Episodes
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In this week's episode we discuss how to navigate moments, periods, and seasons when our emotional, mental, or spiritual tanks are empty and we have little to give to our relationships.
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In this week's episode we talk through a few findings from the book Fight Right: How Successful Couples Turn Conflict Into Connection by Dr. John and Dr. Julie Gottman and a casual conversation between my colleagues and I about those findings on a random Tuesday.
We discuss three conflict styles highlighted in the book (Avoidant, Validating, Volatile) and keys the authors shared about things to avoid during conflict and things to aim for in order to create connection.
If you're interested in bringing a library directly to your phone or tablet, consider downloading the Libby app. You only have to connect your library card and you'll be able to borrow e-books and audiobooks for free! -
In this week's episode we discuss how our upbringings plays a pivotal role in how we view the world, how we communicate, and how we interact with the environment around us.
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In this week's episode we review some common patterns of rejection towards ourselves, such as:
Being overly critical of oneselfBeing uncomfortable spending time aloneBeing in a constant state of comparisonFocusing more on doing rather than beingWe also discuss some steps we can take to begin learning true self-acceptance:
Mindfulness & Self-ExplorationGiving Yourself GraceForgiving Yourself -
In this week's episode we talk about insights on how to open our hearts and minds to simply having more fun. We go in depth about 5 strategies to help us along this process:
1. Stop taking yourself so seriously - instead, be more childlike (when appropriate)
2. Stop connecting with people on what's going badly - instead, connect on positive things
3. Commit to time away from your goals and obligations every day
4. Shut off analysis-mode
5. Try a complaint fast
Catherine Price TED Talk: Why Having Fun Is The Secret To A Healthier Life -
In this week's episode we discuss eight strategies to help you resist temptation:
Recall what tempts youInterject and redirect yourself before you engage with the temptation Plan to have healthy alternatives in placeIntroduce and welcome accountability partnersChallenge yourself for a set period of timeKeep the temptation out of reach Set your intention Create a rewards systemYou'll find in depth explanations and examples throughout the episode.
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In this week's episode we speak to Angela Duckworth's book Grit. She outlines three different views of work - job, career, and calling. In her book, she speaks to the degree of grit involved at each level. I paralleled job, career, and calling to dating, relationships, and life partnership. We zoom out and take a look at what our expectations and investments look like at each level of romantic relationship.
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I'm going to keep it straight with you - uncovering your true identity is going to take a lot of humility because it'll be a game of trial and error. This lifelong journey allows us to sift through all the filth that life, hurt, rejection, misunderstanding, and everything else that has covered up the beauty of who we really are.
I intentionally titled this UNcovering your true Identity rather than DIScovering your true identity because it's already inside of you. We don't need to find it, we need to uncover it. I've been doing so by:
1. Adopting a clear belief system
2. Doing a self-analysis (over and over again)
3. Determining what characteristics best serve me and which ones hurt me
4. Being open to changing
I'll be on this journey for the rest of my life, but I wanted to share what I know so far. I hope it's helpful :) -
In this week's episode we talk about our role in choosing not only who is in our lives, but how much access they have to us. I share my own framework for choosing people to do life with as a means to encourage others to understand their own relational needs.
I mentioned a sermon from Pastor Travis Greene of Forward City Church that references what it means to have "diggers" in your life. Diggers are the people that will get down and dirty with you, the ones that will fight, work, push forward alongside you.
I highlighted some characteristics consistent in the people I've determined are part of my tribe:
- Openness & Authenticity
- Alignment
- Commitment
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In this week's episode we speak to both sides of pride (the good and the bad) and what it means to live a life of authentic humility.
Pride is on a spectrum, there's healthy pride like self-respect, and there's unhealthy pride like arrogance. I don't know about you, but often when I hear people speak about pride, the negative side is the one being highlighted and I want to challenge that narrative.
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In this week's episode we discuss the ways in which we may welcome frustrations into our lives. From small nuisances to larger-scale frustrations, it's important for us to take note of the role we may play. We discussed three primary strategies for reducing these sorts of frustrations:
1. Seek first to understand
2. Take accountability
3. Be flexible
These three strategies work together to lead us to a more peaceful life. Tune in to learn more about how to apply these strategies to your life. -
After reflecting on a chaotic few weeks I recognized that I stopped engaging in one my most important practices - brain dumps. In this week's episode I share how brain dumps impacted my life, what they are, and how we can all start making use of them.
Brain dumps allow you to clear out the toxins that have entered your mind and hold on to the nutrient rich information that you've consumed throughout the day. I look at it much like digestion - the only difference is that we have to be very active in the process of clearing out the toxins in our minds.
In this episode I referenced Steven Covey's book The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. -
Last week we discussed 3 things I had to learn to do in order to change my life:
1. Learn to step outside of myself
2. Learn to identify my problem beliefs (not my problem behaviors)
3. Learn how to do things differently
In this week's episode I recount my experience as a recovering people pleaser and how I used those three steps to move from people pleasing to honoring myself while simultaneously loving others. We'll uncover the problem belief underlying my people pleasing behaviors and strategies used to leave people pleasing behind for good. -
Hey tribe! I took a quarter off but I'm BACK! Apologies for not communicating this sabbatical in advance, I'll most certainly do better next time.
During some recent quiet time with the Lord, I reflected on how vastly differently I'm experiencing life now in comparison to before I committed to this relationship with Jesus. I wish I could say I committed my life to Christ and everything was suddenly better but that wasn't the case. When you come into an intimate relationship with the Lord, it requires work - much like any other relationship you're in, and I want to share with you all what that work looked like for me.
In this week's episode, I describe 3 main commitments I made to myself with practical steps and examples:
1. Learn how to step outside of myself
2. Learn to identify my problem beliefs (not problem behaviors)
3. Practice learning to do things differently
Below I have a couple of free resources I mentioned in the episode that you may like:
Change Your Life - One Tiny Step At A Time: https://youtu.be/75d_29QWELk?si=Q_QG5sA5xSOek4BR
How to Humor Your Stress - Loretta LaRoche: https://youtu.be/bZMJdhe4xhQ?si=nNCCJyFPW0YlMQ5T -
In this week's episode we review different ways our level of confidence in ourselves and our abilities has the potential to impact our experience in life. We discuss warning signs that indicate we're battling issues related to our confidence and strategies to slowly, but surely build it back up.
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