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All behavior makes sense and no behavior is maladaptive- in the moment that behavior emerges.
Of course, the IMPACT of the behavior might be maladaptive and absolutely many behaviors need to change.
But understanding that all behavior makes perfect sense at the moment it emerges is the lynchpin in offering folks co-regulation, connection, and felt-safety.
How all brains create realityThe brainâs most important jobThe most effective path to take if you want to see behavior change
In this episode, youâll learn
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/allbehaviormakessense
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Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being WithThe podcast is searchable if you go to my website!
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There, you can type in any search word and instantly see what episodes I have that cover that topic!Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources!
You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation!
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Itâs really important to me and my team that you have all the information you might need when making the decision to join The Club- or not.
The Club is open for new members now, October 1-8, 2024, and I recorded this episode based on some of the most commonly asked questions
What The Club even is and why itâs different than other parenting communitiesWhatâs included in your Club membership (so much!)How easy it is to access and participate in The ClubHow easy it is to step away from The Club whenever youâre ready
In this episode, youâll learn
Read the full transcript at:RobynGobbel.com/whatsintheclub
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Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being WithThe podcast is searchable if you go to my website!
RobynGobbel.com/podcast
There, you can type in any search word and instantly see what episodes I have that cover that topic!:::::
Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club!
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Whiplash. You probably know what I mean. You start to be lulled into a life with fewer meltdowns, or less intensity. Then BOOM. An old behavior seems to explode out of nowhere.
Youâre right back to feeling like everythingâs awful or itâll never get better or youâll have to live like this forever.
You might even be frustrated with yourself that you let yourself ârelax.â
All of these experiences are completely normal for folks who love someone with a chronic condition that occasionally flares- which is what a vulnerable nervous system is.
The whiplash and why we feel itWhy our kids seem to attack outta no whereWhy these moments feel like everything is as worse as ever- but it probably isnâtWhy itâs GOOD we can finally rest, even if it does leave us feeling unprotected and whiplashed
In this episode, youâll learn
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/whiplash
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Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being WithThe podcast is searchable if you go to my website!
RobynGobbel.com/podcast
There, you can type in any search word and instantly see what episodes I have that cover that topic!:::::
Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club!
Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you!
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If self-regulation doesn't really exist- then what do we mean when we talk about self-regulation? And why does it matter?
What self-regulation REALLY isHow âselfâ regulation developWhy you should still teach self-regulation skills
In this episode, youâll learn
What Does Co-Regulation Really Look Like? {EP 81}Self-Regulation Doesn't Exist!!! (ep 43)
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/selfregulation
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Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
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LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being WithThe podcast is searchable if you go to my website!
RobynGobbel.com/podcast
There, you can type in any search word and instantly see what episodes I have that cover that topic!:::::
Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club!
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We could never have too many ideas about how to cultivate connections between home and school. Author of Light Up the Learning Brain (and Riley the Brave) Jessica Sinarski shares practical ideas that can help parents and schools work together to support kids with vulnerable nervous systems.
In this episode, youâll learn
Practical, easy-to-implement strategies to create connections between parents and teachersWhy regulation is foundational for learningWhere to find resources that support educators in creating a culture of compassion
Light Up the Learning BrainSupporting Kids Who Struggle with Change www.BraveBrains.comFree Resources
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/improvingconnections
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Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being WithThe podcast is searchable if you go to my website!
RobynGobbel.com/podcast
There, you can type in any search word and instantly see what episodes I have that cover that topic!Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources!
You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation!
RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources:::::
Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club!
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Parenting kids with vulnerable nervous systems is practically synonymous with âcontrolling.â Our kids are controlling and for most of us, if we were honest, weâd notice that the stress of parenting is causing us to get controlling, too.
Why?
In this episode, youâll learn
Why protection mode almost always leads to an increase in controlling behaviorHow controlling behavior is an attempt to find safety and connectionTips on how to offer co-regulation to a child who is attempting to control you
Connection or Protection??? {EP 7}Scaffolding is a Form of Co-Regulation {EP 82}Stress Response System {EP 94}Exploring Low-Demand Parenting: Shift Power Dynamics and Nurturing Trust {EP 142}
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/controlling
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Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being WithThe podcast is searchable if you go to my website!
RobynGobbel.com/podcast
There, you can type in any search word and instantly see what episodes I have that cover that topic!:::::
Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club!
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Almost every time I teach, especially if there are folks in the audience not already familiar with my work or the concept of co-regulation, someone asks the very valid question of-
âIsnât this (co-regulation) just coddling?â
Fair question! There are a lot of underlying assumptions and fears in this question that we will deconstruct in todayâs episode.
Spoiler: Co-regulation is NOT coddling!
In this episode, youâll learn
The difference between co-regulation and coddlingWhy asking this question helps us understand some of our fearsWhat trust has to do with co-regulation
Self-Regulation Doesn't Exist!!What Does Co-Regulation Really Look Like? {EP 81}Enabling vs. Low-Demand Parenting {Ep 144}
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/coddling
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Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
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LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being WithThe podcast is searchable if you go to my website!
RobynGobbel.com/podcast
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This episode originally aired on November 7th, 2023
Does your child yell, scream, or otherwise refuse to talk about their owl, watchdog, or possum brain?They tell you itâs stupid or tell you to stop talking or get extra silly or just donât talk?
I hear this from a LOT of parents (and I experienced it a lot in the play therapy room).
This doesnât mean it doesnât work for your child. Promise.
The developmental milestones needed before a child can identify or talk about their owl, watchdog, or possum brainHow we can use our kidsâ behavior as cues/clues to let us know something about their brain development and what interventions are appropriate (clinical reasoning)The role of distress toleranceSteps to take to scaffold your child in developing self-reflection and mindsight, as well as decrease shame around their behavior
In this episode youâll learn:Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Can I Teach My Child About Their Brain? {Ep 114}Healing Blocked Care With Melissa Corkum and Lisa Qualls {Ep 123}Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/talkaboutwatchdog
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Over on my website you can find:Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being WithThe podcast is searchable if you go to my website!
RobynGobbel.com/podcast
There, you can type in any search word and instantly see what episodes I have that cover that topic!Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources!
You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation!
RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources:::::
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This episode originally aired February 17th, 2023
Iâve been listening for a while and the watchdog and possum brain ideas have really helped me. Is it OK to teach this to my kids too? Iâm worried theyâll start using it as excuses.I get this question all the time! If we teach our kids about the watchdog and possum brain are they going to start saying things like âMy watchdog brain made me hit my sister!â
In this episode, I:
Outline the benefits of teaching our kids about their brain (there are lots)Teach you what to do if your child uses it as an excuseRecommend resources for how to teach your child about their brainWelcome to Fridays in February Q&As! I'll be answering one question every Friday in February.
Additional Resources:
Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior Podcast: https://robyngobbel.com/changebehavior
Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior FREE Webinar: https://robyngobbel.com/webinar
The START HERE podcast: https://robyngobbel.com/starthere
Over on my website you can find:Masterclass and eBook on What Behavior Really Is (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With:::::
Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club!
Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you!
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Does your child with a vulnerable nervous system say mean, hurtful, taunting, or aggressive things to your other kids? You already know you canât control what comes out of someone elseâs mouth, so what do you do??? How do you help your kids deal with their siblingâs verbal aggression?
In this episode, youâll learn
Steps to help increase your childrenâs psychological boundariesActivities that will help your children increase their psychological boundaries
Setting Boundaries That Sick - Juliane Taylor Shore's book!Boundaries with Verbal Aggression with Juliane Taylor Shore {EP 115}Setting Boundaries That Stick With Juliane Taylor Shore and Therapist Uncensored {EP 185}Helping Siblings Understand "Unfair" Parenting {EP 186}Teach Siblings about Owls, Watchdogs, and Possums... Without Excusing! {EP 187}Grief as the Sibling of a Child with Special Needs {EP 188}
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/siblingsverbalaggression
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Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being WithThe podcast is searchable if you go to my website!
RobynGobbel.com/podcast
There, you can type in any search word and instantly see what episodes I have that cover that topic!:::::
Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club!
Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you!
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What on earth should you do when you have more than one child dysregulated at the same time? Youâre outnumbered, youâre overwhelmed. Now what?
In this episode, youâll learn
The #1 step to take when more than one kid is dysregulatedWhat to prioritize How to have realistic expectations for yourself
Child Always Dysregulated? Try This! {EP 18}Stress Response System {EP 94}Enabling vs. Low-Demand Parenting {EP 144}Grief as the Sibling of a Child with Special Needs {EP 188}
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/twokidsdysregulated
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Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being WithThe podcast is searchable if you go to my website!
RobynGobbel.com/podcast
There, you can type in any search word and instantly see what episodes I have that cover that topic!:::::
Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club!
Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you!
Just need a little extra help? Head to RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources -
If you are a regular listener here on The Baffling Behavior Show, big, baffling behaviors and big meltdowns are no longer surprising in your home.
Even if we canât predict those moments of 'Back-Off or, 'Attack' Watchdog, "Shut Down' or, 'Play Dead' Possum, we can predict that it is going to happen again.
You can create felt safety for the other children in your home by making a plan.
Key things to consider when making a plan for what siblings should do during a meltdownScripts for how to talk to your other children about the plan How to empower siblings to get help when they recognize lower level cues and clues of the watchdog or possum pathway in their sibling
In this episode, youâll learn
Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior {EP 84}
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/helpsiblings
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Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being WithThe podcast is searchable if you go to my website!
RobynGobbel.com/podcast
There, you can type in any search word and instantly see what episodes I have that cover that topic!:::::
Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club!
Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you!
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Grief is hard to acknowledge and talk about. The truth is, there is grief involved with being the sibling of a child with a special need. In todayâs episode, weâre exploring how to support the siblings of kids with a nervous system disability with behavior-based symptoms with all their feelings, especially grief.
In this episode, youâll learn
How to validate all your childrenâs feelings, even when they are really uncomfortableHow to acknowledge the truth that in most circumstances, your other children really are less seen in your familyThe four questions to ask yourself when thinking about how to help your kids with their grief
Grief In Parenting Kids With Vulnerable Nervous Systems {EP 129}Ableism, Parenting, And Trauma Informed Care {EP 85} (Guest Marshall Lyles)I HATE YOU! And Other Big Feelings {EP 168}
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/siblinggrief
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Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being WithThe podcast is searchable if you go to my website!
RobynGobbel.com/podcast
There, you can type in any search word and instantly see what episodes I have that cover that topic!:::::
Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club!
Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you!
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One way we can support the siblings of kids with big, baffling behaviors is to teach them about owls, watchdogs, and possums (or some way to understand the brain and behaviors) as well as to teach them about nervous system vulnerabilities and âoveractiveâ watchdog and possum brains!
In this episode, youâll learn
Steps to take when teaching siblings about owls, watchdogs, and possums so they wonât feel like youâre just excusing bad behaviorThe importance of validating your kidsâ experience that the way you parent their sibling is unfairA couple scripts for talking to your children about their siblingâs watchdog and possum brain (available on my website by CLICKING HERE)Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Helping Siblings Understand "Unfair" Parenting {EP 186}Can I Teach My Child About Their Brain? {EP 114}My Child Won't Talk About Their Watchdog and Possum Brain {EP 160}EVERYONE Has A Watchdog And Possum Brain! {EP 178}Is Understand Behavior Just Excusing It? {EP 109}Enabling Vrs. Low-Demand Parenting {EP 144}
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/teachsiblings
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Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being WithThe podcast is searchable if you go to my website!
RobynGobbel.com/podcast
There, you can type in any search word and instantly see what episodes I have that cover that topic!:::::
Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club!
Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you!
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Do you have kids who feel like the way you parent their sibling (the one with the worst behavior!!!) is unfair?
Weâll be tackling different topics on how to support siblings over the next month.
In this episode, youâll learn
The five things to consider when thinking about how to help siblings understand âunfairâ parentingAre you parenting all your kids thru the lens of regulation, connection, and felt safety?Do all your children know about owls, watchdogs, and possums (or some other way to understand the brain and conceptualize behaviors)Do your school-age and older child understand vulnerable nervous systems and sensitized stress response systems (overactive watchdog and possum brains)Do your children (siblings of kids with special needs) feel really, truly seen by you?Is this actually more about unresolved grief (yours and/or theirs)
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Is Understanding Behavior Just Excusing It? {EP 109}Stress Response System {EP 94}What Does Vulnerable Nervous System Mean {122}Grief in Parenting Kids with a Vulnerable Nervous System {EP 129}Can I teach my kids about their brain? {EP 114}
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/unfair
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Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being WithThe podcast is searchable if you go to my website!
RobynGobbel.com/podcast
There, you can type in any search word and instantly see what episodes I have that cover that topic!Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources!
You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation!
RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources:::::
Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club!
Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you!
Just need a little extra help? Head to RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources -
Something new and unexpected here on The Baffling Behavior Show!
Setting Boundaries that Stick by Juliane Taylor ShoreTherapist Uncensored Podcast with Sue Marriott and Ann KelleyBoundaries with Verbal Aggression podcast episode #115 with Juliane Taylor Shore
This episode is actually from the Therapist Uncensored Podcast with Sue Marriott and Ann Kelley. Sue and Ann interviewed one of y'alls FAVORITES- Juliane Taylor Shore.
Juliane was on The Baffling Behavior Show a long time ago, talking about psychological boundaries and verbal aggression. This is one of my most played episodes EVER.
Juliane just published a new book on boundaries so when Sue and Ann asked if I wanted to do a podcast feed swap, I knew y'all would LOVE to hear from Juliane.
In this episode, you'll hear Sue and Ann interview Juliane all about Setting Boundaries that Stick.
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/boundariesthatstickFollow Me On:
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InstagramOver on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being WithThe podcast is searchable if you go to my website!
RobynGobbel.com/podcast
There, you can type in any search word and instantly see what episodes I have that cover that topic!Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources!
You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation!
RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources:::::
Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club!
Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you!
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Parents of kids with baffling behaviors are CONSTANTLY being judged by others.
How do we get to a point where we donât care as much about what other people think?
In this episode, weâll explore:
Some of the most common judgments that parents of kids with baffling behaviors receiveHow itâs actually not possible to not care at all, but we can care LESSThree things we can do so that the judgment from others doesnât impact us as much as it does nowFor a script on how to set boundaries with folks expressing judgment, go to: https://RobynGobbel.com/notcare
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
How Self-Compassion Changed Things For This Mom {EP 78}Influence Behaviors, Not Control {EP 101}Is Understanding Behavior Just Excusing It? {EP 109}Boundaries With Verbal Aggression With Juliane Taylor Shore {EP 115}Secure Relating With Guests Sue & Ann From Therapist Uncensored {EP 175}Juliane's Book! : Setting Boundaries That Stick
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/notcare
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Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being WithThe podcast is searchable if you go to my website!
RobynGobbel.com/podcast
There, you can type in any search word and instantly see what episodes I have that cover that topic!Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources!
You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation!
RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources:::::
Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club!
Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you!
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âThe curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.â ~Carl Rogers
You know, one of my favorite things about studying relational neuroscience is discovering the science that proves things weâve known all along.
Not everyone needs the science, and I know some think the science detracts from the powerful truths that people have been brave enough to say and believe without having science to back it up.
I think both approaches are fine. I just happen to like the science.
And yup, the science backs it up.
Acceptance really is needed if we want behavior to change.
I find this truth to both a bummer and also quite liberating.
How do we accept something without sending the message the itâs ok, no big deal, and thereâs no need for it to change?
Itâs hard, but possible. Youâll hear my own journey toward this truth and a couple tips on how to do it yourself in this episode.
Read a long summary of this episode here: https://robyngobbel.com/howbehaviorchanges
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Do the Watchdog and Possum pathway only activate in protection mode? Are they always protective?
NO! It is possible to have safe and connected Watchdog energy and safe and connected Possum energy!
Why does this distinction matter?
What safe and connected watchdog energy feels likeWhat safe and connected possum energy feels likeWhy itâs important to remember we arenât trying to get rid of the watchdog or the possum- we are trying to help them rest and only work hard when they need to
In this episode, youâll learn
Trauma Behavior? Or Just Acting Up? {EP 30}Focus On The Nervous System To Change Behavior {Ep 84}
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What does my child need for their success to be inevitable?
If I wanted to paint the top of a 20 foot wall, Iâd rent some scaffolding. Scaffolding makes the floor higher and would get me as close to the top of the wall as I needed.
The scaffolding would help make my success inevitable. Itâs not the only thing I need to be successful (paint would come in handy!), but itâs a really important piece.
In parenting, scaffolding is the support that we put in place that allows our children to be successful. Then, slowly, thoughtful, and sequentially, we decrease the amount of external support needed as our children develop that capacity to be successful on their own.
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