222: Jeff Warren on How to Meditate with a Busy BrainThe One You Feed add
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Jeff Warren is a former journalist and more recently is a researcher, writer, and teacher of meditation and personal growth practices. His most recent book, written with Dan Harris, is called, Meditation for Fidgitty Skeptics: A 10% Happier How to Book. Jeff is a likable, relatable guy who carries a lot of practical wisdom in his conversational style of communicating. If you've ever felt like you're not good at meditating or that meditation just isn't for you because your brain never turns off, this interview is for you because that's how Jeff would describe himself, particularly at the beginning of his practice years ago. We all know that meditation is good for us but for many, it just feels inaccessible and out of reach. If that is how you feel, what Jeff has to share in this interview will make that gap shrink in size so much so that you can hop right over it and try again.
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In This Interview, Jeff Warren and I Discuss...The Wolf ParableHis book with Dan Harris, Meditation for Fidgitty Skeptics: A 10% Happier How to BookThe role of meditation in living with depressionThe voice in our headsNot identifying with the voices in our headsComing out of the conversation in our headsThe idea of "I can't meditate"Thinking we're supposed to stop thinking when we meditateChanging the relationship with your thoughtsFocusing on an anchor, getting lost in thought, realizing you're lost in thought and coming back to your anchor = mediationHow quick we are to conclude that meditation isn't for usThat meditation is a practiceCelebrating the coming back from thought in meditationTraining affability during meditationFinding enjoyment and curiosity during meditation Asking "What's the attitude in my mind right now?" during meditationThat attitude is what you're training during meditationLooking at the world with interestEquanimity = a lack of pushing and pulling on experienceOpening to experience so that there's no frictionWhen everything has permission to express its self fully
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221: Introducing Safe For WorkThe One You Feed add
Sometimes the workplace can get crazy and messy, that's where the podcast Safe For Work comes in. Join the former head of marketing for Nike, NatGeo, and the Oprah Winfrey Network, Liz Dolan and recovering lawyer turned comedian and executive recruiter, Matt Ritter as they take your calls about the workplace and help you get through Monday to Friday with a little less stress, more confidence and a little more fun.
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221: Robert Wright on Why Buddhism is TrueThe One You Feed add
Robert Wright is an author and a scholar. His most recent book, Why Buddhism is True, is an analytical look comparing the ancient concepts of Buddhism and the more recent findings of modern science. The title of his book may be a bit provocative, but we challenge you to hear him out before assuming what he writes about in his book on the topic. We think you'll find this interview thought provoking and interesting as well as instructive and helpful. Whatever your reaction to the episode, we'd love to hear about it.
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In This Interview, Robert Wright and I Discuss...The Wolf ParableHis book, Why Buddhism is TrueEvolutionary PsychologyThat according to Evolutionary Psychology we're wired to do what's best to propagate our genes into the next generationAnd how sometimes doing that might not be what's best for ourselves or the worldThat we're wired for a recurring dissatisfaction or discontented so we'd keep doing the things that would move us toward our goal of passing our genes on to the next generationCraving and AversionNot following craving and aversion as guides are central to BuddhismAccording to Buddhism if we don't run from unpleasant feelings like sadness, anxiety etc, they will actually become less painful over timeThat the Buddha intuited a lot of things that we now know to be true according to modern science and evolutionary psychologyHow our thoughts can sometimes subtlely influence us - ex Cognitive BiasCognitive Bias being driven by emotion rather than being rational & Buddhism teaches thatThe Buddhist conception of the mind/brain and modern psychology's conception of the mind/brain are very alignedIn the cognitive battle for attention, the thought that "wins" is the one that has the most feeling attached to itHow meditation can help give you clarity on thoughts and feelings and the difference between the twoCBT & questioning your thoughts and feelings in BuddhismMindfulness-Based Cognitive Behavioral TherapyAllowing and observing rather than acting on our strong feelingsThe anguish we add to physical pain by the anticipation of it or the lamenting of itEssences that we impute into thingsThe idea of not self and what it meansThe benefit of parceling out the things that we identify - like anxious feelings - as not being ourselvesThinking you're not cut out for meditation
220: Catherine Gray on the Joy of Being SoberThe One You Feed add
Catherine Gray is an award-winning writer and editor. Her most recent book is called, The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober. What a brilliant title and what a brilliant book. In it - and in this interview - Catherine offers so many good ideas, phrases, and pearls of wisdom to take away and keep close by. She shares a bit about her journey to and through sobriety with Eric and the critical "ah ha" moments along the way that really helped her build the life she's living today. If you don't have a revelatory moment when listening to her in this interview, we'll be surprised.
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In This Interview, Catherine Gray and I Discuss...The Wolf ParableHer book, The Unexpected Joy of Being SoberThe challenge of training our brains to look for the good stuff in lifeThe question: Would my life be better sober? instead of Am I an alcoholic?Rock bottom being a different place for different people at different timesThe challenge of moderationThe beautiful clarity of zeroThe limbic system in distress with indecisionControlling vs Enjoying drinkingAlchohol being like a cheat code in a video game when it comes to inhibitionThat no one regrets being soberThe awful feelings at the beginning of getting sober are what you feel like because of the drinking, not the getting soberLearning the skills to enjoy life soberAddictive voice recognitionNegative Thought Patterns:B&B Children in a carBird watchingThat there are many different ways to get soberHow expectations are resentments under constructionDay counting in being soberI don't vs I can't
219: Paul Dolan on Designing Your Life for HappinessThe One You Feed add
Paul Dolan is a Professor of Behavioral Science at the London School of Economics and Political Science. He's an expert on human behavior and happiness. Paul is also the author of the best selling book, Happiness By Design: Change What You Do Not What You Think. We all want happiness in our lives yet happiness is something that so often eludes most people. It seems like a feeling that happens to us rather than a feeling that we can cultivate with intention. In this interview, Paul teaches some really practical, research-based, action-oriented approaches to life that we can take today to increase our feelings of happiness. The first step? Listen to this informative and interesting interview.
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In This Interview, Paul Dolan and I Discuss...The Wolf ParableHis book, Happiness By Design: Change What You Do Not What You ThinkThe power of designing your environmentFind a balance of purpose and pleasure and you have a happy lifeHow a large part of how you feel is connected to what you doThe role of attention in happinessWhat we think would make us happy vs what does make us happyThat we're not very good at predicting what will make us happyThe AREA modelHow we must make sense of what's happened in order to adapt to itKey to happiness is also to pay more attention to what makes you happy and less attention to what doesn't make you happyWhy somethings that are so obvious are so often overlookedIf you can't change what you do, change what you pay attention to in the experienceIf you want to do something, make it easy for yourself to do itLess about willpower and more about design powerHabit loopsQueuing your environment, commitment and normDeciding, Designing and DoingIf you want to do something, make it easy. If you don't want to do something make it hard
218: Ellen Bass: Ellen Bass on the Power of Poetry in Your LifeThe One You Feed add
Ellen Bass is a Chancellor of the Academy of American Poets. Her work has won award after award and rightly so - there's something so powerful, beautiful, true and often times darkly funny in her work. She says that writing poetry - as well as reading it - is an inquiry more than a description. Isn't that an interesting perspective to consider? In this episode, you'll hear her read some of her work, share her insights and experiences in life, talk about the process of writing poetry and offer some ideas that perhaps you had not considered before - especially in the way she does. Regardless of whether or not you think of yourself as a lover of poetry, you'll be touched by this episode.
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In This Interview, Ellen Bass and I Discuss...The Wolf ParableHer book, Like a BeggarThat poetry is an inquiry more than a descriptionDiscovering something about oneself when writing and reading poetryHer poem, RelaxTasting lifeThinking about how you are "right now"The role of finding similarities in disparate things when using metaphorThe oneness of the worldWorking hard in the chair to be a poetHow no one would expect a person to pick up a saxophone and immediately be able to play and the same is true for writing poetryHer poem, Asking Directions in ParisUsing God in her poetryHer poem, If You KnewHow because of mortality, one day, we as individuals are going to lose everythingThat poetry helps us to see deeply into the beauty of things that are right in front of usIntroducing poetry to others as you would a novelThe important role of humorPoets she mentioned:Marie HoweJericho BrownNatalie Diaz
217: Will Schwalbe: On the Love of Reading BooksThe One You Feed add
Will Schwalbe is an author, entrepreneur, and journalist. He is also perhaps the most delightful, interesting and thoughtful person you've come across in a while. His love of books is infectious and as you know, Eric is a bibliophile himself so when the two talk about books and reading as they do in this episode, the result is one blissful experience. Do you love reading? Did you used to love reading but it's moved out of the spotlight of your life? Have you wanted to cultivate a love of reading? Are you looking for some really wonderful books to read? Are you alive and breathing? If your answer to any of these questions is yes, then this interview is for you.
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In This Interview, Will Schwalbe and I Discuss...The Wolf ParableHis book, Books for Living, Some Thoughts on Reading, Reflecting and Embracing LifeThe importance of readingThat reading isn't binaryThat every time we read, we become better at readingHow reading can promote empathyHow we connect through booksThe practice of "visiting your books"How he chooses which book to read nextThe way books can be a bio of your lifeThe primary emotion he has at the beginning of reading a bookLive to work vs work to liveThe freedom to quitThe freedom of mediocrityGood being the enemy of greatYou write the books you needThat our devices allow us to rob ourselves of silenceHow reading is an artThe "can't you tell I'm reading" faceHis favorite books that he's read recently that were written recently
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216: David Loy on the Intersection of Buddhism and Modern CultureThe One You Feed add
David Loy is a professor, prolific writer, and teacher in the Japanese Zen Buddhism tradition. Much of his work has to do with what has happened as Buddhism has encountered modern western culture and vice versa. In this episode, we dive into this topic via a discussion of his book, A New Buddhist Path: Enlightenment, Evolution, and Ethics in the Modern World. David presents us with a different lens through which to look at this intersection of cultures which will also thereby change the way you look at yourself.
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In This Interview, David Loy and I Discuss...The Wolf ParableHis book, A New Buddhist Path: Enlightenment, Evolution, and Ethics in the Modern WorldBuddhism in the West todayThe mindfulness movementThe play between Buddhism and PsychotherapyThe role of the selfThe danger of spiritual by-passThe delicate line of feeling our difficult emotions and foregoing our emotionsTranscend the world? Adapt to the world? or See the world differently?That the sense of self that we think we have is not as solid or real as we thinkHow meditation helps us let go of delusional perceptions of the worldOur true natureThe true nature of the worldBuddhism and emptinessThe sense of self is obscuring the nature or our minds which in themselves have no form or characteristics in and of themselvesLiberating our awareness from being stuck on things we're thinking aboutA collection of psychological processes that are happening within usThe process of trying to find the selfRealizing the truth of "that which is looking is that which we are looking for"Non-dualismThe illusion perpetuated by a sense of lackPursuing "things" to deal with the sense of lack because we don't really know what else to do to deal with itConsumerismGreedIll willOur militarized societyThe institutionalized systems that are running of their own accordThe duality of good vs evil and vilifying the "other" in the Judeo Christian WestThe importance of personal transformation in our cultural transformationWhat Buddhism is loosing as it moves into the modern worldWhat Buddhism is gaining as it moves into the modern worldThe meditative and contemplative practices of Buddhism that can help us transform ourselvesSocial transformation and Individual transformation
215: Are You Too Easy or Too Hard on YourselfThe One You Feed add
When you are feeling down is it better to push yourself to do the things you know are good for you or should you allow yourself to take it easy and do less? Depends....
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215: Leah Weiss on the Power of Mindfulness in the WorkplaceThe One You Feed add
Leah Weiss wears many hats: she's a researcher, professor, consultant, and author. Much of her work to date has surrounded cultivating compassion in the workplace. Her upcoming book, to be released in March 2018, ventures into the realm of bringing mindfulness into the workplace. It turns out, it's not only possible to do so, but it completely transforms the way people experience their work for the better. Hate your job? This interview is PERFECT for you. But you don't have to hate your job to get a lot out of it. Leah Weiss can help you elevate your experience at work no matter your starting point of happiness.
In This Interview, Leah Weiss and I Discuss...The Wolf ParableHer book How We Work: Live Your Purpose, Reclaim Your Sanity and Embrace the Daily GrindThe importance of and impact of our experience at workMindfulness: the intentional use of attentionThe illusion of multitaskingLooking differently at what we're already doing vs doing something differentlyTaking all of your life onto the pathHow mindfulness helps you transform the experienceThe importance of directing our attention to something we've been avoiding because it's painfulHow the strategy of avoidance or resistance leads us to be more unhappyThe three types of mindfulness training that we can bring to workBeing in your bodyMetacognitionFocusThe Pomodoro TechniqueOur crazy streams of consciousnessEudaimonic happiness vs Hedonic happinessA helpful strategy for dealing with people who annoy you - in life and at work
214: Andy Couturier on Increasing your Happiness by Simplifying Your LifeThe One You Feed add
Andy Couturier lived in rural Japan many years ago and it changed his life. As he lived alongside people who were living profoundly satisfying lives, he learned what they were doing (or not doing!) to achieve this level of satisfaction and then he wrote about it in his book, The Abundance of Less: Lessons in Simple Living from Rural Japan. In this interview, Andy shares this wisdom and his experiences in such a way that you can apply the concepts in a practical manner in your life starting today.
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In This Interview, Andy Couturier and I Discuss...The Wolf ParableHis book, The Abundance of Less: Lessons in Simple Living From Rural JapanHis time living in rural JapanThat the people in rural Japan do not use money to entertain themselvesTheir way of life is slow, humble, connected to their community and time for individual contemplationHow they don't suffer from "time poverty"That all life is connected in rural JapanBecause there is less to do, the garner more enjoyment from each taskThe consumerism and busy characteristics of the industrialized westHow "convenience speeds you up"Ways to make meaningful strides towards living a lifestyle inspired by the lifestyle in rural JapanSimplify simplify simplifyTravel less, know your home city betterMake meaningful connections with friends by spending more time togetherDiving deeper into things in your life in a methodical, thoughtful wayI love doing _____. Wouldn't it be wonderful to spend more time doing it?Ways to make time for what we care aboutHow they live profoundly satisfying lives in rural JapanThat you don't have to "go back in time" to live this kind of lifeBuilding his house entirely with hand tools
213: Dillan Digiovanni on Activism and IdentityThe One You Feed add
Dillan Digiovanni used to be a really angry activist. He believed his anger was an important driver to fuel his work to inspire change in the world. Then he had a revelation: His anger wasn't working. It was driving other people away and it was toxic to himself. Where his path led him from there has turned out to be quite an adventure. He's now an activist without the energy of anger and he now identifies as a man. This interview will inspire you to live your truth. It will inspire you to examine your own life and be better because of it. This important conversation is not only relevant to the issues of today, but it proves to be perennially relevant to how we decide to live our lives in the skin we're in.
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In This Interview, Dillan DiGiovanni and I Discuss...The Wolf ParableHow, as an activist, his anger was driving people awayThat there's no right way to do anythingIf you're angry all of the time you're constantly looking for the threatHis gender identity transitionThat anger can be a healthy thingSearching for the feeling that's underneath the angerThe harm in being angry at people for being ignorant about an issueThe way anger impacts your perspective on life and other peopleThe harm in saying "they did this because..." when what you're working with is an assumptionHis relationship to anger now that he's awake to itThe power of "allowing" vs "resisting"His story of transitioning his gender identityResilienceHow to live in the world when no one person understands all of youThe anger that arises when your expectations about how other people should behave aren't metThe power of meeting people where they really areHow to work with your vision about how the world should beThe power of the serenity prayerWhat happened when he let go of his anger as an activistHis Buddhist traditionHaving a meditation practice
212: Elissa Epel on Telomeres and How our Choices Affect Them and our HealthThe One You Feed add
Dr. Elissa Epel knows a lot about the science of stress. As a health psychologist, she specializes in research surrounding the role Telomeres and their length play in our body's response to stress. In this episode, she explains how the choices we make emotionally, about our thought patterns, our lifestyle etc directly affects our biology in a very clear and measurable way. It turns out, our thoughts and our behavior have a measurable impact on our biology at a cellular level and there are things that we can do to make that impact a positive one. When it comes to telomeres, in most cases, the longer the better and you can do things to impact that variable of length starting today. She is the coauthor with Nobel winner Dr. Elizabeth Blackburn of the book The Telomere Effect: A Revolutionary Approach to Living Younger, Healthier and Longer
In This Interview, Elissa Epel and I Discuss...The Wolf ParableHer book, The Telomere Effect: A Revolutionary Approach to Living Younger, Healthier and LongerThat genes load the gun and environment pulls the triggerHow at least 50% of the variance of whether we die early, get sick etc is our behavior, which is shaped by our psychological experienceWhat a telomere is and their role in agingKeeping them long, and sturdy and stable throughout our livesThat in mid-life, shorter telomeres predict getting diseases of aging, earlier (cancer is an exception)That telomere length can be epigeneticThe role of inflammation in our healthInflamm-agingAn anti-inflammatory dietDepression and telomere lengthThe challenge responseThat not ruminating on a stressor can lead to a quicker psychological recovery which leads to a quicker physiological recoveryLinguistic Self Distancing = improved stress resilienceIt's not about avoiding stress, it's about coping with stress in a way that doesn't amplify the stress in our mind in a prolonged wayTime distancing
211: Steve Hagen on Perception, Conception, and EnlightenmentThe One You Feed add
Steve Hagen is the founder and teacher of the Dharma Field Zen Center in Minneapolis, MN and the author of several books on Buddhism, including Buddhism Plain and Simple which is one of the top five best selling books on Buddhism in the United States. In this episode, Steve teaches us about several Buddhist concepts that are often misunderstood: Wholeness vs Unwholesomeness, Perception vs Conception and Belief vs Knowledge. Knowing the true meaning of these ideas will give you great freedom as you seek the enlightenment that is your true nature.
In This Interview, Steve Hagen and I Discuss...The Wolf ParableHis book, Buddhism Plain and SimpleThe Horse and the Farmer parableWholeness vs UnwholesomeConsider the welfare of other beings in all you doAwarenessPerception (the immediate, direct experience) vs Conception (our construct of things)Belief vs KnowledgeThat we can't arrive at truth through conceptionThat enlightenment is with us all of the time, we're just not aware of itThat enlightenment is our natural stateThe idea of "stream" as self, the Buddha saidThat the way things appear to be is more of a construct than a realityHow picking and choosing is the mind's worst diseaseNoticing how the mind leans a certain wayThat a Buddha is a person who is awakeThe power of simply observing something about ourselves rather than trying to put a stop to it or judging itThe Story about the 84 Problems
210: Johann Berlin on Living a Fulfilling LifeThe One You Feed add
Johann Berlin has worked with some of the world's greatest leaders, Fortune 500 companies, has spoken at a Ted conference and is in the process of writing a book about what it means to live a fulfilling life. Have you ever found yourself hating your day job? Wishing you could do the thing you truly love? Not sure what would make you happy at work but you know what you're doing now isn't helping? In this episode, Johann shares really helpful and practical approaches that you can start applying today in order to bring more meaning and fulfillment into your daily life - both at work and otherwise.
Johann Berlin is the CEO of TLEX U.S. Johann has grown TLEX nationwide and into leading institutions and Fortune 500 companies. Prior to joining TLEX, Johann scaled boutique triple bottom line and social sector companies from concept to high-impact with a special focus on innovative and disruptive wellness, leadership, innovation initiatives with the project being mentioned in Harvard Business Review, New York Times, and Wharton Journal.
Johann has participated as a speaker/facilitator at TEDx London, Stanford Center for Compassion, Harvard Executive MBA Alumni Summit, Wharton School of Business, UC Berkeley’s Leadership Symposium, Yale School of Management, Impact Investor Sustainatopia Conference, GE HealthCare’s Health Ahead Summit Paris, and Dartmouth on Purpose.
In This Interview, Johann Berlin and I Discuss...The Wolf ParableThat what you put your attention on growsWhat love means in a corporate environmentThe difference between a question and a wonderMoving from desire to finding things that bring you contentmentIt's not always what you do but that you have meaningful relationships at work"Do service", doing things with honor, treating things as specialHow if you hate your job, you don't have the energy to do the things you loveWhat you resist, persistsSuppressing your thoughtsHow hating your job causes you to sufferHis troubled youthThe role that the kindness of other people has played in his lifeHis three reflections on kindness:We choose who we are kind toNo act is too smallThe starfish storyDon't lose hopeChoosing to show up in the momentIf you honor the moment, you can choose to show up for itLiving wisely with the changing, advancing age
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209: Andrea Lieberstein on Mindful Eating to Nourish our Whole SelvesThe One You Feed add
Andrea Lieberstein can teach you how to nourish your whole self so that you can have a healthier relationship with food. What does that mean? Well, often, we turn to food to nourish parts of our lives that it is not equipped to nourish. Have you ever turned to food to soothe anxiety or stress? This is a really common way that we ask food to do something that it's not meant to do. In this episode, Andrea teaches specific strategies for how to bring mindfulness into the act of eating. These practical, multi-pronged approaches are ones that you can bring to your very next encounter with food.
Andrea Lieberstein is a mindfulness-based registered dietitian nutritionist, mindful eating (MB-EAT) and mindfulness-based stress reduction (MBSR) instructor and coach, trainer, and registered yoga instructor has specialized in helping people transform their lives for over 25 years. She leads mindfulness meditation and mindful eating trainings and retreats at retreat centers across the country and internationally. Her individual coaching sessions are accessible to anyone through phone or a virtual video office. She utilizes Mindfulness-Based Eating Awareness Training (MB-EAT), MBSR, MSC (Mindful Self-Compassion) and other mindfulness-based and mindful eating practices in her private practice working with individuals on a wide range of disordered eating, healthy weight management, body image and stress-related issues and health concerns.
In This Interview, Andrea Lieberstein and I Discuss...The Wolf ParableHer book, Well Nourished: Mindful Practices to Heal Your Relationship with Food Feed Your Whole Self, and End OvereatingThe importance of what we pay attention toThe 8 bodies that we can nourishBeing "fully resourced"Identifying your intention to have a better relationship with foodBringing mindful awareness to our eating triggers and our own bodiesLearning to tune into hunger, fullness, cravingsMaking conscious, informed choices when it comes to foodHonoring ourselves and appreciating others at holiday mealtimesSavoring our food so that we're really present and not on autopilotA mindful check-in: Pause, Deep Breaths, Ask "What is Present?"/"What's Going on Here?", Ask, "What do I really need right now?", Take a moment to reflect on your foodHighly processed foodThe myth of needing to wait 20 minutes to know whether or not we're fullSatisfaction at mealtimeMaking one meal or snack a day a silent oneThe 8 Bodies we need to Nourish: Physical, Emotional, Psychological, Social, Intellectual, Creative, Spiritual, and Worldly NourishmentHow to deal with emotions in other ways than turning to food"Surfing the urge"Loving-kindness and cravings
209: Bonus: The Why Try Effect with Dr. Jon MillsThe One You Feed add
Dr. Jon Mills is back and in this episode we discuss a paper that talks about self stigmatization and the "why try" effect.
Self-stigma and the “why try” effect: impact on life goals and evidence-based practices
Many individuals with mental illnesses are troubled by self-stigma and the subsequent processes that accompany this stigma: low self-esteem and self-efficacy. “Why try” is the overarching phenomenon of interest here, encompassing self-stigma, mediating processes, and their effect on goal-related behavior. In this paper, the literature that explains “why try” is reviewed, with special focus on social psychological models. Self-stigma comprises three steps: awareness of the stereotype, agreement with it, and applying it to one’s self. As a result of these processes, people suffer reduced self-esteem and self-efficacy. People are dissuaded from pursuing the kind of opportunities that are fundamental to achieving life goals because of diminished self-esteem and self-efficacy. People may also avoid accessing and using evidence-based practices that help achieve these goals. The effects of self-stigma and the “why try” effect can be diminished by services that promote consumer empowerment.
208: Peter Block: Freeing Yourself from Consumer CultureThe One You Feed add
Peter Block pursues the big questions in his life. What does that mean? Well, after listening to this episode, you'll know and I'll bet you'll do it, too. Peter has such a way with words that when he chooses them and puts them together, deep, profound wisdom is conveyed. It may be 4 words he speaks, but the truth behind them humans have experienced since the beginning of time. In this episode, he introduces you to perspectives on the free market consumer ideology that will set you free. Does it sound like I'm overpromising? You be the judge. (Hint: I'm not).
Peter Block is an author, consultant and citizen of Cincinnati, Ohio. His work is about empowerment, stewardship, chosen accountability, and the reconciliation of community.
Peter is the author of several best selling books. The most widely known being Flawless Consulting: A Guide to Getting Your Expertise Used. In addition, he has published Community: The Structure of Belonging, The Abundant Community: Awakening the Power of Families and Neighborhoods, and The Answer to How Is Yes: Acting on What Matters
The books are about ways to create workplaces and communities that work for all. They offer an alternative to the patriarchal beliefs that dominate our culture. His work is to bring change into the world through consent and connectedness rather than through mandate and force.
He is a partner in Designed Learning, a training company that offers workshops designed by Peter to build the skills outlined in his books. He received a Masters Degree in Industrial Administration from Yale University in 1963; he performed his undergraduate work at the University of Kansas.
Peter serves on the Boards of Directors of Cincinnati Classical Public Radio; Elementz, a Hip Hop center for urban youth; and LivePerson, a provider of online engagement solutions. He is on the Advisory Board for the Festival in the Workplace Institute, Bahamas. He is the first Distinguished Consultant-in-Residence at Xavier University. With other volunteers in Cincinnati, Peter began A Small Group, whose work is to create a new community narrative and to bring his work on civic engagement into being.
His latest book is called: An Other Kingdom: Departing the Consumer Culture
In This Interview, Peter Block and I Discuss...The Wolf ParableHis book, An Other Kingdom: Departing the Consumer Culture"I shop, therefore I am"The 4 pillars of the free market consumer ideology under which we live: Scarcity, Certainty, Perfection, and PrivatisationIf we believe in scarcity, then it's "I win, You loose" or "You win, I lose"The scarcity mindset is a lieWe are drawn to leaders who give us the feeling of certainty"A high control civilization"The longing for perfection, or "Is something wrong with me?"Privatisation, or the implementation of Scarcity, Certainty, and PerfectionPrivatisation says that you cannot trust the collectiveIn order to live the first 3 pillars, it's me vs the governmentPerhaps, rather than happiness, freedom, and meaning are the pointThe importance of having a purposeHave we rendered our youth and the elderly purposeless?The problem with consumerism is that no matter how much you have, it's never enoughThe creation of modernismNeighborliness and CovenantHis book, The Answer to How is YesThat questions bring us together and answers alienate usThat sadness isn't a problem to be solved, rather, part of being humanIf someone can convince you that something is wrong with you, they have control over you
207: Shozan Jack Haubner: Living with Leonard Cohen and a Zen Sex ScandalThe One You Feed add
Shozan Jack is a fascinating guy. He grew up in a Catholic home, studied philosophy, has been a stand-up comedian and has authored two books and many essays. He's got the gift of striking your funny bone in one sentence and then in the very next sentence, striking the center of your heart and mind in a profound way. In this episode, which is part 2 of a two-part interview, you'll hear him talk about his experience living as a monk inside of a Buddhist monastery, being a monk alongside Leonard Cohen, dealing with a sex scandal at his monastery, and what it has been like to transition into living his life back in the world and the many teachings with great wisdom along the way.
Shozan Jack Haubner is the pen name of a Zen monk whose essays have appeared in The Sun, Tricycle, Buddhadharma, and the New York Times, as well as in the Best Buddhist Writing series. The winner of a 2012 Pushcart Prize, he is also the author of Zen Confidential: Confessions of a Wayward Monk.
His latest book is called: Single White Monk: Tales of Death, Failure, and Bad Sex (Although Not Necessarily in That Order)
In This Interview, Shozan Jack Haubner and I Discuss...The Wolf ParableHis new book, Single White Monk: Tales of Death, Failure, and Bad Sex (Although Not Necessarily in That Order)How Leonard Cohen spent his time as a Buddhist monk in the monasteryThe union of contrary thingsHis take on Leonard Cohen's last albumThe opposite of despair for Leonard Cohen isn't happiness, it's clarityThe sex scandal involving his teacherHis experience leaving the monasteryWhat's next for him in his lifeHis conversation with a Christian priest about fighting demonsSuffering = pain + resistanceLetting feelings come and goHe calls himself the "middle manager of the middle way"The middle way involves dissolving the distance between self and other, in complete giving, in either receiving or initiating.Also, the middle way is not picking one thing OR anotherThe importance of walking your path when it comes to learningHis experience taking Ayahuasca