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Welcome to my new summer series where I'm examining the complex reality of communication as a woman and how we can move beyond limiting social expectations. Despite being raised by women who fought for equality and told we could become anything, we weren't prepared for the challenges we actually face - like being perceived as dominating when we speak just 30% of the time or being interrupted twice as often as men. This series will cover essential skills like assertiveness, boundary setting, and authentic expression because I believe our best communication comes not from following rules to keep everyone comfortable, but from showing up with confidence and our authentic voice. Join me as we become more aware, confident, and at ease with communicating in all areas of our lives.
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In this episode, I dive into the exhausting reality of co-parenting with a covert narcissist, sharing real examples from my own experience that will sound painfully familiar to anyone in this situation. I break down four key traits that make co-parenting feel impossible: blame shifting, ruining special occasions, chronic unreliability, and weaponizing children's emotions. Through personal stories—from dangerous unsupervised water activities to last-minute schedule changes—I explore how these patterns affect our kids and why speaking up often makes us look like the problem. If you're questioning your sanity while trying to protect your children from a co-parent who appears decent on the surface but leaves chaos in their wake, this episode is for you.
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In this vulnerable episode, I share my recent Mother's Day shame spiral and how cultural expectations left me feeling "wrong" for not experiencing the picture-perfect joy we're told mothers should feel. I explore the crucial difference between shame ("What's wrong with me?") and guilt ("What did I do?"), offering practical questions to help identify your own shame triggers and the language they speak.
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An unexpected wake-up call provided by a high schooler provided me curiosity around what we aren't saying. In this episode, I explore what keeps us silent when we should be speaking up - from our misguided telepathy expectations to the emotional labor calculations we make without even realizing it. Join me for a candid look at the phrases beyond "I love you" that might actually transform your relationships, and the five questions to ask yourself when you feel that familiar urge to stay quiet.
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If you're the one who remembers every birthday, every school form, and every detail of everyone’s life—you might be over-functioning. In this episode, I’m getting real about the hidden emotional and mental load so many women carry, especially in midlife. I share how this pattern forms, why we cling to it, and the high cost it has on our health, relationships, and joy. If you're ready to stop drowning in invisible responsibilities and start reclaiming your energy, this episode is for you.
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I’m asking a simple question today: when was the last time you felt plain, old “whelmed”—not over, not under, just steady? Growing up as latch‑key kids taught many of us that love was earned through being good, easy, and hyper‑capable, so we learned to outrun every need in the room. Now the hustle is our baseline, but it’s costing our sanity and stunting our kids’ growth. In this episode I trace how that survival strategy became a lifestyle and share the boundary‑setting, self‑check‑ins, and unapologetic rest I’m practicing to reset the dial to “enough.”
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Have you noticed how quickly we snap these days — in traffic, in line, or over something as small as an umbrella at a track meet? In this episode, I unpack why so many of us feel constantly on edge, and how stress, overstimulation, and emotional burnout might be driving more of our reactions than we realize. I’ll share a recent confrontation that left my hands shaking — and the questions it raised about how we treat each other, and ourselves. If you’re craving a little more calm in your everyday life, this one’s for you.
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This episode is inspired by an encounter at a grocery store where I almost missed a meaninful connection because of my unconscious "habit of hurry," despite having no real time pressure. This experience led me to get curious about how many of us live in a constant state of rush, creating false urgency that affects us physically and emotionally while preventing us from fully experiencing moments that matter. I offer practical strategies to break this habit, including mindful pauses, questioning our rush instinct, and remembering that our inherent worth isn't tied to productivity or efficiency.
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We are being emotionally manipulated by media and algorithms designed to keep us engaged through fear, outrage, and anxiety. I've discovered that my actual day-to-day life barely changes regardless of national politics. The 'news' we consume today isn't really news—it's opinions delivered by personalities who feel like friends but don't even know our names. In this episode, I share practical strategies to break free from this cycle of information addiction. Your real life is happening right here, not on screens or in national narratives.
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In this episode, I dive deep into the concept of letting go of past dreams that no longer serve us. We explore those persistent inner soundtracks - the "shoulds" and negative self-talk that keep us trapped in an unlived life. I challenge you to pause, reflect, and say goodbye to the dreams and thoughts that are holding you back, making space for the joy and potential of who you are right now.
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I missed last week's episode because I welcomed a foster puppy into our home, which unexpectedly gave me time to sit, read, and reflect on our "unlived lives" - those desires we've silenced for too long. During this forced pause, I realized how much of what remains unlived in our lives can remain dormant simply because we don't speak up about what truly matters to us. Honest conversations - even when they don't change external circumstances - transform us internally and help put us on the right trajectory toward living our full lives. This week, I challenge you to say just one thing you've been holding back as a first step toward reclaiming your unlived life, one conversation at a time.
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Today we’re diving into something deeply personal—our unlived life. It’s not just about the big dreams we’ve abandoned; it’s the potential we’ve yet to step into, the hobbies we never explored, the desires we’ve been told were impractical. I’ve been there—living small, holding back, and thinking I needed absolute clarity before taking action. But what if action itself brings clarity? What if simply writing down a dream makes it 40% more likely to happen, and telling someone makes it 80% more likely? This episode is an invitation to stop waiting and start living. So, what’s one small step you can take today toward the life waiting for you?
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Boundaries are essential for a healthy life, yet they can be challenging to set and enforce. In this episode, I share a personal story about navigating boundaries with my teenage son and the emotional weight of following through on consequences. We also explore how boundaries go beyond just saying no—they protect our time, energy, and well-being. If even Wonder Woman had limits, why do we expect ourselves to do it all? Let’s rethink boundaries, not as walls, but as bridges to a healthier, more intentional life.
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Are you wearing metaphorical “big red shoes,” pushing yourself into roles and routines that don’t actually serve you? In this episode of Say the Things, we explore our relationship with energy—how we use it, how we waste it, and how we can align with our natural rhythms instead of forcing ourselves into schedules that don’t fit. From mental and emotional energy to physical stamina, I challenge you to become a curious observer of when you feel your best and when you’re just pushing through. Maybe the real wisdom isn’t in doing more—it’s in honoring your own rhythm.
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In this special bonus episode, I sit down with my husband, Andy, for our first-ever podcast interview together—wine in my closet and all! We dive into the world of Valentine's Day social media posts and the authenticity (or lack thereof) behind them. Andy shares his honest take on the curated perfection we often see online, and we reflect on how our past relationships shaped the way we communicate now. From attachment styles to unspoken truths about marriage, this conversation is candid, funny, and full of insights. Happy Valentine’s Day—let’s talk about what real love looks like!
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Love and social media—what’s really going on behind those carefully curated posts? In this episode of Say the Things, I dive into the history of public love declarations (turns out, we’ve been doing this for thousands of years) and what research tells us about why we post about our relationships. Are we sharing or performing? Seeking validation or celebrating real connection? Our attachment styles even play a role in how we show up online. Let’s get honest about our digital love letters and ask ourselves: would our relationships look different if social media didn’t exist?
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I love comfort - there, I said it. But as we move past "Quitters Day" and into the heart of 2025, I'm getting curious about what we actually care enough about to get uncomfortable for. Join me in exploring the difference between the changes we choose and the ones that choose us, and why sometimes the most important question isn't about change at all - it's about what matters enough to make us willing to be uncomfortable.
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Satisfaction, my husband asked me 'what makes me feel satisfied' while in a flurry of frustration, I moved on. But that question got me thinking about our complicated relationship with joy and why we often find it easier to share our pain than our pleasure. Let's talk about what happens when we dare to believe we're worthy of joy and what it means to choose heaven here and now.
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For years, I thought my inner critic was just echoes of my dad's voice, but the journey took me deeper into understanding the impact of emotional abuse and how it clutters our inner dialogue. I'm sharing my experience and learning to recognize when those "never" and "always" statements are red flags. Come explore how we can choose which inner voice to feed and why self-compassion, not self-criticism, might be our best path forward.
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poem by Dana Wetherell
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I've been getting quiet lately, really quiet. Setting aside my phone, choosing peace, and even embracing boredom has me thinking deeply about our relationship with time. Join me as I explore how we view time - through seasons, through social constructs, through expectations - and what happens when we dare to see time not as something to maximize, but as a precious gem meant for healing.
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poem by https://www.instagram.com/alexandravasiliupoetry/
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