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Envision this: Anaheim, the land of Mickey Mouse, transformed into a buzzing hive of ADHD discourse. Pete and Nikki, our intrepid podcasting duo, are on the ground, soaking up the wisdom at the 2024 International Conference on ADHD. But before they regale us with cutting-edge insights, they've unearthed a time capsule – a 2017 episode recorded post-Nikki's return from the Atlanta conference.
Now, you might think, "2017? Ancient history!" But hold on. This isn't just nostalgia. It's an archaeological dig into the evolving understanding of ADHD. Remember, intellectual progress isn't a smooth upward trajectory. It's a messy, fascinating jumble of breakthroughs and backtracks.
So, join Pete and Nikki as they rewind the clock. Nikki, fresh off her Atlanta adventure, unpacks her five key takeaways. But here's the thing: this isn't just about revisiting the past. It's about understanding how far we've come. How have our perspectives shifted? What assumptions have we shed? What new questions are we grappling with?
This episode is a double-layered exploration. It's a glimpse into the ADHD landscape of 2017 and a primer for the insights to come from the 2024 conference. It's a reminder that the conversation around ADHD is ongoing, ever-evolving, and always ripe with potential for unexpected discoveries. So, buckle up for a journey through time, a conversation about language, and a deep dive into the ever-fascinating world of ADHD.
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WriteMonkeyMarkdownUlyssesNaNoWriMoInternational Conference on ADHD(00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast(02:46) - An Episode Out of Time... to 2017!
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The holidays: a time of joy, connection, and… overwhelming and paralyzing stress? For many, especially those with ADHD, the rapid approach of holidays can trigger a last-minute scramble. On this episode of "Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast," Nikki Kinzer and Pete Wright offer a proactive approach to holiday planning, transforming the season from a source of anxiety into a period of manageable excitement.
Forget the stress spirals! Nikki and Pete kick things off with a simple but powerful tool: your calendar. Dust it off, check those dates, and make sure everything's up to date. Then, unleash your inner brainstormer! Grab a pen and paper (or your favorite digital tool) and let those holiday to-dos flow. Mind maps, master lists – whatever helps you wrangle those thoughts onto something other than the inside of your head. Important note: This isn't your actual to-do list, just a brain dump. We'll get to the action items later.
Next up? Taming the to-do beast by sorting it into categories. Think "Gifts," "Decorations," "That epic holiday party I'm totally going to crush." Once you've got your categories, it's time to plug them into your trusty task management system. The goal? A clear view of what needs doing, so nothing gets lost in the pre-holiday shuffle.
Now for the nitty-gritty: prioritizing. Nikki and Pete guide you through assessing deadlines, impact, and (let's be real) how much time you actually have. They also dive into the brilliant concept of "Priority Dilution" from Rory Vaden's book, Procrastinate on Purpose. It's like that moment when you keep adding water to your favorite drink and it becomes… well, less awesome. Learn how to avoid the Urgency Illusion, the Reactivity Trap, and other productivity pitfalls, and discover the power of a well-placed "no."
Feeling overwhelmed? Nikki and Pete have you covered. They recommend creating a separate daily list, picking just one or two tasks from your master list. It's all about small wins and avoiding that "where do I even start?" paralysis.
Finally, they share strategies for getting ahead of the game. Delegation? Yes, please! Accountability partners? Game-changer. Body doubling sessions? Pure magic. Regular check-ins with your task list? Essential. And remember, all progress is good progress. Pace yourself, schedule reasonable time blocks, and get ready to enjoy a smoother, more joyful holiday season.
Support the Show on PatreonDig into the podcast Shownotes Database(00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast(02:40) - Support the show, Find the show, Discord the show(04:54) - Long-Term Planning with ADHD: Holiday Edition(17:22) - Priority Dilution
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This week, Pete and Nikki sit down with Dr. Michael Felt to learn more about Delayed Sensory Affect (DSA). Ever find yourself so immersed in hyperfocus that basic needs fall by the wayside, only to erupt into chaos later? This could be a hidden ADHD struggle you've been facing.
We know our brains can be overwhelmed by constant stimuli and misinterpret sensory cues. This can lead to dramatic emotional responses. Through the amusing "I have to make" model, he illustrates how this affects both children and adults, becoming a silent disruptor in our daily lives.
The discussion turns raw as Pete opens up about the emotional toll of transitioning from work to home, highlighting a common yet unspoken burden for many ADHD adults. Nikki challenges listeners to recognize these patterns and take actionable steps to soften transitions with intention.
Dr. Felt is an ADHD & Executive Functioning specialist who has lectured at Yale University School of Medicine, and is a professor at Columbia University, where he teaches Psychopathology. He’s also, once again, a new dad. Congrats, Michael, from all of us, to all of you.
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Patreon for The ADHD PodcastDiscord CommunityDr. Michael Felt’s WebsiteDig into the podcast Shownotes Database(00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast(03:34) - Introducing Dr. Michael Felt(04:28) - What is DSA?(31:32) - A Toast to our ADHD
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Join Pete and Nikki as they welcome ADHD influencer and educator, Matt Raekelboom, back to the show! Matt's known for his videos on ADHD behaviors and neuroscience-backed tips, and today he's diving deep into the unregulated ADHD brain.
Ever feel like your brain's a runaway train? Matt breaks down what that experience really feels like and how it impacts everything from emotional regulation to executive function. He shares his personal journey, highlighting the profound difference between an unregulated and regulated brain and how simple lifestyle changes can lead to extraordinary results.
No, it's not about becoming an Olympian (unless you want to!), it's about finding the power to "do the thing," no matter how small. Matt, Pete, and Nikki explore the hidden costs of an unregulated brain, the myths surrounding self-care, and the importance of understanding the "why" behind healthy habits. Get ready for a dose of real talk, actionable advice, and a whole lotta hope!
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Instagram: @mattraekelboomFacebook: @mattraekelboomadhdYoutube: @journey2adhdTikTok: @mattraekelboom(00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast(02:55) - Matt Raekelboom is Back!(04:28) - The Unregulated ADHD Brain(20:54) - The Power of Why(32:28) - Transitioning to the Regulated Brain(36:47) - Learn More(41:29) - A Toast
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It's Time to Live Unapologetically — The Book is Available Now!
Our new book, Unapologetically ADHD: A Step-by-Step Framework for Everyday Planning on Your Terms, is out and available now! You can find the hardcover or ebook version via Amazon, Barnes and Noble, Kobo, and Apple Books. Visit https://takecontroladhd.com/adhdbook for direct links to your favorite bookstore online, or visit your neighborhood bookstore and ask for it by name! -
This week on Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast, we welcome back the insightful Kourosh Dini, MD, for a deeper dive into the surprisingly simple yet profoundly effective concept of "the visit." Since his last appearance, we've been hearing incredible stories from our listeners about how this technique has transformed their relationship with tasks, and we're thrilled to have him back to share more. “The visit" isn't about powering through a to-do list; it's about gently engaging with a task, even just for a single deep breath, and building trust in our future selves. He breaks down the two essential elements: showing up (fully present with the task) and staying (lingering for just a moment), emphasizing that this seemingly small act can spark unexpected breakthroughs.
We all know the struggle of force-based work – the urgency, the shame, the last-minute scramble fueled by a desperate need for a dopamine hit. Dr. Dini offers a refreshing alternative with the visit, suggesting that it opens us up to a wider range of emotions and allows us to tap into our innate playfulness. This shift, he explains, can transform work from a dreaded chore into a more sustainable and even enjoyable experience. He also addresses the common worry of "over-visiting" a task, assuring us that repeated visits can actually deepen our understanding and pave the way for real progress.
Ever feel like you're staring blankly at your task list, overwhelmed by the sheer number of things you need to do? Dr. Dini gets it. He explains how visits can combat that dreaded task blindness and help us regain momentum. By regularly checking in with a task, even briefly, we maintain a connection and avoid the sense of being lost or overwhelmed. He shares a relatable analogy from his experience as a musician, highlighting how stepping away from a challenging composition can often lead to unexpected insights upon returning.
Finally, Dr. Dini reminds us that real progress isn't always measurable. In a world obsessed with quantifiable results, he encourages us to value the internal shifts that happen during and between visits. These unmeasurable moments of insight, he argues, are the true building blocks of meaningful work. Join us as we explore the power of the visit, not as a quick fix but as a pathway to a more fulfilling and sustainable way of working.
Visit Dr. Kourosh DiniDig into the podcast Shownotes Database(00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast(03:43) - Introducing Kourosh Dini, MD(06:38) - Finding The Visit(14:25) - Forced-Based Work Methods(19:15) - Visiting Thoughtfully(28:18) - Fires-Based Work Methods
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This week on The ADHD Podcast, hosts Nikki Kinzer and Pete Wright wrangle the comedic duo, Penn and Kim Holderness, authors of the New York Times bestselling book, ADHD is Awesome. Known for their viral videos (and possibly for single-handedly introducing COVID to the US, but we'll let Kim explain that one), the Holdernesses bring their signature blend of humor and honesty to a conversation about ADHD, vulnerability, and the art of the perfectly timed split jump.
Kim, the self-proclaimed anxiety and OCD whisperer to Penn's whirlwind of ADHD energy, shares her side of the story, revealing the secrets to thriving in a relationship where lost car keys and forgotten stoves are just part of the daily soundtrack.
Penn takes us on a trip down memory lane, from his shirt-chewing, interruption-filled childhood to the college years where academic probation became an unwelcome roommate. He shares how ADHD has shaped their careers, from the fast-paced world of local news to the creative explosion of online content creation. And yes, he finally explains the genius behind the cauliflower rice video – prepare for a philosophical debate that will divide your family for generations.
Join Pete and Nikki for a laugh-out-loud, yet touching conversation with Penn and Kim. This episode is packed with relatable anecdotes, practical tips, and a healthy reminder that even in the midst of chaos, there's always room for connection, understanding, and maybe even a well-placed split jump.
Find links to all their goodies at TheHoldernessFamily.comPick up ADHD is AwesomePick up Unapologetically ADHDDig into the podcast Shownotes Database(00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast(02:11) - Become a Patron! patreon.com/theadhdpodcast(02:37) - Introducing Penn & Kim Holderness(12:37) - ADHD Adaptation Between Partners(20:09) - The Beach Story(31:33) - The Baggage of ADHD(37:07) - Tackling the Title(45:13) - The Creative Process(53:49) - Collaboration(01:02:35) - What's Next?
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This week on the show, we welcome back 10-time guest James Ochoa, author of Focused Forward, to discuss customizing strategies for managing ADHD.
Ochoa emphasizes the importance of recognizing that strategies for managing ADHD are not one-size-fits-all. He encourages listeners to tune into their internal radar to identify strategies that resonate with them personally.
The conversation explores the concept of "resourcing ADHD," which Ochoa defines as utilizing a broad spectrum of support mechanisms, from medication to customized sleep routines, to manage the challenges of ADHD. He highlights the significance of recognizing and addressing what he coined as Emotional Distress Syndrome (EDS), a pattern of mental and emotional disruptions that often accompanies ADHD. Ochoa compares EDS to experiencing micro-traumas that can leave individuals feeling constantly off-kilter.
The conversation turns toward the impact of these strategies on neuroplasticity, emphasizing the brain's ability to rewire itself through consistent practice. They highlight the importance of self-compassion and mindfulness in calming the nervous system and creating a sense of inner resourcefulness. Ochoa suggests that as individuals begin implementing these strategies, they may experience glimpses of a more positive self-image, gradually building a reservoir of resilience and self-acceptance.
Visit JamesOchoa.comDig into the podcast Shownotes Database(00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast(02:44) - Did you know you can review Unapologetically ADHD? You CAN! ;-)(04:11) - James Ochoa is Back!(05:50) - Customizing Strategies for ADHD(17:06) - Resourcing ADHD(21:17) - Neuroplasticity(30:15) - Trends in Practice(39:03) - Self-Image(45:31) - Learn More and Connect with James
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Imagine the relief of a warm, understanding hand reaching out just when your carefully constructed plans start to crumble under the weight of ADHD. That's the feeling Nikki and Pete aim to instill as they wrap up their series on their new book, "Unapologetically ADHD: A Step-by-Step Framework for Everyday Planning on Your Terms." This week, they tackle the often-dreaded concept of "planning for the future," acknowledging the unique hurdles it presents for those with ADHD.
Forget rigid schedules and unforgiving to-do lists. Nikki and Pete encourage listeners to reimagine their planning systems as a circle of supportive friends, always ready to welcome them back, no matter how long it's been. They offer gentle guidance on recognizing the subtle signs of a system in need of repair – the overflowing inbox, the forgotten calendar, the siren song of the sticky note. But more importantly, they delve into the heart of the matter: the emotional turmoil that often accompanies these struggles. They urge listeners to face those feelings of fear, uncertainty, and shame with compassion, recognizing them as a natural part of the journey.
Pete shares a passage from the book, validating the immense effort it takes to maintain those carefully crafted systems, reminding listeners that "it is not easy. It's never been easy. The dirty truth is that it never will be easy." He celebrates the quiet courage it takes to keep trying, to embrace imperfection, and to find joy in the face of constant challenges.
The episode leaves listeners with a message of hope and self-acceptance. Nikki and Pete remind us that true success lies not in flawlessly executing our plans, but in finding the strength to get back up, dust ourselves off, and embrace the beautiful, messy reality of living "Unapologetically ADHD."
Unapologetically ADHD: A Step-by-Step Framework For Everyday Planning On Your TermsDig into the podcast Shownotes Database(00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast(02:59) - Planning(07:58) - Warning Signs that your System is Weakening(10:38) - Emotions(13:16) - A Jeremy Bearimy Refresher(19:30) - The Three Definitions of Impossible(21:32) - This is ADHD
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Today on Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast, hosts Nikki Kinzer and Pete Wright delve into the nitty-gritty of building an effective "planning workflow" as they continue the trip through their new book, Unapologetically ADHD. They acknowledge the aversion many with ADHD feel towards rigid routines and advocate for a more flexible, forgiving approach. Instead of aiming for minute-by-minute scheduling, they emphasize the importance of creating a system that adapts to the ever-changing currents of life with ADHD.
Nikki and Pete guide listeners through the key elements of their workflow, starting with diligently capturing new information from various "inboxes" like emails, text messages, and even those stray thoughts jotted down on scraps of paper. They stress the importance of regularly transferring this information into a centralized "workbox," utilizing tools like calendars and task managers to maintain order and prioritize tasks.
The duo emphasizes the need for resilience and flexibility within the workflow, acknowledging that consistency isn't always easy. They recommend scheduling regular "weekly focus" sessions, ideally twice a week, to review, adjust, and plan for the days ahead. Thursday, they suggest, is the sweet spot for this review, offering ample time to adjust for the remaining workday and plan for the weekend.
Finally, Nikki and Pete tackle the often-contentious topic of time blocking. They debunk common myths surrounding this technique, assuring listeners that it doesn't require rigid adherence to unrealistic schedules or perfect time estimations. Instead, they advocate for a more forgiving approach, incorporating buffer time for distractions and transitions while emphasizing the importance of simply dedicating blocks of time to specific tasks.
Unapologetically ADHD: A Step-by-Step Framework For Everyday Planning On Your TermsDig into the podcast Shownotes Database(00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast(02:38) - The Workbox Recap(03:32) - Workflows(16:00) - Time Blocking and Hyper-Scheduling
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Join Pete and Nikki this week as they dive into the world of planning tools, focusing on the concepts of "inboxing" and "workboxing” from their new book, Unapologetically ADHD. They explore the challenges of managing the constant influx of information and tasks that come with ADHD, emphasizing the importance of a systematic approach.
Nikki and Pete discuss the common struggle of finding the "perfect" tool, acknowledging the allure of shiny new apps and planners. They encourage listeners to shift their focus from finding a magical solution to developing a personalized system that works for them. This involves viewing tools as part of a cohesive whole rather than isolated entities.
The conversation takes a turn as they explore the role of impulsivity in planning. They introduce the concept of strategically introducing "friction" to combat impulsive decision-making, particularly when it comes to adopting new tools or systems. This involves setting up personal commitments and boundaries to prevent ADHD tax-inducing purchases.
Tune in to discover practical strategies for managing inboxes, optimizing work time, and navigating the world of planning with ADHD. Pete and Nikki offer valuable insights and actionable advice to help listeners find a system that brings calm and control to busy lives.
Available Now: Unapologetically ADHD by Nikki Kinzer and Pete WrightDig into the podcast Shownotes Database(00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast(02:30) - The Workbox(06:56) - Inboxing(11:18) - Key Principles of Inboxing(13:19) - Workboxing(23:50) - Managing Impulsivity(29:02) - Breaking Down Myths
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Time and ADHD, they’re just not great bedfellows Just as soon as time’s wind is at your back and you feel like the world is opening up to you, it can turn and make hours feel like days. We’re talking about the messy and inconsistent nature of time as we continue our exploration of our new book, Unapologetically ADHD (which you can order right here!)
Pete introduces the idea of time as an antagonist for individuals with ADHD, comparing it to a complex villain with a rich backstory. But it’s still a villain. And you know who does villains well? The Good Place, that’s who.
We emphasize the importance of recognizing and accommodating the fluid nature of time for individuals with ADHD, urging you to embrace strategies that align with your unique experiences. We highlight the significance of self-compassion and understanding in navigating the challenges of "ADHD time," encouraging you to find humor and acceptance in your relationship with time.
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The Good Place (TV show)Jeremy Bearimy (Know Your Meme)Dig into the podcast Shownotes Database(00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast(02:36) - Get Unaplogetically ADHD! https://takecontroladhd.com/adhdbook(04:25) - The ADHD Time Zone
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It's Time to Live Unapologetically — The Book is Available Now!
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In this episode of The ADHD Podcast, hosts Nikki and Pete dive into the complexities of planning with ADHD, launching their series based on their new book, Unapologetically ADHD: A Step-By-Step Framework For Everyday Planning On Your Terms. They explore the unique challenges ADHD presents in organizing daily life, focusing on executive functions such as organization, prioritization, and time management. These cognitive skills are crucial for planning but often become hurdles for those with ADHD, leading to high expectations, disappointment, and shame spirals.
Nikki and Pete discuss how traditional planning methods fall short for those with ADHD, emphasizing the importance of adapting strategies to fit individual needs. They highlight the need for trusted systems, like a reliable calendar or task manager, to keep tasks and projects organized. The hosts share insights into the ADHD mind's struggle with prioritization, where everything feels urgent, and time management, where perceptions of time are skewed. By understanding these challenges, listeners can begin to develop more realistic and supportive planning habits.
The episode also touches on the concept of radical acceptance, encouraging listeners to embrace their ADHD and plan their days accordingly. Nikki and Pete advocate for self-compassion and flexibility, allowing planning to guide rather than constrain. Their mission is to help listeners understand and support their ADHD, creating a resilient approach to daily life that accommodates the unpredictable nature of the condition.
Get the book at your store of choice right hereDig into the podcast Shownotes Database(00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast(03:23) - Unapologetically ADHD is Here!
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This week on the show we tackle the challenges of overwhelm and over-commitment!
There are a bunch of factors that contribute to feeling overwhelmed that are exacerbated by our ADHD. We take on too many responsibilities. We have a difficulty saying no. We suffer the constant pressure to keep up with demands. We discuss the negative impact of over-commitment on mental health, relationships, and overall well-being, emphasizing the importance of setting boundaries and prioritizing self-care.
Throughout the conversation, we’ve got some practical strategies for managing overwhelm and preventing over-commitment. We share tips on how to assess your current commitments, clarify your priorities, and learn to say no when necessary. We also explore the benefits of delegating tasks, breaking projects into smaller, manageable steps, and creating realistic schedules that allow for flexibility and downtime.
It's okay to admit when you've taken on too much and that seeking support is a sign of strength. We encourage you to be kind to yourself, celebrate your accomplishments, and embrace the power of intentional decision-making.
Dig into the podcast Shownotes Database(00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast(02:19) - Support the Show! Become a Patron at patreon.com/theadhdpodcast(04:07) - Overwhelm & Overcommitment(21:06) - Boundaries and the Spirit of Optimism
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This week on the show, Nikki and Pete dive into the unique challenges of navigating the emotional rollercoaster of ADHD with guest Brooke Schnittman. Brooke, an ADHD coach with a background in education, is expert in the concepts of overwhelm and underwhelm, two extremes that often go hand-in-hand for those with ADHD. She explains that underwhelm, or boredom, can result from burnout after periods of overwhelm or a lack of interest and connection to a task. She emphasizes the importance of understanding the "why" behind tasks and breaking them down into small, manageable steps to build momentum and motivation.
Pete and Brooke also discuss the role of executive function deficits in preventing individuals with ADHD from recognizing and addressing their basic needs, such as hydration, sleep, and self-care. Brooke highlights Dr. Thomas Brown's six executive function clusters and how deficits in these areas can contribute to both overwhelm and underwhelm.
Throughout the episode, Brooke offers insights and strategies for managing these emotional extremes, such as preparing for potential setbacks, attaching oneself to small actions to regain momentum, and practicing self-compassion. The hosts and guest explore the overlapping triggers for both overwhelm and underwhelm, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness and developing coping mechanisms to navigate the challenges of ADHD.
Dr. Thomas Brown's model of the six executive function clustersActivate Your ADHD Potential by Brooke SchnittmanDig into the podcast Shownotes Database(00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast(01:48) - Support the Show • Become a Member!(02:56) - Introducing Brooke Schnittman(05:48) - Underwhelm(17:40) - The Executive Function Deficit and Maslow(38:34) - Activate Your ADHD Potential
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It's Time to Live Unapologetically — The Book is Available Now!
Our new book, Unapologetically ADHD: A Step-by-Step Framework for Everyday Planning on Your Terms, is out and available now! You can find the hardcover or ebook version via Amazon, Barnes and Noble, Kobo, and Apple Books. Visit https://takecontroladhd.com/adhdbook for direct links to your favorite bookstore online, or visit your neighborhood bookstore and ask for it by name! -
In this episode of Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast, Nikki Kinzer and Pete Wright discuss changing your mind and the challenges it presents for those with ADHD. Nikki shares a personal experience from her recent declutter challenge, during which she felt the urge to switch gears and focus on a different project—organizing and hanging photo frames. This shift in focus prompted a discussion about the difficulties of changing course and the feelings of failure that often accompany such decisions for individuals with ADHD.
Nikki and Pete explore the concept of black-and-white thinking, also known as all-or-nothing or absolute thinking, and how it can lead to self-judgment and self-loathing when faced with the opportunity to change one's mind. They discuss various cognitive distortions, such as overgeneralization, mental filters, and emotional reasoning, which can contribute to these negative thought patterns.
They discuss the sunk cost fallacy, the tendency to continue doing something because of the time and effort invested, even if it's no longer beneficial. Nikki shares a relatable example involving an unfinished 2,000-piece puzzle and an upcoming furniture delivery, highlighting the importance of self-compassion and reframing the concept of "finishing" in a more ADHD-friendly way.
Throughout the episode, Nikki and Pete emphasize the significance of self-awareness, flexibility, and healthy self-talk when navigating the challenges of changing one's mind. If you’re stuck, it might be time to redefine goals, be kind, and understand that it's okay to adjust course when necessary.
Order “Unapologetically ADHD” by Nikki Kinzer and Pete WrightDig into the podcast Shownotes Database(00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast(02:38) - Support the Show: Become a Patron!(03:54) - It's OK to Change Your Mind
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Grab your virtual feather duster and join us as we embark on a quest to vanquish digital disorder in the season premiere of Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast. That’s right… we’re tackling the ever-growing challenge of managing the countless files, documents, and browser tabs that threaten to overwhelm our devices and our minds.
Digital clutter can be a sneaky foe. Consider the statistic from Microsoft: 57% of US office workers struggle to quickly locate files and documents. And while we’re at it, let’s ponder the perplexing difference between how we organize physical papers versus digital files.
But fear not, dear listener! We are here to save the day with a treasure trove of practical tips and strategies for taming digital disorder. We’ll guide you through the art of creating logical folder hierarchies, establishing consistent file naming conventions, and using browser features like pinned tabs and tab groups.
The episode concludes with a tantalizing tease about a mystery tool we believe could be a digital game-changer for many listeners. Curious? You'll have to tune in to find out more!
Use Pinned Tabs in ChromeOne TabDig into the podcast Shownotes Database(00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast(04:09) - Support the Show: Become a Member!(05:36) - Ari Tuckman's Productivity Mastery Course(06:42) - Digital Clutter(19:30) - Tabs(21:38) - Tab Management Built In to your Browser(24:14) - OneTab -> This is that one thing...(29:13) - Strategies for Clean-up(30:31) - DevonTHINK & Zoot(31:47) - Hazel & File Juggler
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We've reached the end of our 28th season of Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast, and the final part of our 3-part series on organizing and ADHD. In this episode, we discuss the important but often challenging topic of maintaining organization.
As Nikki points out, staying perfectly organized is unrealistic if you actually live in and use your space. Things will inevitably get messier over time. However, she emphasizes that re-organizing a space gets easier each time you do it, because you've already made key decisions about what to keep and where things belong. The frustration of seeing a space get cluttered again is normal, but it's important to reframe negative self-talk that makes you want to just give up on organizing altogether.
We discuss some red flags that indicate when it's time to dedicate a block of time to tidying up a space again - like when you can no longer find important items, have to re-purchase things you already own, or flat surfaces become covered in clutter.
I reflect on the importance of evaluating and revising the "rules" and behaviors around your spaces when you organize. For the system to work long-term, everyone in the household needs a shared understanding of where things belong. We commiserate over the apparently-universal experience of using stairs as a dumping ground for items that need to go to other levels.
Finally, we go over some general guidelines for keeping spaces maintained:
Doing a quick 10-minute tidy-up whenever you canPurging unused items on a semi-regular basis, like every seasonHaving dedicated spots for items you frequently set down, like a bowl for your wallet and keysConsidering storage space before making new purchases
(00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast(03:38) - The Road So Far... (05:25) - The Secret to Staying Organized
While we may not always follow our own great advice, reflecting on these principles can help you feel more in control of your space and your stuff. Here's to progress, not perfection, as we continue to navigate life with ADHD.
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This week on the show we dive into the key principles for getting and staying organized when you have ADHD, following up on our conversation last week about decluttering spaces.
We really want to drive home that organization is more about function than perfection. The whole point is being able to find what you need when you need it. We advise against buying organizing products without a clear purpose, because let's face it, they can just become more clutter.
Making things easy to access and see is super important. We recommend using shelves, racks, and step stools to make the most of your vertical space. Try not to overstuff your bins, so they stay easy to pull out. Creative solutions like hooks and open bins can work wonders for those of us with ADHD.
Remember, organizing is an ongoing process. Start small, focus on function over form, and create systems that work with your natural habits and tendencies – that's how you make them stick. As we like to say, for everything, there is a place … and for every place, there is a purpose.
(00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast(02:43) - Organizing Principles
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This week on the show, we tackle the daunting task of decluttering for those with ADHD. With our upcoming Declutter Challenge in July, we invite you to join a supportive community and gamify your decluttering process alongside us.
As we dive into the episode, we share the importance of starting small and focusing on one space at a time to avoid feeling overwhelmed. We guide you through our four-step process of organizing any space: planning, sorting, organizing, and maintaining. We help you choose a space that would have the biggest impact on your daily life and offer practical tips on how to sort through your belongings efficiently.
We also explore the emotional aspects of decluttering, recognizing when it's time to take a break and how to deal with feelings of guilt or obligation when letting go of items. We provide a list of questions for you to ask yourself during the sorting process to help you make those tough decisions.
Remember: perfection is not the goal and that progress should be celebrated!
If you're struggling with ADHD and the challenges of decluttering, this episode of Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast offers valuable insights and practical strategies to make the process more manageable and rewarding. Join us as we explore the upcoming Declutter Challenge and learn how to take the first steps towards a more organized life together.
The 2024 ADHD De-Clutter Challenge! — Take Control ADHDConquering Chronic Disorganization by Judith KolbergThe Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing by Marie KondoUnapologetically ADHD: A Step-by-Step Framework For Everyday Planning On Your Terms by Nikki Kinzer and Pete WrightDig into the podcast Shownotes Database(00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast(03:25) - Support This Podcast: Become a Patron at https://patreon.com/theadhdpodcast(05:09) - The 2024 Declutter Challenge(10:09) - The Steps of Organizing
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