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In this interview, you're going to hear me open up in a way that many of my followers have likely not heard before. This video is about my experience of discovering the only thing truly worth living (or dying) for.
Unconditional love is a strange concept for a lot of guys. They think they know what "unconditional love" means. But only when you begin to love all your most vulnerable parts unconditionally -- the ones holding the shame, fear, sadness, etc. -- are you then able to love an intimate partner unconditionally. Unconditional love means that when we choose to give love, we love that person without conditions.
Unconditional love does not mean disrespecting healthy boundaries, accepting abuse, or permitting harm. Healthy boundaries are good for both parties. Spoiling the child is not good for you or the child. Similarly, becoming codependent is not good for either partner. Unconditional love also does not mean indiscriminate love. It does not mean we love everyone, always, equally. That's indiscriminate. Unconditional love means that when choose to give love to someone, we do so without expecting any return, regardless of the circumstances.
Beware the feeling of what you think might be ”unconditional love” in a romantic relationship unless you have already discovered this state in a non-romantic relationship. There is too much else mixed in with romantic relationships — sexual desire, ego validation, peer approval, finances, etc. — for the novice to disentangle or isolate from it the element of unconditional love. This is much better learned from loving an innocent party, such as your child (or god-daughter, in my case) or even your pet dog.
Once you understand the meaning and experience the depth of unconditional love, you enter an entirely new dimension of reality. I really hope you enjoy this video!
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For over a decade, David Tian, Ph.D., has helped hundreds of thousands of people from over 87 countries find happiness, success, and fulfillment in their social, professional, and love lives. His presentations - whether keynotes, seminars, or workshops - leave clients with insights into their behavior, psychology, and keys to their empowerment.
His training methodologies are the result of over a decade of coaching, therapy, and education of thousands of students around the world. Join him on the “DTPHD Podcast” as he explores deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life. Subscribe now.
Connect with David Tian here:
Website: https://www.davidtianphd.com/
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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/TheAuraUniversity
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Podcast: https://www.davidtianphd.com/dtphdpodcast
Medium: https://medium.com/@davidtian
Twitter: https://twitter.com/davidtianphd
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For transcriptions and more free resources, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/life-decisions/true-meaning-of-life/
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Join David Tian on the “DTPHD Podcast” as we explore deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life.
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For over a decade, David Tian, Ph.D., has helped hundreds of thousands of people from over 87 countries find happiness, success, and fulfillment in their social, professional, and love lives. His presentations - whether keynotes, seminars, or workshops - leave clients with insights into their behavior, psychology, and keys to their empowerment.
His training methodologies are the result of over a decade of coaching, therapy, and education of thousands of students around the world. Join him on the “DTPHD Podcast” as he explores deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life. Subscribe now.
Connect with David Tian here:
Website: https://www.davidtianphd.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/davidtianphd
DTPHD Podcast Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dtphdpodcast/
Man Up Show Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/manupcommunity/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/TheAuraUniversity
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/davidtianphd/
Podcast: https://www.davidtianphd.com/dtphdpodcast
Medium: https://medium.com/@davidtian
Twitter: https://twitter.com/davidtianphd
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About Stefan Ravalli:
Forever studying masterful humans and the art of service the world over to bring their practices to our (sometimes “service-deficient”) culture, Stefan Ravalli combines all that with his expertise in meditation, mindfulness, and communication/listening to raise the game of service professionals - and anyone looking to upgrade how they connect with others (and themselves). Learning meditation was a game-changer for Stefan.
It gave him the inner strength to be his unique self (without the negative self-talk!), connect with others better, and live a healthy happy life. Meditation also makes you realize your potential and gives you the fearlessness to pursue bigger and better things you never thought possible, so Stefan left a leadership role at a high-profile bar/restaurant to India to teach meditation. After doing that for years and deepening his tea ceremony practice, Stefan realized that the art of service was the richest path of self-cultivation available to him.
Serving anything anywhere was the best way to apply and accelerate all the upgrades he got from meditation. So he started Serve Conscious to bring these tools and practices to anyone where service is part of their life - to awaken us to the power of service as a means of growth and self-mastery.
Learn more about Stefan Ravalli here:
http://serveconscious.com
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Join David Tian on the “DTPHD Podcast” as we explore deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life.
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For over a decade, David Tian, Ph.D., has helped hundreds of thousands of people from over 87 countries find happiness, success, and fulfillment in their social, professional, and love lives. His presentations - whether keynotes, seminars, or workshops - leave clients with insights into their behavior, psychology, and keys to their empowerment.
His training methodologies are the result of over a decade of coaching, therapy, and education of thousands of students around the world. Join him on the “DTPHD Podcast” as he explores deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life. Subscribe now.
Connect with David Tian here:
Website: https://www.davidtianphd.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/davidtianphd
DTPHD Podcast Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dtphdpodcast/
Man Up Show Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/manupcommunity/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/TheAuraUniversity
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/davidtianphd/
Podcast: https://www.davidtianphd.com/dtphdpodcast
Medium: https://medium.com/@davidtian
Twitter: https://twitter.com/davidtianphd
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About Stefan Ravalli:
Forever studying masterful humans and the art of service the world over to bring their practices to our (sometimes “service-deficient”) culture, Stefan Ravalli combines all that with his expertise in meditation, mindfulness, and communication/listening to raise the game of service professionals - and anyone looking to upgrade how they connect with others (and themselves). Learning meditation was a game-changer for Stefan.
It gave him the inner strength to be his unique self (without the negative self-talk!), connect with others better, and live a healthy happy life. Meditation also makes you realize your potential and gives you the fearlessness to pursue bigger and better things you never thought possible, so Stefan left a leadership role at a high-profile bar/restaurant to India to teach meditation. After doing that for years and deepening his tea ceremony practice, Stefan realized that the art of service was the richest path of self-cultivation available to him.
Serving anything anywhere was the best way to apply and accelerate all the upgrades he got from meditation. So he started Serve Conscious to bring these tools and practices to anyone where service is part of their life - to awaken us to the power of service as a means of growth and self-mastery.
Learn more about Stefan Ravalli here:
http://serveconscious.com
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Shownotes:
1:02 What’s the default state of achievers, and why does it matter?
4:45 Two metaphors for how best to view the worth of a human being
8:36 How achievers become worthy of love and connection
10:35 How meditation helps you find your own value
16:44 How growing and striving relate to meeting your need for significance
20:55 When the pursuit of significance becomes unhealthy
25:01 One of the big downsides from being in the Flow state
27:26 Why people put off their happiness
30:44 How to find fulfillment in the present
36:11 Why achievers don't believe they're enough
40:33 This is what achievers fear when they reach their goals
45:56 What happens when you let go of striving for significance
49:02 The advantage of finding fulfillment in the present
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This talk is a short excerpt from a private Zoom seminar in May 2020 as part of the Aura Mastermind. The accompanying text for this seminar is Richard Schwartz, “You Are The One You’ve Been Waiting For”: https://ifs-institute.com/store/37
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Join David Tian on the “DTPHD Podcast” as we explore deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life.
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Get free access to Stefan and David’s new mantra meditation course here:
https://www.tenshinmindfulness.com/
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For over a decade, David Tian, Ph.D., has helped hundreds of thousands of people from over 87 countries find happiness, success, and fulfillment in their social, professional, and love lives. His presentations - whether keynotes, seminars, or workshops - leave clients with insights into their behavior, psychology, and keys to their empowerment.
His training methodologies are the result of over a decade of coaching, therapy, and education of thousands of students around the world. Join him on the “DTPHD Podcast” as he explores deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life. Subscribe now.
Connect with David Tian here:
Website: https://www.davidtianphd.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/davidtianphd
DTPHD Podcast Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dtphdpodcast/
Man Up Show Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/manupcommunity/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/TheAuraUniversity
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/davidtianphd/
Podcast: https://www.davidtianphd.com/dtphdpodcast
Medium: https://medium.com/@davidtian
Twitter: https://twitter.com/davidtianphd
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What An Unconditional Love Relationship Is Like Between Two True Selves Shownotes
1:02 David Tian Ph.D. explains how our various parts work in a relationship
9:28 What are exiled parts of ourselves?
15:52 This happens when you are the primary source of love for your parts
17:59 The three ways your most vulnerable parts were exiled
24:03 What qualities do we lose when parts of us are exiled?
26:00 This is how exiles feel in an intimate relationship
32:48 What extreme belief do our parts have about intimate relationships?
41:15 How attachment re-injuries impact our intimate relationships
46:55 How your partner can become your "tor-mentor"
50:49 The problem with our exiled parts
53:30 The solution to the problem with our exiled parts
56:08 Two major types of love
1:00:53 Common manifestations of protective parts in intimate relationships
1:03:22 Relationship troubleshooting issues to look out for
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Join David Tian on the “DTPHD Podcast” as we explore deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life.
Join our private Facebook group here:
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Get free access to Stefan and David’s new mantra meditation course here:
https://www.tenshinmindfulness.com/
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For over a decade, David Tian, Ph.D., has helped hundreds of thousands of people from over 87 countries find happiness, success, and fulfillment in their social, professional, and love lives. His presentations - whether keynotes, seminars, or workshops - leave clients with insights into their behavior, psychology, and keys to their empowerment.
His training methodologies are the result of over a decade of coaching, therapy, and education of thousands of students around the world. Join him on the “DTPHD Podcast” as he explores deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life. Subscribe now.
Connect with David Tian here:
Website: https://www.davidtianphd.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/davidtianphd
DTPHD Podcast Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dtphdpodcast/
Man Up Show Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/manupcommunity/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/TheAuraUniversity
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/davidtianphd/
Podcast: https://www.davidtianphd.com/dtphdpodcast
Medium: https://medium.com/@davidtian
Twitter: https://twitter.com/davidtianphd
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About Stefan Ravalli:
Forever studying masterful humans and the art of service the world over to bring their practices to our (sometimes “service-deficient”) culture, Stefan Ravalli combines all that with his expertise in meditation, mindfulness, and communication/listening to raise the game of service professionals - and anyone looking to upgrade how they connect with others (and themselves). Learning meditation was a game-changer for Stefan.
It gave him the inner strength to be his unique self (without the negative self-talk!), connect with others better, and live a healthy happy life. Meditation also makes you realize your potential and gives you the fearlessness to pursue bigger and better things you never thought possible, so Stefan left a leadership role at a high-profile bar/restaurant to India to teach meditation. After doing that for years and deepening his tea ceremony practice, Stefan realized that the art of service was the richest path of self-cultivation available to him.
Serving anything anywhere was the best way to apply and accelerate all the upgrades he got from meditation. So he started Serve Conscious to bring these tools and practices to anyone where service is part of their life - to awaken us to the power of service as a means of growth and self-mastery.
Learn more about Stefan Ravalli here:
http://serveconscious.com
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Should You Meditate? | DTPHD Podcast 32 Shownotes:
2:04 This is the most beneficial part of meditation
6:54 The most common reasons people do not stick with their meditation practice
11:25 Can meditation address specific “problem areas”?
14:43 The meditation app that David Tian Ph.D. recommends the most
19:06 Which meditation practice is best for you?
24:32 What do different types of meditation lead to?
28:48 This is how you know a meditation practice is working for you
33:25 The two meditation obstacles that people encounter most often
37:56 How can you gauge the results of meditation?
40:17 Skills you can learn from your meditation practice
44:45 What expectations should you have when it comes to your meditation practice
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This talk was originally filmed in late 2019 in at the W Taipei hotel.
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Join David Tian on the “DTPHD Podcast” as we explore deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life.
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For over a decade, David Tian, Ph.D., has helped hundreds of thousands of people from over 87 countries find happiness, success, and fulfillment in their social, professional, and love lives. His presentations - whether keynotes, seminars, or workshops - leave clients with insights into their behavior, psychology, and keys to their empowerment.
His training methodologies are the result of over a decade of coaching, therapy, and education of thousands of students around the world. Join him on the “DTPHD Podcast” as he explores deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life. Subscribe now.
Connect with David Tian here:
Website: https://www.davidtianphd.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/davidtianphd
DTPHD Podcast Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dtphdpodcast/
Man Up Show Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/manupcommunity/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/TheAuraUniversity
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/davidtianphd/
Podcast: https://www.davidtianphd.com/dtphdpodcast
Medium: https://medium.com/@davidtian
Twitter: https://twitter.com/davidtianphd
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Join David Tian on the “DTPHD Podcast” as we explore deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life.
Join our private Facebook group here:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/dtphdpodcast/
*****
Get free access to Stefan and David’s new mantra meditation course here:
https://www.tenshinmindfulness.com/
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For over a decade, David Tian, Ph.D., has helped hundreds of thousands of people from over 87 countries find happiness, success, and fulfillment in their social, professional, and love lives. His presentations - whether keynotes, seminars, or workshops - leave clients with insights into their behavior, psychology, and keys to their empowerment.
His training methodologies are the result of over a decade of coaching, therapy, and education of thousands of students around the world. Join him on the “DTPHD Podcast” as he explores deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life. Subscribe now.
Connect with David Tian here:
Website: https://www.davidtianphd.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/davidtianphd
DTPHD Podcast Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dtphdpodcast/
Man Up Show Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/manupcommunity/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/TheAuraUniversity
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/davidtianphd/
Podcast: https://www.davidtianphd.com/dtphdpodcast
Medium: https://medium.com/@davidtian
Twitter: https://twitter.com/davidtianphd
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About Stefan Ravalli:
Forever studying masterful humans and the art of service the world over to bring their practices to our (sometimes “service-deficient”) culture, Stefan Ravalli combines all that with his expertise in meditation, mindfulness, and communication/listening to raise the game of service professionals - and anyone looking to upgrade how they connect with others (and themselves). Learning meditation was a game-changer for Stefan.
It gave him the inner strength to be his unique self (without the negative self-talk!), connect with others better, and live a healthy happy life. Meditation also makes you realize your potential and gives you the fearlessness to pursue bigger and better things you never thought possible, so Stefan left a leadership role at a high-profile bar/restaurant to India to teach meditation. After doing that for years and deepening his tea ceremony practice, Stefan realized that the art of service was the richest path of self-cultivation available to him.
Serving anything anywhere was the best way to apply and accelerate all the upgrades he got from meditation. So he started Serve Conscious to bring these tools and practices to anyone where service is part of their life - to awaken us to the power of service as a means of growth and self-mastery.
Learn more about Stefan Ravalli here:
http://serveconscious.com
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Shownotes:
3:35 What are the two toxic extremes when it comes to trying to meet your needs?
7:55 Why connection is one of the highest human needs
14:24 How the need for connection is universal to all human beings
18:22 Why people often deny their emotional needs
23:33 How to meet your needs successfully
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Join David Tian on the “DTPHD Podcast” as we explore deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life.
Join our private Facebook group here:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/dtphdpodcast/
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For over a decade, David Tian, Ph.D., has helped hundreds of thousands of people from over 87 countries find happiness, success, and fulfillment in their social, professional, and love lives. His presentations - whether keynotes, seminars, or workshops - leave clients with insights into their behavior, psychology, and keys to their empowerment.
His training methodologies are the result of over a decade of coaching, therapy, and education of thousands of students around the world. Join him on the “DTPHD Podcast” as he explores deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life. Subscribe now.
Connect with David Tian here:
Website: https://www.davidtianphd.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/davidtianphd
DTPHD Podcast Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dtphdpodcast/
Man Up Show Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/manupcommunity/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/TheAuraUniversity
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/davidtianphd/
Podcast: https://www.davidtianphd.com/dtphdpodcast
Medium: https://medium.com/@davidtian
Twitter: https://twitter.com/davidtianphd
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HENRY CHONG is our special guest speaker on this episode.
Henry is Director of Fusang Capital, a fund management company that manages the assets of multi-family offices. He is also a Director at the Portcullis Group, Asia’s biggest independent group of trust companies, providing comprehensive wealth administration to high-net-worth individuals, providing a one-stop shop for corporate, trustee, and fund administration services to individuals, family offices, philanthropies, private banks, and investment managers.
Henry is a graduate of Oxford University with a B.A. (Hons) in Philosophy Politics & Economics and is a founder of the Oxford Economics Society. He also holds a M.Sc. in Behavioral Science from the London School of Economics and is a Fellow of the Royal Society of Arts (FRSC). He will be sharing with us from his deep insights in behavioral economics, finance, health, and psychology.
Connect with Henry here:
http://henrychong.com/http://henrychong.com/
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Shownotes:
2:24 How to define our needs for certainty and uncertainty in our lives
7:09 Why people are afraid of uncertainty
8:35 Understanding certainty and uncertainty through Campbell’s Jungian framework of the Hero's Journey
11:49 What are the opportunities in this period of uncertainty?
17:49 How your life success is related to your threshold of uncertainty
22:16 The importance of setting limits amidst these opportunities
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Join David Tian on the “DTPHD Podcast” as we explore deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life.
Join our private Facebook group here:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/dtphdpodcast/
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Get free access to Stefan and David’s new mantra meditation course here:
https://www.tenshinmindfulness.com/
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For over a decade, David Tian, Ph.D., has helped hundreds of thousands of people from over 87 countries find happiness, success, and fulfillment in their social, professional, and love lives. His presentations - whether keynotes, seminars, or workshops - leave clients with insights into their behavior, psychology, and keys to their empowerment.
His training methodologies are the result of over a decade of coaching, therapy, and education of thousands of students around the world. Join him on the “DTPHD Podcast” as he explores deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life. Subscribe now.
Connect with David Tian here:
Website: https://www.davidtianphd.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/davidtianphd
DTPHD Podcast Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dtphdpodcast/
Man Up Show Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/manupcommunity/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/TheAuraUniversity
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/davidtianphd/
Podcast: https://www.davidtianphd.com/dtphdpodcast
Medium: https://medium.com/@davidtian
Twitter: https://twitter.com/davidtianphd
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About Stefan Ravalli:
Forever studying masterful humans and the art of service the world over to bring their practices to our (sometimes “service-deficient”) culture, Stefan Ravalli combines all that with his expertise in meditation, mindfulness, and communication/listening to raise the game of service professionals - and anyone looking to upgrade how they connect with others (and themselves). Learning meditation was a game-changer for Stefan.
It gave him the inner strength to be his unique self (without the negative self-talk!), connect with others better, and live a healthy happy life. Meditation also makes you realize your potential and gives you the fearlessness to pursue bigger and better things you never thought possible, so Stefan left a leadership role at a high-profile bar/restaurant to India to teach meditation. After doing that for years and deepening his tea ceremony practice, Stefan realized that the art of service was the richest path of self-cultivation available to him.
Serving anything anywhere was the best way to apply and accelerate all the upgrades he got from meditation. So he started Serve Conscious to bring these tools and practices to anyone where service is part of their life - to awaken us to the power of service as a means of growth and self-mastery.
Learn more about Stefan Ravalli here:
http://serveconscious.com
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Shownotes:
1:00 Why some people think “judging” is bad and wrong
6:44 Are there drawbacks for judging?
13:55 Why should we stay open to judgment?
18:15 The difference between subjectivism and relativism, and why it matters
22:34 What is the value of non-judgment?
30:20 The value of leaning into discomfort
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Transcription and free resources are available here:
https://www.davidtianphd.com/podcast/why-judging/
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Join David Tian on the “DTPHD Podcast” as we explore deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life.
Join our private Facebook group here:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/dtphdpodcast/
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Get free access to Stefan and David’s new mantra meditation course here:
https://www.tenshinmindfulness.com/
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For over a decade, David Tian, Ph.D., has helped hundreds of thousands of people from over 87 countries find happiness, success, and fulfillment in their social, professional, and love lives. His presentations - whether keynotes, seminars, or workshops - leave clients with insights into their behavior, psychology, and keys to their empowerment.
His training methodologies are the result of over a decade of coaching, therapy, and education of thousands of students around the world. Join him on the “DTPHD Podcast” as he explores deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life. Subscribe now.
Connect with David Tian here:
Website: https://www.davidtianphd.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/davidtianphd
DTPHD Podcast Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dtphdpodcast/
Man Up Show Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/manupcommunity/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/TheAuraUniversity
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/davidtianphd/
Podcast: https://www.davidtianphd.com/dtphdpodcast
Medium: https://medium.com/@davidtian
Twitter: https://twitter.com/davidtianphd
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About Stefan Ravalli:
Forever studying masterful humans and the art of service the world over to bring their practices to our (sometimes “service-deficient”) culture, Stefan Ravalli combines all that with his expertise in meditation, mindfulness, and communication/listening to raise the game of service professionals - and anyone looking to upgrade how they connect with others (and themselves). Learning meditation was a game-changer for Stefan.
It gave him the inner strength to be his unique self (without the negative self-talk!), connect with others better, and live a healthy happy life. Meditation also makes you realize your potential and gives you the fearlessness to pursue bigger and better things you never thought possible, so Stefan left a leadership role at a high-profile bar/restaurant to India to teach meditation. After doing that for years and deepening his tea ceremony practice, Stefan realized that the art of service was the richest path of self-cultivation available to him.
Serving anything anywhere was the best way to apply and accelerate all the upgrades he got from meditation. So he started Serve Conscious to bring these tools and practices to anyone where service is part of their life - to awaken us to the power of service as a means of growth and self-mastery.
Learn more about Stefan Ravalli here:
http://serveconscious.com
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Shownotes:
1:04 How is gratitude a practice?
4:00 How gratitude affects your other life goals
9:08 What is the difference between process orientation and goal orientation, and why does it matter?
16:30 This happens when you are grateful for the things you have now
19:13 The key connection between gratitude and the vantage point of trust
24:23 How to turn anger into something positive
27:18 The importance of acknowledging and appreciating the emotions we feel
32:15 How psychological healing is related to being grateful
37:00 The power that comes from appreciating your life
40:08 How to practice gratitude in your life
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Transcription and free resources are available here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/podcast/gratitude-drives-out-fear/
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Join David Tian on the “DTPHD Podcast” as we explore deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life.
Join our private Facebook group here:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/dtphdpodcast/
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Get free access to Stefan and David’s new mantra meditation course here:
https://www.tenshinmindfulness.com/
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For over a decade, David Tian, Ph.D., has helped hundreds of thousands of people from over 87 countries find happiness, success, and fulfillment in their social, professional, and love lives. His presentations - whether keynotes, seminars, or workshops - leave clients with insights into their behavior, psychology, and keys to their empowerment.
His training methodologies are the result of over a decade of coaching, therapy, and education of thousands of students around the world. Join him on the “DTPHD Podcast” as he explores deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life. Subscribe now.
Connect with David Tian here:
Website: https://www.davidtianphd.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/davidtianphd
DTPHD Podcast Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dtphdpodcast/
Man Up Show Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/manupcommunity/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/TheAuraUniversity
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/davidtianphd/
Podcast: https://www.davidtianphd.com/dtphdpodcast
Medium: https://medium.com/@davidtian
Twitter: https://twitter.com/davidtianphd
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About Stefan Ravalli:
Forever studying masterful humans and the art of service the world over to bring their practices to our (sometimes “service-deficient”) culture, Stefan Ravalli combines all that with his expertise in meditation, mindfulness, and communication/listening to raise the game of service professionals - and anyone looking to upgrade how they connect with others (and themselves). Learning meditation was a game-changer for Stefan.
It gave him the inner strength to be his unique self (without the negative self-talk!), connect with others better, and live a healthy happy life. Meditation also makes you realize your potential and gives you the fearlessness to pursue bigger and better things you never thought possible, so Stefan left a leadership role at a high-profile bar/restaurant to India to teach meditation. After doing that for years and deepening his tea ceremony practice, Stefan realized that the art of service was the richest path of self-cultivation available to him.
Serving anything anywhere was the best way to apply and accelerate all the upgrades he got from meditation. So he started Serve Conscious to bring these tools and practices to anyone where service is part of their life - to awaken us to the power of service as a means of growth and self-mastery.
Learn more about Stefan Ravalli here:
http://serveconscious.com
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Shownotes:
1:20 One of the most important principles for success in life is this
4:36 What practice means to mindful living
8:11 What happens when you're not balanced and in your true self
11:08 This all-important second layer of practice
15:11 The most helpful practice for beginners
21:00 What does meditation really give you?
28:07 How to discover for yourself what you truly need
Transcription and free resources are available here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/podcast/practice-of-practice/
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Join David Tian on the “DTPHD Podcast” as we explore deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life.
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Get free access to Stefan and David’s new mantra meditation course here:
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For over a decade, David Tian, Ph.D., has helped hundreds of thousands of people from over 87 countries find happiness, success, and fulfillment in their social, professional, and love lives. His presentations - whether keynotes, seminars, or workshops - leave clients with insights into their behavior, psychology, and keys to their empowerment.
His training methodologies are the result of over a decade of coaching, therapy, and education of thousands of students around the world. Join him on the “DTPHD Podcast” as he explores deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life. Subscribe now.
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Celebrity personal trainer, peak performance health coach and podcaster Ted Ryce has overcome a tremendous amount in his quest to live a legendary life.
Ryce has worked with Fortune 500 CEOs, busy professionals, and celebrities, including Richard Branson, Ricky Martin, and Robert Downey Jr.
Connect with Ted here: https://legendarylifepodcast.com/free
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Show Notes:
2:40 How Ted overcame extreme adversity and changed his outlook on life to live his best life
10:25 The brain-body connection, does it matter?
14:40 The difference between pain and suffering, and why this is key to overcoming trauma
18:14 How the stories you tell yourself shape your reality
19:35 The difference between feelings and emotions, and how this is integral to your happiness
21:16 How the mind and the body are inextricably connected and why we mistakenly tried to split them
26:44 Being fully present as a way of life
32:23 One of the best ways to find happiness, fulfillment, and flow
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Transcription and free resources are available here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/podcast/psychological-healing-and-growth/
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Join David Tian on the “DTPHD Podcast” as we explore deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life.
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*****
Get free access to Stefan and David’s new mantra meditation course here:
https://www.tenshinmindfulness.com/
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For over a decade, David Tian, Ph.D., has helped hundreds of thousands of people from over 87 countries find happiness, success, and fulfillment in their social, professional, and love lives. His presentations - whether keynotes, seminars, or workshops - leave clients with insights into their behavior, psychology, and keys to their empowerment.
His training methodologies are the result of over a decade of coaching, therapy, and education of thousands of students around the world. Join him on the “DTPHD Podcast” as he explores deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life. Subscribe now.
Connect with David Tian here:
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DTPHD Podcast Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dtphdpodcast/
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Podcast: https://www.davidtianphd.com/dtphdpodcast
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Twitter: https://twitter.com/davidtianphd
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About Stefan Ravalli:
Forever studying masterful humans and the art of service the world over to bring their practices to our (sometimes “service-deficient”) culture, Stefan Ravalli combines all that with his expertise in meditation, mindfulness, and communication/listening to raise the game of service professionals - and anyone looking to upgrade how they connect with others (and themselves). Learning meditation was a game-changer for Stefan.
It gave him the inner strength to be his unique self (without the negative self-talk!), connect with others better, and live a healthy happy life. Meditation also makes you realize your potential and gives you the fearlessness to pursue bigger and better things you never thought possible, so Stefan left a leadership role at a high-profile bar/restaurant to India to teach meditation. After doing that for years and deepening his tea ceremony practice, Stefan realized that the art of service was the richest path of self-cultivation available to him.
Serving anything anywhere was the best way to apply and accelerate all the upgrades he got from meditation. So he started Serve Conscious to bring these tools and practices to anyone where service is part of their life - to awaken us to the power of service as a means of growth and self-mastery.
Learn more about Stefan Ravalli here:
http://serveconscious.com*****
Show Notes:
1:29 This is what most people do about their comfort zones
5:05 How to become comfortable with the uncomfortable
10:25 Is experiencing tension good or bad?
14:22 What causes resistance and repression?
18:50 How to know whether you’re feeling fear or excitement when you’re at the edge of your comfort zone
22:08 How to step beyond your comfort zone with the least effort
26:20 The mindset you should have in order to grow out of your comfort zone naturally
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Transcription and free resources are available here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/podcast/grow-out-of-your-comfort-zone/
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Join David Tian on the “DTPHD Podcast” as we explore deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life.
Join our private Facebook group here:
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*****
Get free access to Stefan and David’s new mantra meditation course here:
https://www.tenshinmindfulness.com/
*****
For over a decade, David Tian, Ph.D., has helped hundreds of thousands of people from over 87 countries find happiness, success, and fulfillment in their social, professional, and love lives. His presentations - whether keynotes, seminars, or workshops - leave clients with insights into their behavior, psychology, and keys to their empowerment.
His training methodologies are the result of over a decade of coaching, therapy, and education of thousands of students around the world. Join him on the “DTPHD Podcast” as he explores deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life. Subscribe now.
Connect with David Tian here:
Website: https://www.davidtianphd.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/davidtianphd
DTPHD Podcast Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dtphdpodcast/
Man Up Show Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/manupcommunity/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/TheAuraUniversity
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Podcast: https://www.davidtianphd.com/dtphdpodcast
Medium: https://medium.com/@davidtian
Twitter: https://twitter.com/davidtianphd
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HENRY CHONG is our special guest speaker on this episode.
Henry is Director of Fusang Capital, a fund management company that manages the assets of multi-family offices. He is also a Director at the Portcullis Group, Asia’s biggest independent group of trust companies, providing comprehensive wealth administration to high-net-worth individuals, providing a one-stop shop for corporate, trustee, and fund administration services to individuals, family offices, philanthropies, private banks, and investment managers.
Henry is a graduate of Oxford University with a B.A. (Hons) in Philosophy Politics & Economics and is a founder of the Oxford Economics Society. He also holds a M.Sc. in Behavioral Science from the London School of Economics and is a Fellow of the Royal Society of Arts (FRSC). He will be sharing with us from his deep insights in behavioral economics, finance, health, and psychology.
Connect with Henry here:
http://henrychong.com/http://henrychong.com/
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Show Notes:
3:40 Should you choose certainty over love or love over certainty?
6:45 This is the problem all achievers face
10:40 What is the art of fulfillment, and why does it matter?
15:20 Will achievement lead to fulfillment?
20:27 What does true fulfillment feel like?
25:06 How does fitness help us understand achievement vs. fulfillment?
29:17 What is the all-important concept of Flow?
34:53 What does it feel like to be in Flow?
39:31 What is life like without challenges?
44:02 Here’s the best way to handle internal resistance to accomplishing your goals
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Join David Tian on the “DTPHD Podcast” as we explore deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life.
Join our private Facebook group here:
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*****
For over a decade, David Tian, Ph.D., has helped hundreds of thousands of people from over 87 countries find happiness, success, and fulfillment in their social, professional, and love lives. His presentations - whether keynotes, seminars, or workshops - leave clients with insights into their behavior, psychology, and keys to their empowerment.
His training methodologies are the result of over a decade of coaching, therapy, and education of thousands of students around the world. Join him on the “DTPHD Podcast” as he explores deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life. Subscribe now.
Connect with David Tian here:
Website: https://www.davidtianphd.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/davidtianphd
DTPHD Podcast Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dtphdpodcast/
Man Up Show Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/manupcommunity/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/TheAuraUniversity
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Podcast: https://www.davidtianphd.com/dtphdpodcast
Medium: https://medium.com/@davidtian
Twitter: https://twitter.com/davidtianphd
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Show Notes:
2:40 What David and Micha have learned from many years in the pursuit of success
6:39 Why you need to "turn inward" to understand yourself and life fully
10:33 The crucial connections between narcissism, co-dependency, and addiction, and why these are important for EVERYONE
15:50 This is why many men get into "game" when it comes to their dating lives
18:27 What emotions make life most worth living?
24:24 The root causes of almost all human suffering
28:14 How to tap into your most powerful emotions
33:20 What's lies underneath our anger that can not only soften it but also harness it
37:40 How to eliminate your fears
42:03 Why meditation will change your life
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Transcription and free resources are available here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/podcast/gratitude-drives-out-fear/
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This episode is a psychological analysis of the Joker 2019 movie and touches on the shadow, persona, Codependent Narcissism (One-Down Narcissism), and some broader societal issues.
Join David Tian on the “DTPHD Podcast” as we explore deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life.
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NOTE: This the amended version of the video, which originally had synching issues.
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For over a decade, David Tian, Ph.D., has helped hundreds of thousands of people from over 87 countries find happiness, success, and fulfillment in their social, professional, and love lives. His presentations - whether keynotes, seminars, or workshops - leave clients with insights into their behavior, psychology, and keys to their empowerment.
His training methodologies are the result of over a decade of coaching, therapy, and education of thousands of students around the world. Join him on the “DTPHD Podcast” as he explores deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life. Subscribe now.
Connect with David Tian here:
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Medium: https://medium.com/@davidtian
Twitter: https://twitter.com/davidtianphd
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Show Notes:
2:26 Jungian archetypes in the Joker movie
7:09 What is pseudobulbar affect, and what’s up with his laughing fits?
12:38 The scene that illustrates Arthur Fleck's main coping strategies
16:53 The similarities and differences between the Joker and the American Psycho character
22:16 The clinical definition of narcissistic personality disorder
26:57 What narcissists are capable of
31:21 How the Joker/Arthur Fleck wants to be treated
36:49 What do codependent narcissists have in common with standard narcissists?
41:54 The idealization and devaluation phases of the Arthur Fleck
47:47 Is Arthur Fleck as bad as the other people in the movie?
53:05 Understanding the quote that the Arthur Fleck kept repeating
59:19 How the Joker/Arthur Fleck views his situation from the inside
For transcriptions and more free resources, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/podcast/joker-movie-analysis/
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In this talk in February 2019 in San Diego -- originally entitled, "The Hidden Power of Recovery for Life & Love" -- I reveal how the underlying insecurities behind our core neediness are the same ones that lead not only to well-known addictions like alcohol, sex, and drug addiction, but also to more socially acceptable addictions like money, fame, social validation, show-off experiences and things, narcissistic ego supply, etc.
The same pathway that has left many men unsuccessful with women, dating, relationships, and life overall... is the same thing that the famous 12-step groups seek to heal and grow.
This talk draws inspiration from Russell Brand's excellent book "Recovery: Freedom from Our Addictions."
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For over a decade, David Tian, Ph.D., has helped hundreds of thousands of people from over 87 countries find happiness, success, and fulfillment in their social, professional, and love lives. His presentations - whether keynotes, seminars, or workshops - leave clients with insights into their behavior, psychology, and keys to their empowerment.
His training methodologies are the result of over a decade of coaching, therapy, and education of thousands of students around the world. Join him on the “DTPHD Podcast” as he explores deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life. Subscribe now.
Connect with David Tian here:
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You’re Probably A Bit F**k’ed (So Was I) & Here’s What To Do About It: The Hidden Power of Recovery Shownotes
0:11 Why should you care about addiction research?
6:28 How effective is the 12-step program to transformation?
10:35 Why would you need the 12-step program in your life?
15:02 Is addictive behavior a coping strategy?
20:37 Step 1: Are you a bit fucked?
24:19 How addiction starts
30:51 Step 2: Could you not be fucked?
34:31 How to encounter the the positive intents of the various parts of you
41:01 Step 3: Are you, on your own, going to ‘unfuck’ yourself?
46:40 How to replace a bad habit with a new habit
51:01 Why would you want to be free from the “cult of not enough”?
56:12 What therapy helps you find
1:01:18 Step 4: Write down all the things that are fucking you up or have ever fucked you up and don’t lie or leave anything out.
1:05:57 Step 5: Honestly, tell someone trustworthy about how fucked you are.
1:09:50 Step 6: Well, that’s revealed a lot of fucked up patterns. Do you want to stop it? Seriously?
1:12:35 Step 7: Are you willing to live in a new way that’s not all about you and your previous fucked up stuff? You have to.
1:17:26 Step 8: Prepare to apologize to everyone for everything affected by your being so fucked up.
1:21:15 Step 9: Now apologize. Unless that would make things worse.
1:25:43 Step 10: Watch out for fucked up thinking and behavior, and be honest when it happens.
1:30:52 How to discover your True Self
1:37:57 Step 11: Stay connected to your new perspective.
1:42:52 Why we end up in addictive cycles
1:47:43 This is a necessary part of your personal transformation
1:55:10 Step 12: Look at life less selfishly, be nice to everyone, help people if you can.
2:00:38 The prerequisite of being in Flow
For transcriptions and more free resources, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/psychology/hidden-power-recovery/
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"Good vs. Evil, Light vs. Dark Triad: The Evolution of Morality" was part of a full-day seminar I gave at the Intercontinental Resort Bali on 1 June 2019. In this keynote talk to a group of private coaching clients, I give my personal perspective on the age-old question of "Why be moral?" informed by evolutionary psychology, Asian and Western philosophy, clinical psychology, and life experience.
The talk begins with an examination of the Light Triad scale proposed by Scott Barry Kaufman as a counterpoint to the Dark Triad. I then argue that we experience the most enjoyable and meaningful benefits of life in direct proportion to our moral goodness and in inverse proportion to the extent of our Dark Triad traits.
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For over a decade, David Tian, Ph.D., has helped hundreds of thousands of people from over 87 countries find happiness, success, and fulfillment in their social, professional, and love lives. His presentations - whether keynotes, seminars, or workshops - leave clients with insights into their behavior, psychology, and keys to their empowerment.
His training methodologies are the result of over a decade of coaching, therapy, and education of thousands of students around the world. Join him on the “DTPHD Podcast” as he explores deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life. Subscribe now.
Connect with David Tian here:
Website: https://www.davidtianphd.com/
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Good v. Evil, Light v. Dark Triad, PUAs & Red Pill: Morality in the Survival of the Fittest Shownotes
0:06 Introduction to the Dark Triad
5:04 Is relativism the enemy of morality?
11:09 What is moral relativism?
17:05 What’s good? What’s evil?
23:08 How the “death of God” is related to the survival of the fittest
28:55 Does significance and achievement make you better?
34:21 How to ground ethics properly
39:10 Why should we be good?
43:14 This is responsible for the popularization of moral relativism
48:22 Why a lot of men like the Dark Triad
53:52 If you have these traits, you won’t trust other people
58:32 The desirable positive measures that Dark Triad types don’t get to experience
1:03:08 What makes life worth living
1:08:13 What leads to happiness?
1:14:10 How to solve your deeper problems
1:18:46 What happens when there’s no objective morality?
1:22:26 This happens when you pursue goodness
1:27:03 Is human nature good or bad?
1:30:50 Is there a connection between goodness and happiness?
For transcriptions and more free resources, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/happiness/morality-survival-fittest/
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Join David Tian on the “DTPHD Podcast” as we explore deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life.
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NOTE: This the amended version of the video, which originally had synching issues.
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For over a decade, David Tian, Ph.D., has helped hundreds of thousands of people from over 87 countries find happiness, success, and fulfillment in their social, professional, and love lives. His presentations - whether keynotes, seminars, or workshops - leave clients with insights into their behavior, psychology, and keys to their empowerment.
His training methodologies are the result of over a decade of coaching, therapy, and education of thousands of students around the world. Join him on the “DTPHD Podcast” as he explores deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life. Subscribe now.
Connect with David Tian here:
Website: https://www.davidtianphd.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/davidtianphd
DTPHD Podcast Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dtphdpodcast/
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HENRY CHONG is our special guest speaker on this episode.
Henry is Director of Fusang Capital, a fund management company that manages the assets of multi-family offices. He is also a Director at the Portcullis Group, Asia’s biggest independent group of trust companies, providing comprehensive wealth administration to high-net-worth individuals, providing a one-stop shop for corporate, trustee, and fund administration services to individuals, family offices, philanthropies, private banks, and investment managers.
Henry is a graduate of Oxford University with a B.A. (Hons) in Philosophy Politics & Economics and is a founder of the Oxford Economics Society. He also holds a M.Sc. in Behavioral Science from the London School of Economics and is a Fellow of the Royal Society of Arts (FRSC). He will be sharing with us from his deep insights in behavioral economics, finance, health, and psychology.
Connect with Henry here:
http://henrychong.com/http://henrychong.com/
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Show Notes:
6:56 How to trick your brain into doing things
10:10 How succeeding in your fitness goals can teach you a lot about life
15:31 The underlying reasons we avoid doing what we know we should
18:20 How to get started on starting!
22:00 How to apply these principles in dating
27:20 Why we are afraid of failing
30:43 How to overcome failures
34:33 How to make your tasks more manageable
38:40 The best way to approach complex tasks
42:45 Why you should be more decisive
47:00 The type of people who get a lot of things done in a short amount of time
52:01 Should you aim higher? Should you say yes to more responsibilities? The right response may surprise you
For transcriptions and more free resources, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/podcast/take-action/
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"Values, Virtues, Vice, and Dating" is part of a full-day seminar I gave at the Le Meridien Bangkok on 8 December 2018. In this keynote talk to a group of private coaching clients, I reveal how morality is the missing piece in the puzzle of dating, mating, love, happiness, and life overall.
I also propose a virtue ethical approach to life and values, informed by a deeper understanding of moral philosophy from both eastern and western traditions. And I argue that we evolved a moral sense as an adaptive mechanism for forming smarter, more efficient, more trustworthy alliances. The moral sense is also adaptive because it allows us to raise happier families, resulting in healthier and happier offspring.
Show notes and transcription will be here:
https://www.davidtianphd.com/happiness/values-virtues-vice-dating/
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For over a decade, David Tian, Ph.D., has helped hundreds of thousands of people from over 87 countries find happiness, success, and fulfillment in their social, professional, and love lives. His presentations - whether keynotes, seminars, or workshops - leave clients with insights into their behavior, psychology, and keys to their empowerment.
His training methodologies are the result of over a decade of coaching, therapy, and education of thousands of students around the world. Join him on the “DTPHD Podcast” as he explores deep questions of meaning, success, truth, love, and the good life. Subscribe now.
Connect with David Tian here:
Website: https://www.davidtianphd.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/davidtianphd
DTPHD Podcast Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dtphdpodcast/
Man Up Show Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/manupcommunity/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/TheAuraUniversity
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/davidtianphd/
Podcast: https://www.davidtianphd.com/dtphdpodcast
Medium: https://medium.com/@davidtian
Twitter: https://twitter.com/davidtianphd
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Values, Virtues, Vice, and Dating: Ethics as the Missing Link to Love, Happiness, & the Good Life Show Notes
1:01 Why having your own set of values is important
6:26 This is what’s wrong with the MGTOW, Red Pills, and Incels
10:53 Characteristics of a narcissist
16:50 This is why many millennials are screwed
21:31 What does emotional freedom feels like?
26:53 The human being’s evolutionary advantage
34:11 The sin that overshadows all other deadly sins
44:03 What psychopaths are like when in relationships
50:00 The four cardinal virtues and why they matter
56:22 An introduction to the Confucian virtues
1:00:59 The crucial difference between knowledge and practice
1:05:18 How one can become evil without even realizing it
1:11:32 How artifice and the artificial can be good
1:16:25 This is how you become a better person
1:19:50 Understanding moral connoisseurship
1:25:11 How you develop connoisseurship
1:29:48 Why should you be good?
1:36:01 Why being virtuous is also good from an evolutionary perspective
1:39:45 What makes your life meaningful
For transcriptions and more free resources, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/happiness/values-virtues-vice-dating/
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