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Welcome to Friday Focus on The Faithful Fatherhood Podcast. This week Brett relays Jesus's powerful instructions for when we find ourselves in the storms of life -- an especially relevant reminder this Christmas season.
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Rethink everything you thought you knew about being a fearless man. Moreover, reimagine why being fearless is so important not just for how we show up in the world, but for how we can be the best fathers, too. In this episode, Dave Novak, author of Fearless Men, explains what it means to be fearless and how fearlessness leads to us becoming true men, not just real men. In this wide-ranging conversation, Dave shares powerful stories of men who have done the hard work to face their struggles and show up more authentically in their lives and families. In so doing, Dave reveals the mindsets and actions that will enable us to conquer the struggles, insecurities, and pressures that are threatening our souls.
About Our GuestDave Novak is a church planter and pastor in Sacramento, CA. Dave’s ministry has been shaped in racially diverse cultures and non-churched contexts, giving him a relevant voice of hope. He is the author of No More Dad Issues and Fearless Men. In July of 2023, Dave founded The F2 Project focused on healing dad issues and helping dads become heroes. He speaks to audiences nationally and globally, and is ordained with the Assemblies of God. Dave and his wife, Lori, married in 1999 and have two young adult children, Leah and Titus.
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Learn more about Dave's ministry and book him to speak, here: https://www.davenovakministries.com/
A Dose of Motivation“Fear not.” — Jesus
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Brett and Perry talk about how to handle the disappointment that comes from unmet expectations as they debrief their summer adventures and catch up on key happenings with their families. Things don't always go according to plan, especially when travel and the idiosyncracies of teenage kids are involved. Yet, how we help our kids navigate disappointment is an important role of fathers. We trust that you'll be able to relate to the stories Brett and Perry share in this episode and take heart from the realization that you're not the only one to experience setbacks with your kids despite having the best of intentions.
A Dose of Motivation“The tans will fade but the memories will last forever." — Unknown
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Brett and Perry, both of whom live in areas deeply impacted by the destruction of Hurricane Helene, share their experiences of the storm itself, the tragedy they've witnessed first-hand, and their families' efforts to help those in need. They then shift the conversation to an internal conflict Perry is wrestling with regarding a work opportunity for his son JP. As fathers, how do we balance prudence and wisdom with expanding our comfort zones to allow our sons to grow into men? In this episode, we tackle some heavy issues with an eye toward setting a good example for our kids, being the hands and feet of Jesus, and recognizing that ultimately He is in control and it's on us to walk by faith.
A Dose of Motivation“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted, and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” — Psalms 34:18
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In this final episode of our 3-part series on legacy, we're joined by Dan Davis, founder of Animate Mentoring, to discuss aspects of our lineage and character that we don't want to carry forward in our families and that we don't want to be part of our legacy moving forward. Dan explains that for all the good a person may exhibit, there's always a shadow side that must be dealt with as well. How can we break free from that shadow and turn it to light? If there are negative through-lines going back generations in our family, how can we say "this stops with me" and chart a different path for moving forward? Legacies are complicated, as we've discussed in previous episodes, and part of crafting a legacy that we can be proud of involves coming to terms with the less-glamorous shadow side of our nature. Dan's wisdom and insight from years of counseling men from all walks of life add important color to our conversation about legacy and will help you walk out the sometimes challenging task of leaving behind the harmful in pursuit of a meaningful, lasting legacy.
About Our GuestDan Davis is the founder and lead mentor at Animate Mentoring, which guides individuals and families so they can navigate life's transitions intentionally with wisdom and courage. After three decades of leading in the professional camping industry, Dan developed a keen sense of how important the relationship with a trusted mentor is. He saw firsthand how our modern society neglects mentoring through life’s most significant transitions, leaving many people lost and isolated. In 2020, Dan took a leap and launched Animate Mentoring so he and other team members can serve as guides through the stages of adolescence, parenthood, and mid-life passage, and provide direction and support so relationships can flourish as life changes over time.
You can learn more about Animate Mentoring and find a mentor, here: https://animatementoring.com/
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A Dose of Motivation“Try to put yourself in my unique position /
If I get stoned and sing all night long /
It's a family tradition.” — Hank Williams
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Brett and Perry continue their discussion about Legacy by exploring the idea that we should begin something meaningful now that won't be completed in our lifetime. It opens up a conversation about King David and his son, King Solomon, and leads to a broader conversation about how to equip our kids to be better than we are in key areas. As we strive to leave a positive legacy for future generations, we trust that Part 2 of this Legacy series will challenge, motivate, and encourage you on your fatherhood journey.
A Dose of Motivation“Your gift to humanity is what will be left behind in the behaviors of your great great grandchildren.” — Kerwin Rae
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Welcome to Friday Focus on The Faithful Fatherhood Podcast. This week as our kids head back to school and Summer gives way to Fall, Brett discusses the importance of marking seasons and transitioning well.
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Legacies are complicated. We all leave one, whether good or bad. For those of us trying to leave an impactful, positive legacy in our families, how should we set about doing that? How much control do we really have over the ripple effect of our actions today on future generations? What does the Word teach us about legacy, and how does our time on Earth fit into God's eternal plans?
It's easy to get lost in the day-to-day of fatherhood and lose sight of the big picture. While our lives are but a vapor, according to the apostle James, they continue on through our kids, who are a big part of our legacy (Psalm 127). This episode is Part 1 of a series on "Legacy" where Brett and Perry begin to unpack important themes around legacy that may shift the way we think about our responsibilities as fathers in terms of our impact after we're gone. Our legacy matters, but perhaps not in the way you'd expect.
A Dose of Motivation“My father didn’t tell me how to live: He lived and let me watch him do it.” — Clarence Budington Kelland
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Welcome to Friday Focus on The Faithful Fatherhood Podcast. This week Brett discusses research about when and how kids release oxytocin when interacting with their fathers, and why "play" is biologically hardwired into how we connect with them. Play with your kids this weekend, men!
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Music is the soundtrack to our lives, as Manny Montilla (aka Manny Digital) says in this episode of The Faithful Fatherhood Podcast. Good music can add color and flavor to our lives, provide commonality within a family, and enrich the human experience in meaningful ways. But what if the language and messaging in that music is questionable, explicit, or downright offensive? Should our kids be exposed to it? What is our role as father in filtering what our kids listen to? More broadly, how can we raise our kids to make life-giving choices on their own when it comes to the media they consume? These are questions without easy answers, but Manny sheds light on them as he shares a unique perspective having grown up around hip-hop culture in the Bronx and now raising kids who have an affinity for that same music while trying to balance faith and positive values.
About Our GuestManny "Digital" made his bones in The Bronx, NY. A son of Dominican immigrants, he grew up observing the pitfalls of his BX environment and carefully applied the lessons he picked up to set himself up for a better outcome. One of those lessons came from his personal experience as part of a broken home. He knew early on the importance of a father's presence and how setting clear expectations with his eventual children would be the most impactful element of building his family. Manny is an AdTech advisor at B7 media, co-hosts The Father Hoods Podcast, and is co-founder of FlyDads, an Ecommerce brand creating fashionable accessories for dad’s journey through fatherhood.
Recommended ResourcesLearn more about FlyDads and purchase a Fly Dad Bag: https://flydadgear.com/Check out Christian rap artists Lacrae and Andy Mineo: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uLS-WE4K8q0 and https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4bF4cU99W0gEpisode 21: How a Healthy Marriage Makes You a Better Father, with Dan DeMeyConnect with Manny on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mannydigital/
A Dose of Motivation“The most beautifulest thing in this world is daddy’s little girl.” — JAY-Z
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Welcome to Friday Focus on The Faithful Fatherhood Podcast. This week Brett shares a fun question to ask your kids to ignite interesting conversation... and perhaps surprise you as to their answers!
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Welcome to Friday Focus on The Faithful Fatherhood Podcast. This week Perry flips traditional wisdom on its head as he explains what has really led to a shift in his midset on the important things over the years -- and how you can effect positive change in your life, too.
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Divorce happens. When it happens, it's hard. And when kids are involved, there's an added layer of complexity that presents even more challenges -- especially if you desire to be a faithful and positive presence in the life of your kids. We're joined in this episode by Bill McCarthy, founder of 180 Degrees Counseling, who shares tools for successfully navigating parenthood as a divorced father. What are your kids experiencing in the aftermath of divorce? What do they need from you? How do you handle it if they're angry or lashing out? How do you heal from your own hurt and loss? What if there are co-parenting issues and you and your ex- don't see eye to eye? If you get remarried, what's the best way to integrate your new family unit? We discuss all of these topics -- and more -- as Bill shares from his extensive experience as a counselor working with countless families and divorce situations. We trust you'll find Bill's perspective helpful and empowering on your own fatherhood journey.
About Our GuestBill McCarthy received his Master of Arts in Counseling and Theological Studies from Gordon-Conwell Theological Seminary and is licensed as a clinical mental health counselor in North Carolina. Special interests include working with youth ages 5 and up, Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder, parent/child emotional intimacy, blended family coordination on parenting, sex education, and grief and loss issues. During his graduate education, Bill interned with Moses Cone Behavioral Health participating in outpatient group and art therapy as well as child/adolescent inpatient group therapy and family assessment. Nearly two decades ago, Bill began his own private counseling practice, 180º Counseling Services. He is the proud parent of young adult boy/girl twins.
Recommended ResourcesYou can learn more about 180 Degrees Counseling and work with Bill, here: https://www.180degreescounseling.com/Love is a Choice, by Dr. Paul MeierConnect with Bill on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/william-holiday-mccarthy-0a480045/
A Dose of Motivation“Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, because through Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit who gives life has set you free from the law of sin and death.” — Romans 8:1-2
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Welcome to Friday Focus on The Faithful Fatherhood Podcast. This week Brett prepares us for the coming Father's Day weekend by sharing a couple of thoughts about honor, and how we can honor our fathers — and be worthy of honor ourselves — this Father's Day.
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As fathers, we desire to love our kids fully and unconditionally. If you're a father to adopted kids, is the desire of your heart any different? Of course not. But adoption does present unique challenges. As adoptive fathers, we need to understand those challenges and how to connect with our kids amid the unique nature of the adoptive parent-child relationship. In this episode we talk with Allison Douglas, Resource Center Program Director at Harmony Family Center, about her experience both professionally and as a parent of four adopted kids herself. We explore the inherent trauma present in all adopted kids and what it means for adoptive fathers, the 7 Core Frameworks for Adoption, why rejection hurts so much, how to tailor your relationship with each of your adopted kids, what "good outcomes" means when it comes to raising adopted kids, and how to grow personally so that we can best handle the challenges of adoption -- all with an eye toward loving our adopted kids well. Allison shares so many profound insights during this conversation that will encourage you, give you hope, and equip you with the tools you need to love your kids even better.
About Our GuestAllison Cooke Douglas, M.S., IECMH-E®, is the Resource Center Program Director at Harmony Family in Knoxville, TN and serves as a post-permanency expert at the National Center for Enhanced Post-Adoption Support. Over the past decade, Allison’s work has focused on post-permanency family support. She has developed and presented curricula regarding therapeutic parenting, the impact of early trauma on the developing brain, and best practices in the child welfare system. In her work with Tennessee’s Adoption Support and Preservation (ASAP) program, Allison provides direct services to adoptive families as a part of Harmony’s multidisciplinary ASAP team. Allison holds an Infant and Early Childhood Mental Health Endorsement, is certified in Phases I and II of The Neurosequential Model of Therapeutics and is a Neurosequential Model in Education trainer. She is a Napa Infant-Parent & Early Childhood Mental Health fellow and was selected for the 2022-23 All Educators cohort at The Fred Rogers Institute. Allison brings her lived experience as an adoptive parent of four children to her work.
Recommended ResourcesYou can learn more about Harmony Family Center for adoption support in East Tennessee, here: https://harmonyfamilycenter.org/Learn more about the Neurosequential Model, developed by Dr. Bruce Perry, here: https://www.neurosequential.com/Connect with Allison on LinkedIn and other social media platforms (@harmonyfamilycenter)
A Dose of Motivation“After all, children are children no matter their background.” – Julie Andrews
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Imagine missing out on a $1 million grand prize by fractions of a second... not once, but twice! Then imagine finally standing on top of the podium after years of hard work, only to miss out on that same $1 million grand prize because it happened to be the COVID year. How would that impact your mindset? How would that test your faith? Are we living for the riches of this world, or do we have a more eternal vision for the impact of our lives? Daniel Gil, 2020 winner of American Ninja Warrior and 7-time Finalist, joins us in this episode to share his incredible story of triumph and heartbreak. His perspective on life and competition is a breath of fresh air, and the lessons learned that he shares from over a decade as a professional athlete will empower us all to be better men and fathers. A self-proclaimed Kingdom Ninja, Daniel reminds us that we're all called to live a life that is set apart. The stories and mindsets that he shares empower us to do just that.
About Our GuestDaniel Gil is the Season 12 Champion of American Ninja Warrior. Born and raised in Houston, TX, Daniel was always a fun-loving adventurer. Growing up, he spent a lot of time outdoors, climbing trees and playing sports. Even though he wasn't naturally good at sports, he loved being active and was competitive enough not to quit when things got tough. After graduating high school, he attended a two-year ministry school and received an associates degree and simultaneously began coaching & training at Iron Sports Ninja Gym. In 2015 he began his rookie year competing on season 7 of American Ninja Warrior and thus his journey to becoming one of the top athletes on the show. Daniel's success as an athlete has given him an opportunity to use his platform as a motivational speaker to help inspire people to get back up when they inevitably fall or fail, overcome the obstacles they will face in life, and never stop pursuing their God-given dreams.
You can learn more about Daniel and book him for speaking engagements, here: https://thekingdomninja.com/
Grab a copy of Daniel's book: Kingdom Ninja, by Daniel Gil
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A Dose of Motivation“Gird your sword upon your side, O might one.” — Psalm 45:3
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Happiness. It sounds so enticing, so desirable. We want more happiness in our own lives, and we want our kids to be happy, too. Yet, joy isn't always the first emotion that comes to mind when we think about fatherhood. Being a father is challenging, and sometimes happiness gets lost in the day-to-day stress and challenge of fatherhood. According to Dr. Mark Leonard, founder of The Happiness Breakthrough, we are all capable of achieving more happiness -- and indeed, the formula for a happiness breakthrough is relatively simple. Simple doesn't necessarily mean easy, however. So join us in this wide-reaching conversation as Dr. Leonard walks us through the keys to happiness, why it matters in our fathering, and how to help our kids grow in joy as well.
About Our GuestDr. Mark Leonard has been an entrepreneur and business owner for over 25 years, so you can be sure he has his share of worries, sleepless nights, and setbacks. For the past 20 years, Dr. Leonard has studied why some people are so successful, while others seem to struggle. As part of his quest, he earned a Doctorate of Education in Organizational Leadership from Pepperdine University where he gained expertise in helping companies and their leaders achieve their sales and operational goals. Dr. Leonard understands that success flows from the individuals who lead companies, and that is his passion – helping individuals’ breakthrough to achieve higher levels of success. That is his focus at The Happiness Breakthrough, where he has been blessed to coach thousands of business owners, leaders, entrepreneurs, and students to higher levels of success. Dr. Leonard is married to Becky, his wife of 32 years. Together they have six children and 12 grandchildren.
You can learn more about The Happiness Breakthrough, here: https://www.thehappinessbreakthrough.com/
You can connect with Dr. Leonard on most social media platforms, here: @thehappinessbreakthrough
A Dose of Motivation“Happiness is not the belief that we don’t need to change; it is the realization that we can.” — Shawn Achor
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Welcome to Friday Focus on The Faithful Fatherhood Podcast. This week Brett talks about the importance of not pigeonholing our kids into their current way of being and shares a powerful prayer you can pray over them to encourage their growth and development.
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It seems like a pretty simple idea: A father should desire to give good gifts to his kids. Jesus said as much in Matthew 7:9-11. Yet, it's not always that easy. There are some deeper issues here. Should we give our kids every "good gift" they ask for? Does our Heavenly Father actually give us everything we ask for, as scripture suggests? What should our heart position be toward our kids when they haven't earned the gifts they're asking for? What is the interplay between discipline and freedom, and how does it line up with what Jesus discloses about the heart of a father in these profound verses from his Sermon on the Mount?
In this episode, Brett and Perry take a deep dive into several key verses from Matthew Chapters 6 & 7 that speak to God's heart for us, and how they translate to what our heart should be toward our own kids. We are instructed to "ask, seek, and knock" to received the blessings of our Heavenly Father. Do we believe that? And do our kids expect the same from us? There's a lot here, so buckle up and get ready to be challenged. As we're trying to be the best fathers we can be, the biblical truths discussed in this episode have the ability to move us further in that direction, if we'll internalize them.
A Dose of Motivation“My father gave me the greatest gift anyone could give another person, he believed in me.” – Jim Valvano
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Welcome to Friday Focus on The Faithful Fatherhood Podcast. This week Perry reflects on a friend's cancer battle and what it means for us as men and fathers trying to make the most of each and every day, because we're not promised tomorrow.
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