Episodes
-
Episode the eightieth; wherein the Pageist talks social media, depression and labels. The book reviewed is The Sexy Librarian’s Big Book of Erotica edited by Rose Caraway.
.44 Intro and Announcements: Patrons are keeping the show going so a big thank you to them. Hello to Karen, Lara, Brad and Christopher over on Facebook. Also, goodbye to them, as I’m no longer on Facebook due to it’s creepy, non-consensual data practices. Due to inactivity and in an effort to streamline my life, the Fetlife group for the site will be shutdown in the next week or so. If you’d like to be notified of episodes or posts, just subscribe to the website, using an rss feed reader or the subscription area in the sidebar (available on the desktop version of http://thepageist.com/). I neither sell nor share email addresses, so your information is safe with me. 3.55 My Submissive Life: One of my half-brothers died a few days ago, but it’s really not a big deal–we weren’t close and never even lived in the same house. I’m waiting for an appointment to get an official diagnosis of autism. 7.55 Book Review: This episode’s book is The Sexy Librarian’s Big Book of Erotica edited by Rose Caraway and kindly provided by Cleis Press. This is twenty-two stories written in a variety of literary genres about primarily heterosexual people doing a vast array of kinks (though no edge play, really). The quality of the writing varied as wildly as the genres and kinks on offer, though, there were so many stories to choose from, even skipping a few (if you’re a pedant like I am) I still felt like I got my time’s worth. Genres include, but are not limited to: science fiction, literary fiction, romance, and fantasy. I couldn’t even begin to list all of the kinks covered, for they are multiform. 16.52 Closing Remarks: Thank you for tuning in! In the next episode I’ll be reviewing Asarotica, erotica by porn stars, edited by Asa Akira. Support the show through PayPal! Support the show and site on Patreon and get bonus content each month! You can also subscribe to the website through the email form in the sidebar. Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be much appreciated! The libsyn feed is here and can be used in your favourite podcast feed reader. All episodes can be streamed or downloaded from an embedded player on this page. -
Episode the seventy-ninth; wherein the Pageist talks reviewing sex toys with veteran wanker Epiphora of HeyEpiphora.com.
.43 Intro and Announcements: Until the 31st of this month (March 2018) get 25% off when you use the code pageist at checkout on Circlet.com. This episode was scheduled in advance for health reasons. So, no other announcements. 1.40 Interview: Epiphora has been reviewing sex toys for over a decade at HeyEpiphora.com. In this episode we talk about the reality of being a sex toy reviewer, how the industry has changed in the ten years she’s been doing what she does, some of the most puzzling trends and much more. A post about sex blogging for ten years. Sex Toy Gift Giving Guide Bi Stronic Fusion Review Taffy Tickler Review Split Dildo Review Womanizer Review BeaSexBlogger.com Magic Wand Original Magic Wand Rechargeable Tenga Eggs Information about Non-Body-Safe Sex Toys Pure Plugs Review Rumbly vs Buzzy Info Eroscillator Review Sad Purple, the most popular colour for vibes. A Day in the Life of A Sex Toy Reviewer The Secret Truth About Sex Toy Reviewing Sales, Deals and Promos Find Piph on Twitter: @Epiphora Tumblr: HeyEpiphora Facebook: HeyEpiphora Instagram: HeyEpiphora 1.02.05 Closing Remarks: Thank you for tuning in! In the next episode I’ll be reviewing The Sexy Librarian’s Big Book of Erotica edited by Rose Caraway. Support the show through PayPal! Support the show and site on Patreon and get bonus content each month! Like The Pageist on Facebook, follow on Twitter, Tumblr, Goodreads, Quora, Medium, and Instagram and join the Fetlife group. You can also subscribe to the website through the email form in the sidebar. Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be much appreciated! The libsyn feed is here and can be used in your favourite podcast feed reader. All episodes can be streamed or downloaded from an embedded player on this page. -
Missing episodes?
-
Episode the seventy-eighth, wherein the Pageist talks with author and poly person, Page Turner.
0.44 Intro and Announcements: It’s the first episode of this month–thank you to all of my patrons. I appreciate your support! It’s vital to continuing doing what I do. Big, squashy hugs to AliceinBondageLand for basically sponsoring this episode. There’s still a couple week’s left to get 25% off using the code pageist at checkout over at Circlet.com ‘Erotica for geeks’. That code is good until the end of March. Someone in Nicaragua listened to the show. One survey response. If you’d like to take the survey (it’s anonymous and gives me useful info) you may do so here. 2.41 Interview: Page Turner is an author and blogger who writes about the trials and triumphs of being ethically non-monogamous. We had a great time and got on splendidly. I reviewed her first book, Poly Land: My Brutally Honest Adventures in Polyamory in episode 68. The text of the book review is here. Page wrote: Poly Land And A Geek’s Guide to Unicorn Ranching Jealousy Survival Guide by Kitty Chambliss Inexcusable by Chris Lynch Her website is Poly.Land Facebook: PolydotLand Twitter: @PolydotLand Page joined me for a bonus interview about unicorn ranching (finding a third for your relationship) for the Mix Tape. Become a patron to access bonus content! 48.37 Closing Remarks: Thank you for tuning in! In the next episode I’ll be interviewing Epiphora from HeyEpiphora.com. Support the show through PayPal! Support the show and site on Patreon and get bonus content each month! Like The Pageist on Facebook, follow on Twitter, Tumblr, Goodreads, Quora, Medium, and Instagram and join the Fetlife group. You can also subscribe to the website through the email form in the sidebar. Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be much appreciated! The libsyn feed is here and can be used in your favourite podcast feed reader. All episodes can be heard in an embedded player on this page. -
Episode the seventy-seventh; wherein the Pageist talks silicone sex toys–the process of making them and the hows, whats, and wherefores–with Kenton from Funkit Toys.
.45 Intro and Announcements: Use the code pageist and get 25% off on Circlet.com ‘Erotica for Geeks’. The code is good until the end of March. They also have a current call for submissions for asexual romance, the particulars of which are here. Bookmark their calls for submissions page and keep up with what they’re looking for here. New countries! Bosnia and Herzegovina, Puerto Rico, Morocco There has been some correspondence from some very kind people–the show was called ‘delightfully nerdy’, which warmed my heart. 4.06 Interview: Kenton from Funkit.toys makes body safe silicone sex toys that can be combined to create all sorts of new and different toys. We talk pros and cons of silicone, what ‘body safe’ means and how to tell if a toy is safe to use on your jibbly bits. Also, lots of chemistry talk. NoFrillDo Line Twitter: @FunkitToys Kenton’s bot: @sextoyclaims Instagram: @funkittoys Sexplanations Sex Geekdom Toymaker Project by Kit Stubbs Sculpey (sulpher-free clay) 1.17.05 Closing Remarks: Thank you for tuning in! In the next episode I’ll be reviewing The Sexy Librarian’s Big Book of Erotica edited by Rose Caraway. Support the show through PayPal! Support the show and site on Patreon and get bonus content each month! Like The Pageist on Facebook, follow on Twitter, Tumblr, Goodreads, Quora, Medium, and Instagram and join the Fetlife group. You can also subscribe to the website through the email form in the sidebar. Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be much appreciated! The libsyn feed is here and can be used in your favourite podcast feed reader. All episodes can be heard in an embedded player on this page. -
Episode the seventy-sixth; wherein the Pageist talks with writer and mental health advocate, JoEllen Notte about depression and relationships.
.45 Intro and Announcements: Welcome and hello to the newest Patron, Richard! Someone left a comment about the show on the Podbean app. Thank you! Round one of voting for Smut Marathon is open (until February 17). Get 25% off by using the code pageist at Circlet.com (good until the end of March 2018). 3.30 Interview: JoEllen Notte is a sex writer and mental health advocate. Her essay in Ask: Building Consent Culture was thought-provoking. Her site is redheadbedhead.com The Patreon to support her book is Patreon.com/JoEllenNotte Depression Quest Spoon Theory Ring Theory Link to JoEllen’s writing archive Playground 2018 Toronto JoEllen is on all the social media as JoEllenNotte1.00.21 Closing Remarks:
Thank you for tuning in! In the next episode I’ll be interviewing Kenton from Funkit about silicone sex toys–how they’re made and what to look for. Support the show through PayPal! Support the show and site on Patreon and get bonus content each month! Like The Pageist on Facebook, follow on Twitter, Tumblr, Goodreads, Quora, Medium, and Instagram and join the Fetlife group. You can also subscribe to the website through the email form in the sidebar. Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be much appreciated! The libsyn feed is here and can be used in your favourite podcast feed reader. All episodes can be heard in an embedded player on this page. -
Episode the seventy-fifth, wherein the Pageist talks to Master Jon about books for a general audience that can benefit people into power exchange and a power exchange style based on the samurai code.
.45 Intro and Announcements: Thank you and hello to the newest Patron, Stanton! The show has been heard in Kazakhstan. We have a new Facebook like–hello to Nickie! Thank you in a big way to the survey responder. If you’d like to fill in the survey (it’s anonymous) you may do so here. 3.00 Interview: Master Jon joins the show to talk about books written for a general audience that can benefit people interested in power exchange. We also discuss a power exchange style based on the samurai. Extreme Ownership by Jocko Willink Never Split the Difference by Chris Voss Ideals of the samurai: writings of Japanese warriors by William Wilson-Gregory Lee – Ohara, Black Belt Books – 1982 Bushido: the warrior’s code by Inazo Nitobe – Ohara Publications – 1983 The book of five rings by Musashi Miyamoto-William Wilson(tr) – Shambhala Publications – 2012 The Art of War by Sun Tzu -James Clavell(tr) – Delacorte Press – 1983 I also enjoyed Thomas Cleary’s translation of The Art of War Analects by Confucius -Edward Slingerland(tr) – Hackett Pub. Co. – 2003 One small step can change your life: the kaizen way by Robert Maurer – Workman – 2004 On Fet: LifeLessOrdinary He will also be teaching at Beyond Leather in Florida in April if you’d like to say hello. 42.53 Closing Remarks: Thank you for tuning in! In the next episode I’ll be interviewing JoEllen Notte about mental health and sexuality. Support the show through PayPal! Support the show and site on Patreon and get bonus content each month! Like The Pageist on Facebook, follow on Twitter, Tumblr, Goodreads, Quora, Medium, and Instagram and join the Fetlife group. You can also subscribe to the website through the email form in the sidebar. Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be much appreciated! The libsyn feed is here and can be used in your favourite podcast feed reader. All episodes can be streamed or downloaded from an embedded player on this page. -
Episode the seventy-fourth; wherein the Pageist gets a long-held peeve or two off her chest, is tired of being tired and asks people to just… ask. The book reviewed is Ask: Building Consent Culture edited by Kitty Stryker.
.44 Intro and Announcements: Circlet Press (‘Erotica for Geeks’) is offering 25% off if you use the code ‘pageist’ until the end of March. One new Facebook like, hello and welcome to Dedria. There have been a few survey responses. If you’d like to take the survey (it’s anonymous) you may do so here. It gives me lots of useful info about my listeners. Thank you! A few people have reached out to say they’ve learned things from the show or they feel seen and that means a lot. Thank you. Thank you for letting me know. Walter’s brain tumour isn’t responding to the medication the way we thought it was originally so they’re going to start radiotherapy soonish. The website has been entirely rebuilt from scratch. Walter did it. ???? 5.01 My Submissive Life: A big ol’ rant about two pet peeves: cheese weasels who jump out and ‘scare’ people in order to get themselves knocked right out and ‘helpful’ souls who immediately bombard a person with images of their phobia that they’ve been misguided enough to share with their friends. To both of those sorts of people: DON’T DO THAT. 11.46 Book Review: This episode’s book is Ask: Building Consent Culture edited by Kitty Stryker. The book contains twenty-two essays addressing how consent is (not) handled within the spheres of the bedroom, school, jail, workplace, home, hospital and community and proposes how we might improve communication skills in each of these areas, as well as some steps that are already being taken. Pieces come from an array of diverse and marginalised voices. This is a valuable, thought-provoking collection. ConsentCulture.com Consent Culture on Medium JoEllen Notte AV Flox Navarre Overton Takeallah Rivera Jiz Lee And many more I didn’t have the time to get to. I highly recommend this one. 29.41 Closing Remarks: Thank you for tuning in! In the next episode I’ll be interviewing Master Jon about books written for a general audience that are useful for people interested in power exchange. Support the show through PayPal! Support the show and site on Patreon and get bonus content each month! Like The Pageist on Facebook, follow on Twitter, Tumblr, Goodreads, Quora, Medium, and Instagram and join the Fetlife group. You can subscribe to the website through the email form in the sidebar. Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be much appreciated! The libsyn feed is here and can be used in your favourite podcast feed reader. All episodes can be streamed or downloaded from an embedded player on this page. -
Episode the seventy-third; wherein the Pageist talks sex toys–making them and the pros and cons of wood ones–with Richard Carver of Lumberjill.
.45 Intro and Announcements: At the start of the third year of the show, a sincere thank you to my patrons and all of the show’s listeners. Thank you to Joanna for the generous PayPal donation last month–it was enormously helpful. If you use the code ‘pageist’ (without quotes) on Circlet.com you can get 25% off (offer good through the end of March 2018. 3.13 Interview This episode’s interview is the first in a series with sex toy aficionados. Richard Carver makes high quality sex toys, art pieces and 3D models by hand out of wood. Wood is light-weight, warms to body temperature quickly and can be used with condoms. It’s not easily sterilisable, however, so once you use it, it’s yours. His work is available at SheVibe under the Lumberjill tag. You can purchase directly from him, as well as make custom requests from his Etsy shop, Lumberjill. There’s much more to see, as well as videos of his work on Instagram, where his handle is @lumberjill_leisurecrafts. You can also follow him on Twitter: @ShouldaWooda And support his work on Patreon: patreon.com/lumberjill Richard also joined me for a few bonus questions, which will be part of the Mix Tape next month. 58.38 Closing Remarks: Thank you for tuning in! In the next episode I’ll be reviewing (really) Ask: Building Consent Culture edited by Kitty Stryker. Support the show through PayPal! Support the show and site on Patreon and get bonus content each month! Like The Pageist on Facebook, follow on Twitter, Tumblr, Goodreads, Quora, Medium, and Instagram and join the Fetlife group. You can also subscribe to the website through the email form in the sidebar. Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be much appreciated! The libsyn feed is here and can be used in your favourite podcast feed reader. All episodes can be streamed or downloaded from an embedded player on this page. -
Episode the seventy-second; Wherein the Pageist reflects on the relationship between fantasy and reality and consults a passel of humans to write this episode’s book review. The book reviewed is The Cleis Press Sextionary.
.45 Intro and Announcements: Welcome to the newest Facebook person–Ashley! Thank you to the survey-responder for your kind words. If you’d like to take the brief, anonymous survey, it gives me useful info and makes my day. The link is here. The show has a new Patreon supporter! Hey there Bednar! Welcome and stuff! There are many exciting things coming up in the new year–including a series of interviews about sex toys–how they’re made and what to look for in body safe products for yourself or someone you care about. 3.20 My Submissive Life: Currently accepting applications for a Mom/Mum in the Oxford area who wants to take care of us. Walter and I are tired. Our house nearly burned down on Christmas Eve. Thank goodness for smoke alarms. We’re moving when our lease is up. So the goal of 2018 is to build the business so we can afford a decent place and moving fees. 6.42 Book Review: This episode’s book is The Cleis Press Sextionary, a reference book of all things sexy, kinky, poly and more. This review couldn’t have happened without help from many kind people, including naiia, Graydancer, Lorax of Sex, Franklin Veaux, Cooper S Beckett, Mistress Matisse, Camille Beaujolie, Mollysdailykiss, DomSigns, Kayla Lord How to spot porous and non-body-safe sex toys by Dangerous Lilly. Dr Jen Gunter (Ob/Gyn) on why you shouldn’t steam your vagina. List of paraphilias from Wikipedia. Sex Work Style Guide by Mistress Matisse. 41.51 Closing Remarks: Thank you for tuning in! In the next episode I’ll be reviewing Ask: Building Consent Culture edited by Kitty Stryker Support the show through PayPal! Support the show and site on Patreon and get bonus content each month! Like The Pageist on Facebook, follow on Twitter, Tumblr, Goodreads, Quora, Medium, and Instagram and join the Fetlife group. You can also subscribe to the website through the email form in the sidebar. Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be much appreciated! The libsyn feed is here and can be used in your favourite podcast feed reader. All episodes can be streamed or downloaded from an embedded player on this page. -
Episode the seventy-first; wherein the Pageist has some very good news, some potentially interesting news and gives her listeners the Bookshop Experience. This episode includes 30 mini book reviews.
.45 Intro and Announcements: A big thank you to my patrons! You’ve kept my head afloat and my sanity intact this year. There was one new iTune rating–it must have been five stars! Thank you! There was one new survey response with some very kind feedback. Thank you, thank you. If you’d like to take the (anonymous) survey, the link is here and I curtsey in your general direction. 3.07 My Submissive Life: Walter’s tumour is benign! He’s no longer on one hormone, but is on another at least for a bit. I talked about the incredible things various hormones can do to a person in episode 61. 7.25 Book Review: This episode is what it was like being a regular customer at one of my bookshops using books about sex and sexuality I read prior to having the site or am currently reading but want to recommend in time for the holidays. Episode 36 was books I reviewed on the site prior to having the show. Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski Bonk by Mary Roach. Her TED Talk about 10 things you didn’t know about orgasm. Dr Tatiana’s Sex Advice for All Creation by Olivia Judson. Sex with the Queen by Eleanor Herman Sex with Kings by Eleanor Herman History Laid Bare by Richard Zacks Sexy Origins and Intimate Things by Charles Panati A History of Celibacy by Elizabeth Abbott Surpassing the Love of Men by Lillian Faderman Between Women by Sharon Marcus Boston Marriages by Esther D. Rothblum and Kathleen A. Brehony A Round-Heeled Woman by Jane Juska My Secret Garden by Nancy Friday The Heart of Dominance by Anton Fulmen Erotic Slavehood by Christina Abernathy Where I Am Led by Christina Parker Ask: Building Consent Culture edited by Kitty Styker 28 Barbary Lane by Armistead Maupin Back to Barbary Lane by Armistead Maupin Goodbye Barbary Lane by Armistead Maupin Blue Heaven by Joe Keenan Alec Baldwin Doesn’t Love Me by Michael Thomas Ford It’s Not Mean If It’s True by Michael Thomas Ford That’s Mr Faggot to You by Michael Thomas Ford The Best Little Boy in the World by Andrew Tobias The Best Little Boy in the World Grows Up by Andrew Tobias The Well of Loneliness by Radclyffe Hall The Price of Salt by Patricia Highsmith Patience and Sarah by Isabel Miller Tipping the Velvet by Sarah Waters Fingersmith by Sarah Waters Oranges Are Not the Only Fruit by Jeanette Winterson The Clan of the Cave Bear by Jean Auel 33.55 Closing Remarks: Thank you for tuning in! In the next episode I’ll be reviewing The Cleis Press Sextionary Support the show through PayPal! Support the show and site on Patreon and get bonus content each month! Like The Pageist on Facebook, follow on Twitter, Tumblr, Goodreads, Quora, Medium, and Instagram and join the Fetlife group. You can also subscribe to the website through the email form in the sidebar. Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be much appreciated! The libsyn feed is here and can be used in your favourite podcast feed reader. All episodes can be heard in an embedded player on this page. -
Episode the seventieth; wherein the Pageist tests new recording software for a bit, has a fun announcement and talks reviewing smut. The interview is with Gavin and Jackie from Red Light Library.
.44 Intro and Announcements: The show is in Afghanistan, Fiji and Guatemala One new Facebook like: Hello to Drew! Thank you to Just Erik for the audio normaliser recommendation! If we all work together we’ll eventually get the interviews to a professional quality. A post about the grand opening of the Pageist shop. And a link to said shop. If you’re not logged into Zazzle you won’t be able to see some of the designs, as they’re ‘adult’ since they’re tagged ‘bdsm’. Insert eyeroll here. A few survey responses, which are valuable and sometimes confusing. If you’d like to be one of those things, you can take the survey here (it is anonymous). 4.37 Interview: This week I interviewed the hosts of Red Light Library, Gavin and Jackie, about reviewing the weirdest, wackiest erotica out there. They are heroes, subjecting themselves to some seriously questionable writing and unconventional fetishes to find work worth discussing on their show. It was hilarious and filthy and I learned about a fetish I hadn’t heard of before. Books and authors they recommend: Captain Future and the Corn Dildo from Outer Space by Tabatha Houston Daddy Longlegs by Brixton Atwood Approaching the Swingularity by Cooper S. Beckett, Bound to the Mast by Miranda Burns Their most popular episode: Bloated Beach Bunny Butts – Molly Coddles available here. Their twitter is @RedLightLibrary and their podcast is RedLightLibrary.libsyn.com Support them on Patreon: Patreon.com/redlightlibrary 1.07.39 Closing Remarks: Thank you for tuning in! In the next episode I’ll be reviewing… We’ll all be surprised! Support the show through PayPal! Support the show and site on Patreon and get bonus content each month! Like The Pageist on Facebook, follow on Twitter, Tumblr, Goodreads, Quora, Medium, and Instagram and join the Fetlife group. You can also subscribe to the website through the email form in the sidebar. Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be much appreciated! The libsyn feed is here and can be used in your favourite podcast feed reader. All episodes can be heard in an embedded player on this page. -
Episode the sixty-ninth; wherein the Pageist reveals why comedians are not to be trusted, despairs over technology and enthuses about the new shop. The book reviewed is 50 Shades of Kink: An Introduction to BDSM by Tristan Taormino.
.44 Intro and Announcements: Thank you to Mark for recommending an alternative to Skype! Here’s to clearer interviews in future. Several survey responses, which always makes my day. If you’d like to take the (brief, anonymous) survey, you may do so here. The site’s old theme is no longer nice to look at on desktop so has been jettisoned for this one until Walter can build a new site from scratch. At least this is classy. Our Zazzle shop is nearly ready to launch! Just in time for the shopping season. Kate Lister (@WhoresofYore) is writing a book called A Curious History of Sex. You can help fund it here. 5.15 My Submissive Life: Thanks to Arthur Chu (@arthur_affect) for reminding me of some things I had forgotten about comedy. One of his threads inspired this week’s segment. 11.24 Book Review: This episode’s book is 50 Shades of Kink: An Introduction to BDSM by Tristan Taormino. The precursor to her book The Ultimate Guide to Kink, which is for more experienced people, this one is an excellent beginner’s guide. Covering everything from common myths to how negotiation and contracts work to a wide array of actual kink practices succinctly, this one would also be a good choice for a vanilla person who was curious about what kinky people actually do. Amy from Coffee & Kink talks about why 50 Shades branded materials are useful and important in this blog post. AliceinBondageLand joined me to talk Chastity and orgasm control, which is covered in the book. 25.08 Closing Remarks: Thank you for tuning in! In the next episode I’ll be interviewing the hosts of Red Light Library about reviewing erotica. Support the show through PayPal! Support the show and site on Patreon and get bonus content each month! Like The Pageist on Facebook, follow on Twitter, Tumblr, Goodreads, Quora, Medium, and Instagram and join the Fetlife group. You can also subscribe to the website through the email form in the sidebar. Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be much appreciated! The libsyn feed is here and can be used in your favourite podcast feed reader. All episodes can be heard in an embedded player on this page. -
Episode the sixty-eighth; Wherein the Pageist tells the story of meeting her Ultimate Hero and also shares some good news. The book reviewed is Poly Land: My Brutally Honest Adventures in Polyamory by Page Turner.
.44 Intro and Announcements: New listeners in the Faroe Islands, which was a brand new place to me and was fascinating! Welcome! Two survey responses that I really needed to see–thank you! You can take the survey here and make my day, too! Big squashy hugs to Joanna, my first PayPal donation person! Hey lady! We’re working on the shop for the site, with the plan to launch it in the next week or so! Much excitement! 6.47 My Submissive Life: This episode’s segment is about why I appreciate my listeners and why you shouldn’t meet your heroes. 16.48 Book Review: This episode’s book is Poly Land: My Brutally Honest Adventures in Polyamory by Page Turner. It is creative non-fiction about the author’s journey from an unhappy, monogamous marriage, into her early years doing poly all the wrong ways–with some of the worst communicators ever to stalk creation. Hilarious and infuriating, it was highly entertaining, if an excellent example of what NOT to do. The book also includes useful information about ethical nonmonogamy. I’ve never heckled a book before. Check out the author’s site, which includes writing, quizzes and poly resources, Poly.Land. 23.52 Closing Remarks: Thank you for tuning in! In the next episode I’ll be reviewing 50 Shades of Kink: An Introduction to BDSM by Tristan Taormino Support the show through PayPal! Support the show and site on Patreon and get bonus content each month! Like The Pageist on Facebook, follow on Twitter, Tumblr, Goodreads, Quora, Medium, and Instagram and join the Fetlife group. You can also subscribe to the website through the email form in the sidebar. Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be much appreciated! The libsyn feed is here and can be used in your favourite podcast feed reader. All episodes can be heard in an embedded player on this page. -
Episode the sixty-seventh; Wherein the Pageist believes in magic, but only the bad kind and finds a book that helps with life, emotions, the universe and everything. The book reviewed is Jealousy Survival Guide: How to Feel Safe, Happy and Secure in an Open Relationship by Kitty Chambliss.
.45 Intro and Announcements: The Patreon is a year old this month and a big thank you to my longest supporters: BeeTee, Nug, AuntieSocial and Beau Gest. Also a huge welcome and thank you to the newest supporters: Aria, Formidable Femme and Just Erik. One new Facebook like, howdy doo to Jared TWO iTunes reviews–I’m spoilt! Thank you! It helps the show out immensely! Two survey responses, sans comments, which is totally fine. If you’d like to take the survey, which is brief and anonymous and gives me useful demographic information, it is here. 3.27 My Submissive Life: Magic is magic. I have to stop fearing the bad magic since I don’t believe in the good magic. 10.47 Book Review:(source)
This episode’s book is Kitty Chambliss’ outstanding Jealousy Survival Guide: How to Feel Safe, Happy, and Secure in an Open Relationship. Kitty Chambliss’ Jealousy Survival Guide is a slim volume, packed with information and worksheets useful for dealing with any toxic emotions (not only jealousy) that could threaten a person’s wellbeing—in or out of polyamorous relationships. Her expertise as a relationship and life coach is apparent—there is much wisdom contained in these pages. Wisdom and practicable knowledge. This is already a go-to resource I recommend to my listeners and anyone looking for advice on how to take control of the emotions that threaten their happiness. The author was on the show a couple episodes ago and we had a fantastic time talking about jealousy and the various ways it’s viewed in our culture. More resources and information about the author at lovingwithoutboundaries.com 22.33 Closing Remarks: Thank you for tuning in! In the next episode I’ll be reviewing Poly Land: My Brutally Honest Adventures in Polyamory by Page Turner Support the show through PayPal! Support the show and site on Patreon and get bonus content each month! Like The Pageist on Facebook, follow on Twitter, Tumblr, Goodreads, Quora, Medium, and Instagram and join the Fetlife group. You can also subscribe to the website through the email form in the sidebar. Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be much appreciated! The libsyn feed is here and can be used in your favourite podcast feed reader. All episodes can be heard in an embedded player on this page. -
Episode the sixty-sixth; wherein the Pageist learns about all the things she’s not interested in, becomes increasingly weary over censorship and catches up on a few weeks of announcements. The book reviewed is Scary Stories to Tingle Your Butt: 7 Tales of Gay Terror by Chuck Tingle.
.44 Intro and Announcements: Thank you to everyone who’s reached out and asked after Walter’s health! It means a lot and we both thank you. Thank you so much to JT, for our first PayPal donation! It brightened my month, let me tell you. Big thank yous to my Patreon supporters and welcome to the newest supporter. The show how now been heard in Zimbabwe. One survey response–thank you! You can take the survey here (it’s anonymous and makes my day). Someone rated the show on iTunes!! WOW! Thank you! The show will be in the next update of the SwingsetFM Podcast Network app for Android (available through GooglePlay) 5.53 My Submissive Life: Walter is healing well. We’re just waiting for the biopsy results now. Censorship continues to lurk. Patreon is full of lies, but I’m too tired to rant properly. Girl on the Net’s excellent piece about the nonsense and how you can help. Violet Blue’s piece on meeting with Patreon at their offices in San Francisco. Circlet Press: Erotica for Geeks The Viscountess Investigates by Cameron Quintain Call for Submissions: Fantastic Beasts and Where to F Them. Shapeshifter Bundle 16.21 Book Review: This episode’s book is Scary Stories to Tingle Your Butt: 7 Tales of Gay Terror by Chuck Tingle. It’s… something else. In a genre of its own. A mix of comedy, meta-fiction, erotica, all in a universe where unicorns, dinosaurs and Bigfeet (that’s the plural of Bigfoot) live amongst the rest of us. Oh yeah, there are also sentient buses. Like, the ones you ride around. Anything can happen. Anything. States can stalk people. The state of California, for example. And it makes sense in the context of the story. Hilarious, utterly unique, filthy, with the occasional cutting social commentary, no one else writes like Chuck Tingle. And the dialogue! Everything about it is singular. 29.08 Closing Remarks: Thank you for tuning in! In the next episode I’ll be reviewing Jealousy Survival Guide: How to Feel Safe, Happy and Secure in an Open Relationship by Kitty Chambliss. Support the show through PayPal! Support the show and site on Patreon and get bonus content each month! Like The Pageist on Facebook, follow on Twitter, Tumblr, Goodreads, Quora, Medium, and Instagram and join the Fetlife group. You can also subscribe to the website through the email form in the sidebar. Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be much appreciated! The libsyn feed is here and can be used in your favourite podcast feed reader. All episodes can be heard in an embedded player on this page. -
Episode the sixty-fifth; Wherein the Pageist has an utterly delightful chat with the unspeakably exuberant Kitty Chambliss about jealousy in non-monogamous relationships and how to deal with it.
.44 Intro and Announcements: Still no announcements because this intro was recorded very early in preparation for my husband’s brain tumour surgery. 4.11 Interview: In this episode, Kitty Chambliss, relationship coach and author joins me to talk about jealousy and other joys of ethical nonmonogamy. Her book, Jealousy Survival Guide: How to Feel Safe, Happy and Secure in an Open Relationship is available now and will be free to download between November 1-5. I found it to be enormously useful and will be reviewing it in an upcoming episode. For more resources for healthy relationships or to book Ms Chambliss for coaching, check out her site or podcast at lovingwithoutboundaries.com. 41.05 Closing Remarks: Thank you for tuning in! In the next episode I’ll be reviewing my first Chuck Tingle: Scary Stories to Tingle Your Butt: 7 Tales of Gay Terror. It was something else. Support the show through PayPal! Support the show and site on Patreon and get bonus content each month! Like The Pageist on Facebook, follow on Twitter, Tumblr, Goodreads, Quora, Medium, and Instagram and join the Fetlife group. You can also subscribe to the website through the email form in the sidebar. Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be much appreciated! The libsyn feed is here and can be used in your favourite podcast feed reader. All episodes can be heard in an embedded player on this page. -
Episode the sixty-fourth; wherein the Pageist learns a whole bunch about chastity from show favourite AliceinBondageLand.
.45 Intro and Announcements: This episode was scheduled several days ahead in preparation for Walter’s biopsy, so no announcements. I’ll catch up on those in a few weeks. 3.29 Interview: AliceinBondageLand joins the show for the third time! YAY! This time we’re discussing chastity, which is the eroticization of not being allowed to touch your naughty bits. This was a first in that she asked people for questions on other platforms (Reddit and Twitter) and so answered not only my questions, but also questions from people who practise chastity or are curious about trying it. We got into health and hygiene as well as safety and the motivation behind chastity play. Also, how to do it as a single person vs in a couple. Santa Clara County Leather Week 2017 Recommended sites to find toys for prostate toys:
NJoy
Aneros Shops Alice recommends for luxury chastity devices:
Steelwerks
Latowski
MatureMetal For cock pumps, Alice recommends going over to MedicalToys.com. A popular device is the CB6000, though it wasn’t recommended from any particular shop. Alice has previously been on the show to talk about FemDom and what she loves about what she does and Female Led Relationships. She’ll be back to talk about all sorts of other goodness in the future. You can find Alice on Twitter @BondageLand Her website is AliceinBondageLand.com On Fetlife she’s GoAskAlice On instagram just look for @aliceinbondageland Alice’s flowchart for choosing a Chastity Device is on the show's homepage here. 1.37.56 Closing Remarks: Thank you for tuning in! In the next episode I’ll be interviewing Kitty Chambliss, relationship coach and author, about dealing with jealousy in ethically non-monogamous relationships. Support the show through PayPal! Support the show and site on Patreon and get bonus content each month! Like The Pageist on Facebook, follow on Twitter, Tumblr, Goodreads, Quora, Medium, and Instagram and join the Fetlife group. You can also subscribe to the website through the email form in the sidebar. Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be much appreciated! The libsyn feed is here and can be used in your favourite podcast feed reader. All episodes can be heard in an embedded player on this page. -
Episode the sixty-third; wherein the Pageist has an update about Walter’s diagnosis, announces a new way to support the show, and laments why we can’t have nice things. The book reviewed is Witches, Princesses, and Women at Arms edited by Sacchi Green.
.45 Intro and Announcements: Thank you to all of my patrons for making the show possible and welcome to the newest patron, Alice! Two new Facebook follows: howdy doo to Becca and Tawnya. The newest country to hear the show is Angola. Several responses to the survey, with some useful comments. Thank you! Walter’s brain tumour is playing silly buggers and I don’t know how it will effect the schedule for the rest of the month. The show and site finally has PayPal capabilities!! 8.32 My Submissive Life: Everything is disappointing and it’s disappointing. How hard is it to not be a kink-shaming, homophobic, racist, transphobic, etc jerk? Apparently, very, very hard. Nie on impossible. Ugh. 13.31 Book Review: This episode’s book is Witches, Princesses, and Women at Arms: Erotic Lesbian Fairy Tales edited by Sacchi Green and published by Cleis Press. The book is a collection of thirteen stories–some retellings of classic tales, some new stories with an aura of fantasy–with a feminine slant. The titular roles are represented most frequently, but there are also trolls and dryads and even a particular Wicked Stepmother we all know and (possibly) love. If you’re looking for a more pansexual, kinky version of fairy tales, I highly recommend Leather Ever After. The text of the book review is here. The Red Light Library: A sex-positive podcast for reviewing the best/weirdest/worst erotica up for sale. We celebrate kink and shame manipulative hack writers every Wednesday. Their Patreon. Their Twitter. The Sexy Section is from ‘Trollwise’ by Sacchi Green. 22.36 Closing Remarks: Thank you for tuning in! In the next episode I’ll be interviewing show favourite AliceinBondageland about chastity. Support the show and site on Patreon! Like The Pageist on Facebook, follow on Twitter, Tumblr, Goodreads, Quora, Medium, and Instagram and join the Fetlife group. You can also subscribe to the website through the email form in the sidebar. Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be much appreciated! The libsyn feed is here and can be used in your favourite podcast feed reader. All episodes can be heard in an embedded player on this page. -
Episode the sixty-second; wherein the Pageist discusses consent, feminism and just why so much erotic writing is so bad with author Sinclair Sexsmith.
.43 Intro and Announcements: I’ll be teaching a class on lucid dreaming for otherwise impossible sexual fantasies at Eroticon in March! My bio will eventually appear on this page. From the endlessly wonderful Reid Mihalko, I won a ticket to next year’s Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit, which I will hopefully get to attend (dependant upon finding a sponsor for airfare/lodging). 2.27 Interview: In this episode, Sinclair Sexsmith, author of Sweet and Rough, Dominant, packing aficionado and all-round swell individual, joins me to discuss consent in erotica, why so much erotic writing is just so bad, and how kink isn’t automatically the enemy of feminism. Sinclair on Why Are People Into That talking about Power Cleis Press: A place for well-written erotica. The S&M Feminist: Best of Clarisse Thorn Sinclair’s free Dominance e-course: Mad Dom Skills Where to find Sinclair online: Sugarbutch.net MrSexsmith.com Their Patreon: MrSexsmith 43.07 Closing Remarks: Thank you for tuning in! In the next episode I’ll be reviewing Witches, Princesses and Women at Arms: Erotic Lesbian Fairy Tales edited by Sacchi Green Support the show and site on Patreon! Like The Pageist on Facebook, follow on Twitter, Tumblr, Goodreads, Quora, Medium, and Instagram and join the Fetlife group. You can also subscribe to the website through the email form in the sidebar. Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be much appreciated! The libsyn feed is here and can be used in your favourite podcast feed reader. All episodes can be heard in an embedded player on this page. -
Episode the sixty-first; wherein the Pageist marvels at the wonders of hormones and 3D model clitorises. The book reviewed is Sweet and Rough: Queer Smut by Sinclair Sexsmith.
.44 Intro and Announcements: Thank you to all of my patrons–you make the show happen! Mwah! Big, huge hugs to the newest supporter, Dedria! Two new Facebook likes, from Kitty and E, welcome to the group! The show is now in Bahrain, Belarus and Ecuador. Someone took the survey and had very kind things to say–if you’d like to fill in the survey, the link is here. If you haven’t checked out the BDSM community The Cage–it’s growing. Give it a look. 4.09 My Submissive Life: My 3D model of a clitoris from Lumberjill a.k.a. Shoulda Wooda arrived and I love it! Check out the Etsy shop here. See more of his work on his Instagram. For an incredibly informative slide show on how genitals are formed in the womb click this link. Thank you to Sinclair Sexsmith for that link! 9.48 Book Review: This episode’s book is Sweet and Rough: Queer Smut by Sinclair Sexsmith, which is a collection of short, very sexy, very well-written pieces of erotic fiction featuring butch/femme relations and packing scenarios. ‘Packing’ is when a female-bodied person wears a dildo–either soft or hard–in a harness as they go about their day. This collection explores gender and celebrates the female form. Sinclair did a bonus interview for my Patreon subscribers about packing–what it is, why people are into it and so forth. It’s available here. Sinclair’s Patreon is here. Their blog is sugarbutch.net and has some great writing. Fiction and non-fiction. You can get the book from here. Or by supporting Sinclair’s Patreon. 16.35 Sexy Section: The section this episode is about a strap on blow job. It’s the short, short piece from this week’s book ‘Her Mouth on My Cock’. 19.45 Closing Remarks: Thank you for tuning in! In the next episode I’ll be interviewing the author of today’s book, Sinclair Sexsmith! Support the show and site on Patreon! Like The Pageist on Facebook, follow on Twitter, Tumblr, Goodreads, Quora, Medium, and Instagram and join the Fetlife group. You can also subscribe to the website through the email form in the sidebar. Subscribe to the iTunes feed here. You can also rate the show in iTunes, which would be much appreciated! The libsyn feed is here and can be used in your favourite podcast feed reader. All episodes can be heard in an embedded player on this page. - Show more
