Episodes
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So, you're Queer and/or Non-Monog and the idea of going home for the holidays is causing more dread than delight?
Today, we're joined by transformational love and life coach Elizabeth Cunningham. Elizabeth leads us through a masterclass on how to prepare for difficult conversations with family and friends over the festive season. She shares tips on how to remain true to yourself when speaking about identity, how to keep yourself safe during difficult interactions and how to walk away from them feeling grounded.
First, Siobhan shares with Rich her 'seating choreography' theory that she applies in the early stages of dating.
A huge thanks to Elizabeth for bringing her warm and infectious energy to the show. Check out Elizabeth's "hilarious" website, her free polyamorous and dating questionnaire and learn more about her coaching certification.
You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok, YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, thepoly-podcast.com. Get in touch with us at our email address, [email protected].
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Have you never met a neurotypical, monogamous person? Alyssa Gonzalez hasn't.
Today, we are joined by Alyssa, author of Nonmonogamy and Neurodiversity, to discuss how the two interact. We talk about how non-monogamy can be uniquely suited to neurodiverse people, and how finding non-monogamy can be a freeing experience for some with neurodiversities.
We also unpack some of the challenges neurodiverse individuals might have with non-monogamy including rejection sensitivity dysphoria or alexithymia.
A huge thanks to Alyssa for coming on the show. You can find Alyssa's work, her book and her social media links at her website.
You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok,YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, thepoly-podcast.com. Get in touch with us at our email address, [email protected].
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Finally, an episode on relationship anarchy!
We welcome creator of the Annie Undone Instagram page, artist and writer Annie Undone to the show. We explore what relationship anarchy is, the different forms it can take and how it's a philosophy rather than a relationship type.
Annie also talks about coming out 'later in life', how she communicated the change in her relationship structures to others and how she confronted 'hidden' homophobia in her community.
We can't thank Annie enough for sharing her time, knowledge and energy with us. You can find Annie on Instagram and at her website.
You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok,YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, thepoly-podcast.com. Get in touch with us at our email address, [email protected].
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Today, we welcome somatic coach, sex-positive educator, pleasure advocate and the author of The Polyamory Paradox Irene Morning to the show.
We talk about the difficulty of knowing polyamory is right for you, but still struggling to come to terms with how it might work practically. We chat about navigating life changes and Irene shares some tips for regulating the nervous system.
But first, Rich and Siobhan talk about polyamory in one of the hottest fiction books on the market.
A huge thanks to Irene for coming on the show. You can find her work at her website and on Instagram, YouTube and Facebook. You can find her book The Polyamory Paradox.
Read the GQ article Siobhan read from.
You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok,YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, thepoly-podcast.com. Get in touch with us at our email address, [email protected].
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How does race impact polyamorous experiences? Do existing polyamorous discourses erase people from minority ethnic backgrounds? Is being 'out' as non-monog overrated? How can we all grow to be more inclusive of experiences that we don't immediately identify with?
We're joined by founder of Polyamorous While Asian, Michelle Hy, to discuss race, polyamory and politics. We discuss being Asian and non-monog, unhelpful and hurtful stereotypes that can come with this and how Michelle manages this when it arises. We also deep dive into how identities and relationships are ruled by political policy and how to wade through it all to be unapologetically your authentic self.
We thank Michelle for her vulnerability and openness during today's episode. You can find Michelle on Instagram and at her website.
Check out Dolly Chugh's 'The Person You Mean To Be', the book Siobhan talked about in the intro.
You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok,YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, thepoly-podcast.com. Get in touch with us at our email address, [email protected].
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It's a kinky one today! We are so lucky to be joined by certified s*xplicit educator + Non-Monogamy content creator Poppy Scarlett aka Polyam Poppy.
We chat about how kink can be non-physical, how masturbation is a form of self-expression and the power of pleasure affirmations. We also delve a little into BDSM, why it's good to schedule sex and Sex Worker Pride.
First, Rich and Siobhan chat about the recent Dave Grohl infidelity news.
A huge thank you to Poppy for coming on the show. You can find Poppy Scarlett at her website. You can check out both of her Instagram accounts Poppy Scarlett and Polyam Poppy. She's also got a pleasure affirmations PDF free for download and you can find out more about her upcoming London socials.
You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok,YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, thepoly-podcast.com. Get in touch with us at our email address, [email protected].
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Our relationships are just a unique as we are. We're joined by best-selling author, Relationship Diversity advocate and host of the Relationship Diversity Podcast, Carrie Jeroslow, to discuss how to design our relationships to reflect who we are.
We talk about how to bring intentionality into intimate relationships by shedding the programming of what relationships 'should' look like and asking ourselves what we want. Carrie opens up about her journey in and out of non-monogamy and how she opened her marriage after years of monogamy.
Carrie tells us about the need to understand ourselves before we design our relationships, how to check-in with ourselves and our partners and how to discuss relationship orientation with kids.
First, Siobhan updates Rich on the Australia Census story (and it's a good update, yay) and Rich shares a recent article about kids growing up with polyamorous parents (also a positive story, double yay!)
You can find Carrie and all her offerings, including her podcast, at her website. She's the best-selling author of Why Do They Always Break Up With Me? You can also find Carrie on Instagram, Tik Tok and YouTube.
You can hear us on the Relationship Diversity Podcast, too.
Check out the Guardian Australia article Siobhan read from and the Psychology Today article Rich shared.
You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok, YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, thepoly-podcast.com. Get in touch with us at our email address, [email protected].
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Today, we examine the complications and considerations relationships of more than two need to consider when combining finances, moving in together and having children.
We chat to Laura Boyle, creator of Ready for Polyamory and author of the recently released book 'Monogamy? In This Economy?' about how to navigate household budgets, how to know when to move in with your partners and metamours and how to deal with unplanned pregnancies.
First, Siobhan tells Rich about an Australian news story involving the next census and the erasure of Queer people.
A huge thanks to Laura for joining us on the show. You can find all of her work at the Ready For Polyamory website, including her new book, Monogamy? In This Economy? You can also check out Laura's polyamory glossary.
Read the TDA post we discuss in the intro.
You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok,YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, thepoly-podcast.com. Get in touch with us at our email address, [email protected].
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It's our very first listener Q+A episode!
We've collated all the best questions we've got recently and put all the answers in one place. We chat about how to safely add a third to a relationship and the ethical considerations that go with it. We answer questions on transitioning to a long distance dynamic, how to deal with intense crushes and what meaningful media representation looks like.
To kick off, Rich shares a recent experience of being ghosted after coming out as poly to a prospective partner.
We really hope you enjoy this episode and encourage you to send us questions for the next one.
We mention a range of resources in this episode. The links for them are below:
Our episode on the Relationship Diversity Podcast
The Pineapple Express Podcast
Non-Monogamy Media Guide
Multiamory's RADAR
Lola Pheonix's Long Distance NRE blog
Dr. Eli Sheff's article on Long Distance ENM Relationships
You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok,YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, [email protected].
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Finally, a deep dive into jealousy.
We are joined by certified sexuality educator, best-selling author, Ted X speaker and host of the ‘Playing With Fire’ podcast Dr. Joli Hamilton. We chat about why feeling jealous can be a good thing, the differences between jealousy and envy and how to use jealousy to create erotic experiences.
First, Rich chats to Siobhan about an advert he saw on the London Underground and if it has any links to the non-monog community.
We can't thank Joli enough for joining us on the show. You can find Dr. Joli at her website and on her podcast. You can also check out her Jealousy Masterclass and her monthly salons and quiz.
And, here is how you can vote for us in the British Podcast Awards Listeners' Choice category:
1. Going to the voting page
2. Typing in 'The Poly (Pod)Cast'
3. Scrolling till you find us
4. Entering your name and email address
5. Clicking 'Submit'
You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok,YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, [email protected].
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Is non-monogamy Queer? Does it fit under the LGBTQIA+ umbrella? Does it even need a category at all?
We are joined by sound healer, coach, Queer mentor and host of the Queer and Poly Podcast Liana Griebsch to discuss where non-monogamy fits and why people feel the need to categorise it at all. We chat about the parallels between the Queer and non-monog experiences, the opportunities and limits of language and how to navigate the chronic 'boxing' of minority identities.
First, Rich and Siobhan reflect on the Week of Non-Monogamy Visibility.
A huge thanks to Liana for joining us on the show. You can find them and details about their services on Instagram. Check out the Queer and Poly podcast, too.
And, here is how you can vote for us in the British Podcast Awards Listeners' Choice category:
1. Going to the voting page
2. Typing in 'The Poly (Pod)Cast'
3. Scrolling till you find us
4. Entering your name and email address
5. Clicking 'Submit'
You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok,YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, [email protected].
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Happy Week of Visibility for Non-Monogamy!
To discuss the first ever week of its kind we welcome back the Co-Founder and Executive Director of the Organisation of Polyamory and Ethical Non-Monogamy (OPEN) Brett Chamberlin. We discuss how the week came about, each of the day's themes and how each of us can get involved.
A huge thanks to Brett for coming on the show. You can find out more about the Non-Monogamy Week of Visibility and about OPEN. During our interview, Brett also mentioned OPEN's campaign on Facebook's AI Chatbots, the Centre for Intimacy Justice and the Woodhull Freedom Foundation.
You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok, YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, [email protected].
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What is compersion? Should you feel compersion? Do you have to feel compersion when you're non-monogamous? Leading expert on compersion, Marie Thouin, joins us to talk about compersion, the different ways that it can be felt and some of the things that can help it and hinder it.
But first, Rich and Siobhan talk Foo Fighters, #Poly4Paly and online dating advice.
A massive thank you to Marie for joining us on the show and helping us grow some more brain cells. Check out Marie's website, her new book, 'What is Compersion? Understanding Positive Empathy in Consensually Non-Monogamous Relationships' and her compersion worksheet. You can also find her on Instagram.
You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok, YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, [email protected].
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Not friends, but not lovers? We discuss the grey colourful, often-dismissed area between platonic friendship and serious, romantic relationships.
We unpack the terminology we have for these relationships and how following binary thinking can severely limit the possible spectrum of relationships we might experience.
Get your Poly4Paly tickets. You can watch the video from Chill Polyamory about donating e-Sims if you need step-by-step directions. If you want to donate in other ways to support people in Gaza visit Operation Olive Branch, Doctors Without Borders, Anera, Medical Aid for Palestine and Action Aid.
You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok, YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, [email protected].
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We are joined by Dr. Eli Sheff, the world's foremost academic expert on polyamorous families with children.
In this episode, we discuss The Bonding Project, her endeavour to help people across the relationship spectrum learn more about how they bond. We took The Bonding Project tests and discuss our results with Dr. Eli, plus we get an update on her work studying polyamorous families.
But first, Siobhan tells Rich about an article that compares being single and being polyamorous.
We can't thank Dr. Eli enough for joining us on the show. Check out The Bonding Project, Dr. Eli's website and her blog on Psychology Today.
Complete OPEN's 2024 Non-Monogamy Community Survey and read The Conversation article.
You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok, YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, [email protected].
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Are all gay men non-monogamous? Do gay men want monogamy? Does non-monogamy feel compulsory in the Gay community? We put these questions and much more to the hosts of the Gayish podcast Mike Johnson and Kyle Getz.
We chat about the role non-monogamy plays in Gay dating, how it can be difficult to negotiate monogamy and if discrimination and homophobia led to Gay men being regarded as the 'pioneers' of non-monogamy in the Queer community.
First, Rich and Siobhan chat about how to answer a question commonly asked of non-monog folk, "What is the end goal of dating as a non-monog person?"
A huge thanks to Mike and Kyle for joining us on the show. Check out the Gayish podcast and their website. You can also follow them on Facebook, Instagram, X, Threads and YouTube. Check Gayish out on Discord.
Take the 2024 OPEN survey.
You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok, YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, [email protected].
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Sex with robots. Dating avatars. Polyamory. Is this the future of love? Futurologist and anthropologist Roanne Van Voorst has the answers.
We discuss some of the topics in her new book, Six in a Bed: The Future of Love - from Sex Dolls and Avatars to Polyamory, and uncover the impact of technological advances on how we build relationships. We delve into the likelihood of everyone being non-monogamous in the future and explore research about why young people are having less and less sex.
It's also our FIRST BIRTHDAY as a podcast, so we kick off the show reflecting on the year that was.
Thanks so much to Roanne for joining us on the show. Check out her new book, find out about her other research at her website and listen to her radioplay (The Emic).
You can buy tickets for our workshop Polyamory: Lifestyle of Orientation here.
You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok, YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, [email protected].
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Does anyone actually like being a secondary?
Today, we dive into some of your good, bad and mixed experiences of being a secondary. We chat about the term 'secondary' and how it could be improved, some of the reasons why being a secondary can work and the difference between implied and intentional hierarchies.
Thanks so much to everyone who shared their experiences with us for this episode.
You can buy tickets for our workshop Polyamory: Lifestyle of Orientation here.
You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok, YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, [email protected].
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WARNING: We have a brief discussion about self-harm in this episode.
We are joined by the CEO of Plura Noa Elan. Plura is an app that facilitates connections between burner, queer, artist, creative, polyamorous, wellness, kink, conscious, spiritual, and alternative people.
We chat to Noa about the difficulties of cultivating consent in online spaces and the ways that social media is limiting meaningful virtual discussions about sex and sexuality.
Find out more about Plura at their website. Download the Plura App at the App Store or on Google Play.
Check out Siobhan's latest article for i News.
You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok, YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, [email protected].
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Our very first Australian-based guest joins us on the show!
Meg Wilson is the founder and lead therapist of Unison Counselling, a practice that focuses on issues relating to polyamory, non-monogamy, open relationships, and the LGBTQIA+ communities.
We chat to her about how being non-monogamous might impact your nervous system and if maintaining multiple romantic or sexual relationships could increase your risk of repeating destructive relationship patterns. We also delve into increased hyper-individualism in western society and why it's especially important to build connection in this context.
But first, Siobhan shares a 'radical' new thing she's trying out.
A massive thanks to Meg for starting her day incredibly early to accomodate the 11-hour time difference between London and Melbourne so she could come on the show. Find her offerings at the Unison Counselling website.
Check out Siobhan's latest article about non-monogamy and step-parenting.
You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok, YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, [email protected].
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