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In this episode, we discuss the value that is even more important to your marriage than communication and why. We also talk about the limitations of working on your marriage alone and what skills can be learned even if only one spouse is participating.
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In this episode, I discuss the importance of establishing healthy boundaries in marriage by reviewing 5 rules for healthy boundaries. Through the examples presented, I illustrate how these principles can help couples navigate the complexities of marriage, empower themselves, and foster mutual respect and love.
00:08 The Importance of Healthy Boundaries in Marriage
04:48 Exploring the Laws of Boundaries in Marriage
06:09 Applying Boundary Laws to Real-Life Scenarios
14:52 The Power of Choice and Respect in Marriage
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In this weekâs podcast, we dive deep into the ins and outs of building a sturdy foundation in marriage. I take you through a group coaching exercise, encouraging you to rate your marriages and personal mental health. We discuss the critical role appreciation, taking responsibility, open communication, and self-care play in fostering a healthy, vibrant marriage.
We delve into the 'Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse' concept coined by the Gottman Institute, pinpointing the dangerous behaviors that could mark a marriage heading towards divorce. I also present how to recognize and replace these negative behaviors with healthier alternatives.
00:00 Introduction and Podcast Welcome
00:04 Building a Solid Foundation in Marriage
00:41 The Importance of Self-Assessment in Marriage
00:56 Understanding the Marriage Rating Scale
02:50 The Importance of Self-Care in Marriage
03:57 Marriage Coaching and Self-Study Options
05:53 Envisioning a Level 10 Marriage
06:54 Four Tactical Steps to Improve Your Marriage
08:41 Understanding the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse in Marriage
09:34 Practical Steps to Avoid the Four Horsemen
13:01 The Importance of Timeouts in Conflict Resolution
16:15 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
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On this episode of the Grace Fueled Wife, we get to dive into conversations all about marriage, healing, and the power of stories with the exceptional Tracy Johnson. Tracy's work at Restory Counseling inspired me on my own journey to becoming a marriage therapist. She gives us the scoop on what it means to engage our personal stories in marriage and how that can supercharge healing. Tracy shares a deeply moving personal story about the weight of past experiences and the healing power of having someone witness your pain. We then delve into Restory's Year of Good Dates, an awesome tool Tracy's team developed that's all about sparking connection through shared storytelling. Tracy also drops details about what you can expect from the Thrive Marriage Lab, which is like a gym membership for your marriage! This program brings resources, growth opportunities, and a real community spirit straight into your relationship. If you're all about creating a deeper, richer connection in your marriage, this episode is filled with tons of valuable takeaways. Check it out!
00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction
00:24 Exploring Your Marriage Story
01:17 Guest Introduction: Tracy Johnson
03:43 Understanding the Role of Family of Origin in Marriage
06:50 Advice for Reengaging a Disengaged Spouse
09:39 The Importance of Self-Awareness in Marriage
11:03 The Role of Loneliness in Marriage
13:34 The Concept of 'ACK': Awareness, Curiosity, Kindness
16:47 A Year of Good Dates: Engaging Each Other's Story
21:24 A Drive to Dairy Queen: A Personal Story
22:43 Understanding the Impact of Past Experiences
23:36 The Power of Witnessing and Understanding
24:29 The Role of Trauma in Relationships
26:58 Choosing to Remember: A Path to Healing
28:26 The Importance of Personal Work in Relationships
30:10 The Power of Story Work and Witnessing
37:22 The Thrive Marriage Lab: A Resource for Couples
40:51 Closing Thoughts and Appreciation
You can find Tracyâs info here:
ReStory Counseling:
Website: https://www.restory.lifeFacebook: facebook.com/ReStory.LifeInstagram: @storyrestoredThrive Marriage Lab:
Website: https://www.restory.life/thrive CODE: GFW for 20% off! FREE 12 Months of Dates: How date nights can lead to connectionSubscribe here: www.restory.life/thrive-datesHow healthy is your marriage? Take our FREE marriage assessment here: https://www.restory.life/marriage-assessmentInstagram: @ThriveMarriageLabYoutube: @ThriveMarriageLabWait!!! Before you go!
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Communication struggles are one of the most common issues in marriage. You are not alone if this applies to you. In this weekâs episode, we discuss the importance of communication, and I share three key ideas for improving your communication in marriage.
First, we recognize that everything a person does or doesn't do communicates something. Second, we look to understand the lens or perspective through which communications are filtered, both when speaking and listening. Lastly, I emphasize the importance of allowing spiritual guidance in communication, particularly in difficult conversations.
We also talk about this monthâs Podcast birthday celebration where we are giving away Amazon gift cards to listeners who join the mailing list and submit a review of the podcast.
00:52 The Importance of Communication
01:36 Podcast Birthday Celebration and Giveaway
04:07 Understanding Communication in Relationships
08:02 The Power of Perception in Communication
19:03 The Role of God in Communication
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In this weekâs episode, I continue my conversation with Annette Otlmans. Annette takes us into the mind of a chronic abuser and gives us the 4 pillars of emotional abuse which are:
Ridgid thinking in these areas:
EntitlementImage managementFaulty belief systemLower emotional IQAnnette and I also discuss what the bible says about submission, oppression, and abuse as it relates to being a biblical wife. We talk about toxic masculinity but also acknowledge the ways in which the patriarchy can be benevolent.
Lastly, Annette gives us resources and steps to take if we realize weâre in an abusive relationship but arenât able to or choose not to leave.
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Here are the other resources she mentioned:
Website: Natalie Hoffman https://www.flyingfreenow.com/
Book: The Emotionally Destructive Marriage by: Leslie Burnick
Book: Dating loving and leaving a narcissist by: Dr. Jamie Zuckerman
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Do you ever feel like what is wrong with me? Am I not loveable? Why do we have so many communication problems? Are you wondering why your relationship is so toxic? Have you felt like youâre walking on eggshells and canât determine if your husband is abusive or just has a cranky demeanor?
All these questions are answered in this interview with Annette Oltmans of the Mend Project as she shares her work with us on covert emotional abuse. This is one of my most important episodes to date because as Annette says - âClarity is the first step to healing.â
She answers questions such as:
What is emotional abuse? What is double abuse and what can pastors and therapists do to prevent it?How can we discern if we are in a double abuse situation? What is the responsibility of the complementarian church as it relates to abuse and telling women to submit to their husbands? What are common abusive behaviors and red flags we should look out for? What is the difference between someone with a mean/cranky disposition (or someone raised with bad habits) vs. a chronic abuser?If this episode resonated with you or you think may apply to someone you know, please share it! If you want to learn more about the Mend Project, please visit https://themendproject.com/
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A loving and connected marriage doesnât happen by accident. It takes work and intention. In fact, all intimacy takes intention! Whether that be with your husband or the Lord, in today's episode, Rosie Alejandro gives us tips to grow your relationship with God and strengthen your marriage.
If you loved today's guest, you can find out more about her here:
Website: https://theintentionalchristianwoman.com/
Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-intentional-christian-woman-daily-bible-study/id1568177949
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Here are 5 of my newest book recommendations to help you achieve a more loving and connected marriage! Listen in to find out why I think these books are special and how I think they can help you in your marriage journey today.
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Most women looking to save their marriages first look to try marriage counseling. While Marriage counseling can be really helpful, there are important things to know before you invest time and money into the process.
Not to mention that I take issue with some things that happen in marriage counseling and think itâs important to know the types of marriage counseling I recommend. This episode will let you know what red flags to look for when searching for a marriage counselor, what types of marriage therapists I encourage you to consider, and what work you can do BEFORE you get to marriage counseling that will help you achieve better results!
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Weâve all been there, weâve all prayed for a thing that was in Godâs will or truly believed it to be in His will and wondered why that prayer wasnât answered or wasnât answered the way we thought it should.
This conversation between friends will fill your cup and encourage you in a profound way in that season. In this episode, my friend shares the story of how she prayed in earnest to save her marriage but still ended up in divorce. She shares how God has brought her through it. What he did, and is still doing. You will be left with hope and peace.
Save this episode and share it. You wonât be disappointed.
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InfidelityâŠLetâs talk about it. For a show on marriages, Iâm surprised I donât talk about it more! In this weekâs episode, we talk about the root cause of infidelity, discern the risk factors that might exist for our own marriages, and explore ways to guard our marriage against it.
Even if - or especially if, you havenât walked through infidelity before, this episode is for you!!!
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As wives and moms who wear all the hats and juggle all the priorities, it can be easy to fall into a role of people pleasing and subsequent burnout. This week's guest Tanya Engesether, of the Grace Filled Leader podcast, shares her journey of people pleasing through her work relationships, and how she was able to reclaim her identity in Christ and start setting healthy boundaries.
We also get vulnerable in discussing how recovering from people-pleasing can potentially bring distress to a marriage and what we can do to maintain a healthy relationship in the process.
If youâre interested in learning more from todayâs guest check out her information below:
Tanya Engesether
Podcast: The Grace Filled Leader
Website: TheGraceFilledLeader.com
Freebie: 7 Day Gratitude Journal
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Weâve all been through tough seasons in life. Times when we are struggling in life and marriage, times when we donât see the light at the end of the tunnel, times when our mental health is low and weâre experiencing anxiety, depression, overwhelm, and burnout.
As a wife and mom, these seasons can happen more often than you think. In todayâs episode, I give you 3 practical ways to give yourself grace in such seasons.
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It's out of character for me to go so long without an episode!!! Honestly, I've been going through a lot personally over the past few weeks. Here is a QUICK life update AND a link to an episode I guested on for another show. Happy Listening and I'll be back soon for you!!
My guest appearance on The Grace Filled Leader Podcast is linked for you below. I will have the episode I recorded with her available soon. Check her out!
Part 1-
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-grace-filled-leader-people-pleasing-servant/id1652933184?i=1000629057537
Part 2-
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-grace-filled-leader-people-pleasing-servant/id1652933184?i=1000629183838
Website: https://gracefilledleader.com
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7 Day Gratitude Journal
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Intimacy can come in many forms. When we think of our close relationships we often think of emotional intimacy. When we think of marriage, we often think of physical & emotional intimacy. But financial intimacy is another type that can really only be experienced through the close bond that comes with sharing a life, goals, and bills with someone!
This week, we sit down with Marital Financial Coaches Rebecca and Dylan who who talk to us about what is financial intimacy and how to create it. What holds us back from experiencing it and how are some ways to create a stress-free environment around marital finances.
Rebecca and Dylan can be found on their podcast RADMoney or their website RADCoaches.com
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Thereâs a difference between the monetary price of something and the cost of it. As we work to redeem our marriages itâs important to know what the full cost will be. In this episode, I give you three things to consider as a cost when are fighting for our marriages!
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God can speak to us at any time, but the times it can be most life giving is when we are in the midst of a dark or uncertain season. In fact, all of my best life decisions have been because God had spoken a word to me.
Todayâs guest, Jenilee Samuel of the Java with Jen podcast give us really helpful tips on how to identify Godâs voice in our life AND how to strengthen our spiritual senses.
To learn more about her programs check her out at: www.javawithjenpodcast.ORG
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Have you considered marriage counseling but arenât sure if it will be worth your time and investment? Perhaps youâve tried counseling before but felt like it just âdidnât workâ or maybe you went to one session and your hubby never wanted to go back.
In this episode, youâll learn 3 ways to discern if marriage counseling is right for you, why it hasnât worked in the past, and how to make the most of it if you choose to invest in marriage counseling in the future.
Here is the info for Dr. Ruan that I discussed in this episode:
www.v2020counseling.com
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Has your husband told you that he feels disrespected by you but youâre not sure what he means? You donât fight often but you want to make sure you are doing everything you can to have a healthy marriage. Perhaps you have a good marriage that you want to make great, or perhaps your marriage is struggling and you are looking for ALL the answers to make it better.
Either way, this episode will teach you what it means to increase intimacy in your relationship, communicate respect to your husband and greatly improve your marriage as a byproduct!
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