Episodes
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Letâs get real for a minuteâhave you ever found yourself thinking, "I have no sex drive," and feeling completely stuck about what to do next? Youâre not alone. So many people are struggling with this exact issue, and today, Iâm diving deep into why that happens, how it affects your relationship, and most importantlyâwhat you can do about it.
In this episode, Iâm joined by Allison Gilbert, co-author with the iconic Dr. Ruth Westheimer on her last book "The Joy of Connections." Weâll explore how a lack of intimacy in your relationship can leave you feeling lost, but weâre also unpacking Dr. Ruthâs brilliant âmenu for connection.â Itâs full of ways to reignite your bondânot just in the bedroom, but through shared activities, better communication, and ultimately, deeper self-reflection.
Weâll tackle some tough love truths (like the role self-love plays in intimacy), and Iâll share actionable strategies to help you reconnect with your partner, starting today.
Episode Breakdown:[00:00] â Whereâs the Spark?
Why so many people feel disconnected from their partnersâand how it happens more often than you think.[00:47] â Dr. Ruthâs Secret Sauce
The first thing to check when your sex drive is goneâyour relationship dynamics![02:09] â Itâs Not Them, Itâs You?
The surprising role self-love plays in keeping intimacy alive.[03:47] â The âMenu for Connectionâ
Five elements Dr. Ruth swears by to build a richer, more meaningful connection with your partner.[05:47] â Fun Outside the Bedroom
How activities like pickleball (yes, pickleball!) could reignite the flames of passion.[08:06] â Whatâs Really Going On?
Digging deeper: how emotional barriers like resentment might be blocking your connection.[12:41] â Therapy or Time to Move On?
When itâs time to seek helpâor even consider a bigger decision.[15:41] â You Deserve Better
Dr. Ruthâs empowering message: You deserve happiness, fun, and great sexâdonât settle for less.[17:16] â Letâs Wrap This Up!
Final thoughts and inspiration to help you take that first step toward a better, more intimate relationship.Tune in, share your thoughts, and letâs create a life full of love, connection, and fun together!
Xoxo,
Dr. Lisa Marie BobbyP.S. â Ready for more? â
Download my free guide, "Communication that Connects," to start having meaningful conversations that build closeness in your relationship. And donât forget to join me for this weekâs live stream on Thursday at 12 PM MTâweâll dive even deeper into intimacy and connection. Submit your anonymous questions ahead of time right here!P. P.S: Who else in your life needs to hear this message today? Forward this episode to them and feel good about being a positive âchange agentâ in the lives of others. You and I are on the same mission my friend! Xo, L
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Where did everyone go?? At some point, many/most adults look up one day to realize that all their old friends have either moved to Austin or are completely buried in #babylife or never-ending home improvement projects⊠and they have nobody to spontaneously get a beer with on a Tuesday night. Can you relate?
It's not just you. Did you know that, on average, most people lose more friends every year than they gain? Over time, your life can become increasingly lonely unless youâre actively working to build and maintain friendships. But hereâs the thing: making new friends as an adult is harder than it sounds. đ
In this episode of Love, Happiness, and Success, we dive deep into the complexities of adult friendships with journalist Kelly Stout, who spent a month trying to make just one new friend⊠and learned some important things that sheâs sharing with YOU. From the unexpected emotional hurdles to the surprising lessons about vulnerability and connection, we explore what it really takes to form meaningful relationships in adulthood. đ
If youâve ever struggled with loneliness, wondered why your social circle shrinks as the years go by, or just feel stuck when it comes to making new friends, this episode is for you. đ
Chapters
00:00 Can Happiness Really Be Found Through Friendships?
00:19 Why Your Friendships Are More Important Than You Think
00:58 Meet Kelly Stout: Her One-Month Quest to Make a New Friend
02:30 What Happens When You Set a Deadline to Make a Friend?
04:58 The Hidden Challenges of Building Friendships as an Adult
12:55 What Actually Defines a True Friendship?
15:40 Friendship Experiments: What Works and What Doesnât
18:32 Why Opening Up to Others Feels So ScaryâAnd Necessary
22:33 The Biggest Lessons We Learned About Friendship
25:01 When Friendships Feel Fleeting: Why It Happens
25:45 Vulnerability Hangover: Ever Felt It? Hereâs Why It Happens
25:56 Turning Points: When You Realize Youâre Doing Friendship All Wrong
26:33 Can You Fast-Track Emotional Intimacy? Letâs Find Out
27:18 Why We Gravitate Toward People Just Like UsâAnd What to Do About It
27:45 Discovering the Power of Friendships with People Who Are Different
28:19 The Comfort and Complexity of Long-Term Friendships
29:53 Bumble for Friends: Can You Really Make Friends on an App?
32:01 How Internalized Shame is Holding You Back from Friendship
34:03 The Reality of Keeping Friendships Alive as an Adult
43:57 Why We Crave Communityâand How to Build One
47:01 Modern Loneliness: Why Life is Designed to Keep Us Isolated
53:44 Final Reflections: How to Create Real Friendships That LastđĄ Learn how to overcome the struggles of making friends as an adult and build a community that brings joy and connection back into your life.
xoxo,
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
PS: I think you and I should be friends! Come hang out with me on a Thursday live stream! Mark your calendar right now, it's at 12pm MT / 2pm ET on my Instagram, Youtube, and Facebook. This week we're talking about friendships. If you have a question or conundrum related to this, here's the link to ask in advance: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa. Be sure to subscribe/follow so you get updates and recaps!
P.P.S. As promised in this podcast, here's the link to grab your totally free and VAST collection of all my best articles and podcasts on the subject of healthy relationships. I made it for YOU.
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Could you be accidentally and unintentionally DESTROYING your relationship? Pro tip from a marriage counselor: Many, many people are... and literally have no idea.
I think I know why. Everyone with an Instagram account is posting things about what they think you should do to have a great relationshipâcommunication tips, romantic date ideas, etc.âbut letâs be real... sometimes, it's more important to know what NOT to do! And nobody talks about that!!
Thatâs why today, weâre flipping the script on the usual relationship advice you hear. đ„
In this episode, weâre breaking down the 12 Most Effective Ways to Destroy Your Relationship (so you can avoid them like the plague).
Trust me, as a marriage counselor, Iâve seen it all. Whether itâs neglecting your partner or constantly blaming your âissuesâ when you behave badly, even the strongest couples can unknowingly make these mistakes. But donât worry, Iâm not here to throw shadeâI'm here to help you laugh, learn, and most importantly, grow! đ±
By the end of this, youâll not only recognize these pitfalls, but also walk away with actionable tips to make sure youâre NOT sabotaging your love life. đ
Here's what you'll learn: â±ïž
00:00 Intro: The 12 Biggest Relationship Mistakes
02:36 Mistake #12: Making the Relationship ALL About You
04:36 Mistake #11: Blaming Everything on Your Issues
08:26 Mistake #10: Neglecting Your Partner (The Silent Killer)
11:20 Mistake #9: Too Much Togetherness (Yikes!)
And all the way down... to the number one biggest relationship killer!
đŹ Letâs talk: Have you fallen into any of these traps? Whatâs one mistake youâre guilty of? Drop a comment on Instagram @drlisamariebobby âIâd love to hear from you!
AND if you want to get my perspective on some not-so-fantastic things that might be happening in your relationship (and how to make it stop) join me on Thursday for a live stream on this topic! Use this link to ask your Q and get reminders to join on Thursday at 12 pm MT / 2pm ET. https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa
If you're feeling like, "uh oh" after hearing this... you're not alone! Iâve helped thousands of couples turn things around, and you can too. đ
Xoxo,
Dr. Lisa Marie BobbyđĄ PS: If you're ready to start working on some positive new communication tools after hearing about the not great ones, check out my FREE training, âCommunication That Connectsâ â itâs packed with tools to help you strengthen your connection and communicate like a pro!
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đ§ Forget Everything You Knew About Anxiety â This Changes Everything! đ§
Ever feel like anxiety has a grip on your life? Hereâs the game-changing truth: You can heal anxietyy, not just manage the symptoms. đ„ In this transformative episode of the Love, Happiness, and Success podcast, I sit down with the brilliant Dr. Nicole Cain, a holistic anxiety expert and author of the upcoming book Panic Proof, to discuss a revolutionary approach to healing anxiety from the inside out. đ±
đ Imagine freeing yourself from anxiety by nurturing your body, mind, and soul. Together, we dive into practical strategies that blend psychology and holistic medicine to uncover the root causes of anxiety and address them at the deepest level. We even explore how anxiety shows up in relationships and, yes, even in the bedroom!
đĄ What You'll Learn Today:
00:00 The Truth About Healing Anxiety, Naturally
00:18 Dr. Nicole's Story
12:28 Understanding Anxiety and Its Roots
19:22 Esmeâs Story: A Powerful Case Study
33:54 Anxiety in Relationships & Sexuality
42:43 Dr. Nicole's Three-Minute Hack for Instant Anxiety Relief
50:39 How the Salience Network Impacts Anxiety
54:30 VERY Generous Offer from Dr. Nicole!
âš And... I'm so thrilled to share that Dr. Nicole will be my guest host on this week's live stream, and available to answer YOUR questions. Join us Thursday 9/5 at 12 PM MT on my YouTube, Instagram, or Facebook. Want a reminder or to ask a Q in advance? Get that set up right here: www.growingself.com/dear-lisa. đ
If you missed the chance to hop on with us LIVE you can catch the recap video right here starting 9/6: https://www.growingself.com/natural-anxiety-relief
đ„ Donât forget to like, subscribe, and share this episode with anyone you know whoâs struggling with anxietyâthis could be the breakthrough theyâve been waiting for!
Your partner in growth,
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
GrowingSelf.com
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Wondering why your therapist acts a little... strange? What are all those long, awkward silences about? Why won't they follow you on social media? You made DIRECT EYE CONTACT with them at the grocery store but they didn't acknowledge your presence. Why?? In this episode, weâre diving into the surprising truth behind therapist boundaries and why they matter for your personal growth.
In this episode of Love, Happiness, and Success, Iâm pulling back the curtain on some of the âweirdâ things therapists do (like, why wonât they just give you a hug already?!), and why those boundaries are actually super important for your healing journey.
Weâll also break down the difference between therapy and coaching, why therapists never give direct advice, and how these boundaries create a safe, effective space for you to thrive. Plus, Iâm sharing insights that will help you build a strong, healthy relationship with your therapist. If you're in therapy, youâll walk away with some major a-ha moments!
Timestamps:
00:00 - Letâs Get Real: Why Do Therapists Have Such Weird Boundaries?
02:25 - The Surprising Power of Therapist Boundaries
06:43 - Why Your Therapist Wonât Steer the Conversation (Hint: Itâs for YOU)
09:10 - Therapist vs. Coach: Which One Do You Really Need?
12:35 - The Ethics Behind the Scenes: How Good Therapists Keep You Safe
24:25 - Why Your Therapist Stays Neutral (Even When It Feels Weird)
31:55 - Session Time Limits & Contact RulesâWhatâs Up with That?
35:51 - The Secret to a Healthy Therapist-Client Relationship
45:44 - Wrap Up: Final Thoughts and TakeawaysWanna Learn More?
Signs You Have a Bad Therapist
How to Find a Good Therapist
Donât forget to like, subscribe, and hit the bell so you never miss an episode on all things therapy, coaching, and personal growth! Letâs keep this conversation going! đ
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Ready to shake off low self esteem for good, and grow into the confident, competent person you want to be? Good news: Confidence isn't born, it's BUILT, meaning you have more control over how you feel about yourself than you might think.
On todayâs podcast youâll learn the essence of authentic self-worth, and how to grow into the kind of person that exudes confidence (in a good way). As a licensed psychologist, marriage and family therapist, and board-certified coach, Iâm sharing why confidence isnât just a feeling you magically haveâitâs something you build through consistent, value-driven actions.
Together, weâll explore practical ways to develop self-respect, trust your judgment, and foster a deep-rooted belief in your worth. Whether you're looking to overcome self-doubt or grow into the confident person you aspire to be, this episode offers steps you can start taking today.
Hereâs what youâll learn:
00:00 Introduction to Authentic Confidence
01:43 Understanding Authentic Confidence
04:23 Building Confidence Through Actions
06:12 Overcoming Misconceptions About Confidence
07:53 Identifying and Aligning with Your Values
13:26 Personal Story: The Journey to Self-Respect
17:10 Developing a Growth Mindset
34:50 Practical Tips for Exuding Confidence
44:42 Conclusion and Free ResourcesWant more guidance? Join me LIVE on Thursday for a Q&A, where Iâll answer your questions about building confidence and self-esteem. Submit your questions in advance through https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa for personalized advice!
Donât forget to take our free "How Healthy Is Your Self-Esteem?" quiz at https://www.growingself.com/self-esteem-test/ to see where you stand and discover next steps for boosting your self-worth.
See you there! đđȘ #Confidence #SelfEsteem #ExudeConfidence #PersonalGrowth #LiveQandA #GrowingSelf
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Anger can destroy a relationship, but it can also be the doorway to deeper connections and the emotional intimacy you want and deserve.
In this episode of 'Love, Happiness, and Success,' weâre not just talking about managing anger in relationshipsâweâre transforming it into a tool for deepening emotional intimacy and strengthening your connection. Join me, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby, as we explore the roots of anger, its impact, and practical strategies to use it constructively. Learn how to manage anger, communicate effectively, build emotional intelligence, and turn conflict into meaningful connection. Plus, Iâve got some incredible free resources for you!
00:00 Introduction
01:58 Roots of Anger
08:36 Communication Strategies
18:23 Problem Solving & Emotional Intelligence
28:34 Free Resources & Final Thoughts
Ready to transform your relationship? Tune in now! đŹâ€ïž
#LoveHappinessSuccess #EmotionalIntimacy #RelationshipGoals #TransformYourLove
Xoxo,
Dr. Lisa Marie BobbyPS: Grab that FREE two part âCommunication That Connectsâ training right here!
P.P.S. Iâm going LIVE this Thursday to answer your relationship questions. Want to submit your question in advance and/or get a recap of this video? Hereâs the link: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa Otherwise, set a reminder and Iâll see you soon! -
Feeling trapped in a high-paying job you hate? đđž Welcome to the golden handcuffs dilemma, where financial success comes at the expense of your happiness and mental well-being.
In today's episode, we dive deep into the emotional and practical challenges of breaking free from a lucrative but unfulfilling career. You'll learn how to reclaim your freedom, reignite your passion, and find true fulfillment without sacrificing financial security. đâš
Specifically, weâre discussing:
00:00 Breaking the Chains: Intro to Escaping Golden Handcuffs
00:20 The Golden Cage: Understanding Why High Pay Can Trap You
05:08 Real Stories, Real Struggles: Listener Questions and Insights
08:02 The Silent Suffering: Emotional and Psychological Costs
14:26 Conquering Fears: How to Tackle Anxiety and Doubt
32:06 Roadmap to Freedom: Practical Steps for a Career Transition
46:36 Your Next Chapter: Actionable Takeaways and Final Thoughts
It's time to escape the golden cage and design a life that truly makes you happy! Don't miss this transformative journeyâhit play now! đ„đ #GoldenHandcuffs #CareerChange #FindYourPassion #WorkLifeBalance
Xoxo,
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
GrowingSelf.com
P.S. Want MORE expert career advice to help you move forward with clarity and confidence? I have so much for you! Sign up to get access to my ENTIRE âCareer Clarityâ content collection, full of articles and a curated podcast playlist featuring the best advice from the world-class career counselors of Growing Self. Totally free, all for you! Get it here...
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7 WEIRD Things That Will Improve Your Relationship
Are you wondering, "How can I improve my relationship?" đ€ You're in the right place! In this episode of "Love, Happiness, and Success," Iâm sharing the most surprising and counterintuitive tips to dramatically enhance your relationship. From giving each other more space to embracing healthy anxiety, these strategies are strange - but they are based on research⊠and they are game-changers! đ
What weâre discussing:
00:00 Introduction: Improving Your Relationship
02:00 Counterintuitive Tip #1: Give Each Other Space
04:07 Counterintuitive Tip #2: Embrace Healthy Anxiety
05:53 Counterintuitive Tip #3: Embrace the Daily Grind
07:45 Counterintuitive Tip #4: Focus on Yourself
11:58 Counterintuitive Tip #5: Prioritize Sexuality
14:30 Additional Tips: Shared Mission and Empathy
17:20 Be an Activist for Your Relationship
21:18 Conclusion and Free Resources
đ But wait, thereâs more! Join my community and start transforming your relationship today!
đ FREE Communication Skills Training: Master the art of healthy communication and avoid common pitfalls with my 100% free two-part communication skills training, which Includes a 30-page workbook packed with exercises to help you and your partner connect on a deeper level. Sign up for FREE right now at https://www.growingself.com/communication.
đ Book a Free Consultation: Ready for personalized help? Schedule a free consultation with one of our expert relationship coaches. Weâre here to support you every step of the way. Visit growingself.com to book your first meeting, to discuss your hopes and goals for your relationship and how we can help.
đ Live Stream: Have questions or need advice? Just want to say hi? Iâm here! Join me for a live stream this Thursday (and every Thursday) at 12 p.m. Mountain, 2 p.m. Eastern. Submit your questions in advance at https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa and get personalized tips to improve your relationship.
Let's create love, happiness, and success together! đâš
#HowToImproveYourRelationship #RelationshipAdvice #LoveHappinessSuccess #DrLisaMarieBobby #GrowingSelf #CouplesCounseling #RelationshipTips #HealthyRelationships #FreeCommunicationTraining #RelationshipCoaching
After you tune in and learn about these WEIRD strategie to improve your relationship, be sure to let me know in the comments which strategy you'll try first! (Or which one youâll NEVER do - itâs all good! Iâd also love to hear how this goes for you. Stay in tuch with me! Don't forget to like, share, and subscribe! đŹđ
Xo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
GrowingSelf.com
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Was your marriage a MISTAKE? Today weâre diving into a question I hear a lot: "Did I marry the wrong person?" If your relationship feels hard and you're starting to wonder if you made the right choice, youâre in the right place.
Weâll tackle four essential areas to help you gain clarity: compatibility, communication, alignment, and growth opportunities. By the end of this episode, youâll have some fresh ideas, free resources, and a clear plan to create positive change, whether with your partner or on your own.
Specifically, weâre discussing:
0:00 Introduction: Are You Married to the Wrong Person?
00:39 Understanding Relationship Challenges
06:46 The Importance of Compatibility
14:02 Communication: The Key to Connection
17:46 Emotional Connection and Alignment
22:27 Steps to Clarity and Growth
29:03 Discernment Counseling: Finding the Right Path
33:21 Free Resources and Final Thoughts
Thanks for tuning in! Until next week, take care â and keep growing.
Xo,
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
P.S.To take advantage of that free two-part communication skills training I mentioned in this episode, head over to growingself.com/communication.
P.P.S. And donât forget, if youâre listening to this the week itâs released, join me this Thursday at 12 PM Mountain, 2 PM Eastern on Instagram and YouTube for a live stream where Iâll be answering your questions about whether you married the wrong person. Submit your questions in advance at growingself.com/dear-lisa.
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đ„ STOP PLAYING SMALL! đ„ Discover the secrets to growing more confident and comfortable with putting yourself out there. đ
Are you constantly minimizing yourself, feeling guilty for setting boundaries, or believing that good things are meant for others but not for you? If so, it's time to break free from these limiting beliefs and start living unapologetically! In this powerful episode, we dive deep into why we play small and how to overcome it, empowering you to step into your greatness.
Today I'm sharing actionable strategies and inspiring insights to help you become your own hero. Whether it's in your relationships, career, or personal growth, it's crucial to stop playing small and start believing in your worth. Today's episode will help you do that! đȘâš
Xoxo,
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
GrowingSelf.com
PS: Is this an issue for you? Want to talk about it?? Join me on this weekâs livestream to share your story and get advice for how to STOP feeling guilty about being your awesome self. Jump in at 12 pm MT on 7/18, or submit your question in advance here: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa
#StopPlayingSmall #SelfEmpowerment #Confidence #SelfLove #PersonalGrowth #GrowingSelf
Timestamps / Chapters
02:15 â Signs Youâre Playing Small
10:45 â Overcoming Limiting Beliefs
20:30 â Strategies for Self-Empowerment
30:00 â Free Resources and Next Steps
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One of my listeners wrote in saying, "Dear Lisa, https://www.growingself.com/feeling-unheard-in-relationship right now. I try to talk about how I feel, but I'm just not getting through. It seems like my partner is either not hearing me or not understanding me, and I feel so lonely. How do I change this situation?"
Honestly: This is one of the most common issues I hear about as a marriage counselor. In todayâs podcast, Iâm diving into why you might feel unheard in your relationship and sharing practical strategies to change that dynamic.
If this resonates with you, stick around because hereâs what youâll learn today:
The common reasons behind feeling unheard.
The impact of emotionally invalidating communication.
How to engage in communication that fosters emotional intimacy.
Practical tips and strategies to improve listening and being heard.
For even more insights, read the full article here.
đŹ Also, Join the Conversation! Let's talk about YOU! đŹ Iâm hosting a live Q&A session every Thursday at 12 PM Mountain (2 PM Eastern) where I'll answer your questions about feeling heard in your relationship. Join me live on YouTube, Facebook, or Instagram. You can submit your questions in advance here: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa
đ Free Resource Alert! đ As I discussed in this episode, to help you even more, Iâve created a free two-part training series called âCommunication that Connects.â This series includes:
Two 45-minute training sessions
A 30-page workbook filled with exercises and activities
Sign up for FREE at growingself.com/communication I made this for you!
Thank you so much for tuning in today. If you found this episode helpful, donât forget to like, share, and subscribe. I look forward to helping you create more love, happiness, and success in your life!
xo,
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
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Is your relationship emotionally enmeshed? If it is... you probably don't realize it! So how can you know? And what can you do about it? Tune into this one to find out!
On this episode, we're talking about what emotional enmeshment is, and how you can untangle your heart strings and create a better relationship in the process.
When couples are struggling with communication or conflict, emotional enmeshment is often the root issue. Once you address the enmeshment, your entire relationship can feel lighter and more enjoyable. But first you have to recognize enmeshment for what it is, and this episode will show you the way!
Tune in to learn:
What an emotionally enmeshed relationship looks like (the answer may surprise you!) The difference between emotional enmeshment and emotional intimacy Why emotional enmeshment is a big problem in relationships How to fix an enmeshed relationship and build a healthier connection.And more!
If you're wondering about enmeshment in your relationship, you can take my free "How Healthy Is Your Relationship Quiz" and learn more: https://www.growingself.com/relationship-quiz/
I hope you'll join me!
xoxo,
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
P.S. There is NO Thursday live stream on this topic this week. But I'll be back LIVE on Thursday 7/11 to address your questions about next week's podcast topic: What to do if you're feeling unheard in your relationship. Have questions already? Let me know and we'll discuss IRL on 7/11!
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Traveling with your partner can be so fun, but it can also be stressful and lead to conflict.
Whether you're wondering why vacations sometimes lead to arguments or how to navigate different travel styles, this episode is packed with insights and practical strategies to help you have a great time adventuring with your partner â or apart!
Main Takeaways:
Understand the common conflicts that arise on trips and how to address them constructively. Learn how to appreciate and respect your partner's travel preferences. Discover how to plan trips that satisfy both you and your partner. Explore the benefits of solo travel for a healthy relationship. Gain tools to turn travel challenges into opportunities for growth and connection.Tune in, learn, and let's make your next trip the best one yet.
xo,
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
GrowingSelf.com
PS: After listening, I invite you to join the conversation live this Thursday at 12 PM Mountain Time (2 PM Eastern) on YouTube, Instagram, and Facebook. Bring your questions about travel and relationships, and let's dive deeper into creating harmony and fun in your journeys together. Submit your questions in advance at growingself.com/dear-lisa and get reminders about the live stream so you won't miss a thing. If you can't make it, you can check out the recap at: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2y1LGVrpRfY&t=687s
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Have you ever listened to an episode of the Love, Happiness, and Success podcast and thought, "I wish I could talk to Dr. Lisa about this"? Now you can!
When: Every Thursday at 12:00 PM Mountain Time (2:00 PM Eastern Time)
Where: Live on YouTube, Instagram, and FacebookEach week, after dropping a new podcast episode on Monday, I'll host a live stream on Thursday to discuss that week's topic, answer your questions, and give you personalized advice.
How to Participate:
Live: Tune in on any of my social channels: YouTube, Instagram, Facebook. Submit Questions in Advance: Visit growingself.com/dear-lisa to ask questions ahead of time and get a reminder before the live stream starts. Recap: If you can't make it live, sign up through the link to receive a recap video via email.I love making the Love, Happiness, and Success podcast for you, but live streaming adds a special touch by allowing me to interact with you directly. I can't wait to chat about your life and your unique situation.
Mark Your Calendar: Every Thursday at 12:00 PM Mountain Time (2:00 PM Eastern Time). See you there!
xoxo,
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
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Have you been thinking about getting back together with your ex? It's completely natural to wonder if getting back together with an ex is a mistake, or if it might be the beginning of a beautiful new chapter in your relationship.
In this episode, I'm here to offer you the clarity you need. We'll walk through FOUR ESSENTIAL QUESTIONS that you must ask yourself and your ex before getting back together.
These questions are designed to help you understand whether giving your relationship another chance is the right move. Doing this introspective work will either set you up for a successful reunion or save you from investing time and energy into a relationship that may not have a future.So, make yourself a cup of tea, grab your journal, and let's dive deep into these pivotal questions together. By the end of this episode, you'll feel empowered and equipped with the insights needed to make the best decision for your heart and your future. Let's get started! đ
xoxo,
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
GrowingSelf.com
P.S. Let's talk! Every week on Thursdays at 12pm MT / 2pm ET I'm hosting a live stream on Monday's podcast topic to answer YOUR questions. If you're wrestling with this "should we get back together or not" dilemma, I hope you join me!! Submit your question in advance here: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa, and then tune in on the socials: Instagram, YouTube or Facebook. See you Thursday!
P.P.S. In the meantime, take advantage of the free resources I mentioned on today's show including tons of insightful articles and a curated podcast playlist all about how to get "relationship clarity." They're all for you! https://www.growingself.com/stay-or-go
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One of the most difficult things about a breakup is the way it can leave you feeling disempowered. Getting your heart smashed by the one you love most sends you on a journey you never wanted to go on... but taking charge of your life in the aftermath of a breakup helps you emerge from the experience better than ever.
Today, we're talking about how you can take your power back after a breakup, rebuild your self-esteem, and use your heartbreak to fuel powerful personal growth.
As a couples counselor who has seen my fair share of breakups and divorces, I know that heartbreak is brutal. But I also know it can be the doorway to a better life. There are things you only learn about yourself when it feels like your life is falling apart. And there are opportunities to discover strengths inside of you that you never knew were there.
Tune in to learn:
04:23 Why We Feel Disempowered After a Breakup 06:18 Reconnecting with Your Sense of Agency 10:37 How to Focus on What You Can Control 15:48 Practicing Self-Love and Kindness 20:31 Taking Charge of Your Narrative 23:56 Embracing Growth in Heartbreak 28:25 How to Create a Positive Vision for Your Future And much more! I hope you'll join me. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby P.S. â If you are going through this right now, you should take my free breakup quiz. It will tell you where you are in your healing process and what you need to do to begin moving forward. -
Will you be single forever? If you've been dating for a while and struggling to find your person, then I'll bet this thought has crossed your mind at some point. Maybe it's something you think about a lot.
And the prospect of being single forever can be scary! We all crave deep connection and true, enduring love. The possiblity of never finding the relationship we desire is daunting, especially if your dating experiences have been grinding you down. But facing the fear of being alone may just be the key to not only loving your life as a single person, but also dating successfully.
On this episode, we're talking about the fear of being single, how it holds you back, and how you can stop feeling afraid and choose to love your life â no matter what.
Tune in to learn:
03:11 Understanding the Fear 05:28 Working on Healthy Relationships 06:28 Impact of Fear on Relationships 09:17 Impact on Mental and Emotional Wellbeing 10:43 Behaviors Driven by Fear 13:31 Overcoming the Fear 14:01 Making Peace with Being Single 15:02 Shifting Mindset 16:00 Growth Mindset and Personal Development 17:24 Identifying Obstacles and Making Changes 22:36 Challenging Core Beliefs 25:01 Developing Meaningful Connections 27:46 Finding Fulfillment in Other Areas of Life 29:34 Building a Fulfilling Life 31:22 How Authenticity Makes You Attractive All of that and more on this episode for you. I hope you'll join me! xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby P.S. â Ready to stop spinning your wheels and start dating with intention? Schedule a free consultation: https://www.growingself.com/schedule-free-consultation/ -
How do you have a healthy sexual relationship with your partner after the trauma of infidelity? It's possible, and in fact, going through the process of healing your relationship together can bring you closer in unexpected ways.
But the road to recovery is not an easy one, especially when it comes to sex. Many couples struggle to heal, reconnect, and feel safe again after feeling violated by an affair. But there is a path to repair â for your relationship and your sex life â and that's what we're talking about on today's episode.
Tune in to learn about:
04:32 The Mental and Emotional Well-being of the Injured Party 06:00 Moving Through a Structured Healing Process 07:51 Stages of Sex After Infidelity 12:34 Managing Trauma Triggers During Sexual Encounters 19:16 The Desire for Detailed Sexual Information 29:45 Positive Growth and Conversations About Sexuality 34:37 Educating Yourself and Making Informed Decisions And more. If you are struggling with sex after infidelity, I hope this episode gives you hope and direction. You deserve it. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby P.S. â Want support with healing from infidelity? Schedule a free consultation: https://www.growingself.com/schedule-free-consultation/ -
Are you tired of all the drama that surrounds money conversations in your relationship?
This is an issue that so many couples deal with. Money is a highly emotional topic, and it can be very triggering, especially when we don't feel respected or understood.
It takes a high degree of empathy and intention to communicate about a hot-button topic like money and create a financial plan with your partner that both of you can feel good about. But that is a key to long-term success and satisfaction in your relationship.
On today's episode, I'm going to tell you how to talk about money without fighting, so you and your partner can get on the same page and grow together in both money and love.
Tune in to learn about:
01:30 The Root Cause of Money Fights in Relationships 03:26 Money as a Symbol of Deeper Problems 04:47 The Emotional Significance of Money 07:39 Respecting Differences Around Money 08:05 The Limitations of Standard Advice 12:50 The Rider and the Elephant Metaphor 16:33 The Structured Process of Financial Counseling 18:39 Unpacking the History and Family Culture Around Money 19:37 Understanding the Value Systems Attached to Money 24:22 Creating a Shared Vision for Managing Finances 26:44 Talking About Finances ProductivelyAnd more! I hope you'll join me, and that you'll find this episode helpful.
xoxo,
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
P.S. â If you'd like support from an expert couples counselor specializing in financial counseling for couples, schedule a free consultation.
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