode Resources:
Dr. Mindy Pelz | Website
Dr. Mindy Pelz | Instagram
Dr. Mindy Pelz | Facebook
Dr. Mindy Pelz | YouTube
Dr. Mindy Pelz | LinkedIn
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