Episodes
-
Unburdening Trauma Energies: Lean Into the Lessons Without Shame
Episode S12E12: Show Notes
What would change if you were able to reframe misaligned actions as opportunities to learn? In this episode, I explore the final big idea about CPTSD recovery that I want to share. I also answer a user-submitted question and wrap up Season 12 of the podcast. This one, in particular, is really powerful because it is so connected to all the most important aspects of healing. We are speaking about unburdening Trauma Energies by leaning into the lessons without shame. Through understanding what shame is through the lens of Internal Family Systems (IFS), we discover how to alchemize and neutralize Trauma Energies in order to release them. I share how this work results in a release of everything that is not true to our identity, explaining the possibility of releasing Shadow Survival Codes that might be masquerading as personality. When we start to release shame around lessons, we are more able to access a deeper intuition. Join me as I unpack the process of embracing lessons and letting go of shame as a path to more personal power and alignment with our self-essence. Thanks for listening!
Key Points From This Episode:
What this episode entails: the final big idea about CPTSD recovery.
Celebrating the meeting of our Podcast fundraising goal.
Season 13 plans: an interview series.
Unpacking what shame is via an understanding of Internal Family Systems.
Alchemizing and neutralizing Trauma Energies in order to release them.
How this work results in a release in everything we have absorbed to date.
Witnessing and validating the feelings that contribute to the experience of CPTSD.
The possibility of releasing a Shadow Survival Code masquerading as personality.
Differentiating between a becoming process and the restoring process of CPTSD recovery.
Putting an end to unconscious action through awareness, evolution, and transformation.
How Critical Energies can weaponize lessons to create shame.
Addressing external and internal Critical Energies.
Reframing mistakes as learning the hard way through misaligned actions.
The deeper intuition that we are able to access when we release shame around intuition.
What happens when we start to take leadership of decision-making: the lessons are not as extreme or as grounded in contrast.
Creating momentum to achieve more in less time.
User question: where to start with the work of healing from CPTSD.
A word of encouragement that we have all been novices at other things.
An invitation to work with any parts of yourself that resist the work and get curious instead.
Where you begin: with the understanding that this is a long game.
Quotes:
“The origin of shame [is] that a part of you or an entity within you thinks that the bad event or the uncomfortable emotion is happening because something is morally incorrect about you.” — Tanner Wallace [06:21]
“It’s not that we are becoming a different human, instead we are accessing who we were meant to be without all the trauma and conditioning. It’s not a becoming process, it’s a restoring process.” — Tanner Wallace [11:41]
“Without awareness, without evolution, without transformation, there are no lessons.” — Tanner Wallace [13:13]
“It can’t be a mistake if we learned something.” — Tanner Wallace [17:16]
“When we start to release shame around lessons, we are more able to access a deeper intuition.” — Tanner Wallace [18:16]
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
email Tanner for informational session link: [email protected]
Podcast Fundraiser
CPTSD Medicine
Students of the Medicine Community
CPTSD Medicine on Instagram
CPTSD Medicine on Facebook
CPTSD Medicine on YouTube
CPTSD Medicine Podcast (Spotify)
The Application Portal: 💎Diamond Circle Application💎
-
It's 5:10 am during my morning writing session, dedicated recently to the CPTSD Medicine Healing Protocol. However, I had a breakthrough regarding my big idea and how I want to share it. With newfound clarity, I decided to record this podcast, focused on bringing context to the idea of Holding Your Energy. Join me as I delve into the importance and meaning of milestone number two: Holding Your Energy. I begin by contextualizing with a personal story and then delve into a practical framework designed to navigate complex trauma recovery. I provide an overview of three primary information processing centers, elucidate how nine additional energy centers intersect with them, and discuss the concepts of Parts and Entities, along with how Energies can be generated within systems in your body. Furthermore, we look at what the Restored State looks like and I share more on Trauma Energies and the significance of alchemizing them. I invite you to step closer, don’t miss out on this episode. Start listening now.
Key Points From This Episode:
A recap on the upcoming CPTSD Medicine Training Program (and where to find out more).
I open with a story that relates to the focus of today's episode and provides context.
Unpacking the big idea for today’s episode; Holding the Energy.
Practical framework: a way to conceptualize complex trauma for recovery purposes.
Three information processing centers in our bodies that run Energy.
How nine additional energy centers overlap and intersect with the three information processing centers.
I look at additional structures that are not as intended: Parts and Entities.
Energies that can be generated within your own body
What a Restored State looks like.
I break down the different types of Trauma Energies and how they could be generated.
A note on alchemizing before releasing Trauma Energies and not burdening the collective.
Perspective and understanding of the significance of milestone number two, Holding Your Energy.
An invitation to step closer.
Quotes:
“I [now] understand that IFS and Parts Work is the foundation for CPTSD recovery, not sufficient but absolutely necessary. It’s the anchor work of complex trauma recovery, in my opinion.” — Tanner Wallace [0:08:51]
“My truest truth is [that] I am a very, very, practical guide.” — Tanner Wallace [0:15:07]
“In CPTSD medicine, one of the things that is a deep value of ours is we never release trauma energies without alchemizing them first because we don’t want to put trauma energies into The Collective that somebody else could absorb.” — Tanner Wallace [0:33:55]
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
CPTSD Medicine Training Program | BONUS Promotional Episode
CPTSD Medicine Training Program Informational Video
Submit a Podcast Interview Suggestion
Q&A Form for Listener-Submitted Questions
The Application Portal: 💎Diamond Circle Application💎
CPTSD Medicine
Students of the Medicine Community
CPTSD Medicine on Instagram
CPTSD Medicine on Facebook
CPTSD Medicine on YouTube
CPTSD Medicine Podcast (Spotify)
How to Leave a Review on Apple PodcastsLeaving a review on Apple Podcasts is a great way to support our show and help others find us. Follow these simple steps:
Open Apple Podcasts: On your iPhone, iPad, or Mac, open the Apple Podcasts app.
Search for the Podcast: In the search tab, type the name of our podcast, CPTSD Medicine, and select it from the search results.
Go to the Podcast Page: Once on our podcast page, scroll down to the "Ratings & Reviews" section.
Tap on "Write a Review": Below the displayed reviews, tap the "Write a Review" link.
Rate the Podcast: Tap on the number of stars you want to give us (5 stars would be wonderful!).
Write Your Review: Fill in a title for your review and then write your feedback in the review box.
Submit Your Review: Once you're satisfied with your review, tap "Send" or "Submit" in the upper right corner.
Thank you so much for your support! Your reviews help our community grow and improve.
-
Missing episodes?
-
Welcome to this very emotional invitation to become a student and provider of CPTSD Medicine, as I guide you through the ninth concept of our CPTSD Medicine Protocol: Bridge, don’t outsource. But before I get into all that, I want to take a moment to thank you all for being a part of this podcast that means so much to me and to let you all know that I am finally unwilling to hold all this on my own. So, please join our Students of the Medicine Community (and sign up for the pay-what-you-can podcast fundraiser) to see how you can join me in becoming an integral member of the healing community. Okay, now that my tears have dried and been wiped away, let’s dive into today’s fundamental concept of bridging your healing rather than outsourcing it. In today’s conversation, I define “bridging” and “outsourcing” and compare their differences before exploring the role of allies in the healing of complex trauma. I also explain why bridging is the best route to follow with a closer examination of the allies that we can bridge to in our missions of recovery: Divine Archetypal Residences, Energy Centers, Self-Energetic Frequencies, and Gene Keys. Thank you for sharing this space with me, I love you.
Key Points From This Episode:
Why CPTSD Medicine matters and a call to join our Students of the Medicine Community.
An emotional exploration of why this podcast is so important to me.
Wrapping up our previous episode’s conversation on Full Permission.
Today is all about CPTSD Medicine Protocol concept number nine: Bridge, don’t outsource.
The role of Allies in the healing of complex trauma.
Understanding the differences between bridging and outsourcing.
Why bridging is the best route to follow for healing.
Studying the Allies that we can bridge to in our missions of recovery.
Unpacking Divine Archetypal Residences, Energy Centers, Self-Energetic Frequencies, and Gene Keys.
Quotes:
“Everything you need to heal is already inside of you.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [19:57]
“I tune into the distress, not the forward-presenting manifestation of that distress.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [22:56]
“[Bridging] creates independence; creates co-creation; avoids codependency; [and] avoids power dynamics and overpower and hierarchy. It’s such a critical, foundational concept, both for our personal healing but then also for the health of the CPTSD Medicine mission.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [27:31]
“When we have a bridge to intentionally amplify specific frequencies of Self Energy, we’ve helped ourselves [to] really develop the potency of Healing Power required to be a CycleBreaker.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [35:44]
Longer Quotes:
“We need a community. I’ve held a lot of this on my own for a long time and that’s all part of the process but I’m reaching a point where I’m no longer willing to hold this all on my own. – I hope you feel my love and my sincerity in my words and in what I’m trying to communicate in this very heart-centered, grounded place.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [11:37]
How to Leave a Podcast Review on Apple Podcasts
Open Apple Podcasts: Launch the Apple Podcasts app on your iPhone, iPad, or Mac.
Find Our Podcast: Search for CPTSD Medicine in the search bar.
Select the Show: Click on the podcast show’s artwork to go to the main page of our podcast.
Scroll Down: On the podcast's main page, scroll down until you see the "Ratings & Reviews" section.
Rate the Podcast: Tap on the stars to leave a rating. You can rate the podcast from 1 to 5 stars.
Write a Review: Below the star rating, click on "Write a Review."
Title and Review: Enter a title for your review and write your feedback in the review box.
Submit: When you’re finished, click "Send" or "Submit" in the upper right corner.
Thank you for taking the time to leave a review! Your feedback helps us improve and reach more listeners.
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
The Application Portal: 💎Diamond Circle Application💎
Submit a Podcast Interview Suggestion
Q&A Form for Listener-Submitted Questions
CPTSD Medicine
Students of the Medicine Community
CPTSD Medicine on Instagram
CPTSD Medicine on Facebook
CPTSD Medicine on YouTube
CPTSD Medicine Podcast (Spotify)
-
Welcome to this special bonus episode of the CPTSD Medicine podcast! In this episode, I aim to introduce the upcoming CPTSD Medicine Training Program launching this October. My goal is for you, our podcast listeners, to gain a comprehensive understanding of the program’s offerings and the passion behind its creation. Join me as I dedicate this episode to explaining what the program is, why it exists, and why I am so deeply passionate about bringing it to life!
Key Points From This Episode:
What listeners can expect from this special bonus episode.
The highlights behind how I have arrived at the launch of the CPTSD Medicine Training Program.
What the training program needs to look like.
Why the standard of the treatment provider is embodiment.
I unpack the three-year clinical part of the program.
The big vision explained.
The three different tiers of investment (pricing for the program).
Who this is for: my vision for participants in the training program.
What the application process includes.
My passion for showing up for this program.
Quotes:
“Without unburdening we are not moving through CPTSD recovery at the level that needs to happen to experience permanent resolution of our CPTSD.” — Tanner Wallace [0:11:59]
“To get through complex trauma recovery you must, you must, you must take back your seat of power.” — Tanner Wallace [0:17:50]
“I am in my body. I am grounded. I am devoted to this [CPTSD Medicine Training Program] and I am showing up in service. This is so squeaky clean for me — [and] I want this so deeply for us because I know what we can unlock.” — Tanner Wallace [0:40:19]
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
The Application Portal: 💎Diamond Circle Application💎
Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving: A Guide and Map for Recovering from Childhood Trauma
CPTSD Medicine
Students of the Medicine Community
CPTSD Medicine on Instagram
CPTSD Medicine on Facebook
CPTSD Medicine on YouTube
CPTSD Medicine Podcast (Spotify)
-
Looking back on our healing journey, we recognize how many of our decisions were made in survival mode. As we rebuild our lives on stable ground and embody our true selves, we may be surprised by the things we choose to let go of and what we carry forward with us in unexpected ways. CPTSD recovery is not merely a developmental process but a profound learning experience that requires movement and progress toward mastery rather than a finite accomplishment. In today’s episode, we continue our exploration of the big ideas of CPSTD Recovery with idea number eight: full permission. Tuning in, you’ll discover why granting full permission is essential for navigating the unburdening sequence, how embodying truth resonance can enhance your recovery, and the critical role of breathwork and vocalization in this journey. I also pose reflective questions to help you explore the importance of full permission in your recovery and everyday life while identifying blocks and barriers to expressing your truths, Parts, Energies, and Entities. Don't miss this opportunity to strengthen your healing containers, identify and clear blocks to full permission, and embrace new perspectives to advance your CPTSD recovery and live a more embodied and truthful life.
Key Points From This Episode:
Teachings I have carried forward from my training as an educator and researcher.
Why the big ideas of CPTSD Recovery are important for building a shared fount of knowledge.
Reviewing the big ideas of CPTSD Recovery that we’ve covered in the podcast so far.
Why today’s idea, full permission, is such an important part of the unburdening sequence.
What it means to embody truth resonance as a goal of CPTSD Recovery.
Distinguishing between protected, sacred, and safe realms and those that are wounded.
The important role of breathwork and permission for amplifying SelfEnergy and unburdening.
Insight into the significance of full permission in CPTSD recovery and day-to-day life.
How to know if you need to “clean up” full permission in your life and recovery.
Determining the strength, potency, and trustworthiness of your healing containers.
Ways to identify the blocks to full permission in your healing containers.
A powerful closing blessing to take you through the upcoming week.
Quotes:
“You cannot make it through unburdening every Part, Energy, and Entity without mastering the milestone of full permission.” — Tanner Wallace [09:41]
“In the CycleBreaking frequency, we want to show up grounded, radiating Self Energy. In our healing containers, we want to understand what the blocks and barriers are to full expression of the truths, Parts, Energies, and Entities.” — Tanner Wallace [15:50]
“Once things can be vocalized, Parts, Energies, or Entities can be expressed, there’s permission to channel Parts in safe, structured – healing containers, you [start] to move and soften blocks. What needs to be spoken out loud can be witnessed.” — Tanner Wallace [19:05]
“What are the emotions and energies that constrict or constrain full permission in healing containers? Can I get curious about this? What does this show me and all me about [the next things I need to] to explore in my CPTSD recovery?” — Tanner Wallace [27:19]
How to Leave a Podcast Review on Apple Podcasts
Open Apple Podcasts: Launch the Apple Podcasts app on your iPhone, iPad, or Mac.
Find Our Podcast: Search for CPTSD Medicine in the search bar.
Select the Show: Click on the podcast show’s artwork to go to the main page of our podcast.
Scroll Down: On the podcast's main page, scroll down until you see the "Ratings & Reviews" section.
Rate the Podcast: Tap on the stars to leave a rating. You can rate the podcast from 1 to 5 stars.
Write a Review: Below the star rating, click on "Write a Review."
Title and Review: Enter a title for your review and write your feedback in the review box.
Submit: When you’re finished, click "Send" or "Submit" in the upper right corner.
Thank you for taking the time to leave a review! Your feedback helps us improve and reach more listeners.
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
CPTSD Medicine
Students of the Medicine Community
CPTSD Medicine on Instagram
CPTSD Medicine on Facebook
CPTSD Medicine on YouTube
Opt-In to 'The Calling' Monthly Newsletter
CPTSD Medicine Podcast
Submit a Podcast Interview Suggestion
Q&A Form for Listener-Submitted Questions
-
If you’re listening to this podcast, I believe you are here to contribute something very important to this transitional period of human evolution. This episode focuses on training grounds, initiations, and the frequency of CycleBreaking. We consider how our ingrained way of relating to hardship pairs with collective pessimism to create negative bias, and how this can impact the healing process. Differentiating between unresolved and untreated CPTSD, we delve into what it might look like to unwind the shame spiral that training grounds and initiations can trigger in us. What would change if we approached a training ground as an opportunity to deepen into our identity and how we want to show up? This episode explores interdependence and how we can take ownership of our own healing, eradicate shame, and reframe the stories that Protective Parts have told about the difficult experiences in our past. Don’t miss this important piece of the puzzle. Tune in today.
Key Points From This Episode:
The important work we are called to do as we recover from CPTSD.
A reminder of Season 11 which focuses on partnership.
How Season 12 is addressing the big concepts of CPTSD recovery.
An invitation to join the Students of the Medicine peer support group.
This episode’s big idea: training grounds and initiations.
How our ingrained way of relating to hardship integrates with collective pessimism.
Differentiating between unresolved and untreated CPTSD.
Unwinding the shame spiral during training grounds and initiations.
Deepening into the idea of identity when the training grounds come.
What truly heals all wounds.
Interdependence in the relational field.
Eradicating the shame in mistakes in the frequency of CycleBreaking.
Reviewing touchpoints from the past and unpacking the stories that relate to these experiences.
Considering how you would show up differently after these challenging events in the relational field.
Understanding the importance of your self-leadership.
Weekly challenge: share your story.
An exercise to remind yourself why you are here.
Quotes:
“One of the key hallmarks of complex trauma is this inheritance of not only hurt, but fear.” — Tanner Wallace [12:48]
“I heal all wounds. I don’t give my power over to time and wait. I have reclaimed my sovereignty, my leadership, my value.” — Tanner Wallace [23:11]
“All of us are exquisite, important, and matter. We are not the same without each other.” — Tanner Wallace [24:07]
“Everything happens in a relational context.” — Tanner Wallace [32:18]
How to Leave a Podcast Review on Apple Podcasts
Open Apple Podcasts: Launch the Apple Podcasts app on your iPhone, iPad, or Mac.
Find Our Podcast: Search for CPTSD Medicine in the search bar.
Select the Show: Click on the podcast show’s artwork to go to the main page of our podcast.
Scroll Down: On the podcast's main page, scroll down until you see the "Ratings & Reviews" section.
Rate the Podcast: Tap on the stars to leave a rating. You can rate the podcast from 1 to 5 stars.
Write a Review: Below the star rating, click on "Write a Review."
Title and Review: Enter a title for your review and write your feedback in the review box.
Submit: When you’re finished, click "Send" or "Submit" in the upper right corner.
Thank you for taking the time to leave a review! Your feedback helps us improve and reach more listeners.
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
First episode of Season 11 on partnership
Students of the Medicine community
CPTSD Medicine on Instagram
CPTSD Medicine on Facebook
CPTSD Medicine on YouTube
Opt-In to 'The Calling' Monthly Newsletter
CPTSD Medicine Podcast
-
We are now fully immersed in the CPTSD Medicine Protocol since beginning our exploration of it in episode one of season 12. Today, in the seventh episode of the season, I bring you big idea number six: old evidence is likely bad evidence. Now, CPTSD recovery, in essence, is equivalent to personal development, and a major hindrance to personal growth is the shame we attach to ourselves. The Conviction of the CycleBreaker is the first step to ridding ourselves of shame as it opens the gateway to Eternal Directional Calling. From there, we learn perspective in Present Directional Calling, understand how old evidence manifests in Past Directional Calling, how we keep stories alive in Liminal Directional Calling, and the peace of Future Directional Calling. I believe that full completion can only be achieved with a combination of both spirituality and science, but I’d love to hear your thoughts as well, so please, reach out whenever you’re ready. I love you.
Key Points From This Episode:
How CPTSD recovery is akin to personal development.
Introducing the sixth big idea: old evidence is likely bad evidence.
The role of shame in hindering recovery.
How the Conviction of the CycleBreaker leads to the gateway of Eternal Directional Calling.
Gaining the perspective of Present Directional Calling.
What I learned from REVEAL, my very first healing container.
How old evidence manifests in the present as revealed by Past Directional Calling.
Understanding completion; where the spiritual meets the scientific.
Liminal Directional Calling: the in-between spaces and the ways that we keep stories alive.
Future Directional Calling; the new evidence – the other side of CPTSD.
Quotes:
“CPTSD recovery is simply personal development.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [05:01]
“Post-CPTSD recovery, it is a whole other world of what you can accomplish and what is possible and what you feel in your body. I’m saying these things from the other side, and it’s beyond what I could’ve imagined.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [06:38]
“Shame is the same substance for all humans, but how it codes, and corrupts, influences, replicates, disrupts – it’s so unique to the human.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [13:20]
“It’s not that no one got any sense of who you might be underneath all the trauma and conditioning; it’s just, it was so distorted and off in some way. That’s the old stuff.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [22:31]
“We have to be better readers and interpreters of the evidence as it is in this moment.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [25:47]
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
CPTSD Medicine Website
Students of the Medicine community
CPTSD Medicine on Instagram
CPTSD Medicine on Facebook
CPTSD Medicine on YouTube
CPTSD Medicine Podcast
-
Take a moment to pause, breathe, and prepare yourself for today's healing message. This episode is about knowing how you want to tell your story in hindsight, and it is the fifth big idea of Season 12 (listen to previous episode for the first four!). Today, I want to explain what happens when you say "yes" to becoming a CycleBreaker, how to weave love and joy into everything you do, why it's vital to plan and structure your healing with intentionality, and how to ensure that your energy levels always match the task at hand. I end today's episode by reminding you of the sacredness of this healing work, and it's worth noting that storytelling and meaning-making are two sure ways to harness pure Personal Power. Also, be sure to check out our brand new website for our training programs, course offerings, and group therapy options at cptsdmedicine.com! I f*cking love you.
Key Points From This Episode:
Why now is the perfect time for us to revisit the intricacies of CPTSD medicine.
A pop quiz on the four main points we've covered so far in Season 12 of this podcast.
Today's big idea: how do you want to tell your story in hindsight?
What happens when you say "yes" to the mission of cycle-breaking.
Weaving grace, mercy, forgiveness, and acceptance into joy, abundance, fulfillment, and love.
How merely thinking about how you will tell your story creates gateways to healing.
The value of structuring, planning, and being intentional about your healing journey.
Understanding your energy levels and knowing your limitations.
What the CPTSD Medicine Healing Protocol says about storytelling and meaning-making.
How to harness pure Personal Power.
An invitation to remember the sacredness of healing work.
Quotes:
“We're on the right track. Things are moving, things are shifting, the momentum is building, and it's so deeply meaningful.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [02:45]
“[When] you add this level of intentionality to what you're doing, it has to be aligned with the energy you have.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [18:23]
“There is so much more possibility for what is ahead than what the most injured, weary Parts of you believe.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [23:14]
“We often miss the value of everyday moments because we are waiting for something to happen for us to be happy - but this waiting is a trap, a trick, a falsehood.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [23:31]
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
CPTSD Medicine
Students of The Medicine Community
CPTSD Medicine on Instagram
CPTSD Medicine on Facebook
CPTSD Medicine on YouTube
Opt-In to 'The Calling' Monthly Newsletter
CPTSD Medicine Podcast
-
Believe it or not, complex trauma recovery can truly change the course of human evolution. Today on the CPTSD Medicine Podcast, I am breaking down the fourth big idea of CPTSD Recovery and and discussing what it means for the collective to recover from complex trauma. Tuning in, you’ll hear about a conflict I had with my partner, how that acts as an example for changing human evolution, why CPTSD recovery is all energy work, and more! We delve into how your CPTSD work will benefit the collective before discussing how you can ‘do’ complex trauma recovery as opposed to just ‘touring’ it. Finally, I end with a prayer that will remind you to break down any barriers standing in the way of your recovery. Be sure to check out all the exciting things happening in the CPTSD community and thank you for listening in!
Key Points From This Episode:
What is happening in the CPTSD community at the moment.
Introducing myself to newcomers and all about my Held by Tanner Instagram account.
The difference between ‘touring’ recovery and ‘doing’ recovery.
What we are doing for week four of the Amplified Self-Energy Season 12 Challenge.
I share a story that acts as an example of changing the course of human evolution.
The importance of connecting and debriefing with your long-term partner.
Why CPTSD recovery is all energy work and will change the course of human evolution.
How helping yourself helps the collective and the benefits of mentors and coaching.
The ways you can apply complex trauma recovery so you can be part of these changes.
Asking yourself what is standing in the way of your recovery and how you can break past it.
Quotes:
“Complex trauma recovery will indeed change the course of human evolution because we’re changing the energy that’s running individually and collectively.” — Tanner Wallace [13:43]
“Lean in to connect when in distress!” — Tanner Wallace [21:44]
“If there’s a source of dark energy that isn’t stopped at its source, then there’s always going to be complex trauma.” — Tanner Wallace [32:13]
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
Students of the Medicine
Tanner Wallace on Instagram
CPTSD Medicine on Instagram
CPTSD Medicine on Facebook
CPTSD Medicine on YouTube
Opt-In to 'The Calling' Monthly Newsletter
CPTSD Medicine Podcast
-
In this season, we’ve been exploring the central teachings of CPTSD recovery, and today, we unpack the third big idea: there is no separation. The concept that there is no separation can be a difficult one to engage with. It requires careful context to ensure that it’s deeply understood and does not unnecessarily trigger our Parts or self-doubt. Therefore, if today’s episode is particularly triggering to some of your Parts, Entities, or Energies, it’s important that you stop, step back, return to daily devotional practices, and skip this episode or revisit it when you are further in your healing journey. For those tuning in, you’ll learn why the idea that there is no separation is foundational to CPTSD recovery. You’ll be invited to contemplate your relationship with your parents in the context of your recovery and the importance of locating them in a much larger narrative. I also reflect on my own healing journey thus far and share what I wish I had done differently, before reflecting on the compassion I feel for my mother today and how healing has allowed me to become a stronger CycleBreaker. To find out why there is no separation and discover the gifts and medicine that come with healing, don’t miss this installment of the CPTSD Medicine Podcast!
Key Points From This Episode:
What is meant by the third big idea of CPTSD recovery: there is no separation.
CycleBreaking and the overarching goal of changing the course of human evolution.
Following us through the Directional Callings and the Energetic Stewardship that needs to happen.
Liminal Directional Calling and why it’s so unfamiliar to us as humans.
The Self-Energetic Frequencies we focus on in Liminal Directional Calling.
Contemplating our relationship with our parents in the context of CPTSD recovery.
Understanding our parents as part of a much larger narrative (and inheritance) of hurt.
Why the most wounded Parts of us need permission to speak the truth.
Regrets from my personal healing journey: speaking publicly about my parents.
Why you might need physical separation from your family during active CPTSD recovery.
Energetic and developmental differentiation and maintaining regulated emotional connection.
Understanding the difference between differentiation and separation.
Blame, humiliation, and separation: elements that go against cycle-breaking.
How healing facilitates CycleBreaking and evolving to the point of being a CycleBreaker
A guided invitation to connect with the essence of your parents.
Quotes:
“We find ourselves in these liminal spaces. I haven't fully released the past, but I also haven't landed completely in the future.” — Tanner Wallace [12:11]
“If we zoom out a little bit, we see ourselves, our children, our parents, our lineage, [and] our ancestors all woven together in a much larger narrative and inheritance of hurt.” — Tanner Wallace [19:45]
“Parts of us have been harmed significantly by our parents not being able, willing, or available to stop the trauma. But they didn't start the trauma. They're swimming in it, along with us.” — Tanner Wallace [20:10]
“Our most wounded Parts need permission to speak the truth. It's an essential part of CPTSD recovery.” — Tanner Wallace [20:35]
“Cycle-breaking is when the threads are repaired, restored, rejuvenated, [and] regenerated: internal attachment restoration and external attachment restoration.” — Tanner Wallace [28:17]
“Let’s neutralize the zing of responsibility so that it's available to us as mature adults on a healing path. Responsibility, accountability: these are the frequencies of cycle-breaking.” — Tanner Wallace [36:37]
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
Students of the Medicine
Opt-In to 'The Calling' Monthly Newsletter
CPTSD Medicine on Instagram
HELD by Tanner on Instagram
Tanner on Facebook
CPTSD Medicine on YouTube
CPTSD Medicine Podcast
-
Welcome back! Your timing is perfect as today, we are re-examining the biggest and most important ideas of CPTSD recovery. Dr. Tanner Wallace uses her professional journey as a case study to highlight the undeniable value of finding your true Personal Power, and she begins the conversation by reminding us of the goals of the CPTSD Medicine Podcast. In line with what this podcast aims to achieve, Dr. Wallace shares the three philosophies that make up the CPTSD Medicine training program, the importance of finding your Source Power, the dangers of Circumstantial Power, the Frequency of Knowing, and how to steward your Identity Energy Center. We also learn about the core concepts of CPTSD recovery, and Dr. Wallace encourages all listeners to engage with the CPTSD Medicine community on all platforms.
Key Points From This Episode:
Dr. Tanner Wallace reminds us of the goals of this podcast and encourages us to engage across all platforms.
Three philosophies that undergird the CPTSD Medicine training program.
Dr. Wallace walks us through her professional journey but this time, from a different perspective.
The importance of finding your source of power and truth.
Understanding the core concept of CPTSD recovery that everything you need to heal is already inside of you.
The Frequency of Knowing; stewarding our Conviction/Identity Energy Center.
Circumstantial Power versus Personal Power.
The Eternal Directional Calling of the CPTSD Medicine healing protocol
A reminder and warning of the damage-potential of Circumstantial Power.
Dr. Wallace calls us to remember and embrace our Personal Power.
Quotes:
“It is my intention that something lands, from what I say today, that completely changes your life. That is the standard we set in the CPTSD Medicine universe.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [00:36]
“I loved the authenticity of the scientific process; I loved the co-creation of knowledge in small groups.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [11:00]
“I remember Nicole [Casteel] saying to me in some form or another, ‘This is an opportunity for you to learn where your power is sourced.’ And when she said that to me, it brought me to my knees.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [25:30]
“Everything you need to heal is already inside of you.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [28:02]
“If your Identity Center or G-Center is defined, then you know who you are; you always have since birth, and it’s just a matter of owning that identity without compromise, and not entering into implicit contracts with other humans who want you or need you to be somebody different.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [32:23]
“When we have access to pure Personal Power, everything becomes more stable.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [34:32]
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
Nicole Casteel
Join Students of the Medicine free community
CPTSD Medicine on Instagram
CPTSD Medicine on Facebook
CPTSD Medicine on YouTube
Opt-In to 'The Calling' Monthly Newsletter
CPTSD Medicine Podcast
-
It’s important to have anchoring concepts when we take on the huge transformative process of healing from CPTSD. This is how we remind ourselves why we are doing what we’re doing, especially when things get a little wobbly or uncertain. Season 12 is all about the big ideas of CPTSD recovery. Tune in for a deep dive into what it means to both grieve the fact that no one saved us as children and take responsibility for our own healing as adults. We explore what it truly means to be a Cycle Breaker, and the work required to alchemize the wisdom of healing into CPTSD Medicine to support us on the path to healing. This episode includes practical tools on what to do when we feel Protective Parts coming online as a response to challenges or stress, how to balance, receive, and provide energy to others, and more. Learn how to distinguish the idea of being rescued from the notion of finding support, along with many other key insights to encourage you on your healing journey. Thanks for listening!
Key Points From This Episode:
The value of having big ideas to anchor the process of CPTSD recovery.
How two teachings underpin the structure of CPTSD healing in this community.
A story to introduce the big idea this episode discusses.
Understanding what happens when the proportionalities of the energies you are running shift.
A resource to support the pathway to recovery: Pete Walker’s Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving.
What it truly means to take radical responsibility and understand that no one is coming to save you.
Accepting the mission of being a Cycle Breaker.
What the true resonance of love causes within our lives.
Tanner’s careful study of her belief in God and what it means to her.
Distinguishing between the notion that no one is coming to save you and the idea that no one is going to support you.
Why is it only appropriate for someone to save you when you are a child.
How to respond when Protective Parts are activated as a response to challenges or stress.
Balancing “receiving and providing” energy.
Grieving the past that led to your complex trauma.
A healthy revision of the idea that no one is coming to save you.
How the wisdom of healing is alchemized into CPTSD Medicine.
A blessing to close off this episode.
Quotes:
“For those of you who are familiar with the energy of complex trauma, when your proportionalities of energies you’re running shifts, you’re actually kind of a different person.” — Tanner Wallace [07:53]
“CPTSD recovery introduces an understanding of our humanness that transcends time in a lot of ways.” — Tanner Wallace [13:52]
“If you’re listening to this podcast, you’ve been called to the mission.” — Tanner Wallace [18:18]
“The resonance of love is an energetic force that softens rough edges, restores motivation, that explains things without words, that rights the wrongs without a single action because love is a frequency.” — Tanner Wallace [20:26]
“I want you to listen, learn, and have the wisdom come into your body so that it can become The Medicine.” — Tanner Wallace [38:51]
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
Parts of Me TherapyComplex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving
Book A New Client Consultation
CPTSD Medicine on Instagram
HELD By Tanner on Instagram
CPTSD Medicine on Facebook
CPTSD Medicine on YouTube
Opt-In to 'The Calling' Monthly Newsletter
CPTSD Medicine Podcast
-
Welcome to a brand new season of the CPTSD Medicine Podcast! In this new season, we embark on a profound exploration of the central teachings of Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD) recovery. I'm thrilled to guide you through each of the 12 foundational principles, and in today's brief introduction, I invite you to prepare your heart and mind for the enlightening journey ahead. As we delve into these big ideas, you'll discover invaluable insights and practical tools to help you navigate your own path toward healing. Throughout the season, we'll uncover the essence of each principle, shedding light on why it's crucial for your recovery journey. I'll also share strategies to help you extract the most wisdom from each episode and integrate it into your daily life, whether through journaling prompts, mindfulness practices, or community support, allowing you to deepen into the medicine that is available to all of us through this podcast. Thanks for tuning in!
Key Points From This Episode:
The overarching theme of Season 12 and why it’s relevant to your recovery.
What you can expect from the upcoming episodes and how to get the most out of them.
Ways to structure your implementation or actions taken from listening to this podcast.
Objectives for the CPTSD Medicine movement and your journey from novice to expert.
A sneak peek of the next episode in the season!
Reasons to join the Students of the Medicine Community.
Quotes:
“When you’re given a [big idea, story, phrase, or memory prompt], it will provide you with key anchors into what’s important – and what you are orienting towards without being so prescriptive that you won’t be able to innovate.” — Tanner Wallace [0:09:11]
“[The CPTSD Medicine movement is] a group of lifelong learners that are intellectually curious, willing to study, willing to put the time in to become an expert but also [know] that, at some point, we have to [step up and ask] as a novice and risk holding Protective Parts.” — Tanner Wallace [0:19:42]
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
Students of the Medicine Community
Book A New Client Consultation
CPTSD Medicine on Instagram
CPTSD Medicine on Facebook
CPTSD Medicine on YouTube
Opt-In to 'The Calling' Monthly Newsletter
CPTSD Medicine Podcast
-
During the final episode of our season on partnership in CPTSD recovery, Tanner summarizes some of the biggest lessons she has learned in partnership. While some of these are universal, all are especially important in the context of complex trauma recovery and partnership. We explore how to support and build up our relationship as we do some of the tougher healing work of recovery. We unpack the valuable practice of building time to talk into your daily schedule and discuss what is often behind relationship issues that keep on arising. Next, we explore what it might look like to create a sacred union and refuse to disrespect it, touching on the reorganizing and disorienting that occurs during CPTSD recovery. Lastly, you’ll hear all about the beautiful balance of having independent pursuits and shared values in your relationship and how important it is to be able to answer the question of who you are outside of it. Thanks for joining us for this season! I will back May 3rd with the first episode of Season 12!
Key Points From This Episode:
Welcome to the final episode on our season dedicated to partnership in CPTSD recovery.
Honoring those who have been with us for the whole series.
Plans for Season 12 of CPTSD to be released on the third of May.
What this episode consists of: five lessons Tanner learned in partnership while healing from complex trauma.
The need to build in time to talk into your daily schedule.
Understanding that some things that keep coming back simply do so because they are unresolved.
Creating the sacred union and refusing to disrespect your partner.
The reorganizing and disorienting that occurs during CPTSD recovery.
Living in the overlap of shared values with your partner.
Supporting independent pursuits and appropriate levels of autonomy.
Answering the question of who you are without your partner.
A recap of the five lessons learned.
Quotes:
“It can be very reorganizing and disorienting to come to meet the human that emerges during CPTSD recovery.” — Tanner Wallace [18:26]
“What we want to do is come into this beautiful middle space where I am dependent on my partner in very healthy, intentional ways, but I’m also supported in my independent pursuits and I am granted a level of autonomy that feels right in my body.” — Tanner Wallace [21:57]
“Each partner should be able to answer, at any point in the relationship, who am I without you?” — Tanner Wallace [22:23]
“If it’s not resolved, that means it’s going to keep coming back.” — Tanner Wallace [23:28]
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
Book A New Client Consultation
CPTSD Medicine on Instagram
CPTSD Medicine on Facebook
CPTSD Medicine on YouTube
Opt-In to 'The Calling' Monthly Newsletter
CPTSD Medicine Podcast
-
We can learn a lot from other people's questions, especially since they can bring up ideas we may never have thought to explore or put forward ourselves. And if you’re in any kind of group therapy setting, the response from the guide, coach, or mentor, will likely be meant for you as well, not just the person posing the question. In that spirit, we invite you to join today’s conversation as we answer a series of questions submitted by you, our listeners! Tuning in you’ll hear thoughtful and considered responses to each query. We explore prompts that will help you answer the sacred question “How to know when it’s time to say goodbye”, options for establishing a fresh start with a long-term partner who hurt you in the past, what you need to understand about the concept of integration after unburdening, and much more. We hope you’ll join us for this expansive conversation as we explore listener questions and beyond!
Key Points From This Episode:
Details on the special training program being launched in October and how to get involved.
An overview of the exciting things happening in the CPTSD universe.
Answering your listener questions on CPTSD.
Old hurts in the context of CPTSD recovery, and a long-term relationship.
How to truly start fresh, and build a safe and nourishing relationship with the same partner.
Working internally with the younger wounded parts of ourselves.
Updating those internal parts so that they can see what our current reality is.
Prompts to help you answer the sacred question “How to know it’s time to say goodbye”.
The many steps you can take before concluding that it’s time to say goodbye.
An examination of what to do if your partner has narcissistic characteristics.
Acknowledging the good within them and building bridges with their protective parts.
Explaining the concept of integration after unburdening.
Taking a moment to honor the privilege of answering your listener questions.
Quotes:
“There's so much to learn from other people's questions, because sometimes there's questions posed that we would have never thought to ask.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [05:48]
“Sometimes older versions of us from our adolescent years will confuse our partner for our parent or will confuse our partner for an ex-lover or an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend. And that needs to be cleaned up because that's also a distortion.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [15:21]
“There's a very high bar for saying goodbye, in my personal opinion, because there's so much that can be done. To reach that point where you say with authenticity, clarity, transparency, it's time for me to say goodbye.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [25:22]
“A human that doesn't see other humans as human has been hurt horrifically. At some deep cellular level, they've been rejected.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [29:34]
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
Book A New Client Consultation
CPTSD Medicine on Instagram
CPTSD Medicine on Facebook
CPTSD Medicine on YouTube
Opt-In to 'The Calling' Monthly Newsletter
CPTSD Medicine Podcast
-
In this culture of never-ending healing and never-ending personal development, it’s important to remember that one can heal from CPTSD, permanently. But to do so, your relational ecosystem needs to be strong and for that, you need a base of supportive humans. Today’s show is all about navigating complex relationships with extended friends and family in your trauma ecosystem. We discuss the role and importance of good communication, how others may react to your healing journey, the responsibility of safety in adults and children, and everything you need to take into account regarding your partner and your extended trauma ecosystem. We also assess four trauma sets that may negatively impact partnerships, and we are reminded of the importance of the unburdening process and of separating oneself energetically while remaining emotionally invested.
Key Points From This Episode:
How it’s possible to completely heal from CPTSD.
Why it’s important to know how to navigate relationships within your trauma ecosystem.
The role of communication.
How friends and family may react to your healing journey.
What it looks like as you progress further in your recovery.
Why safety is an internal experience for adults and an external demand for children.
What you need to know regarding extended family, friends, and your partner.
Four trauma sets that influence partnerships.
Separating energetically but remaining close emotionally.
Quotes:
“CPTSD, [a] complex trauma, is a specific relational injury that impacts almost every aspect of your life, internally and externally. And yet, it can be healed. It can be resolved. You can complete active recovery of CPTSD.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [01:50]
“The disconnections, the no contact, the estrangements; all of those, as I understand it now, are human attempts to demand external safety when in truth, safety is an internal experience.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [06:00]
“Continue to unburden your own system and radiate compassion, forgiveness, and love, and keep showing up in those frequencies and see what happens over time.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [11:43]
“Just repeat, repeat, repeat, repeat. It’s the same basic things again and again and again that create a successful CPTSD recovery journey.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [34:56]
Longer Quotes:
“You can’t really have a real, authentic, intimate relationship with somebody [who’s] running [on] survival instinct. You can appreciate them, you can hold space for them, you can be around them, you can laugh with them, you can even have fun with them, but that deep, reciprocal, authentic, genuine intimacy is not possible.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [09:54]
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
SUBMIT A QUESTION
CPTSD Medicine on Instagram
CPTSD Medicine on Facebook
CPTSD Medicine on YouTube
Opt-In to 'The Calling' Monthly Newsletter
CPTSD Medicine Podcast
-
This episode of the CPTSD Medicine Podcast dives into a complicated, yet necessary topic: sex. Context and history are important here because sex, sexuality, sexual satisfaction, sexual connection, and intimacy during CPTSD recovery can be so wildly nuanced. Join Tanner as she delves into why sex should be something you and your partner talk about (often) and invites you to become truly curious. She unpacks several instances that indicate a conversation is necessary, highlights a critical foundational principle to fuel mutual sexual satisfaction, and shares several pieces of homework for you and your partner to consider, work through, and implement as you continue on your journey toward improved sexual connection in your relationship. Tanner brings it all together by emphasizing the importance of radical responsibility and offers some practical tips to get you started on this beautiful and profound journey!
Key Points From This Episode:
Reasons that sex should not be taken off the table as a topic of conversation.
Why sex (and all it encompasses) is a basic, core, human need.
An invitation to be curious with your partner about sex.
Different indications that conversations about sex need to be had.
A disclaimer to pause the podcast to go and have a conversation.
Power meets power; a critical foundational principle to fuel mutual sexual satisfaction.
Talking to your children about sexual satisfaction and pleasure (solo and in partnership).
The importance of exploring your own pleasure.
What it really means to know your partner’s true sexual preferences.
Reaching mutual fantasy space alignment.
Things we cannot ask to override or deny in the sexual satisfaction space.
Bringing it all together: taking radical responsibility for what is yours.
How to get to a place where taking radical responsibility is possible.
Insights you can use to start this journey for you and your partner.
Quotes:
“Sex, sexuality, sexual satisfaction, sexual connection, and intimacy are so wildly nuanced.” — Tanner Wallace [0:02:39]
“Our sexuality, sexual connection, [and] sexual expression in the context of a long-term partnership is non-negotiable. Sexual satisfaction, sexual expression, sexual fulfillment is a basic core human need.” — Tanner Wallace [0:06:45]
“Anything but neutral curiosity is an indication that there’s some work to be done here.” — Tanner Wallace [0:09:05]
“Waiting until you are healed to deal with your sexuality [and] sexual issues is avoiding a beautiful, sacred, profound training ground that is only possible in a partnership. There is no other space where this particular thing can be held.” — Tanner Wallace [0:30:44]
Longer Quotes:
“Our sexuality is not just practical. It’s not just transactional. It’s truly about life force activation. It’s about primal, deep, body energy. It’s about creativity, it’s about expression, it’s about release, it’s about satisfaction. It’s about flow states and transcending our human experience. It is truly about — [unlocking] experiences beyond what our human brain can comprehend.” — Tanner Wallace [0:15:17]
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
SUBMIT A QUESTION
CPTSD Medicine on Instagram
CPTSD Medicine on Facebook
CPTSD Medicine on YouTube
Opt-In to 'The Calling' Monthly Newsletter
CPTSD Medicine Podcast
-
Money can be a very difficult topic of discussion and often causes conflict in all kinds of relationships; especially when you, your partner, or both of you are healing from CPTSD. Today on the CPTSD Medicine Podcast we are continuing our conversations about CPTSD recovery in relationships, and delving into money specifically. Tune in to hear about what you’ve missed this season, what you can expect from the rest of the season, things to look forward to, and how to stay up to date with this organization. We discuss some of the natural trauma responses to money, before stressing why you have to honor the existence of those trauma responses. Finally, we’ll share four practical strategies you can use alongside the understanding of your trauma responses to money to help heal CPTSD in partnerships. This is an incredibly important episode that you don’t want to miss out on!
Key Points From This Episode:
How you can get involved in and stay up to date with this organization.
What you can expect from the rest of season 11 of the CPTSD Medicine Podcast.
Why working out problems is a power struggle in relationships where CPTSD is present.
Today’s topic of discussion: money.
Some of the common trauma responses related to money.
The importance of honoring the presence of these money-related trauma responses.
Practical strategies to use in collaboration with understanding trauma responses to money.
One: understanding your individual values in-depth.
Two: cleaning up all things money.
Three: dream with your partner.
Four: practice greater gratitude towards what you already have.
Quotes:
“Everything you need to heal is already inside of you, you just need some facilitation, structure, understanding, and practice to know how to access it consistently.” — Tanner Wallace [01:13]
“Money is associated with a particular survival mode [for people with CPTSD].” — Tanner Wallace [21:01]
“[Use] these money conversations as the healing, not [standing] in the way of the healing.” — Tanner Wallace [29:57]
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
Monarch Money
SUBMIT A QUESTION
CPTSD Medicine on Instagram
CPTSD Medicine on Facebook
CPTSD Medicine on YouTube
Opt-In to 'The Calling' Monthly Newsletter
CPTSD Medicine Podcast
-
For adult humans living with the painful effects of their own upbringing, becoming a parent can introduce a variety of new cognitive, emotional, and practical challenges. In today’s episode, we touch on the areas of your relationship with your children and partner that can be very triggering during CPTSD recovery. Even if you don’t have children, this episode will help you guide and support family members, friends, loved ones, and other CycleBreakers in their parenting journey. It will also help you unearth places in your lived experience of complex trauma where you might want to do some grief work or help you work through the difficult question, “Why didn’t I have children?” Tuning in, you’ll learn about the five often-unconscious activations that children can bring up in our lives when we have unresolved trauma, practical and energetic ways to work through them with your partner, and how to show up from a place of Self Energy with curiosity, courage, creativity, compassion, and calmness.
Key Points From This Episode:
Important context for this podcast, the work this community does, and how to learn more.
How this episode can be productive for your CPTSD recovery, even if you don’t have kids.
Different configurations within the framework of parenting.
Things that can prevent us from parenting from a grounded place of pure personal power.
Why breaking the cycle of trauma is one of the main goals in our parenting relationships.
The deep importance of doing this work for your children (and for yourself).
Insight into the Motherless Mother frequency that this work requires.
Five activations children can bring up in our lives when we have unresolved trauma.
Examples of how these activations might play out in your environment.
The role of consciousness in helping us lead from a place of Self Energy.
Practical and energetic considerations for cycle-breaking parenting.
How to become a bridge to Healing Power while also healing yourself in the process.
Quotes:
“When activated, we start to drop into Primitive Survival Instinct, Hurt Parts, Wounded Younger Parts, Aggressive Protective Parts, Collapsed Protective Parts. – We’re no longer leading [or] parenting our child from a grounded, anchored place of pure personal power.” — Tanner Wallace [16:19]
“What am I doing for my kids to break the cycle [of trauma] so that their children are trauma-free?” — Tanner Wallace [19:21]
“There’s a lot of work planning [and practical considerations] that must go into cycle-breaking parenting.” — Tanner Wallace [31:43]
“When in distress, lean in to connect.” — Tanner Wallace [36:17]
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
'A Season for Partners of Humans Recovering from CPTSD'
SUBMIT A QUESTION
CPTSD Medicine on Instagram
CPTSD Medicine on Facebook
CPTSD Medicine on YouTube
Opt-In to 'The Calling' Monthly Newsletter
CPTSD Medicine Podcast
-
A developmental relationship is such a gift to us as humans. It’s the kind of relationship where you are fundamentally changed because of it. You would not be the same human without the stimulation, activation, scaffolding, prompts, support, love, and cheerleading from your partner. The same is true for them! This episode is our final installment of the introductory material for Season 11, setting the context for three very specific conversations to come, which center around parenting, money, and sex. Exploring what it means to take radical responsibility at every level of the healing journey, we discuss navigating the leapfrogging that might happen along the way, reciprocity and holding space for one another, and more. Don’t miss this foundational conversation offering meaningful support for your journey. Thanks for joining us!
Key Points From This Episode:
A reminder of how to approach this series dedicated to the partners of humans with CPTSD.
What it means to have a developmental relationship.
Requirements for building a developmental relationship.
Quantum leaps that may happen during the process of building with a partner.
Why this series is dedicated to Tanner’s partner, Matt, and a glimpse into their journey.
Where this episode fits into our series: the final context-setting conversation.
What radical responsibility means and why it is so difficult.
One of the early milestones of CPTSD: dropping the childlike energy of ‘I don’t want to have to do this’.
The reciprocal holding of space for the partner that wants to be witnessed.
Allowing one another the room to actively grieve by taking on responsibility in the home.
Periods of time when a Wounded Younger Part may require all of the attention of a partner.
The longest, most pervasive phase of healing is when you take radical responsibility for every choice you have made.
Different types of responsibility necessary for different parts of the journey.
Why it’s necessary for there to be a reciprocal back and forth.
Key questions to ask yourself following this episode.
Quotes:
“One of the early milestones of CPTSD recovery is dropping the immature, childlike energy of ‘I don’t want to have to do this’.” — Tanner Wallace [06:14]
“Your partner is not a parent. However, they can provide a pseudo-parenting context for a short period of time while an unburdening is happening.” — Tanner Wallace [11:01]
“At different points of the journey, there are different types of radical responsibility.” — Tanner Wallace [14:34]
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
SUBMIT A QUESTION
CPTSD Medicine on Instagram
CPTSD Medicine on Facebook
CPTSD Medicine of YouTube
Opt-In The Calling monthly newsletter
CPTSD Medicine Podcast
- Show more
