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On this week’s episode of the podcast, we have a special bonus episode – ten of our top parenting sex ed tips from experts. We’ve spoken with a lot of parenting experts on our podcast over the years and we wanted to put together some of our favourite tips from these conversations. We’ll cover things like how to talk with your kids about consent, masturbation and porn, advice for how you can be the kind of parent your kids feel safe to come to – and why that’s so important – as well as how you can respond, rather than react, when they ask you a tricky question.
00:00 – Intro
00:34 – Make it normal for your kids to talk to you about what they see online
02:07 – Why you don’t want to shame kids for their bodily reactions to sexual content
03:10 – Be the go to place for your kids to learn facts and values, rather than the media/porn
04:06 – Think about helpful sex conversations you've had in your own life
05:27 – Why your tone matters even more than what you say when having sex talks with your kids
06:20 – How to talk with kids about masturbation
06:59 – How to explain to kids how babies are made
09:28 – How to talk with your kids about porn
10:50 – How to teach kids about consent
12:12 – How to respond rather than react when your child asks you a tricky sex question
14:26 – Conclusion
Our experts include:
Cath Hakanson, qualified sexual health nurse, author, speaker and the founder of Sex Ed Rescue.
https://sexedrescue.com/
Vanessa Hamilton, sexuality educator and the founder of education business ‘Talking The Talk Healthy Sexuality Education’, with over 25 years of experience as a registered sexual health nurse.
https://www.talkingthetalksexed.com.au/
Dr Jane Cherrington, PhD in discursive psychology, with some post-doctoral work around the themes in porn, founder of the Sex in Space Project.
https://sexinspace.com/
Justin Hancock, writer/editor of BISH, a trained sexual health trainer, qualified youth worker, and a sex and relationships educator since 1999.
https://www.bishuk.com/
Nikki Denholm, director at The Light Project, which aims to equip youth, their whānau and communities to build porn literacy and positively navigate the new porn landscape.
https://thelightproject.co.nz/
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On this episode of the podcast, we were joined by Danielle Broster from the Australian Federal Police. Danielle is a Senior Prevention Officer for their Online Child Safety Team, which she has been a part of for five years. The Australian Federal Police lead an education program called Think U Know, which aims to prevent online child sexual exploitation. Together, Danielle and Tim had a conversation all about sextortion – what it is, who it affects and the warning signs that someone might be a victim, as well as advice for parents on what they can do to help protect their kids against sextortion.
TRIGGER WARNING: this episode discusses topics related to sextortion, online exploitation, and the manipulation of young people. These are sensitive and potentially distressing subjects, so listener discretion is advised. If you find any part of this conversation overwhelming, please reach out to support services if needed.
Find Think U Know here: https://www.thinkuknow.org.au/
ACCCE (Australian Centre to Counter Child Exploitation): https://www.accce.gov.au/
Timestamps
00:00 – Intro
02:33 – How Think U Know started and what they do
04:08 – What is sextortion and who does it target?
11:07 – Do perpetrators follow through with threats?
12:45 – How big is the issue?
15:42 – Advice to help prevent sextortion
20:30 – What conversations to have at what age
22:00 – What are the red flags that suggest someone might be at risk?
23:46 – What empowers young people to report sextortion?
25:46 – Signs someone might be the victim of sextortion
27:58 – Balancing privacy and trust with your child
31:05 – What to do if you find out your child is a victim of sextortion
34:15 – How the AFP is helping prevent sextortion
36:32 – Top tips for both parents and teens
38:05 – Where to find more information
40:57 – How the tech landscape has changed over time
43:57 – Conclusion
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On today’s episode of the podcast, we were thrilled to be joined by the lovely Teri Hofford. Teri is a body image educator, bestselling author, photographer and TedX speaker who helps people unf*ck their beliefs around bodies and business so that they can move closer to their most authentic selves. We were very excited to have a conversation with her today about all things relating to body image – the meaning that we make out of our bodies and where those thoughts come from, how we can reframe negative thoughts about ourselves, what confidence can look like for different people, and why being curious is so important when it comes to shifting the way we think and feel about our bodies.
Find Teri here: https://terihofford.com/
Or on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/terihofford
Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro
00:50 – What Teri does and how she got involved working in this space
03:06 – 5 reasons you look bad in photos
06:50 – Using photography to explore difficult subjects
08:44 – How to change your attitude towards your body
11:10 – Treat yourself like you’d treat a friend
13:07 – 3 steps to reframing negative body talk
16:17 – The impact of asexuality on body image
23:55 – Most common myths about body image + confidence
27:40 – Teri’s project celebrating bodies as they are
30:30 – Body Image Bootcamp: what it’s all about
33:34 – Being able to freely exist in your body
35:10 – Our bodies are a representation of what we feel about ourselves
40:14 – Teri’s message to her younger self
42:16 – Why we have to be intentional to reframe our thoughts about our bodies
45:02 – You’re not as special as you think you are
49:04 – Where to find Teri
50:05 - Conclusion
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On this week’s episode of the podcast, Tim had the opportunity to talk with Tina Horn – a writer, educatrix, and media-maker. She is the author of Why Are People Into That?: A Cultural Investigation of Kink (Hachette), a book based on her long-running indie fetish podcast. Tina is the creator/writer of the sci-fi sex-rebel comic book series Safe Sex /SfSx, and the cult detective thriller Deprog; she was also the host/cowriter of the phone sex podcast Operator (Wondery). Her reporting on sexual subcultures has appeared in Rolling Stone, Playboy, Hazlitt, Glamour, Jezebel and elsewhere; she is the author of two other nonfiction books and has contributed to numerous anthologies including We Too: Essays on Sex Work and Survival, which she also coedited. Tina has lectured on adult entertainment politics and queer BDSM identities at universities and community centres all over North America, and works as an on-set consultant for theatre, film, and television including the dominatrix scenes of Pose. She is a LAMBDA Literary Fellow, an AVN nominee, the recipient of two Feminist Porn Awards, and holds an MFA in Creative Nonfiction Writing from Sarah Lawrence.
Find Tina here: https://www.instagram.com/tinahornsass/?hl=en
Or at her website: https://tinahorn.net/
Timestamps
00:00 – Intro
01:50 – What is a kink?
05:20 – The influence of the internet on our sexual behaviours
07:06 – How would you define rough sex?
08:49 – Our relationship with obsession
14:00 – Connecting to others through sexuality
15:59 – How to bring your desires and fantasies to life
22:02 – Different kinds of foot fetishes
26:50 – Embracing pleasure
29:13 – Places we can learn from
32:36 – Learning about sex from observation and conversations
34:08 – Why are people into that? The cultural investigation of kink.
35:30 – Conclusion
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For this episode we were thrilled to be joined by Melody Thomas, the creator and host of The Good Sex Project – a podcast about good sex, good relationships and how to have them.
Together, Melody and Toshi spoke about what she’s learned from her two seasons creating this podcast, how the work has impacted Melody’s own sex life, what she wishes she knew earlier about sex and relationships, and some of the most memorable moments from the conversations she’s had.
Check out The Good Sex Project here: https://interactives.stuff.co.nz/the-good-sex-project-podcast/
Timestamps
00:00 – Intro
00:40 – What is The Good Sex Project all about?
02:09 – How people have responded to The Good Sex Project
03:51 – Melody’s biggest learnings about sex and relationships
07:39 – Advice to feel more comfortable talking about sex
10:05 – Taboos that still need to be broken down
12:59 – Sex advice Melody would give to her younger self
14:31 – How you can prioritise your own pleasure
17:00 – Communication tips
18:47 – Identifying unhealthy relationships
20:20 – Why asking questions is so important
21:55 – The expectations we take from porn
22:57 – How Melody’s sexual experiences have changed over time
24:17 – How sex-negative thinking can impact our physical experiences
26:33 – Where listeners can tune into The Good Sex Project
27:06 – Conclusion
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On the latest episode of the Sex in Space podcast, Toshi had the opportunity to speak with Anil Padavatan, the Health Programs Lead at GATE, (Global Action for Trans Equality), about trans healthcare. Together, they had a conversation about what trans healthcare is, why and how all kinds of people – not just those who are transgender – access services like puberty blockers and hormone replacement therapy, they debunked some common myths and misinformation surrounding this topic, and looked at the different ways that families can exist in the world.
Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro
00:39 – What is GATE?
01:13 – What does it mean to be transgender?
02:42 – What is trans healthcare?
03:38 – What is gender affirming care?
04:48 – Some examples of gender affirming care
05:18 – Some reasons a person might access gender affirming care
06:09 – Cisgender people also access gender affirming care
08:13 – How do puberty blockers work?
09:37 – Are puberty blockers reversible?
10:41 – When can people use puberty blockers?
13:13 – Risks and benefits of puberty blockers
16:41 – The reality of medical interventions for young people
18:45 – What is hormone replacement therapy and who uses it?
21:34 – Being transgender and fertility
26:23 – What is gender affirming surgery?
27:50 – Who is able to access gender affirming surgery?
30:05 – The facts around gender affirming surgery and regret
34:25 – Different kinds of families
37:42 – Conclusion
Resources:
World Professional Association for Transgender Health (WPATH) Standards of Care 8:
https://www.wpath.org/soc8
Guidelines for gender affirming healthcare for gender diverse and transgender children, young people and adults in Aotearoa, New Zealand:
https://patha.nz/Guidelines
Southern African HIV Clinicians Society Gender Affirming Healthcare Guidelines: https://www.sahivsoc.org/Subheader/Index/sahcs-guidelines
Cornell University Public Policy Research Portal, What does the scholarly research say about the effect of gender transition on transgender well-being?:
https://whatweknow.inequality.cornell.edu/topics/lgbt-equality/what-does-the-scholarly-research-say-about-the-well-being-of-transgender-people/
GATE Knowledge Portal:
https://gate.ngo/knowledge-portal/
Reaffirming Autonomy of Trans and Gender Diverse Children and Adolescents:
https://gate.ngo/knowledge-portal/publication/reaffirming-autonomy-of-trans-and-gender-diverse-children-and-adolescents/
Trans and Intersex Rising Zimbabwe:
https://trinrizim.weebly.com/
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On this week's episode of the podcast, we were thrilled to be joined by Dr Paula Hall, a sexual and relationship psychotherapist who specialises in helping people affected by sex addiction and porn addiction. Dr Hall has been working as a therapist for 30 years and currently runs the biggest clinic in the UK, and the biggest therapy training programme for compulsive sexual behaviours.
Together, Dr Hall and Toshi spoke about identifying problematic porn use, advice for anyone who thinks that their porn consumption might be an issue, the impact that compulsive porn use has on partners and how they can access support of their own, why being anti-porn is not the solution and why compulsive porn use is the symptom of a bigger issue.
Dr Hall is the author of several books including Understanding & Treating Sex and Pornography Addiction, Sex Addiction: The Partner’s Perspective, Confronting Porn, and Sex Addiction: A Guide for Couples. Dr Hall has also peer reviewed a number of papers.
Watch her TED Talk on sex addiction here: https://youtu.be/-Qf2e3XZ8Tw?si=8VpOEgOynjCgDxjU
Learn more about the Laurel Centre: https://thelaurelcentre.co.uk/
Find more info about Pivotal Recovery here: https://www.pivotalrecovery.org/
Check out our book, 'How to talk with your kids about porn: https://www.sexinspace.com/book-2
Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro
00:40 – Dr Hall’s background + work
03:41 – Porn addiction vs compulsive porn use
06:02 – When is someone’s porn use problematic?
08:31 – Advice if you think your porn use might be an issue
10:33 – How shame gets in the way of people seeking help
12:45 – Why you need to work out what healthy sexuality means for you
14:36 – The impact of compulsive porn use on partners
16:55 – Support for partners of someone with compulsive porn use
18:43 – Dr Hall’s message for parents
24:06 – Why being anti-porn is not a solution
27:44 – The issue with trying to block pornography
29:28 – How moral debates can get in the way of helping people
33:18 – Compulsive porn use is the symptom of a bigger issue
35:52 – How the brain changes when a behaviour shifts from being recreational to compulsive
38:22 – One thing Dr. Hall wants you to take away from this podcast
39:31 – About Pivotal Recovery
40:43 - Conclusion
Software mentioned by Dr Hall -
Canopy: https://canopy.us/
Qustodio: https://www.qustodio.com/en/
Covenant Eyes: https://www.covenanteyes.com/
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Tim was joined by Catherine Carr for this episode – Catherine is producer of the acclaimed BBC Radio 4 series 'About The Boys.' This insightful five-part series takes a deep dive into the lives of teenage boys in the UK, exploring their challenges, fears, and hopes in a world that's rapidly changing. The show has been praised for its honest and raw portrayal of boys' experiences, offering a platform for their voices to be heard. Catherine, who is also a mother of boys, brings a unique and empathetic perspective to the series, making it a must-listen for anyone interested in the lives of young men today.
Listen to ‘About the Boys’ here: https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/m001yshm/episodes/player
Freddie Feltham, mentioned in the podcast: https://www.theguardian.com/news/2024/jan/06/im-andrew-tates-audience-and-i-know-why-he-appeals-to-young-men
Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro
01:26 – Catherine’s background
03:26 – What ‘About the Boys’ is all about
06:14 – The two stories that kicked off the project
11:37 – How Catherine put the series together
12:47 – Societal perceptions of young boys
16:29 – Letting the boys tell their story
18:30 – The impact of social media on boys
21:03 – Problematic male influencers
24:51 – The gaps in education for young people
29:00 – Where young people are learning from
31:45 – Tips for talking with kids about sexuality and relationships
33:17 – The spaces boys inhabit: real and online
37:41 – The importance of honest conversations
40:41 – Ending on a note of optimism
41:27 – Will there be an ‘About the Girls’?
43:10 – Conclusion
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Toshi spoke with Verity Johnson, also known as Miss Vee, who MC’s for Men of Steel, New Zealand’s only male strip club. Toshi and Verity had a conversation about what audience members can expect from a night at Men of Steel, Verity’s advice for anyone thinking of going but who might be a little nervous, as well as what she’s learned about female sexuality in New Zealand from working at Men of Steel – including the differences between different generations of women and their attitudes towards sexuality, and tips for becoming less apologetic about your sexuality and desires as a female.
Check out Men of Steel here: https://www.menofsteel.co.nz/
Find them on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/clubmenofsteel/?hl=en
Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro
00:40 – What is Men of Steel?
02:35 – How people respond to the experience
03:48 – What does a typical night look like at Men of Steel?
06:55 – Who goes to this male strip club?
09:25 – Female sexuality in New Zealand
13:07 – What to know if you feel nervous about going to Men of Steel
15:00 – What Miss Vee wishes people knew about Men of Steel
16:58 – Views around male stripping over the past 25 years
18:54 – Different generational attitudes towards sex
22:16 – Advice on embracing your sexuality
23:54 – Listen to this if you’re thinking about coming to Men of Steel
24:28 – Ticket info
24:42 – Conclusion
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For this episode, Toshi was joined by Kate Barnhart from New Alternatives NYC, a multi-service drop-in centre for LGBT homeless youth and young adults in New York City. They provide a range of services, everything from food, court advocacy, school supplies and supportive counselling. Together, Kate and Toshi spoke about the work that New Alternatives does, and why it’s so important.
Find New Alternatives NYC here: https://www.newalternativesnyc.org/
Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro
00:30 – Why LGBTQ+ youth are more at risk of being homeless
01:56 – What services does New Alternatives NYC offer?
03:31 – Meeting mental health needs
05:28 – How LGBTQ+ youth respond to the services offered by New Alternatives
06:04 – Memorable moments working at New Alternatives
08:43 – Who volunteers at New Alternatives
10:12 – Why Kate founded New Alternatives
11:42 – What Kate’s learned from working here
12:42 – Why this job is like solving a puzzle
13:24 – How listeners can support New Alternatives NYC
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Sex in Space is a weekly podcast where we have open-minded conversations, delving into sex across all its infinite dimensions. Stories and voices from all genders, ages, relationships, life stages, ethnicities, walks of life, professions and ways of being in the universe.
Available everywhere extraordinary podcasts are found. Subscribe to make sure you never miss an episode!
Check out the full podcast episodes mentioned in the trailer:
Dr Laurie Mintz / Satisfying sex lives: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/26-laurie-mintz-satisfying-sex-lives/id1554815508?i=1000622992065
Vanessa Hamilton / Sex ed for parents: top tips for tricky talks: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/38-vanessa-hamilton-sex-ed-for-parents-top-tips-for/id1554815508?i=1000633155903
Dr Jane Cherrington / How to talk with your kids about porn: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/43-dr-jane-cherrington-how-to-talk-with-your-kids-about-porn/id1554815508?i=1000641628876
Morgana O'Reilly / Let's talk bodies: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/30-morgana-oreilly-lets-talk-bodies/id1554815508?i=1000626751039
Michelle Hardenbrook / Owning the OnlyFans side-hustle: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/23-michelle-hardenbrook-owning-the-onlyfans-side-hustle/id1554815508?i=1000613465077
Shaneel Lal / Banning conversion therapy in NZ: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/37-shaneel-lal-banning-conversion-therapy-in-nz/id1554815508?i=1000632494766
Alex Layendecker / Sex in space: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/69-dr-alex-layendecker-sex-in-space/id1554815508?i=1000663034331
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Toshi was joined by the wonderful Susan Bratton for today’s episode. Susan is an intimacy expert to millions, who is known as an ‘orgasmanaut’ and is an advocate for all those who desire intimacy and passion their whole life long. She's created a whole bunch of techniques that transform “having sex” into making love, and is the bestselling author and publisher of an incredible 44 books.
In this episode, Toshi and Susan spoke about why sex is a lifelong skill, the different kinds of orgasms the human body can experience, why bedroom communication skills are so important and how to get better at them, Susan’s top tips for having a great sex life, how to figure out your relationship values, and how to use erotic playdates to add variety to your sex life.
Find more of Susan here: https://susanbratton.com/
Find her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/susanbratton
Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro
01:20 – Susan the ‘orgasmanaut’
02:08 – What is an extended orgasm?
04:15 – What is an expanded orgasm?
06:07 – Susan’s experience with orgasms
07:43 – Susan's sex advice for younger people
11:00 – Matriarchal perspectives on sex
12:00 – Understanding pleasure and the female body
12:53 – The three ‘prongs’ to great sex
14:30 – The important thing to do to have a great sex life
16:21 – The sexual soulmate pact
21:03 – Working out what you want in bed
22:55 – How to communicate what you want with a partner
26:45 – Sharing favourite frames after you make love
28:51 – Figuring out your relationship values
32:55 – Using erotic playdates to add variety to your sex life
36:01 – Summary and conclusion
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In this episode, Tim had the opportunity to talk with William Moore, founder of the AdvancedYOU clinic, and developer of PhalloFILL Male Girth Enhancement. They spoke about all things penis girth enhancement, from the reasons people seek this help and treatment, to the processes of the procedure, the effects and benefits, the impacts of pornography on male body image, and the future of biohacking your health.
Learn more about PhalloFILL: https://phallofill.com/
Find more about William here: https://advanced-you.com/
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On today’s episode of the podcast, Toshi had the opportunity to talk with Verity Johnson, also known as Miss Vee. Verity is a newspaper columnist, MC at Men of Steel, New Zealand’s only male strip club, and the owner of Club Burlesque – New Zealand’s first burlesque club.
Together they spoke about:
What burlesque is and what it celebrates Why Verity started Club Burlesque What you can expect if you go to a show The kind of audiences you’ll find at Club Burlesque How burlesque encourages audiences to reconsider societal attitudes towards sex What it teaches us about desire The relationship between burlesque, freedom and sexuality And what you might get out of an experience at a burlesque show.Club Burlesque’s 2024 season runs from July 26 – September 13 in Auckland, New Zealand.
Check out Club Burlesque (and find tickets) here: https://theclubburlesque.com/
Find Club Burlesque on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/clubburlesquenz/?hl=en
Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro
00:33 – What is burlesque?
02:54 – Understanding eros
03:25 – Why Verity started Club Burlesque
04:44 – What you can expect from a night at Club Burlesque
06:31 – Misconceptions about burlesque
07:44 – Redefining how we think about society’s attitudes towards sex
09:05 – What burlesque teaches you about desire
11:38 – On not being afraid of your sexuality
14:10 – Club Burlesque vs Men of Steel
15:04 – Seeing Auckland reclaim its sexy side
17:00 – How can we start to deconstruct shame in society?
18:42 – Where you can find more information about Club Burlesque
18:55 – Give yourself permission to enjoy sex and desire
19:52 – Conclusion
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On this episode of the podcast, Tim and Toshi had the opportunity to talk with Daniel Principe, a passionate youth advocate and educator. He champions boys across Australia to challenge culture and aspire to live courageous, respectful and empathetic lives.
In the podcast Daniel, Tim and Toshi spoke about:
What ideas are being communicated to young boys about masculinity How to navigate peer pressure Why it’s important to choose your friends well What Daniel’s work looks like in practice What young people really think about Andrew Tate Why the sigma meme is so popular with young boys The realities of young people’s porn use How parents and caregivers can support their kids And why soft skills are so importantDaniel is a board member of the DART Institute, an ambassador for the Women’s Resilience Centre and an ambassador for the national campaign Consent Can’t Wait. Having presented to tens of thousands of young people in every Australian state and territory, Daniel is no stranger to the complex challenges that our distracted digital world presents in adolescence.
By partnering with schools and communities, Daniel encourages young people to recognise and resist distorted attitudes towards bodies, relationships and sex. He invites his audiences to instead aspire to healthy relationships built on mutual respect and empathy. Daniel is a regular guest on TV, radio and podcasts to discuss healthy masculinity, consent, respectful relationships and the cultural challenges young people are facing. None of these evolving challenges sway Daniel’s confidence that all young people can flourish if we create spaces for them to be their best selves.
You can check out Daniel here: https://www.danielprincipe.com.au/
Find him on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/lastoftheromans/
Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro
01:01 – Who Daniel is and what he does
05:13 – Championing boys, challenging culture
06:05 – What ideas are being communicated to boys about masculinity?
11:50 – Unpacking where our desires come from
14:32 – Advice for navigating social pressure and why it’s important to choose your friends well
17:15 – Social expectations in sex and relationships
18:22 – Responses of young people to Daniel’s workshops
20:04 – What Daniel’s work looks like in practice
24:33 – Why we need to have empathy for young people navigating online spaces
30:41 – Young people’s thoughts on Andrew Tate
35:52 – Understanding the appeal of the sigma meme
40:05 – The realities of young people’s porn use
48:23 – Why soft skills are so important
51:03 – How parents and caregivers can help
56:44 – Daniel's message for young people
58:32 – Conclusion
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On today’s episode of the podcast, Toshi was thrilled to be able to talk with Dr. Alex Layendecker of the Advanced Spacelife Research Institute (ASRI) about all things sex in space. Together, they spoke about:
Why there was a need for a private research organisation to investigate sex in space When we might expect to see regular people going to space The short and long-term risks of sex in space Has anyone had sex in space? The first married couple in space Why ASRI’s research focuses on more than just the act of sex And how humans might evolve in off-Earth environmentsASRI is a 501c3 non-profit research organisation that is dedicated to the study of human sexuality and reproductive factors as they apply to outer space environments. Dr. Layendecker is the founder and current director of ASRI. He is a 2008 graduate of the United States Air Force Academy and served seven years as a USAF space operations officer for spacecraft launch and recovery, before transferring to the USAF Reserve as an HH-60G helicopter pilot for Combat Search and Rescue. He completed a Master of Public Health (2013) and PhD in Human Sexuality (2016) for the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, where his doctoral research focused on human sexuality and reproduction in off-Earth environments, the history of research in this area, and the research gaps that must be filled in the future in order to make long-term settlement of other worlds a viable possibility.
Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro
01:19 – What is the Advanced Spacelife Research Institute all about?
02:36 – Dr. Layendecker’s background and research
06:23 – Old space vs new space
08:30 – When might regular people have access to space?
11:29 – The race to fill all the research gaps
13:57 – The first symposium for the study of human reproduction and sexual health in space
15:09 – Short and long-term risks about sex in space
17:40 – Why this research is so important
21:45 – Has anyone had sex in space?
31:20 – The animals that have mated in space
32:11 – Why the research focus is not just on the act of sex
34:36 – How will humans evolve in off-Earth environments?
38:01 – Funding research into sex in space
41:30 – The future of space travel
43:28 – Would Dr. Layendecker travel to space?
46:15 – Conclusion
Find more about Dr. Layendecker and the Advanced Spacelife Research Institute here:
ASRI: https://www.asri.space/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/astrosexresearch
Twitter: https://x.com/ASRI4Space
Links mentioned in the podcast:
The International Scientific Symposium for the Study of Human Reproduction & Sexual Health in Space: https://www.space-reproduction.org/
SpaceBorn United: https://www.spacebornunited.com/
The Overview Effect by Frank White: https://www.amazon.com.au/Overview-Effect-Exploration-Evolution-Library/dp/162410262X
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On today’s episode of the podcast, Tim had the opportunity to speak with Dr Evan Goldstein, leading anal health expert in the U.S. Dr Goldstein is the founder and CEO of Bespoke Surgical, a first of its kind health practice specialising in gay men’s sexual health and wellness, and has just published a new book, Butt Seriously: The Definitive Guide to Anal Health, Pleasure, and Everything In-Between.
Together, Tim and Dr. Goldstein spoke about anal health and pleasure, hygiene practices – including why you should avoid using wet wipes and bidets- debunked common assumptions and misconceptions, and more.
Check out Butt Seriously here: https://a.co/d/cRLA0vF
Find Dr. Goldstein here: https://drevangoldstein.com/
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On this episode of the podcast, we were thrilled to be joined by Dr. Ian Kerner, licensed psychotherapist, lecturer, and New York Times bestselling author of books including She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman, and most recently, So Tell Me About The Last Time You Had Sex: Laying Bare and Learning to Repair Our Love Lives.
Together, Ian and Tim spoke about the importance of prioritizing pleasure in sexual relationships, the need for accurate sex ed and the impact that pornography has on sexual attitudes and behaviours. They also discussed the rise of sexual anxiety, the challenges that couples face in maintaining desire and the need for open communication.
Find Dr. Ian here: https://www.iankerner.com/
Find his TED Talk, 'A sex therapist's secret to rediscovering your spark' here: https://www.ted.com/talks/ian_kerner_a_sex_therapist_s_secret_to_rediscovering_your_spark?utm_campaign=tedspread&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=tedcomshare
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On today’s episode of the podcast, we were privileged to be joined by Madam Bella Cummins, the owner and operator of Bella’s Hacienda Ranch, in Wells, Nevada. Bella’s Hacienda Ranch is the only legal brothel run entirely by sex workers, and it attracts customers from all over the US and beyond.
At 74 years old, Cummins is the longest serving living female legal brothel owner in the US. In 1987, she acquired the struggling Hacienda Ranch Brothel and transformed it into the famed "Bella's Hacienda." Leveraging her understanding of business and financial expertise, Cummins successfully turned the establishment into one of the most prosperous adult entertainment destinations in the state.
During the COVID pandemic, when the legal brothels were shuttered by Nevada’s governor, Cummins creatively obtained an escort license for her business, allowing sex workers to sustain their income by providing non-sexual companionship services.
In an era when sex workers were often disparaged and marginalized, Cummins pioneered a revolutionary approach within the industry. As the only legal brothel entirely run by sex workers, Bella’s Hacienda eliminated exploitative elements, creating a female-led workplace culture centred around trust and teamwork. This environment allowed sex workers to find camaraderie, support, and personal growth, challenging stereotypes and fostering a more positive image of women in the adult entertainment sector.
Check out Bella's Hacienda Ranch here: https://bellas.us/
Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro
02:06 – Bella's background
03:49 – Bella's experience of sex ed
05:23 – How Bella was introduced to brothels
09:00 – Bella's vision and mission
11:10 – Where Bella’s attitude came from
13:40 – Thoughts on Madams in other houses
14:26 – Lessons learned in life
16:14 – The difference between sensuality and sex
17:20 – Why Bella’s offers adult male virgins a discount
24:29 – Advice to young women wanting to get into the industry
27:06 – Bella’s relationship advice
30:26 – Bella's plans for the future
32:48 – Why there is a need for brothels
34:30 – Bella's message to listeners
36:04 – Conclusion
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On today’s episode of the podcast, Toshi was able to sit down with Shaun Hill, the ReWired Project Lead, from the New Zealand Drug Foundation. ReWired is a non-judgemental support group for people who want to bring their party’n’play into focus.
Together, Shaun and Toshi had a conversation about chemsex, the ReWired project, sex, drug use and consent, communication and pleasure.
Check out ReWired here: https://www.rewired.org.nz/
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TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 – Intro
01:38 – How Shaun's perceptions around drug use changed over time
05:58 – What does chemsex and party’n’play mean?
07:53 – What is the ReWired project all about?
09:50 – How ReWired has changed over time
11:31 – The value of hearing people’s journeys
13:28 – Reflecting on the Four F's: friends, family, fucks and finances
16:16 – Sex should be about fun and pleasure
17:42 – Challenges working at ReWired
20:09 – How to navigate consent when drug use is involved
23:49 – How to navigate consent in spaces where it’s given non-verbally
28:43 – One thing Shaun wishes more people knew about consent
31:50 – Where to find more info about ReWired
32:36 – Conclusion
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Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.
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