Episodes
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Well... What a journey we've all been on for the past 100 episodes. In case you haven't listened to all of them, we've tried to sum up the core thinking behind this podcast into a single episode for you.
(If you have listened to the previous 99, then this is just some light revision, GCSE style)
Thank you as always for your support. We will be taking a few weeks off to plan for what we're euphemistically calling 'Season 2' and will be back in the summer.
In the meantime, we'll be posting what we get up to via Instagram @poly_pocket_show and you can e-mail any ideas for the show to [email protected] or ask Butcher on a date at [email protected]
For now though, keep us and your protection, in your pocket 💚
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This weeks episode did not go to plan... So we've had to panic record a quick update (and an apology) and we'll be back on track for Episode 100 next week.
As always, send us your feedback, ideas and advice to [email protected]
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Missing episodes?
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This CNM journey can be a rocky one and in this episode we took a closer look at why people would pause from it. The focus was mainly supposed to be swinging but it’s us so there are natural intersections and free flowing conversations that goes across a spectrum of CNM practices!
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There were a lot of feelings and emotions going around with this particular episode. Butcher got angry, Hunter talked her down 🤣 Guess when you’re debating feelings and their place within ENM, polyamory and swinging it really does get people going!
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#feelings #feelingsquotes #feeling #emotions #emotionalintelligence #emotionsmatter #poly #polyamorous #polywise #polyamorousrelationship #polyamory #enm #cnm -
Going to put it out there - Butcher was not well when we recorded this so we hope it makes sense and somewhat entertaining. We will at some point dig deeper into this topic considering all types of partners but for now we wanted to focus on the anchor partner comms!
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In this episode we discuss the art of managing the de-escalation of relationships when you’re polyamorous and the potential reasons why you might do this.
It still surprises us how difficult break-ups in changes to dynamics (especially if you’re effectively going back on something) can be.
In this episode we try and unpick this whilst also asking for kindness and grace when dealing with others heads and hearts.
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An insightful conversation with the brains behind PolyamoryUK. This dream team - James and Jo are living their fullest, authentic poly lives and were absolutely here for it!
We touched on so many things but fundamentally we discussed how Polyamory works here in Great Britain. The pros and cons.
These two need to come back on again soon and we’re looking forward to future collaboration on a number of projects with these fabulous individuals! -
So here it is - the review of Le Boudoir. With two experiences of different nights under our belts (so to speak) we thought we’d do a little review.
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This one was a great topic to get our teeth into.
Jealousy is such a hot topic in the circles we move in from poly connections through to monogamous people seeking to understand the dynamic.
This was supported by a recent trip to LB last week and the events that unfolded (all good but because of the work and conversations we’ve had surrounding it!)
Ultimately though, we wanted to get to the root cause. The THING that sets off this interesting and complex emotional state! There’s still so much left to say on this but it’s a good start (hopefully!)
Listen to our latest episode to learn more!
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Myself and Ms Captain recorded this session aggggggggeeeeessss ago! She is the most wonderful, authentic, insightful soul and this is evident in the discussion around foods to use with sensual experiences… Be it with two, three, four or more!
Thank you so much for your time Ms C and giving the listeners something “spicy” on Valentine’s Day! ❤️ -
Episode 90 was a deep and meaningful discussion about the dark fears that come along for the ride when you’re on the journey from monogamy through to polyamory. What is it that truly scares you and why. Why is it that a lot of the time we don’t know what it truly is or we can’t say so we project our fears on to our anchor partners meaning that’s our fears inevitably “come true.” Finally what does this means for your existing relationship(s) and can there ever be a way out or forward from this?…
Join us on the discussion…
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Is this lifestyle and our relationship constructs just one big fantasy? And is that OK? In this episode and debate this at length and for once POTENTIALLY land on some sort of resounding answer! It does happen every so often! 🤣
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A deep and raw chat about if opening up is for everyone, who should possibly avoid it and if you really want it, what work needs to be done!
We also discuss at length if there are different levels people can open to based on the conditioning and willingness to break out of these cycles.
It’s an endless topic… possibly without any real answers but we hope you enjoy and take away as much from it as we gained by having this talk! -
This one was a toughie…
A lot of our regrets come from not seizing the moment more than the fallout of situations because from these experiences we have grown…
So join us on our meandering, heartfelt, conversation of living and life to the full! -
This was an interesting conversation where by we discussed how many new to poly, swing, CNM, ENM all go through this to some level.
It easily done and who doesn’t love the feeling of being a kid in a sweet shop? 🍬 But we’re all adults and we all know that we can all have too much of a good thing before it becomes bad for us… that said we all have different levels of tolerance before it all becomes too much so hats off to those who can catch ‘em all without collateral damage… what’s your secret? 🤫
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This week Butcher returns from France, Hunter eats some food and we review the Channel 4 series 'The Couple Next Door' and discuss whether the experience of the participants in this drama is relatable to the community (whilst keeping a straight face).
We also spend some time talking about how the English language has insufficient words for us to express how we feel and that the conflation of feelings around the word 'Jealousy' can be misunderstood.
As we wrap up we talk about the importance of arse holes and how they relate to motivational speaking - Watch the Tim Minchin video here
Finally we bring the latest on the David Haye throuple which seems to be irritating Hunter with its salacious coverage here -
Hope you've had a great holiday break... We are back with the sparkle of holiday cheer still lingering, spinning tales of sneaky gift-giving and sharing how our extended love networks bolster our spirits. And in this sprit we are making plans for 2024 and establishing what our new years resolutions are.
Navigating our unique landscapes, we've learned the art of balancing the day-to-day vanilla with the spice of our lifestyle—valuing heartfelt communication and solid boundaries. In moments of vulnerability, we've stumbled upon strength, transforming jealousy and fear into deeper intimacy and faster resilience. We've seen growth, both in ourselves and in our relationships, and with the new year on the horizon, we're setting structured goals, seeking equilibrium, and exploring the potential of coaching others along their non-traditional paths. Delving into therapy with a poly-friendly therapist, we're embracing the lessons these experiences have brought us.
Lots to unpack (along with an unhealthy amount of Harry Potter) so join us as we kick off 2024 in the most appropriately inappropriate way we can!
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Ever found yourself floating on cloud nine after a date that just clicked? That's where our journey begins this episode, as we recount a year swept up in the highs of connection and the lows of navigating the intricate dance of polyamorous relationships. We talk about a year crammed with personal breakthroughs, from the electric spark of a first KK party anniversary to intimate ventures abroad that tested our independence and resolve.
Imagine stepping off a plane in France, heart pounding with the thrill of solo travel, or the quiet pride of shaping a birthday bash into a celebration of lifestyle friendships. That's the stuff of our real, lived experiences this year. Hunter shares the depths of his romantic evening with Lady V, a testament to the emotional bonds that can bloom in the world of non-monogamy. We pull back the curtain on our adventures and misadventures, revealing the flesh-and-blood moments that have stretched and strengthened us, from navigating club dynamics without an anchor partner to the misunderstandings that can turn into belly laughs—or lessons learned.
With the map of our journey unfurled, we look back at the encounters and milestones that have marked our podcasting (real life) voyage. We acknowledge our listeners across 69 countries who've joined us in the revealing dance of polyamory. As we cast our eyes to the horizon, considering the year ahead, we invite you to lend your voice, sharing your experiences and ideas as we continue to craft a narrative that's as complex, joyful, and authentic as the lives we lead.
Also, Merry Christmas 😁
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Imagine opening your heart and life to more than one person — sounds exciting, right? As thrilling as it might be, polyamory is a complex lifestyle that often requires navigating uncharted waters. Join us, Hunter and Butcher, on the Poly Pocket Podcast, as we unpack our experiences and lessons learned in polyamorous relationships, beginning with a candid chat about our recent date with a like-minded couple. We use this experience to explore how open communication is instrumental in recognising gut feelings and red flags, not just within the swinging community but in polyamory as a whole.
Now, think about how much does one share in a poly relationship? We bring in our thoughts on sharing information, where we vouch for transparency that provides general details without oversharing. As we walk you through a situation where a coffee date turned unexpectedly intimate, we underscore the importance of setting boundaries and maintaining communication, which are the bedrock of trust in a polyamorous setup. Pivoting to rules and boundaries, we delve into our personal experiences to highlight how these guide our relationships.
But what's the difference between rules and boundaries? We (fail to) clarify this often confusing aspect, whilst trying to emphasise the value of consent when sharing personal information. As we conclude this conversation, we take a moment to reflect on the purpose of our podcast, hoping to serve as a beacon for those navigating similar paths. In the end, whether it's discussing STIs and pregnancies or seeking approval from involved parties, everything loops back to the most crucial component — effective communication. So, whether you're already in a polyamorous relationship or contemplating it, let's learn, grow, and navigate together!
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Have you ever felt the sting of disappointment in a sexual encounter? Did you feel that it was up to you to make the other person feel better? Definitely tricky ground and women are often expected to play carer in this situation. We discuss the impact this can have and what can be done to reduce the impact on someones confidence both in themselves and in their sexual counterparts.
With a pinch of humor and a dose of reality, we chat about the roller-coaster ride that is the world of relationships. From the intricacies of male sexual performance and its impact on women to the tricky navigation of guilt and disappointment, we've got it all.
Think it's only about being in the mood for a good romp? Well, think again. Our candid discussion on male sexual performance might just change the way you view this topic. We shed light on how a lack of male sexual response can affect women, emphasizing that it's not always about both parties wanting to engage in sexual activity. It's about understanding the multitude of factors at play, and finding that elusive balance in caring for everyone's feelings.
We also dive headfirst into the murky waters of disappointment and guilt in relationships. Ever been the collateral damage of someone else's issues? We certainly have, and we share these personal tales with you, highlighting the importance of taking ownership of our actions.
We also talk (again) about football 🙄
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