Episodes
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This episode is for you if you perceive your partner doesn't care about you, or things in your relationship that you want them to care about— OR if your partner perceives YOU don't care. Either way, you'll have some new tools to work with to have better conversations! Btw— happy 100th episode! Thanks for supporting this podcast. You guys are great. Links mentioned: Email List - Stay in touch I'm going on maternity leave in January! I'll be in touch via email for a while. Please subscribe! As thanks, I'll send you my free relationship anxiety meditation to help you snap out of ruminating. Get that here. 1:1 Mentorship Promo - Me in your back pocket I'm offering a 1:1 promo through the month of November. 1-month intensive mentorship with 4 90-minute sessions, WhatsApp support, and my signature course Both Feet In. Get that here. Both Feet In - Get help at your own pace Get my signature program to help you pull your other foot out the door in your relationship, open your heart, and make a decision you feel proud of either way — all in your own time. PDFs, audio/video recordings, and support from other students. Get that here. Patreon - Join my community Lastly, if you love my work, please consider sponsoring me on Patreon! I appreciate it so much. I offer discounts, some exclusive content, and a monthly community support call on Zoom where you can ask me anything, for $5-9/month, cancel anytime. By the time you hear this, my November call will have already passed (but you can watch in retrospect), but our next one will be Saturday, December 14th at 9am PST. Become a patron here.
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Storytime: this episode reveals the moment my whole life turned around and I chose my partner, and what I believe it takes to access a place inside of yourself where making that kind of decision naturally happens with ease and even a sense of relief. Join me for Anxious to Spacious October 24th - November 30th: 6 weeks to open your heart and transform relationship anxiety into profound love Both Feet In Self Study I also mentioned Stefi. Here is her website and offerings: www.alpenhafen.at Ask me anything on Wisio
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I'd love to give you a better understanding of intuition in this episode. This is the MOST common question I receive... and before I give you the answer, I'd like to point out some issues with the question itself. You'll learn: What intuition is and isn't The false dichotomy you might accidentally be pigeonholing yourself into The limitations of only doing somatic work and meditation for relationship anxiety How to use your anxiety to communicate better Join me on October 24th for my last womens' group for a while, Anxious to Spacious. You'll learn: - Consciousness Exercise, a practice that snapped me out of overthinking my relationship and massively upgraded my communication skills How to process stagnant, old emotions clouding your ability to access clear thinking and intuition How to use Consciousness Exercise to articulate your problems to your partner in a way that inspires them to want to help you rather than blame you, withdraw, and/or deflect Sign up for Anxious to Spacious here. Prefer not to do a group, but go at your own pace? Do my self-study course, Both Feet In. Other links: Ask me anything on Wisio Come to my monthly community support call for $5-$9/month HERE Podcast Ep 81: May I tell you about my miscarriage?
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Ever felt anxious or embarrassed by your socially awkward partner? You're not alone and not crazy. I've got you. Here's a mental shift you can make to have more peace, and also some actionable steps you can take to support your partner in becoming more of a social butterfly. Links: Next call (with my husband Preston!) on Patreon: October 6th at 9am PST. Questions open October 3. Become a patron HERE Anxious to Spacious, my women's group, starts October 24th. Register HERE
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Does your partner tune you out, or get defensive and withdrawn when you try to get vulnerable with them? Check you're not accidentally repelling them by doing this one thing. If you prefer to watch the IG live you can do so here Anxious to Spacious, my women's group, starts October 24th. Register HERE
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This goes for any women in relationships with men, or yin people in relations with yang people. If you find yourself feeling "off" in your relationship, it might not be you're in the wrong relationship but playing the wrong role. Here's how to flip it! Consciousness Exercise Series has been renamed to: Anxious to Spacious, my women's group, starts October 24th. Register HERE Next Patreon community support call: Sunday, October 6th at 9am PST (btw, my husband Preston will be joining me so you can pick his brain!) Join here for $5-9/month and access discounts, exclusive content, and my monthly call where you can ask me anything. Cancel anytime. Other mentions: Send me a Wisio
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I'm sharing something a relationship coach shared with me that really shook me up and convinced me to step up in my relationship and quit committing to the story I was powerless to do anything about my anxiety. It may be hard for some of you to hear, but for some it may be empowering. Love is not always pleasant and nurturing-sounding. That said, there is no advice that is one-size-fits-all, so take what you need and discard what you don't.
Links:
How I broke free from relationship anxiety - episode 1
How I Broke Free from Relationship Anxiety: Revisited - episode 57
Consciousness Exercise Series has been renamed to:
Anxious to Spacious, my women's group, starts October 24th. Register HEREPatreon: Get support in my monthly community call, view archives of past calls, and get exclusive posts and discounts! Next community call September 13th at 9am PST.
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Scientific, biological, and spiritual reasons why you might feel disconnected from your partner before and during your period. I speak both to women experiencing this, and men who might want to know how to respond to this! I would like to reasure you that this dynamic is NOT a problem -- it is merely a symptom of one, and I'd like you to think much bigger at the internal imbalances at play so that you can enjoy one another all cycle long. If you get PMS, PMDD, anxiety, OCD, breakup urges strongest during your second half... this episode was MADE for you. Nat's Amazon book recomendations My previous episode of Anxious Love Coach on the menstral cycle Consciousness Exercise Series has been renamed to: Anxious to Spacious, my women's group, starts October 24th. Register HERE Patreon: next community support call September 13th at 9am PST. Bring your questions! Cancel anytime. $5-$9 a month. Join here.
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In the past I've touched on this as an incompatibility, but as usual — I think it's more nuanced than that, and there are a few things you might do to try to get on the same page before you either hang up your desires or call it quits.
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Next Patreon community call: September 13th at 9am PST - Become a patron here for $5-9/month to get access to Q&As with me monthly, exclusive posts, be part of intimate group discussions, get discounts, and get first access to things. Cancel anytime.
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After a few-months long hiatus, I’m happy to share what I’ve been up to: settling down and starting a new life. In this episode, I share some of my own humbling realities and observations of trying to conceive. Do with them what you want. I hope you find them both reassuring and illuminating.
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I have room to take a few 1:1 clients. Book your session(s) here: $500-$1900
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This episode is a recording of an impromptu Instagram Live I did last week. If you can see this pattern in yourself, you can also find freedom!
Work with me:
Next Patreon Community Call: Friday, June 7th at 8am PST. The call will last 2.5 hours. We will have an embodiment practice with Chelsea Horton from Healing Embodied, and then she and I will host a Q&A together. Become a patron here
I am currently open for 1:1 sessions. You can book yours (or buy a 4-pack) here.
Ask me anything on Wisio and I'll make you a custom video in response within 7 days.
Who we are:
Natalie Kennedy @Anxiouslovecoach
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My most "meta" episode yet...
If your suffering about your relationship is caused by comparisons to illusions (rose-colored memories of your ex, Disney, Tiktok), then can we flip the dynamic on its head and re-invigorate the relationship by using illusion to our advantage?
Warning: I'm about to ruin attraction for you in this episode.
**Upcoming: Sex Anxiety Clinic with Shayna Hiller - A virtual masterclass to awaken pleasure, and release shame and dread in the bedroom: March 14, 2024 at 2pm PST/5pm EST. Register here.
Ask me anything on Wisio: www.wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach
Who we are:
Natalie Kennedy @AnxiouslovecoachTime Stamps:
4:55 - Falling for the illusion of your partner
13:00 - Finding a partner that challenges your unconsciousness
16:35 - Two ways to improve your sex life
22:55 - Our sex anxiety clinic
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If you've ever experienced dread around making love due to the "ick," pain, anxiety, shame, or being too tired, this episode is for you! I'm excited to introduce a dear friend and mentor of mine, who is also a trained Tao Tantric Priestess, Integrative Nutrition Coach, and Yoga Teacher. Her name is Shayna Hiller. In this episode, we will discuss the causes of dread around sex, as well as what you can do to start looking forward to sex especially if it's gotten stale in the bedroom. You're not alone; No, you're not broken, and no, you're not necessarily with the wrong partner if you're not feeling turned on by their mere presence!
Register for the Sex Anxiety Clinic: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/sexanxietyclinic
To apply for Shayna's retreat and/or training: www.embodiedwisdomretreat.com or Shayna's website www.shaynahiller.com
Next ALC Patreon community call: Saturday, March 2nd at 9am PST/12pm EST: www.patreon.com/anxiouslovecoach.com
Who we are:
Natalie Kennedy @Anxiouslovecoach
Shayna Hiller @Shaynahiller
Time Stamps:
6:52 Shayna’s long-term celibacy in her twenties
12:43 Clearing sexual trauma through the tantric arts
19:51 Inspiring your partner to be their best selves
26:34 Deciding that you don’t like sex, when the reality is that you dislike the sex you are having
30:21 How stress leads to anxiety in the bedroom
37:10 Normalizing the ebbs and flows in your relationship and your sex life
38:30 Scheduling sex
46:15 What to do when you dread having sex with your healthy, loving partner
1:05:00 Sex Anxiety Masterclass on March 14th 2pm PST
1:11:12 You are wired for pleasure
1:14:43 Shayna’s Embodied Wisdom Retreat
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An underrated skill in the path of overcoming relationship anxiety: reclaiming softness, befriending anxiety, and learning to trust and follow glimmers of joy. This episode was so tender and beautiful it made me weepy. I am very grateful to present to you this episode with Jessica Fawn, yoga and tantra teacher. We spoke about seeing anxiety as a profound messenger for healing, and learning to nurture it— and what that can look like in the context of partnership.
Also, I will be joining her Temple membership, so see you there 🙂
Temple is Jessica Fawn's online school for women's softness & sensuality. Memberships start at 15$ per month. Doors open March 25-28th.
The daily schedule includes goddess tantra, art therapy, archetypal work, moon rituals, sensual dance, and self-love cultivation.
To read more about Temple: www.intothetemple.com/temple-school
Special gift for Anxious Love Coach Podcast listeners: receive 10% OFF on all plans: use the coupon code SISTERLOVE
Who we are:
Natalie Kennedy @AnxiouslovecoachJessica Fawn @jessicafawn_
Time Stamps:
4:00 - Jessica’s journey through anxiety and depression
8:40 - The power of embracing your anxiety
15:20 - What does “softness” mean in the feminine context?
19:00 - Working with a dysregulated nervous system from an embodiment perspective
30:45 - Jessica’s Temple program
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If you've experienced profound healing and liberation from relationship anxiety, you may have felt the desire to pass this transformation on to others. If that's you, you're going to want to give this a listen and hear what it's like to be on the other side as a practitioner, and what it takes to hold outstanding healing space for others. Also, my dearest friend is hosting the first practitioner program of its kind that I've seen. I highly endorse this and recommend you join.
Wisio (my "Ask Nat" service): www.wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach - use the code LOVE2024 for 10% off through 2/20/24
Patreon: www.patreon.com/anxiouslovecoach - Next group meditation + coaching call Saturday, March 2nd 9am PST/12pm EST
For the practitioner program:
Waitlist link: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/practitioner-training
You can also email Chelsea - [email protected]
Upcoming free event for those interested: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/hangout
Who we are:
Natalie Kennedy @AnxiouslovecoachChelsea Joy Horton @Healingembodied
Time Stamps:
8:00 Chelsea and Natalie’s paths into relationship anxiety and embodiment work
12:05 Downsides of working in the world of therapy
18:30 How Chelsea’s current work differs from traditional therapy
38:15 Creating a “human first” business
45:00 Chelsea’s practitioner training program
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Two things are true: 1) I am unqualified to speak on ERP and OCD and 2) I am sharing my thoughts about ERP for those that still want to hear them even though I am unqualified.
What is ERP (Exposure & Response Prevention)? How helpful is it for those with relationship anxiety? What are its strengths and limitations? In this episode, I'll share my thoughts on this treatment.
Join me for Both Feet In - Abridged: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-abridged
If you need immediate support, write me a Wisio. I'll make you a 7-10 minute custom video response. Here: https://wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach
We will be bumping up to 2 calls a month on Patreon when we hit 250 patrons — one for Q&A and one for meditation practice! Our next call is Sunday, February 11th at 8am PST/11am EST.
https://patreon.com/anxiouslovecoach
Who we are:
Natalie Kennedy @AnxiouslovecoachTime Stamps:
5:04 What is ERP (exposure response therapy)?
9:34 The dangers of disassociating
13:00 What is polarity work?
20:00 Compassionate self-inquiry
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My beloved Aunt Diane sent me some tips and I don't gatekeep. Listen up!
Join me for Both Feet In - Abridged starting January 19th: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-abridged
If you need immediate support, write me a Wisio. I'll make you a 7-10 minute custom video response. Here: https://wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach
We will be bumping up to 2 calls a month on Patreon when we hit 250 patrons — one for Q&A and one for meditation practice! Our next call is January 21st at 11am PST. Join here: https://patreon.com/anxiouslovecoach
Who we are:
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Hey! I'm testing out a new mic, so bear with me. 😉
If you tend to compare your partner to other people in real life or online, this episode is for you! I used to struggle with this a lot, but these tools have become second nature to me now and both my husband and I are much happier and more in love than ever.
Join me for Both Feet In - Abridged starting January 19th: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-abridged
If you need immediate support, write me a Wisio. I'll make you a 7-10 minute custom video response. Here: https://wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach
We will be bumping up to 2 calls a month on Patreon when we hit 250 patrons — one for Q&A and one for meditation practice! Our next call is January 21st at 11am PST. Join here: https://patreon.com/anxiouslovecoach
Who we are:
Natalie Kennedy @AnxiouslovecoachTime Stamps:
3:50 Grieving the lives that you were unable to live
4:40 Tips to stop comparing your relationship to those of others
13:40 Both Feet In - Abridged
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So many clients of mine feel ashamed when they experience a crush while in partnership. It’s a highly charged, delicate topic! You’re not alone, and you’re not a bad partner. If you’ve experienced this, I’d like to give you some tools to navigate it ethically while also honoring your humanness. I’ll be covering 5 tips to get you from freaking out, to getting under the surface of your crush, to using it to enhance your relationship with yourself and maybe even your loved one.
Join me for Both Feet In - Abridged starting January 19th: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-abridged
If you need immediate support, write me a Wisio. I'll make you a 7-10 minute custom video response. Here: https://wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach
We will be bumping up to 2 calls a month on Patreon when we hit 250 patrons — one for Q&A and one for meditation practice! Our next call is January 21st at 11am PST. Join here: https://patreon.com/anxiouslovecoach
Who we are:
Natalie Kennedy @AnxiouslovecoachTime Stamps:
3:50 Allowing the fantasy of the crush
5:30 What happens in your mind is private
6:40 Who we perceive ourselves to be in the fantasy
9:15 Grieving your unlived lives
12:10 Working with the tension between opposites
15:20 Acknowledging what is going right in your relationship
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Trigger warning: this episode is a story. It is chock-full of triggers, pain, grief, mentions of death, blood, and gore. If you've experienced miscarriage and there are some sore spots and tenderness, I might wait until you've gotten enough support to grieve before listening to this. In this episode, I share a recent loss, and how I've coped with it through ritual, embodiment, and dark humor. I'll also share the incredible things it taught me about love, loss, and letting go...
This may not be a "relationship anxiety" episode, but for those of you who are willing to traverse with me to a darker, messier place, I'm hopeful you'll gain metaphorical, transferable lessons on self-trust from a story where I go deeper than I've ever been able to go before... you may find it applies to you deeply still if you have ever loved.
Join me for Both Feet In - Abridged staring January 19th: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-abridged
If you need immediate support, write me a Wisio. I'll make you a 7-10 minute custom video response. Here: https://wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach
We will be bumping up to 2 calls a month on Patreon when we hit 250 patrons — one for Q&A and one for meditation practice! Our next call is January 21st at 11am PST. Join here: https://patreon.com/anxiouslovecoach
Who we are:
Natalie Kennedy @AnxiouslovecoachTime Stamps:
8:15 - Finding out that I was pregnant
13:15 - Dealing with my miscarriage
30:04 - Surrendering to and trusting the universe in the midst of fear
48:00 - My feelings after the miscarriage
1:00:01 - Gratitude as a response to adversity
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