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In this powerful episode of "That's Where I'm At," host Laura sits down with J Lumen, a certified Life Transformation and Empowerment Coach who knows firsthand what it means to feel completely trapped in life. J's story takes a shocking turn when what started as feeling stuck in the wrong relationship and wrong job escalated to a terrifying night that ended with her ex-boyfriend's arrest for attempted murder—her attempted murder. This life-altering experience became the catalyst for J to stop tolerating her life and start truly living it. Through her "Unknown Bucket List Approach," J teaches others how to make "micro shifts" that lead to major life transformations. This conversation dives deep into overcoming the fear of judgment, recognizing the power of "mini moments," building what J calls a "force field of resilience," and learning to live without regret. J shares practical strategies for those feeling trapped by circumstances, guilt, or doubt, showing how to break free from the cycle of tolerance and step into a life worth celebrating.
J Lumen is a certified Life Transformation and Empowerment Coach who understands intimately what it means to feel trapped in the wrong life. After years of being stuck in an unfulfilling relationship where she knew she'd say no if proposed to, and a job she hated but felt financially obligated to keep, J made the difficult decision to pay for her boyfriend to move over 1000 miles away to live with his family. Two months later, he returned unexpectedly, and the night ended with his arrest for attempted murder—her attempted murder. This traumatic wake-up call became the turning point that transformed J from someone who was merely surviving to someone truly thriving. She created "The Unknown Bucket List Approach," a methodology focused on making "micro shifts" and collecting "mini moments" to create meaningful life changes. J is passionate about helping others stop tolerating their lives and start living without regret, teaching that you don't have to wait for major life upheavals to begin creating the life you want. Her philosophy centers on the belief that "if you're not dead, you're not done" and that everyone deserves to live a life they don't regret.
Key Topics Discussed: From Trapped to Taking Action: Feeling stuck in the wrong relationship and wrong job, and the difficult decision to change her circumstances The Attempted Murder Wake-Up Call: How surviving a life-threatening situation became the catalyst for complete life transformation The Unknown Bucket List Approach: J's methodology for identifying overlooked achievements and leveraging them for future growth Micro Shifts vs. Major Overhauls: Why small, intentional changes are more sustainable and effective than waiting for big life events Mini Moments That Matter: Learning to recognize and celebrate small achievements that build momentum for larger goals Overcoming Fear of Judgment: Strategies for dealing with criticism from family, friends, and colleagues when making life changes Building a Force Field of Resilience: Creating strong boundaries that protect your energy and maintain your progress The Tolerance Trap: How society teaches us to "suck it up" and why this mindset keeps us stuck in unfulfilling lives Living Without Regret: The philosophy of making decisions based on what you'll regret least, not what others expect Collecting Your Past Wins: How to look back at your life and recognize achievements you've been dismissing as insignificant The Balance of Time: Living like life is both short and long—urgent enough to take action, patient enough to build sustainably Redefining Success: Moving from external validation to internal satisfaction and authentic self-expression Supporting Others vs. Self-Care: How to maintain relationships while prioritizing your own growth and boundaries Powerful Quotes from the Episode"Life happens. And it's good or bad. It's unexpected, random, unplanned... And then we have to react. And that's what shift happens."
"We don't have to wait for that shift to happen before we start living the life that we don't regret."
"If you're not dead, you're not done."
"It's just about living a life that you don't regret because it is yours. So you should live the one you want without fear or influence."
"If you are wanting to do this and also this, then you decide which one you're going to regret the least. And you do that."
"You can look back at your life and you can start seeing all the things that you've done and that you've experienced and you can basically uncover the bucket list of your life that you've been living."
"Most people would not even give themselves enough credit... But those are the little mini moments that I'm talking about."
"Once your way of thinking has been shifted, you'll never go back."
"We're taught as adults that we have to suck it up and tolerate so many things... No, so who? That's a story."
"Live like life is short and live like life is long. And it's about finding the balance in between."
ResourcesHost Laura's Resources:
YOU'RE NOT CRAZY, RECLAIMING YOUR SANITY AND SELF-WORTH AFTER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE ebook: GET IT HERE MARRIED TO A "NICE" GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HERE COACH WITH LAURA: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/coachwithlaura PRIVATE FACEBOOK SUPPORT GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/marriedtoaniceguy/J Lumen's Resources:
Website: The Unknown Bucket List - stop waiting and start living Free Life Assessment: https://resumeyourlife.com/ LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/jlumen8 Instagram: @theunknownbucketlist Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theunknownbucketlist/ TikTok: @theunknownbucketlist Connect with the Show Follow the Podcast: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com Host: Laura, podcast host and author focused on healing from narcissistic abuse Mission: Sharing stories with women in the middle of the mess, showing up bravely as they heal Community: Creating space for women to learn, grow, and heal together through shared experiencesLoved this episode? J's story proves that our worst moments can become the catalyst for our greatest transformations. Her journey from feeling trapped and tolerating life to creating a methodology that helps others thrive shows that "shift happens"—and we don't have to wait for tragedy to start living the life we deserve. Sometimes the most powerful changes begin with the smallest shifts, and every mini moment matters in building the life you won't regret.
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Welcome back to That’s Where I’m At! In the last two episodes, we talked about healing after narcissistic abuse, rebuilding trust in yourself, and setting boundaries. Today, we’re going even deeper as we focus on reclaiming your identity, learning to dream again, and moving from surviving to truly thriving. If you’ve been feeling stuck, wondering who you are now, or questioning if you even deserve a joyful future, this episode is for you.
Laura breaks down three essential healing truths:
💥 You are not meant to go back to who you were before the abuse—you are meant to move forward and make the best parts of yourself even stronger.
💥 It's never too late to dream again—your past doesn’t define your future, and your dreams are still possible.
💥 Thriving doesn’t mean being happy all the time; it’s about feeling free and having the ability to navigate life with resilience and self-trust.What You’ll Learn:
✨ How to reconnect with the person you are today and start rebuilding your identity
✨ Why it’s never too late to dream, and how to start dreaming again
✨ The difference between surviving and thriving, and how to take the next step toward a life that excites youResources & Support:
💫 Ready to take your healing journey deeper? Join Laura’s Midlife Reset Masterclass—a 10-week program focused on rebuilding your self-worth, setting boundaries, rediscovering your dreams, and creating a fulfilling life.
👉 Midlife Reset Masterclass💜 Need support on your healing journey? Book your No More Sleepless Nights discovery call.
👉 Free Discovery CallLet’s Connect:
📸 Instagram: @thatswhereimatpodcast
🌐 Website: ThatsWhereImAtPodcast.com
📚 Read Laura’s bestselling book: Married to a "Nice" Guy
👉 Book StoreIf this episode resonated with you...
Please rate, review, and share! Every listen helps another woman feel less alone on her journey. 💜Produced and edited by Resilient Voice Media. Visit us at www.resilientvoicemedia.com.
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In this inspiring episode of "That's Where I'm At" podcast, host Laura welcomes Lori Daneke, a communication and relationship coach who discovered her calling later in life. Lori shares her powerful journey from being a people-pleaser trapped in a silent, emotionally abusive marriage to becoming an empowered coach helping others find their authentic selves. What started as a quest to improve her golf game led to a complete life transformation at age 58. Through candid conversation, Lori explains how 90% of our thoughts aren't our own, stemming from our imprint years (ages 0-7), and how breakthrough work can help us release the emotional baggage we've been carrying. Her story demonstrates that it's truly never too late to make changes, use your voice, and ask for what you want.
Lori Daneke is a communication and relationship coach with master certifications in NLP, TLT, Hypnotherapy, Reiki Level 3, and Huna, as well as Advanced Trauma and Addiction training. With over 300 hours of training and having coached over 100 clients, she specializes in supporting women in creating the life they desire and deserve while embracing their authentic selves. Lori's journey into coaching began unexpectedly at age 58 when seeking to improve her golf game led to discovering that golf and life are direct reflections of each other. She is a proud grandmother of three (with another grandchild on the way) and finds her happy places playing with her grandchildren and going to the beach.
Key Topics Discussed: The Connection Between Golf and Life: How Lori's quest to improve her golf game revealed deeper life patterns The Four Voices in Our Head: Understanding the inner child, inner critic, inner ego, and intuition People-Pleasing Patterns: The dangers of living according to others' expectations rather than your authentic self Silent Abuse: Recognizing emotional abuse through withholding communication and attention The 90% Rule: How most of our thoughts come from our imprint years (ages 0-7) rather than our true selves Breakthrough Process: Lori's 10-step method for uncovering root causes and aligning conscious and unconscious minds Releasing Emotional Baggage: Using the analogy of travel luggage to understand letting go of past trauma Finding Your Purpose: How it's never too late to discover your authentic calling and voice Powerful Quotes from the Episode"It'd be grateful for what you have experienced, take the learnings from it, so you can have even more gratitude and love yourself. Because truly, it's never too late to make choices and use your voice and ask for what you want."
"In my marriage, I couldn't do that. I wasn't allowed. It was very transactional. And when I asked for what I needed or what I wanted, I got crickets. So that was the abuse that I tolerated. And I tolerated it is silence."
"I discovered that not only that golf and life are direct reflections of each other. So what was going on in my golf game was going on in my life. I was angry, frustrated, felt like I was isolated and alone."
"90% of our thoughts are not our own. They come from our imprint years or zero to seven... we learned what we learned from the people from the people that are closest to us."
"I was the definition of a people pleaser. I did everything that everybody thought I was supposed to do and everybody told me what I was supposed to do."
"You can't help other people unless you help yourself first... because you haven't released the blocks around what is actually holding you back from getting what you want."
"Everything that happens to us, good, bad, or ugly, is there to teach us a lesson. And the lessons we learn is something positive and it's going forward."
"It's never too late to discover that voice and that authentic you, your true purpose in life and what you were put on this planet to do."
RESOURCES: MARRIED TO A "NICE" GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HERE PRIVATE FACEBOOK SUPPORT GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/marriedtoaniceguy/ FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources FOLLOW LORI: EMAIL: [email protected] FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/lori.danecke
Loved this episode? Connect with Lori through her Facebook pages or email to learn more about her breakthrough coaching process. Don't forget to leave a review on Apple Podcasts and Spotify to help others find these stories of hope and healing! Produced and edited by Resilient Voice Media. Visit us at www.resilientvoicemedia.com. -
In today’s episode, Laura explores the important topics of self-worth, core values, and boundaries—three crucial elements of your healing journey after leaving a toxic relationship. If you're feeling stuck or questioning why you don’t feel "better" yet, this episode is for you.
Laura breaks down three essential healing truths:
💥 Healing doesn’t happen overnight—leaving the relationship is only the first step.
💥 Rebuilding your self-worth is a process that takes time and practice.
💥 Setting boundaries is an act of self-love, and it’s essential for protecting your peace.Expect real talk, actionable advice, and a dose of empowerment to help you move forward.
What You’ll Learn:
✨ How to begin rebuilding self-worth after emotional abuse
✨ Why knowing your core values is key to making empowered choices
✨ Why boundaries are essential—and how to start setting themResources & Support:
💫 Ready to go deeper into this work? Join Laura’s Midlife Reset Masterclass—a 10-week journey to confidence, freedom, and joy.
👉 Midlife Reset Masterclass💜 Need someone to talk to? Book your free discovery call, No More Sleepless Nights, and let’s explore your healing journey.
👉 Free Discovery CallLet’s Connect:
📸 Instagram: @thatswhereimatpodcast
🌐 Website: ThatsWhereImAtPodcast.com
📚 Read Laura’s bestselling book: Married to a "Nice" Guy
👉 Book StoreIf this episode resonated with you...
Please rate, review, and share! Every listen helps another woman feel less alone on her journey. 💜Produced and edited by Resilient Voice Media. Visit us at www.resilientvoicemedia.com.
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In this powerful episode host Laura welcomes Claudia Braun, a holistic mindset and lifestyle coach certified in Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT). Claudia opens up about her personal journey with emotional eating that began at age 10 when she discovered food could temporarily ease emotional pain. She shares how this coping mechanism followed her through adolescence, college, and into adulthood, creating a vicious cycle of stress eating and dieting. The conversation explores how our relationship with food often masks deeper emotional needs and how the cultural messaging around dieting affects women. Claudia offers practical insights on breaking free from emotional eating patterns by addressing the root emotional causes, embracing authenticity, and learning to own both your "yes" and your "no" instead of living to please others.
Claudia Braun is a longtime Chicago resident, certified in Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), and works as a holistic mindset and lifestyle coach. With 30 years of yoga practice, she brings a wealth of experience to her approach to healing. Claudia has been a keynote speaker at several in-person women's events, hosted the Healing Summit, and been featured on the Holistic Monitor podcast. Drawing from her own journey of healing her relationship with food and emotional eating, Claudia now helps others break free from stress eating patterns and people-pleasing behaviors to live more authentically. She is also a dog mom to Jason, an avid gardener, and enjoys working with clay.
Key Topics Discussed: Emotional Eating as a Coping Mechanism: How food becomes a "companion" to manage stress and difficult emotions The Vicious Cycle of Dieting: Why traditional dieting approaches often fail to address the emotional roots of eating habits People-Pleasing and Boundaries: The connection between people-pleasing, lack of boundaries, and using food for comfort Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT/Tapping): How this approach helps release trapped emotions in the subconscious mind Authentic Living: The importance of being true to yourself rather than living based on others' expectations Owning Your Yes and No: Practical strategies for honoring your own needs and setting boundaries Healing Through Vulnerability: The power of acknowledging and expressing difficult emotions rather than suppressing them Cultural Conditioning Around Food: How societal and family messages about food and dieting affect our relationship with eating Powerful Quotes from the Episode"One of the things that I'd like to share with y'all is that I have these three strategies to own your yes and own your no. And part of that is kind of getting in touch with what do we actually feel."
"I didn't know my yes. I didn't know my no. I knew other people's yes and other people's no. I was a master people pleaser."
"It brings me back to that story with my boyfriend's therapist... I was saying to him, 'I don't know how to make my parents happy and my boyfriend happy at the same time.' And he looks at me and I could see that there was something about that statement I made that was really off... I'm not even in the equation."
"You can't put a happy face in an empty tank."
"I give people permission to say what they don't want to say."
"When I work with clients, I have them write a letter to food, like say goodbye to your best friend. It is your best friend. It's been your best friend."
"The only way out is through."
"Can you imagine what life would be like if you were authentically you instead of constantly living life based on everyone else's judgments and expectations of you?"
RESOURCES: MARRIED TO A "NICE" GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HERE PRIVATE FACEBOOK SUPPORT GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/marriedtoaniceguy/ FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources FOLLOW CLAUDIA: WEBSITE: www.claudia-braun.com 3 strategies to Own Your YES & Your NO (without the guilt, that’s held you back before) https://www.freebie.claudia-braun.com/Produced and edited by Resilient Voice Media. Visit us at www.resilientvoicemedia.com.
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In this deeply validating episode, Laura explores the questions so many women wrestle with: Was he really a narcissist? Can I trust myself again? Why am I not further along? If you’ve been stuck in cycles of self-doubt or healing shame, you’re not alone—and this episode is here to bring clarity, comfort, and real guidance.
Laura breaks down three essential healing truths:
💥 How to identify narcissistic behavior—without needing a diagnosis
💥 What rebuilding self-trust looks like after emotional abuse
💥 Why owning your current stage of healing is more than enoughExpect myth-busting insights, gentle reminders, and hard-won wisdom that will help you take your next brave step forward.
What You’ll Learn:
✨ The truth about covert narcissism and manipulation
✨ How to strengthen your intuition and rebuild self-trust
✨ Why your healing doesn’t have to look a certain way or meet a timeline
✨ How to embrace where you are—with zero shameResources & Support:
💫 Ready for a fresh start? Join Laura’s Midlife Reset Masterclass—a 10-week journey to confidence, freedom, and joy.
👉 https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/midlife-reset💜 Need someone to talk to? Book your free discovery call (No More Sleepless Nights) and let’s see what healing looks like for you.
👉 https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/free-gift-from-lauraLet’s Connect:
📸 Instagram: @thatswhereimatpodcast
🌐 Website: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/
📚 Read Laura’s bestselling book: Married to a "Nice" Guy – https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/book-storeIf this episode resonated with you...
Please rate, review, and share! Every listen helps another woman feel less alone on her journey. 💜Produced and edited by Resilient Voice Media. Visit us at www.resilientvoicemedia.com.
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In this powerful episode of That's Where I'm At, Laura welcomes Angie Marie, a lifestyle and health coach who spent 20 years in a narcissistic relationship. Together, they explore the insidious nature of covert and overt narcissism, the devastating impact of gaslighting, and the complex emotions that surface when leaving these relationships. Angie shares her journey of reclaiming her authentic self after years of people-pleasing and self-abandonment, discovering that true health encompasses both physical and emotional well-being. This raw conversation offers validation, hope, and practical insights for anyone recovering from narcissistic abuse.
Angie Marie is a lifestyle and health coach and upcoming podcaster launching "Reauthenticated." After spending 20 years in a narcissistic marriage and working 25 years as a hairdresser, Angie is on a mission to help people reconnect with their authentic selves. Her journey began with focusing solely on nutrition and physical fitness, but evolved to include emotional healing from trauma as she recognized that self-validation had been missing from her life. Through her platform "Reauthenticated," Angie guides others to build confidence not just through nutrition and physical activity, but through healing past traumas and embracing their spiritual journey.
Key Topics Discussed Different Types of Narcissism: The distinction between covert narcissists (who appear nice in public but are abusive in private) and overt narcissists (who are openly self-centered) Gaslighting and Its Effects: How narcissists use gaslighting to make victims question their reality and sanity The Friend Betrayal: Angie's experience with her friend who became involved with her husband during their separation Why Victims Stay: The psychological reasons people remain in abusive relationships, including survival mode and fear of life changes Healing Through Communication: Learning to express feelings and speak truth after years of silence The Peace After Leaving: Finding relief and healing after exiting the relationship Building a New Identity: Discovering who you are outside of the narcissist's definition Physical vs. Emotional Health: Balancing external appearance with internal emotional well-being Powerful Quotes"But we don't get the opportunity to talk about our feelings with the narcissist because it doesn't do any good. It's not going to be valid. They're going to disregard it." - Angie Marie
"I finally learned how to love myself and not seek validation in other people. You know, I don't have to look perfect. I don't have to look pretty all the time... Now instead of everything being so perfect and so polished, I get to just be me." - Angie Marie
Timestamps 00:00 - Introduction and welcome 04:15 - Discussion on covert vs. overt narcissism 08:30 - Angie's story of betrayal during separation 16:45 - The friend who pointed out narcissism 22:20 - The physical and emotional impact of narcissistic abuse 29:15 - Learning to speak your truth after years of silence 33:45 - The influence of childhood trauma on adult relationships 39:10 - Finding self-love and authentic expression 46:30 - Building a healthy new relationship after abuse 54:20 - Creating boundaries and healing 58:40 - Information about Angie's podcast and coaching Loved this episode?Leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify to help more people find these stories of healing. Follow Laura on social media and let her know what resonated with you.
Resources RESOURCES FROM LAURA:Join Laura on the Conscious Transformation Summit May 7th @ 1:00 pm PST: https://conscioussummitevents.com/register?am_id=laura
MARRIED TO A "NICE" GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HERE PRIVATE FACEBOOK SUPPORT GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/marriedtoaniceguy/ FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources FOLLOW ANGIE: WEBSITE: https://www.reauthenticated.com/ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/angiemarie_reauthenticated/ TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@angiemarie_2023 PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/AngieMarie_Reauthenticated/Produced and edited by Resilient Voice Media. Visit us at www.resilientvoicemedia.com.
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Barbara Siemen is a certified life coach, yoga instructor, and writer who helps others find their path to joy and fulfilled living. After a failed business endeavor and subsequent mental illness diagnosis in 2016 caused her to go into a major slump, Barbara questioned her life’s purpose. She devoted her time to unlearning what was holding her back and undoing the pain of her childhood trauma. It took over 5 years for her to follow the breadcrumbs but with the help of coaches, therapists, self-help books, spiritual tools, and her own intuition, she is now proud to be unsubscribed from all the things she doesn’t want in life, and making room for the things she does want in life.
In this episode of the "That's Where I'm At" podcast, Barbara, a certified life coach, yoga instructor, and writer, shares her journey of healing from childhood trauma and the process of "unsubscribing" from negative influences. She discusses a rock-bottom moment that led her to seek help and embrace her true self, emphasizing the importance of living fearlessly and authentically. Host Laura, who has overcome a relationship with a narcissist, underscores the healing power of sharing women's stories. The episode centers on personal growth, healing from trauma, and the significance of setting boundaries and living authentically.
Timestamps:(00:02:11) Barbara shares her background and the extensive work she did to heal from childhood trauma.
(00:02:38) Barbara reflects on her rock bottom experience and the years it took to understand her past.
(00:04:03) Importance of Curiosity Laura and Barbara discuss the significance of curiosity in personal growth and healing.
(00:07:00) Creating a False Life, Barbara reflects on the disconnect between her curated online life and her true feelings.
(00:07:19) Blog and Its Consequences,Barbara recounts the legal issues surrounding her blog and the stress it caused her family
(00:17:12) Mind-body connection between emotional trauma and physical health issues.
(00:19:32) Embracing Fearlessness Again ,rediscovering her fearless side and setting boundaries in her life and how self love played a part.
(00:21:55) Raising Strong Women. Barbara discusses her commitment to raising her daughter as a strong, independent woman, avoiding the "doormat" mentality.
(00:30:14) Mental Load of Women Laura and Barbara discuss the hidden burdens women carry and the need for self-care amidst societal expectations.
Quotables:
'It's really tough to stand and stare at yourself sometimes, you know, even completely naked, and then you look at your entire body and say loving things to your body. But to look in your own eyes in a mirror and say, "I love you, I really, really love you," that's hard. Some people can't do that for a while; it takes some time.' Barbara
"I had to be done because narcissists are always right; everything's perfect. But if you look at their real life, you can see the truth." Laura
RESOURCES:
MARRIED TO A “NICE” GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HEREPRIVATE FACEBOOK SUPPORT GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/marriedtoaniceguy/
FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com
BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards
RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources
FOLLOW BARBARA:
www.barbarasiemen.com
https://www.instagram.com/barbarasiemen
https://www.facebook.com/barbarasiemen
Produced and edited by Resilient Voice Media. Visit us at www.resilientvoicemedia.com.
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In this powerful episode of That's Where I'm At, Laura sits down with Diane Konkin, a rapid transformational therapy (RTT) practitioner and self-sabotage expert. Diane shares her journey of supporting her late husband through addiction and bipolar disorder, her own healing process, and how she now helps others break free from intrusive emotions and self-limiting beliefs.
Diane Konkin is the Founder and CEO of Advanced Mind Health, a virtual, no-repeat client therapy practice, specializing in helping professionals eliminate intrusive emotions, self-sabotage and substance use habits in only 1-3 sessions with a 99% success rate.
Diane began her Rapid Transformational Therapy® practice after helping her late husband navigate through his 20 year struggle with bipolar and alcohol use disorder.
RTT® is a new, advanced form of curative psychotherapy based on the latest research in neuroscience and is quickly gaining global recognition as one of the most effective treatments available.
Key Topics Discussed:
Breaking Generational Cycles: How trauma and behaviors are often passed down through generations and how we can be the ones to stop the cycle.The Power of the Mind: How our subconscious controls our actions, thoughts, and self-worth and how we can rewire it.
Surviving and Thriving After Toxic Relationships: Diane and Laura discuss personal experiences with toxic relationships and the process of reclaiming personal power.
Healing Through Hypnotherapy & RTT: How rapid transformational therapy works and why it can create lasting change in just 1-3 sessions.
Overcoming Negative Self-Talk: Strategies to stop the inner critic and start self-praising to build confidence and self-love.
The Emotional Burden of Caregiving: Diane’s personal story of caregiving for her husband and finding freedom after his passing.
Importance of Emotional Release: How unexpressed emotions can manifest as physical illnesses and why allowing ourselves to grieve is crucial.
Powerful Quotes from the Episode:
"Our subconscious controls 95% of our behaviors. So, let’s start giving it the right instructions.""Your mind is like a taxi driver. If you don’t give it a destination, it will take you anywhere."
"The words you say to yourself matter stop believing negative thoughts that don’t serve you."
Loved this episode?
Leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify to help more people find these stories of healing.
Follow Laura on social media and let us know what resonated with you.RESOURCES:
MARRIED TO A “NICE” GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HEREPRIVATE FACEBOOK SUPPORT GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/marriedtoaniceguy/
FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com
BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards
RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources
FOLLOW DIANE:
Website: https://advancedmindhealth.ca
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advancedmindhealth
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/diane-konkin-88690a205
Produced and edited by Resilient Voice Media. Visit us at www.resilientvoicemedia.com.
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Debbie Harrell is the vibrant force behind the New World Normal podcast—a space where questioning and disrupting societal norms is not just encouraged, it's the main event. As the host, Debbie dives into insightful conversations with guest experts and thought leaders, exploring how we can break free from norms that no longer serve us.
In her coaching practice, Debbie is a guide for values-focused individuals ready to disrupt their personal norms. She empowers clients to challenge all of their "shoulds" and "have-tos," helping them align with their core principles rather than societal expectations.
Beyond her biz, Debbie is a proud mom to two grown humans and caretaker of two rescued fur-babies. Nature, travel, and live music are her happy places, especially when they come together. Debbie's belief in the power of community is the driving force behind her podcast and community—providing comfort and connection in our often chaotic world. Because, in Debbie's view, embracing our similarities and collaborating as a collective offers the best chance for us all thriving in this crazy world.
When we face life changes like divorce or a new job, uncertainty often follows. I would ask my friends what they wanted, and most didn't know. We've spent so much time following societal expectations that we're disconnected from our true desires.
Today’s guest is Debbie from the New World Normal podcast, where she challenges societal norms and guides individuals to align their lives with personal values instead of society's demands.
Debbie shares her journey into coaching—realizing she wasn't fulfilled despite doing everything expected of her led her to question life's transitions. She found herself asking others what they truly wanted when faced with similar uncertainties.
Her own experiences—a challenging year marked by loss and trauma—prompted deep reflection on how past events impacted her well-being. Recognizing symptoms of trauma helped Debbie understand the importance of addressing these issues before reaching breaking points.
We discuss recognizing signs that something might be wrong: feeling numb, relying on distractions like shopping or Netflix too heavily, or saying “that’s just who I am” as an excuse for behavior patterns developed for self-protection.
The key takeaway is giving yourself permission to explore your feelings without waiting for major life disruptions as catalysts for change. Healing doesn't have to be overwhelming; it's about peeling back layers gently over time while seeking support through communities or professionals when needed.
3:13 Realizing we did all the “shoulds” we’re told to do.
04:06 Being caught on a treadmill of what we should do, and reflecting on what we actually want to do.
04:43 Hindsight on divorce & the transition
6:36 From podcasting to coaching
7:38 My Hero’s journey & an abrupt loss
08:58 The nation's largest mass shooting
00:15:46The comparison game about trauma
21:23 Feeling trapped in a relationship that leaves you questioning your worth and sanity?
29:07 Needing permission as an adult and borrowing courage
32:06 Oh, wait, who am I? Like, people don't want to hear from me.
33:04 Book recommendations
42:09 Reflections on becoming better
Quotes :
“We are not getting better for the sake of being better for ourselves. We're getting better for the sake of being better for the world around us. You know, like, it all ripples out. “
“Why do we have to wait for big life transitions? Why not start thinking about it now?”
“If you’re feeling something was traumatic, it probably was.”
If you are ready to questions some norms please schedule a free discovery call today!
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Wild & Precious Life Sarah Wilson This One Wild and Precious Life: The Path Back to Connection in a Fractured World: Wilson, Sarah: 9780062962973: Amazon.com: Books
Myth of Normal Gabor Mate’ Amazon.com: The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture (Audible Audio Edition): Gabor Maté MD, Daniel Maté, Daniel Maté, Penguin Audio: Audible Books & Originals
The Body Keeps the Score The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma: van der Kolk M.D., Bessel: 9780143127741: Amazon.com: Books
Untamed Glennon Doyle Amazon.com : untamed by glennon doyle
Rest in Resistance Rest Is Resistance: A Manifesto (Rest Is Resistance, 1): Hersey, Tricia: 9780316365215: Amazon.com: Books
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Lisa Campion is the author of the #1 best-selling book The Art of Psychic Reiki and the upcoming book Energy Healing for Empaths. She is a psychic counselor and Reiki master teacher with over 25 years of experience. She has trained over 1,000 people in Reiki and conducted over 15,000 individual sessions.
She also hosts the radio show and podcast "The Miracle of Healing" on Empower Radio. Lisa specializes in training emerging psychics, empaths, and healers to fully embrace their gifts because the world needs all the healers it can get!
In this episode, Lisa talks about energy healing, boundaries, and how empaths can protect their energy in a world that often feels overwhelming. She also discusses energy vampires, the importance of self-care, and how setting boundaries fosters respect and empowerment.
Tune in to learn practical tips on harnessing your sensitivity as a superpower and avoiding burnout as an empath!
Timestamps:[02:19] Lisa Campion's background and her work
Quotes: "Boundaries make people feel safe. If people can't feel your boundary, they don't really feel safe with you." "If you don't learn how to manage your energy and you're not taking responsibility for your boundaries, you can become an energy vampire." "Having boundaries breeds respect. So when we set clear, kind, and compassionate boundaries, people respect us." "Empaths have this like spongy kind of porous energy field... The sponge is full, and then you go into something called empathic overload." "We can't really trust people unless we can trust their ability to say no." "When you say yes, when you need to say no, you're not actually doing anyone else a favor. They know it doesn't feel good and makes you untrustworthy." RESOURCES:
[03:19] Tips to manage energy and relationships as an empath
[05:15] How to overcome energy and sensory overload
[09:00] Learning to say no with kindness
[11:32] Why boundaries foster respect and security
[17:22] What are energy vampires?
[19:40] How to recognize when someone is draining your energy
[26:19] How to recognize if you're an energy vampire
[32:49] The importance of play, creativity, and joy
[37:27] How to visualize your energetic boundariesMARRIED TO A “NICE” GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HERE
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RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources
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In this episode, Laura speaks with Lisa Croke, an ICF ACC Empowerment Life Coach and Leadership Consultant with over two decades of experience. She is powered by authenticity, non-judgment, and empathy and creates a safe, empowering space for her clients to reframe their challenges into their superpowers.
In her life coaching and leadership consulting work, her mission remains the same: Empowering individuals to achieve their highest potential! Lisa's journey has been one of resilience and reinvention. At 42, she emerged from a 20-plus-year abusive marriage. Faced with the loss of her career, community, possessions, and a year of stalking at the hands of her abuser, she went through the court system and relocated 2,000 miles away to rebuild her life. Lisa has since worked tirelessly to transform her personal hardships into a powerful narrative of resilience and transformation.
Lisa is dedicated to helping other trauma survivors, particularly high-achieving, accomplished women who have experienced relationship trauma, tap into their superpowers and move from surviving to thriving. Grounded in real-life experience, her warm, empathetic approach validates her clients' experiences and provides practical tools for reframing their stories, claiming their superpowers, and building a thriving life. In addition to her coaching and consulting work, she is available for keynote presentations, workshops, podcasts, and collaboration opportunities.
Today, Lisa shares her journey from being a children's pastor and pastor's wife to recognizing and escaping narcissistic abuse within her marriage and religious community. She discusses how the church often fails abuse survivors through inadequate support and harmful messaging about forgiveness and reconciliation.
Tune in now!
Key Highlights[00:00] Lisa's initial approach to church leadership about marriage concerns
[01:33] Lisa's background as an empowerment life coach and leadership consultant
[03:39] How domestic abuse affects high-achieving women
[06:27] Lisa's religious background and early marriage at age 19
[09:24] Church leadership and ministry roles and how this affected Lisa's marriage
[15:32] Experience with jealousy and control in ministry positions
[20:05] When Lisa started noticing abusive patterns
[29:02] How most Christian women in leadership struggle with the stigma of divorce
[38:16] The biblical perspectives and the church's inadequate response to abuse
[41:23] Why you need therapy rather than relying solely on prayer for guidance
[45:31] Lisa's personal growth and achievements post-divorce
[59:03] Perspectives on forgiveness and healing
[01:05:21] Final thoughts and how to connect with Lisa
Notable Quotes: When you exist in that space and have that very loud voice, when that voice goes away, the freedom I felt because there wasn't someone criticizing everything. Even if you're beat up and you're not sure head to tail what's going on, you survived that. Our relationship with God doesn't fit in a box. And so many times church does market that. And those of us who have had trauma, we don't fit in the box, and we question the box, and we question the methods. And so we are the ones that are the instigators The words that have been spoken over you, the actions that have been done to you, they don't define you. You are enough, and you are so loved. If God loves him, and if you believe that God loves him, then he is God's to care for; it is not your responsibility. We become shells of ourselves, right? Like, well, when we're married so young, we don't know who we are. But, I would argue that we are empathetic and we're gentle. There are reasons why narcissists attach to us. RESOURCES:MARRIED TO A “NICE” GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HERE
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FOLLOW LISA: https://helvickcoaching.com/
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“The Summer Day,” by Mary Oliver https://www.saltproject.org/progressive-christian-blog/2015/6/29/the-summer-day
Leslie Vernick Coaching https://leslievernick.com/
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In this episode, Laura is joined by Brooke Kekos, a Trauma Healing Coach, Rapid Transformational Therapist (RTT), and NLP Practitioner who specializes in empowering survivors to rewrite their stories. Her path, a testament to overcoming indoctrination, abuse, and toxic bonds, ignites her profound insight and unshakeable dedication.
Today, Brooke shares her journey of breaking free from the Jehovah's Witnesses organization after 36 years and healing from religious trauma and an abusive marriage. She discusses the parallels between high-control religious systems and narcissistic relationships, the challenges of losing community support, and her path to spiritual awakening. Through her work as a trauma healing coach, Brooke helps others process complex PTSD, rebuild their sense of self, and find authentic connections with their spirituality.
As a sought-after speaker, author, and advocate against religious abuse and domestic violence, Brooke's voice resonates far beyond the confines of her coaching practice.
Are you ready for this? Step into an existence where authenticity thrives!
Timestamps:[02:52] Brooke's background in Jehovah's Witnesses and struggles with questioning beliefs
[04:27] Brooke’s experience with restrictions on holidays and celebrations
[07:15] How Brooke discovered abuse cover-ups and left the church
[08:05] How high-control religions and narcissistic abuse mirror each other
[10:23] How being excommunicated at 16 left Brooke feeling alone and devalued
[13:09] Why you should always question beliefs and seek truth for yourself
[17:08] The challenge of leaving support systems behind
[25:09] Experiencing a spiritual awakening and discovering a high-power connection
[34:28] Brooke's approach to trauma healing work
[40:55] Why self-acceptance is crucial for a fulfilling life
[43:21] How to connect with Brooke
Key Quotes: I lost my entire community. I was all alone. So I lost family that was still in the religion, and I lost all of my friendships that I thought were forever friends. Being in a high-control religion or a cult-like system is abusive. And so you only know abuse. So it's no wonder why you recreate the pattern in your relationship. What you're struggling with now in life always comes from childhood. There's a belief system, and there are experiences that you had in childhood. Healing the past helps us embrace and empower ourselves now. Inner child work changed my life. It’s about going back, healing past wounds, and rewriting the story of who you are. RESOURCES:MARRIED TO A “NICE” GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HERE
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BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards
RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources
FOLLOW BROOKE:
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In this episode of That's Where I'm At, Laura sits down with Kelsey Elizabeth Matthews, a first-generation college graduate, published author, and advocate for mental health and empowerment. Kelsey, who graduated Summa Cum Laude with a Bachelor of Social Work degree from the University of Nevada, Las Vegas, and was honored as a Truman Scholar, shares her remarkable journey of resilience.
From growing up in an abusive environment in East Haven, CT, to overcoming institutional betrayal and narcissistic abuse, Kelsey uses her experiences to advocate for those affected by emotional and verbal harm. Her professional journey spans rehabilitative mental health, substance abuse prevention, non-profit leadership, and community engagement. As the Founder and CEO of Phoenix Rising Coaching & Consulting, LLC, and a Maxwell Leadership Team member, Kelsey empowers individuals and leaders to overcome challenges and become agents of transformative change.
Kelsey discusses her passion for ethics, power dynamics, and leadership, shaped by her survival story and advocacy for others. She also shares her journey as a public speaker, including her TEDxUNLV talk, "Transformative Leadership: The Power of Love to Change the World," and her plans for graduate studies in Social Work and Social/Personality Psychology.
Tune in now!
Timestamps[01:14] Kelsey's background, struggles, and advocacy
[03:05] Early childhood challenges
[06:19] How Kesley grew up amidst dysfunction and codependency
[10:50] Kesley's experience with a traumatic childhood incident
[18:01] How lack of care and safety shaped Kesley's emotional well-being
[23:43] The impact of addiction and the lack of awareness about overdose prevention
[29:24] How our childhood experiences shape who we become
[38:53] Boundary violations and manipulation by her therapist
[42:01] How intermittent reinforcement prolonged the emotional pain
[1:01:00] The unexpected role of Kesley's therapist in leading her to Christ
[1:10:12] The contrast between harmful institutions and those that provide real support
[1:20:30] Kelsey's path to self-awareness and resilience through therapy and advocacy
[1:30:45] The importance of self-love in building healthy relationships
[1:39:44] Kelsey's message of hope for others facing similar challenges
Notable Quotes You can't make sense of disorder. You can't make sense of chaos. The worst thing that ever happened to me is the best thing that ever happened to me. What happens is that with trauma bonding, it's the person who's hurting you is also the person who's loving you or soothing you. When you live in gaslighting, you end up gaslighting yourself. People mistake my kindness for weakness, and that's funny because I never end up being what they bargain for. I end up kicking and screaming because I will fight for myself. You can only love others as much as you love yourself. RESOURCES: Your Story Matters Virtual Summit: January 21-23, 2025 Get your free ticket here! https://webinar.katebutlerbooks.com/summit2025 Healthy Boundaries: https://www.drcloud.com/MARRIED TO A “NICE” GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HERE
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Spiritual abuse and the church’s stigma around divorce have silenced and shamed countless women, often leaving them trapped in cycles of pain and self-doubt. But it’s time to reclaim the narrative. Overcoming spiritual abuse means breaking free from manipulation cloaked in faith and recognizing your worth beyond judgmental doctrines. Divorce is not a failure; it’s an act of courage when choosing yourself and your well-being over harmful dynamics.
In this episode of the That's Where I'm At Podcast, Laura Richards welcomes Kristina Ravenhill. Kristina or Tina as her Father nicknamed her, grew up in the South Pacific. The middle child of three sisters, she grew up as an MK (missionary kid) and a PK (preacher's kid). Eventually, the family moved back to the United States where she went to Bible School in Dallas, Texas, and ultimately met her husband. Together they served in ministry and also owned a successful international sales business. Twenty-two years and 4 children later, Tina filed for divorce after years of narcissism and abuse throughout the marriage. Now free, she spends her extra time helping others come out of spiritual abuse and wants the stigma of divorce from abuse to be changed in the church mindset. Her joy is spending time with her kids and exploring the world.
Kristina shares her powerful journey of overcoming spiritual abuse and navigating the church’s stigma around divorce. Kristina candidly recounts the red flags she ignored, the manipulation she endured, and the spiritual abuse she experienced from her ex-husband. She discusses the struggle of leaving an oppressive marriage, the profound impact of trauma bonds, and the societal pressures women face when seeking freedom. Kristina also offers hope and practical steps for healing, including how she reconnected with her dreams, found forgiveness, and rediscovered God’s unconditional love. Tune in for an inspiring conversation about resilience, self-worth, and spiritual liberation.
Timestamps
[03:14] Signs Kristina saw before she was done
[06:10] Spiritual abuse Kristina experienced from her ex-husband
[10:06] Did Kristina have support when she decided to leave?
[15:03] God loves you more than divorce
[18:14] Narcissists have the inability to change
[24:27] Things Kristina did to heal after divorce
[30:53] How Kristina got rid of her oppression and started to dream again
[33:50] The thought that things will be great when you leave
[41:07] Waking up to the reality
[43:24] Kristina’s trauma bond experience
[48:44] How Kristina dealt with forgiving his ex-husband
[51:55] Kristina’s final remarks
Notable Quotes “We always have the thing about God hates divorce.” “It’s not about how long can a marriage last.” “Dream is to have your life back.” “Some of these things, they may not sound like they are terrible until it’s all the times.”
RESOURCES:
MARRIED TO A “NICE” GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HERE
PRIVATE FACEBOOK SUPPORT GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/marriedtoaniceguy/
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FOLLOW KRISTINA: https://www.instagram.com/k.ravenhill/
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From the depths of silence, women who have endured domestic violence are rising to reclaim their power and find their voices. This journey of empowerment is not just about breaking free from abuse but about rediscovering one's strength, worth, and resilience. Through support networks, self-care practices, and advocacy, survivors are transforming their pain into purpose. They are learning to trust themselves again, make their own decisions, and rebuild their lives on their own terms. By sharing their stories, these women not only heal themselves but also inspire and empower others.
In this episode of the That's Where I'm At Podcast, Laura Richards welcomes Jennifer Peterkin, an avid traveler, a lover and collector of stories, and the host of the podcast The Human Experience - a platform that seeks to elevate stories, empower the storyteller, and invite the listener into a place of validation, understanding, and compassion. Through her personal story, she illuminates the path from silence to strength, exploring how survivors of abuse can rediscover their worth and resilience. Jennifer discusses the crucial role of support networks, therapy, and self-reflection in her healing process, as well as the red flags she overlooked in her marriage. The conversation delves into societal conditioning that often silences women, the importance of telling one's own story, and the healing power of sharing experiences. Tune in to get insights on recognizing narcissistic abuse, the challenges of marriage counseling in abusive relationships, and practical steps toward healing and empowerment.
Timestamps
[02:13] Why Jennifer started her podcast
[04:04] Were some of Jennifer’s friends sharing their experience of divorce?
[08:52] Jennifer’s therapist and friends were her biggest validators through divorce
[13:50] What made Jennifer wait before launching her podcast
[18:10] Red flags Jennifer ignored in her marriage
[19:25] Did Jennifer’s parents contribute to her being in this toxic marriage?
[23:55] How Jennifer got some clarity of who she really was after her divorce
[33:02] How young girls are trained not to ruffle up the feathers
[36:04] The things that helped Jennifer heal
[46:22] Marriage counseling and therapy
Notable Quotes “When you are going through domestic violence, everything in your mind is turned upside down.” “Everybody deserves to tell their own story from their own perspective in their own voice.” “Most of the times narcissists are not going to leave because they have to play the victim.” “We all have moments in our lives that make us stop and do a 180.” RESOURCES:MARRIED TO A “NICE” GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HERE
PRIVATE FACEBOOK SUPPORT GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/marriedtoaniceguy/
FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com
BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards
RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources
FOLLOW JENNIFER: www.thehxpod.com
THE HUMAN EXPERIENCE PODCAST: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-human-experience/id1667193007
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Self-doubt can be a formidable obstacle for women on their spiritual journey, often hindering them from embracing their true calling. Many women struggle with feelings of inadequacy, imposter syndrome, and self-sabotage, which can prevent them from fully realizing their potential. By nurturing a strong spiritual foundation, women can tap into their inner strength, recognize their unique gifts, and courageously pursue their authentic calling. This process of spiritual empowerment enables women to rise above societal expectations and limitations, ultimately leading to a more fulfilling and purposeful life.
In today's episode of the That's Where I'm At Podcast, Laura Richards is joined by Ange de Lumiere, a spiritual lawyer and mother of four children with autism. Ange, born in Paris and now residing in the UK, shares her unique path to becoming a spiritual lawyer and how she helps ambitious entrepreneurs trust their intuition for success. She talks about her initial hesitations about pursuing psychic work and the pivotal moments that encouraged her to embrace her spiritual calling. Ange discusses the impact of therapy on her childhood resilience, the importance of understanding our body's language, and strategies for dealing with energy vampires.
Ange de Lumiere is the mother of four children with autism aged 28 to 12. Born in Paris, she now lives in the UK and helps ambitious entrepreneurs trust their intuition to make smart decisions in order to create success on their terms, rather than someone else's. She calls herself a Spiritual Lawyer and has authored two books and three podcasts, her latest being True Spirituality with Ange. Tune in and gain profound insights on overcoming self-doubt, the power of mindset in achieving success, and the significance of recognizing and trusting one's intuition.
Timestamps
[02:10] How Ange became a spiritual lawyer
[08:02] How Ange works with her clients as a spiritual lawyer
[12:06] What led Ange to become a spiritual lawyer
[18:06] What happened after Barbra talked to Ange in the lecture
[25:18] Why Ange was hesitant about doing psychic word
[27:24] What really encouraged Ange to start doing spiritual work
[34:35] The mindset of thinking you cannot go forward
[41:20] How therapy made Ange so strong as a child
[48:00] Our bodies have a language
[55:30] How to deal with an energy vampire
Notable Quotes “People can feel intuitively that you are hiding something. They just don’t know what it is.” “With psychic readings, if you get things wrong, you can really have a massive impact on someone’s life.” “Be careful what you think because it may not be your thoughts.” “Success is 50% mindset.” “What you are going through is in your body; you just don’t realize it.” “People don’t need to understand about energy or know about energy in order to use your energy.” RESOURCES:MARRIED TO A “NICE” GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HERE
PRIVATE FACEBOOK SUPPORT GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/marriedtoaniceguy/
FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com
BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards
RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources
FOLLOW ANGE:
WEBSITE: https://www.angedelumiere.biz/
LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ange-de-lumiere-992545109
FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/AngedeLum
THE FREEDOM PROGRAMME: https://www.freedomprogramme.co.uk
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Covert narcissists exhibit subtle signs of narcissism, often masked by a facade of humility. They possess an inflated sense of self-importance yet express it through passive-aggressive behavior and subtle manipulation. Hypersensitive to criticism, they may respond with intense emotions or withdrawal. Their relationships are typically superficial, characterized by emotional withholding, gaslighting, and blame-shifting. Covert narcissists struggle with chronic envy and often play the victim to gain sympathy. They lack genuine empathy and have difficulty forming deep connections. In romantic relationships, they may display jealousy and possessiveness and use tactics like stonewalling or guilt-tripping. Their behavior can significantly impact the mental health of those around them, leading to increased stress, anxiety, and depression in partners and family members.
In today's episode of the That's Where I'm At Podcast, Laura Richards welcomes Lauren Wickline, a licensed mental health therapist and podcaster. Lauren shares her personal journey into podcasting and discusses her experiences with covert narcissism. The conversation delves into the traits of covert narcissists, exploring Lauren's own experience of being discarded in public. Lauren reflects on her healing process, addressing whether she's still grieving and if she would have stayed in the relationship had she not been discarded. Lauren sheds more light on the inability of narcissists to be alone, healing from trauma bonds, and practical ways to recover from narcissistic relationships. Throughout the episode, Lauren offers insights on getting back to oneself after such experiences, providing valuable advice for women navigating similar situations.
Lauren is a licensed mental health therapist in the state of Virginia. She has been practicing in a variety of settings since 2017 to include public schools, acute inpatient hospitals, and outpatient. She has always been passionate about the performing arts to include, singing, theater, and Irish dance. She is passionate about implementing these experiences to include expressive arts, metaphor, and storytelling in all settings as a form of healing. In April of 2023 Lauren experienced a discard from someone she thought was the love of her life. While she began her spiritual/healing journey, Lauren had some professional as well as personal revelations which has motivated her to tell this story in order to help others. She discovered a concept that was first coined in the 1980s by Dr. Dan Kiley called Peter Pan and Wendy’s Syndrome. While these aren’t official terms and diagnoses in the DSM-V, she couldn’t help but find that these pop culture psychology terms are very relevant in today’s society. She hopes to use her story to help and educate others about the damages caused by emotionally unavailable, narcissistic, people. She also hopes to also share information on ways to move past the “Wendy’s Syndrome” which includes anxious attachment, people pleasing, and codependent tendencies. As a recovering people pleaser herself, Lauren hopes that her podcast, Life After Discard, will help others see their worth and bring to light ways to avoid being caught in a Peter Pan and Wendy Syndrome dynamic in their relationships.
Tune in to gain empowering strategies for recognizing covert narcissism, rebuilding self-esteem, and fostering healthier relationships, as well as practical tools for healing and reclaiming your identity after narcissistic abuse.
Timestamps
[02:22] How Lauren got into podcasting
[06:00] Is Lauren still grieving?
[08:07] Traits of a covert narcissist
[10:53] How Lauren was discarded in public
[14:00] How Laura was reverse discarded by her ex-husband
[22:04] Would Lauren have stayed if she had not been discarded?
[28:30] Narcissists cannot be alone for long
[34:39] How to heal from a trauma bond
[38:05] Ways to help heal from a narcissistic relationship
[43:38] Getting back to yourself
Notable Quotes “A narcissist is someone who has a high need for control and a lack of empathy.” “They are attracted to those people pleasers, the people who are givers, but you have to remember that takers will take.” “When you are so manipulated, you allow almost anything.” “When you have that revelation, there is no going back.” “Not everybody is going to like the healed version of you, and not everybody deserves the healed version of you.”RESOURCES:
MARRIED TO A “NICE” GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HERE
PRIVATE FACEBOOK SUPPORT GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/marriedtoaniceguy
FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com
BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards
RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources
FOLLOW LAUREN:
WEBSITE: https://laurenwicktherapist.blogspot.com
INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/lauren_wickywicky
PODCAST: Life After Discard, available on Spotify, Amazon, Apple, and iHeart https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lauren-w7
SURVIVING PETER PAN BLOG: https://laurenwicktherapist.blogspot.com
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Navigating the treacherous waters of narcissistic relationships can be a particularly daunting and emotionally draining experience for women. Many find themselves trapped in a cycle of manipulation, self-doubt, and emotional turmoil, often sacrificing their own needs and identities to appease their narcissistic partners. However, there is hope for breaking free from these destructive patterns and reclaiming one's self-worth. By understanding the narcissist's playbook, female survivors can arm themselves with the knowledge and tools necessary to heal, grow, and ultimately thrive beyond the shadow of narcissistic abuse.
In today's episode of the That's Where I'm At Podcast, Laura Richards is joined by Chelli Pumphrey, a Licensed Professional Counselor with 30 years of clinical experience specializing in trauma and recovery from narcissistic abuse. The discussion explores the complexities of narcissistic relationships, offering valuable insights on recognizing patterns, breaking cycles, and healing from trauma. Chelli delves into various aspects of narcissism, including its origins, common survivor experiences, and effective strategies for overcoming narcissistic patterns. She emphasizes the importance of journaling, understanding attachment styles, and engaging in trauma therapy.
Chelli Pumphrey is a Licensed Professional Counselor with 30 years of clinical experience specializing in trauma, adult attachment, and recovery from narcissistic and psychopathic abuse. Chelli is the author of "Insight is 20/20: How To Trust Yourself To Protect Yourself From Narcissistic Abuse & Toxic Relationships" and offers a holistic, mind-body-spirit approach to therapy.
As a Certified Narcissistic Abuse Survivor Therapist and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional, Chelli brings a wealth of knowledge and expertise to help survivors recognize and overcome narcissistic behaviors. Her unique blend of traditional and integrative therapies, including EMDR, psychospiritual growth, Reiki, and ketamine-assisted therapies, provides a comprehensive toolkit for healing and personal growth.
Tune in to learn more about effective strategies for recognizing and overcoming narcissistic behaviors, empowering women to establish healthier boundaries, and cultivating fulfilling relationships that honor their authentic selves.
Timestamps
[02:53] Are we more diagnosing or being more aware of narcissism?
[07:58] How Chelli got into being a trauma professional
[13:07] How your brain gets trained
[17:41] Common things survivors say about narcissists
[19:45] The origin of narcissism
[24:32] Journaling narcissists’ patterns
[27:31] How to break narcissist patterns
[33:20] Attachment styles
[35:37] Therapy and narcissism
[41:48] Things you will benefit from working on yourself
[42:56] Chelli’s thoughts on PTSD
[45:27] Trauma therapy training
Notable Quotes “1% of the United States population is diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder.” “If you think there is an issue, you just need strategy.” “It’s important to talk to a therapist or do other kinds of holistic therapy as well.” “Do not go start dating when you are in the middle of a separation.” “You must work on healing trauma with trauma therapy.”RESOURCES:
MARRIED TO A “NICE” GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HERE
PRIVATE FACEBOOK SUPPORT GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/marriedtoaniceguy
FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com
BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards
RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources
FOLLOW CHELLI: https://www.chellipumphrey.com
BOOK: https://www.amazon.com/Insight-20-Yourself-Narcissistic-Relationships/dp/B0B27PTQ5S/https:/www.facebook.com/chellipumphreytherapy
https://www.instagram.com/chellipumphrey
https://www.linkedin.com/in/chellipumphrey
C (COMPLEX)-PTSD DEFINITION: https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/24881-cptsd-complex-ptsd
DOG WHISTLING DEFINITION: https://katiecouric.com/lifestyle/relationships/what-is-a-dog-whistle-narcissistic-abuse/#:~:text=Dog%20whistles%20are%20also%20used,person%20they%20wish%20to%20devalue.
ATTACHMENT STYLES: https://www.attachmentproject.com/blog/four-attachment-styles
NATIONAL DOMESTIC VIOLENCE HOTLINE: https://www.thehotline.org/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=domestic_violence
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Navigating relationships with narcissistic individuals can be a challenging and often emotionally draining experience. Finding your voice in these situations is crucial for maintaining your sense of self and making decisions that align with your well-being. It's essential to recognize the signs of narcissistic behavior, understand its impact on your mental health, and develop strategies to assert your needs and boundaries. This process of self-discovery and empowerment can be both liberating and daunting, requiring courage, self-reflection, and often professional support. By learning to identify narcissistic traits, cultivating self-awareness, and prioritizing your emotional health, you can begin to make informed decisions about the future of your relationship and reclaim your voice in the process.
In today’s episode of the That’s Where I’m At Podcast, Laura Richards, the host, is joined by Mireille Nicole, a certified relationship coach on a mission to empower women in their pursuit of happiness. The discussion delves into the complexities of navigating narcissistic relationships, offering valuable guidance on trusting intuition, setting boundaries, and making crucial decisions about staying or leaving. Mireille shares her personal journey and professional expertise, emphasizing the importance of self-discovery, healing, and maintaining a sense of fun in relationships.
Mireille has been obsessed with anything romantic — books, movies — all of her life. Divorced [by choice] and remarried [but almost failed], she is now navigating "blended family" life with her soulmate. Having gone through a lot in the love department, she’s on a mission to help other women ditch the struggle and have their Happily Ever After.
She holds a certificate in relationship coaching from IAP Career College and is a member of the IAPO International Association of Professional Relationship Coaches. In her spare time, Mireille enjoys mountain biking, date nights and being a mom.
Tune in to learn more!
Timestamps
[03:15] How Mireille became a relationship coach
[08:35] Mireille’s pivotal moment in her journey
[11:18] The variety of women coming to Mireille for coaching
[14:06] Trusting your intuition
[15:25] How to handle relationship issues
[19:47] Having fun as a woman
[21:14] Healing
[24:09] Mireille’s thoughts on Should I stay or should I go situation
[27:40] The decision to either leave or stay
[29:37] The reality about boundaries
[33:43] About Mireille’s life now
[36:10] Having the tools to recover
[38:17] Mireille’s mission
Notable Quotes “Awareness is key.” “If your partner is not willing to do couples therapy, you are doomed.” “When you treat your husband like gold, he will act like gold.” “When you pick a partner, you pick a set of problems.” “You can make the decision to leave, obviously, if you are experiencing narcissistic abuse.” “Sometimes we need to focus really on ourselves and what we are doing and really detach from what the man is doing so that we can discover who we are.” “Boundaries are for you to express what you need and what you are going to do if something doesn’t happen.” RESOURCES:MARRIED TO A “NICE” GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HERE
PRIVATE FACEBOOK SUPPORT GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/marriedtoaniceguy/
FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com
BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards
RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources
FOLLOW MIREILLE:WEBSITE: https://stan.store/mireillenicolecoaching
FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/mireilletheriault1979
YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@mireillenicolecoaching
INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/mireillenicolecoaching/
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