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Tired of your boundaries turning into group discussions? In this episode of The Other Woman & The Wife, Chelsea and Ann Marie expose the trap of 'collaborative communication' and provide practical tools to transform your requests into powerful statements. Learn why being 'demanding' might be exactly what your relationship needs.
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Join host Chelsea and our returning guest Luke Shillings as they explore how gender stereotypes influence both the experience of infidelity and the recovery process. They examine society's expectations of how men and women 'should' process pain, and discuss how breaking free from these stereotypes can lead to more authentic healing. If youâre seeking to better understand the complex dynamics of affair recovery, this episode offers fresh perspectives and practical insights for moving forward.
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Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/24Mxm7BItKT4xAz2Psfyh8?si=7dcc4d546d984c41
Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/after-the-affair/id1648061200
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In this illuminating episode, Chelsea sits down with Carolina Vilalva, a licensed clinical therapist joining The Other Woman and The Wife coaching team. They explore the crucial differences between therapy and coaching, helping you understand which path might be right for your healing journey after infidelity. Whether you're considering professional support or looking to make a change in your current therapeutic relationship, this episode provides valuable insights to guide your decision-making process.
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GUEST BIO
Carolina is a certified Executive and Life Coach from Columbia University with over 11 years of experience specializing in life transitions for couples, executives, teenagers, and parents. She holds a B.A. in Clinical Psychology and International Relations from Tufts University and a Masterâs in International Education.
Her training includes EFT, IOPT, DISC assessments, and she is pursuing licensure in Neurofeedback. A Third Culture Kid and part of a blended multicultural family, she has lived on four continents and is currently based in Maputo, Mozambique, where her husband serves as a diplomat.
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Chelsea and returning guest Luke Shillings bring their personal experiences to challenge common stereotypes about infidelity. As a former other woman and betrayed spouse respectively, they examine which stereotypes rang true, which missed the mark, and whether these labels help or hurt healing. A raw, honest conversation about moving beyond societal assumptions to find understanding.
Topics:
Betrayed Spouse StereotypesAffair Partner StereotypesHow Stereotypes Affect HealingSUBMIT YOUR OWN STORY
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Discovery Call: www.lifecoachluke.com/booking-calendar/discovery-call
Podcast: www.lifecoachluke.com/podcast
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/24Mxm7BItKT4xAz2Psfyh8?si=7dcc4d546d984c41
Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/after-the-affair/id1648061200
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TOW&TW kicks off the year with a journey down memory lane. In this encore episode, we revisit an episodes that deeply resonated with our longtime listeners â and offers our new audience a powerful glimpse into some of our previously aired compelling conversations. From our carefully curated archives, this raw and honest Q&A with Chelsea explores the questions that keep affair partners awake at night.
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This week on The Other Woman & The Wife, Chelsea and Ann Marie are once again joined in the studio by Luke Shillings. Together they retell and explore the emotional story of a woman torn between her role as wife and mother to her family and a rekindled connection with a man from her past. As relationship coaches, they delve into the roots of infidelity, unresolved trauma, and finding constructive paths forward when in complicated relationships.
Whether youâre seeking understanding or guidance, this episode offers a compassionate look at the nuances of love, betrayal, and self-discovery.
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Discovery Call: www.lifecoachluke.com/booking-calendar/discovery-call
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Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/24Mxm7BItKT4xAz2Psfyh8?si=7dcc4d546d984c41
Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/after-the-affair/id1648061200
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This week on The Other Woman & The Wife, Chelsea and Ann Marie welcome Julie, the Chief of Knowledge at TOW&TW, to the studio. Julie has been working tirelessly to create an all-inclusive, transformative retreat for women in Puerto Vallarta, Mexico. This retreat is designed to foster connection, empowerment, and personal growth in a supportive and inspiring environment.
If you've ever wanted to meet Chelsea and our team while building lifelong friendships with like-minded women, this is your opportunity! Donât miss the chance to join this life-changing experience. Visit our website or click the link to sign up: https://towtw.com/retreats.
Give yourself the gift of transformationâyou wonât regret it! Walk away feeling empowered, inspired, and connected like never before.
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This Week on The Other Woman and The Wife: Ann Marie and Luke Shillings continue unraveling the gripping story of infidelity shared by Tim Teddor, writing under the alias "Mark." In Part 2, we uncover the twists and turns of Markâs journey in the aftermath of his affair and divorce, exploring how his decisions shaped the years that followed.
If you havenât listened to Part 1 episode #54 yet, catch up here:
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BBxKxAaErZc&list=PLT72S-uJEtmDtVZ2xI4FnVOWGE9fXuDaZ&index=4
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/5QrOvLH2Gpj4y4xwTjOGUU?si=dlrhd4uOREq4yW2GIbkQjg
Apple Music: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/54-marks-affair-story-pt-1-luke-shillings/id1685932363?i=1000676389597
Donât miss this raw conclusion to a story thatâs both deeply personal and universally resonant. For Timâs full story and more visit his website https://www.affairhealing.com/mark-affair-story.html
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Discovery Call: www.lifecoachluke.com/booking-calendar/discovery-call
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Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/24Mxm7BItKT4xAz2Psfyh8?si=7dcc4d546d984c41
Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/after-the-affair/id1648061200
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This week Chelsea sits down with Carolina Vilalva. Carolina is a certified Executive and Life Coach from Columbia University with over 11 years of experience specializing in life transitions for couples, executives, teenagers, and parents. She holds a B.A. in Clinical Psychology and International Relations from Tufts University and a Masterâs in International Education.
After commenting on an Instagram post asking, âWhat makes somebody leave their marriage for the affair?â Carolina was overwhelmed by the response, inspiring her to continue to connect with other people who had found themselves in similar situations involving infidelity.
Topics:
Infidelity Blending familiesParenting through divorceLife TransitionsSUBMIT YOUR OWN STORY
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In this week's episode Chelsea, Luke, & Ann Marie explore a story submitted to them by a follower. The writer reveals the confusing and emotional complexities of infidelity. Once a harsh critic of affairs, she found herself involved in one after 23 years of a stable but unfulfilling marriage. A connection with a coworker, her direct report, sparked an intense, secret relationship that has lasted for over a year, even though her husband now knows about it and wants to repair their marriage. Now, with a greater empathy for those in similar situations, she faces the painful choice between duty and fulfillment.
Topics:
Crumbling ConvictionsInfidelity in the workplaceSUBMIT YOUR OWN STORY
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Discovery Call: www.lifecoachluke.com/booking-calendar/discovery-call
Podcast: www.lifecoachluke.com/podcast
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/24Mxm7BItKT4xAz2Psfyh8?si=7dcc4d546d984c41
Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/after-the-affair/id1648061200
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Join Chelsea, Luke Shillings, and Ann Marie as they dive into a gripping story of infidelity by Tim Teddor, writing under the alias Mark. Tim recounts his affair, the struggle to choose between his marriage and his affair partner. Tune in for a raw discussion on the complexities of love, choice, and consequenceâand look out for Part 2, where we learn how Markâs journey unfolds in the years that follow. For Timâs full story and more visit his website https://www.affairhealing.com/mark-affair-story.html
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Website: www.lifecoachluke.com
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Discovery Call: www.lifecoachluke.com/booking-calendar/discovery-call
Podcast: www.lifecoachluke.com/podcast
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/24Mxm7BItKT4xAz2Psfyh8?si=7dcc4d546d984c41
Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/after-the-affair/id1648061200
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This week on The Other Woman and the Wife, Chelsea is joined by renowned divorce attorney and author James Sexton, who brings over two decades of experience handling high-conflict divorces. Together, they dive into the complexities of modern relationships, examining the intricate roles of infidelity, love, and commitment. James shares surprising truths from the courtroom and beyond, revealing what often goes unsaid about why marriages end and what we can learn from those who face it head-on. Don't miss this candid conversation about the legal and emotional landscapes of divorce.
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James's Twitter: https://twitter.com/nycdivorcelaw
James's Instagram: https://instagram.com/nycdivorcelawyer
James's Website: https://nycdivorces.com/our-attorneys
How to Stay in Love (book): https://amzn.to/3t61uji
If You're in My Office, It's Already Too Late (audiobook): https://amzn.to/3PkVECg
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This week, Chelsea interviews Mama Coll, who opens up about her experience as âthe other womanâ and the extreme harassment she faced from her affair partnerâs spouse. From online stalking to restraining orders, Mama Coll shares her story and how she found her voice as an advocate. With a large TikTok following, she first connected with The Other Woman & The Wife as a passionate supporter in the comments. Join us for an eye-opening conversation about infidelity and resilience.
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TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@collsclosetofcomfort52?_t=8qn7ZebMqxq&_r=1
Youtube: https://youtube.com/@mama-colls-closet52?si=lefLuUQJ6QWIpcff
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In this week's episode, Chelsea passes the hosting baton to Luke Shillings, who turns the spotlight on her journey in building a thriving women's community and coaching program. Together, they dive deep into the recent launch of a men's community in August, sharing the inspiration behind it and their vision for its future. Join them as they explore the evolution of these supportive spaces and the exciting expansion of their mission.
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Podcast: www.lifecoachluke.com/podcast
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/24Mxm7BItKT4xAz2Psfyh8?si=7dcc4d546d984c41
Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/after-the-affair/id1648061200
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In this episode, Chelsea interviews Lindsey, who shares her deeply personal experience with infidelity. She discusses how her life changed when she realized she had found safety and a sense of âhomeâ with someone who wasnât her husband. Lindsey opens up about the emotional struggles of divorce and what it took to rebuild her life with her affair partner.
A story of vulnerability and transformation, Lindseyâs journey sheds light on finding oneself amid heartache.
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Guest Links - Lindsey's Work
Explore Lindsey's Website: The Resource
Follow Lindsey on Instagram: Lindsey.Kasten on IG
Lindsey's Blog: PinzyDoesBrave
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Weâre back from summer break, and we have some exciting news! Joining our team here this season at The Other Woman and The Wife is a special guest Luke Shillings. Luke is stepping in to help us expand our reach to not just include women but men as well as we grow and develop The Other Man and The Mister community.
In this episode, we explore complex topics surrounding a menâs community, relationships, and the delicate issue of infidelity. Together, we dive deep into the emotional landscapes that often go undiscussed. Whether youâre navigating these challenges yourself or simply curious, this conversation is sure to resonate. Tune in for fresh insights, a powerful new perspectives, and a preview of whatâs to come this season!
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How does a woman who is self described as "the most unlikely candidate to cheat" find herself in an affair? An affair that leaves her reeling and conflicted with a temptation to cheat again no less. Join Chelsea and Ann Marie as they candidly share their reactions, thoughts, and insights about this very situation.
If you would like to entrust us with your own story and have it shared on the podcast please leave it in the comments or better yet visit the link below and submit it on our website.
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In this weekâs episode, Chelsea and Ann Marie delve into the topic of disclosing your affair verses waiting for it to be discovered. The discussion weighs the merits of voluntary disclosure against the potential trauma of a partner finding out about the affair independently.
Topics:
Weighing Discovery Against DisclosureSteps to Prepare for Revealing an AffairEvaluating the Necessity of Revealing an AffairASK US A QUESTION
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In this week's episode, Ann Marie and Chelsea dive into the concept of limerence and its role in infidelity. They discuss how the limerence narrative can limit self-growth by offering overly simplistic explanations, and examine its impact on addressing the root causes of affairs. Finally, they challenge the labels associated with limerence, suggesting it be viewed as a facet of human emotion rather than an addiction.
Topics:
LimerenceInfidelityRelationship DynamicsASK US A QUESTION
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In this weeks episode, Chelsea and Ann Marie delve into "Gangster Gate," where a group of women doxed members of Chelsea's online community. They explore the dramatic events and their fallout. Chelsea shares her experience and the valuable lessons learned from this challenging situation. They also discuss the struggles and triumphs of building a controversial business from scratch, driven by passion and purpose, despite facing skepticism and opposition.
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