Episodes
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Q1. 12yr old girl who has become super-quiet. What to do?
Q2. My teen doesn’t want to join any clubs, do I force him?
Q3. My son says he is trying to find a job, but not really. Do I cut off his allowance?
Q4. My kids leave their stuff laying around and I nag but they never pick it up.
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In this episode, I talk with James Rilling, psychologist and author of “Father Nature: The Science of Paternal Potential”. Did you know that only five percent of mammals care for their young? Yup, and humans are one of the species that do! James explains the science behind testosterone, oxytocin and changes that occur for fathers. Plus, the importance of father caregiving and provisioning and the hidden benefits of rough play to teach emotional regulation and more! A fascinating conversation.
You can get a copy of James Rilling’s book here.
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Rocky Garrison is one of our Adlerian greats. In this interview Rocky talks about the Individual Psychology model of human development including the development of a fictional final goal and how we develop beliefs about self, others, and the world to sustain this goal and the movement toward it. In this model of development, Rocky shares that the courage to meet the challenges of life constructively is developed primarily within the family constellation.
If you have questions for Rocky, he can be reached at [email protected]
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Q1. Teen boy is shutting down outside interests and turning to tech but won’t open up about it.
Q2. 13yr old daughter won’t wear her orthodontic elastics and teeth are shifting now.
Q3. Ways for 3 and 5 year olds to find their sense of power in pro-social ways (instead of power over others).
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Sarah Allen Benton has been a parent in recovery from alcoholism for more than 20 years. She is a counselling psychologist who specializes in addiction and recognizes how parents and their children can quietly but significantly be impacted by alcoholism. We discuss her “field guide to recovery” for parents that is based on a growth-focused lifestyle change, including emotional sobriety across the life span.
Check out Sarah Benton’s book: Understanding The High-Functioning Alcoholic
Have a look at her website too.
You can read Sarah’s column “The High Functioning Alcoholic” for Psychology Today here.
On social media you can follow Sarah on these platforms:
Sarah’s FB Page
Sarah’s FB Community: Parents in Recovery Support Group
LinkedIn
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Q1. Teen boy makes the same unreasonable requests and then storms about, rude and angry.
Q2. How to establish authority and connection when you are the less dominant parent in a traditional family where the dominant father works, and the less dominant mother stays home and does all the child care.
Q3. How can I help my 10 and 13 year old boys get along peacefully?
Q4. How to support a teen daughter who is getting excluded from her friends’ parties and sleepovers?
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Dr Funke Afolabi-Brown has dedicated her medical career to helping families function better and achieve more by improving their relationship to sleep. We discuss the importance of sleep and unique approaches to help with typical sleep challenges that parents face.
Check out more about Dr Funke Afolabi-Brown’s book “Beyond Tired: A Sleep Physicians Guide to Solving Your Child’s Sleep Problems for Good”
Her clinical practice is The Restful Sleep Place and you can follow her on any of these social media platforms:
Facebook
Instagram
LinkedIn
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Yes! That is the title of the new book by Ruth Strunz, a welcome addition to the literature for clinicians, teachers (and parents) working with autistic / neurodiverse people. In this episode I talk to Ruth about the contents of her book and the unique approaches needed for creating a an atmosphere of calm to reduce dysregulation, masking, creating a therapeutic alliance in new ways, the role of belonging, social interest, encouragement and more.
You can connect to Ruth at her website www.ruthstrunz.com (launching Nov 2024)
Purchase her book here
On LinkedIn here
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Q1. 12yr old doesn’t want to either lie, nor rat on her friends to the substitute teacher re: homework.
Q2. 9yr old wants to drop out of extracurricular activities as soon as they prove challenging.
Q3. Early reader wants to go back and start from the beginning of the book every time they get a word wrong.
Q4. 12yr daughter doesn’t do basic chores without me yelling. Too involved in her games and videos.
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October is breast cancer awareness month. A parent’s cancer diagnosis has a huge impact on the entire family. Thankfully, Audrey saw this gap in services and support and created a brilliant non-profit organization to assist parents and children going through this experience.
Audrey discusses how to talk to children about cancer and dying. She helps us understand what families need for support as community members and the services that her organization provides.
You can learn more about Audrey and Nankind at the links below:
Nankind Website:
https://nankind.com/
Nankind Give Page:
https://nankind.com/give/
Nankind Programs:
https://nankind.com/for-families/get-help
Nankind Impact Page:
https://nankind.com/our-impact/research-awards/
On social media:
Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/NankindCanada
LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/nankind
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/nankindca/
Twitter - https://x.com/nankindca
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@nankind
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Julie Cole is the mother of 6 and the co-founder of the multiple award-winning business Mabel’s Labels.
In this episode we discuss Julie’s career and family success and the parallel skills and life hacks needed to make them both work in a joyful way. If you’re thinking of starting a business to accommodate motherhood, this is a must listen!
You can find out more about Julie, her book, “Like A Mother: Birthing Businesses, Babies And A Life Beyond Labels”, and Mabel’s Labels at the links below:
www.mabelslabels.com
www.mabelslabels.com/juliecole
On Social Media:
www.instagram.com/juliecoleinc
www.instagram.com/mabelslabels
https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-cole-llb-ma-3794671/
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In this episode I talk to the co-authors of the book, “Digging Into Nature: Outdoor Adventures For Happier And Healthier Kids”, published by the American Academy of Pediatrics and co-authored by pediatricians Dr Glassy and Dr Tandon.
We discuss Dr Tandon’s extensive research into the benefits children get from spending time in nature, what nature might look like for urban dwellers, barriers that prevent us from getting into nature and how to overcome them.
You can find out more about Drs Tandon and Glassy, and their work and projects at the links below:
Order their book here: “Digging Into Nature: Outdoor Adventures for Happier Healthier Kids”
Dr Glassy
On LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/danette-glassy-12b00067/
Project Nature
BestStart Washington
Dr Tandon
On Linkedin https://www.linkedin.com/in/pooja-s-tandon-md-mph-672040299/
IG @projectnature
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This is a vital episode for all parents. Listen and learn how to get all the education, resources and support you can for your child’s vision thanks to The Canadian National Institute for the Blind. CNIB’s VP Suzanne Decary-van den Broek and CNIB’s Family Guide, Sharon Kanhai-Johnston share some interesting research facts with me. Did you know most parents are unwittingly putting their children at risk for health and educational setbacks because they don’t understand the schedule and importance of eye exams for their children? I messed it up with my second child and I don’t want anyone else to make my mistake.
Book an eye exam for your child. If you’re in Canada, you can find your local optometrist here.
Help influence policy makers today by signing the CNIB’s Charter of Rights of Children Who are Blind, Deafblind, or Low Vision here.
Find resources, support and education from the CNIB here.
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Q1. My child is not in a class with his friends. Should I request to move him?
Q2. My child suffers from “post-school collapse” behaviours.
Q3. Managing being punctual and getting to school on time.
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NYT best-selling author Dr Leonard Sax joins the podcast to discuss his book, and to make us aware of the toxic effects the trend towards more gentle, permissive parenting can have on our kids. In our conversation, he provides many evidence-based examples to support his years of observations as a physician managing family care.
Check out Dr Sax here at www.leonardsax.com
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Stacey Stewart, the CEO of Mothers Against Drunk Driving (MADD), talks with me about the impact that our parenting style has on saving lives by the way we approach prevention of drinking and driving. MADD has created a free, evidence-based, resource to help parents apply the best approach – download it here:
Power of Parents Handbook
https://online.flippingbook.com/view/320259548/
MADD’s Social Media:
https://www.instagram.com/maddnational/MADD
https://www.tiktok.com/@maddnational
https://x.com/MADDNational
https://www.linkedin.com/company/mothers-against-drunk-driving
You can find Stacey on social media here:
https://www.instagram.com/staceydstewart/
X: @StaceyDStew
https://www.linkedin.com/in/stacey-d-stewart-mba-9b5472
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Q1. How to respond to the dramatic emotional displays of my son?
Q2. Strategies to give my son more responsibilities when he is not following through?
Q3. As a mom, how do I stay out of the power struggles between dad and son when it impacts me?
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Join me as I talk to family relations expert Dr. Taniesha Burke from Germany about the importance of parent-child relationships, how to foster them and the importance of understanding culture and meaning-making. Originally from Kingston, Jamaica, with its’ more hierarchical, autocratic parenting style, Dr. Burke studied and discusses how Jamaican mothers perceive closeness and intimacy and how they deal with their children who resist parental rules and requests.
You can purchase her journals here:
The Parenting Journal: Key To Strengthening Your Parent-Child Relationship
Rediscovering Our Love: A Parental Appreciation Journal
Journal of Generations: A Gift From Grandparent To Grandchild
Dr. Burke’s research:
An Exploration of Jamaican Mothers’ Perceptions of Closeness and Intimacy in the Mother–Child Relationship during Middle Childhood
Jamaican Mothers’ Perceptions of Children’s Strategies for Resisting Parental Rules and Requests
Links to Dr Burke’s social media handles:
www.facebook.com/drtanieshaburke
www.instagram.com/drtanieshaburke
www.youtube.com/@drtanieshaburke
www.linkedin.com/in/tanieshaburke
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I am always looking for questions for the Q&A episodes. You can send me your questions at [email protected]
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Mollie Thorn has been teaching parent education and also counselling families for decades. Mollie is now a proud grandparent and that means yet another application of Adlerian wisdom! She discusses the Pennsylvania Dutch expression “Grin, Bite Your Tongue and Bear Gifts” to describe best grandparenting practices. We talk about Mollie and her husband Phil’s journey with Adlerian psychology over the years.
You can find more about Mollie Thorn’s work at The Pinnacle Centre.
Her profile on Psychology Today
You can email Mollie directly at [email protected]
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Q1. 12 year old boy doesn’t play, but instead annoys and bothers others.
Q2. 5 year old in kindergarten has a friend who says “you’re not my friend” if they don’t get their way.
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